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Flip the Script with Vic is a sacred space for real conversations with real women 🩷 Hosted by Victoria Nielsen—intuitive healer, mama, and space-holder for the divine feminine—this podcast amplifies women’s voices through raw interviews, intimate solocasts, and unfiltered conversations on motherhood, mysticism, psychedelics, ancestral healing, spirituality, identity, and more.
What began as a personal exploration is now a communal prayer: a gathering place for cycle-breakers, mothers, mystics, creatives, witches, and wild ones redefining what it means to be a woman in today’s world.
Every episode is an invitation to remember that your voice matters. That your truth matters. Together, we walk in beauty, become the prayer, and flip the script.
Speaker A [00:00:00]:
Hi, loves. Welcome to another episode of Flip the Script with Vic. I'm your host, Victoria Nielsen. This week's episode is all about gratitude, and it seemed really fitting with this week being Thanksgiving here in the States. And before we dive into the episode, I wanted to show some gratitude to our episode sponsor, Holy Gluten Free. I was diagnosed with gluten intolerance a few years ago, and. And finding products and gluten free foods that my whole family will actually eat can be kind of hard. So I'm super excited to be bringing Holy Gluten Free's chocolate chunk skillet cookie to Thanksgiving this year because I know I'm going to devour it, but so is the rest of the family.
Speaker A [00:00:42]:
If you would like to get some holy gluten free, you can visit them online@Holywholutenfree.com. All right, let's get into the episode. So gratitude. I feel like gratitude is honestly one of the most underrated tools of healing. And I call it a tool because I have used it personally to move through miscarriage, to bring myself back into alignment, to instantly raise my vibration. And I know that it seems really simple, and it is right when you have gratitude for your life, the people around you, maybe even the experiences that you're going through, you can automatically shift your vibration and your expectation with what's happening around you. So for me, the miscarriage was obviously very devastating. And gratitude was a tool that I leaned on often.
Speaker A [00:01:44]:
And I know that kind of sounds, like, counterintuitive to be grateful during such a sorrowful time, but it really helped me move through with a lot more ease because my miscarriage happened around the holidays. It was in December, and we were supposed to go see family pretty soon after everything happened. And I honestly really didn't want to go. I was dreading it. I didn't want to have to put on a happy face or even really interact with anybody because I was in my own shell, my own cocoon, really, of pain and suffering. And I remember really vividly being at my mother in law's house and waking up one morning and just deciding to make a gratitude list to go through every single person that was in the house with us and write down what I was thankful for. And I filled the whole page, not just with the people in the house, but things in the house, how I was feeling, the fact that I was breathing, that I opened my eyes. And before I knew it, once I'd finished writing the whole page, I found that I actually felt grateful that I wasn't faking it anymore.
Speaker A [00:02:51]:
And even if I had kind of been faking it at the beginning, I found that I really was grateful for all of these people that were doing their best to help me and doing their best to support me. And even grateful for myself in that moment to be able to shift my perspective. And since then, it's a daily practice that I cultivate. Because in manifestation specifically, when you are grateful for what you already have, then the universe wants to give you more. If you are going around complaining about all the things that you don't have and all of the things that you lack in your life. That is the energy and the vibration that you're sending out to the universe. You are basically putting a wall up around yourself and your heart. And you're not allowing any of that good to come back to you.
Speaker A [00:03:45]:
Because you're projecting out such a low density vibration. And so instead, when you are grateful for your house, the people in your life, whatever it is, you are raising your vibration instantly, right? Because on the scale of feelings and emotions, gratitude is up there with joy, right? If you think about all of your emotions, on a scale of the low vibration, emotions like sadness and grief being at the bottom. And things like joy and celebration and gratitude being at the top. The more that you spend time in the top of that scale, in the top of that spectrum, the more you're going to attract in your life. Because you are a vibrational match for those things that you're calling in. If you are in those lower vibrations, you're going to call in more low vibration energy. Or really not call anything in at all. Because you are not opening your heart to receive.
