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Podcast: Hey There Thivival
Hi everyone.
Welcome to the Hey There Thrivial podcast.
My name is Emily and in this
podcast we talk all things twins,
multiples parenthood, wellness,
and everything in between.
Today's guest is as
inspiring as she's authentic.
Taylor Tudehope Glachan of
the Glachan Quad Squad has
shared her journey and amassed
an eye watering.
14 million views and counting.
Online, she's a mum to quad
droplets and share has so much body
positivity energy and inspiration.
Today we're gonna get into the
weeds, who she was pre babies, her
journey pregnancy feeding sleep.
Does she sleep?
and also we're going to
get into her top tips.
So for other parents, takeaways there
that I think you'll really enjoy
whether you've got multiples or not.
As always, if you enjoy my podcast,
I'd really appreciate it if you
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We'll get this podcast sent to
other parents to get them best set
up to thrive, not just survive.
Okay, let's jump in.
Emily: Taylah, welcome to the,
Hey There, revival podcast.
It is wonderful to have you here today.
Thanks for making the time.
Could you give us a little bit of
an introduction about who you are
and why you're on the pod today?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: is Taylah am
a, I don't know if we'd call myself
new anymore because now it's 19
months, but I'm a mum to quadruplets.
and I've been documenting
our crazy journey since.
pretty much we found out we were pregnant
and it's just been a wild ride since.
Emily: Wonderful.
And so what are the names of your babies?
Let's get those out as well.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yes, so we
have, I'll go to youngest, we have
Daisy, she's our only girl, then Archie,
Billy and Charlie.
Emily: Lovely.
And then your partner, Sean
Special shout out to him.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: in the mix there
too.
Yes.
Emily: Important.
Important.
piece.
I don't know if he is like my
partner, but he likes to say
that he is like a super dad.
Does he do that?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: talking about, oh
my God, how did you have all these kids?
Or whatever.
He's I'm here too.
I'm in the background.
I'm
Emily: Very
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: it.
Emily: Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And well, part of the creator, I mean,
you did do the baking though, but
important, very important
to also have Sean.
so you are based in Australia, for
those of our audience that are overseas.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Sean and
I are pretty much born and raised
in the area that we live in.
I did move away a little bit
when I was younger and came back.
so we are surrounded by pretty much all
of our friends and family, here, which
we're super, super lucky
for.
Emily: That's so good.
I feel like that
definitely is a huge bonus.
So Taylah Tell us about who
you were before having quads.
obviously you are highly documented
online, which we'll get into, but who
were you before that, before that became,
associated as part of your identity?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah, it's,
it's crazy to look back on because I
feel like my identity has completely
shifted since becoming a mum which I love.
I love this new era that I'm in.
I love the new version of me.
but prior to having kids, I
was, yeah, I was very social.
I was out there.
I would, most weekends I was
going out, having fun with
the girls, that kind of thing.
I was really into my sports.
I played competitive
sports, all growing up.
we also, Sean and I were really
big into our renovations, so we had
bought a house back when we were,
I think when we were 23 or so.
So we had always been that that was
our main hobby on a weekend and then go
catch up with friends in the afternoon.
throughout
the week.
I was a primary school
teacher.
Emily: Mm.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I had
graduated.
I was actually on my internship
when I found out I was pregnant.
I had been teaching at the local
primary school that I went to.
So I had a lot of my primary
teachers there, which was lovely.
and to add to that, Sean is a
high school teacher, so through
the week would be teachers.
Then school holidays we would
try and get away and travel.
We had a van for a little bit.
So yeah, we dipped our toes in everything.
But most of the time we were out.
We always had people with us.
and that has carried across into our life
now, except for the late nights, with
baby bottles rather than a nice cider or
something like that.
Emily: Slightly different.
Just as fun though, right?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah,
Emily: Super fun all night.
Okay.
Amazing.
Well, I love that you're both teachers.
did that cement the relationship
or was that something that
of happened later?
