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Christian homemakers need encouragement and motivation to stay the course. Homemaking and homeschooling can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to be. If you’re a Christian mom longing for a well-ordered home, a peaceful homeschool, and a joyful heart—without the stress or burnout—you’re in the right place. Moms can be productive and peaceful when grounded in Scriptural truth.
I’m Mystie Winckler, homeschooling mom of five, founder of Simply Convivial, and your guide to managing both home and heart with faith and focus. Here, we talk about biblical homemaking, sustainable homeschooling, and cheerful productivity—all through the lens of organizing your attitude and embracing your God-given calling.
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most to-do lists that I have
made are not really plans.
They're storage units for every
unfinished responsibility in my life,
or even every wishful thought that I
had about what I could possibly do.
There's call the dentist,
clean the bathroom, plan next
month, whatever that means
Answer that email, buy birthday presents,
fix the closet, research something I
might not even need until November.
Now really, these are the things that
generally don't even make it onto the
list, but they're in my mental list.
And then I write down all the things that
I should probably be doing, but I'm not.
I look at that list and somehow
feel both busy and unable to begin.
Now, the problem is not that
I need a better to-do list.
I don't need a better system.
The problem isn't really the planner
The problem is the vagueness and
the mix of options in this list
Almost none of the items on those
lists are things that could actually
be done in five or 10 minutes.
Like, plan next month.
What does that even mean?
Call the dentist is more of
the kind of task that might be
doable on a list, but that is the
minority of what lands on my list.
I need to make smaller tasks that
can actually happen So when I stopped
working from an enormous list of things
to do, or honestly dozens of different
lists for different projects, and
started using a daily card, a daily
Post-it with only three priorities
for this particular day, that's
when I started to see real traction.
So in this video, I'm gonna show
you why long to-do lists create
overwhelm, not action, and how a daily
card can turn vague responsibilities
into a workable day And also what
exactly belongs on your daily card.
This is the exact process that helped
me stop carrying everything at once
and start making steady progress on
what actually mattered in my life
Welcome to the Christian homemaking
podcast, Simply Convivial.
I'm Misty Winkler, homemaker, homeschool
mom, and author of the book Home is
for Hospitality: Why Your Home and
Homemaking Matter Convivial means
enjoying life together, and that's
what we want to use our homes Four, we
want to build those moments and family
and family connections
that build people up.
That's being convivial.
We want convivial homes, but it
often takes skills and thought
that we have never practiced
or even been told about before.
So
I am here to break it down and give
it to you in bite-size, doable pieces.
So grab a basket of laundry
to fold and let's dig in.
Now, I still keep lists.
I need somewhere to capture
tasks, projects, errands,
reminders, ideas, all the things.
Things need to be written down.
But I never look at those
lists during the day.
They are not what run my day,
and they often rarely filter onto
my actionable list, honestly.
I just need to get it out of my
head so that I can use my head to
n-navigate and negotiate the actual day.
I need to declutter my head
by writing it all down.
Most of what I write down and capture on
those lists I rarely look at, but it makes
a huge difference to get it out of my head
The daily card is where action happens.
This is where the daily decisions
are made and where I know what I'm
supposed to be focusing on today.
And today is where I can
actually take action.
If I looked just directly at the
master list or all the master lists
that I have written down in various
places, everything is yelling for
equal attention at the same time.
There's no distinction between what's
urgent, what's important, what's
optional, what was just a random thought
I had or a good idea that I had that's
really actually totally unrealistic
The list has a lot of information,
but really no direction.
There's no filter there.
It's not really helping me
make a targeted, informed,
intentional decision right now.
And let me tell you, after managing
a home, homeschooling five kids,
writing books, I have learned
that I rarely need to see a list
of all that I could be doing.
That's not helpful.
I need to know what I need to do
today, and I bet you're the same way.
So if practical Christian homemaking
without perfectionism and without
overwhelm sounds like something that
would help you, then please subscribe.
I talk about managing home and family
life with clarity, attention, and
everyday faithfulness, spending
less time reorganizing our lists
and more time doing the real work
If you like this daily card method
that I'm going to explain today, you
can actually dig deeper into this
process and what it really looks like
on the day-to-day in my free workshop,
Overwhelmed to Organized: The One
Practice That Changes Everything.
You can sign up for that free on-demand
workshop at simplyconvivial.com/organized,
and the link is also in the episode notes
So why does that long to-do list
not really help in the day-to-day?
The thing is, a list becomes
overwhelming when you have to make
decisions every time you look at it.
