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The podcast focuses on fiercely empowering women in business, as entrepreneurs and women in male-dominated industries, featuring guests who embody strength, resilience, competence, and a touch of sass as they navigate business and life.
Looking for guests who are willing to bring a wealth of experience and knowledge but also possess the strength, resilience, and sass that align with the tone of my podcast.
I want their stories and insights to provide immense value to my audience, helping me to establish a powerful podcast as a must-listen for women looking to empower themselves in business. The goal is to build competence and discover how brave women can be in business.
Welcome to Superheroes in Heels, the podcast where powerful women rise, lead, and own the room. I'm Kimberley Borgans, your host, fellow trailblazer, and unapologetic advocate for women in the world of business. With over thirty years of experience building success in a male dominant industry, I'm here to empower you to do the same. Each week, you'll hear bold conversations with inspiring guests who embody strength, resilience, a little dash of sass, and a little bit of grace. Together, we'll challenge the status quo, break through barriers, unlock your confidence, and unleash your inner superhero.
Kimberley Borgens:You ready? Let's go. Hello, and welcome to superheroes in heels, the podcast that fiercely empowers women to step into command presence, own their role, and lead like the strong capable women that they are. I'm your host, Kimberley Borgans, and I wanna welcome you today to superheroes in heels. Today, I'm gonna be talking about a topic, that I often hear people, say to me that, kinda has struck a a little cord with me, and it's the I didn't wanna bother you conversation.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? It's talking about mentorship and how so often, women have the opportunity, to be mentored by some people who have been there and done that, people like myself. And even when your friends are in masterminds together or things like that, you don't take advantage of it. And when we ask about it, there's some great excuses. Like, I didn't wanna bother you.
Kimberley Borgens:So today, I really wanted to have that conversation. It's a real conversation, and I think that it's an important conversation too. You see, I was in Africa in March. I was there with my mastermind group. And, yes, I do mastermind, and I travel, and we have a great time.
Kimberley Borgens:And one of the ladies was sharing in our mastermind group, at this beautiful place in South Africa. Right? But she was sharing about her her challenge that she was going through. And I have to admit while she was sharing, I went through a range of emotions while she was talking. You see, she was struggling with some things that were simple and basic for me business.
Kimberley Borgens:I've been in business for thirty three years. Like, why didn't she just reach out and ask for help? Right? For her, these things felt overwhelming and hard because she hadn't been through them before. She hasn't solved them before.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? You guys know that. Right? When when you're trying out new things, it feels overwhelming. It feels hard.
Kimberley Borgens:It sometimes it it's a little crippling. Right? But when there's people who have been there and done that and you're connected to those people, you know, I was asking myself, why didn't she just reach out? Right? I was I was gobsmacked to tell you the truth that she was in this mastermind group and she never even called me.
Kimberley Borgens:Like, I was like, what the heck? Right? So I took her aside after she'd shared we'd gone through her challenges as a mastermind. But, you know, later I took her aside and I said, hey. You know, I I listened to you.
Kimberley Borgens:Why didn't you just reach out to me? I mean, I could have helped and walked you through some of these things rather quickly and easy. And her response to me was, I didn't wanna bother you. I know you're busy. I have to say that my inside voice got a little pissed off, but I kept her in there and I was like, wait.
Kimberley Borgens:So what you're telling me is this, that you pay to be in a year long mastermind and I know that I've said multiple times, you can call me anytime and I meant it And yeah, I kept calm when I said this that you paid good money in this mastermind for this high level and high producing women and you thought it would be a bother to reach out to any one of us to help you with the challenge. And she kinda looked at me and I just saw her face just like, oh my gosh. The tears started to come. Right? And and she was just realizing, you know, what she had done.
Kimberley Borgens:In that moment, she realized that she had the people right there at the tip of her fingers. Right? And she didn't take the time. She didn't ask for help. And she realized in that moment also that she just she wasn't alone.
Kimberley Borgens:And she is almost asking for help when it's too late. Women have a tendency to do that. Let me tell you. That's another little thing we'll talk about in a minute, but I just wanna say, I have heard this excuse. I didn't wanna bother you.
