Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Part 3, Chapter 5, Part 2, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Part 3, Chapter 5, Part 2 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Good morning, and welcome to Morning Cereal!
Pull up a stool, grab your favorite cereal, and let’s kick-start your day with a spoonful of inspiration, nostalgia and personal growth. Join your host, Shaen Inglis, as he highlights the music, movies, and moments that made the 80s, 90s, and 2000s unforgettable—kind of like digging for toy at the bottom of the cereal box. Each episode, Shaen also reviews a chapter or so from top wellness books, offering practical insights to help you set a positive tone for your day. Start your mornings right—no cartoons required!

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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning

and welcome to Tuesday.

Now, let's just stop for a moment and

celebrate the fact that we

all made it through another

Monday.

And, I mean, that's got to

count for something, right?

Now, I hate giving Mondays such a bad

rap, but no one is ever

ready or excited for a

Monday unless you're

headed on a vacation, right?

And that's why we're celebrating the fact

that it's Tuesday and

we all have a Monday

behind us and we're well

on our way into this week.

Well, today is Let's All Eat Right Day.

And I've been trying to eat right today

for the last 15 years,

but I'll give it another

try again today.

And it doesn't help that it's also

national chocolate covered nut day.

I may need to push that one to tomorrow.

All right, well,

welcome to Tuesday, people.

Let's get into the

episode with today's quotes.

One fun nostalgic quote and then a second

quote to tease our

book review later in the

episode.

Hopefully, one of these quotes will speak

to you and kickstart

your day in a positive

direction.

The first quote is from Melanie Chisholm.

And if you don't know who that is, that

would be Sporty Spice of the Spice Girls.

Anyways, Melanie said, "This is me.

Take it or leave it."

And it's nice when you reach a certain

maturity that you're

okay with just saying, "Hey,

this is me.

Take it or leave it."

On the other hand, I think some people

reach a certain age where

they just take this stance

irregardless.

And oftentimes, that

comes without the maturity.

But I give them this.

It's definitely much more entertaining.

Anyways, today's teaser quote from the

book is, "He who treads softly goes far."

And as usual, we'll unpack that here in

just a minute during

the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our usual dose

of fun and historic

facts from this day in

history.

And today's news facts and

birthdays are for February 25th.

Looking back in 1910, the 13th Dalai

Lama, he fleed Tibet for

British India to escape

Chinese troops.

Then in 1913, one of my least favorite

amendments to the US Constitution,

although I understand

we need it, it went into effect.

It's the amendment that

permitted a federal income tax.

Then in 1957, Buddy Holly and the

Crickets, they recorded

their smash hit, "That'll

Be the Day."

They did that in Clovis, New Mexico.

And in 1964, American boxer Muhammad Ali,

known at the time as

Cassius Clay, he would

become the world heavyweight champion by

knocking out Sonny

Liston in seven rounds.

And then lastly, skipping all the way up

to 2004, that's when

the movie Passion of the

Christ was released in the US.

All right, well, happy

birthday if today is your birthday.

You share a birthday

with actress Rashida Jones.

She was on The Office.

You might remember her from that.

She's 49.

And this next actor, you'd recognize him.

His character Mikey

said, "Goonies never die."

And his character, Sam Wise, said, "I

can't carry it for

you, but I can carry you."

That's actor Sean Astin.

He's 54 today.

And wrestler Rick Flair.

He's 76 today.

Well, the number one movie on this date

back in 1991 was Kindergarten Cop.

And you remember this movie.

It starred Arnold Schwarzenegger.

He was a detective working undercover as

a kindergarten teacher.

What you probably remember most about the

movie is the fact that there was a famous

line in it said by this cute little kid.

And he basically said in very plain

terms, he described the

difference between little

boys and little girls.

Well, the movie helped Schwarzenegger

showcase his comedic

abilities, making him more than

just an action hero star.

And the number one song on this date back

in 1997 was Wannabe,

which was the debut single

from my beloved Spice Girls.

Okay.

I was a fan of the Spice Girls.

I still am.

And as I mentioned to last week, I'm a

huge fan of Celine Dion as well.

Well, I took a lot of flack for that in

the 90s, as you can

imagine, but I totally owned

it then and I own it now.

The song Wannabe was the

Spice Girls first release.

