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Weight loss isn’t hard because you’re lazy. It’s hard because the advice you’ve been given doesn’t match your real life. It's hard because you've been told to live your life a certain way and you just aren't getting the support that you deserve. This podcast is where I cut through the nonsense and give you realistic, culturally aware coaching that works in the real world
If you're currently struggling, just know that I hear you, I believe in you, and I'm here to help you
Now if you listen to this, then you're probably interested in this topic. Right? So I would say easily that I've not met a single person over the age of 30 who I have worked with who has had a very simple life when it comes to weight loss. Every single person I've been doing this since twenty fifteen. Okay?
Speaker 1:Which is, you know, a good amount of time. Right? Every single lady over the age of 30 has had stumbling blocks. They've had inconsistencies. They've had, when I say issues, mean, like, with respect to their weight loss.
Speaker 1:They've had they've they've had obstacles. They've done it all. Okay? They've faced it all, and this is gonna be expected. If you're if you listen to this, you are not an athlete.
Speaker 1:You are not an individual with all the time in your hands. You have a lot going on. And the fact that you are over the age of 30 and you're women, that is also gonna work against you when it comes to weight loss. Okay? Now what have I just done?
Speaker 1:You're probably thinking, you just put me off, say, what's the point in doing all this? Well, because the good news is you can still lose weight. You just need to focus on the different things. Okay? Different things rather.
Speaker 1:So what I mean by that is when it comes to biology, you have to accept this. No amount of mound jar or Ozempic is gonna fix this. Okay? You need to understand biology, and that is as you get older, so over the age of 35, over the age of 30, metabolism starts to slow down. And no.
Speaker 1:Collagen is not gonna fix that. I had a lady the other day reach out to me on Instagram say, and I was told to have collagen to boost metabolism and stuff. No. It doesn't work like that. Okay?
Speaker 1:Over the age of 30, your metabolism starts to decline slowly. Okay? As a woman, it hits you harder. Okay? Then as you age, obviously, you get to the perimenopausal state as well, which can make things a bit difficult.
Speaker 1:But metabolism slows down, which means you need to work a little bit harder to maintain and lose weight. Now when metabolism starts to decline now this is the part I need you to understand. Okay? When metabolism starts to decline, your body is slowly starting to wind down because it is not wanting to be as active. And that is why most people the body wants to conserve as much energy.
Speaker 1:So that's why most people, as they get older, they gain weight because they're just they're being lazy. Like, that's it. When I say lazy, I mean, I I know people who are just unwilling to go for a walk. I know people who are unwilling to just stand up more and they just wanna sit down all day. I'm talking outside of medical conditions like people who are fit, but they just refuse to do that.
Speaker 1:Okay? So when you get older, the body's starting to wind down now because muscle starts to waste away. Bones obviously starts to you see kind of bone mass start to waste away as well over time as well. It's just aging. That's what happens.
Speaker 1:You're basically cooking inside. That's literally what's happening. Okay? Now how do you stop that? Well, you move a little bit, you exercise, and you increase your ratio of things like vitamins, minerals, protein, but no one wants to do that.
Speaker 1:And that's the that's the mind boggling part because you know what what tools you have at your disposal. Yeah? So when you get past the age of 30, there should be more of an impetus to look after your health, to do some exercise, and to eat better quality food. Because although weight loss is gonna be a little bit slower, it doesn't mean it's gonna stop. This is the part that no one seems to get.
Speaker 1:Yes. Weight loss is gonna be slow, but it doesn't mean it's gonna stop. So it means that you can keep doing it. You just have to change the approach. So if you're in your like, the one I hate, I really can't stand when people say this to me.
Speaker 1:I get this all the time in a consult call and people say, I used to be able to eat what I want and lose weight when I was in my twenties and my teens. Well, duh. Obviously, that's gonna happen because that's just the way our bodies are. That's way our bodies are designed. You know?
Speaker 1:In your infancy, when you're early on, your metabolism is fairly revved up. And then I'll get people on the other other end of the stick who'll say to me, oh, I'm in my thirties, forties. My metabolism's damaged. I'm like, no. It isn't.
Speaker 1:It's doing what it's supposed to do. It's winding down. So you need to give it a reason to not wind down. And to do that, you develop a bit of muscle tissue in your body. You do a little bit of exercise.
Speaker 1:You go for a walk. You eat a little bit more protein, which the body takes and and it recognizes that, hey, there's protein. It's feeding the muscle. Muscle, don't go anywhere. Let's stay here.
Speaker 1:And that's what keeps your metabolism fairly revved up. Okay? And that's why I prioritize protein as you get older because your muscle is literally wasting away. Muscle and metabolism are best friends as ever. Right?
Speaker 1:Because when when muscle starts to waste away, which just sadly does in South Asian people, when that happens, metabolism declines because remember, muscle is what we call metabolically active tissues. The more that you have, the body needs to actually run more calories to maintain it, which is a bloody good thing, but it's amazing. It's expensive for the body. That's a good thing. So the more you have of it, the more calories your body burns at rest.
Speaker 1:That's why exercising and increasing protein in your later years is, like, the best thing you can do for like, it is legit the best thing you can do for your health. It could change your life. It could transform your life. It could save your life as well in some instances. Okay?
Speaker 1:So the more muscle you have, the the the better you're going to be, you know, the the better metabolic state your body is gonna be in. And that means compared to your sister or your auntie or your sister-in-law who refuses, who wants to take all the weight loss jobs, in ten years time, she may lose all the weight just now quickly. Right? And, yeah, that's gonna happen because she's taking a job. But seeing ten years time, you'll be far better off.
