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Join Christine Spratley in this empowering podcast episode as she delves into the concept of 'Fuck Fear' and the illusion of readiness. Addressing her audience of badass women and courageous men, Christine shares personal stories, including her own journey through sobriety and professional challenges, emphasizing the importance of taking action despite fear. Learn how to reframe failure, celebrate successes, and become a starter in life. Challenge yourself with actionable steps to identify and start on goals you've been putting off. Embrace the courage to begin and thrive in the face of uncertainty.
00:00 Introduction to Perfectionism and Procrastination
01:19 Welcome to the Podcast
01:37 Exploring the Concept of 'Fuck Fear'
04:24 Personal Story: Overcoming Readiness
11:08 The Myth of Readiness
25:54 Sports and Readiness
36:19 Final Thoughts and Homework
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What is F*ck Fear with Christine Spratley: Living Like a Head Bitch In Charge ?
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Chrisine: [00:00:00] I had never heard this before 'cause it was actually a, a coach that coaches may, we were talking and we were talking about, you know, the idea of perfectionism and, and again, am I ready?
Am I perfectionist? And really perfectionists are just [00:00:15] procrastinators that can't, that are fearful of putting something out there because it's not perfect. And if you were a true perfectionist, you would put that out there, get feedback, get it back, retool it, and put it out there again, you would want to [00:00:30] have that interaction of back and forth.
And when I'm, when I think I'm not ready to get that feedback, you know, I need to take a look at that. [00:00:45] [00:01:00] [00:01:15] Hey bitches, how are my badass women out there? And my few courageous men that are listening to this podcast.
Good evening, good morning, good afternoon, wherever you're [00:01:30] listening. Thank you and welcome back to fuck Fear with myself, Christine Spratley, living like an HBIC. We are going to today take a little bit of the previous [00:01:45] podcast and explore it a little bit further and, um. What I'm gonna do is I talk about fuck, fear and what that means, and how living like an HBIC is really about accountability, [00:02:00] self-accountability.
And in order to do that, a lot of times you, you have to take action and you have to say, fuck, fear to look at yourself, and then you have to say it to take action. Usually I say it right before I jump and do something [00:02:15] and, um, sometimes I say it with a deep breath and go, oh, here I go. Or sometimes it's, you know, literally just kicking the door open and walking through it.
Um, I remember when I was a kid and I would go, I lived in, in a [00:02:30] town or I actually grew up on a farm and we used to go swimming in Dunlap, Iowa in the pool, and they had the high dive and it was a big deal to be able to swim in the. The deep end. And um, and I remember getting up to the high dive and just being like, okay, I am here [00:02:45] now what do I do?
I gotta jump off. And I'll just never forget that feeling of, you know, kinda walking out to the edge and then walking back. And the whole time you're walking back, it's not like you can climb down the ladder. Um, so you gotta just run and jump and go [00:03:00] and that's kind of sometimes what you do. So today about Fuck fear, we're gonna look at.
And myth bust. The, the idea of readiness. And really [00:03:15] what I want you to walk away with is a defiant, um, feeling about not feeling ready. Now granted, if you're a surgeon, you know, come on, we want you to be ready, all right? I mean, [00:03:30] we want you to be on your toes, but we're talking life changes here. We're talking.
The times that you know, but you know, I'm just not ready to do that just yet. Or I just don't have enough time or, or I'm just not certain. [00:03:45] And those kind of conversations in our head. And that's when, for me anyway, the longer I wait to do it, the less likely I am to do it. [00:04:00] And the more stuck, you know, we talked about this the other day, the more stuck I become.
So I try to really think about what am I looking at and saying, eh, I don't know. I'm really not ready. So kind of as you're going through this, think about one or two [00:04:15] things in your life where you're like, where you've said recently in passing conversations, ah, I'm just not ready for that. Just not ready for that.
And and left it there and never went back and picked it up.
