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Greetings, Carl here.
This podcast is super simple, it's me wandering through the world noticing things about how to align my use of capital (time and money) with what is actually important to me.
-Carl
Greetings. This is Carl, and you are listening to behavior up radio. So interesting to me, this idea of how disconnected we've become in our relationship with money. It used to be that we took the that that I made a thing that I probably cared pretty deeply about. Right?
Carl:Like, it was some sort of crafts person. I made a thing. Let's say a blanket. Right? And then you went out and you gathered some food.
Carl:Right? You hunted and you killed an elk. You brought it back a piece of elk, and you traded a piece of that elk for my blanket. And we looked each other in the eyes, and I know this is going a long ways back. Like, we looked at each other in the eyes and we exchanged really, like, a piece of ourselves, a bit of our time, our attention.
Carl:Right? A bit of our life. In fact, Vicki Robbins in, Your Money or Your Life refers to money as life energy. Life energy. And there used to be this exchange, and and I almost feel like we we we we we we sort of looked each other in the eyes and we traded something.
Carl:Right? And we've moved so now it's ones and zeros, and there's no real connection. And I think as a result of that, our relationship with money has really become separate. Right? Separate.
Carl:And and I feel like until we can graft that back in, right, until we can feel this sense and at least, like, pause long enough to feel that sense, like, to connect to that idea? Like, look. I just traded an hour or 2. Have you have you done this recently for yourself or with your kids? Super instructful instruct it's super instructful.
Carl:Super instructive. Super instructive to do this with, kids. You know, when they wanna go buy a new pair of tennis shoes. And let's just say for round numbers, tennis shoes are $100 that they wanna buy. And let's say for round numbers, they make $10 an hour.
Carl:Alright. To help understand wait. I just traded 10 hours of my life for this thing. Right? And and not in a way that makes me feel like, oh, I shouldn't do it or I should do it, but just purely from a perspective of, like, can I connect to that exchange?
Carl:Can I connect to that exchange? Right? The trade off of we're gonna go on this trip versus spend more time together because we can work a little less if we don't go on that trip this year. I'm working really, really hard to pay for living in this very expensive city and my kids go to a very expensive private school. Well, we we could make a trade and live in a different spot.
Carl:I just discovered that my kids actually like me and want to spend time with me. That's more important than the very expensive school or the very expensive city. We could make a trade. Like, just starting to trade, like, to understand the trade we're making in terms of time and energy and attention as it relates to money? Because that will that I I believe until we can reconnect that Reconnect that.
Carl:We're gonna continue to have this sort of divide, this sense of separateness, this lack of wholeness. And I and I honestly feel like that's at the root. It's not budgeting apps. It's not the financial pornography network. It's this relationship.
Carl:Right? And so to me, the practical application of that is just simply to ask those kind of questions. Now, partially, it's like, oh, come on. Do we, like, do we have to examine everything? But if we wanna heal our relationship with money, it probably makes sense to ask a question or 2.
Carl:Like, what trade offs am I making? Can I just become aware of the trade offs? No shame. No blame. No bad.
Carl:No good. Just can I become aware of the trade offs? Cheers, my friends. Thanks.