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Just My POV is a raw, real, and refreshing talk show where a millennial aunt and her Gen Z nephew go head-to-head on everything—love, money, culture, gender roles, and the messy parts of growing up in two different worlds.
They don’t always agree.
They don’t hold back.
But they always keep it real.
Each episode dives into the generational gap, the clash of values, and the moments that spark deep reflection—or full-blown arguments.
It’s not about who’s right.
It’s just their point of view.
It's yet another episode. I'm Kelvin Steven.
Speaker 2:And I'm Pearl Cardi. And it's just My POV.
Speaker 1:So I came across this story, it's about a week old now of a Ghanaian, Texas based pastor who allegedly unalived his wife on the night of their wedding. Right? Why? And here's the big shocker. He realized that she has just the same organ as he does.
Speaker 1:Right, very interesting one. So according to the story, he stabbed her multiple times after he realized this, yeah. Oh, well, first of all, that is just terrible. Terrible.
Speaker 2:Outrightly terrible. First off, she is a problem. Moving on. How do you date somebody?
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Say that you love the person, do audio unconditional, does you string this guy along for so long that the guy now goes on one knee and proposes to you.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And you don't feel the need to speak up or say that, you know, because you know why? I feel like during the course of their relationship, he definitely would have brought up that conversation or she. I can't disagree. So now the thing is confusing me.
Speaker 1:I'm confused.
Speaker 2:But you get me, the wife would have brought up that conversation to find out if her pastor husband will bend or not So she would have figured out that he's not going to be there for it. One, two, he's a pastor. He preaches on the altar. Talks to people forgiveness, about all those things. How do you set him up like that?
Speaker 1:I think she taught somewhere in her mind that because he's a pastor, he's very Christian like to forgive and forget.
Speaker 2:Kevin, you're stressing me out. You're stressing me out with coming out with can never be because it's even much worse with the fact that he's a pastor. He's a pastor who's talking about church, who is talking about preaching to people about doing the right thing. You cannot accept you set him up. This thing is staged though,
Speaker 1:to be Actually, it's staged because I heard that the members of the church were actually aware, a few members were aware that that's actually a trans woman.
Speaker 2:Is so terrible. That is so terrible. They planned it all together, to be honest.
Speaker 1:A little piece of advice to the dolls out there, regardless your identity, whatever the case may be, if you're going to get involved with someone, feel like I don't feel. It's important that you put it out to this person that you are a transgender woman and the transgender men are not left out of this topic because I don't see why you want to build on something so important like that this is a very sensitive topic Sex is either appealing or disgusting. You don't want to put someone through distress of having to find out that you have a penis like him. No,
Speaker 2:that's- It's very disgusting. It's unacceptable. That's not a
Speaker 1:justification for killing anyone. No, it's not. No, it's not.
Speaker 2:No, it's not. But it's very unacceptable, especially in this year and age where everyone is talking about the LGBTQ plus plus plus community. And there are so many so many sexes or gender that you can have. Yeah. There are so many genders.
Speaker 2:So you can either be plus plus plus plus, and we're all accepting it. So how is it that you date somebody and you know what's going on, you refuse to tell the person. It's like you're telling the person you don't have a choice, you are here with me. You make the person fall in love with you. You go through all of that process.
Speaker 2:That is so heartless. Now, while agree that you don't have the right to take anyone's life because you cannot create a life. So you cannot be taking anyone. So clearly the pastor was in the wrong, but I really do feel like it was a setup because you know that this guy is going to lose his cool, especially when you've dated somebody too. You know how the person's department will be.
Speaker 2:I know. Then you don't know. She saw the signs. Then she now decided until the wedding night.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and also coming back to the pastor, I feel like in this life, right? As a human being, you should be able to manage your emotions. That's what makes you a human Absolutely. You should be able to manage your emotions. Why?
Speaker 1:Anytime you want to make an act, make any move whatsoever, you should be able to give yourself, even if it's three seconds to reflect on how hard you've worked to get to the stage that you are. I mean, if he had stopped to look at that, believe me, he's not going to kill her because now he's going to be spending his time behind bars.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what he's doing. And now
Speaker 1:she has actually escaped the punishment she's supposed to.
Speaker 2:No. Don't worry. She's still she's still going to answer God. Don't stress yourself. We will
Speaker 1:leave that to God.
Speaker 2:Yeah. That's what I did I did say she's going to head. Then the truth really is at that moment in time, that pastor, I promise you, he wasn't really in his right senses.
Speaker 1:He can't
Speaker 2:be his He could not have been. The temper would have just been too much. The anger would have just been unexplainable and uncontainable if there's any language like that. He just couldn't help himself. He's just like, I want, I guess because it's a bloody way to even take someone's life by knife, like stabbing the person several times.