Christine: So Christine, can you think of a time when you told yourself, I'm not ready for this, but you chose to do it anyway? [00:04:30]
Chrisine: Oh my gosh. Um, well. I'll, I'll, I'll start. A big one. A really big one was, um, was when I left home and ran away. And it, this is gonna come to a shock to people that know me.[00:04:45]
Um, because I, I don't talk about this much. They don't know a lot about my, my, you know, getting into where I came from and stuff. But I I spoke about this at my at an event, women in [00:05:00] Manufacturing's event, and we talked about it and I said. I remember what happened was, um, I just kind of pause for a second 'cause I, it's kind of going back and, um, [00:05:15] I had gotten sober and um, one of the things about my life is I come from a family, a very large family, but a family of, of abuse.
And um, so when I got sober people in AA were like, yeah, families are usually [00:05:30] screwed up. You need to go. To counseling, like, go get your shit. Right. And, um, I wanted to do that and um, my parents did not want me to do that. And so things got really weird. And, [00:05:45] um, I got a call to the principal's office, Mr.
Rawlings office and um, I didn't think I was in trouble anymore because I was sober. So I trot in there and it had been kind of a weird couple of days 'cause [00:06:00] I had a sister that I. I had always talked to and she was in sobriety and I couldn't get ahold of her. And, um, you know, for those that are young that are listening, we didn't have phones like we do now, you know?
Um, so [00:06:15] I just couldn't get ahold of her. She wouldn't calling and, and mom and dad said she wouldn't call. And, and, and there was a lot of craziness going on in my life, in, in, in our family. I get into the office and he pulls me into his office and he gives me the phone. He hands [00:06:30] me the phone and I take it, and it's my sister on the phone and she says, Hey, are you sober?
Are you drinking? And I said, no. And she said, um, mom and dad say you are, and they're gonna get, [00:06:45] they're getting ready to put you back into the, the mental hospital, the psych ward. And that's where I went before I got sober a year earlier. And um, and I remember, Joe, I remembered. Hearing that and putting my, you know, the phone [00:07:00] here and just putting my back against the wall and sliding down that wall.
And she says, we gotta get you outta there. And, um, that was on a Wednesday. And so, kind of going back to your, was I [00:07:15] ready? How do you, how do you get ready for that? Um, so I, I literally, I wasn't ready. Um, but I knew I had to do it. So, I, I [00:07:30] did, I on on Saturday morning. Um, my boyfriend at the time took me and a buddy, um, I had stayed at a girlfriend's house overnight and he took me and a buddy and we cut donuts in the high school parking lot for the one last time.
And they put me on a [00:07:45] plane and I remember crying the whole way to Florida. 'cause that's where I flew to meet my other sister. And, um. Having no idea what I was getting into, but knowing that there was no way of [00:08:00] going back. Um, so yeah, there's, there's been that time and what's interesting is, is that you have those moments and those are pretty dramatic and those are pretty impactful, but [00:08:15] those moments can be just as impactful as other moments, um, where I've had to say.
Kind of the fuck fear and I'm not ready for this. And I remember one time it was early in my, um, [00:08:30] economic development, you know, land development lobbying work that I did and I was in a meeting with, I was getting ready to go into a meeting and, um, I was, I was working for King White and [00:08:45] Site Selection group and shout out to two of my brothers down there.
They're awesome. And, um, I was. I was in Georgia, we had a meeting with some state representatives, legislature, people, I don't know, [00:09:00] Congress, you know, whatever. And I just remember going, I, they were all in there and I was the young female, you know, I had my heels and my briefcase and BBBB and I was so nervous.
'cause there was, there were hall, it was a bur, it was a Halliburton meeting. [00:09:15] And, and you know, that was back in the day where Hal Burton is seno, you know, it's oil, oil, money, you know. And, um, I just remember, I remember being so nervous and this woman that was the, [00:09:30] basically the gatekeeper of the, legislature gentleman was, um, or the representative said to me, she gave me a little, a little thing and she says, you need this.
And it said it was a. [00:09:45] A card holder and it said, and I kept it for a long time, I may still have it. And it said, put your big girl panties on and deal with it. He said, I think you need this now. Go in there and, and act like you know what you're doing. And um, so yeah, there have been many [00:10:00] times, and when I first wrote this and I, I was thinking about this and I was thinking, you know, when did I, when, when did I have to do it?
