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So I actually followed James Clear online
before he published Atomic Habits and
pre-ordered Atomic Habits in order to
get the bonus course that he did with it.
So I've read Atomic Habits several times
in the last eight years, and there are
always some great takeaways from it
That surprised me
Because mom life is not
really the kind of life that lends
itself to stoic self-discipline
And good habits are not some kind of
magic pixie dust that we can sprinkle
on and suddenly get control of an
uncontrollable situation, which is a
house full of small children And yet
I always find a little nugget of
application from Atomic Habits, and
I want to share some of those with
you today I recently heard a mom say
that staying home with her children
and being a homemaker requires a
surprising amount of executive function.
And I think this is why sometimes
we gravitate toward the self-help
books like Atomic Habits.
We thought that we were
people who got things done.
We saw ourselves as good students, good
employees, and we assumed that meant
that we had the executive function
that we needed to run a household.
But what we find when we actually
become the housewife, become the mother
is that the lack of supervisors,
the lack of peers, the absence of
enforced schedules, the loss of systems
and feedback and rewards
means that we really feel
left to ourselves and lost
No one's watching, no one's cheering,
no one's there to keep you honest
No one's gonna tell you, "Do this
right now," or, "No, wait, that's
gonna be due next week, and don't
worry about doing that ever."
There are all kinds of options and
things we could be doing and all kinds
of timeframes upon which the work
could be done, and no one's going
to tell us the way to do it right
And that mean, and that makes it very
easy for moms to slip into bad habits.
Uh, habits are just what you repeat.
And if you repeat something,
it will become a habit.
And so Atomic Habits helps us see how
our habits are working for or against
us, and how to make small atomic changes
even in our low feedback loop life
Hi, I'm Misty Winkler, and you've
found Simply Convivial, the Christian
homemaking podcast here to help you be
a more cheerful and competent homemaker
So if you feel like you have fallen
into becoming one of the worst versions
of yourself, prey to your own bad
habits, then grab a basket of laundry
to fold and we're gonna talk about it
The real, the truth of the matter
is that school and work provided a
massive amount of scaffolding for us
kick that out of the way and we
really don't even know how to
process the level of decision-making
that we have to do as moms.
And decision fatigue is real
And as moms, we often remake the
same decision over and over and over
even though we don't need to because
we never really know if we made the
right decision in the first place
And one mistake that we usually make
when we are trying to dig ourselves up
out of a hole or get back on our game
Is to envision the end that we want.
We can picture living a life
with great habits, doing all
the things, getting things done.
We can work it out on paper
and it looks like it all fits.
And so we set it all up, and then to think
that Monday morning is gonna be magically
amazing because we've set up the system.
We've figured it out, and
now we just have to do it.
We've made this piece of paper or
this system that we've set up our
boss, and we go into employee mode
And then that doesn't work ' Cause we
know that we aren't gonna fire ourselves
So one great insight from Atomic Habits
nails this perfectionist tendency
Yes, we do need to have a vision.
We do need to express and
understand the identity of the
person we are trying to become.
But then when it comes to choosing
our daily habits, when it comes to
setting ourselves up for success,
we actually set it up for the
lazy version The smallest version.
We are not planning for the best day ever.
We're planning for the lowest common
denominator of our day and saying,
"What could I do in that day?"
And start there Because trying to
implement the perfect plan and have
a great day will work for Monday, but
it'll probably fall apart on Tuesday,
definitely by Wednesday, and then we
just start the same loop over again.
But we're gonna talk about that
illusion of a fresh start later.
Setting up your habit in the
smallest possible increment
is a great application from Atomic
Habits that totally works for moms
I like to call these seed habits.
They're not the full-grown habit.
They're not the whole lifestyle
that you're trying to achieve
by working on these habits.
They are the tiny little kernel that
almost looks nothing at all like
what you're hoping for, but it is
the first step It's the way to begin.
Something under five minutes
It's the tiniest part of the habit that
paves the way for any future element
of the habit to grow and flourish
and develop naturally instead of
being kind of forced in, shoved in.
And when you have that tiniest little
element, I think he uses the example of
just, like, put- putting on your shoes.
If you want to walk more, the
seed habit or the tiny habit
is to just put on your shoes.
Maybe then you build it up.
You put on your shoes, you have to step
outside Now your end goal is, you know,
10,000 steps or walking for 20 minutes or
whatever, but you're not starting there.
What counts is that teeniest, tiniest step
Because a change in your rhythm
and anchoring the start point
will make it much more likely for all
that other stuff to grow naturally
and organically from that beginning So
you build the anchor and the place to
begin, and then build out from there
And I have found this to be true for
myself and for the women in my community.
I do have a course called Humble Habits
where we build five tiny seed habits
that make a difference in our ability to
read books, pray, drink water, different
things that have a huge impact on our
day, but that we tend to overdo right
out of the gates, and then whatever
we try to build in doesn't stick.
So Humble Habits is the course
with little tiny atomic seed
habits like this for moms.
And what I've seen over the years is
That one reason why this works so
well is that starting is the hardest
part, and what you're working on
here is the habit of getting started.
It's not really about the steps
or the water or the reading
or whatever the thing is.
It's really about starting
and anchoring the action of
getting started into your day.
Because once you've started,
it's so much easier to get going.
And the big theme in Atomic Habits is
removing friction from good habits.
Increase the friction of bad habits and
decrease the friction of good habits.
And we don't realize just how much
friction there is in starting something
So I think this is actually the reasoning
behind why something like my island
of sanity strategy has worked so well.
So I don't even remember
how many years ago it was.