Kimberley Borgens:I knew that you were busy. I've heard the same excuse from friends, from past clients, from family members. Right? So I decided that today we're gonna dig in a little bit more on this topic because I don't wanna hear that anymore. I really don't.
Kimberley Borgens:It truly does break my heart when you have people that are so close to you and so connected to you to help you succeed in business and you're not willing to take advantage of that. Right? Like, ugh. Women, we are often so hesitant to seek mentorship even when guidance could significantly ease our professional journeys. The phrases like, don't wanna bother you or I knew that you were busy, so I didn't call are common excuses that women make for not reaching out to mentors.
Kimberley Borgens:And I just wanna bust that up today. Okay? So you guys know me by now. I'm just like, real talk here. These excuses, though seemingly innocent, really, right, they reflect a deeper dynamic that influence women's behavior in all areas professional environments.
Kimberley Borgens:So let's talk about some of these excuses. Okay? Let's get down and dirty right now because these ones, like, I don't wanna be a bother. You have to ask yourself, how are they serving you? Okay?
Kimberley Borgens:So as I share these excuses with you, I wanna, you know, kinda talk about where the root of these excuses come from, but I also wanna show them to you so that you can bust up your own belief system around these things. They are not serving you ladies or gentlemen. Men don't have as much of a problem with these, but sometimes. Right? But but most women, this is where I see this the most.
Kimberley Borgens:So how about the, I thought I should figure it out on my own excuse. This one reflects the pressure that we women put on ourselves, right, to appear self sufficient. Like, if I can't figure it out on my own, how can I be self sufficient? Right? Or I didn't think my issue was important enough.
Kimberley Borgens:Is it important to you? If it's important to you, it should be important to somebody else that you wanna reach out as, you know, for mentorship from. You know, many women minimize their own challenges. Right? They are they deem them unworthy of a mentor's time.
Kimberley Borgens:And you know what? Sometimes some mentors kind of brush people off. So I get it. I totally get it. I had in my office for many, many, many years a sign above my my door that said, the only stupid question is the one that you didn't ask.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? I'd much rather people ask me stupid questions and people would walk in my door. I have a stupid question. I'm like, bring it. Come on.
Kimberley Borgens:Let me hear it. It's look. It's not if you don't think it's important enough, then get over yourself. Why do you get to decide that? Let somebody else decide whether it's important or not.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? How about the excuse? I didn't wanna come across as needy or incapable. Like, that fear of appearing weak or unprepared holds so many women back. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:You're capable. You are way more capable than you give yourself credit for. First, I just wanna say that. Okay? But you are capable of handling the tough stuff.
Kimberley Borgens:You are. Okay? I don't know if you haven't given birth. Look. I gave birth to four children.
Kimberley Borgens:I gave birth to them all completely natural. Alright? There's a part of me that goes, Kimberley, that was dumb. You should have gotten something because that was crazy. And then there's a part of me that says, you see, I am more capable than I thought.
Kimberley Borgens:Now, that's a journey for each woman on their own. But I'm telling you, there are journeys that you are much more capable than you give yourself credit for. Stop thinking that you appear weak just because you haven't done it before. Look, you start out building muscle. Alright?
Kimberley Borgens:The first time you do it, okay, maybe you live five pounds. You can live 10 pounds. You stay on that journey. You keep practicing that journey and guess what? You can move that up to 20 pounds, maybe 30 pounds.
Kimberley Borgens:Look, ladies. Some ladies can lift twice their weight. Okay? God bless them. That's not me.
Kimberley Borgens:But but that's because they're putting all the energy into doing that. So you have to ask yourself, like, seriously. Right? How much energy are you willing to put into that? Because I think that's where the important part is.
Kimberley Borgens:The other excuse that people use is I wasn't sure how to approach you. Okay. That's fair. You didn't know how to approach me. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:You're uncertain about the protocol, fear of getting rejected, and that can sometimes paralyze you. But, you know, I raised my kids with this philosophy that says, look. If you don't ask, the answer will always be no. So if it's a little clunky, okay. You know, with AI and everything else, you could put together a nice little memo, a nice little letter, a nice little text with AI.
