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The Moonshots Podcast goes behind the scenes of the world's greatest superstars, thinkers and entrepreneurs to discover the secrets to their success. We deconstruct their success from mindset to daily habits so that we can apply it to our lives. Join us as we 'learn out loud' from Elon Musk, Brene Brown to emerging talents like David Goggins.
hello and welcome to the moonshots
podcast it's episode
270 I'm your co-host Mike Parsons and as
always I'm joined by the man himself Mr
Mark Pearson frein good morning Mark hey
good morning Mike good morning
subscribers viewers listeners and
everybody in between once again show
number
2070 Mike first of all that's a lot of
shows I reckon we've learned a lot of
tips tricks and tools along the way but
don't you worry listeners and
subscribers we are not done yet are we
Mike we have got so much more and I
think we are starting a new series with
a very unusual book that's right Mike
you're quite right I unusual is
definitely how I would describe some of
what I think we're going to lean into
today and some of the content and themes
within the book by Phil stuts and Barry
Michaels the tools now just to go a
level deeper on this book Mike the sub
subheader for this book five tools to
help you find courage creativity and
willpower and inspire you to live life
in forward motion that I think Mike is
already setting the scene for you and I
and all of our listeners with regards to
some of the Delights and some of the
themes I think we're going to encounter
exploring this book Because as we might
know in some veins this is a self-help
book in other veins it's it's about
helping us get through some of life's
challenges maybe building that little
bit of resilience or getting through
some psychological barriers that are
holding us back I think there's a lot of
interesting Concepts and themes within
this book the tools that I think might
as we've already said surprise some of
us I'm going to take it further Mark and
say I think it might be a little bit
uncomfortable a little disruptive for
some of us particularly for the hardcore
moonshots because what STS and Michaels
do in their book the
tools is in order to keep you in like
forward
motion they are taking these themes of
courage and resilience creativity and
Innovation as well as drive and like the
capacity to keep going and somehow
they've made this exotic cocktail of
some unusual practices some exciting
practices and it's not too woo woo
because you know we got a psychiatrist a
psychologist like these guys are serious
men of science but they' figured out
this new way to keep us moving forward
so if you're looking to refresh your
take not just on being productive or
having the heart to be resilient that
you really want to refresh everything
between and certainly in the middle of
those two things this is the book for
you and I think even if you've got some
great resilience and productivity
happening I think what this book is
going to do is challenge maybe open up
possibilities for you that you didn't
know existed so Mark Where Do We Begin
well with all of that you know head nod
and introduction Mike I wouldn't know
where to start so why don't we hear from
the authors themselves we're going to
hear first of all from Barry Michaels
he's going to help us understand maybe
leaning in a little bit to the areas
that you were just describing Mike maybe
some discomfort for some of our
listeners or maybe some good reminders
to get us off on the right with regards
to today's topic so let's hear from
Barry Michaels author of the tools help
us understand a little bit more about
self-restraint uh oh and how maybe that
can actually set us
free
self-restraint sets you free now I know
I know that sounds like a Zen Coan or
some neologism from Orwell's
1984 you know war is peace ignorance is
strength but it's true self-restraint
sets you free now why does it sound so
strange because we think of Freedom as
we get to do whatever we want whenever
we want to essentially we think of
Freedom as Freedom From Outer rules and
restrictions anyone who's ever gone 90
miles an hour on the way to Vegas knows
this feeling it's I'm free I mean it's
fabulous okay the problem is you might
get killed you could get incarcerated
but even worse next time 90 ain't going
to do it you got to go 95 and the time
after that you got to go to 100 this is
the strange demonic Paradox of that type
of Freedom which is it doesn't end up
creating a sense of Freedom it actually
ends up enslaving you think of a drug
addict starts off like I can do anything
I want ends up I just need it every
day so this is the strange
Paradox of the way we think of freedom
because we've misde defin it real
freedom is not Freedom From Outer rules
and restrictions inner freedom is inner
it's the freedom from
impulses think about what an Impulse is
it is a compelling force that tells you
you must do something or must have
something well if you must
then you're not free so as strange as it
sounds the more self-control you
exercise the Freer you actually feel if
any of you are interested in philosophy
like I am there's philosophical
precedent for this in Frederick n the
the German philosophers concept of the
Uber mench which was horribly
mistranslated into the Superman and made
for some bad times in Nazi Germany when
it was misappropriated and and exploited
terribly but what what nii if you read
