OK at Work

In this Valentine's Day special of OK at Work, attorneys Sarah Sawyer and Russell Berger from Offit Kurman discuss the complexities and legal implications of workplace relationships. They reference a recent Forbes survey revealing that a significant percentage of employees who date or marry colleagues, which can lead to various challenges for employers. The episode talks about potential legal concerns such as harassment, discrimination, retaliation, and favoritism. To address these issues, implementing clear anti-discrimination, anti-harassment, and anti-retaliation policy would be beneficial, as well as handling supervisory relationships with caution. Flexibility and a focus on impact are recommended for effectively managing workplace romances.

00:00 Introduction and Valentine's Day Theme
00:15 Workplace Relationships Statistics
00:50 Challenges for Employers
01:29 Legal Considerations and Policies
02:28 Managing Office Romances
03:17 Company Size and Policy Flexibility
04:54 Supervisors and Different Standards
05:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Sarah Sawyer: Welcome to this
week's OK at Work with myself, Sarah

Sawyer, my colleague Russell Berger,
both attorneys at Offit Kurman.

And today in honor of Valentine's Day, we
are talking about office relationships or

work related relationships, I should say.

It's a recent Forbes survey that
noted that just over 40% of people

surveyed, noted that they had
married someone they met at work.

It also reported that 24% have gone
on a date with a colleague and 17%

of employees have been in an official
relationship with someone from work.

So , there's Some interesting stats.

There's some other ones at
that are part of that survey.

Obviously every survey's
got some variations to it,

but ultimately, point being.

People meet and get married at work or,
coincidentally from meeting at work.

And that can create some challenges
for employers or the employers who are

hearing that stat, I'm sure might feel
a little startled by that statistic

and a little apprehensive about it.

So what are things that employers
should be thinking about

in light of this reporting?

Russell Berger: Yeah, well, I think
the number one takeaway and, it's

hard to say how accurate those stats
are 'cause it's always gonna be

dependent on people's self-reporting.

But, if You've got more than like
10 or 15 employees, you're probably

dealing with this, and even if you
have less than 10 or 15 employees,

you might be dealing with it too.

But just, if you have enough
employees, like the percentages are

high enough, like it's happening,
within your workforce at some level.

So it's something you have to
deal with, you can't ignore.

And obviously the starting
point for this are the laws that

prevent workplace discrimination
and retaliation and harassment?

So, there's nothing inherently unlawful
about a workplace relationship.

But it can go sideways a lot of
different ways and can violate the law.

Certainly you could have someone that
is too aggressive about pursuing it.

It could be an unrequited love.

And, that can lead to harassment
and discrimination in the

workplace, or even retaliation.

Talked a lot about discrimination
and quid pro quo sexual harassment.

It just can really go
sideways really fast.

And even when it's not in that
context what we do see is, if you do

everything right and it's a consent,
truly a consensual relationship and

consensual in a work context is,
maybe a little bit harder to define.

But even when it truly is consensual,
other employees might say, well, this

person's getting better opportunities
because they're in a relationship with

and you run into that issue as well.

So, the way we all often plan for this
in employee handbooks is to reiterate

the anti-discrimination policy, the
anti-harassment, the anti-retaliation

policy, and when we do address kind
of consensual workplace relationships,

and we wanna make sure that they
don't involve any kind of supervisory

relationship or people on the same
team where there's a hierarchy.

'cause then you just get into
the issues of favoritism.

Maybe you're too hard on the person
you're in the relationship with

as a manager because you don't
want people to, think otherwise.

And now you're treating
that person on unfairly.

So, at bare minimum the best thing to do
is to avoid office romances that involve

any type of supervisory relationship.

Sarah Sawyer: Yeah, no, I think
that obviously the size of a company

is gonna make a difference here.

It's a little bit more challenging
sometimes with smaller companies

versus maybe people who are in
different departments or can be moved

to different departments, right?

So, a lot of policies sometimes will
contain reporting requirements around

reporting the relationships so that
the company can examine it for those

types of challenges and issues.

And with a larger company might be
able to move some things around to,

if you've got two good employees and
that might be an issue of concern.

There's ways to address that.

So I think really what we're highlighting
here is like addressing the impact.

And you can have bright line rules
on these things, but a lot of times

it makes more sense to highlight the
impact, highlight these other, making

sure that there's compliance with other
types of policies, conflicts of interest

what you mentioned with harassment and
discrimination and just other workplace

policies can kind of help support how
you might handle something like this.

Because especially in a bigger company,
it's gonna be different depending on who

the people are, what their roles are.

You mentioned because of authority
and reporting structure, but

even just, there's a lot of
different things that can play in.

And so, allowing a little bit of
flexibility and focusing on the

impact and mitigating the risk and
finding a good solution is often a

way that I think a lot of employers
deal with this, especially when you're

looking at these stats, if these stats
are accurate or close to accurate,

that could be a lot of people
that, if you've got a bright line

rule that you might have to be
addressing throughout the years.

And it might not always be the
most beneficial to the company if

you've got kind of just a bright
line prohibition on these things.

Russell Berger: Yeah.

Right.

And I do think the, demographics
of your workforce and in addition

to the size of your workforce
matter in this conversation.

If I were to drill down on it
specifically I definitely think

the supervisors probably ought to
be held to a different standard.

And you gotta be a little bit more careful
with that aspect of office relationship

because, if everyone's in the same pool,
I mean, it can still lead to, negative

consequences and disrupt the workplace.

But it's less problematic.

It's a lower risk than if you've got
supervisors that are engaging in romantic

relationships with a subordinate or even,
somebody who's not a direct subordinate,

it might still stir the pot a little bit.

Sarah Sawyer: Yeah.

And some can be industry specific
as well, depending on the type

of business and those things.

So, good lawyer answers
in this episode, Russell.

It depends.

But no, I think that's great.

Great guidance.

I think and a main takeaway
from my perspective is these

things are out there, right?

It's going on.

So being, wanting to turn a blind
eye to it and not pay attention

to it is not the solution.

Not that we would ever recommend
turning a blind eye to something

and not paying attention.

We're very much always talking
about proactivity here, but,

but definitely something that
employers need to be thinking about.

Russell Berger: Isn't, it depends
one of those things they print on

like the little candy hearts too.

Should get those for the office.

Sarah Sawyer: We should.

All right let's place an order.

All right.

Thanks Russell.

We'll see you next time.

Russell Berger: Thanks, Sarah.