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Welcome to Flip the Script with Vic, your weekly pep talk to expand and shift your perspective. I’m your host, Victoria Nielsen. Together, we’ll unwind all the things you thought you knew, and awaken to what’s truly possible when you flip the script on your reality and take control of your own life.
Speaker A [00:00:00]:
Hello, loves. Welcome to another episode of Flip the script with Vic. I'm your host, Victoria Nielsen. Today we're going to be talking about a few things, but intuition is top of mind for me because I just finished a Kriya to know that, you know, and a Kriya in Kundalini yoga is just a complete action. So it's a series of movements, mudras and breath that bring you to a complete state of something. So this Kriya in particular was about tapping into your intuition and reminding you that you always know and that you have always known. And Kundalini is the yoga of awareness. And I love practicing Kundalini every single morning because it allows me to go inward and tap into that wise, intuitive aspect of myself and then move from that place throughout the day.
Speaker A [00:00:54]:
So that I'm always tapped into what my intuition says is the right decision for me. And as I was sitting there meditating, I was thinking about the fact that to really be able to tap into your intuition, which is something that I teach women from all over the globe, you have to feel safe within your body. And to be able to feel safe within your body, you have to really relax the nervous system. And you have to really almost reprogram yourself to feel that sense of safety, because that's not something that is innate these days. You are innately born with it. When you are young, you feel safe, right, with your parents or in your own body and in your environment. You haven't learned to be in survival mode. You haven't learned to constantly be in flight or flight, which many of us are in the world.
Speaker A [00:01:56]:
We're living from paycheck to paycheck. We're just trying to survive. And when you're in that state, it's no wonder that you can't hear the subtle whispers of your intuition. It's no wonder that you don't think that you have all the answers within, because you are always looking without and outside of yourself for a way out of maybe your current circumstances, or of the thing that is causing your heart to race and causing you to feel anxiety and panic and unease in the body. And I grew up without a lot. We lived with four generations under one roof, and I had to work to pay my way through college. And I've had a job since I was 14, my first job ever. I was a housekeeper at 14 years old.
Speaker A [00:02:50]:
And so I innately learned that safety came from working hard, that if I worked really hard, I could provide for myself and I could take care of myself. And that has carried with me through many, many years. And it's only the last couple of years that I've been able to see that actually, that was a false narrative playing out, that that's not creating safety in the body, that working hard is actually almost doing the opposite, right? And I'm not saying that you should never work hard. But I'm saying that not when it's at the detriment of your health and your mental health and your well being within your body. Because true well being within the body is an ease and a flow and a softness that I don't think many of us feel on a daily basis because we're in that survival mode, because we're working so hard, because we are so go go. And I probably sound like a broken record because I always say this in many of the podcasts that rest and receiving and being in that surrender state, that feminine state is what the world needs. And I can say that wholeheartedly because over these last three years of leaning more into my feminine flow and doing less and really allowing my nervous system to relax, that's when I have seen the greatest joys and the greatest successes and the greatest achievements and all of those sound like very masculine words. And I have achieved a lot in the masculine world but I've also achieved a lot in those little daily moments that maybe to others don't warrant a gold star or aren't really like an achievement, right? But are those intangible things that mean a life is being lived well and mean a life of happiness and fulfillment and the things that you can't maybe put your finger on that the outside world hasn't labeled right? Those things I feel like I'm kicking ass at, like I'm doing so much more of that intangible thing that genesequois, if you will, because of the safety that I have created in my body and talking back about kind of the nervous system.
Speaker A [00:05:19]:
I learned a lot of this in my breath work, facilitator training, that we are just in constant fight or flight. We're in that survival mode because everything feels like it's all or nothing. Everything feels like it's life or death and not really life or death, right? But in our amygdala, in our brain it feels like it is because we are bombarded with things constantly. We are always looking for that next dopamine hit. We are always looking for that next high, if you will. And it's wild to think about because even though we may not be addicts, right, in the traditional sense, everyone is addicted to something and that addiction forms because we feel unsafe. Because we are looking outside of ourselves for something to make us feel better. Because we want that next hit of serotonin, that hit of dopamine.
Speaker A [00:06:12]:
And I'm here to tell you that not every day has to be the best day ever. And maybe you're going to throw oranges at me about that, but it's true. Every day can't be the best day ever. That's not how the world works. The world craves balance and so for every good day there are going to be bad days, but the good days will come again. And that is just the cyclical nature of life that is the duality of Earth. And we're trying to escape that as humans because we don't feel safe in our bodies and because we are tired of just surviving. Aren't you tired? I'm so tired of trying to keep up with the Joneses and do all the right things and say all the right things and please all the right people and fuck that.