nii in the original what he really meant
by the Uber mench was someone who could
Master the lowest parts of
himself someone who could overcome the
worst aspects of himself and in the
freedom that he gained from his own
lower parts he could become the person
he was meant to
be it was inner Freedom inner
Mastery o inner Freedom mark I I I
really relate to this
because I feel that I had this moment
many many years
ago where I truly kind of decided that I
had to stop being lazy and really put in
the effort right and in many ways that
was a self- constraint a self-restraint
you might say as well where I put the
rule onto self because I hadn't held
myself accountable so when I hear this
idea that self-restraint sets you free
it is the
capacity to desire a cookie but say no
it is the capacity not to hit the snooze
button because you decide that you made
a commitment to get up at that time and
actually what's on the other side of
this is when you learn learn
self-restraint self-control when you are
self-directed you become autonomous you
don't need anyone to tell you to do the
work you do it because you want to you
choose
to and I believe that from that we not
only get confidence Mark but I think
satisfaction and fulfillment comes from
when you said I'm going to work hard and
you did I'm going to get the job done
and you did you weren't forced you
weren't cajoled you weren't nudged along
the way you had the capacity for self-
autonomy self-restraint control to get
it done you know when you think about
friends and people you know I have a
great friend uh and he is just
so so incredibly disciplined at doing
the work and not only do you sense that
in his
confidence but man I respect the guy
because he is self-restrained he does
the work because he chose to nobody else
told him to and I so I think what
happens is when we all have moments
where we set ourselves a goal and we did
it and nobody else told us to do it
there's some deep longlasting sense of
satisfaction that you don't get when
someone says do the work and you do it
you're like that's almost like a relief
right because you know someone's on your
back get it done but when you are on
your own back and saying I must get it
done and you get it done you kind of sit
back and it's it's different to feeling
uh relieved it's
like damn I got it done and I chose to
get it done and I promised to myself
there's some level of
self-respect self-esteem
self-compassion and it resonates because
I think that's when you're being your
true self
achieving the things that you set out to
keeping your promises to yourself and I
think this is so damn powerful what do
you think Mike look I I agree Mike and I
think the way that I can see this type
of self-restraint being utilized in my
life when I think about obviously the
the topic the Barry was taking us on
there particularly talking about nii you
know Freedom um you get self-restraint
and you benefit from having the freedom
away away from addictions away from
actions that might negatively impact you
maybe that's anger bitterness
frustration as well as reaching for
another cookie or hitting that snooze
button there's so many things that with
freedom we're able to say yes to when
actually they're going to be negative in
the long run the way that I can see
particularly what you were just saying
there in terms of
accomplishments is how we always talk
about on the show you know mantras we
talk about C port and goals you know
daily weekly monthly yearly I think a
lot of the idea of freedom is associated
with not being in a specific role maybe
having your own business maybe working
for yourself whatever it is but actually
that isn't the end of the game you have
to put in the practices or the guard
rails I suppose that helps you stay on
track right because once you do get out
into let's say you're on holiday mode
what's one of the first things you
disregard on holiday mode probably
looking at your emails right picking up
the phone working out exactly working
out di yeah diet this is maybe
abstaining from a second beer or and
when you remove those guard rails the
first thing to go is you know diligence
and discipline and then in the long run
exacerbate that by time suddenly you've
gone a little bit off the rails so to
have and I think this is where the guys
are going with regards to self-control
and restraint in my mind you need the
guard rails to help you achieve that
best version of yourself as we
said you need that guidance maybe not a
map but just control to help you get to
that point because we all know how
distracting life can be yes and and so
what comes from that is confidence and
fulfillment and satisfaction so it's not
in search of like Permanent Vacation
permanent holiday but rather the truest
freedom is when you can do the work
because you chose to and nobody told you
to do it to me that is the ultimate
capacity if you want to talk about being
superum that is like I choose to wake up
early on my weekends because I want to
number goes I have to is I want to I
choose to stretch and journal on my
weekends because I want to because I
have to that to me
is like great self-restraint and
discipline and and the chance to feel
good after it and I tell you there's a
bunch of people Mark who are feeling
real good right now and that is our
members but you're totally right my
talking about empowerment you know
wanting to do something is exactly what
our members our moonshots members have
