F*ck Fear with Christine Spratley: Living Like a Head Bitch In Charge | Who Moved My Cheese

In this episode of 'Fuck Fear with Christine Spratley' we dive into the theme of change and fear. Christine reflects on her life changes since leaving corporate, discussing the impact of 'Who Moved My Cheese?' by Dr. Spencer Johnson. She explores the book's characters and their reactions to change, urging listeners to think about their responses to life's shifts. Christine shares personal insights on overcoming fear, embracing new opportunities, and the importance of periodic self-assessment. Throughout the episode, Christine encourages a mindset shift from fearing change to envisioning positive outcomes, all while incorporating her unique brand of humor and authenticity. Tune in for a motivating conversation on navigating fear and embracing change.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
01:17 Reflecting on Life Changes
01:48 Exploring 'Who Moved My Cheese?'
04:13 Reacting to Change
13:27 Facing Fear and Taking Action
30:34 Consequences and Learning
41:51 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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Christine (HBIC) Spratley

Dynamic Public Speaker | Change Catalyst | Career Navigation Coach

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47 Fuck Fear
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[00:00:00] All right, ladies and gentlemen, welcome to Fuck Fear with Christine Spratley Sully living like a head bitch in charge. And, um, we are going to do this now, Joe, this looks really strong today. For some reason, it doesn't look light and it looks like it's got a lot of pepper in it.

Christine Sprately: So we're gonna do our shots real quick. I'm ready. Tell me when you're ready. You ready? I'm ready. All right. Here we go.[00:01:00]

Joe Woolworth: Oh

Christine Sprately: shit.

Joe Woolworth: Yeah. Lot of ginger. Lot of ginger. Ginger. Lot of ginger. A

Christine Sprately: lot

Joe Woolworth: of ginger.

Christine Sprately: Whoa, baby. It was like leathery going down ginger. Yeah. Oh, that is good though. Yeah. All right. Well, today, I, ladies and gentlemen, I was doing, there's been a lot of change in my life. As, um, some of you may know, um, and I've been reflecting on it because July 2nd of, um, 2025, what marked a year since I left corporate.

And, um, a lot of things in my life has changed since then. So it's funny because one of the books that I have. Is, um, a book and actually it was my husband, my ex-husband's book, and I took it and it's called Who Moved, um, who Moved My Cheese. Have you ever heard of [00:02:00] that book, Joe?

Joe Woolworth: Yes.

Christine Sprately: Have you read it?

Joe Woolworth: Yes.

I've read it a couple of times. It's one of the ones that you kinda reread

Christine Sprately: again and again, right? They've even got one for kids. Did you know that?

Joe Woolworth: No, I didn't.

Christine Sprately: Yeah, they've got one for kids. Um, there's, there's who Moved My Cheese and, um, if you haven't read it, um, listeners, if you haven't read it, I strongly suggest, and it's kind of books that I like, which are short to the point and, um, have, have unique characters.

And in, in this book there are four characters and, um. The characters include there are, um, two little mice is and um, they are hurry and scurry. And then there are, so there's four, two little mice, hurry and scurry.

And then there's him and haw. Okay, two little people. So [00:03:00] they, um, the book is about all four of them are in, um, in a place and it has cheese there. And then one day they go and they're all quite happy there. Life's good and they go and there are no more cheese there. It's hard. It's really about what, what they choose to do from that point on.

And, um, you know, hurry and scurry, they go, oh shit, there's no more cheese here. We better go look for some cheese. And they get out there and go do that. And then. Him is like, ah, ain't no cheese here, but I, what's going on? I can't go out there and get any more cheeses. We, we better wait here, kind of hold the fort down, stay here.

Gonna stay here till there's, till, till nothing happens. Really. And then haw is kinda like, yeah, I'm gonna stay here too. And [00:04:00] then what happens is haw ends up leaving and going to find some cheese because what the, the realizations that he comes to or she comes to, um. But the basis of the, or the, not the basis.