When was I forced to, to do it? Um, but it was really when I chose to do that because each [00:10:15] time I didn't have to, I mean, I knew I needed to, but I didn't have to. And I think that's important for women to know as we go through this, is that [00:10:30] when we do something that we're not ready for and we do it anyway, that's a choice that we make.
And there's a lot of freedom that comes from that. Because we can choose not to do it. But then there's the reward of, Hey, we, we chose [00:10:45] to do this. We chose to step in the ring literally sometimes for me, and we did it. And we need to give ourselves our propers on that. And we need to acknowledge that. It may not be a, a, a big [00:11:00] shout out, but maybe for me it's fat boy ice cream sandwiches at night.
You know, I, I celebrate those times when I'm not ready. Um, so, but let's get back to this, the concept of readiness. And I think there's this idea [00:11:15] of, you know, the lies that I tell myself, um, you know, around what is being ready and what is, you know, like I can't do this until I'm ready. And, and that to me, the lie really is [00:11:30] about to keep me comfortable and to keep me.
In a safe space, which is all about fear, getting outta my comfort zone, getting out of where I am not, I don't know what's out there [00:11:45] and I don't have control of that. And I, I love to talk about control. 'cause control to me is an illusion. When I really think about it, you know, I was driving here today and I always, I always know where I'm at, kind [00:12:00] of.
By how I talk to others on the highway. And I was talking some shit today. So
Christine: were you on five 40?
Chrisine: No, I was on four 40 and um, just, okay, just bear with [00:12:15] me. Anybody, if you're driving in the left hand lane and there is anybody behind you, get your ass over. And if you have a minivan and are not going 60, at least get your butt over.
I mean, come on, come on. But. [00:12:30] By the time I passed them, I had not, I had changed my tone and I didn't flip anybody off and, but we were having some conversations. But, so the concept of of control is kind of funny, [00:12:45] but I think that is what we try to do or that's what I try to do is I try to prevent myself from being in a situation where I am fearful of something not being.
Okay. And me having [00:13:00] to deal with that. And ladies, and I really want you to think about if we really take a look at the facts and, and go to the real of where you are in your life, um, most of [00:13:15] you, I'm sure, most all of you, if not all of you, we've had your first period. I don't think we were ready for that.
I know I wasn't. I remember cramps and I was not ready for those things. [00:13:30] I remember not being ready for my first job. I mean, I didn't know. I mean, I was, she hired me as a runner and she was a land development lobbyist and I couldn't tell a building plan from a site plan. I worked for Crocker Consulting, Sarah Crocker, and she [00:13:45] was, she was known red hair, high heels.
Vamp red lipstick and just was just a killer out there. And if she told you to go get something, a permit or go down to the city, she'd go down [00:14:00] around the city and get this. You went down and you got it and you didn't, you feared coming back without it, like you feared that. And, um, so I wasn't ready, but I had no clue what I was getting into, thank goodness.
But women, what, what were you not ready [00:14:15] for? Were you ready for your, your first date? Were you ready for that first breakup? Were you ready for your, your first roommate? Were you ready for your first kid? I can tell you I was not ready for, for being a stepmom, even though I [00:14:30] thought I was. I remember driving back, we used to go and do drop off and pick up, and I remember driving back one day, one night and um, they had been in a basketball event and [00:14:45] basically.
It was when they were younger and they just ran around and ate candy all night. And then we drove from Wilmington to Raleigh. And I remember, you know, just kind of, you know, trying to [00:15:00] figure out my pos, you know, what do I do? How do I, you know, be with these young little kids and, and I'm not their mom, but, and, um.
I remember Madison threw up and I had, I had, I always used to make 'em popcorn and put 'em in [00:15:15] bags, baggies, um, big baggies. And um, so I emptied, you know, I knew she was getting, 'cause you go, you know that, you know that sound. And um, so I did, my husband pulled over and. I [00:15:30] jumped out, I emptied the, the bags and, and sure enough, just about that time she was projectile vomiting into the bag, you know, slam dunk there girl.