Speaker A [00:07:01]:
My peace comes from not caring about that. My peace comes from myself. It comes from within. It doesn't come from the things that I buy or the people that like me or anything outside of myself. And so I'm really realizing this morning that as much as I talk about intuition and the subtle signs of listening to your intuition and how it can show up for you in songs and in animals and in just this innate knowing within the body. If you take it a step back from that, you're not going to be able to feel or see those things again. If you don't feel safe in your body. And so how do you create some of that safety? Well, you can have a meditation practice in the morning, which I highly, highly recommend.
Speaker A [00:07:48]:
Some type of morning practice, morning routine that allows you to escape from the hustle and bustle of the everyday. Maybe you journal in the morning or I mean, breath work seriously changed my life. And so it's one of the things that I will always tout that you should do because it is free and it is so calming to your nervous system because you're telling your body that it's okay to relax, that it's okay to receive that. It doesn't need to be tense and holding on to all of the things, because that's what creates disease within the body, is you're holding on to these stories and these worries and these fears, and they manifest in different parts of the body. Right? So people with chronic illness, a lot of it comes from being in constant survival mode, from being in burnout because the body doesn't think it's safe to relax. So it holds on to all the toxins and all the things. And so just taking deep breaths every single day is going to signal to your body that it's okay. And being in nature signals to your body that it's okay to open and to receive.
Speaker A [00:09:03]:
And I get that not everyone has the time or the wherewithal to be able to go out and go for hikes and things like that. But just spending time beneath a tree and putting your feet in the earth, feeling that soil in between your toes and asking Mother Earth to come into your body and hold you and support you, she will do it anytime and she will do it lovingly. But you have to make that connection with her, with your feet. And you're recharging the negative and positive ions in the body. When you put your feet on the grass, you are attuning yourself to the natural polarity of Earth, and you are giving yourself the natural ions that your body needs and going to the beach, like being around water, all of those things will be naturally calming and relaxing. And I'm going to say it, you got to put the phone down. And I'm the worst at this too, right? But I've really been trying at least one day of the weekend to leave my phone somewhere for a portion of the day to not even look at it. Don't check the emails, don't check the things, because everything that's coming into your phone is causing a mini fight or flight response in the body.
Speaker A [00:10:24]:
Do you need to respond to this right away? Do you need to file this away for later to take care of or do something about you're constantly making your brain have to think like, I have to respond, I have to respond, I have to respond. And the body is tired of having to respond to every little thing. And so when we give it these little breaks, when we allow it to rest, we're really allowing ourselves to cultivate that inner sense of well being and give our bodies room and space to feel with our senses those intuitive pings and those intuitive thoughts that are always coming to us from the universe. And another way to create safety in the body is with affirmations. And this one actually came from a mentor of mine, Lauren Love, who was reminding me that I am safe and capable. And I really loved that. I love just saying I am safe and capable of whatever it is that I'm trying to do. And it's one that I've actually taught the kids.
Speaker A [00:11:27]:
I tell Sebastian all the time that he is safe and to say I am safe when he's having a meltdown or when he's really freaking out. You are safe. You are safe. Just like anyone listening is safe. You are safe to relax. You are safe to receive. You are safe to be in your body because that's the biggest thing, right? Everything these days, it feels like, is created or about bringing us outside of our bodies or bringing us so into our heads or into our minds that we're not really present with what's happening. And I feel like this last year, I've always been about embodiment.
Speaker A [00:12:12]:
I mean, I've done yoga for years, I've done movement practices, I've done boxing. I mean, all of the things, right? But when you put that intention behind it, to really feel what it feels like to be in your body, whoa, does that make a difference? I started doing Pilates more regularly, and I used to do it when I was younger, but I really stopped more because it was like, oh, I don't sweat enough. This workout isn't hard enough for me. And what a masculine mentality right, of like, oh, this needs to be so hard that I puke afterwards. Or like, this I need to suffer during this thing? You don't need to suffer while you're taking care of yourself. You don't need to suffer while you are taking care of the vessel that is your body. You only have one body in this lifetime, right? And instead of talking badly to it and being mean to it, imagine what would happen if you lifted it up, if you were intentional in your movements, gentle in your movements. So I really like pilates, and I use Melissa Wood health.
Speaker A [00:13:16]:
Her app is amazing because she's really great at reminding you to be intentional with your movement, that you're not just lifting your leg right, you're reaching all the way to the sky. And it's really changed the game for me in terms of feeling present in my body, because I feel all those little muscles that I don't use every single day and I'm really making sure that I have good form. And maybe it's the ex ballerina in me, but I just really enjoy being able to lengthen and strengthen and stretch my muscles in a really gentle way. I was going back the other day and looking when I started my Instagram account. It was right when Rocky was born, almost a year and a half ago. And I was just doing all these videos of me talking to the camera because I didn't know what else to do. I had a newborn baby. Half the time he's like on my shoulder making these videos, but I was out for a walk with him and I had this thought about doing things slowly and doing things gently and it was pretty profound for me at the time.