The theme of this is change happens and, you know, I think we've all heard this saying, the only thing that's consistent is change, you know, that you can count on. And um, I think when I was kind of reflecting back, um, and then when I was getting ready for this podcast, I was like. I wonder which of the four characters I am, like, you know, and what, um, what.

How do I react to change when change happens? And one of the unique parts about this book is watching each of them do different things for different reasons of the, [00:05:00] you know, her and, and curr. They, they are opportunity seekers. They're like, oh, there's an opportunity to go find some cheese. It's gonna be a good cheese.

We're gonna go find it. And then him is like, eh, I don't know. We're gonna stay here. And, and, but then haw is unique in the sense of kind of torn, wants to stay, has a lot of fear about going out, finding new cheese. Kind of freaked out about the whole no cheese, where used cheese used to be, what's going on.

And, but then realizes, hey, wait a minute. I gotta, I, I'm, I need to go find some cheese. I'm not gonna be able to stay here. You know, like there's no cheese coming back. And so it's one of those things where, what do you do when the cheese is moved? And I really started thinking about what have I done when my cheese has moved?

Um, and there's, you know, there's that quote in the book. It's like, there's no more cheese here, move on. You know, it's one of the things he writes down on the walls of the maze, there's no [00:06:00] more cheese here. Move on. I want my listeners to think about, 'cause this was really hard for me. A couple things were hard for me.

One, it took me a while to realize that there was no more cheese here on certain aspects of my life or in certain areas of my life. Whether it be the job or the relationship or you know, friendship, relationship, marriage, relationship, whatever. There was aspects of that that were no more, that didn't work anymore.

And. I've often thought about that as, you know, being a head bitch in charge of being responsible for my fulfillment. That if I don't keep an inventory of what's going on, and as they say in the book, sample the cheese, you know, smell the cheese, does it still smell good or is it moldy? Um, and, and so it's not even, is it there anymore, but is it, is it going bad?

And if I don't kind of own that and take responsibility and check in. [00:07:00] Then how am I gonna know if it's there or not? How am I gonna know if it's good or not? Um, we've talked sometimes Joe, about, you know, people, there's a thing people change every seven years and it's like, well, if we kind of think about that, when's the last time you've checked in on the different aspects of your life and then other people are changing that you're interacting with?

So that's gonna change the dynamics of the relationship and the work relationship. I mean, think about how fast work has changed. I, I literally listened to this. Book audio. Um, and I think the audio was done in 2008. And if you think about, um, and if you get the audio, you get, um, the author's kind of commentary at the end and you think about what was going on in 2008, it's 2025 right now, and just how much change has happened, um, just in, in the last [00:08:00] year or two years.

Let alone in the last, you know, X amount of years, since 2028 or since 2008, it's one of those things of why are we not, why did, why do I not check in? So that's one thing. How am I, you know, it's hard for me to check in. It's like, I forget, I get here. I get to my place and I think, well, I've made it, I've accomplished the goal, or it feels really nice or, and I just kind of put it on cruise control, even if I am still pushing myself and things like that.

I quit looking and questioning and asking and um, and seeing of my cheese stinks. You know, it's kind of like, well, it's here, so it's good. And so. That is hard for me to do is to constantly remind myself, not that I always have to be moving, you know, and, and, and going and going and going, but that I need to check in.

And [00:09:00] there's a good thing about checking in. Do I still like, what's going on? Do I wanna change what's going on? Do I, do I still have this same, um, energy for what's going on? Do I, and, and that allows the dynamics of the relationships to change. And when I say relationships, I'm talking about all of the relationships.

Any re, anytime we have an interaction, it's some sort of relationship. So that's one thing that was hard for me. But the other thing. That was really hard for me was when I have worked, when I believe I've worked really hard for something and then I get it, whatever it is, when that shit changes, I have a real hard time with that because I have, I have worked hard and we wanna keep it there, you know, and I don't wanna work really that hard again.