A list is only helpful if it's pre-made
decisions that you don't have to filter
and renegotiate every time you look at it.
But if your list contains more than
is feasible in a day or more than is
reasonable to do in, you know, the
next few minutes, then you're going
to be overwhelmed because you're not
confronting yourself with what to do,
you're confronting yourself with too
many options and more decisions to make.
What you want is a short list where
you've already done the thinking
and you know, like, well, it doesn't
matter that these things need to
be done because I've decided these
three things are the most important.
I'm gonna write those down Then when
I look at my list, I'm not making
a decision, I'm just reminding
myself of a decision I've already
made, and I'm taking action on it.
Because in that moment is not the time
to renegotiate or make a decision,
it's just the time to do something.
The list should say, "Here,
do this," and it's very clear.
This is why I love Post-it Notes for my
daily card, because the small size reminds
me that my day is actually quite small.
I can't do everything.
I can't keep track of everything.
I need a short, concise,
to-the-point list that helps me
focus on what really matters today
This isn't every item on my grocery list.
This isn't big projects like plan the
school year or organize the garage.
It is something like make
the dental appointments
record an episode, homeschool.
Those are the kind of things
that land on my daily card
What really works is when you can narrow
down that next action to be something
that will take only five to 10 minutes.
My little rule of thumb is if what's
on my daily card will take more than
10 minutes, I mean, give or take.
Recording this episode is gonna take
longer, but it's still a very narrow
chunk and a very deliberate, defined task.
If it's something that's going to
take half an hour or an hour or more,
there's probably a project there.
And just with homeschooling mom home
life, we really don't have the project
time that we like to think we do.
And what I see over and over in myself
and in other women in my community,
Convivial Circle, is that we keep planning
on doing projects in a day, but our
life doesn't actually work that way.
We don't have the time and the focus
to complete a full project in a day.
So we have to be content
narrowing down our focus
Making small baby step goals
rather than big project goals
So the card, the daily card works because
it contains what the real priorities
are today, and not just some random
tasks that are mostly wishful thinking
extras that I would like to fit in.
The daily card really works best when
it is what matters most right now.
So this is why I use just a Post-it
Note, maybe an index card, but this
is even smaller, so I like it more.
At the beginning of the day, I choose
three priorities, write them down.
But they're not just vague priorities,
although there have been times where
smile at the children actually does go
on my list, because sometimes that's
what I actually need to focus on doing.
So this list, especially because it is
focused on just today, allows me to be
present today and recognize what matters
to my family that I do or be today.
That's what I need in front of my face.
I don't need everything.
I need what's in front of my face I
need my priorities in front of my face.
And that takes practice.
It takes a lot of time
actually to figure that out.
It's not something that most women
just wake up in the morning knowing.
So if this sounds like it would be
difficult to do, or, you know, you don't
even know how to get there, to choose your
priorities for the day, let me tell you,
that long list isn't helping you either.
So go do that free training
from Overwhelmed to Organized at
simplyconvivial.com/organized,
because I talk there about how
to discover those priorities
and what goes on your card.
And it really does take time and practice.
It's something that doesn't necessarily
make sense informationally until you
start trying it out and practicing it.
It's the doing of it where
it really starts to click
It really is difficult to choose only
three things to go on your list, but
recognizing that our time is limited and
also recognizing that if we do the things
that we really need to do today, like
make that appointment, homeschool the kids
recover the laundry disaster,
then we actually have to
count the day as a success.
And so the daily card allows
us to narrow down our focus and
attention and recognize that we
have done something important today.
Because so often, like my temptation
and the temptation I see again and
again in Convivial Circle is that We
focus on all that we haven't done.
That big long list reminds us that there
is so much more to do than there is
time or energy, and so we end up saying
that we've failed or saying we haven't
done anything today when the reality
is we did what was most important.
We just maybe didn't do any extras.
Maybe we didn't do what we hoped we would
get to, but that's entirely different than
actually doing what we need to be doing
So pull out an index card, write
down three things that matter most
today, and do those without looking
at all the things you could be doing.
You don't need that list.
You need a list of three, and I
would love to unpack this more and
get really dig into it with you.
So join that free training on demand
anytime, simplyconvivial.com/organized
to get that free training.
And tell me in the comments, what
is your one top priority today?
What are you gonna do
today that matters most?
These are the kinds of decisions that
we need to make to really become more
productive and cheerful in our homes.
And it's one way that we
repent, rejoice, repeat