Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Part 3, Chapter 2, Part 4, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Part 3, Chapter 2, Part 4 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Good morning, and welcome to Morning Cereal!
Pull up a stool, grab your favorite cereal, and let’s kick-start your day with a spoonful of inspiration, nostalgia and personal growth. Join your host, Shaen Inglis, as he highlights the music, movies, and moments that made the 80s, 90s, and 2000s unforgettable—kind of like digging for toy at the bottom of the cereal box. Each episode, Shaen also reviews a chapter or so from top wellness books, offering practical insights to help you set a positive tone for your day. Start your mornings right—no cartoons required!

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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday.

I hope you had a fantastic weekend

and you just weren't

wishing it away to get to today.

Why?

Because today is National Cabbage Day.

It only comes once a

year, folks, so enjoy it.

And today is also National Family Day,

National Random Acts of Kindness Day,

so those are both great

days for us to focus on.

And of course, it's Presidents Day.

And because of that, maybe

you have the day off of work,

but you might be surprised to know

that that was the point.

Way back in 1971, Presidents Day moved

in an effort to create

more three-day weekends

for the public in the

hope that this would inspire

greater productivity nationwide.

It was believed that at

this point in the year,

the restorative effects

of the winter holidays

have already begun to fade and people

needed another break

to regain some of that lost stamina.

So yes, please, can I have more, please?

Okay, well, let's go ahead

and jump into today's episode

with today's quotes and

one fun, nostalgic quote,

and then a second quote

to tease our book review

later in the episode.

Hopefully one of these

quotes will speak to you

jumpstart your day and your

week in a positive direction.

The first quote is from Michael Jordan.

And quick side note, if you

haven't figured it out yet,

I'm a Genexer that grew

up watching Michael Jordan

become Michael Jordan.

And I had every square

inch of my room covered

in Jordan posters.

So I realize I'm a bit biased here,

but it's hard to argue

about him not being the goat,

but it's even harder to argue about him

not having an incredible work ethic.

He was known as one of the hardest

workers ever to play.

Well, Michael has lots of quotes about

success and failure,

but the one I picked for today is this.

Michael said, quote, some

people want it to happen.

Some people wish it would happen.

Others make it happen, end quote.

So get out there and make it happen.

And today's teaser quote

from the book review is,

quote, nothing good is accomplished

and a lot of damage can be

done if you tell a person

straight out that he or she is wrong.

You only succeed in stripping

that person of self dignity,

end quote.

And we'll go ahead and

unpack that here in just a minute

during the book review segment.

But first let's jump

into our usual dose of fun

and historic facts

from this day in history.

Today's news facts and

birthdays are for February 17th.

Back in 1876, some of you

might be super happy about this,

but I'm not.

Sardines were first canned by

Julius Wolf in Eastport, May.

Then in 1897, the National Congress of

Parents and Teachers,

better known as the Parent Teacher

Association, the PTA,

it was founded in Washington, DC

as the National Congress of Mothers.

In 1938, the first public

experimental demonstration

of Baird Color TV in

London, it laid the foundation

for color TV as we know it.

Then in 1972, the car, the Beetle,

it overtook the Model T as

the world's best selling car.

Then jumping up to 1992,

convicted serial killer, Jeffrey Dahmer,

he was sentenced to 15

consecutive life terms

for the series of gruesome

murders that he had committed.

Then in 2014, American

comedian Jimmy Fallon,

he began hosting the

Tonight Show, replacing Jay Leno.

Then lastly, in 2017,

the discovery of a new,

mostly underwater

continent named Zelandia

in the South Pacific was announced.

It was announced in the

research journal GSA Today.

I think this is incredibly cool.

Apparently it's half

the size of Australia

and it's the largest

of the micro continents.

So there's that.

Well, happy birthday if

your birthday is today.

You share a birthday with a family

favorite in our house,

singer Ed Sheeran.

He turns 34 today.

Socialite Paris Hilton, she's 44.

Lead singer of Green

Day, Billy Joe Armstrong,

he's 53 today.

Then producer Michael Bay, he's 60.

And of course, the GOAT,

Michael Jordan, he's 62 today.

The show today has been

highlighting some of my favorites

and the number one song on

this date is no different.

It's from 1985 and it's the song

"Careless Whisper" by Wham

featuring George Michael.

Okay, depending on my mood,

this song is one of my

favorite songs of all time.

The vibe, the feel, the

saxophone, it's an incredible song.

And incredibly, George

Michael wrote this song

when he was just 17 years old

and he made it up

while he was riding a bus.

Well, George Michael also

wrote the saxophone solo

and he said he got more praise

about that famous saxophone solo

than any of his riding up

to that point in his career.

To this day, George

Michael says he's unsure

why the song was such a big hit,

but it was his biggest

hit as a part of Wham

and as a solo artist.

And at over 11 million copies sold,

it's one of the biggest

selling singles of all time.

And the number one

movie on this date in 1995

was "Billy Madison,"

an Adam Sandler movie

back when he was just

starting to put together

a string of comedy hits after hit.

"Happy Gilmore"

followed this movie in 1996.

But "Billy Madison," high level,

the movie is about a

rich 20-something year old,

Billy Madison, Sandler's character,

who goes back to finish each

grade in school as an adult

to prove to his rich

father that he can do it.

