Ready or Not?

What is Prayer Resolution Course 2024?

Online Prayer Resolution Course by Mike Banker in 2024.

Mike Banker: 00:00

Know the different participants in the sessions. So how do you decide whether somebody is ready or not to do sessions? Not everybody is. We all know somebody at church that, boy, they sure need PR. They need PR sessions, and everybody agrees.

Mike Banker: 00:21

Boy, does he need PR sessions. But the problem is he doesn't agree. Unless he thinks he has a problem, nobody can help him. We would say they're not ready. They're not ready yet.

Mike Banker: 00:36

So not everybody is ready to face their problems yet. Not everybody's ready to share their story with a safe helper yet. Not everyone is ready to take the time to resolve their problems yet. It took time to make these problems, and it will take some time to resolve them. When the problems become important enough, then they'll take the time and openly share because the pain is too much to bear.

Mike Banker: 01:17

So one of the things you have to consider is they may not be ready. And you can't make them do sessions. Well, you can, but it won't It won't work. Sometimes a wife will send a husband for a session, and I asked them, well, why are you here? Well, my wife told me I had to do this.

Mike Banker: 01:37

If they don't think they have a problem, then that session is not going to help anything. They have to be a willing participant in the process or it won't work. Are they ready? That's one question. So do they think they need help?

Mike Banker: 01:57

You can't help them if they don't have a problem, if they don't think they have any problems. Do they really want to do this? They need to be open with their safe helper. They need to build trust with their safe helper when they do sessions. Just talking about what happened only gives them temporary relief.

Mike Banker: 02:20

They need to pray. They need to pray to their Heavenly Father so that he can resolve their pain. Maybe they just enjoy talking. They enjoy the attention they receive in the session. But maybe they're really not willing to seek healing from God and so we would say they're not ready.

Mike Banker: 02:45

Earlier, I shared the example of the 2 women who weren't believers yet. Well they do need to believe in order to pray to their heavenly father. And so they need to have that relationship or they need to establish that relationship with their Heavenly Father. That's all questions related to are they ready. Another thing to ask is are you the one?

Mike Banker: 03:16

Are you the safe helper? Are you the one that should help them? Did they ask you for help or did you solicit? Did you go to them and suggest it, recommend it, and pressure them to do this? It's better if they come to you and they ask you for help than for you to go and to offer it.

Mike Banker: 03:41

If they come to you, that means that they think you're safe and that you're helpful. But if you go to them it's not as clear. If you go to them and offer, then ask them to pray about it and to text you if they want to meet. Remove that pressure if you go to them. Remove that pressure.

Mike Banker: 04:06

Maybe you're friends and they don't want to lose the friendship and so they just agree, but their heart is not in it. So it's better if they come to you than if you go to them and try to persuade them to do sessions. Are they ready? And are you the one? Another part of are you the one, do they think that you can help?

Mike Banker: 04:30

Do they think that God is sending them to you? So it's really useful for them to pray and ask, God, is this the one that I should work with? And it's also good for the safe helper to make that same prayer. Is this the hurting one that I should work with? Because God can match hurting ones with safe helpers.

Mike Banker: 04:53

So both of you should pray. In order to be their safe helper, they have to trust you. They have to think that you're nonjudgmental. If you go to church on Sunday and you're judgmental to everybody around you, nobody's gonna come to you for sessions. You're not safe.

Mike Banker: 05:19

You're judgmental. Another question is, do they think that you care about them? If they don't think you care about them, then you can't help them. And the last question, are your motives pure? If the safe helper has a romantic interest in the hurting one, then you're not the one to help them.

Mike Banker: 05:49

You cannot be a boyfriend or a girlfriend and also a safe helper. Don't add to their confusion or their pain. So if your motive is not pure, if you have these kind of feelings, then you should not do sessions for them. You'll just increase their pain. Another question, is it appropriate for me to help them?

Mike Banker: 06:16

So I'll share a personal example. My wife had a problem and I offered to help, but she refused. I offered again, and she refused again. The 3rd time I offered, she strongly said, no. You can't help me.

Mike Banker: 06:32

You are the problem I need to deal with. So sometimes it's not appropriate. We're not the one to be their safe helper. In general, it's very hard for us to be a safe helper to those that are close to us. In another case, I did sessions with a relative and that relative refused to forgive.

Mike Banker: 06:58

And now I've watched them destroy their life as a result. And I can't tell anybody that I even met with them, much alone what we talked about. So if you are thinking about helping somebody that's close to you, remember, you might be on their list. You might be one of the people they need to pray about. And, secondly, if you work with somebody close to you, it may not turn out the way you hoped.

Mike Banker: 07:29

And so pray and ask God to guide you and direct you. Maybe you could send your relative to somebody else to do sessions and you could do sessions for that safe helper's relatives in response. Unless God gives you a clear answer, don't work with somebody that's that you're close to. Which kind of brings me to the summary statement. Just because someone is hurting, it doesn't mean that you are the one to help them.

Mike Banker: 08:02

You might not be the right one. They may not feel safe working with you, or they may not think you can help. And so just because they're hurting doesn't mean you're the one to help them. Pray about those that you are considering to work with and let God guide you in those decisions.