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Tap to send me your reflections ♡ We often learn that resilience is our best course of action. That it’s weak to turn back, to change course, to do something new. But, of course we all also know that having the courage to end something can be the wisest action we can take. So, today I’d like to explore what can get in our way of ending something - and what can help us find the courage to take the next step. Because, of course, for something to begin, something must end. And. When something...
Tap to send me your reflections ♡
We often learn that resilience is our best course of action. That it’s weak to turn back, to change course, to do something new.
But, of course we all also know that having the courage to end something can be the wisest action we can take.
So, today I’d like to explore what can get in our way of ending something - and what can help us find the courage to take the next step.
Because, of course, for something to begin, something must end.
And.
When something ends, something else begins.
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And, for an incredible true story of how we can find agency even in the darkest times, read:
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Henny Flynn: We often learn that
resilience is our best course of
action, that it's weak to turn
back to change course, to do
something new. But of course, we
all also know that having the
courage to end something can be
the wisest action we can take.
So today, I'd like to explore
what can get in our way of
ending something, and what can
help us find the courage to take
the next step. Because of
course, for something to begin,
something must end. And when
something ends, something else
begins. So resilience is an
essential life skill. But
resilience that turns into
narrow thinking, there can be no
other way than this, for
example, may not ultimately
serve as, especially if we're in
a situation where choices are
available to us. So most
accepted wisdom shows us that
choice is always available in
some form or another. We may not
like the options that we have.
But our ability to affect our
own agency is still there. And
ignoring that we have some kind
of agency is what can leave us
stifled and isolated, stuck in a
single pattern of behaviour or
thought that no longer services.
And if you're curious about the
extent to which we can have our
own agency, even in what may
feel like the most daunting
circumstances, the wonderful
book, Man's Search for Meaning
by Viktor Frankl is definitely
something that's worth reading.
And, of course, the idea of
change can be overwhelming,
frightening, daunting. And of
course, choosing to be resilient
to plough on through to not
effect that change that part of
us might see could serve us it
that is also a choice. And as
long as we're aware that it is a
conscious choice, that we have
explored the other options
available from that deep
compassionate wisdom that sits
within us. And we've identified
that this path is the one that
serves us best in this moment,
then that is all to the good.
And there will be many times
we've each had to dig deep to
get us through a tough
experience. And at the end of
that time, we've been grateful
to the part or parts of us that
got us through. And and I
suspect there will have been
times for each of us here where
we've doggedly stuck with
something relationship, a
friendship, a job, a way of
thinking that ultimately hasn't
served us. And where we've
looked back and thought I wish
I'd got out earlier, or wish I'd
made that change earlier. And
this is of course where the
courage of endings comes in. And
as you may know, in previous
episodes in this series, I've
been talking about certain
phrases that might have
accompanied us through our
lives. And one of the phrases
that can trip us up here is out
of the frying pan into the fire.
And I am particularly curious,
as you know, about how these old
phrases inform the way we think
feel act. And this one is
designed to protect us from
making sudden shifts that could
be worse than what we had
before. But of course, if we get
stuck in that thing King will
never make any change. Whether
it's a job, a hairstyle, a
volunteer role, place in a book
club, a relationship, or our
time in a house or a community
endings can feel daunting. What
if it's worse than what I have
now? We think when perhaps we
could ask, What if it's better
so I'm exercising a choice to
end something sooner than I
might ordinarily do. So I
recognise this as a very short
episode of the podcast. But it
really feels that that final
question is all that needs to be
said here. We don't need to fill
the air with more words that
really needed I could ask
myself, well, you know, what, if
ending here is the wrong place,
or I could ask myself, What if
ending here is exactly where I'm
meant to end? I send you and
away