Kimberley Borgens:Don't do it all AI. Okay? Personalize it. But you could utilize that to, you know, reach out and ask for some support. And and no, there will be some times of rejection, and we'll talk about that in a little bit.
Kimberley Borgens:But not everybody's gonna reject you for it. You might be surprised at how many people actually say yes. How about the excuse? I thought you might judge me for not knowing. That fear of judgment, criticism, it often deters open communication and will hold many women back from moving forward.
Kimberley Borgens:I'm telling you that fear of judgment. But but why do you get to decide what I'm gonna judge on? Right? Like, give me the chance to at least make a judgment. Look.
Kimberley Borgens:I have never once called anybody an idiot. Okay? So you don't have to worry about that. That is not my come from. It has never been my come from.
Kimberley Borgens:Alright. Now I will call my husband a dork sometimes because he tells these really dorky dad jokes. Right? But I I don't call people, you know, that. I don't judge people like that.
Kimberley Borgens:I'm like, why are you asking me? Did you think I would know the answer? You know what? I if I don't know the answer, I will tell you. I don't know that answer.
Kimberley Borgens:But you know what? I know somebody who might know it. I can almost guarantee I know somebody. So let's talk about why this hesitation to ask. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:What what's the reluctance to seek mentorship with women? Well, I'm gonna say that it's a combination. From my research that I did and looking into this topic is there's a combination of that personal factor of it. Like, I don't wanna look bad. I that fear of rejection, that personal side, but there's also some, you know, systemic factors in it as well.
Kimberley Borgens:Society has put so much energy on women and conditioning women to believe certain things throughout life. From an early age on, many women are socialized to prioritize their other people's needs over their own. Right? Take care of everybody else in the family. Go oh, you know, grandpa needs this.
Kimberley Borgens:Oh, grandma needs this. Go take care of mom. Go take care of dad. Dad wants this. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Go help your sister with this. Go help your brother with that. Right? All of these things that we were taught when we were young, they're showing up now, ladies. Okay?
Kimberley Borgens:We were taught to avoid making waves. Right? Don't burn bridges was one that that I heard a lot. Stay out of the way. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Though, you know, this is very, you know, deeply rooted in, know, having humility, which, can be seen as a virtue. But most often what happens is it morphs into self doubt, fear of imposing onto other people. And we know that we're not supposed to do that. Right? Seriously.
Kimberley Borgens:God forbid, we should ask for help along the way, ladies. Look, men don't have a problem asking for help. Men, not only do they ask for help, they delegate stuff out really quick and easy and sometimes they even dump stuff on other people. Women, oh, no. We gotta hoard it all.
Kimberley Borgens:We have to do it all. We have to make sure that we're the ones who suffer the burden. Right? We're martyrs in our own gender. Like, we need to stop that.
Kimberley Borgens:You know, the other one is, you know, perfectionism or self sufficiency. Women often feel the need to prove their competence. Right? And we do that by doing everything on our own. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Oh, I can handle it. Right? That I can handle it mindset. It's rooted in high societal expectations for women. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:It excels up the chain of every c suite organization. Okay? It is up there. These high expectations for women to excel in multiple roles simultaneously, our careers, our family, our community, all without showing any vulnerability. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:We gotta be able to bear this cross without complaining, without looking like we're weak, or look like looking like we can't do it. I know, but I stepped into this one. I stepped into this one big when my first husband left me. We got married at 18, had a son at 19, and at 20, he left and took all the money. Look.
Kimberley Borgens:My little internal rebel jumped up and it said, oh, that is never gonna happen again. I will never be in a position that I need to depend on a man again. And that played out for many years even after I remarried. And my husband, Lauren, sat me down one day to have a conversation. And this conversation started something like this.
Kimberley Borgens:Husband, I want you to need me sometime. Wife, need you for what? Husband, need me to be there for you and to do things for you. Wife, I don't need you. I prefer to you don't want me just like I want you.