And she just started crying and she was like, I want my mommy. You're not my mommy. I want mommy. And [00:15:45] I just, I just, I just didn't know what to do. So yeah, I wasn't ready. I wasn't her mom at that point in time. We, David and I weren't married or anything, but again, that was a whole nother, nother thing. [00:16:00] I can tell you now, I was not ready at like 45 to start getting this. And hot flashes. I had read about menopause. I had heard about it. I was not ready for that shit. And there are days when I am still not ready for it, you know? So, [00:16:15] but I think there's that saying, what is it? You've, you've survived 100% of everything that you've gone through so far.
So if you really think about it, you have made it like, like, I'm not saying [00:16:30] perfect. But we've done it. So the myth that you have to be ready is different from to begin. And I think that's the key thing here is going from, I'm not [00:16:45] ready to, I'll start, I'll start, I do this in coaching a lot with, with my clients, is we just say, well, we'll just start.
We'll just start, we'll take it. And you can always stop. You can always decide to go [00:17:00] back or change your mind. And some, sometimes we do. And I think that is the beauty too. I, when I was reading Atomic Habits, which is another great book I love, you know, it starts, it says you, you are the habits. You, you know, you become [00:17:15] what you are, your habits.
And so it's like you just start small and you just do. But because me, of course, I wanna do a hundred things. I wanna do it, you know, every day for the next three months. And it's like, okay, let's dial that back. [00:17:30] But I can always start, I wanna be a starter. Everybody says, don't be a quitter. I wanna be a starter.
I'm gonna choose today to start doing this. And I like the, the quote from Marcus Aurelius and I, I practice stoicism. [00:17:45] And you'll hear more probably about that. But that's kind of where I get my kind of guidance, not guidance, but kind of. Vision of how to live and, and thought. And it said, you know, he says this quote, you, um, you could be good today.
Instead, you choose [00:18:00] tomorrow. And I like that because I could choose to take action today. I could actually do something different. I can't tell you how long I thought about doing this podcast, but I thought about it pretty long. [00:18:15] Um, and now I'm finally doing it and taking action and reaping how that, how that work, you know, the benefits of, of showing up.
Um, but
Christine: how, how, why do you think that that is for most people, that we convince ourselves that we're, we have to be [00:18:30] ready before we start something?
Chrisine: Well, again, I think part of it is the fear of failure. You know, that control of making, saying, okay. I will get all these so then I can get [00:18:45] this, I will do these things and be ready.
So then I will have success because I can't have, failure or failure isn't success. And I think that's a, a shift in mindset is, is my failure really failure? Is it just success in [00:19:00] work? You know, in progress. I Know for me, I am more confident. Um, when I am doing, when I'm taking action, even if I am failing, I am still more confident because I'm, I'm in that, I'm in the, the [00:19:15] habit of doing it.
So if we are, if I am a lack of self-trust or a lack of self-belief, which again, this is not therapy, but if you have that or weren't nurtured with that, you're not gonna know. And so it's gonna be really scary to start [00:19:30] things that you could fail. You know, the lion looks bigger when you don't see 'em behind the door.
But when you're standing there face to face and you go, oh, this is what it is. It sounds bigger, but then you open it up and you're like, oh. [00:19:45] And so that I think is part of why we don't tell ourselves, or why we tell ourselves to wait, be ready. Well, 'cause then I can control this and then I'll have a positive outcome.
[00:20:00] [00:20:15] I really think it's a reframing and so I think part of it for me is, I don't need to be [00:20:30] ready. I need to be willing to start. I need to say, you know, readiness is an illusion because again, how many times have we thought we were ready for something?
Christine: Yeah. Here's every time I feel [00:20:45] super prepared for something, it doesn't go well, and every time I feel like I'm winging it and I'm not ready, I am like, oh, nailed it.
Chrisine: Exactly. Exactly, and I think it's kinda like we were talking before about, you know, being prepared and what you can do and not be too scripted [00:21:00] and, and it's, and and the times that I thought I was gonna nail something and is when I am so stuck too, it has to be this way. And life is never that way. Like for me anyway.
I don't know, maybe [00:21:15] all's life is very different. Then this is probably a very boring podcast for you, but my life has, has always been, um, you know what, what, you know, I call it the Scooby-Doo moments. Where did that I remember showing [00:21:30] up. This is a true story. Um, and with a client and, and, and just to, this is later on in my career and with a governor and a Secretary of [00:21:45] Commerce.
