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Speaker: If your husband or your
mom or a friend made some comment
about the state of your house, do
you feel immediately defensive?
Do you feel defensive even if nobody said
anything at all, but you just imagine
that they're probably thinking it?
Defensiveness is a sign of excuse making.
It's a distraction
and a deflection technique that we have to
recognize and then deal with what's really
going on underneath that defensiveness.
Defensiveness is a red flag that something
with our attitudes is totally off
Now, last month in Convivial Circle was
our no excuses month, and every week on
our topic, I have a 20, 25-minute little
pep talk that I give on that topic, and I
wanted to share this little clip from last
month's seminar called Defensiveness is a
Sign of Excuses Because I think it might
help all of us be more aware of what's
really going on in our head and why.
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And so right there, that situation needs
to be dealt with one way or another,
and defensiveness isn't gonna make it
better So giving reasons in a defensive
manner is an indication that you need
to s- take it a step back or two.
Those reasons are not gonna be helpful.
They're not gonna get
you anywhere productive.
You have to take a step back and
say, "Wait, what is this you know,
who am I defending myself against or
what am I defending myself against?
Why do I feel attacked just by my
husband walking through the door
and he hasn't done or said anything?
It's like that's not him.
That's some kind of story happening in my
head Because maybe you told yourself, " He
will be happy if I have the house clean.
The house isn't clean, therefore
he's not gonna be happy."
Now he walks in the door, and I'm
assuming he's not happy because I
didn't do what I said I was gonna
do, and that's all of this spinning
that's happening in our own head.
And then we respond defensively
in our head, but even to our
husband who has no idea that this
has been spinning up in ourâ¦
You know, he has no idea what's going
on because it's all in our heads
And so as soon as we start feeling those
defensive reasonings coming to try to act
as a protective layer, we have to say,
"What am I trying to protect myself from?"
Right.
Stephanie says, "If my excuses were
actually valid or my reasons were
valid, then I wouldn't feel attacked.
I'd just feel normal."
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think many husbands
Don't even know what's going
on half the time, right?
Because we don't even know what's going on
because we aren't aware of it ourselves.
It's- the story spins up in our heads,
and we don't step back and question it.
And so we need some kind of
prompt, some kind of trigger that
reminds us to examine what's going
on with our internal narrative.
And I think that feeling of defensiveness
is recognizable enough that it can be
our prompt to step back and ask, "What
are we trying to protect ourselves from?
What's going on, and why do I feel
the need to extend a protective
barrier between myself and this
other person or this circumstance?"
And then, you can either ask for
forgiveness and repent and get on the
right path again if there's real guilt
Which would include like lying
to yourself about your husband.
That would be something that
you might need to repent.
If you s- spun a false story in your
head about how your husband's going
to respond and you just are reacting
based on that internal story, even
though nothing came out of your mouth
to someone else, that can be an internal
slander of your husband to yourself.
So that, that's something to repent of.
And then you have restoration once
you've repented and there's the ability
to move on If it's just a vague feeling
bad because things aren't good enough,
then that's a fake guilt that is s- a
cover for ⦠That's keeping us stuck
and low because then we're protected
from real responsibilities and abounding
in good works, which increases our
responsibilities and makes us more busy.
And so sometimes those feelings that
just kind of vaguely keep us down, and
then we're defensive if anyone questions
them That can be a self-protective
measure to keep our lives and ourselves
small and actually unproductive
Yes.
Annie said, "I grew up where every
little flaw was a reason to be in
trouble, and my poor husband is so sweet
and is never unhappy with me, but has
had to deal with those old feelings."
Yeah.
if you have ever been yelled at without
cause, uh, gotten in trouble and it wasn't
really because you did anything wrong,
but just because whoever, you know, one
of your parents or whoever was having
their own problem and taking it out on
you We need those prompts to help us to
recognize that our trained responses,
our self-preservation responses,
are no longer based in the reality.
It takes practice, but it takes
awareness and intentional practice.
It's not just going to magically go
away And it takes intention to not pass
that same tendency on ourselves when
the roles flip and now we're the parents
The responses that we're used to
are just reacting and taking out
our emotions on other people,
whether that's anger or sadness.
Like, it could be multiple feelings,
but it's still being ruled by
feelings rather than reality
Speaker: If we're going to organize our
attitude, which is what we're focusing
on this month in Convivio Circle and
here on YouTube and here on the podcast
Be sure to sign up for all the bonuses and
extra encouragement coming by email with
this special Organize October challenge.
You can go to simplyconvivial.com/october
to get all that
But really identifying what's going
on in our attitudes, be- having
that level of self-awareness is
key to organizing our attitude.
So I wanna share this clip with you.
Grab a basket of laundry
to fold, and let's dig in
Now Now this was just a clip.
The full version of the seminar is
on the member-only podcast, in our
replay hub, or on the Simply Convivial
library app if you're a subscriber
if you're in Convivial Circle
But whether or not you are, at least yet
Try to notice if you feel any
defensiveness and why you think that's
coming up And then walk through the steps
of repenting, rejoicing, and repeating.
This is how we organize our attitude.
And if you need help doing that, that's
what we are all working on together
inside Convivial Circle, my community that
is all about h- helping women to excel
at homemaking and do life cheerfully.
You can find out more
at convivialcircle.com
And also be sure to subscribe so you don't
miss the next Organize October episode