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Hop along to conversations with the Kaz sisters, Ashley and Angela. You'll find a mix of silly, serious and everything in between. 🦘
This is sisters Ashley and Angela.
And this is Sister Rooy.
Welcome back to Sister Rooy. Today we wanted to
talk all about our dad.
Our dad.
Did you put any thought into some stories at all?
Just before I even quiz you on,
I mean, I said that I have, like, three that come
to mind that, we reference often.
Cool.
So we're honoring our dad. One, because it was
just his birthday, and two, it's coming up on
Father's Day.
Yeah. That was the main reason.
I guess I don't know if I had three, but for me, I
think I do have three stories that kind of came to
mind.
Okay.
As well. Do you want me to go first, or should I
even ask you for some prompts? Sure.
One of them is the same. Is the same. And now
that.
Oh, actually, now that you say that, I don't think
it was.
I'm curious. I do. Yeah. I'm going with the flow.
Okay. I at first was thinking of asking if there
was a time that you remember dad being just so mad
at us
starting off strong with an angry story because I
thought to get on my angry eyes from, um, Mr.
Potato Head.
Or maybe it was because it was the most recent
question that I asked somebody else in our family
about. But I'll catch you up on everything.
Okay. So the question is a time that dad was
really mad at us specifically, or the family or
anybody. Any.
I guess I was thinking more it was at us, directed
at us.
I just know we always reference a time where we
were making puppy chow in the kitchen and we were
just laughing like we do because when we're
together. We're giddy. Very. And yeah, I just
remember our kitchen was in our childhood home,
far away from, like, this hallway that went down
to our bedrooms. And I just remember dad coming
out of the hallway from his bedroom and, like,
yelling at us for laughing in the kitchen. We're
just like, okay, we're laughing. What's wrong with
that?
I know. We were so excited, and we were just like,
why is he ruining our bubble?
Honestly, this is so sad. Honestly, it gives me
the vibes of the guy from the Shania Twain concert
a little bit.
But now, in retrospect, I'm like, okay, dad would
have been. I don't know how old at this point, but
maybe he was just having a rough day and we were
irking him.
Yeah. I don't think he was retired at this point.
Still working.
Yeah. Maybe he was stressed out. I don't know.
Possibly had a bad day.
Guess he had a bad day Was waiting for ya.
I just sang that song to Ace the other day.
It's been a while that I've sang. Sang that one.
M. but the other thing that makes me think, you
know, what could have solved that issue that
night? A sound machine for dad for sleeping. You
know, because there were so many instances that we
had to be quiet so that dad could get his sleep.
And now I'm just, you know.
Was he sleeping, though? Was he out of a.
Sleeping. It was a late night.
Yeah. Hmm.
I know it was late, but I don't remember him if he
was sleeping.
Yeah.
Anyway, but there were a lot of instances, like I
said, this hallway went down to our bedrooms. It
was Angela's bedroom first, then our bathroom, and
then my bedroom was right next to mom and Dad's.
And I remember so many times where we were like,
up late and I don't know if they knew we were up
or what, but we were playing in your bedroom.
I know. And we have to be so quiet and whisper.
The very specific time I remember is we had big,
like, duplo Legos. Mhm. That were in a huge
plastic bag that was like bigger than a garbage
bag up in the top shelf in my closet.
Yep. And we both had to ease it down.
We were like, not too fast.
Don't make it make sound. Because it would wake
up. Because you know what? They didn't have a
sound machine. So they could hear every nook and
cranny.
That's what I was thinking of that house. That's
what I was thinking. Sound machine would have
worked wonders for them. Probably would have
gotten us in less trouble.
Probably not a thing back then.
No, I don't think so.
Yeah.
But anyway.
All right, so is that the one you were thinking
of? So.
Of what?
Being mad.
What made dad, the most mad? Um, no, that one
completely slipped my mind because.
Really?
Yeah. That one was not in any of my notes.
What? Yeah, that's like one of my top three
moments, dad.
But when you said that, I was like, oh, man, I
didn't have that one down.
Oh. okay. So what's yours?
Okay, so I didn't write these down in the sense of
like, what made dad mad? I was just thinking of,
oh, some funny prompts to get either our siblings
chatting or. I also just wanted to know what dad
thought was what made he'd ever been. Yeah. At us.
Ah. Have you talked to Dad?
I asked Dad. I talked to dad today.
Look at you prepping.
I know.
I did not.
Well, he wanted to check in with, um, your
situations. How our road trip recently was. Yeah.
And caught up a smidge. And then I was like, dad,
I got some questions for you.
He was texting me asking if I'd heard from you
because, you know.
Mhm. Yep. so I just asked. I was like, dad, do you
remember when you were like, the most mad at
Ashley or me?
Ooh, that sparked something. We'll see what he
says.
Do you. Do you have a guess?
I don't know what it was about, but I remember me
being sent to my room and I think I slammed the
door and I just remember something about a pop
Tart. I don't know if I like snuck out and went
and ate a pop Tart because I like skipped dinner
that night because I was in trouble or what, but I
couldn't tell you what it was about.
That didn't make his list.
M. Okay.
Not a pop Tart. He first.
He first responded.
and said, you know, Jeremy would have been the one
to make him the most mad.
I was like, yeah, that tracks. They are similar.
But I'm also similar to Jeremy in some ways.
Personality wise, I feel.
Yeah.
I'm similar with Jason for other things. I think
personality wise, I could be similar with Jeremy.
Yeah.
No, the one that made him the most mad was what
we've already talked about on our podcast was when
a neighbor came knocking on the door and said that
you stole the glass figurines.
Oh, that's what he said was most mad about me.
Mhm.
I wouldn't think that that's mad. I would think
that's disappointed. I know.