Speaker 2:That's so bloody and disgusting. Once, twice. Yeah, he could have even felt disgusted at some point, but clearly he blacked out. So he just continued with the vex of how could you do this to me after I told you I love That's just a lot. Back to that conversation that we're saying about exes, if you would stay with your ex, you go stay with that thing.
Speaker 2:No. Anyways, this whole conversation has now brought me to the next thing that I would like us to talk about. And it's something that everyone goes through, healing. How do you heal from a thing like that? How does the pastor figure out?
Speaker 2:I know he's spending his time in jails, so it'll be quiet times. Have a lot of time to think about it and recover from it. But healing is such a process that everyone has to go through. And lots of people have different ways of going through it. But I know that you are still in your process of it.
Speaker 2:I'm still in my own process as
Speaker 1:well, by the It's just that. Yeah. So personally, personally, I've had my first share of too many traumatic incidents, believe me.
Speaker 2:And
Speaker 1:in the cause of this, the only way I've been able to navigate my way out of the dark has been letting myself feel every single emotion. So my advice to anybody who is going through anything, it's okay to feel whatever you feel to like the highest level, cry, cry, complain, feel it for whatever the case may be, just know that let yourself feel every single thing you want to feel. And that's the only way you can get out of it.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Absolutely. I agree. I mean, feeling everything is very important and accepting the fact that you are a fool. Fool.
Speaker 2:I just needed to do that. Just had to do Honestly. You need to accept the fact that you've been fooled. Now I know that there is also after acceptance, there's the part where you now start to judge yourself. A lot of us feel like we're very special and we're very unique.
Speaker 2:But remember, it's only to yourself and to your mom. I'm mother. You get it? Yeah. With that being said, why you feel like you're so special, you feel like you could do so much, you could be so much.
Speaker 2:And then you now realize that you're the one who put that person on a pedestal that the person didn't deserve because of your own emotions. Now what happens when you give someone something that they don't deserve or like wear pearls on a pig? They are going to mess it up. Fumble you. So this guy or babe is definitely going to fumble you because the person does not know what to do with that place that you've placed them.
Speaker 2:So clearly, definitely wonderful
Speaker 1:with everything because there were so many things I learned about myself that I actually didn't know existed. That's so So you get to learn so many things. So you need to feel, feel, feel.
Speaker 2:Part of it that I know that really hurts people is after feeling it, they start to beat themselves down. Don't do that. Learn to give yourself grace. It's okay for you to feel bad that you were fooled, but give yourself grace knowing fully well that if you were in that situation without what you know now, you will still have done, had the same feeling, the same reaction, you still have handled it the same way. So that's one way to look at it.
Speaker 1:That's fair. So that brings us to the issue of love bombing, right? If you don't already know, this is like the situation where you meet this new person and the person is like all over the place, head over heels, hitting you up with the morning texts, the consistent calls, checking up on you and your break hours, literally hitting up on you to know everything that's happening in your life, right? In as much as you can feel butterflies as a result of this sinusure attention you're getting, it could get a little funny. What do you think about love bombing?
Speaker 2:Love bombing for millennials are I think that that's cool. We see the romance in it. How do you know if somebody loves you if the person doesn't call you, message you, text you, check on you? Right. I mean, it's kinda weird.
Speaker 2:I know and I know that you said unnecessary, but that is quite necessary for cutting. If you're going to cut somebody or date somebody, you're going to at least express or be checking on the person. I think that, you know, for Gen Zs, you guys see it a little bit differently, maybe because usually it kind of makes you guys feel like, oh my goodness, I don't have the moment to figure out how I feel about this person in However, that is why millennials, we take our time when we're dating. Don't just go and just jump into that relationship like that. Like if somebody tells you I like you, but then the person doesn't call you or send you any message or anything like that.
Speaker 1:Am I supposed to be able to believe that, oh, this person
Speaker 2:really feels something to Well,
Speaker 1:the Gen Z, I feel like the reason why we tend to paint love bombing something not so pretty is that in as much as it's beautiful to get this attention from this person, it oftentimes ends with someone ghosted you. Like this individual walks so hard to get your attention, knowing that they don't even deserve it, by the way. And then you eventually give it to them and then they realize that, oh, wow, this person, be like, say, don't fall for me. And this nigga goes MIA.
Speaker 2:That's the thing. That's the difference. Like I said, when it comes to millennials, millennials don't just fall so quickly like that. I see I love bombing them, then they enjoy them. Know.