Speaker A [00:14:24]:
And it was nice to come back to that perspective again. And it was a beautiful reminder because I was starting to get hard on myself of, oh, I haven't moved my body enough, or oh, I'm feeling really lazy. But what if we did things slowly? What if that was just the way that we did them? And that actually we could get further faster and be stronger by being slow and intentional versus trying to race to the finish line and get onto the next thing. It's that dopamine hit right, like you're racing ticket done so that you can chase that high again with something else. And instead, can you train your mind to be okay in the calmness and in the peace? And that's actually really interesting because I feel like those of us I grew up with I don't want to say a lot of chaos, but I'm from a loud ass Cuban family. There was four generations of us under one roof. My parents divorced when I was like seven or eight. And so there was a bit of that chaos and uncertainty in my life and because that's how I grew up.
Speaker A [00:15:23]:
When I finally found safety in my husband, in my family, in my body, I didn't know what to do with it. It felt really fucking weird. When I was in a relationship that we weren't screaming at each other or it was really calm, I would get bored and break up with him because I wanted that chaos, that yelling, that anger, because I thought that that passion meant that, oh my God, you're so in love. And that chaos meant like, oh, this is how it's supposed to be. But that's not true. That's not true. We are not meant to be in constant chaos. We are meant to be in softness.
Speaker A [00:16:02]:
And being soft is strong. Being soft is resilient, is flexible. That flexibility leads you to curiosity. When you are in survival mode, when you are in that chaos, you are not curious about the life around you. You are just looking what's right in front of you and you can't think of the future. Of course you can't think of the future. You're trying to survive. And that's not what we're meant to do.
Speaker A [00:16:30]:
We are meant to thrive. We are here to live to our full potential, to live to the best of our ability. And we're not able to do that if we can't be curious with ourselves, if we can't wonder if we can't dream. And so that's what this is really about. I feel like that safety in the body, the safety in your life, that calmness, that peace that we're all trying to cultivate or that I'm personally trying to cultivate, allows me to dream. And it allows me to think of the infinite possibilities. I was reading a book last night, and it's based on, like, a fairy tale. But the point of what she was trying to say is that all these fairy tales that she was read when she was little, her parents taught her that they're infinitely possible endings.
Speaker A [00:17:19]:
And I love that because I think that's true for life too. We have infinite possible endings, infinite ways that anything can go in life. And that gives us hope and that gives us maybe a light where it's dark. And I want you to know that you deserve that. You can have that. You just have to allow yourself to feel safe and allow yourself to get off the rat race, get off the go go wheel. And I understand that it's more practical for some than others. I get it.
Speaker A [00:17:54]:
I was raised by a single mom that worked really, really hard. But I don't prescribe to the narrative that you have to work really hard until you die. I don't believe that anymore. It was something that I grew up thinking that I was always going to have to work hard, but I don't believe that's true anymore. And all of the peace and space and abundance that I've cultivated in my life is from unlearning rewiring uncovering all of these things about myself. Because I'm sure it's really easy to look at me now and say, well, yeah, Victoria, like, you've got it easy. But it wasn't always the case. That wasn't always how it was.
Speaker A [00:18:34]:
And I have cultivated this in my life because that peace means everything to me, that safety means everything to me. I can't do anything if I don't feel fully grounded, supported and safe. And I'm going to bet that the same is true for you, too. And so if you get nothing else from this episode, I hope it's that you start to cultivate those little moments for yourself and that you carve them out and that you hold them to you as precious little gems, right? Because they are. And because you deserve to thrive in this life and not just survive, and you deserve to have this safety and this peace and this relaxation and this freedom, right? Because that's what all of this ultimately leads to, is freedom. And I know that's my ultimate goal in this life is to be as free as possible. So thank you for tuning in this week. I am so excited.
Speaker A [00:19:32]:
The portal collective, my online Kundalini and Breathwork membership, we have a new theme every single month, and next month's theme is Rest. So we're going to have a beautiful yoga Nidra, which is a very relaxing meditation that will allow you to cultivate that safety in the body. And you can sign up in the show notes. We have new meditations every single month and it is a beautiful way for you to support yourself as you are allowing yourself to get curious and dream. And I have a retreat coming up in April in Baja, Mexico. I'll be releasing more details on that very soon. Please like Rate subscribe share this podcast with anyone that you think it would resonate with. I love being able to just share what's on my heart with you each week.
Speaker A [00:20:24]:
I hope you guys have a beautiful rest of your week, your day, and I'll see you next week. Be good to one another. I love you.