And, um, it, it's just really interesting and also. It tells me the beliefs that I have about something. The, the, [00:10:00] the stronger my belief system is about something, the more I am resistant to that change. And so that resistance could be like him, which is he stays there. He doesn't go look for anything, doesn't wanna look for anything. Um, he's just not doing it. There's that. And then you've got her and Screw who's like, I'm on here. Let's go game on. We're gonna go. And, but I'm more like the him, the harder, I've worked for something. I am, I'm not giving up that status quo, even if it's no longer status quo.

'cause I haven't checked in on it and it's stinky cheese now, but it's, think about that. What are you hanging onto a belief or position or the way things are the good old days and.

Kind of the idea that if I don't change [00:11:00] and change doesn't always have to be this big, huge thing, but if I'm not willing to be open to it, or at least even look, um, then I sort of become extinct on this issue. I, I quit growing. I quit learning. I quit. I mean, I have to laugh because when I, when I just said that, Joe, I thought of, you know, how I always used to feel like towards old people and how they view technology and um, and you know, how you feel so ancient and stuff, you know, oh, they're dumb kids these days.

But it's like literally what the audience, which you don't know is I, my computer was sitting here and I was so frustrated with it. Because it was sticking and it was just twirling, but I just hid it.

Joe Woolworth: It was a little light assault.

Christine Sprately: It was a light assault on a computer. But it's kind of like that, you know, it's like, I don't know how it works.

And [00:12:00] um, and so you just step away. But again, it's one of those things, where am I becoming extinct to what's going on here? You know, and I'm not participating in, in really what's going on. And so, first of all, I want you to think about.

Change is inevitable and avoiding it. Even looking at it or looking for it or saying should there be change, keeps you stuck in something that has already gone by you. Because that's the funny thing too, is if change happens, it's already gone. Like it's done. It's, it's, it's already. Done. So I'm, I'm not on the bus anymore.

The bus left just left without me on it. Um, so think about that. What, what are, where are you at? And then think [00:13:00] about when do you become hurry and scurry and you're like, yeah, we're all for change. We're good with this. It's usually when I have the idea.

Joe Woolworth: Makes it easier. Yeah.

Christine Sprately: And it's usually when I. Don't feel like I have a lot to lose, you know?

So think about that as I go through this and why am I afraid? And you've, you've heard, I mean, the title of the podcast is Fuck Fear, and you've heard me mention this before. Viola Davis has said this in some of her speeches, and I think she got it from her hairstylist. I'm not real sure where it came from, but everything you want is on the other side of fear.

And so I ask myself this question and they do it in the book, but what would you do if you weren't afraid? If fear was not a factor, what would you do? So wherever you're listening to [00:14:00] this. Maybe you've got the kids dropping 'em off. Maybe you are sitting in the airport catching a flight. Maybe you are sitting at the end of the day, I don't know, maybe you're in, you know, getting outta the shower, you know, fixing your hair, trying to figure out what the hell to wear today.

Um, I'm not sure where you're at, but what, what, think about your day. Think about the next, you know, 24 hours. What would you do if you weren't afraid? And any part of your day could be any area, any relationship, any aspect

so much about, for me, fuck, fear is, is not the removal of the sensation of fear, but the acknowledgement of it and then taking action. In spite of having that energy in me or that, um, [00:15:00] like, it's like you, you respect it, but you also kind of, you just kinda give it the finger and you say, okay, but I'm gonna keep doing this anyway.

I'm gonna keep going forward. And it's almost as a prompt for action and not the roadblock to it. You know, I mean, it's just like when you're, you know, back in the days when Caman and, you know, hey, they had fear. Oh my God, we're getting attacked. We need to run, you know, that fight or flight. What is, what is this fear that's holding you from taking action Or, and what would you do? And I think for me, I. The, the reality is that it's never as bad as I imagine. Um, the anticipation of pain and loss is typically greater than the actual experience of it. I'm not saying that you're loss is not, and pain is not something that is [00:16:00] absolutely horrid and that people have experienced.

