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Hello my friends, welcome. I'm excited to hop on here today and really just kind of speak from the heart. I feel like a lot of the time in the past for me and I suspect for many of you, when moments when you feel like you have to present a face to the world and it has to look a certain way, it has to be happy, it to be positive, has to be confident and grounded in all of these things and
that can show up a lot in our marketing and the messaging and the way that we share what we do with the world. And I know it has for me, and there's been lots of times where I felt like I need to show up in a way that is always positive, is always assured. And life doesn't always feel that way. And it can give this untrue representation of this very limited aspect of the human experience.
And mind you, I understand that, you know, we all have, those of us who have businesses also have a brand. And a brand is different than a person. A brand is an aspect, more like an archetype of something that is expressed through the person, through a set of values, through a certain vision, through a certain frequency that they wish to connect, engage with the world with. And while I have a brand and I am my brand, I'm also a person. And...
Something that I'm leaning into much more lately is sharing from authenticity, is putting down the mask that I've worn, the mask that I help my clients put down in their own way of the ego that we form when we're younger that tries to protect us from an unhealed wound, which is a perception about ourselves, others, our life that has created pain that is not on its truest essence.
real or true for us, but it's a misperception of life and that forms as a mask. So for example, a mask could look like I'm not good enough. So I have to pretend to be somebody that I'm not because if I show them who I really am, I won't be enough for them. I won't be enough for the world and I need to belong in the world to survive. And this is the, this is the unconscious program, this operating system that we're running because at one point that was very true. We did have to
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belong within our tribe for our survival. Nowadays, there's all kinds of tribes around the world and on the internet and communities, I should say. And you don't have to fit into any one of them for you to survive. You can survive on your own, which would be lonely and less fun. But there's all kinds of communities of wonderful and weird beings out there that we can connect with. And...
this idea that we have to present ourselves in a certain way to always please others. We have to present ourselves in a certain way to run a successful business. That we have to present ourselves in any way that is not congruent with who we truly are. And I think a lot of it comes down to over the years, because we form these masks so early on in our life when we're very young, that we end up confusing the masks.
with our true selves and it can be a while to take all of these layers off and uncover who we actually are under there. Because I guarantee that if you feel like you don't know who it is or you don't know what you want, you do actually know. It's just spent so much time not giving yourself permission to live it, to follow it, to dream about it, to breathe it in because on some level you didn't believe it was possible or safe for you. Which of course,
it is possible for you and it's far more safe than living as someone that you're not. So coming back around to how this looks for me lately is I'm really excited to lean more into coming onto this podcast and sharing with you guys from my heart whether or not life feels all the way up or tumultuous or whatever it is and in the moments where I feel like I want to pull back
Those are the moments that I'm making an intention to lean in and share more with you and let you in more and take down my barriers more so that we can connect more authentically so that you can feel more of me and I can share more with you and we can have this reciprocity of supporting each other and growing because we're all walking each other home. So some things that have been alive for me lately
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As on the business front, I've had a community that I've created that is an intimate group. It is gradually growing, even though I haven't marketed it yet, which is really cool and synchronistic of women. helping to grow their healing and coaching practices. And I'm also doing one-on-one work, helping women to grow their service-based businesses, their creative businesses. So I'm working with artists and healers and coaches.
And in my group program is specifically for healers and coaches to go from being a practitioner to a thriving business owner. And that's, we're starting from the ground up. So some people are, they have some experience, but most of them it's just brand new. I call them like business babies, which I was at one point as well. So really learning the principles and foundations of growing a business and what works in the marketplace, but also coupling that with energetic alignment and vision and purpose.
and alchemizing the resistance and the blocks and the fears that will inevitably come up any time you step into a new identity, into a much more expansive vision for your life, there's gonna be the ego that feels challenged and threatened by that because it feels unsafe and all of this unfamiliar and all of the unknown. And so this has a really beautiful place where we're healing those fears that come up around the ego.
crafting a vision for what we're creating, what each one of them is creating, it's unique to each of them, and moving forward and building these businesses. So that's been really beautiful, and I'm excited to be sharing more of that soon. And then something else too, like part of me coming on here is really embodying even more the things that I'm teaching to my clients, which is like really showing up authentically and showing up consistently and intentionally.
