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You Can Mentor is a network that equips and encourages mentors and mentoring leaders through resources and relationships to love God, love others, and make disciples in their own community. We want to see Christian mentors thrive.
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You can mentor is a network that equips and encourages mentors and mentoring organizations through resources and relationships to love God, love others and make disciples. Learn more at you can mentor.com or follow us on social media. You can mentor.
Speaker 2:Hello, everyone. This is John b, and this is your mentoring minute. Are you sure? So in my line of work, I hear those three little words all the time. They come after I give something to someone usually or offer to help someone do something.
Speaker 2:So my nonprofit is based on Jesus' words in Matthew chapter 10, 7, and 8 that says, freely you've been given, so freely give. So, I practice the act of remembering whatever I have is really God's and not mine anyway. Here is a truth that I really believe. We are not called to do things half hearted. When I hear someone ask, are you sure?
Speaker 2:I understand it has really less to do with their questioning my decisiveness or integrity and kind of more to do with their processing of kindness. Right? That have you ever had a that experience of doing something nice for someone and they it almost takes them a second to even understand what's happening? So when we hear that, wait a minute. Are you sure?
Speaker 2:Again, that is something that, I think is really special and that I want to remember. Oh, yeah. I might be even dealing with someone who's just not sure about or not not able maybe to process grace or kindness. So I want to make sure that I'm living without regrets. Right?
Speaker 2:What's the best thing about being certain in what we do and say? Well, we usually don't regret our decisions. Making a choice or decision with all of who we are means that we have considered the options and are comfortable moving forward. We're not second guessing ourselves, and there's really a wonderful freedom in that. Okay.
Speaker 2:So here are 3 practical steps that you can use to be certain in your decisions and then model that for your mentees. Number 1, 1st and foremost, listen to Jesus. He said in Matthew chapter 5 that we're foolish to make oaths on anything in heaven, on earth, or even on ourselves because when did we get the power to even turn a hair white or black on our heads? Jesus instructs us to be practical. He says, listen, let your yes be yes and let your no be no, and then do what you say you're going to do.
Speaker 2:That should be enough. Secondly, be okay with just taking a beat, as I like to call, just taking a second to think for a moment. You don't always have to come right back with a shoot from the hip, knee jerk response answer when you are given a question. Wait a beat. Give yourself time and space when making a decision.
Speaker 2:Don't let your mouth get out ahead of your brain. Even pray about it in that moment. Think about it. Once you feel that you can make a decision with all of your faculties, right, with all of you agreeing on it, then you can say yes or no. And finally, don't forget this, you are a human being.
Speaker 2:I very rarely go back on my word, but sometimes I'll admit to you I do. And, man, I beat myself up about it. But when those times happen, I ask forgiveness from the person that I've slighted, and I try to make it up to them, and finally, I give myself a break. There will be limitless opportunities for you to practice consistency and show integrity with your words and actions as you mentor someone. I hope that you will make it a priority for your words to matter, and that you will set a good example for those that you mentee or that you mentor.
Speaker 2:Remember Isaiah 5511 because it reminds us that every word that goes forth from god's mouth does not return to him void. God does not make empty promises. If he has given you a word on something, you can trust him to be good and to make good on it. We can stand on God's word, after all, his word is his bond. So let's stand on that.
Speaker 2:Let's rest in that. Let's reflect that by practicing consistency between what we do and say we are worshiping him that way, and let's model that for our mentee. Are you sure? Yes, I am. Well, hey, thanks for listening to our mentoring minute.
Speaker 2:And remember, you can mentor.
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Speaker 1:Thank you. And remember, you can mentor.