Who are Democrat. Okay. It's really important when you're bringing in a client that they understand the political landscape, especially when that client would like some incentives or money or grants or things like that. [00:22:00] And they, per they, without telling me, they, they did a presentation, seven minute presentation of the greatness of a Republican, um, that, that was literally fighting.[00:22:15]
This, this sitting governor and I, I, I was so ready for this meeting and it went off the rails and down, and I, like you said, I ended up pivoting and, and, and having to go wing it. But again, I [00:22:30] was prepared, but I was prepared for something else, not for what happened and. I can get prepared, but I need to be prepared also for what I think is gonna happen, but also give enough grace in there for what [00:22:45] may happen actually happen.
And sometimes what actually happens is so much better than what we prepare for. So I think the confidence you get is by doing it even when you're failing because you [00:23:00] get in this rhythm of, oh, I've been knocked down. Boxing. Boxing's a great, great example. You get bounced around and after a while you go, oh, oh yeah, oh boom, I got hit.
Oh, I know what that's like. Okay, now I can pivot and move and things slow down. Um, but it's not about [00:23:15] failing at that point in time. And that's what I think is really great even in business, if we really think about business strategy. You know, they don't, there's, you know, you hear that ready, aim, fire, it's, it's kinda like ready, fire, [00:23:30] aim, you know, they put it out there, they launch it, they get as much feedback back, and then they redo it and retool and go again and put it out and, you know, 'cause it's never, it's always innovation.
So innovation by nature means that it was wrong to begin with. You're gonna improve it, you're gonna make it [00:23:45] better. So that means you're failing. Right. So when are you ready? At a certain point, you just put it out there and go, okay, this is good. It's gonna get, that's why I was told this once about [00:24:00] perfectionists and, and I had never heard this before 'cause it was actually a, a coach that coaches may, we were talking and we were talking about, you know, the idea of perfectionism and, and again, am I ready?
Am I perfectionist? [00:24:15] And really perfectionists are just procrastinators that can't, that are fearful of putting something out there because it's not perfect. And if you were a true perfectionist, you would put that out there, get feedback, get it back, retool it, and put it out there [00:24:30] again, you would want to have that interaction of back and forth.
And when I'm, when I think I'm not ready to get that feedback, you know, I need to take a look at that. Because is it really, you know, is it really [00:24:45] that that important that I hold on and be ready? Um, or am I just not wanting to put it out there and maybe fail or maybe it not be perfect or maybe not control the situation?[00:25:00]
One thing I'd like my listeners to think about is if you would've waited, you know, we talked about, think about things that you weren't ready for, but that you did if you would've waited. Didn't do 'em. What would've you [00:25:15] missed out on? Not just the lesson or, but what, what would've you missed out on?
Because I think that's really on the other side of that is what do we miss out by waiting, you know, I'm waiting for that. I'm waiting for this, I'm waiting for this. What do we miss [00:25:30] out? And again, going back to Marcus ROIs is, you know, you could be good today. What am I missing out on today? Because I'm choosing tomorrow to, to take action.
And I, I don't know, for me that's a. That's, that's something that I have to ask myself a lot. [00:25:45] But again, it's, it's successful people, whether it be in their personal lives, professional lives, their spiritualness, their physicalness. It's about reiteration and improvement and, [00:26:00] you know, it's about getting there and doing it and taking the action, I've learned some of the best ways to do something by doing them not ready.[00:26:15]
So let me see. Where are we at now? I love sports and so I use a lot of sports kind of mentality. When I think of fuck fair and ready or not, here [00:26:30] I come and you know. You prepare and you prepare and you prepare. But every match that you play, every game that you play, every boxing [00:26:45] match that I box, I prepared.
But until the bell rings, you know, you don't know. You don't know how your body's gonna be. Um, and, and so again, you have to [00:27:00] participate in order to know. You're ready. That's the other thing. Sometimes I wonder, 'cause some people say I'm not ready for certain things and then others will be like, well, yeah, you are.