And for me, like we've had things going on. Personally, like last week we got a diagnosis of a malignant tumor in our dog's, my husband and I's, our dog's bladder. And it's not something that's operable and he's 14. And yeah, it's been really sad to process that. I had a really good cry with my wonderful vet last week when I was in there.
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And we had nice cry together. And so it's interesting. It's been this journey of love and acceptance because we only really, we grieve out of love. Grief comes from loving someone so dearly and as well as the perceived loss of love. And my humanness is very attached or can be very attached to this sense of loss. My soul knows that we never lose love. It lives within us.
When a being, when a consciousness leaves physical form, it's not destroyed, it just moves on to its next state. And as an animal communicator and a medium and a shaman, I understand all these things in a really intimate way. I talk with my dog often and I ask him, you know, what's going on? What do want to do? Do you want to, you know, do you still want to be here? And I check in with him often and...
He's told me for now that he wants to keep fighting, so I'm gonna continue fighting with him for him, not with him. So I've been giving him energy treatments on a regular basis, and he gets Essiaq. At this point, I'm just giving him whatever, most foods that he'll eat, because he's gotten quite slim, but he was first diagnosed with lymphoma like four years ago.
And then he's had this thyroid tumor for years as well. And he's had now this water cancer we think probably it's been there for about six months. And a lot of these things like the prognosis is usually like usually a couple of months from the very first diagnosis. So I feel like we've fought it very well for a good long period of time. And he's ultimately has fought it very well. He's such an incredibly strong, beautiful, powerful spirit. think he...
might love life more than anybody else I know. That's Bowen has this incredible zest for life and he loves going out for walks and he has literally stopped to smell roses on a walk and you know, reminded me to stop and smell them and you just, can, when I feel him experiencing the world, it just feels like so much excitement and happiness to be here. And I think that's, I know that's why that in part.
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enjoys being with us, he wants to fight. And so we're here, I'm fighting with for him and getting him some palliative care support to help him be as comfortable as possible for the rest of the time that he's with us. And I'm sharing this with you guys so you can see a bit of a window into my life outside of business and work. And to share that not everything is always happy and, you know, upbeat and that's okay.
Life is messy and that's okay and I can be going through things and I can still show up and be here with you guys and that's really something that I'm I'm showing myself as well as you is that that sense of letting you in Taking off that mask and also this is a beautiful way for me to process this as I share it with you And I'll put up my heart
And I think there's something really beautiful in that when it comes to business and building a brand and marketing. I like, I regularly tell my clients that building a business is one of the biggest spiritual growth journeys you will go on, period. Because if you build something from a place of alignment and authenticity, what's gonna happen is you're going to meet all of these pieces of your ego, all of these fears.
All of these perceived limitations that you have picked up throughout your life, maybe from family, maybe from society, from your culture, maybe from your ancestry. All of these perceived limitations of what you get to be and do in the world, of where abundance comes from, of being able to sustain it and grow it. Being able to, a big one too, is trust yourself and know yourself and speak.
from that inner trust and that inner knowing. And as you learn to do that, and it is a process and it's not always pretty, it often involves lots of crying. I've done my share of crying, healing and reintegrating aspects of my ego and my younger self. But the beauty of doing it, why we do that work, is because the other side of it is a deeper sense of wholeness, knowing yourself, trusting yourself.
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and realizing that you are the abundance, you are the vision, you are the sense of purpose, you are the medicine that's meant to flow through you. And it changes from looking for the answers outside of you and having that sense of fear and insecurity that many do, especially as the early stages of growing a business when there's a lot of uncertainty, it shifts to coming home to the truth within you.
to your higher self and connecting with a deeper vision, a deeper sense of knowing because within you there is this blueprint, there is this vision for what you came into this world to share and your soul knows that and there are ways that you can access that. Something I love doing is helping my clients remember before they came into this world, what did they want to experience here? What do they want to share? What do they want to learn?