Kimberley Borgens:Husband, yes. And that's the problem. I need to feel needed by my wife. Do you see my point? My little rebel was like, oh, I don't need anybody.
Kimberley Borgens:And my poor husband was like, babe, I need you to need me. Right? We talked about this conversation a little bit more, and I really learned to understand what it was that he really needed from me. And it wasn't easy any it wasn't easy for me to need him. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:I've been burned pretty badly. But over the years, I have allowed that space for me to not be so self sufficient. Not because I'm not capable, but because we get so much more reward. I get so much more reward out of my husband and his desire to be of service to me. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Sometimes I'll say something to him. I'm like, babe, can you do this for me? And he just kinda, like, blank stare, you know, after we've been together, for more than thirty five years now. And, you know, I'll get that blank stare. Like, he didn't hear me.
Kimberley Borgens:And I'm like, babe, I need you. And all of a sudden, his ears perk up. Right? So he knows now and we play with it, a little bit sometimes that when I'm saying I need you, I need you to do this for me. That means I'm really asking you because that's what you asked me to do.
Kimberley Borgens:And after all, his number one love language is acts of service. He wants to be of service to me. Like, my husband, I I have ladies who can have this conversation with you. They have been with me. My husband travels a lot with me, but my husband opens my car doors for me.
Kimberley Borgens:He doesn't just open my car doors for me. He opens car doors for the other ladies who are with me. Okay? Because that's what makes him feel strong in his masculinity, and that allows me and the other women to be in our femininity too. It's not we don't have to be so self sufficient that I have to worry about opening a deck on door.
Kimberley Borgens:Okay? I let the man do what is important to him. All of my sons, I raised up three sons and one daughter who just happens to be a tomboy. But my three sons, they open the door for me if I'm with them. He set that expectation up for them, and I allow them to do that.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? They are doing that as a gift to me. K. I didn't ask for that help, but it's helped that I've learned along the way is what really helps to build relationship. So think about for you, where are those places where perfectionism or self sufficiency is so important that you're losing friends or you're not allowing other people to help you or be supportive for you or do something for you that makes them feel good on the inside.
Kimberley Borgens:Well, some mentors could help. Some of the other, you know, reluctance to seek members mentorship is lack of representation. In many industries, there's noticeable shortages of female mentors. Look. Without visible role models who are successfully overcoming similar challenges, women feel isolated, unsure of how to navigate their careers, their businesses, and in some cases, their families.
Kimberley Borgens:And we who can mentor, we must get out there as women with experience and share that so that the women coming up can see us as their mentors. They can see us as a sisterhood and communities that we want to see other women thrive in. This is part of our legacy. And and like I said, like, it just, like, broke my heart watching this woman who was surrounded by 15 other powerhouse women and she never once thought to reach out to any one of us. And that needs to stop, ladies.
Kimberley Borgens:Yeah. She paid she paid, you know, good money to be in that that program, but you know what else she paid? She paid a huge price for not asking for help. The other one, fear of rejection. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:That fear of being turned down. In her case, maybe that's where she was coming from. I didn't ask her, but maybe she had that fear of being turned down or perceived as unworthy of being mentored. Can you believe that that would be a significant mental barrier? Right?
Kimberley Borgens:And it's exasperated in male dominated industries where women face the heightened scrutiny or biases. Please go back to my and listen to my previous podcast where I I work hard to bust this one up, ladies. Rejection is that hard pill to swallow, but there are clear statistics that after seven to 10 no's, the odds of getting a yes are now in your favor. So if you look at rejection as the no's as a game, right, I do this with some of my clients. I'm like, I give them the the hundred no's.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Like, you're gonna make phone calls and make phone calls and try to get clients and try to get clients, and your goal is to get to a hundred no's. And when you get to a hundred no's, I'm gonna give you a gift. Right? And the reason I do that is because the more no's that you do, the closer you get to yeses.
