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Hello Clueless Queens, welcome back to No Clue, the only podcast show where you ask, we answer. No judgment, just
fun. My name is Payton, and today I'm here with my co-hosts, Regan, Olivia, and Nat. Hey! For those joining us for the
first time, Nat, do you want to tell everyone what No Clue is all about? Of course. So, No Clue works by listeners sending
in their questions via our social media, and we answer them based on our personal experience and research on the fly.
Nothing is off limits, we can talk about pop culture, questions, lacking a life skill, or just needing advice. We have
answers for everything. That's right. Our goal is to make a space where asking questions is encouraged, instead of being
put down. Love it. Are we ready to get started, guys? Let's do it. Yay! Alright, first up, one viewer asks how they deal with
managing friendships after they move out of the dorm. I feel like I do not have many friends anymore because I've
moved off campus. How do I connect? Alright, I would say keeping friendships after the dorm is kind of a hard
experience, especially just because everyone starts becoming interested in something else. And making friends outside
of who you already know is hard. But I will say, I met a lot of mutuals through my dorm friends, so I was able to branch
out that way. And same with reconnecting with friends from high school and college, trying to hang out with them. Yeah,
I would say that's fun. No, I definitely get the reconnecting with high school friends in college. I only had five people
from my high school come here, and one girl I never talked to, and now we're roommates. And I can't see my life without
her. So it's kind of almost just going back to your roots and what you know you like. If you're into one thing specifically,
go find a club and force yourself to get out of the house. I moved off campus, and I love being off campus, but I do force
myself to go back to campus every week because I play rugby. And those are my girls. They're my ride-or-dies. So
definitely aligning yourself around one or two things that you can do with your friends is so, so helpful. Yeah, based on
our research I just pulled up here, a lot of ways that people make friends are engaging in clubs and campus
organizations. What I did sophomore year was, I mean, I didn't rush as a freshman, but then I went through the
continuous open bidding process through Greek life. So I joined Kappa Kappa Gamma sorority. And not to say that I
don't have my best friends in Kappa, but honestly just being in Greek life as a whole, I've met people I never would have
talked to at all without doing it. And honestly it's like I've been super close with some older girls, younger girls that I
never thought I'd have. I have a big sister for the first time. I have another little sister. She has a big brother I talk to all
the time, and he lives in England now, so it's just crazy. You get to meet tons of people. See, I almost thought about
doing the cobbing process, like continuous open bidding, but then I was scared that I wouldn't be friends with all the
girls that made those connections going through rush. So it's good to hear that you would still have the opportunity to
make those connections. Now, going through recruitment now, what they tell us to do is if there's somebody that comes
in that you might really like them, but if you can't name five people that they would be friends with in the chapters to not
let them in, which is so strange. That's interesting. So I can look at a girl now and I can be like, oh, she's an AFI, or I can
look and be like, oh, she's an AOPI, just by how you know them, not because they're a bad person or anything. It's just
necessarily what vibe you fit and which house you feel better in. You know who they would get along with. Yeah, it's
super interesting. They would take me off the recruitment floor because I would ask people stupid questions. Like if you
were an egg, what kind of egg would you be? Oh, I had to practice my golf swing when I was in there. They were like,
show us your golf swing, and I'm like, oh, thanks. Oh, that's horrible. It was just so random, never golfed in my life, but
hey, it somehow worked. How about you, Olivia? How did you make friends off campus? So I had a unique experience
where I came in as a commuter. So I'm from Morgantown, and I really had to develop more skills to make myself more
well-known on campus to make sure I was making friends. Definitely, I think joining organizations and just trying to join
clubs, talking to people in class has really helped. According to a psychologist, the best thing to have on campus is four
to six friends during your college experience. Does anybody have any insight to that? I would say a lot of my—you said
on campus? Yeah. So I think I had a harder time making any friends, especially coming in as a transfer student because
my automatic friend here was my boyfriend's roommate's girlfriend. That was just my roommate. We lived off campus
my sophomore year. The only way that I actually had success making friends was through work. So I found quite a few
friends that way. Turns out they were actually in my classes. I had no idea. So then they did become my four to six
friends on campus. So I would say that might be correct, but I found them a different way, so I'm not in clubs. I don't
really do anything except I am a—well, yeah, I guess I do run a club, but that's another point. One of my biggest
misconceptions about coming to college was my mom went to a super small school, so she had a friend group of literally
15 people because she saw them every single day and whatnot. That's hard to maintain, especially for me. I have lots of
school and stuff going on, so I feel like it's fine to actually have your three to four designated best friends. And even if
you have friends in your classes and stuff that aren't your best friends, it's so nice to see a familiar face around campus.
Being in the journalism major, I see so many people all the time that I've had five, six classes with, and I can say hi. We
can have a conversation about what's going on in our lives, and that's nice. Just friendly acquaintances is also totally fine.
Right, and while maybe Greek life has given me people I can go out with or party with, working at the DA for the last
three years has given me some of my best friends because we have those shared interests in writing and informing and
researching the public. So, yeah, I would say at least three of my close friends I've met through the DA, and it's been
really helpful. And then I've been able, because they're like, obviously I wouldn't be friends with somebody who can't be
friends with everybody. So it's like having, getting to merge those kind of friend groups has been super rewarding,
especially going into my senior year. I'm super excited. I can't believe I'm going to be a senior. I hate it. Well, technically I
am a senior. I'm a senior, yeah. Yeah, it's hitting hard right now. We have like three weeks left, and that's it. Shut the fuck
up. Actually, I can't. No, it's already April. That's not okay. I see all the high schoolers that I'm still friends with posting
their countdowns on Senior Sunday, and I'm like, no. No. Yeah, well, we all have to get our finances together if we're
going to be living in the adult world. One viewer asked anything that we could tell them about getting a credit card.
What's a credit score? How they do investments? Stocks and bonds? They said they want money but has no clue what
they're doing. Anybody have anything to share about that? So I actually just forced my roommate to sign up for her first
credit card because I don't think people understand how important it is to have a credit score. And even if you feel like
you're starting late, just start. I am so thankful my parents had a credit card in my name that they used for me, which
started building my credit score when I was younger. And then when I got to college, I got a credit card in my own name,
and I pay that account. And I pay it on time, and I build my credit. And my roommate just did not understand how it
worked. And I was like, girl, you have to have a credit card because you need to build a credit score to show that you're
reliable with money. So in the future, if you want to take out a loan for a house, a car, an apartment, all of those things, a
credit score is one way that they can determine that you will actually be a customer that they want to have. And she just
totally didn't understand it. And we had a super long conversation about it. And I think starting with a credit card is
probably just the easiest. I know if you're a student, like Discover does student credit cards. Or if you've been with a bank
with your debit card for a long time, sometimes they'll give you a better interest rate and stuff on your savings accounts,
and you can use that to kind of leverage into getting a credit card. And, I mean, stocks and bonds and CDs and stuff is
something people definitely want to look into, like Roth IRAs, but not a starting place. Definitely a second step. Even you
just said our whatever, and I'm like, I have no idea what that is. I'm definitely – I'm so thankful that my parents talked to
me about this, and I get that a lot of people's parents