Speaker 1:You'll be in much better shape. Not even ten years time. In, three years time, you'll be in better shape. You'll have more muscle. Metabolism is gonna be revved up.
Speaker 1:You're be healthier. You're gonna feel better as But the problem is no one wants that. They just wanna see the physical chain. They wanna see the numbers go down. Why?
Speaker 1:Why? Damn it. Why? Okay? Because it's not a bit like when I say play the long game, I don't mean like years and years.
Speaker 1:No. But, like, give yourself six to eight months to do some exercise to to, you know, improve your nutrition. You will see weight loss. It's not gonna be anywhere near someone taking steroids, obviously, or the weight loss jab. But in six months further down the line, those individuals are gonna gain the weight back you won't because your metabolism is gonna be in a much better state.
Speaker 1:And this is what coaches are trying to get through to clients. This is what I do with clients is I try to get them to understand what's actually going on here. So your metabolism is gonna slow the age you age. You can't do much about it, but how slow? You have the power, my friend, by doing the exercise, by just eating an extra egg for breakfast, by saying no to freaking junk food, okay, or reducing it even by just having some more chicken in your Palau by, you know, like having you know, a full tin of tuna as opposed to half a tin of tuna.
Speaker 1:You know? Like having two tablespoons of wheat yogurt, switching from pikisa to fat free Greek yogurt, having some blueberries, having some raspberries, having some fruits. Every single choice you make is going to benefit you. The same way you made bad choices from, you know, 25 years old upwards, like, that's what accumulated and put you in the state. Now, my friend, we've got some work to do where we need to flip the switch.
Speaker 1:Okay? So everyone listen to this. No matter what state you're in at the moment, no matter what age you're at the moment, no matter what health you're in, metabolism is something that you have the power to control. It doesn't get flipped overnight. That's why all these stupid silly chia seed recipes and lemon and and your water apple cider vinegar crap.
Speaker 1:None of that none of that works because the the way I the way I put it is this. Okay? Thank you, Bert. If these things worked, do you not think all of us would be in shape? Like, let's get real for a minute.
Speaker 1:If the lemon and apple cider vinegar in the in the morning worked, if the chia seeds soaked in the water worked, if all of this worked, do you not think that we would all be in shape? I wouldn't be in a job. I'd probably be still studying actually, or I would actually be working as a solicitor because not trying to flex anything, but that's what I studied in uni, but I hated it. Right? Qualified and I was like, nope.
Speaker 1:I'm out of here. I would probably still be doing that. But, no, I have a duty, a job to to help people, to to help them change their lives. Okay? And I like a large part of that is just kind of getting them to understand the kind of game that we're trying to play here.
Speaker 1:It takes a bit of time, and the sooner you kind of accept that, I guess, the easier the journey is gonna be. So your metabolism is not damaged. You're not broken. You just need to give it the the the the small fixes that add up. Okay?
Speaker 1:But you can't expect to just do something and expect it to to turn your life around in, like, four weeks. It's just it's not gonna work that way, man. Alright? You need to get real. Okay?
Speaker 1:So how do you slow down metabolism? How do you, you know, reduce nastier side effects that you get menopause? You exercise. You walk more. You stand up more.
Speaker 1:You eat, you know, a bit more protein in your day. You have more fibrous food, you feed the gut. Now I'm not saying that's gonna fix everything because stresses are still gonna come. So do your best to manage stress. I'm not gonna be unrealistic and say, just stress less.
Speaker 1:That doesn't help anyone. The stresses are not gonna go away. But when you start eating better quality food and you do something to get a dopamine rush and an endorphin rush, which is important, that's gonna keep you on track. Okay? And I'm gonna leave you with a quote.
Speaker 1:Okay? I don't know where the hell this came from, but I absolutely love it. And it is don't pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to to endure a difficult one. Okay?
Speaker 1:Because when you're praying for an easy life, which is just not gonna happen, pray. It's it becomes so farfetched that you start to lose hope and everything. But if you just pray for the strength and you actually work on it as well, okay, you'll be able to endure crap because let me tell you something just now. In five, ten years on the line, when you think you'll be in shape, you're still gonna be dealing with crap. You're still gonna be getting comments from that sister-in-law or that sibling or that friend.
Speaker 1:You're still gonna have, you know I use in laws as an example, and I know it sounds a bit bad, but I just use it because it's like the easiest examples. But you still have, you know, you have kids who are going to be stressing you out. Okay? You'll have this or you have that. Your work's gonna stress you.
Speaker 1:That's still gonna be there. But the difference now is you're gonna be in a far better state to deal with it. That is the aim of the game. Okay? Right.
Speaker 1:Hopefully, this helped, and it can spark something inside you. Spark something inside me, and that is the desire to go and make a coffee just now, which I'm gonna have. In fact, I've I've turned against the coffee gods. I've actually started having only temporarily just because I'm kind of off full coffee at the moment, a little bit of instant coffee. I know.
Speaker 1:I know some people are gonna call me out because I I hate on instant coffee because it tastes like rubbish, but I am just having the Lavaza, the Italian brand instant coffee. But what I'm doing is I'm only having, like, half a teaspoon. I wish I tapered in caffeine a little bit. So that's the easiest way for me to manage it because although I love the espressos and the the coffee machines, I find it quite difficult to dial in sometimes. So I'm not a pro.
Speaker 1:So I'm just relying a bit on instant coffee at the moment. So, yeah, I'm what we have on just now, and I'll speak to you guys in the next episode.