done all of them go out there with
absolute intention on being that best
version of themselves and we like to
celebrate that here on the moonshot show
so please welcome in all of our members
Bob Niles dietar Maran Connor Sid and Mr
boner Paul ber cman Joe Christian
samuella Barbara and Deborah lass Steve
Craig Ravi evat RL nicara and Ingram
duck vanata Marco and Jet Roger Steph
raw and Diana Kristoff Denise Laura
Smitty Corey Daniela Mike and Antonio
Zachary Austin Fred and Ola Andy Diana
Margie Jasper Fabian guhong and Edward
guys high five to all of you you go out
you make it happen you want to learn you
want to learn out loud with us that's
even better all of you I think are
living this idea of practicing putting
things into action and having that
self-restraint and control of where you
want to
go I think we are so gra gr grateful I
was gonna say we are so gratitud inal
which is a new word Mark in the mo yes
but we really are grateful to those
folks because so many of those people
have been supporting us for years and
they are they are showing not only their
resilience but their generosity so we're
very thank you thankful to them now I
think it's time to really get into the
work of STS and Michaels here and one of
the things we've I mean we've talked
about a lot of books that focus on grit
such as the the book by Angela Duckworth
resilience you know Goggins we cannot
mention him enough but there still is
work to do right in when those moments
come when the uncomfortable moments come
no matter how good you are there's
always the temptation to like crumble
under the pressure so what's great is if
we study the work of the tools uh by the
two authors I think what is revealed in
that there are some new ways to think
about adversity Mark oh you totally
right Mike without revealing what book
immediately came to my mind as we were
digging into this particular tool let's
hear from book summary IQ who's going to
teach us about powering through those
tough situations and how the two authors
encourage us to welcome
adversity what's on your immediate must
do list that fills you with fear or even
dread is there anything that you've been
putting off for a really long
time it's human nature to avoid what we
don't like but uncomfortable and even
painful situations are
inevitable in most cases the challenges
themselves aren't what hold people back
from achieving their greatest potential
it's the avoidance of taking the next
step to unlock the
possibilities the first tool helps you
not only power through tough situations
but learn to use them to your benefit
we're not talking about just accepting
adversity but actually being glad to see
it when it inevitably appears might
sound bizarre
but it's a powerful way to reframe the
role difficulty has in your life so
here's an
exercise first visualize the emotion
surrounding the task or the situation
whatever it is the emotion may be fear
of a difficult conversation going badly
or perhaps it's the humiliation if you
slip up while giving a speech or it may
be a less rational emotion such as
having a fear of flying despite
statistics showing air travel is much
safer than driving
whatever the pain is give it a visual in
your mind and ask it to envelop you as
it does accept it eagerly with the
belief it will bring something good
Focus your mind on that good as you move
yourself through and out thanking the
pain as you go for what's on the other
side regardless of the outcome you'll
gain power in overcoming the mental
block which is a win in itself that
satisfaction will encourage you to use
the tool again and again to the point
where you will naturally welcome pain
points meanwhile you're moving forward
which is the force that drives life
itself using this tool also builds your
capacity for commitment which is
essential for making meaningful
long-term
changes take the author's example of a
Beat cop who had initially pursued his
talent for writing in college only to
later drop out storytelling remained his
passion as evidenced by his ability to
keep listeners engaged in Tales he
shared at the bar after work however he
had an aversion to the extra Focus
needed to commit those stories to
writing using the tool to overcome his
uncomfortable feelings about
concentration he finally reignited his
writing ability and pursued the career
he'd always
wanted oh Mark so okay this is getting
into some very important mindset
practices around tough times
and the way that I'm processing this is
It's the Nuance
between dreaming and
visualizing of an outcome or a goal you
have so let's say someone's really
self-conscious about speaking in front
of a group of people they might have
this
visualization that they have of
themselves being up on the stage and
being confident and delivering their big
keynote speech
successfully so that's one type of
visualization but what the authors talk
about here in the
tools is they go a step further and this
is something we've touched on
occasionally in the
show you can visualize not only the
outcome but you can visualize the steps
you take towards the outcome
so this Nuance is really important
because we often get stuck in the early
steps so when you have to write an
outline of the speech and you're a bit
lost you can start by visualizing
yourself not giving the speech but you
can actually bring that visual
visualization much more short term right
to the here and now and you can sit and