'cause I have. But the anticipation of it is MA much scarier movie than the actual trudging through it. Um, I've, and I've had some moments where I've been in complete fear and loss, and when I start to learn about myself, is that. It's almost like, and we, we talked about this in one of my earlier segments about kind of gaslighting yourself.

You know, it's that anticipation of it and you start getting that going and then, and then it becomes so big, and whereas when you're in it and you kind of go through and you take action, you start to go, okay, I can adjust. Okay, I haven't. And, and part of this comes from my background of being in recovery is you literally take one moment at a [00:17:00] time.

You know, there are some days when I take one moment at a time, and then there are other days where I'm like, I'm jumping from the plane. You know, let's go for it. But what would I want to do? What do I want to do if I don't have fear? The fear of failing, the fear of losing people, places and things. Losing relationships.

And the funny thing is, I think a lot of times I lose things that I don't have. You know, I think I, again, this whole thing about moving your cheese, you know, if that's cheese has gone bad, I'm sitting here hanging on, you've heard me say this, you know, I'm holding onto a turd, but I think it's mine and it's good, and it's, and it's like, no, look at this.

What is it? It may not be what it used to be. And so are you really afraid to give it up? Are [00:18:00] you really afraid to go out there? And, but when that fear kicks in with me, I, I do Now, I don't know about you, Joe, but I do, now I get more quiet. Sunday morning, my I got to spend time with my friend Inya. We just had coffee and it was just too old, broad sitting there talking.

And, um, [00:19:00] and, it just amazing, amazing conversation. And it wasn't like in depth or you know, it was just so good to catch up with someone that you just absolutely connect with. And, but we were talking about when you get quiet and you know, I was telling her, I said, as much as this year has been hard for me.

When I've really had the moments of, oh, the overwhelming, oh my God, I'm not sure what's gonna happen. I don't know what to do next. I'm, I'm kind of in that fear mode of paralyzation. I quickly go back to when I ran away and got on the plane and was balled up on my seat, and the people on the plane came by.

They were like, you know, they didn't know what to do with this little kid on this plane. And he's just bawling. And, um, [00:20:00] but what I realize is I've made it through that in everything that I've been through since not without scars and not without scarring some other people up along the way, but I've made it through and okay, then maybe I can make it through this.

And so one of the parts about. That I tend to, and I do this when I coach, but I do it a lot to myself, is when I get fear. A lot of times when people go, what if this happens? What if I lose this? What if I lose those? What if I lose, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. What if, what if what? And I always, and I let 'em, you know, and I let me go there.

I let me go there and go, okay, what if I lose everything? What if no one hires me? What if no one listens to my podcast? You know? What if, and then I change it. And I think this is a part that where they talk in the book about [00:21:00] imagining what the cheese is gonna taste like when you find it, the new cheese, all the different types of cheeses and things like that.

I sit here and I go for every what if. That's a negative and not every, but most of the time. I go, what if all of your dreams come true? What if you hit it out of the park? What if you really are an amazing success? What if all the good things happen? I give the floor and the center stage and the megaphone to the what if all the bad things will happen.

What if all the good things happen? So if there's no cheese there, and think for a second, what if you were able to find what you really wanted? What if you were able to have the relationship that you wanted? Um, what if you were the husband, [00:22:00] you know, that you wanted? What if you were the wife that you wanted, or the mother, or, you know, what if.

Um, and I think that changes the perspective for me because it makes it, I'm not just focusing on all the negative, but I'm also focusing on, you know, and some people call it manifestation, but it's also that, that idea of, oh my gosh, I could, I could really do this. I could really have this happen in my life.

And I think part of that. Is when I switch that I start to let go of the old cheese. I start really sitting and spending time. I spend less time with what's not there and what you know, could be negative there and more time with what if it really does go right? What if it's not as hard as I think it's, and the quicker I let go of the [00:23:00] old stuff.

The quicker I let go of the projected new stuff, that's horrible. The more I am able and the sooner I am able to find my new cheese, the sooner I am able to go out and find what I really want. We did a, one of our first podcasts was the illusion of being Ready. Remember that, Joe?