And by the end of 1997, it had reached

number one in 37 nations,

becoming the best selling

single by a girl group.

And it was the most recognizable pop song

of the last 60 years

among English speakers.

So it turns out maybe they

weren't just a bunch of wannabes.

All right.

Well, let's move on to some personal

growth in the book review

segment of Morning Serial.

This is where we take a few moments to

reflect on lessons learned

from the current book we're

reading, and currently we're reading

through Dale Carnegie's How to Win

Friends and Influence

People.

It's a timeless book that is consistently

on all the must read

lists and it's packed

with rock solid advice and actions for us

all to use and build healthy foundational

concepts to live by.

Yesterday, we began chapter

five, The Secret of Socrates.

And today we'll finish chapter five and

Carnegie introduced the

Yes Yes technique, which is

a method of emphasizing things that you

can agree upon that

will get the other person

saying yes and aim for these yeses from

the other person while

trying to avoid getting

them to say no.

Carnegie says, quote, in talking with

people, don't begin by

discussing the things on which

you differ.

Begin by emphasizing and keep on

emphasizing the

things on which you agree.

End quote.

In another example of the Yes Yes

technique, Carnegie retails

the account of a car engine

salesman that used this Yes Yes technique

when he encountered

some hesitation on a large

purchase from a potential big customer

that he had finally

cracked open after years of

calling on.

The problem was the lead engineer thought

the engines were running too hot.

So the salesman methodically moved

through the conversation,

finding points of agreements

where he could get a yes.

And the salesman started out agreeing.

He did not say that he was wrong or that

he didn't agree, but he

agreed with the engineer

that if the engines were running too hot,

then he shouldn't buy them.

Well, the salesman got his first yes when

the engineer agreed

that his company shouldn't

buy any engines that ran hotter than the

standard set by the regulators.

So the two of the men, they ended up

testing the temperatures

of the engines and they both

agreed that the engines were running

within the standards and

potentially just testing

the heat of the engines by placing your

hand on a 147 degree metal engine.

Maybe that wasn't the best unit of

measurement that the engineer was using.

So those were the

salesman's second and third yeses.

Look, this wasn't an easy conversation,

but the salesman

remained calm and friendly.

He looked for viewpoints or perspectives

they could agree on and

he methodically walked

through the facts, getting yeses and

essentially just getting

the ball moving downhill.

The salesman said of his learning, "I

finally learned that it

doesn't pay to argue and that

it is much more profitable and much more

interesting to look at

things from the other person's

viewpoint and try to get

that person saying yes, yes."

And finally, Carnegie gets us to Socrates

and he says this of Socrates that he was,

"was one of the greatest philosophers the

world has ever known.

He did something that only a handful of

men in all of history

have been able to do.

He sharply changed the

whole course of human thought.

And now, 24 centuries after his death, he

is honored as one of

the wisest persuaders

who ever influenced

this rag-a-ling world."

And Carnegie asks if we think that

Socrates told people they were wrong.

Of course not.

In fact, Socrates has his own technique,

which is called the

Socratic method, and it was

based on the yes, yes response.

Carnegie says Socrates would, "ask

questions with which his

opponent would have to agree.

He kept on winning one admission after

another until he had an armful of yeses.

He kept on asking questions until

finally, almost without

realizing it, his opponents

found themselves embracing a conclusion

they would have bitterly denied a few

minutes previously."

He cites an old Chinese proverb that

states, "He who treads softly goes far."

The next time we find ourselves with the

temptation of telling someone

that they are wrong, Carnegie

suggests that we call on our old friend

Socrates and ask the

question, gently seeking those

yeses.

Here it is.

In a chapter entitled, "The Secret of

Socrates," Carnegie's

principle number five is get the

other person saying

yes, yes, immediately.

Okay, did you stick with this during the

book review until the end?

And did I not tell you that we'd get to

Socrates today and finish the chapter?

See how easy it is?

That was two yeses

that I just got from you.

Well, is today Tuesday?

Yes.

And are you going to have a great day?

Yes.

But I think by now, you know the real

answer to that is you're

going to have a fantastic

day.

Yes?

Thanks for joining today.

Join us again tomorrow when we start

chapter six entitled, "The

Safety Valve and Handling

Complaints."

We'll see you then.

Have a fantastic day.

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Thanks again for listening. Have a

fantastic day and we'll see you tomorrow.