visualize yourself writing a great table
of contents a great out out line sort of
a frame or a thread like a like a half
page of 10
points so you don't only have the option
to dream of the final
glorious Crescendo moment but you can
bring those visualizations much more
closer to hand so for example doing a
marathon you can dream of crossing the
Finish Line in the race or you can
visualize yourself doing the training
tomorrow
you can visualize I'll go even further
you can visualize the moment in the
training tomorrow where you know it's
going to get
hard but you keep
going these humble visualizations are
what they're talking about so don't fall
in love only with the destination you
can visualize every single step of the
way so when that Hill comes you know
this hill is what hurts you're only
rning 10K and you you've said you're
going to do a marathon of 42 2K but
you're only doing a 10K and there's
Heartbreak Hill it's at kilm 7 and
you're like oh dear but you can be
prepared that I am going to keep going
I'm not going to
stop because I know I have visualized
continuing to run through the
discomfort and this is an option I think
many people are not even aware of and
what the authors are doing here for us
is giving us the chance CH to apply
those shortterm
visualizations of just getting through
the hard work when it's not glamorous
when there's nobody looking where there
is no Finish Line I think this is
extremely powerful because what we all
suffer from is we dream of the Final
Destination but then we've not actually
considered the steps along the way which
is full of heartbreak and suffering and
challenge the valley of darkness Mark
how do you see this kind of
visualization technique to move through
tough
situations I well first of all I'm
reminded of Jim kery who has always
utilized or or said he utilized a lot of
visualization when it came to that year
where he was in all sorts of movies Liar
Liar The Masque Ace ventur I remember
him in one of the shows that we did
stating oh I always imagined earning
that much money or I always envisioned
being being on the stage you know to a
lot of Applause regardless of whether he
wanted the Applause or not what he did
was uh and this is talking to your
endpoint visualization just to be clear
to our listeners he always envisioned
that endo and that's what drove him
onwards whereas I like what you're going
with this mic which is boiling it down
into smaller steps because I think
you're right if we can build in smaller
steps which I think is what the authors
are talking about we can make it more of
a habit yes so yeah an example for me me
and I've just picked back up um Victor
frankl's man for meaning search yeah
search for meaning and this idea
University for me immediately made me
think oh well what I think Phil and
Barry are encouraging us to do is start
associating Positive Vibes around those
challenging moments so when we see those
challenges as you've already said on
today's show discomfort good right but I
think you're right where they're really
leading us with these visualizations and
these practices and what I think they
are showing us and teaching us today
that's different is you can imagine it
on a much smaller scale you can imagine
just getting up at the right time you
set your alarm for six hey imagine
waking up at 6 o' and knowing that
everybody else in your household's sleep
what a fantastic moment or putting on
your shoes and knowing that you're about
to go and hit the tarmac imagine those
small little positive steps to then
encourage you to come back and do it
again and let's do a little build on
that let's use the running analogy let's
say I'm doing a 10K tomorrow and I know
kilm 7 is the hard one can you imagine
how good it will feel when I break
through the 7th kilometer because I've
had the visualization the day before I
could see myself hitting getting to the
hill and I keep
going so when I get to kilometer 8 9 and
10 I'm going to have a real spring in my
step because I had this visualization
that I'd get through it and I'll tell
you why I think think this is important
we we can get so romanced by the
destination when all the ugly hard stuff
happens in the middle we freak out
because we're not prepared but inversely
what happens when we power through these
tough situations with
visualization we can feel a sense of
reward because you said to yourself I
want to get through and do the 10K I
want to keep running when I hit the big
hill so when you do so it feels far more
substantial cuz you were prepared for it
and you kept going you achieved the goal
so the satisfaction is increased rather
than being someone who hasn't thought it
through you get to kilometer 7 and it
becomes a near-death experience because
you hadn't contemplated like this is one
Steep Hill I think I have to walk but no
you visualized yourself going through it
you were prepared I think this is
incredibly ful thinking Mark but what's
crazy to think Mark we're now about to
get into the real stuff in this book
we've kind of set the scene a bit with
adversity and self-control Mark we're
about to go deep so what have we got
next on this journey into the book
called the tools by Phil stuts and Barry
Michaels well Mike we've already made
the case I think and reminded our
listeners and members around this idea
of adversity and I think that connection
back into the first clip we had around
self- restruct trained in part and