I decided that my kitchen
island was my island of sanity.
Whatever I was doing, the first thing
I would do is clean, clear the island.
The whole kitchen might be a
wreck, I would clean the island.
That was a small piece of
the whole project, but it was
where I would always start
And answering that question of what's
first, we don't realize how much brain
power we are spinning answering that
question of where we're going to start.
If you just decide where something is
going to start and you practice that
alone, everything else will build on that.
So my island of sanity counted it as
a success if the island was clear,
no matter what else was going on.
But in two minutes, I had started
that momentum of cleaning, And in
that two minutes of cleaning, I
picked something else to do next.
And it wasn't about finishing the
job or getting to some final outcome.
It was just about spending a few
more minutes doing a little bit more.
And a little bit more and a little bit
more grows pretty well, pretty quickly.
And we see this concept
in Atomic Habits as well.
James Clear calls it
the 1% gains principle.
So you might start tiny, but he
has this graph of if you just
improve 1% time after time, you
actually have so much more progress.
So if we wanna get from here to here,
the fastest way to do it really is
to start small and gradually build.
Do a little bit better so that
little gain is not intimidating, it's
not scary, it's totally possible,
and it compounds so quickly.
Whereas when we say,
"Well, I wanna be here.
I'm gonna jump up to this point
That doesn't last.
We don't have the foundational habits to
keep that going, and so we fall again.
But if we build gradually, we
can get so much farther, so much
faster It doesn't feel as exciting.
There's not really dopamine
in it, but it works.
So there's that
Now one concept I think
Now, also in Atomic Habits, James Clear
totally nails a tendency that I have,
maybe you have it too, where if you miss
a day or two in your planner, in your
system, in your schedule, you just wanna
scrap it all and start all over again.
If it didn't work, it didn't work.
Why bother trying?
Let's make a whole new plan.
And Clear points out that
this is just gonna keep you
in startup mode perpetually.
A dramatic reset, a whole new
system, a whole new planner
isn't gonna change anything.
You're changing the decorations
without changing anything of substance
If you have a day off
your weight loss food plan
scrapping it entirely and starting a
whole new philosophy, you know, next week.
We all know that's not gonna
actually get us anywhere, even
though it feels more satisfying and
motivating in the moment, in the
moment that we aren't doing anything.
We're just going for the feeling
and not the actual progress.
So Clear has a principle then in Atomic
Habits that he calls never miss twice.
So instead of throwing something out when
you miss a day, you just pick it right
back up, which is obvious and smart, and
I don't know why it's so hard, but it is
Even, however, even this never miss
twice principle as a rule is a little
too hardcore, I think, for most
homemakers, especially those of us
who are struggling to figure out how
to run our home and family life well
Because that never miss twice still
kind of triggers our perfectionism.
As soon as we do miss twice, which
you would on like a sick day if you
have seven kids and they each start a
stomach bug one right after the other.
Like, things are gonna happen,
and you are going to miss twice.
So if you adopt a rule that you
should never miss twice, well,
as soon as you break that rule,
then what are you left with?
Starting over.
So instead, this principleâ¦
So this principle is still good
though, and we need to apply
it in a way that fits our life.
There is so much more value
and long-term progress when we
learn how to recover promptly.
Maybe not quickly, not right away, but
we just come back to what was working
before, maybe with a few minor tweaks.
I call that iteration.
We do have to iterate as we go.
But we aren't starting over from scratch.
We have to recognize that whenever
we think we want or need a whole
new plan, a whole new spreadsheet, a
new planner, a new whatever, that's
just a distraction temptation.
It's procrastination.
What is going to work the best is to
pick right back up wherever you left
off It's kind of like if you wanted to
read more and you missed two d- and you
were halfway through a book, and you
missed two days of reading time, and
then you just said, "Well, it's been
two days since I've read that book.
Now it's too late for that one.
I better start a new book."
And before you know it, you have 5 or
10 in-progress books, and no way to ever
finish any of them because it feels like
you lost your chance or it's too late.
But of course it isn't.
You just pick up a different book
and pick up where you left off.
You find your bookmark, maybe you
go back a page or two if it's been
a couple weeks, and you just start
reading It's really not that much
different with our routines or our plans.
Grab that list back out, print that
list back out, review it, try it again.
See how it goes.
You don't need something dramatic or
new or fresh You need the skill, the
practice, the habit even of returning
promptly, recovering promptly, getting
back on the same wagon instead of trying
to build a whole new bandwagon to join.
Just get right back on the same one.
You'll be farther along sooner.
It's not gonna feel as exciting,
except that real progress is so much
more satisfying than that fleeting
excitement of a brand new way
So there really are some great
and applicable principles
and ideas in Atomic Habits.
These are not the only ones by any
means, but these are a few that I
think really help us as Christian moms
and homemakers to lean into our need
to build our executive function To
not rely on other people telling us
what to do or on getting affirmation
and accolades and rewards from other
people for what we've accomplished, but
building a life and a home that we enjoy
That serves our family and that
promotes thriving people That's
what it's like to be a cheerful,
competent Christian homemaker
And no matter how little executive
function you think you have It
is a skill that you can build
atomically, gradually, bit by bit,
1% gains that really do add up.
And if you need some help seeing
those 1% gains add up into meaningful
progress, that's one thing that
we do inside Convivial Circle.
We share the small wins and celebrate
them and help one another notice the
progress along the way, while also
giving ideas for that next 1% gain
It's a community full of the Titus 2
mentors that you have always wanted
And we would love to see you there.
You can find out more
at convivialcircle.com
And don't miss our next
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