Joe Woolworth: Yeah.

Christine Sprately: And it was about, you know, we gotta, people wanna, you know, sit back and, oh, I can't do this yet.

Can't, can't, can't do it yet. Can't do it yet. And what they do, and a lot of times businesses, when you have a product, you put it out and you get feedback and you get, you know, and you pivot and you move. And that's why the quicker I let go of the old stuff and the sooner I go out and search or put it out there.

The more [00:24:00] feedback I'm gonna get. And what that allows me to do is if that feedback I don't like, then I can move, then I can pivot, then I can go through and maneuver, and I think then I can change. But as long as I'm still sitting and staying stationary, my old beliefs do not lead to new cheese. I don't, I haven't gone anywhere.

I haven't done anything. I don't have anything else. You know, it's like a, it's like him where he's just sitting there and he is like, I don't want any of this. I can't go do that. And even if you're like me and starting later in your career where you, not in your career, but in your life where you've had an actor two and realize that you, the cheese you have is no longer the cheese you want.

You know, and somebody's moved it or [00:25:00] you need to move it, um, it's better late than ever. I mean, it's better late to start that journey than to stay stuck. So again, instead of what if I fail? What if I succeed? What if it happened exactly the way I wanted to? Yeah, and they talk about enjoy, you know, Ima imagine yourself enjoying the new cheese, you know, before you find it and in the book and how it, that leads you to it, you know?

And also, frankly, when I stop being afraid, which is what I'm now thinking about, is I'm thinking about good things. Okay, this is good, this is gonna happen. And I get out of that fear mode. It feels good. I mean, I don't like being fearful, you know? [00:26:00] I get to then enjoy a little bit more of the process and the change.

And the author also wrote, I think it's Peaks and Valleys, I think that's the name of the title. But it talks about there's always gonna be change. There's always gonna be this ebb and this flow. And so the more I am ready for it, the more I start to go, okay, we're gonna have some highs and lows, we're gonna have some uncertainty.

But what if I'm able to start to enjoy that process because I haven't tied it to the past and tied it to some future event that, you know, what's the acronym for Fear Future Events appearing real, you know? And it's like those events, typically when they're fear in my head, are [00:27:00] negative events. They're never positive.

So again, and when I change that, then I'm able to go in, start to enjoy and be ready for the change. Then I'm like, game on. So for me, I. This has been not always the easiest thing to do because there's a part of me that thinks, oh my God, I don't have enough energy for this. I don't, you know, like I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't.

But the part when I get like that, that I sit there and I say, but what do, what do I have? And maybe I have enough. I've always had enough. I mean, I say this a lot of times, it's on my, it's on my wrist. It says I'm enough. You know, [00:28:00] maybe I don't need to carry it all, but I can carry just enough. So as you're listening today, what.

Cheese has moved on you. Has it been somebody changed your routine? Has it been something at work that somebody's changed? Has it been a relationship that's gone cold or, or needs adjusting? Has it been yourself? Have you changed and you no longer find mind exhilarating? The things you used to find passionate and exhilarating, you know, and it's not there anymore.

And then. What do you do? Do you use that fear as a, as a block or do you use it as a prompt to say, okay, let's go find it? The, the, in the book, there are some things. That I [00:29:00] really liked about. And one of the, one of the things on there was the, he, he writes on the, the, the mouse does this. He writes on the walls as he's going through the maze, because that's the whole point.

He, and they're called haws lessons, you know, so change is gonna happen. Change happens is one of them. So anticipate the change, which is another. And then smell the cheese often, you know, get in there and smell the cheese. And again, I typically don't wanna get in there and smell the cheese when I feel like I'm comfortable and I've worked really hard and I'm done.

I'm open for discussion and exploration and all these things, just not over here. So think about where you're at with that, and then start to change, adapt quickly to change. And then [00:30:00] be ready for change again and again and again. I like how they write that on the walls. The other thing that I thought was really interesting was in the back of the audio of this book, there is the, the author talks about.