parcel you know if you are celebrating
and embracing visualizing those moments
of pain you're demonstrating that
self-control and self-restraint which
then enables you to go out and be uh in
the moment and go and do your best job
where we're now going to take the show
for all of those Eagle ear listeners of
us is a little bit more into the
Practical mindful steps and even mantras
that all of us can start to utilize in
our lives so M there's a number of tools
as we've already mentioned within the
book the tools so we're going to cherry
pick a couple of them here which I think
are going to appeal to our listeners and
members but first of all we're going to
kick off with one lesson one theme that
I know is very very close to the hearts
of all of us here on the moonshot show
and that idea is
gratefulness silently say to yourself
specific things in your life you're
grateful
for particularly items you'd normally
take for granted
go slowly and feel the gratitude for
each
[Music]
item don't use the same items
repeatedly stretch for new
[Music]
ones after about 30 seconds stop
thinking and focus on the physical
sensation of
[Music]
gratefulness you'll feel it coming
directly from your
[Music]
heart this energy you feel is the
Grateful
[Music]
flow as this energy emanates from your
heart your chest will soften and
[Music]
open in this state you will feel an
overwhelming presence approach you
filled with the power of infinite
[Music]
giving you've made a connection to the
[Music]
source oh Mark I think we can have some
fun with this because we talk about
gratitude um to some extent with some of
the mindfulness work but to me what we
have to realize that gratitude is a tool
by which you can
engender
well-being connectedness in yourself in
this moment so let's have some fun let's
do some gratitudes that we think let's
see if we can do a bunch of gratitudes
that apply to everyone so I got one for
you I think we can all say that we're
grateful that we are working on
ourselves because you me and all of the
thousands of listeners right now who are
listening together we're all trying to
be a little bit better right and that's
something to be grateful for that it's a
shared experience
right I think you're totally right um it
is something that we all can go through
and and notice much like maybe
appreciating and have gratitude for
those around us friends family and loved
ones I think something that we can all
remember is that sort of love that we
receive from those around us whether
they're kids siblings Partners mothers
fathers and so on or even just friends
how about this one like I could do
something really based that we are all
right now listening to this show and
this
conversation we have the time to even
think about being better like we can be
grateful for that we can even do things
like this that we're all grateful that
we're here breathing and living that
we're here and ready to take another
breath like how much that that's just
like you can just bring it right back
did you have a nice cup of coffee today
I can be grateful for that right yeah
yeah and you know what it's it's funny
it reminded I remember when we did our
show on the Dal llama and the Art of
happiness and how happiness is a muscle
and you can train it you know more
practice and the more time you invest in
you know sort of building or feeling you
know happy you actually notice it more
regularly I found Mike ever since that
show really being active and thinking
about the things that I'm that I have
gratitude for maybe it's getting
together on the moonshots podcast maybe
it's all of our members maybe like you
say it's a nice cold walk or a hot cup
of coffee whatever big or small they are
noticing them once twice a day suddenly
becomes a lot easier the more times you
do it yes and what fun what's
fascinating about that then I've noticed
it helps me feel more comfortable more
confident yes and actually probably a
lot more pleasant to be around because I
appreciate you know the beautiful city
that we're in in Sydney and the amazing
coffee that we have oh yeah well we got
plenty of that in Sydney but here's the
other thing like you can just choose to
tune into this I I went on a lovely walk
before the show right how grateful can I
be for that that's like really really
good and the other crazy thing is as you
say or write out your gratitudes here's
the craziest thing you can just choose
to smile while you consider them and you
will literally at a physiological level
you will experience Joy maybe a little
warmth that's a choice that you can make
right now so if you want to be in Ford
motion being an old Grumble bum ain't
the way to do it we know bring some good
vibes and you'll get Good Vibes in
return so gratitude is huge and so if
you're interested in some of the work we
mentioned the dalil Lama we've talked
about eart Toler and the Power of Now
head over to Moon shots. you can get all
of our back catalog there so if you're
enjoying this and you want to go on a
deep dive you'll find them there but
Mark we have still got two more big
ideas to like really unleash to discuss
and to dissect what's what's the next
one on the list from the guys and the
authors of the tools well I tell you
what M this one is a little bit of a
step change for you and I normally it's
David gogins normally it's power through
and also maybe a little bit of here and
there on critical conversations and so