Speaker A [00:04:41]:
You are, again, kind of putting up that wall. You are stopping any of that stuff from coming to you. And so doing it in a way that doesn't take a lot of time, right? Like you can write a gratitude list, like I just said. Or just taking a moment to place your hand on your heart. And breathing in that gratitude into your heart space can instantly shift the moment. And it's also shifting your perspective. Because I've talked about this before, but you can always say that something is happening to you. And woe is you and how sad, and look at me.
Speaker A [00:05:16]:
Or you can flip the perspective to say, what an opportunity, what a gift. Even if it's something that is quote unquote bad, right? Something like a miscarriage. Being able to shift my perspective in the moment and say, I am grateful for something really put out that vibration. That, okay, I'm going to move through this. And you don't have to stay grateful forever, right? Like, it was maybe a second of gratitude. And then, of course, I went back into feelings of grief and despair. But the more that you come back to that, it's like a muscle that you're training yourself and your body to raise to that vibration. So then you start to become even more aware of all of the things you have in your life to be grateful for.
Speaker A [00:05:59]:
It's like, oh, gosh, what is that law where you start to see the things that you're looking for, right? It's confirmation bias. There you go. That's what it's called. It's basically a gratitude confirmation bias. So if you're looking for the good things in your life, you're going to find more of them. If you're looking for the bad things in your life, you're going to find more of those, too. And so being able to shift into that just brings you into greater alignment and balance, because suffering is not your natural state of being. I feel like in the world today, we think it is because things keep happening and we feel a little bit out of control, perhaps, or there is a lot of chaos and darkness in the world, but that is not our natural state as human beings.
Speaker A [00:06:47]:
If you peel back all of the layers of societal conditioning and of expectation and of beliefs and programming and projections that have been placed upon us, if you look at that seed that's in the center of your core, that kernel of you, it is a joyful being. And you start as a joyful being. When you come into the world, when you think of a baby of the perfectness, right, of them, there's been nothing imprinted on them. They are inherently joyful. They find joy in the smallest things, right? Like, they can find a speck of dust and think it's the coolest thing in the world, they have that awe and wonder. And that's really what gratitude leads to, is that awe and wonder. I find that especially when I can have moments of being like, wow, I really fucking love my house. How cool that we get to be here, that we found this place that we're in an area that we really love, near schools, that we love, that we have so much space in our house.
Speaker A [00:07:52]:
Because we as human beings, our minds tend to go towards the negative automatically, and we have to condition and train ourselves to do the opposite. You have to train the mind to start looking for the good, because if not, it is naturally going to start looking for the bad or the negative. And then before you know it, you're depressed. And before you know it, you really start to believe the things that the mind is telling you. And I saw this quote on Instagram this week that really resonated with me about meditation. That meditation is really showing you the stories that you have in your mind and allowing you to see that they are just stories. They are stories and beliefs that you have told yourself so much that you start to believe that they're true. We all have them.
Speaker A [00:08:38]:
I give this example a lot about how I used to say I wasn't creative and it was just a story that I was telling myself because I said it so much that I believed it. And once I started to stop and question if that was really true, I've come to realize that we're all creative beings, every single person. I don't care if you are the most analytical person on Earth that uses more of your right brain capacity than your left. You are still creative. We are all creative energy. We are of source energy. And so that's just one example of a story that I've had or had previously that I had to work through and almost, like, train my brain to think differently about. And gratitude is a tool that helps you do that.
Speaker A [00:09:21]:
It helps you see the little glimmers and the shimmers in everyday life, because there is magic in every single moment, and there is always something to be grateful for. God, I just screamed into the mic. But I really, truly believe that there is always something to be grateful for. And it doesn't have to be grandiose. It can be really small. But those little small things add up, because I feel that when we want to escape our lives, right, which I feel like a lot of us do, it's because we're not actually present in them and we don't enjoy or like the life that we have built for ourselves. And that is a very real reality for some people. But you always have the choice to shift your perspective, because even if your outside reality doesn't mirror the internal things that you want for yourself, you have to start inward.