And I was thinking, you know, out of all the
stories I could think we like, he said Jeremy is
the one that made him the most mad. Because, uh,
we were the ones who really just. It's like he
wouldn't show that he was angry and upset. It was
just we saw that he was disappointed. And I think
that was the emotion that always came through most
often.
Did he. Did he get mad about Jeremy taking his
seat at the head of the table for a dinner one
time? Or was that mom getting mad at him?
Mm, I don't remember.
But that wasn't mom getting mad at Jeremy.
Yeah, those weren't instances where I think it
fumed over and he really thought about I think
hindsight, he kind of laughs about it a little bit
now.
Okay.
but he said, well, I'll tell you about the time
that Jeremy had me woken up at 4am for, having to
go to Jeremy past curfew. past curfew, yeah. but
he said, for you, it was stealing.
I wouldn't think that. Like, I don't remember him
yelling at me or anything for that. I just
remember getting punished. What my punishment was,
which was to go to confession and to miss out on
the Daddy Daughter Dance.
And I think it was just the fact that that
emotion, it obviously sat with him because he
wouldn't have liked punishing you. Like, it sucked
for everybody involved.
I know you were disappointed. Disappointed because
you wanted to go to the Daddy Daughter Dance with
me. I know, but.
Yeah, we've talked about that. So. But that one.
So that one was what he said about you. And then
he had to think about, what it was for me. I gave
him an hour. I was like, dad, you got an hour to
think about some of these questions. Some of them
he knew right off the bat. So he knew that one
quickly. but he said the Jeremy comment first.
When he called back, he was like, who was it that,
we were mad on the way to the airport. And I was
like, that was me.
Oh, yes.
Because we were late for Hawaii, trying to go on.
We were trying to make a flight, and I don't know
what I was thinking. I woke up late.
Yeah, you stopped. You slept in.
I don't know if you woke you. Who woke me up.
I don't know if you slept past an alarm or if we
tried waking you up, but you were still sleeping.
And I can see you in my mind sleeping in the bed
and us being like, we gotta go. And I hadn't
finished all my packing. And that was the point.
Yeah. Because dad is usually the one known for.
Even though he says the time that we want to
leave, he actually means he wants to leave 30
minutes before that time and gets everybody all
worked up. No, he gets himself all worked up
because he didn't really tell us the true time
that he wanted to leave.
He just gets antsy before a trip. He's just ready
to go.
Yeah. But he said what helped that time was
Jeremy, and his driving on the way to the airport
helped deflect his anger. He said that he
remembered this had
to be a different time because Jeremy Wasn't on
that trip.
I know.
Yeah.
So that makes absolutely no sense. Dad is
combining some stories, but he was mad on the way
to the airport for sure. And dad was the one
driving.
Even if it was California. Jeremy didn't come to
that trip either.
Yeah. now that I'm thinking about it, I don't know
what trip dad was mad about Jeremy driving, but
that came to mind. And again, dad is just most mad
at Jeremy all the time.
I know. I also know that Jeremy was driving us
down to a cruise in Miami. And it was like winter
weather. And everyone in the van was cold, but he
was, like, burning up. Cause the heat was on his
feet seat, and he didn't communicate to anyone and
took an exit that no one knew was there.
Yeah, that's the only.
That freaked out.
I remember we all thought we were gonna just die
because Jeremy's going off on.
He's like. I knew I could see the exit and like,
no one else could see the exit. And we're all just
sleeping in the back of the van except for dad.
He's sleeping in the front of the van.
Yeah.
Gave dad a heart attack.
Gave us all a heart attack. I think I was in, uh,
some kind of sleep, sleepy stupor. And all of a
sudden, life flashing before our eyes.
Because we thought we were gonna die.
Yeah, pretty much. Pretty much.
Uh, but we was at the same trip that we came home
and got a flat tire. Like 20 minutes from home.
From this long van trip, possibly.
I don't remember, though.
Do you remember getting the flat tire?
Oh, of course. Yes, that was memorable. Dad was
upset then.
I was gonna say, I don't remember him losing his
cool over it, though.
he was still upset because we were so close.
Well, yeah, it always sucks. Get a flat tire.
Yeah. No, but those were the two, times that we
apparently made dad mad.
Okay. I know he said that he was mad at Jeremy a
lot, but did Jason come up at all?
You know, not in those instances.
That's funny. I know of what Jason, I know. I know
of a disappointing story for Jason, for the
parentals. Really? Yeah.
You gonna share it?
Yeah. He had just gotten his new car or something,
and they found a cigarette butt in the car and
they thought it was his. But he. He swears that he
got it off of a. That it had stuck to his shoes
somehow.
I do believe that Jason smoking or like even.
Yeah, a friend or something.
But, I mean, the car didn't smell like Smoke.
Like.
Yeah, Yeah.
I don't know. But I do remember that. Big deal.
And they were like, do we believe you? I don't
know.
I know. I do remember that, though. But I knew we
were going to talk about dad, and I tried getting
some insight from, um, the brothers.
Yeah.
On just what stories came to mind. Because one
story that definitely comes to mind with dad is
the time that he almost died.
Oh, my gosh. Yes. Which I don't know if we've
touched on, but. Yeah, we were.
Yeah. I don't think we've talked about it yet. On
an episode.
Yeah. We were all on a trip to Hawaii, and Hawaii
was very memorable for many reasons. Yeah. We were
almost late. It was definitely that trip you were
almost late to. So I'm curious what Dad's mixing
up there with Jeremy driving us.
Yeah.
And, we were doing this super intense hike on a
mountain. And the time that we went to Hawaii was
in, December, so it just rained every day. Yeah.
And this mountain.
Kind of similar how Florida is, or.
Yeah. But there's no mountains in Florida, so. So
when you're climbing a mountain in Hawaii and it
rains every day, this mud just becomes slop.