I think you met early on, right?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: we've been
together since, I was 16, Sean was 17.
We met in high school.
and yeah, we started dating.
I had come to the high school a
bit later on in the mix, and so we
pretty much started dating, only a
little bit after knowing each other.
I didn't go to uni until later on.
I'd spent a few years out of high
school working different jobs Sean
went straight into university and
went straight to doing teaching.
but we love helping people, especially
the youth and our community.
So teaching was just a
natural path that we both
fell into.
Emily: Amazing.
And little did you know, so helpful
with having children as well.
I imagine there's a few skills in
there, which will be very handy.
And the house renovation as well.
Maybe it was just always meant
to be you guys had a house young.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah,
Emily: so it's a few.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: didn't
think to renovate it for quadruplets.
We renovated it to be like a cute little
two and a half bedroom, one bathroom home.
This will be great.
We will like, as our family
grows, we'll make it bigger.
We just didn't realize we
were gonna get an instant family
and
Emily: picked that one up, Taylah.
I don't know how you missed it.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I can't
believe I didn't see that down
our path, especially when we're
like, we're gonna have three kids.
Boom.
We had a
surprise one in the mix.
Emily: An extra bonus.
that's, really interesting.
And I was going to ask, do you know
if you've got many twins or triplets
or quads through the generations on,
I guess it's from the mother's line.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah, so we had
done IVF, and during during that process,
that question comes up a bit, and we
had been speaking with our families and
nothing had come up, until I announced
that I was pregnant with quadruplets to
my mum, and she was like, Hey, hold on.
I'm pretty sure my
great-grandfather was a triplet.
I said,
right.
Emily: thanks mum.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: thanks mum
That would've been good to know.
So this wasn't such a, like a surprise,
but yeah, apparently I've got a painting.
It's like a really old picture,
but yeah.
He was a
triplet.
Emily: Wow.
That is absolutely wild.
And yeah, I guess, yeah.
I wonder if they could even
been quads back in the day
too, because you never know.
'because
better days now.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Dad's her
grandfather, my great-grandfather.
Emily: Amazing.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Mm-hmm.
Emily: have no spare time, but it
would be interesting to do your family
tree all the way up to 17 hundreds.
I did that and I've seen
so many sets of twins.
My mind is blown.
There's like, I think there's 17 that
I accidentally came across, which is
I, you might have a few
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah.
Emily: when you've got some spare time.
Yeah, well, when you've got spare time
or maybe someone wants to do it for you.
now as you mentioned, you've been
documenting your journey online.
When I last checked,
you had a whopping 14.2
million views on one of the platforms.
It's probably up now because that was
when we first attempted this podcast.
Common, common.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: down my whole
Emily: Oh my gosh.
Yeah.
Nightmare.
And this is honestly, this is a
very, typical event with my guests
that, multiples parents reschedule.
how has that been being so
public, has it been comfortable?
Has it been a warm place?
Has it been challenging?
love to hear a little bit of
what that has been like for you.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Well, we
started our social media purely just
to update our friends and family.
Like we just had so many group chats
going on and we're like, look, let's
just start like an Instagram and we
can keep you guys all updated on there.
and I think when we posted, our
reaction videos, it just blew up.
there was one night we uploaded
it and our friends were calling us
going, are you seeing this on TikTok?
Like it is going bananas.
and yeah, it quickly, yeah, grew and
it has been the most, like the of
the bigger blessings in this process
as well, We have been so lucky for
that community that it's created
because it has been a warm community.
It's been a supportive community
in ways that we never expected
and ways that we didn't even
think that we needed the support.
so yeah, we have been
so, so lucky with that.
It has, created incredible opportunities,
able to be at home with the kids
now full time without the stress
of having to go back to work.
but yeah, we run into people down the
street and it is, it's nice because
we get to see people and talk about
the kids and, and then it's also nice
running into people that haven't seen
us on social media, because then we
get to share our whole story with him.