on we're actually going to take this in
the next clip mic is a little bit
towards the word love so we're going to
hear from baram and Michaels's uh area
and tools within the book broken down us
into again a very similar mindful
practice as the one we just heard on
gratefulness but this time we're going
to understand how to transform
resentment and practice what they call
Active love
concentration feel your heart expand to
Encompass the world of infinite love
surrounding
you when your heart contracts back to
normal size it concentrates all this
love inside your
chest
transmission send all the love from your
chest to the other person holding
nothing
back
penetration when the love enters the
other person don't just watch feel it
enter sense of Oneness with
them then relax and feel all the energy
you gave away return to
you
so we are definitely entering the
spiritual realm here on
theast what a lovely voice she's got but
you know that here's the
thing what I got and it's so funny
because I got it from the Dal Lamas book
like in the
end we all sh one thing no matter what
disagreements we may have or conflict
like we're all humans right so if you
can
find your way back to if you have no
points of connection with
someone there's always going to be one
and that that is that they're a human
you're a human right and if you can
bring yourself back to that and just
appreciate someone on the other side
knowing that they're a human and you're
a human you might disagree on almost
everything else but you've got that in
place and as you would them towards you
you should act to them which is if they
see nothing in common with you that they
at least will see that you and respect
that you're a human and you will offer
that if you do that then you take away
so much of the resentment and if that's
not enough there is so much writing
and research in relationships that show
that so many
times when there are negative things
between people people perceiving actions
as being unfair and that cause
resentment invariably the the sort of
the person that committed the
trespass has very little idea of the
mistake that they made towards that one
so often resentment is felt by someone
who received uh some sort of trespass
but actually the person who did the
wrong thing often has no idea because
they're all caught up in themselves
right so the problem is that we all tend
to be a bit caught up in ourselves so
we're all thinking he did me wrong she
did me wrong they did me wrong the world
doing me wrong but actually everyone's
just busy sorting their own stuff out
and is
largely not a aware of the mistakes that
they're making so we all know at some
point we've made a mistake so if you can
then just say look I'm just going to
come back to the idea they're a person
I'm a person hey they might not be aware
of what they've done but the one thing I
can always is come back the two of us
are human beings on the planet and
that's a reason to be respectful but
also not to give into the resent
cuz we have a lot of examples around the
world right now where resentment has
been held on to right and you can just
point at things happening in the Middle
East or in Ukraine and you're like
okay that's a problem so if we can just
work to be a little bit more letting go
of resentment and coming back to the
fact that so many times people make
mistakes and not aware of them and be
forgiving let go of that energy because
it just doubles up you get angry at me I
get angry at you the temperature rises
so then you get angrier at me and then I
get angry at you and then it ends up in
a big mess right so at some point pay
forward Let It Go look I love this idea
I think there's such a lesson in letting
go of resentments you're totally right
in all the times for me Mike if I've
ever you know struggled with somebody
more likely than not they forgot about
it within five or 10 minutes maybe they
didn't even know they were doing it
you're totally right whether it's
somebody cutting you off off on your
drive to work you know splashing you
with a puddle I know taking your coffee
whatever it might be you might think oh
I'm really annoyed about this why are
you giving that situation power why are
you distracting yourself such a good
point such a CO don't give it power but
even more
so I think the the the the clinical
scientific thing is you know for sure
nothing good ever comes from
resentment nothing good like so someone
cuts in in front of you on the road like
what do you hope to achieve getting
angry and hitting the horn and screaming
like what like it's a terrible equation
it's a terrible equation and more often
than not there's going to be other
people maybe your family in the car why
give them the impression that you're so
frustrated why spoil the mood it's hard
to do easy as head but isn't an amazing
skill if we can build this ability to
transform it it gives you back the power
so just imagine you're like your iPhone
you have limited uh you have a limited U
battery right do you want to give your
personal battery to being negative
because often being negative is like a
big trap like negativity encourages
negativity right so it's not like you
can be just like incredibly resentful
and grumpy and then at a click over
switch it's all good again no it lingers
like a bad smell right yeah it totally
does so you use using a finite resource
which is your energy so it it's you know
I would say like an argument that I
would make to myself is what do you hope