[00:27:15] And how do, how do we know that if I'm not there doing it? You know? But I, I love that idea of sports. Um, you know, you train and you do, but you always. You know, and they always say, you got, [00:27:30] you want the guy or the girl, Caitlin Clark from Iowa Man takes a long time to have one, but we got one. Um, and you know, is she ready?
Was she ready? You know, all this noise about that. But we could talk all [00:27:45] that. We could listen to all that, but until it's on the court and you see it. So she would've waited. When do we get to see it, you know? None of us like the hype around any sporting event. We all are ready for it. [00:28:00] By the time the Super Bowl rolls around, we're like done with it.
Remember back in the day, Joe, where they'd have the big fights where everybody would do, you'd order the fight and you'd go over to someone's house. I don't know if you did, but we did. You'd order the fight and you'd go over to someone's house and watch the big heavyweight fight. Sure. It's like you, you [00:28:15] were done.
You were done with the weigh in and they'd tussle each other and you'd, you'd want to. Literally just watch.
Christine: Yeah. The Tyson and the YouTuber fight that just happened.
Chrisine: Yeah.
Christine: Like I was trying to stay up for it and Rosie Perez, like at 10 30 was like, [00:28:30] we probably got another three hours for the fight. And I was like, click, I'm turning that off.
Chrisine: I'm ready already. And, and now it's kind of like it and, and I just encourage my listeners to just get out there, find whatever [00:28:45] stage you want, big or small, and just start. Start something, be a starter step onto the court and do it because that's where you know if you're ready or not. [00:29:00]
Christine: So thinking back, mm-hmm.
The first time you went into the boxing ring, what was going through your mind? Did you feel ready?
Chrisine: I'll be honest. Um. [00:29:15] When I, when, when I first stepped into the boxing ring for professionally, um, was I was just, I, I was so ready to get this shit on the road, you know, like to, like, we gotta do [00:29:30] something. Because I had been waiting and I'd been training and, and again, it's like, you're ready, but are you ready?
I didn't, I don't know. I was, I was, I thought I was scared. But I wasn't scared of getting hurt as much as just I had [00:29:45] all this energy. What I've realized now is for me, I don't have a fear and emotion are just energies. They're different energy levels for me and different types of energy. And so, no, I don't, I was ready.
I mean, my, my trainer told me I was [00:30:00] ready. Richard, Richard Lord from Richard Lord's boxing gym had this thing where you had to run the steps at the University of Texas stadium. Enter a certain time for you to be able to fight that. That was his level of, you know, [00:30:15] conditioning that you were like, okay, you can handle doing three minute rounds and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And so I was ready. I don't know if he thought I was really ready, um, because part of my background is I come from abuse, so I'm [00:30:30] like you, like I remember when we first started boxing and he said, you wanna spar? I said, you, you popped me. It's what? It's different when you hit the mitts and then no one hits you back.
It's different when they hit you back. [00:30:45] And I remember telling him, I said, listen, you hit me and I and I flip out, you stop. And so you never quite sure I will tell you this, I do have my second fight. I was ready for that fight. [00:31:00] I was ready for that fight. I remember I was, because I had won my first fight, second fight, I was ready.
And I don't remember anything past the second round. And I remember being back at his parents' house. We got [00:31:15] done, went back to his, his parents' house. They was in Dallas. It was Dallas fight and I remember the end of the second round and I remember watching the the VCR going. There's a third round and there's like literally watching myself 'cause I don't [00:31:30] remember that.
And so, I mean, I was ready for that fight. I ended up losing that fight, but everybody was ready for that fight. So
Christine: I, is that like that was that Mike Tyson quote? Everybody's got a plan until you get punched in the face. Is that, oh, everybody's
Chrisine: got a plan to, and that's the thing. I'm, [00:31:45] get in there, get in the ring, get hit, and then pivot and move and, and don't put off, don't put it off.
If it's gonna be bag make, let's get it on. Let's go and, and get it mixed up and go do it. And, and then you learn. [00:32:00]
Christine: And then maybe don't go fight a YouTuber in your sixties. Maybe not,
Chrisine: you know, maybe go start something else. That's the beauty about it though, is that we get to participate and if I'm sitting here, the [00:32:15] illusion of being ready.