Why do they choose their parents? Why do they choose these things? And in this remembering, there is such a beautiful awakening and a recalling of sacred information that you can bring in to your life today in a very beautiful and practical way. So we don't have to die to remember these parts of ourselves. You simply learn how to connect with these aspects within you.
and it's a really beautiful and powerful process. and take a breath. And I think, you know, something that I love about this kind of where I've been moving into more recently, because I train healers, I've trained lots of healers, and I've worked with healers, and I've worked with lot of highly sensitive people, and it's beautiful work, and I love doing this. And moving now into helping
them to grow businesses that are focused on sharing your unique medicine and your gifts and creating abundance and realizing that you are the source of the abundance that you wish to create in your life. Something that's beautiful about this is it's like marrying the deeply spiritual and energetic with the incredibly grounded practical.
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And when you can take those two aspects and bridge them, then powerful things can happen in your internal reality and your physical external reality, meaning in your bank account, in your day-to-day schedule and life and lifestyle and impact that you create with the world. And for a lot of spiritual heart-centered people,
can be really, really good at living within and having that sense of vision and frequency. But then the next challenge is how do I bring that into action in the world, into the practical and the tangible? And often that's the step where a lot of the fears can come up of I don't want to take this action because it could mean this, this, and this, or I just freeze, or I feel overwhelmed, or all of a sudden I realize I need to recreate my logo on my website.
do all of these other things before taking this next step that's actually going to move the needle in my business. And so we had a beautiful group class last week with all of these healers and they were all kind of in a similar position. So we did some shifting and healing around that and seeing people taking action now. And it's really beautiful and exciting because it's when you only live in the inner world, this is like, this is the feminine energy. It's the...
creative power and When it isn't grounded or balanced with the masculine it's chaos. It's anxiety. It's too many options Not enough structure when you bring in the balance of masculine energy and we're not talking male or female I'm just talking energetic qualities that are within each of us You bring in the aspect of the masculine. This is the form. This is a structure This is bringing order to chaos so if we have this
behind vision for what we want to create in our world. Beautiful. That's feminine creative force. But we don't have a plan yet for how to actually bring that into our reality. That is lacking the masculine structure, the masculine energy. And there's a lot of people, and I've been this myself as well, of having a lot of feminine energy, but not being balanced in the grounded action and plan and structure. And for a lot of us, it can be about
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learning to integrate and heal the masculine, because we may have, you know, growing up in the patriarchy. There's all kinds of reasons why people could reject the masculine. But it is also sacred, and it is the yang to the yin, and we need both in order to really achieve what we set out to do in this really beautiful, balanced way. And so the masculine is amazing. The masculine supports the feminine. It gives form.
to the feminine. And so that's part of what we've been doing in my sacred business membership is the step-by-step plan in creating the building blocks to your business coming from the really essential foundational pieces of messaging and vision and awareness of what it is that you really do and the power of that and who it's for and how it transforms lives so that the right people can find you.
If your messaging is very vague, if you're trying to help everybody, it's just going to get lost in the noise. And I've been guilty of that in the past myself 100 % more. I didn't want to feel like I was limited or in a box. I just wanted to help everybody. But the problem with that is if you try to speak to everyone, you don't really speak to anyone. And for your solo line clients to find you, they need to be able to hear you.
They need to hear you speak from your heart without the mask and they need to hear you speak to them in a way that shows them that you know them, that you understand what they're going through, what their challenges are, what they really want, and that you can help them get there. And then a lot of it is really having the confidence to know that you can. And you absolutely can if you're feeling called to this work. It doesn't mean that there isn't necessarily skills and new things to learn and develop.
But I find one of the biggest pieces to learn and develop, the most important one, one of the most important ones is your confidence and knowing that you have a mission, that you've come here to support others with a very specific thing and a specific way. There's certain people who are meant to work with you specifically and they're just waiting for you. And so accessing that vision, that clarity, that confidence, then you begin to become someone who can hold that vision.
