Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Part 3, Chapter 9, Part 1, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Part 3, Chapter 9, Part 1 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday.

And also, welcome to March.

And as I mentioned on Friday, we can look

forward to March Madness this month.

It's the NCAA basketball tournament.

I'm sure everybody knows that.

But because of that, March is also known

as the worst month

for worker productivity.

And maybe better for our frame of mind,

especially if you're a Jayhawk alum like

me, March symbolizes

new growth and transformation as we move

from winter to spring.

And that's a nice way to start the new

work week, right, in the new month.

But tomorrow, I'll tell you how March

actually got its name.

And it's not nearly as

good of a feel-good story.

Hey, happy clean Monday.

It's also National

Simplify Your Life Day.

And national, I want you to be happy day.

Prediction, this is

going to be a great day.

It's also going to be a great week and a

great month for all of us.

All right.

Well, we're going to need some seriously

positive quotes today to live up to that.

One fun, nostalgic quote, and then a

second quote to tease our

book review later in the

episode.

Hopefully, one of these quotes will speak

to you and jumpstart

your day and your week

in a positive direction.

Okay.

The first quote is,

"Never bend your head.

Always hold it high.

Look the world straight in the eye."

End quote.

And you know who said this?

This is a quote about standing tall,

believing in yourself,

confidently facing this world.

This was a quote from Helen Keller.

Look, if she can overcome and find

success and find

happiness, shouldn't we all be able

to do that as well?

And today's teaser quote from the book

review is, "I had the

satisfaction of controlling

my temper, the satisfaction of returning

kindness for an insult."

And as usual, we'll unpack that here in

just a few minutes during

the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our usual dose

of fun and historic

facts from this day in

history.

Today's news facts and

birthdays are from March 3rd.

Okay.

In 1887, Anne Sullivan, she began

teaching six-year-old

blind and deaf Helen Keller.

Then in 1911, American actress Jean

Harlow, she was born and she was

considered the original

blonde bombshell.

Then on this date in 1923, the first

issue of Time Magazine was published.

On this date in 1931, the Star-Spangled

Banner, written by

Francis Scott Key during the War

of 1812, well, it was officially adopted

as the national anthem

of the United States by

an act of Congress.

Then moving all the way up to 1985, on

this date, the very

first episode of the sitcom,

Moonlighting.

You remember this series, right?

It was with Sybil Shepard and Bruce

Willis, and it was a

breakthrough role for Bruce Willis

who played a

wise-cracking private investigator.

Then moving to 1991, on this date, you'll

remember LA police officers.

That's when they beat up Rodney King.

Then in 2005 on this date, adventurer

Steve Fawcett, we just

mentioned him last week,

but he became the first person to

complete a solo nonstop

circumnavigation of the globe

without refueling.

He landed in Kansas after

more than 67 hours in flight.

Then lastly, on this date, all the way

back in 2024, Caitlin

Clark, she became the all-time

leading scorer in NCAA basketball,

ultimately scoring 3,951 points.

I guarantee she really wanted to get to

that 4,000-point mark,

but she surpassed Pete

Maravich's record of 3,667 points.

I think most people acknowledge the two

are hard to compare

because they came from different

eras and there are different rules, but

they are both incredible feats.

Well, happy birthday to you.

Today is your birthday.

You share a birthday

with singer Camila Cabello.

She's 28 today.

Actor Jessica Beale.

She's 43.

Actress Julie Bowen of Modern Family.

She's 55.

And former US track

star Jackie Joyner-Kersee.

She's 63 today.

The number one movie on this date back in

1995 was The Brady Bunch.

Not sure if you saw that one.

I'm pretty sure I saw it, but this was

obviously a movie

inspired by the popular 1970 show

The Brady Bunch Sitcom.

Now, that's a nostalgic throwback to

being a kid and watching

those zany Brady kids get

in and out of trouble.

So cheesy though.

It was the highest level of cheesiness.

Well, the number one song on this date

back in 1983, and

prepare yourselves, I'm going

to say it, it's a classic.

It's Billie Jean by Michael Jackson.

It's hard not to have a lot of Michael

Jackson nostalgia as the

80s were his biggest decade

and he put out some of the

greatest songs of all time.

Billie Jean being no different.

This was actually the second song

released off of Michael's

Thriller album, which had

other songs like "Beat It", "The Girl Is

Mine", "Pretty Young

Thing", "Wanna Be Starting

Somethin'", and of

course the song "Thriller".

And the Thriller album is still

considered the best selling

album of all time with over

70 million copies sold worldwide.

Let's move on to some thrilling personal

growth in the book

review segment of Morning

Serial.

This is where we take a few moments to

reflect on lessons learned

from the current book we're

reading and currently we're reading

through Dale Carnegie's

"How to Win Friends and

Influence People".