And typically I make that illusion and I make all this criteria up in a vacuum of myself or some high standard that I have of [00:32:30] somebody else. And it's not really based on reality when it comes to changing my life, taking action and moving forward. And so I really think if you sit there and you go, all right, what were things that I thought I was ready [00:32:45] for?
What curve balls hit me. Okay. I survived those just as much as I survived when I didn't think I was ready. And I think that's the beauty of that. And, and so [00:33:00] ladies, when it comes to saying, fuck fear, it's not that you don't respect the fear. It's not that it's not, you go, oh, I'm stuff it in this little box.
'cause that that's not what we're talking about. What I'm talking about is you go. Ooh, yeah, I [00:33:15] got some stuff at risk here. Starting my company was very risky for me. Um, being out here, talking out loud in public, I call it living out loud in public, is very different format for me. And, you [00:33:30] know, because I don't have a Ernst and Young or Deloitte or you know, this industry to stand behind.
These are, these are my thoughts, these are my experiences, these are my, and it may or may not resonate. So, yeah, there's a [00:33:45] lot. Is it, are you ever ready for that? Are you ever ready to, to fail? I'm not sure I'm ready, but I know, I know how to, to pick myself back up again. And I think [00:34:00] that I've learned from, from failing, and that is what's great, is there's a certain amount, when I sit down, there's a certain amount of.
Man, I don't wanna have to work five jobs and do all that again, [00:34:15] but if I fail and I don't go back to corporate, I'm willing to do that. And I think that's what's fun because I get to sit here and have these great conversations with you and these, [00:34:30] and my, and, and my bitches and just everything about that is so wonderful to have something new to do, to, to tell somebody the game you're playing, what you're doing.
Not sitting on the sidelines. [00:34:45] I don't think anybody ever wants to be a bench warmer, you know, not the whole entire game. And, um, I know I haven't. So again, think about when you say, I'm ready. I'm not [00:35:00] ready. You know, maybe you just, maybe you need another girl. Or a husband or or a friend to kind of say, Hey, I'm right here.
I've got you, but you're ready. You know, doing it scared is still [00:35:15] doing it. You get credit for that and that's when it's courageous. When I'm not scared and I don't, and I'm out there doing stuff, I've been doing my whole day, you know, my whole life, that doesn't take a lot. [00:35:30] But when I'm. Doing new things or exploring new areas that is courageous.
And I get scared to do that and I do it anyway. I wanna meet those people. I wanna [00:35:45] know those women. I wanna follow those leaders. And I was talking to someone the other day and we were laughing about if, you know, running from people who say they've never been scared or that [00:36:00] they've never, never failed.
They just, and and I said, yeah, I don't, I don't trust those people. 'cause either they've never put themselves out far enough, you know, or [00:36:15] they've been in denial that they've failed and either one, I don't want that. And so today I am, I'm gonna be a starter and I encourage all my listeners to be a starter.
I really [00:36:30] do. Just start something small, something new and, and you're ready. You're enough. You're enough to start. You may need to be more to finish, but you're enough to start. So [00:36:45] we're winding down. Got homework to do. This is my challenge. Make a list of things that you weren't ready for, but you did anyway.
You killed it or you walked away with [00:37:00] something that you didn't know you, you were gonna get that. You just treasure. Two, make a list of something you thought you were ready for and you did the epic nose dive belly flop. [00:37:15] And three, make a list of things that you're saying you're not ready to do. Just just write 'em down.
Put 'em down on paper. Then from that list, choose one that you wanna [00:37:30] start and then tell someone that you're gonna start it. You don't have to put a time, I can turn coach on you. You don't have to put a time or a day, but just tell someone. Put that out there that you're gonna start it. Tell a friend I literally told a friend [00:37:45] today said, make next time you see me, ask me if I made an appointment, um, for my hormone replacement doctor.
And so again, put it out there. Start something that you've been putting off. ladies, [00:38:00] gentlemen, I thank you and I hope you have a wonderful, wonderful day and tubs. And until next time, we'll see later. [00:38:15] [00:38:30]