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and that faith in others, knowing that they are not their limitations, they are not their lack, that they are so much more than that, that they are capable of anything, and being able to see them as whole powerful beings, because that's truly so important, that's what's needed to help someone step into their powers to be able to witness that aspect of them. And I see that in all of you guys, I know...
that you are a limitless, powerful being. You are consciousness, you are energy, you are a soul experiencing what it's like to be a human. And you are multifaceted. So you have this body, but you are so much more than it. You have this identity, but you are so much more than that. And that identity can be flexible, can be fluid, and the more you don't attach to any one identity of whatever that is, wife,
coach, office worker, whatever that is, allowing that identity to be something that you are aware of, but it is not your whole world. Because the more you allow yourself to expand beyond that and step into new identities and have new ego deaths so that you can awaken to someone even bigger than you were before.
the more that you get to grow, the more that you get to transform and expand and step into even more of your deeper, truer, limitless self. So, I feel like I've rambled for long enough. Thank you guys for being on this journey with me. I think I were to recap, the biggest things that I wanna share with you today, it is that ultimately everything comes down to love.
and experiencing and preparing for my dog's transition out of this form, I'm really being with the practice of coming back to love. so letting myself cry when I need to cry, mostly stepping away and doing, like, I don't want him to feel that pain that I'm processing, because he's got a lot going on in himself, on his own. So processing that, feeling that emotion.
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and then coming back to feeling of love and holding him in that frequency of love. That's what is most nurturing to him right now. And it's also nurturing to me to be in that place within the heart that is focused on love and connection. And business is really a practice of love too. When you approach it from a place of alignment and clarity and authenticity and
allowing yourself to be bigger, not only for you, but also for your clients. I had one of my clients in the membership the other day who's getting into coaching people, having them to write their books. She said, this is going to change people's lives. And that's just it. When you allow yourself to step into that knowing and the bigness of your vision and your mission in this world, it does change lives.
And the ego wants to pull back and say, no, I'm not good enough, I'm not big enough, who might have think that, that's arrogant. It's not arrogant. It's egoic to make yourself small. The ego makes it, believes it is either better than or lesser than others. When you believe that you are limitless, that is not egoic, that is just truth and it's the same truth for all of us. It's not a comparison of better or worse than. You are limitless, so is everyone else.
And you have a unique medicine that's different than everybody else's because your energy, your consciousness, your experiences are unique to you and the way that you bring your light into the world, a way that supports the world and is an expression of yourself, that is your unique medicine. So the more that you learn to lower that mask and step into your authenticity, the more that you share
that medicine that is innately within you that is meant to come through. And why is it so important to approach it in this way? Because as Brene Brown has said, unshared creativity is not benign, it is malignant. And so another way of looking at that is what the energy that is meant to be expressed through you.
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If you don't share that, it becomes stuck energy in the body. the energy, the body is an energy circuit. It is meant to be flowing healthy. Individuals have flowing energy. Disease comes from when energy stops flowing and becomes blocked. And that happens because of the ego and the beliefs that we form that can limit us. So part of stepping into this authentic expression is about healing those pieces so that
healing those limitations and fears so that you can express authentically and share authentically. And part of me coming on here today is me practicing this as well, is me speaking from the heart and with full, like I didn't have a script before coming on here. I was, had the intention, I'm going to record a podcast today and I'm allowing, I'm allowing that intention to guide me. And I had some loose ideas of what I wanted to share, but ultimately this is flow that moves through me.
And as I allow that flow to move through me, I get out of my own way. And the more I can get out of my own way, the better I can serve you. And so it's a practice that I'm practicing, it is what I'm teaching my clients, and it is something that there's always room to go even deeper into, because there's these layers and layers and layers of the false self, of the ego that we form, and...
It's not bad that we form an ego, it's natural part of the human experience that we go through. I've heard it beautifully described as the initiation. And I love that because there is a moment throughout our life when we come into this world, or possibly even before we are born, when we have our initiation and that is the first time that we feel hurt, our sense of wounding. And I'm not talking about like physical pain, that's different. I'm talking about
hurt because we believe that maybe we were a crying baby and someone left the room and as that baby we didn't know if they were ever coming back and we felt abandoned in that moment or helpless or not knowing if we're going to be able to survive. Not knowing that our parents just want to go do something and they'll be back and we're fine. from the awareness that we have when we are very young in that moment that could have been your initiation or something like that where you felt abandoned.