Kimberley Borgens:We all dream big. Right? And we don't wanna knock those dreams down because we're not willing to be rejected. You know, I love the song by, you know, Garth Brooks. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Unanswered prayers. Sometimes we need to thank God for those rejections because we would not be who we are today without them. If my ex husband had not rejected me, if those potential clients had not rejected me and said no, right, or those mentors who I asked for time with me had said, you know, had said no. If they didn't say no, I wouldn't be who I am today. I look around at me today, and I can be grateful for all those no's.
Kimberley Borgens:I'm still getting no's. I don't like it, but so what? I move on and go find the yeses. One of my mentors says, you know, if not that now, then when? Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Or she says, you know, there's more than enough out there, and I believe that too. We can start looking at rejections as gifts. Of course, right after the initial sting wears off because sometimes it doesn't feel good. Right? But we can start looking at those as gifts.
Kimberley Borgens:And then when we can do that, then we can start letting go of that fear of rejection. So why is this a big issue? When women try to do everything on their own, we risk burnout. Right? Stagnation.
Kimberley Borgens:We get stuck in the same place for a long time. And in that same place, we get that feeling of unworthiness. We get that feeling of, oh, I'm not meant to do this. I'm gonna have to do do something else. I see women bounce from one business to another business to another business to another business, not because they're not smart enough, not because the business really failed, but because they got stuck and they didn't ask for help and they didn't know how to get out of being unstuck.
Kimberley Borgens:They sat in that place for too long and they like, okay. Close that door. Let's go to another one. Right? But we also miss out on the opportunities.
Kimberley Borgens:Mentorship is not just about solving immediate problems. It's about building networks, gaining perspectives that that you didn't even think of from people who have been there, done that. It's growing both personally and professionally. Right? And what I wanna say is there's some huge prices that we're paying as women when we're reluctant to seek help.
Kimberley Borgens:Some of the prices we're paying delayed career growth due to lack of guidance, due to lack of not asking for help, missed opportunities for collaboration, sponsorships. Right? Meeting people that you that can take you to that next level or introduce you to people that will be your perfect client. Right? Isolation, feeling alone, all that you're doing, and what are you getting out of it?
Kimberley Borgens:That can negatively impact your mental health. And look, we are already in a mental health crisis. Don't add to it, please. Be willing to ask those people who have said, I can help. Go to your networks and say, hey, is there anybody who can help with this?
Kimberley Borgens:Look, some people are gonna charge you. I'm just being real. Some people might give it to you for free for a minute. Right? But you have to know that sometimes the charge might not be money.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Maybe if you don't have the money to help, then offer something else. Don't just go up and say, hey. Can you help me? And then walk away because that doesn't serve both sides.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Encourage women to embrace mentorship. It's essential for creating a more equitable professional landscape. That's a space we can all thrive in. Okay.
Kimberley Borgens:So I just wanna take a moment and talk to the ladies out there that you're thinking about or you're already mentoring other women. Women mentors play a crucial role in breaking down these barriers and these old belief systems that people are hanging on to. So how can we as mentors, how can we as women with wisdom highlights? Right? How can we, you know, come up with some more compassionate responses for these excuses that, you know, these women are coming up with?
Kimberley Borgens:Well, I've compiled a few, so hopefully that will help. The one you know, I didn't wanna bother you. A great response might be, look, you're never bothering me. I'm here because I care about your success. Your growth is important to me.
Kimberley Borgens:What what I say quite often on this one is, you know, I I do have a very focused schedule. But if it's a problem, I will let you know. Or if it's a problem, right, if I'm too busy, I'll schedule a time in with you anyway. Maybe it it might take me a week. But you know how many times that has actually happened?
Kimberley Borgens:I think once in all the years. I think only once I said, like, you know, I'm really swamped right now on this project. Can we do it on this date? And it was about a week later. And they're saying, oh, no problem.
Kimberley Borgens:Absolutely. We did. We had a great call. We moved on. My clients, when I work with my consulting clients and my coaching clients, you know, they they can text me anytime.
Kimberley Borgens:And I will respond as when I have the opportunity to do that. How about, the response that, the excuse, I thought I should figure it out on my own. A great response for that might be, look, you know, I understand asking for help can feel like a weakness to you, but it actually is a sign of strength. And even the most successful people seek advice when they need it. Look.