to gain and really where else could that
energy be going that is way more
positive way more constructive and that
you get something back from right yeah I
totally agree there's there's a mantra I
have on my todoist each day mic it's a
myangelo quote and it's somewhat related
so I I'll I'll share it people will
forget what you said people will forget
what you did but people will never
forget how you made them feel yes yes
and what a perfect example or or a build
when we're talking about harboring
resentment and that negative energy
instead put on a smile showcase you know
maybe a bit of positivity maybe showcase
a positive emotion hey you know what
maybe that bloke isn't going to Splash
anybody else maybe he's not going to get
in front of you on the traffic a smile
ends up going a long way so here's
another thing that I learned um is you
can acknowledge that you're feeling
there's a feeling of resentment but when
you say okay I'm feeling a bit resentful
right now the key thing is to follow
that with and I'm letting it
go so for example you can say I'm
letting it go and then you might have a
manra about I am healthy I am happy and
you might say that five times until you
literally so if I have a negative
thought I'll go I am healthy I am
healthy I am healthy like I interrupt
the thought
pattern and I don't just say the Mantra
once I'll say it until I break it so you
literally have this option oh I'm
thinking negative I'm getting into like
a negative framing or I'm complaining
about something I'm complaining about
someone
stop I am healthy I am happy I'm I am
healthy interrupt it that's a choice we
we can just choose that path but I think
you know you know when you see people
going on a rant and they just go on and
on this to
me you that's a choice as is saying no I
acknowledge I'm feeling resentment I'm
but I'm going to let it go I'm healthy I
am happy I am healthy I am happy and
you'll be amazed at the power of just
saying a mantra like that for five or 10
times and you
our brains just jump they're like okay
all right I'm healthy I'm cuz here's the
truth in our subconscious at some point
if you keep priming it with positive
thinking it accepts the positive
thinking and lets go of the negative I
think we just find ourselves holding on
to them don't we yeah I I love that idea
you know again that brain our brains are
pretty easily distracted as we know so
it only takes one person maybe you've
woken up on the right side of the bed
maybe even you've had a run and you feel
pretty good it could only take one
person to ruin that mood why why let
them so you're right by having good
mantras when you know we were talking
about doing your best and everything in
life it's a similar case if you find
that you're struggling with setting up
that new business have the Mantra of
knowing I've done my best I'm doing my
best I'm gonna be a good boss or
whatever it might be I think Mike as
we're learning from this show these
tools are small little reminders that we
can give ourselves each day they they
are kind like mantras that we just need
to repeat each day and we know that
there's no overnight success but what we
do know is 1% better each day makes a
big difference yeah yeah these elements
isn't it and I think um just the
choice to say
okay we're disagreeing I am experiencing
resentment but I'm going to let it go I
don't want to hold on to it forget that
you have a
job or forget that you have an
obligation to someone on the other side
to do so just do it for yourself I'm not
going to spend my finite resource of
energy I'm not going to waste the
battery on this crappy negative bad line
of thinking I'm just going to reroute
I'm happy I healthy I'm happy I'm
healthy and you are going to take
control of yourself which ironically is
something that we talked about at the
very beginning of the show but
Mark classic moment the there's just one
more idea we ain't finished yet are we
look there's always a time in the show
where we're nearing the end but there's
sometimes I just want to go that level
deeper really get into the skin and the
minds of our authors well good news
listeners and members we're about to do
that with the last clip in today's show
we promise you something a little bit
spiritual a little bit different where
this final exercise this final mindful
practice and Mantra is going to take us
to the let's call it uh the echelon
Beyond so we're going to hear from uh
the same team that we've just listened
to in the last couple of clips now help
us understand how we might be able to
reduce feelings of let's say being
overwhelmed or feeling exhausted through
some simple practices but Mike the
benefit here is those practices are a
little bit different so let's hear all
about Phil and Barry's concept of the
vortex visualize 12 sons
see them in a circle lined up directly
over your
[Music]
head summon the vortex by silently
screaming the word help at the circle of
suns with focused
intensity this will set the entire
circle of sun spinning creating a gentle
tornado shaped
Vortex relax and allow your body to
become more one with the
[Music]
vortex feel the pull of the vortex as it
lifts you up through the circle of
suns once you're through the circle feel
yourself grow into a giant with
unlimited energy moving slowly but
deliberately through the world without
any resistance
Mark we're ending on shall we say an
ethereal theme would you not