And you throw in some cute kids

and a romance with the teacher

and it becomes a comedy classic.

Chris Farley had a

cameo, as did Steve Buscemi.

And Robert De Niro says it's

his favorite movie of all time.

Okay, let's move on

to some personal growth

in the book review

segment of "Morning Serial."

This is where we take a few moments

to reflect on lessons learned

from the current book we're reading.

And currently we're

reading through Dale Carnegie's

"How to Win Friends"

and "Influence People."

It's a timeless book that is consistently

in all the must read lists

and it's packed with rock

solid advice and actions

for all of us to use

and build healthy

foundational concepts to live by.

And today we are finishing

up chapter two of part two,

which is entitled "A

Sure Way of Making Enemies

and How to Avoid It."

Carnegie began this chapter

by revealing the art in conversations,

whether we are right or wrong.

We are learning that

it's difficult to change

someone's way of

thinking and their beliefs.

They are deeply held

and they are associated

with their self-esteem.

And as such, people will

cling to them, even unreasonably.

So we need to artfully

approach these conversations.

Carnegie says it well saying, quote,

"When we are wrong, we

may admit it to ourselves.

And if we are handled

gently and tactfully,

we may admit it to others,

but not if someone else is trying to ram

the unpalatable fact down our esophagus."

End quote.

Carnegie provides two real

world examples of these methods

and he suggests these

examples are typical experiences

of thousands of people.

The first example is about a woman

who approached a business meeting

with a new way of providing

incentives to her employees.

And she initially prepared

and spent her time showing management

how the current system was wrong

and that she had all

the answers to fix it.

Well, that fell flat.

Once she realized her mistake

of basically telling

other people they were wrong,

in the next meeting, she

led them little by little

through points of concern

with the current system.

And with timely, low key suggestions,

she eventually led

them to her conclusions,

which they then gladly accepted.

Here's what she said she

learned from that experience.

Quote, "I am convinced

now that nothing good

is accomplished and a

lot of damage can be done

if you tell a person straight

out that he or she is wrong.

You only succeed in

stripping that person of self-dignity

and making yourself an

unwelcome part of any discussion."

End quote.

In the second example, a lumber salesman

was dealing with an

inspector at a company

that believed the lumber

delivery was not up to grade.

Historically, the lumber

salesman was fiery and combative

and often he won those types of arguments

based on his knowledge

of the lumber grades,

but often still the

lumber would be returned.

After taking Carnegie's course,

the lumber salesman

used a different approach.

And in the next situation,

he had the inspector

keep on loading the truck

and he asked the

inspector to set aside each piece

that did not meet grade.

And he was careful to

say that they did not have

to accept anything that

was not up to standard.

Well, the inspector

began to warm up after a bit,

given the salesman was

not looking to argue.

And the salesman said, quote,

"An occasional

carefully put remark on my part

gave birth to the idea in his mind

that possibly some of

these rejected pieces

were actually within

grade that they had bought."

End quote.

Note here, as we talk about

the art in the conversation,

the salesman said his

carefully placed and timed remarks

gave birth to the idea

in the inspector's mind.

The art is to lead others down a path,

sowing unnoticed seeds,

where the other person begins to see

and believe your idea is their own idea,

or at least your

perspective begins to dawn on them.

So the lumber salesman summed up his

experience like this,

quote, "In that one instance alone,

a little tact and the

determination to refrain

from telling the other man

he was wrong," end quote,

saved his company the sell and money,

and that, quote, "It would

be hard to place a money value

on the goodwill that

was saved," end quote.

So Carnegie closes out chapter two,

making the point that we

need to adjust our perceptions

of people that we are disagreeing with.

We shouldn't look at them as the enemy

and treat them as the enemy.

Carnegie quotes Martin Luther King,

who said of a man that had

different views than him,

quote, "I judge people

by their own principles,

not by my own," end quote.

And Carnegie says that this chapter

is only supporting principles

that have been around

for thousands of years.

And Carnegie quotes

Jesus again saying, quote,

"Agree with thine

adversary quickly," end quote.

And 2,200 years before Christ,

an Egyptian king told his son, quote,

"Be diplomatic, it will help you gain

your point," end quote.

Carnegie sums up the

chapter saying, quote,

"In other words, don't

argue with your customers

or your spouse or your adversary.

Don't tell them they are wrong.

Don't get them stirred up.

Use a little diplomacy," end quote.

Chapter two is entitled,

"A Sure Way of Making

Enemies and How to Avoid It."

And Carnegie's principle number two is,

"Show respect for the

other person's opinions.

Never say you are wrong."

Isn't the human psyche so interesting?

Sometimes we really do boil down

to just simple concepts like self-worth.

Well, I hope your

self-worth is high this Monday

and your week is off

to a fantastic start.

And I forgot to mention it's also

National Pancake Day.

So if you haven't had breakfast yet,

I'm sure the

International House of Pancakes

has some killer deals today.

We start chapter three tomorrow entitled,

"If You're Wrong, Admit It."

So come back for that.

Now go out there today and be like Mike

and make it happen today.

Thanks for joining and

have a fantastic day.

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Thanks again for listening.

Have a fantastic day and

we'll see you tomorrow.