Kimberley Borgens:Mentors have mentors. How about the excuse? I didn't think my issue was important enough. Listen. No challenge is too small.
Kimberley Borgens:Sometimes the seemingly small issues, those are the ones that make the biggest difference. Go ahead. Let me know about them. These are some great little compassionate responses. The excuses, I wasn't sure how to approach you.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Well, I'm always open to connecting. Just reach out. There's no wrong way to start a conversation. Like, seriously, I've gotten some texts from people that, like I'm like, okay.
Kimberley Borgens:I don't even know what that means. I have to go Google that. I'm just being real. Right? But, you know, it just takes a few moments to start a conversation.
Kimberley Borgens:And the excuse, I thought you might judge me for not knowing, well, we all start somewhere. And my job is to support you. It's not to judge you. Let me at least try. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Don't let people get away with these excuses. Stand up and say, hey. That's not what I want for you. I wanna be there for you, or I know somebody who might be able to help you. As successful women, we can actively create spaces that encourage our fledgling entrepreneurs, right, and our professionals to seek some mentorship.
Kimberley Borgens:So here's what I wanna say is first, you have to be approachable. One way you can be approachable is to share your own stories of struggle and your stories of growth. Right? To show that no one's journey is perfect. This helps the mentees see us as relatable and accessible.
Kimberley Borgens:Offer open invitations. Let others know that your door is always open. Right? I'll say, hey, business hours. Anybody wanna call?
Kimberley Borgens:I'll go, you know, sometimes I'll post on social media something like, hey. I'm doing a free laser coaching sessions. Anybody wanna take advantage? I can't tell you how many times, like, nobody ever calls. Like, I will do it different times of the day.
Kimberley Borgens:Some people call sometimes, but sometimes nobody takes advantage of it. You had a free gift offered to you and you chose out, but do it anyway. Right? Offer open invitations. Host networking events.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? I do, I used to do something, what was that called? Camp oh, I'll remember in a minute. But create opportunities for informal mentorship through workshops, panels, social gatherings, all aimed at empowering women. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Fireside chats. That's what they were. I used to, like, open up my office. I had this, electric fireplace. I put some chairs around it, and we would do fireside chats.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? They come in, we do some coaching. I'd ask, you know, what challenges people are facing, and I just do some fireside chats. K? I'm not the girl who's gonna sit out in the cold around the fire.
Kimberley Borgens:I mean, I will if I have to if I'm camping, but I'd rather sit around the fire inside with my fireside chat with my electric fires. Right? But you can invite people in, bring them into different things. I do mocktail events, you know, have done many social gatherings, and the goal is, you know, to empower women. Look.
Kimberley Borgens:As women, we need to normalize asking for help. Use our platforms to advocate for the importance of seeking guidance, emphasizing that it's a sign of ambition and a sign of self awareness when we're asking for help. Stop making people feel bad because they're asking for help because they don't know the answer. I mean, seriously, I still don't know a lot of answers. I am not always the smartest person in the room.
Kimberley Borgens:I am okay with that. I don't always want to be the smartest person in the room. I wanna learn from other people as well. I wanna ask help from other people because I have not finished my journey as an entrepreneur, as a business owner, as a woman in life. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:I'm still up until the day. Look. I know I lost my mom last year. She passed away. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:And as we get older, guess what? We still need help. It never goes away. So let's get to normalizing this. We need to provide structural programs.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? I'm doing this podcast. It's a program that I'm doing. I'm bringing in people that I know can help with that. So we wanna establish mentorship initiatives where mentees are paired with mentors.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Bring them into your business. Help people in your business. Bring in interns and support them in understanding the how they can grow into business with the potential of possibly working for you sometime. Removing that intimidation factor.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? We gotta do that. So if you're somebody who mentors or if you're a mentee, right, we need to stop making excuses for this not being normal. I also wanna say, look. I took responsibility and followed up with my fellow mastermind member.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? I asked her how I could help. She didn't reach out to me, but I could reach out to her. We need to help to break the cycle of that hesitation and self reliance. And in order to do that, it requires both individual and systemic changes.