Yeah. And we knew we were going to do a hike or
two, I guess, because one of the tips that mom at
least knew was we were going to have shoes that we
planned to throw out after the trip.
Yeah. Completely ruined.
Yeah. Cause you knew it was just gonna get. You're
just stuck.
You were going through sludge.
Slop. Slop. Sludge.
Sloppy.
Worse than mud.
It was worse than mud. Yeah. And it, like, you
sank in it. Yeah.
Stuck.
It was squished. All the s. Words. Yep.
Yeah. So we, We start the hike knowing it was
gonna be wet. And at the beginning of the hike, is
the sign warning you.
Yep.
About the risk to your life.
Well, yeah. Cause you can go up this hike and
then, like, halfway through, there's a. You can
cross to. Then also go and continue the hike.
Yeah.
And get to make it longer to, like, a private
beach or something.
Yeah. Which we made it to.
No, we did not.
We didn't.
We did not cross that water. Are you kidding me?
Oh, did we stop before that? We stopped at the
water.
We stopped at the water.
Okay. Because I remembered the water.
The water was rapid.
There were people crossing it.
Ain't no way. And we said, no, we'll live today.
Yeah. Ain't no way.
So we start the hike. We see the risk, the warning
sign. And there have been deaths on this hike.
Yes.
Mhm. Yep.
Yeah.
So we start.
And so we continue knowing that dad isn't like the
most fond of hiking. I don't know why we decided
or why he even agreed to go.
I don't know. It's a family thing to do.
I know.
You don't think dad. You don't think dad is a
hiker?
Mom is the hiker.
Well, yeah, true.
Dad likes to go and do things, but a hiker, he
would prefer something else.
Yeah. Think through this a little bit. Anyway, we
start the hike and it's our dad, oldest brother
Jason, our mom. And then Ashley and I just, uh,
bringing up the end. Mom was behind us in the
order. She was behind us.
Yeah, it was dad, Jason, me, you, mom. Mom was
tailing us and I just. We were probably just
making a game out of. Yeah, we were slop.
We were just slower. And our dad is trying to
straddle the actual path because he doesn't want
to get his shoes in the slop. Even though that is
purely the reason why we brought the specific
shoes we brought to be in the slop.
How many times can we say slop?
Anyhow?
And yeah, Jason. And so, I don't know, he gets
again antsy and is just like, let's get on with
it. I don't know. Picked up the pace and was
trying to straddle this, this path.
And all of a sudden we hear dad, like, yelp, like
a guttural type yelp. And then, uh, Jason
immediately begin. Like dad.
But that's all we hear.
We don't see it. Yeah, we don't see anything. We
hear. I mean, we could see Jason. So Jason ran up
ahead.
Yeah, he ran. We knew Jason was running.
Yeah. And we. I don't. I don't even know. By the
time we got there, Jason had pulled him back up,
but dad had completely slipped off of this
mountainside cliff and was caught by a tree.
Yeah. The only thing that saved him because he
could hold onto it.
Yeah. Was this tree. And Jason pulled.
And they're like skinny trees too. Honestly, if he
picked. If he got the wrong one, could
have just uprooted it. Yeah, he, he was lucky.
Yeah.
So that is forever ingrained in all of our heads
who were on that trip.
Jason saw him go over and I'm
pretty sure that is ingrained in his memory. But
that, that made the top list of Dad's, story for
Jason.
Well, yeah, had to have. Yeah, that one was, that
one was scary.
Yeah.
Jason probably has the best memory of them because
he was the oldest to remember them. Yeah, like you
guys all remember a bunch of things that I just
don't know. Cuz I was young. I know. Um, yeah,
Jason's got seven years on me, dude. My memory is
good, but not that good.
But I love how he responds. So I'm like, hadge,
what would you say are your top three dad stories?
And he just responds, what kind of stories?
It's a valid question when we're talking about
dad.
So he said when he went over the cliff in Hawaii,
I'm gonna see if you remember this one. So he said
when he almost burned down the new kitchen with a
grease fire.
M. I remember the story, but I
I don't really remember.
Yeah, I, I gotta see if it was really the new new
kitchen because I just don't remember that either.
but then he goes. When he almost swung a bat at me
in the middle of the night thinking I was an
intruder.
Where did he keep this bat?
I know. I think under the bed.
What? Down?
Yeah.
I don't remember dad having a bat. For real?
No, I remember there being a bat.
I remember all of our photo albums being under
their bed.
Yeah, but that was on really mahter's side. But on
dad's side.
I think it was behind his nightstand or like under
the bed. Which is really funny because I'm like,
this is Jake a bat
Pretty much.
Yeah. There's been a couple times that we've had
to wake dad in the middle of the night.
I remember I had to wake him up because I was
awake late in the night, probably like 2am so that
tracks for me. Honestly, I've always been this
way. Started the habit young and so I was on like
instant messenger aim, what aol, whatever was the
trend. And I finally go to bed and On the way to
my hallway bed, We had a Dutch door leading to our
basement. Oh yeah, the Dutch door. Yeah. And so I
could hear rushing water. And I was like, what the
heck? And so I go downstairs and I follow the
sound and in what we called our work room. But it
was just like an extra basement. It's where the
sewer.
it was an unfinished room with all of the utility
stuff.
Yeah. It had like the. Well, the water softener,
all this stuff. And there was just a pipe out of
the ceiling spraying water everywhere. And I knew
in that moment this is not a Mom thing. I go to
dad. Cause it was never. I wake dad in the middle
of the night. I always woke mom if I had like a
nightmare, if I didn't feel good.
Yeah. I never wanted to wake dad unless it was
absolutely critical.