Speaker 2:Now, waiting with the A few, you get me. That's why you take us on dates. That's why you buy us gifts. That's why it takes us like some months before we get into it. But then with you guys, you guys are like, Oh my God, he sent me flowers, you do a video.
Speaker 2:He sent me dinner, you do another video. We're going on vacation, but I don't plan that vacation. Don't plan three days or five days where you go chop you, chop everything. Clean mouth. Chop everything.
Speaker 2:So by the time he's done, when you come back, what's he trying to get? It's like he's gained everything that he has already put in, he has already worked for. This was the end point. And I put in XYZ, and I've already got it. But when you delay it, then you now have the chance to know him, to figure out if you like him, to figure out how you actually feel about him.
Speaker 2:You know all those things now, all the things that you
Speaker 1:feel like I'm For real, I honestly don't blame people who, as a result of multiple people ghosting them, you tend to bottle up your emotion and play the non charlatant, I don't give a fuck type shit type shit.
Speaker 2:And that's the thing. I think that that's a guy thing. People who don't ghost you are usually guys.
Speaker 1:They're usually guys.
Speaker 2:And it's because guys aren't really the type of people who like to confront situations head on life. It's not really what they like
Speaker 1:to
Speaker 2:They
Speaker 1:like to told
Speaker 2:nice things. That's why when they're with you, they want you to just be smiling
Speaker 1:and show them all the love so that they can go
Speaker 2:enjoy and absorb all your good sweet without giving out anything. They are not ready to face the real situation. So they will run away. That's a gamble.
Speaker 1:And just so you know, individuals out there, for those of you who love bomb people, and at the end of the day, you go STEM, you need to know that you are a very big loser. It takes being a loser, it takes being having the greatest, you need to be very insecure with yourself before you will stay. You work so hard. Is that how fruitless you So the thing is like you don't want to get somewhere, you work so hard, you get someone, then you ghost the person.
Speaker 2:Because you don't want to face the person and tell the person the actual truth that you weren't- For
Speaker 1:real, you're in the big coward. Very Well,
Speaker 2:the thing is, it's because of the way that you're seeing it. Guys.
Speaker 1:I am
Speaker 2:not Because they're a guy. No. You are actually.
Speaker 1:No. Just do that. I am not. No. Because I
Speaker 2:know that you're very selective. If you are
Speaker 1:not a man, will select the moments
Speaker 2:you're a guy and select the moments that you
Speaker 1:want to a big Fair to say.
Speaker 2:You see, that's what I'm saying. So you're still amongst.
Speaker 1:Yeah. The
Speaker 2:truth is guys enjoy, that's why they enjoy their own company. Right. Because your guy go there with you, say no worry, no ma'am you be, every single day But you'll go home and your wife will say, You haven't paid for this. You haven't done this because-
Speaker 1:That's a bro code.
Speaker 2:It's a problem that you have to solve. You cannot ignore or lie your way out of it, but it's kind of another thing that they do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they just hide under the umbrella of bro code.
Speaker 2:Broke You
Speaker 1:see, a golden ticket to messing up.
Speaker 2:It's so funny that guys are able to just hide under that idea, like, where they go, they lie to each other, just because they don't want to accept the real issue. But then your issues don't disappear if you don't face them head on. Actually, you want it to continue.
Speaker 1:And it leaves me thinking about something, friendships. How genuine are male friendships?
Speaker 2:None at all.
Speaker 1:When I say how genuine, I mean, if we're going to play with the bro code card, how genuine are the friendship? Because some guys actually do not like their friends. They don't. But they are going to laugh with them and everything. Yes.
Speaker 1:Or like the girls who actually when I know like when she don't like
Speaker 2:this baby, actually
Speaker 1:doesn't like the She's going to frown, she's going to shitty talk, she's going to do all of these things, but a guy will actually not like you, want you dead, but be your friend.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Smoke with you, drink with you, all
Speaker 2:of So that he can poison you later
Speaker 1:on at night.
Speaker 2:Get it? So guys out there, check your back,
Speaker 1:watch your Oh, cool your eye, watch your back, for That's
Speaker 2:what it is.
Speaker 1:Your bro could be the one with the knife.
Speaker 2:Exactly. Exactly. Not the babes. Not the babes.
Speaker 1:She's not your problem.
Speaker 2:She's really not your problem because she's not even in competition with you, just so you know. Anyways, we've been talking a lot today on just my POV. And I hope that you've picked a thing or two out of this, learning how to heal, learning how to hold your temper, and how
Speaker 1:to rethink. Manage your emotions. Yes,
Speaker 2:all that. And then also remembering that even your friendships could be frenemies.
Speaker 1:Shake them. Uh-huh.
Speaker 2:Okay. Until next guys. We'll catch you later.