Kimberley Borgens:Women mentors can lead the charge, right, by demonstrating empathy, by sharing their own paths, fostering that environment where asking for help is celebrated. Hello? It's celebrated as a strength and not put down as a weakness. I'm a strong woman, but guess what? I have some weaknesses too, but I don't care because my weaknesses, when they get in the way, I ask for help.
Kimberley Borgens:For those of you who are coming up as strong business owners and professionals, the simple act of reaching out can truly be transformable. It really can be. Opening the doors and sparking ideas and building confidence to conquer any challenge, like, want that for you. Right? You know, I once reached out to this gal.
Kimberley Borgens:Like, I really admired and respected her. She had built this multimillion dollar empire in a time that a woman shouldn't have been building it. Right? But she had done it and she had retired years earlier. And she had handed the reins off to her daughter who she mentored and she groomed to take over her business.
Kimberley Borgens:But I reached out and I asked her. I said, hey. Would you be interested in mentoring me? You know, what what can I pay you to do that? And she came back to me and she said, you know, I don't charge for my services.
Kimberley Borgens:I'm retired. And then she said, but I'll give you three sessions, and I think that's all you'll need. You can bet I did those three sessions. Okay? I learned a lot and I put all the things that we talked about in the practice.
Kimberley Borgens:I thought that she wouldn't be interested. I'm so glad that I asked. I know for a fact I'm a better person today because she was willing to mentor me. And you know what? I would have paid almost anything she had given me to to to pay because I really wanted it that bad.
Kimberley Borgens:Like I said, not everybody is gonna mentor for free. Sometimes mentorship is about walking alongside of somebody and it takes a lot of work. And you gotta put some skin in the game, or are you really gonna take advantage of it? Because here's what I know. When I give stuff away for free, people like, oh, that's great.
Kimberley Borgens:They use it one time. They're done. They don't really take advantage of it. Like, it just becomes this, like, worthless piece of whatever because somebody didn't put enough value in it to use it on a regular basis. So just know sometimes it's gonna cost you for mentorship.
Kimberley Borgens:I get mentorship. I pay for mentorship. I pay for masterminds. I pay for masterminds with mentors. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Like, I pay for that because I know that I deserve it. I know that I need it. I know that in order for me to grow better in my business and build it stronger than where I am today, that it's important. So, ladies, we need to come together. We need to create that culture where mentorship becomes the cornerstone of success for women of every stage of their journey.
Kimberley Borgens:This podcast is another way for me and my wisdom highlights to share, to mentor, to bring other amazing leaders so that they can also can share with you. This is part of my give back. Right? Because it's important to me. I I got chastised by many, many, many women.
Kimberley Borgens:Kimberley, why aren't you doing a podcast? Why aren't you doing a podcast? Kimberley, you need to be doing a podcast. So guess what? I'm here doing a podcast.
Kimberley Borgens:So come alongside me. Right? Let's let's see what a difference we can make together. Like, you can go to my website, KimberleyBorgans.com, and apply to be a guest on my podcast if you wanna go along this journey with me of supporting women in business and women in male dominated industries. Like, I'd love to to see what, what you can bring to the table.
Kimberley Borgens:So check it out. And and just know if this was helpful for you, in this podcast, if it was helpful for you, then subscribe. Share this with other women. Share this on your social networks. You know, let's get it out there.
Kimberley Borgens:You know, I've heard it said that less than you know, very few podcasts ever get to a hundred followers. Like, I just wanna bust that up. Right? And and there's some other things that they talk about with podcasts and I was like, how can I bust those up too? Like, I'm working on it.
Kimberley Borgens:So come alongside me, apply to be a guest. That would be great. But more importantly, ladies, let's get out and let's hold up other women. Let's mentor. Let's stop the excuses of why we can't be successful.
Kimberley Borgens:Let's stop the excuses of asking for help. These excuses are not serving anybody. All they're doing is holding you back from going after the dreams that you want, the dreams that are in your soul. I'm Kimberley Borgans, and thank you so much for giving me the your time during this podcast. Have a blessed day.
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