Yeah. And in this moment I knew it was Dad I
needed, like sprinted up the stairs, you know, two
at a time, ran to dad's room, but Mom's still
sleeping. And so I run to dad's room and I just
like lightly kind of pat him on the shoulder and
shake him. I've never woken dad. So I'm just like,
dad. And he does not move. I'm like, dad, shake
him awake. And he's just like wide eyed, looks at
me like. And I'm like, again, Mom's sleeping next
to him. Like there's water coming from the
basement ceiling. And he, he might have actually
looked at me like, like, huh. With squinty eyes.
But when I said that, his eyes got wide. And he
was like, huh. And he moved so fast, like sheets
off, run down the stairs and just like, I don't
even know how he knew to where to immediately put
it back, but he just like put it back where it
went and it was solved. And to this day, I don't
know how a pipe would have shimmied out of
whatever pipe this was in. But I was like, I bet
you were happy I was awake at 2am, huh? That could
have been a disaster in six hours when you woke
up. I also remember one time when I was sick and
mom was not home because she was visiting grandma,
her mother and I was throwing up in the bathroom,
which was right next to our bedrooms. Mhm. And dad
kind of just came out like, are you okay? I don't
know how old I was, but I'm like, clearly not. And
I think he just went back to bed. Honestly,
really, I don't know what he did.
You just reminded me. I mean, most instances,
Mahter is always the one taking care of us when we
don't feel well. But one time I, I think it was
when I got my wisdom teeth pulled and dad was the
only one who could have been there, for whatever
reason. And I remember puking up because the
Vicodin I think it was that I had to take. it was
too much for me. And I do remember puking. And I
have just one snap shot of the memory where dad is
the one like, are you okay?
How can I help?
But that was really one of the few moments where
you really see him, um, being sensitive to our,
uh, illnesses.
He wasn't really the comforter
Yeah, but dad was always, you know, for the most
part when he was working, before he retired, he
was working during the day. So he just wasn't
home.
Yes.
You know, obviously.
So maybe we should have started this episode with,
um, what dad did.
Yeah.
Maybe we should just say some facts about our dad.
Sure,
sure.
Go.
So our dad was an air traffic controller for
however many years, the entirety of our childhood,
up until retirement. Yeah. And worked at one of
the major hubs out of the Chicago suburbs. Um, and
after he retired, he went and
Coached.
Yeah, he coached sports for our high school and
some local high schools around the area. He
coached bowling, softball. And did he help
basketball at some point?
I know he.
At our high school.
he might have like assistant coach or something,
maybe. But I really remember softball and bowling.
Yeah, it was mostly softball, Because he retired
the same year you graduated high school.
Yeah.
So it was mostly when I was in high school. some
of my, um, classmates knew him as Coach Kaz.
Yeah. But he coached my basketball team. When I
was in middle school.
Yes. He was always involved in sports with us for
growing up. Yeah. Because he coached our
basketball when I was growing up too. Yeah. Before
we got to like middle school. When it mattered.
Mhm.
Ish.
Yeah. And then now, now he volunteers.
Yeah, he volunteers every week. Sometimes multiple
times a week at a local pantry. He's always
volunteered, um, since retirement. I don't know if
he did it while growing up, honestly, where's the
time?
Honestly, I think at this point in time.
Yeah.
When you're in true retirement parenting mode.
Before retirement.
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. and then he enjoys golfing.
He really does enjoy bowling. He bowled a lot. He
was on a league with m our mom.
Mhm.
They did bowling league growing up.
Yeah. Got 300.
Yeah. He's won a turkey, gotten a couple turkeys,
gotten a couple three hundreds, literally.
For a Thanksgiving meal.
Yeah.
For bowling. A 300 perfect score.
Yeah. But he unfortunately can no longer bowl.
Cause his trigger finger. Yeah, his fingers. Yeah.
locks up.
Yeah. But he also played softball. He was on a
softball league that mom went and cheered him on
for when they were dating and probably early
parenthood too. Yeah. so yeah, sports, air
traffic, controlling. That was life for dad.
Yep, yep.
And now we're all enjoying his retirement life
because he lives nearby to us and he's just living
loving life.
Loving the life. Loving being a grandparent and
being retired still.
Yep, yep.
gosh, sister, the conversation with dad when I was
trying to find just, you know, what memories come
up. This is so random. And you reminded me just
with him, you saying when he was dating mahter he
brings up He doesn't know why people have to get
down on one knee and propose.
He's like, I don't think I did that.
And I was like, what did you do? He's like, I
don't remember. I gave her a ring. I'm just like,
dad, uh, this is so off topic, but okay.
I feel like he's told one of them mom or dad has
told us the engagement story.
I don't know. They were going off to a party
though, and they brought some kind of shrimp
platter. After they got engaged. I was just like,
okay, okay.
Were they getting ready for a party? And I think
he just asked her on the side of the bed or
something.
Okay, well then yes, because he wanted to make it
clear that he didn't get down on a knee.
I don't remember it being on a Knee, but.
And I was just like, dang, Dad. I at least
expected that.
To be fair, Justin did not technically bend down
on a knee.
His knees are all screwed up anyway, so I'm not
shocked.
Well, no, we were in water because a dolphin came
out with the buoy. He just kind of did a speech
and then we did staged photos afterward.
Yeah, with the backwards ring. Mhm.
Yeah. Why'd you have to bring that up?
Because it's obvious in the picture.
Yeah, no, but I got proposed to by a dolphin.
Okay, yeah, that's cool. But I expected my guy to
get down on a knee, whoever it was gonna be, so
Jake did. Right.
we started off this conversation with what made
dad the angriest mad. And then we started going
into just memories. Memories with dad and stories.
So the other part of the conversation with dad
that I wanted to just see what stories come to
mind when it comes to you and me directly with
him. And dad just said that he thought I was going
to be a third son and I popped out and I wasn't. I
was like, that's your memory of me.