agree I totally would and I like this
theme you know we've spoken already
about
visualizations and we spoke about this
idea of welcoming adversity I think Mike
and it's going to be something that I I
want to put into practice a little bit
and I want to hear your opinion about
the 12 sons uh maybe over a good long
black one day but this idea of really
channeling that Vortex and imagining
yourself in it and coming through it I
think really is just another helpful way
of us imagining those difficult moments
and being prepared yeah or at least
being able to visualize ourselves
getting through it yes so that when
those moments those vortexes maybe do
come along maybe we're a little bit more
used to the
yeah um for me Mark the there was a key
word
In that clip which was help and I think
what we find ourselves doing is
resisting help in fact I would say it's
not just resisting we are not even open
to help you know when you see people
that
are they're just on a path of
negativity or they're they're almost
indulging in the self-suffering oh yeah
like they they're embodying
victimhood those people are not open to
help they're almost poor me poor me but
the way you turn the tables is and I
think this might sound a little strange
but I truly believe in it that you have
to express through your writing through
your affirmations whatever your practice
might be that you are open to
help I think we get very defensive when
we're in trouble and we become closed
off to help and possibilities I actually
just think that practice is just a way
of asking for help so if it felt a bit
too woooo for you I think for our
listeners and our viewers and our
members I would just say you can write
down I am open to help and to the
universe bringing me a solution I cannot
see where it's coming from but I am open
to it even by bringing yourself to say
those words I'm open to help you are
quite literally priming open the
subconscious so that you're looking
around and go oh that book or that
person or that practice or that tool or
that choice or that decision they you
become open to them we know what it's
like when you batten down the hatches
when you're in the valley of darkness
you ain't open to nothing you just
trying to survive right you're trying to
survive and what happens sometimes you
bring some people down with you maybe
yeah right through either accidental um
misjustice maybe you drop the ball or
you actually kind of intentionally bring
them down because suffering is addicted
and it suffering has has best friends
but you're right Mike if you can adjust
your ability to either raise a hand
either subconsciously via your writing
or actually physically with others or
you can just get to a point where you
start to notice you know the smell of
the cut grass a good book on your coffee
table or on the Shelf or even you know
maybe it's sunny or or dry outside
you're able to say actually you know
what might help me going out and
experiencing it or picking up the phone
to a friend or a mentor or a family
member because I think you're right each
of those elements whether it's the 12
sons or any sort of way that you can ask
for help it really does make a
difference
yeah so we covered a lot of ground here
some classic moonshots thinking and some
brand new out there kind of thinking if
there was one thing you're kind of
curious about Mark what's the what's the
thing that's really struck you and has
created your curiosity well I was going
to say the idea of welcoming adversity
because I've picked up again frankl's
book however that would be pretty
typically moonshots of me and actually
I've enjoyed Mike that breakdown of this
concept of active love I think there's a
lot of work that I think I can do in
there you know whether it's on a
positive day or a negative day
transforming you know challenges
resentment pain frustration into
something a little bit more positive
it's up to me to do I am the engine that
can convert yeah those emotions yeah so
I I might I might grease that engine and
give it a go actually what about you
which one's standing out from today's
episode on the tools I actually think
the vortex the last one because you know
I've never sat there and written or said
out loud I'm open to finding help I've
never said that no me neither I don't
know why yeah so I'm like okay I better
work on this one I'm gonna put it down
in my todoist right now holy smoke it's
going straight in Mark a big thank you
to you thank you for putting together
such a great bunch of clips and thank
you to you our listeners our viewers and
our members here for show
270 of the moonot podcast where we
studied the work of Phil stuts and Barry
Michaels and their book is titled the
tools and boy did they put us into
Forward Motion idea number one was about
self-restraint and really embracing that
because it truly does set you free and
then we learned about finding the power
to really push through tough situations
and in fact go as far as saying that we
welcome adversity and as we go on that
Journey it's all about practice I in
gratitude and not giving in to
resentment but being active in the way
we give out our love into the world do
those things ask for help Embrace The
Vortex and you will find new exciting
ways to be the best version of yourself
because that is what we are all about
here in the moonshots podcast we're
learning out loud together we're doing
our best to put life in Forward Motion
okay that's a wrap