Speaker A [00:10:14]:
And so if you can cultivate that gratitude inward, it's going to ripple out into your external environment, and then you're going to want to make a change, or you will make a change, right. To that external reality that maybe you aren't so happy with in the moment. And you may also find that actually, there is a lot to love about your life. I know that to be true in everyone's life. Yes. No one's life is perfect. You're always going to find something wrong, but you can always find something right if you allow yourself to really cultivate that. And it's not about, I said at the beginning of this episode that I was almost tricking myself right into feeling this gratitude that I didn't feel.
Speaker A [00:10:56]:
But it will feel real the more that you do it, because then you are going to really tap into that heart space and that love and that joy that is inherent in your being. We have just turned it off because we go to work and we sit in front of a computer all day and then we come right home and then we sit in front of a television all day and we're not actually engaging with our external environments. And when you engage, when you look at that flower that you pass every single day, maybe on the way from the car into your house, or you actually stop and listen to those birds that are chirping, you will naturally, I find, raise your vibration and feel that gratitude and feel that joy. So I encourage you over this next know, it's Thanksgiving here in the United States, so you're, you know, hopefully a gratitude practice maybe around your Thanksgiving table, but I really encourage you to practice this beyond just this week. Can you name three things you're grateful for in the morning, perhaps, and then three things that you're grateful for in the evening and really just start putting on those rose colored glasses. Because I feel like that is part of this journey, is that mindset shift. And it feels very subtle, but eventually it becomes really profound because now that's how I live my life. I'm always looking for gratitude and I am always grateful.
Speaker A [00:12:35]:
And that spills out beyond me and it is strengthened in my daily meditation practice. And actually, I wrote this post on Instagram today about some side effects of my meditation practice that I wasn't expecting. Where I love plants now and I'm a plant mom and I actually smile and wave at my neighbors. And it is because of that joy and gratitude that I have cultivated in my being in my vibrational field, our Auric field is the energy around our bodies and it goes 6ft out from us. So you have your physical body, but then you also have an energetic and a subtle body. If you were to take your arm right now and just go really close to the top of your skin, like you're not touching your skin, but you're very, very close, you can kind of feel that energy. And actually a great exercise you could do to feel it right now would be to bring your palms together and rub them together and rub them back and forth just for a few minutes here very vigorously and then separating the palms and holding them maybe three inches apart from each other, feeling that energy that you've created, that's igniting your subtle and energetic bodies. And so your auric field is a little bit further out from that and it goes 6ft beyond you.
Speaker A [00:13:59]:
And people feel that you can tell when someone enters a room and they have a big aura, or you can feel when you've entered a room and someone maybe is arguing, right? Like you feel that energy. And so I feel like a gratitude practice helps you tune into that subtle energy even more because you're fine tuning your body like a tuning fork, almost, right? To match these vibrations. And that's also why like attracts like, right? So people that are miserable tend to attract other miserable people, to be honest. And people that are joyful tend to attract other joyful people because like calls to like. And so I personally would rather attract more joyful people than not. So yeah, gratitude. Gratitude is really huge and a really beautiful practice. And I am thankful for the ability to be grateful on every moment because I feel like it makes moments that are really hard a little bit easier.
Speaker A [00:15:09]:
And I know it certainly did for me while I was going through the miscarriage. So I really hope that you practice and cultivate gratitude this week. I am grateful for every single one of you that listens every single week. I am so grateful that we have a sponsor on the podcast this week. That's so cool to me. And I would love to support you in your meditation practice Friday of this week. So November 24 we are going to be doing a free seven day meditation challenge on Instagram, going live every morning at 09:30 a.m. To share my practice with you.
Speaker A [00:15:46]:
And if you want additional support, I would love for you to go to the show notes and sign up to receive emails because I'm going to be sending out journal prompts. I'm going to be sharing recipes. I'm going to be sharing even more tips and practices like this gratitude practice that will really help you feel good and grounded in this holiday season. And it's more than that, right too. It's also about allowing you to devote time to yourself and discover your destiny and who you really are. So I hope you join me. Go look in the show notes for more information. Thank you for being here with me.
Speaker A [00:16:23]:
Man, this community is so beautiful. I will see you all next week. Be good to one another. I love you.