How lovely in the 30 plus years that he's had with
you.
I know, like that one was what came up. And I'm
like, okay, well, I'll jot that down as, uh, you
were disappointed I was not a third son. He's
like, not disappointed, just surprised. I was
like, okay, all right.
Then they didn't find out for any of the kids what
they were going to be. Right.
That's where they had a boy and
girl name for all of us, I guess.
Yeah. Because then I was like, okay, so did they.
Were the doctors able to know what gender we were
or you just chose? And they said, yeah, we didn't
want to know for any of you kids. And for some
reason that shocked me because I'm like, how did I
not know that?
The fact that they didn't know.
I know.
Oh, yeah. I knew that they didn't know.
I'm just like, wow. It seemed obvious that, yeah,
of course you would be shocked if everybody else
was a boy. And here I am.
Maybe she had similar pregnancy symptoms than when
she had with Jeremy and Jason.
I don't know.
They didn't have as many tests and things as we do
now.
True, true. But then he asks me, was Ashley the
one that, like, passed out on a chair in
elementary school and we had to go pick her up. I
was like, I don't know what you're talking about.
Passed out.
Now I have questions for Jeremy and stuff again.
Um, I know. I was just like, I have questions for
our brothers because I have a feeling I would know
about this story if it was you, because you passed
out at church.
Yeah, I passed out at church.
Mahter was in the background. She's like, angela
passed out in the church or whatever. And he was
like, I'm not talking about church.
And I stood on, um, a back of a chair in second
grade and hit my tooth and chipped it.
He did say, one of you chipped a tooth?
And I was like, well, that was me.
I think it had to have been Ashley. But I didn't
remember what the story was, how you did.
Well, there was a chair involved.
I think he's combining both of those stupidity. I
think he's combining both of those stories because
they had to go pick
you up, but they also had to pick me up.
But you fell out of a chair in second grade.
I didn't fall out of a chair again. I said, this
involves stupidity.
Okay.
I flipped the chair upside down, and I was just
being stupid on it. They had round.
Just standing on the chair upside down.
Yes. They had round tables and little blue chairs
that you could move. They weren't like a desk, you
know, that were attached with the chair.
Right.
And I had flipped it upside down. It was probably
like a recess, but it was raining, so we had to do
it inside. Like, it was not during lesson,
learning things. And I just remember being on the
back of this chair. I had flipped it upside down,
and I was standing on the metal bar, and I just
lost my footing and just hit. I just went
perfectly with my chin and hit up, like, with my
teeth. and with my under. Overbite. Whatever I
would have had at this point in second grade. I
hit my tooth just right and I chipped it. And I
remember it being in my mouth. And I went and
threw the. Threw the tooth away.
You threw it away?
Yes. And then I went and told the teacher, and I
was like, I chipped my tooth. And she sent me to
principal's office, nurse, whatever they called
mom and dad. we went to our family dentist, and he
was like, do you have the tooth? I was like, no, I
threw it away. Little second grader Ashley.
Don't need that anymore.
He was like, I guess I'll have to Fix it. When I
fix it, I don't know what they did with it.
That's funny.
And it is, uh, it fell off one time right before a
cruise. And I got it fixed immediately.
This was a permanent tooth. Like, yeah, adult.
I mean, your first teeth that leave was
kindergarten, first grade, and it's your front
tooth.
Yeah.
So it was my front tooth this one And yeah, fix it
on the cruise. Before the cruise. It was our first
cruise, maybe for third grade, I don't know. So a
year later, it fell off right before cruiser.
Always chipping your teeth. Huh huh.
And it hasn't fallen off since. Wow.
Knock on some wood.
and then I also. They had installed a pegboard in
our gym. And as I as weak stick, little Ashley is
trying to climb this pegboard. I pull a peg out
and hit my eye.
That's what I was trying to bring.
Eyebrow.
Yeah, I was trying to bring up. I was like, I know
about Ashley almost hitting her eye, taking her
eye out. but he's like, no, it wasn't that.
I also, yeah, I had a lot of injuries to my body.
But that's, that's what came up for dad. M. For
some memories. I was like, okay, thanks, dad.
I do remember he. I was sick one day and I stayed
home from school talking about comforting,
comforter type dad. Mom again was gone and I had
just a fever and I was fine all day at school and
it was literally the last class. And I just
remember going to our math teacher in middle
school and being like, I know it's the last
period, but I am not well. And he could probably
tell because he was just like, yeah, go. And yeah,
dad came and dad was the one that had to come and
pick me up then too. Yeah, I was always sick or I
was hurt. What can you do?
What can you do? so I asked other brother Jeremy
as well if he had any stories. He was unhelpful.
And then I had one for Mahter that I completely
forgot. But this one was what came to mind for her
she said, uh, just the cat in the box jumping out
at Christmas.
I forgot about that.
I was like, I do remember when we for Christmas
put thought it would
be funny in a huge box, not a new cat like this
was our childhood cat that we just grabbed and put
in an open box and just
as a prank, just put her in the box. And I don't
know who said to dad to open the box.
I think we were all like, we got one more present.
Dad got one more to open and he went with a knife.
And we were all like, oh, no. I remember Jeremy
and Jason being like, oh, maybe don't use a knife
for. Should open pretty easily.
I don't remember the knife.
I remember the knife.
No. But did our cat just like, once he opened it,
she just jumped out.
I don't know if she jumped or if she just kind of
did like one of the little peek out where she just
like popped out and was like, what's going on? Why
am I in here?
But it totally scared dad. It scared him, dad, the
bejesus out of it.
That one, that one was good. I forgot about that.