It kind of gives you a summary of what was the genesis for this book and some thoughts on it. And um, and the author by the way is Dr. Spencer Johnson. But he gives, he gives us, and one of his things that I just really love is he says, consequences are the best teachers. And I want you to think about that because typically.

And, and Joe, let me ask you, when, when I say consequences are the best teachers, when you thought of consequences, is that negative or positive? I [00:31:00] guess I didn't

Joe Woolworth: think one way or the other.

Christine Sprately: Okay. Because I, and again, this is just me 'cause I'm kooky, is I tend to go consequence. Oh my. And they, they must be negative.

They're bad, they're bad. But the consequences are the results. Right?

Joe Woolworth: Right.

Christine Sprately: And so when I get into the fear part of this, and I started again thinking about this and writing for this episode, I was like, what are the consequences? What have been my consequences when changes happened? And the consequences are that I've always survived, that.

I've always been able to endure that. I've always been strong enough, I've always eventually healed. Moved forward.

And what's funny too is that if I think about the negative consequences that have been some of my best teachers I've survived, [00:32:00] I have moved forward, propelled me forward sometimes a lot. All of them have eventually. You know, I've always, I've endured every single negative consequences that I've had of my action so far today.

Today, and what I mean today, I mean my life. But I think it's really amazing when I choose to learn from my consequences, both the, the consequences that are the good ones, and the ones that I may say weren't so good. And the author also talks about when he is talking about this, 'cause basically ha decides, ha's one of the little people he decides to go and finally look for new cheese and he comes back because him is sitting there going, ain't ain't going, [00:33:00] but he comes back.

And I've had to do this different times in different jobs or different relationships where I've chosen to change or I've changed and I've chosen to, to take action on it. And there's been others around me or that haven't. And so I've gone off and then I've come back and said, Hey, what do you wanna go find some cheese?

You wanna find some new cheese? There's no cheese here. And to see if they want to go, you know, like, I found some good cheese. You want like, come with me, we can go do this. And, and then, you know, haw him actually ends up staying and, and haw learns that, you know, I can't take someone else where they don't wanna go.

And I.

The lessons that [00:34:00] I learn from my consequences are the ones that I hold dear. So I can't give you, I can't teach you the same lessons. You have to have your own consequences to teach you those lessons. And I have to remember that sometimes when I am moving, because when you, when I, and again, I'm trying to be.

Honest hair when I change, not everybody else around me wants to change, chooses to change, embrace the change. Maybe they like the cheeses, you know, and it's only smelly to me, you know? Um, there's. More like the electric company and um, yeah. Okay. For those of you that haven't, that dunno about that, then you just are way too young.

But remember the thing on the thing on the screen that would say, which one of these isn't like the other? Which one of these does not belong? Do [00:35:00] you remember that? Yeah. Okay. Well, there's been times where I'm the one that doesn't belong. Like everybody else is like, no, we got cheese. We got good cheese here.

And I'm going, yeah, this shit stinks. And instead of trying to fit the round peg in the square hole, I've had to realize that, oh, you are okay like this. I'm not, and that's okay. Like I don't need to demonize you. I don't need to, like, I, you just stay there because I need to go get some other consequences.

Yeah,

Joe Woolworth: some people like stinky cheese,

Christine Sprately: some people do and sometimes I'm those, some people, and I try really hard not to be, but how, why do we put up with shit so much longer than we need to? You know? Why does it have to get absolutely rancid in the house before we change the cheese? You know? [00:36:00] And I think that for me.

That's my level of learning has come, you know, like I don't bounce off the bottom as often anymore, you know, because I've learned that, oh, I don't like that. I don't, you know, and I don't wait and I don't like stinky cheese and I like plentiful cheese and I like different kinds and you know, so I'm more embracing of this.

But the also thing about this that I really liked about this book. Is that there's a sense of humor about the craziness of not expecting change. Staying in a place that doesn't have what you want, like there's no cheese here. Why the hell are you staying here or staying in a place with stinky cheese?