It's a timeless book that is consistently

on all the must read

lists and it's packed

with rock solid advice and actions for

all of us to use and

build healthy foundational

concepts to live by.

Yesterday we finished up chapter 8 of

part 3 and that chapter

is entitled "A Formula

That Will Work Wonders For You".

And earlier in this book review we talked

about understanding the

other person's perspective

and in this chapter Carnegie

doubled down on that philosophy.

Remember, every person we meet is

primarily interested in

their own world and in their

own issues and concerns.

The one thing Carnegie wants you to take

away from this book is

"an increased tendency

to think always in terms of other

people's points of view and

see things from their angle

as well as your own."

In a chapter entitled "A Formula That

Will Work Wonders For

You", Carnegie's principle

8 was "try honestly to see things from

the other person's point of view."

Which brings us to today and today we're

beginning chapter 9 of part

3 with that chapter entitled

"What Everybody Wants".

And Carnegie begins this chapter by

giving us a magic phrase

that will stop people in

their tracks, it will calm them down, it

will stop arguments, etc.

And this is the magic phrase, "I don't

blame you one eye Oda

for feeling as you do.

If I were you, I would

undoubtedly feel just as you do."

And Carnegie says this statement is as

true as the ocean is blue.

Why?

Because if we were truly the other

person, then we'd have

had their experiences, we'd

be in their environment, we've had their

temperament, their

perspective, and you would truly make

the same decision or have

the same feeling as them.

Because you'd be them and not you.

That reminds me of some saying from Ace

Ventura, but I digress.

Carnegie would suggest that each of us

have very little to do with what we are.

And Carnegie says, "And remember, the

people who come to you irritated,

bigoted, unreasoning,

deserve very little

discredit for being what they are.

Feel sorry for the poor devils.

Pity them, sympathize with them."

Carnegie believes that the vast majority

of people out there are

just thirsting for sympathy

and that we should give it to them.

Carnegie tells a personal

account here to illustrate.

While Carnegie was on a radio show

discussing the author of

Little Women, Louisa May Alcott,

he had twice mistakenly mentioned that

she was from Concord,

New Hampshire, when Concord

is actually located in Massachusetts.

Well, he received a lot of flack for the

geographical blunder and one was

particularly scathing.

And Carnegie's humor comes out again

saying of the woman that

just tore him apart in a

letter.

He said, "Thank God I am

not married to that woman."

Even though Carnegie's first human

impulse was to hit back

and write her back telling

her, "Although he had made a mistake in

geography, she had

made a far greater mistake

in common courtesy."

And then he would rip

into her after that.

But as many of Carnegie's principles have

taught us, we shouldn't give in to those

initial human impulses.

We should be disciplined to act in a

higher way, taking the higher road.

Well, Carnegie decided to call the woman

who wrote him the

nasty note the next time he

was in her town.

And he was determined

to make a friend of her.

Carnegie actually states it was a bit of

a game to him to see if

he could win her over.

And I'm sure there's some pathology in

that, but we'll unpack that later.

Carnegie gives an account of that call.

And in summary, he right up front

apologizes and he lays it

on a bit thick that he could

be so stupid to make the unforgivable

mistake to say the wrong

state on the radio show.

And to thank her for taking the time out

of her busy, important person's schedule

to let him know and saying that he hopes

she writes him again if

he makes another blunder.

I summarized that and there was some back

and forth discussion

between those highlights.

But she was immediately embarrassed and

backtracked, saying she was ashamed that

she wrote the letter

in those terms.

She was proud of her state and her

family's prominence there.

And she was distressed that the author

wasn't properly described

as being from her state.

So she apologized for losing her temper

in the letter and she

was impressed at how he

accepted her criticism.

Carnegie had apologized and sympathized

with her and in return,

she had apologized and

sympathized with him.

Carnegie said, "I had the satisfaction of

controlling my

temper, the satisfaction of

returning kindness for an insult."

And that that felt infinitely better than

losing his temper and

just telling her off.

That high road is hard

to take in the moment.

But I agree there is some satisfaction in

being the bigger

person if handled correctly

and maybe not handled like a Karen might

want to handle it on their high road.

There's a big

difference between that, right?

And what Carnegie is discussing here.

Well we're going to finish chapter nine

tomorrow and learn

Carnegie's ninth principle.

So come back for that tomorrow and

apologies to all the

Karens out there that I may have

just offended, including

our personal friend Karen.

You know we love you.

Well it's going to be a great day today.

Helen Keller also said, "Optimism is the

faith that leads to achievement.

Nothing can be done

without hope and confidence."

Attack this Monday.

Shoot, attack this life

with optimism and confidence.

Thanks for joining today.

Come back tomorrow and

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