I know. I was like, thanks, mahter. That one was a
good one. Yeah.
the only other story that I had it was more just
like a wow moment for some reason to me, for my
eighth grade graduation. I didn't even know this
award existed. Do you remember me getting this
citizenship award for eighth grade? Yeah, it was
for eighth grade. And it was one of my favorite
trophies because it honestly was the first time
that it really resonated with me that people watch
your actions and you have no idea. Kind of like it
was one of those things. It was like a leader.
Totally, totally. But it is stuck with me because
now I'm like, man, people watch you for things
sometimes that you. You have no idea that you see
them all the time.
Somebody's watching Me. It's my anxiety. That's
mine.
Anyway.
Yeah, that's the song.
I don't know this song.
Oh, my gosh.
Oh, my gosh. Okay. So anyway, there's this
citizenship award. I have no idea that this is
something they do, but I received this award.
Okay.
And it is a tiny trophy. but it's a sturdy,
trophy. it had a shooting. It looked like a
shooting star.
Oh, I know this trophy. Yeah.
And I get this award, and, after graduation, I say
that I want to see it, and dad acts weird. Okay. I
knew something was up, but I didn't know what. I
did not. I couldn't guess what was going on with
it. But I find out the next day that dad had
dropped the trophy, and he felt horrible, and he
spent that evening fixing the trophy.
Aww.
Uh, and you can tell, like, there was a little
corner on that trophy that was dented from the
fall. And the piece. You know how it was skinnier
by where the shooting star is shooting up?
Ah.
That's where it just snapped off. And so dad ended
up gluing it. And I don't know if he had to paint
anything gold or what, but dad spent the time to
glue it, put it back together, and he returned it
to me and fessed up that he dropped it. He broke
it. And I just remember thinking, I just fixed,
uh, it.
Yeah.
And I just remember thinking, wow, thanks, Dad. I
don't think I would have been upset if I knew if
he told me that he dropped it and then he was just
gonna fix it regardless.
Yeah.
but it was. It was just one of those moments where
I'm like, wow, dad really cared about this trophy
that I just got. And I wouldn't have been as upset
if I knew in the moment. but how was he to know
that, you know? So anyway, that one just always
stands out to me, where I'm like, wow, dad really
tried keeping something secret to protect my, uh.
I know.
That's a good one.
I was like, that's so sweet.
Yeah, well, he was. He was handy. he did good
things around the house and, you know, whatever.
Yeah.
This, is where I was like, okay, let's go into
Dadisms of just what dad is kind of known for. in
our family you know, things that come to mind when
you think of dad and his antics or what he really
values or how the heck we absorbed what he was
teaching us. And a few of them are always around
the house. Like, If something needed to be fixed,
he really didn't let it linger.
He always. Oh, yeah, was on it. I think when one
of the boys, Jason and Jeremy. I don't remember
which one. Ran their head into the wall, I think
they. I think he fixed it that night. The drywall.
Yeah. So, this is one of the things I think I
really appreciate about him and probably makes me
so upset and uneasy when things go undone in your
own personal life. Because I'm like, dad would
have fixed that.
I mean, the number one thing I think that we all
probably learned, whether we want to admit it or
not, because I can't speak for Jason and Jeremy,
but I have always attributed, probably for myself.
Work ethic from him.
Dad has the best work ethic out of anyone I know.
probably.
And I definitely took that in my, In my career
when I was working. but then also around the
house, I can do it sometimes. I've had to give
myself grace because I've also learned some bad
habits from dad. Sad to say.
No, we can't be perfect.
so I'm just constantly thinking, my house is
cluttered. But, you know, there's good and bad,
and we learn.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So I had. I had asked Jake, though.
Okay.
What comes to mind for dadisms. For dad. Okay. And
he goes, well, the biggest dadism is that he comes
here to our house and does things off the honey do
list.
Does he purposefully go to your to do list?
No.
Does he just see it himself? And he's just like,
he'll see.
Yeah, he'll see stuff. And the thing is, too Jake,
he'll think that I set up dad to purposely do
something that I say.
And you don't. He just comes and he's just like,
jake, let's get this done. Yeah, I see some dirt
back here. Let's make a garden.
Yes. So I. Yeah, Jake's example was when we built
the garden, and I must have made some comment that
I wished it was bigger, like, slightly bigger. And
dad ended up coming over, the following weekend or
something and roped Jake into expanding my garden
and making it just a little bigger. And I know
Jake had just said, well, that was a day that we
were hosting some barbecue family grilling out.
Yeah. Cause we came over that day, and
they were out there, and Jake just said, yep. And
that's When I just wanted to jump into the pool
after, and I
think he did so.
And the other thing I remember is this is really a
true example. I did not mean to have dad fix it. I
just asked, dad, how would you fix this chair?
that Jake had accidentally tipped over from after
we vacuumed, we pull up some of the chairs, you
know, and this was the bar chair, in the playroom.
And Jake dropped it, and it caused one of the
wooden prongs to slip out of the hole. Okay. Uh,
and it was so tight and wedged that we couldn't
even push the peg back. It required sawing it down
so that it would go back in. And Jake and Dad did
that. And I remember Jake was upset at me because
he was like, you know what you did? And I was
like, I really was
just asking for this advice how to
fix it, not to fix it right now. And that's what
happened.
He just always wants.
He's willing. He's willing to help. Which is also
his character for, you know, volunteering every
week, too. I know.
Yeah. So the other things, I mean, there's just
some random sayings that even Jason had made sure
he's like, yep, these are some dadisms.
Yeah, these are some advice that we have now
called dadisms that our dad has given us
throughout the years.
if you want me to kick it off.
Oh, yeah.
One of the ones I always go back to was I was
driving to a childhood friend's house during
sunset.
Oh, yes.
And he just said, you watch out for that sun. It's
setting in the west.
Gotta watch out for that sun.
It sets in the west every day, dad.
But you know, currently, now, as an adult, just
driving, sometimes that sun can really get low and
in your eyes. Oh, for sure. You cannot see.