Like you say, some people want stinky cheese and getting to a point where you can laugh at the absurdity of, yeah. [00:37:00] There's, and you've heard me mention this poem a lot, um, after a while. Um, but there's a line in there where he talks about that you accept it with the grace of a woman and not the grief of a child.

And that's where I kind of feel like, you know, I am with a lot of things right now in my life where I can laugh. I go, yeah, you were really, that's a really messed up point of view, Christine. Yeah. I can't believe you did that. You know, what are you doing to change? Um, I mean, I, and some of these things are, are hard but to look at, but I take some humor in that and, and you just, especially it's humorful when you're walking away and you're walking to something.

It is not humorful when you're sitting there and you're hanging on to the emptiness [00:38:00] of it, you know, you're just not taking any action. But it is funny when you look back and you go, wow, I thought this was all there was. There's, um, and I'm gonna get this wrong and maybe you can look it up, but there's this song, and I heard it a while ago.

And it basically says, I, I didn't come this far to only go this far is one of the, the frames refrains in there. And, um, it's kind of funny when you look at that and you're gonna look back and you go, God, I only thought my mentality was, is that that's as far as it was gonna go and I had no clue that I was able to do this or get this, or have this.

And, you know. I didn't realize that there was a whole different kind of cheese out there that I would like. And so what if, what if not only [00:39:00] do you get everything you want, but you get everything that you can't even imagine? And I think that is where the fun starts coming in.

The other thing that I think is stated in here is that. Okay. Small steps matter when, and, and the way it's articulated in the book is that the ah starts to find little crumbs. Okay? Little things. And that's the beauty of taking action. Even if it's little, you take it and you get, oh, here's something. What is this?

And.

That is kind of like, what I've also learned is, and this is kind of my mentality, is I want, I want it all. I want it all now. I want mine and yours, [00:40:00] and I'm not used to just plugging along with the little stuff. I want the home run with the bases loaded bottom of the ninth. I don't wanna be, you know, I even wanna be Ricky Henderson and steal the bass, you know?

But I don't wanna be the lead off guy putting. You know, getting on and then, you know, playing, playing small ball and, you know, putting down a bunt and getting 'em around the bases. I want the, I want the big thing, but the small steps matter because they keep me in motion. They keep me in action.

And that, again, you can't s you can't get anywhere if you don't start. You know, I always say this, you can't, you can't go deep unless you scratch the surface. So it's like you've got to start somewhere and you've gotta keep going at it, or I've got to, or I get to if I so choose. But I just think that [00:41:00] when I'm sitting around and I'm wondering whether or not I'm fulfilled, and a lot of it has to do with.

Evaluating and looking at my current cheese, if there's any cheese there at all. Is it good? Does it smell good? And then taking the little steps and moving forward and saying, well, what if the good stuff happens? Because my, my history has shown I could handle the bad stuff, but what if the good stuff happens?

And then doing the little things until you start to find the magic along the way.

Who are you? Which character are you? Are you him? Are you haw? Are you [00:42:00] scurry? Are you hurry? You know, which one are you? And what keeps you there, wherever there is, you know, what type of complacency keeps you in a situation that kills you from moving on? You know, I know that for me, when I settle for too long and say, this is the way it is, and I'm just there.

I become vulnerable, I lose my skills. I mean, this is not, you know, anything new and that's in anything, whether it be business relationships, um, you know, I was talking to, like I said, my friend Ina and when she was talking about not being able to be back in New York for a long time. And so when she goes back, her, her, her chops aren't as, as, as tough.

You know, and her, her [00:43:00] wit isn't as cutting as it used to be. And her friends are like, what's going on with you? You're, you slowing down, girl? But it's like when I get out of the habit of being there and I'm complacent. So I want you to think about which one are you, what keeps you there,

and what if. What if everything that you wanted and didn't know you wanted happened? What if all the good stuff happened? It's gotta happen to somebody. So until next time, ladies and gentlemen, tubs.

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