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And then that becomes a core wound that you carry throughout life and a part of these core structures through which you see reality. So maybe that manifests later in partnerships where you fear someone's going to abandon you. And maybe that manifests as them actually leaving you through this anxious attachment style. This is just one example of the initiation of the beginning of the formation of the masks that we can wear throughout our life.
And as you shift that, it's a process of healing it, becoming aware of it, experiencing the emotion and releasing them from the body, because that's where these things live, not in the mind, in the body. So we don't over-intellectualize them. We feel them in the body so we can process and release them. As you do that, you begin to have the ability to speak more from the heart, more from your authentic self, because you're able...
to allow the energy to flow and you're able to access those parts of you. So if you struggle to speak with a sense of clarity and authenticity, or if you struggle to feel like you know yourself or trust yourself, those are the masks. That is the ego. That is the stuck energy that is formed through these perceptions and these beliefs about ourself, life and others. When you shift those pieces, this is really deep stuff, because this is like,
the core structures through which you perceive reality, which by the way is totally neutral. Reality just is. We give it meaning. So if you've given it a meaning that's painful, you don't have to live in a painful reality. You don't have to feel like life is a nightmare because it's a dream regardless. The way that we experience reality in this infinite world of possibility and energy and stimulus
our mind deletes, distorts, and generalizes so that we can form a story of reality in a way that we can process and understand it. And if your story of reality is one based on fear or lack, like it is for most humans, in part at least, then those are the limitations that are within you, not around you. It is not that reality can't give you something. It is that
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you have an energetic block within you that's preventing you from receiving that from reality. And so the way to receive what it is you're looking for, it's not a matter of getting, it's a matter of healing and then allowing it to flow through you. Pretty wild. So the more that you transform the inner obstacles within you,
So if you, for example, struggle with feeling secure and safe in abundance and finances or visibility and being seen, being known, it is not that the world is unsafe or that the world can't support you. It is that you have these core wounds that have shaped your vision of reality. And the only way to truly change that, even if you had a
Fear of instability financially, it wouldn't matter how much money you made if you had millions and millions of dollars There's lots of rich people out there who are afraid of losing it all or lots of rich people out there who are asset rich But they've spent all of their other funds and they're effectively poor You create the reality based on these blueprints that are within your subconscious that are within the ego and the perceptions through which You see the world It is not about
changing it outside of you is always about changing it within you. And when you do that, you release the block, you release the limitation of not enough. And you realize that you are the source through which that energy flows. And as you share it, more of that is magnetized to you and it becomes this reciprocity of an in-breath and an out-breath of you sharing your gifts for my clients through their businesses.
you speaking your truth and you sharing your medicine and providing value to others, that is the abundance coming through you and that does get reciprocated with the practical form, the symbols of money coming back to you in exchange. And so as long as you are able to connect with that source within you, you are able to continue creating wealth around you. And so then it becomes no longer about trying to get
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So much as it is allowing and healing and integrating so that you permit yourself to share and then receive the reciprocity of sharing and receiving. Okay, so thank you for listening. my goodness, how do I wrap all this up? I feel like it went all over the place, but I love it. That's part of not reading from a script, but just what feels alive in me today and what wants to be shared. And I trust that what is alive within me
is for a reason and as I share it, it is alive within the right people who are hearing it at this time and that is not an accident that you chose to listen to this episode at this particular moment in your life and it's my intention that you receive exactly what you need from it at this time. So I'm sending you so much love. If you want to connect with me, you can find me on Instagram at yourmindbodyfree. You can join
If you want to subscribe to the podcast, you can do that with the link in the show notes. And if you want to learn more about sacred business or working one-on-one with me for more bespoke business growth, then you can find a link to schedule a strategy session in the show notes as well. Sending you so much love. Thank you for listening. Thank you for being on earth. And I'm so excited for all of the beauty and life that you bring into this world and where you're going next. Bye.