Sometimes driving into your neighborhood, I'm
like, dang.
Oh, yeah. And that's like around 5:00pm um, you're
like, dad is right.
Sometimes that darn sun setting in the west over
there.
So similar note with the sun. He was always
telling us to watch out for deer.
Yeah.
We were out in the boonies and like, typical.
Which is funny because you've actually hit a deer.
I mean, he's probably hit deer too. I know, but
yeah, it's not funny. That's why he said it.
let's see here. So he'd always say, you're about
to get a size. Jason wrote size 10, but on
another, uh, family chain, it also says size 9. So
who knows what size. Maybe depending on how. Maybe
depending how upset he might have been. I don't
know. But you're about to get a size 10 up your 6
o'. Clock.
It's a good butt whooping quote.
Yeah. he'd always say. Ah, spare me.
He still says that. He does say that. Yep.
Um. Get out of Dodge.
Oh, yeah. Get out of Dodge.
Or Ain't no way. Ain't no way.
I say that. I said it like three times.
That's like a family thing. We all say, ain't no
way.
Ain't no. And it's like the way he scrunches his
face. Ain't no way. Yeah.
Now I'm irate. He'd always. Hey, you know, at
least he knows his emotions. I know.
Which is funny, though, because we're just like,
man, it took us forever to find out when you, uh,
find stories of when he was mad. But, you know,
he'd say that a lot.
Well, he gets that way. So here's the thing about
dad is he's. He will Offer to help and do all
these things.
Oh my gosh.
But he gets frustrated in the process. And so it's
like, okay, do you want to help? Because you being
frustrated isn't helping.
Yeah.
And so it's those moments where I think he's like,
well, now I'm irate.
I know.
And it's like the little things adding up. It's
just he's got to regulate the little things.
Grab a spoke of the merry go round and hang on.
Always saying that. Because we're always like,
dad, where the heck did that come from? That's
what he'll say. Um, I can walk and chew gum at the
same time.
You know, I'm proud of him for that.
You don't remember him saying that stuff though?
No, it's when he's explaining sometimes that he
can multitask pretty much. And he'll be like,
well, I can walk and chew gum at the same time.
You know, it's funny because he can multitask, but
if he's like in the middle of a conversation, his
mind is going a million miles per hour because he
asks you a question and then doesn't listen to
your answer. So then he continues on to another
question, but then doesn't listen to that answer
and then goes back to the other. The first
question.
Mhm.
And uh, it's a vicious cycle of dad not listening.
So maybe it's because he's multitasking.
Maybe. Um, but the next one on the list, make a
long story short, he'll always say that. More like
that wasn't short.
The only. The other one I can think of off the top
of my head without referencing the list is, we
were
all eating chicken wings and he said,
watch out for chicken bones. Don't want to choke
on them chicken bones.
No, you don't. And then we found out that he had a
friend who choked on a chicken bone.
Don't remember that.
I'm pretty sure he survived that friend, but
that's the only reason I really remember that
phrase, because he's like, yeah, I had a friend
who choked on a chicken bone. Or he knew somebody
who actually choked on a chicken bone.
M. Well, so you've talked to dad, but I don't know
if he's told you. But all the way up until this
point in his life, he has believed that he was
allergic to cherries.
Yes. Because his throat gets itchy after eating a
cherry.
Yes. So he was very happy to tell me when I took
him out for his birthday lunch. We both got
sangria, and in the sangria, there were
maraschino.
Maraschino cherries.
Maracino. I don't know why I can't say that word.
There were cherries in the sangria.
Mm. Mhm.
And he just looks at me and he's like, I've
enjoyed telling everyone. Picks up the cherry, I
am not allergic to cherries, and eats the cherry
off the stem and smiles at me. And I was like,
hold on. What? He's like, I went to an allergist
and I am allergic to cherries.
Why did he go to an allergist?
Dude, I don't know. But he got a whole scratch
test on his back, and they did the whole nine and
confirmed he's not allergic to cherries. He thinks
it's something with the pitted
ones, so he can't have, uh, pitted cherries.
He's not allergic, though. It's just something
that can happen with pitted fruits or like. Yeah,
pitted fruits. Because he said the same thing
happens with peaches, which I didn't know. Anyway,
I was like, dad, let me tell you, I don't know if
I trust these allergy tests. I said, is it a
scratch test or was it blood work? Because my
blood work tells me I'm not allergic to
penicillin. But I am. If I take it or if it
touches me, I react. Anyway, M. He happily ate his
cherry and he had more sangria. Oh, my gosh. So
you didn't hear it from me when he tells you, but
he's very excited. Tell everyone.
That reminds me, though. He always thinks that
he's the last to know things.
Oh, yeah.
But, you know, I was telling Jake,
but, you know, he keeps a better secret than Mom.
Yes, but Mahter. It's not like Mahter hides the
fact that she tells everybody. She knowingly tells
everybody.
Yeah, she's proud of it.
Everybody in the family.
He's like, well, I just. I'm m. The mom. I know.
Yeah, why not? And I was just like, well,
sometimes I want to share the news. But
regardless, dad always thinks he's the last to
know, but sometimes I think it's just because he
forgets. Even after we've told some details. At
least.
current state it's possible. My other recent
favorite memory of dad was the. Was the
whispering. So shout out to our previous whisper
episode.
Yes.
Just listen to the beginning of it. And that's
good.
That's funny because he honestly doesn't try to
whisper.
Yeah, but that was.
But he can, technically.
Yeah. Yeah. It's fun seeing him as a grandparent.
It's fun seeing because we just got a strict
parent dad, working dad. But, It's just fun seeing
him as a grandparent and then, like, getting to
hang out with him and just go to lunch and talk.
Yeah.
And now it's funny. It's just funny to hear some
of the stories and.
Yeah, I feel like because we're older, he tells us
more stories about air traffic controlling and,
working. I know he worked on the local, golf
course too, and so there's some interesting
stories that he's told there. We just found out
some story about a boat. I couldn't even tell you
what it was, but he was dying laughing at the
table, within the last five years.
See him just completely go like you and me.
Yeah.
When we just say one sentence and some get some
giggling. It was in some giggling fit.
It was one of those instances where he got himself
so worked up in laughter that he was crying and
couldn't finish the story.
Those are the best.
Yes. And it was something about fishing with. With
his brother.
But, yeah, one last story That came to mind when
I, was asking him if I made him mad. And he just
said, well, it didn't make me happy when you
skunked me. While Jeremy took dad technically out
for either a birthday or Father's Day thing to go
fishing. And I was just visiting sometime in
Florida, must have been when I was going through a
breakup or something, because I don't know why the
heck I was on this boat with them fishing. Like,
it was never planned. but anyway, I was the only
one, though, to catch a fish. And both of them
caught, you know, nothing. Dad caught one type of
thing, but it wasn't good. Maybe a stingray might
have been a stingray. And Jeremy caught just
something small, and that was another thing that
came to mind. And I apparently skunked him on the
boat.
That's funny. You one upped him and he took
it to heart.
Yeah, I didn't want to be one upped, but All in
all, We're lucky with our dad. He, uh, makes us
question some things sometimes because we don't
want to Stop laughing. And he sometimes wants us
to.
Yeah.
But you know, as a parent, I guess sometimes our
kids annoy us a little bit. I can understand now.
Yeah. I will say,
We had this retreat in high school that I went to
as a senior and like I said, he had been a
softball ah, coach for like three years probably
at this point. and I don't know again, growing up
I just like didn't really hang out with dad a lot
and I just remember the girls always being like,
your dad talks about you all the time. At practice
I was like, oh, well that's nice. I mean I do
remember He drove me to school, you know, all
through. Cause he had just retired. He drove me to
school every year because you had gone off to
college and I hadn't. I wasn't able to drive. He
drove me every morning.
Yeah. I wouldn't have had those types of things
because he was never driving me.
And he would always whisper to himself on the
drive there. Listening to the Cranberries and
praying. Really? Yeah. He prayed in the car all
the time.
He did pray a lot.
yes, dad religious, good work ethic. Hard working.
And he was or is a good cook.
Oh yes, he's fantastic cook.
Yes.
How did we not.
I literally tell dad with a green thumb. Oh yeah.
He loved. He. We had a garden at our town.
I missed in our town.
I know it was a big beautiful garden. He always
put in so much work in his garden and in the yard.
Honestly he very much was proud of our childhood
home. Like you could tell in his work ethic there.
Yeah. which is probably also why I care about how
my m. Outside of my house looks like too.
I know I do remember he said, when it came to
property, he was like, don't get a corner house.
It's like more work than I have a corner house.
I'm like, I don't know if you would really
consider, but I am on a curve and it's kind of
corner. Ish.
You have land. Which is funny.
Yeah.
But yeah, top meals Childhood meals that we know
of for dad. He Makes his own sausages. Yes, we've
all made the sausages. Yeah. Polish. Polish style
sausages. We have city chicken, which we've talked
about briefly because Angela and I surprised him
with it for an Easter dinner. which is not chicken
at all.
Nope.
But similar to that, our pork medallions. Those
are my favorite. So good. And I just told him one
of my favorite childhood memories actually is when
dad would come home from a late night shift and
make himself dinner. And he would always make a
shrimp stir fry. Oh yeah. Uh, stir fries are so
good. I would always get a bite of it. And it was
so good that And then I also just told him that he
needs to teach me how to make a good scallop
because I, ah, like a scallop and anytime I do it,
I butcher it and I want a good scallop. Anyway.
He's like, yeah, I'll get that for you. I'll show
you how. Yeah, he's always willing to show us.
I know.
Are there any other meals? And if he doesn't.
And if he doesn't know how, he'll like research
the Internet and then send you a million.
Yeah.
Ideas for what to do.
Any, other meals that I would have said that.
No. I don't know.
I mean. Well, you like the Polish noodles, but I
don't know if that's something that we really had
from him cooking it growing up.
Yeah. Well, the blintzes. I despised these
actually growing up as a kid. Yeah.
I don't like them.
I didn't like blintzes at all. It was like a very
thin type of pancake, but more egg than.
I still don't like it. Probably because I'm not a
big fan of egg.
Yeah, you're not. But now currently as an adult,
I'm like, I would eat so many of those blintzes
I'd eat 10 of them.
I eat them when we do make them, but they're not
my favorite.
Yeah, they're really Good. And Emma loves them.
Yeah.
She is so happy when grandpa comes over and makes
blintzes. but yeah, blintzes, I would say. I would
add to that. And I don't know if this is more mom
or dad, but the carrot stew, I'd always love the
carrots stew.
M. Yeah. I don't know who that was.
Yeah.
But I'm not a big fan of carrot stew these days.
I know, but you and the carrots probably.
I don't know. No, I don't know. I think the meat,
like growing up, it wasn't my favorite either.
It's just very chewy.
I love it when it's perfect.
Let me tell you though, a good stew from Ireland,
that's the stuff. A Guinness stew. Oh guys, it's
delicious.
I'll make that note for when I go to Ireland.
You have to. Well, I will. Okay. Did you find any
more dadisms to leave us off on? Any,
I think I'll just leave that at. Uh, to make a
long story short,
watch out for the sun setting in the west.
Yeah. So dad, if you're listening we love you.
And, even though we might make you mad sometimes,
but apparently not as mad as our brother.
So we got that. At least we know you love us all.
Yep. Bye. Bye.
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