It's like going down memory lane.
yeah, it's, it's been crazy, but like a
good, crazy, we
love it.
Emily: That's so nice.
I'm glad to hear that because I
have to say, being public, you just
never know what people will be like.
You'd hope that they'd be, warm
and caring, but you never know.
So I am really thrilled to hear that.
'cause I did wonder, I was like,
hopefully people are being nice.
'because there can be
some interesting characters.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
they outweigh everyone else.
We did have a bit of a bout where, I did
post about how many nappies we were using
in a week and got absolutely slammed.
because apparently people
are quadruplets should
be using reusable
nappies and
Emily: Hmm.
Yeah.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: of the
people that haven't had multiples and just
Yeah, have no idea.
Emily: Yeah, it's definitely, I was just
speaking to a mum who will be a guest
later, so I won't mention all the details.
Very exciting.
but she is absolutely a multiples mother
and was again talking about.
If you haven't had them.
It is very difficult, like anything in
life to really appreciate what it is to
have all those babies at once with the
same inability and the logistics and the,
the, the energy as opposed to when people
are like, Hey, I had two close together,
or I had five close together, I get it.
And well, you probably get part
of it, but not the whole thing.
very different.
So, So let's go into your
journey to falling, pregnant.
we talked a little bit about how you found
out and for anyone that's listening that
hasn't seen the videos, they are great.
I always find it interesting
when people remember to record,
but they're really good.
So go and check out Insta,
which I'll tag later.
but talk us through how you found out,
where were you, where you with Sean?
How did that go down?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: it's really
funny that we did video everybody else's
reactions, but we didn't film our own.
So had gone through IVF.
So we're at our IVF clinic.
and before we went in I said, oh,
we should just record this, Sean.
and he goes, mument be in the but
anyway, so we went in, typical ultrasound
room, the big TV in front of you.
You're laying on the bed, so everything's
coming up on the screen in front of you.
I have endometriosis and
polycystic ovary syndrome.
So I've seen multiple, ultrasounds
and how things should look.
So Sean was on.
My left shoulder very vividly.
Remember all this, and the sonographer
on my right, she put the wand
on and quickly pulled it away.
I just thought, oh, she's used the
wrong wand or something like that.
She's gotta redo something.
And then she's put it back on
and then pulled it away and there
was just a shock on her face.
And I had seen a fuse spots on the, sorry
if you can hear one of my kids snoring.
Just heard
them through the
monitor.
Emily: can't, but I'm sure it sounds cute.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: it is very cute.
yeah and yeah, the shock on her face.
I was like, okay, something's
going on here and I've seen a
few spots, what's happening?
And she just held my leg and said,
Taylah, you have multiple pregnancies in
here to the point where I actually have
to check and count how many there are.
I'm gonna quickly just
check that this is still
snoring.
Emily: That's okay.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yes,
Emily: I good.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Is
Emily: Is it snoring or something else?
Anyway, mum
life.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: and I
just, went into complete shock.
it was a time where you had to wear masks.
I remember like saying, oh my
God, Taylah catch your breath.
anyways, she started moving the
wand around and started counting,
going, okay, there's one sack, a
second, and we are going, my God.
It's two okay twins, we can handle twins.
And then she goes, there's a third.
And then I'm quickly thinking.
hasn't finished counting.
She knows that there's more than
three here, and then she's gone.
There's four.
And I remember just trying to find Sean's
hand and saying to myself, breathe.
breathe Taylah.
Otherwise you're gonna pass out.
and then she's like, okay, I
think there's four, but no, no.
no.
There's, there's no
room for thinking here.
Can we clarify?
There's four, we're not, I'm not about to
be Octo mum here, like what is going on?
she's done a quick sweep
back through and she's gone.
Yeah.
Okay.
Wow.
You have four pregnancies and we all
just, I was like completely honest.
I was hysterical 'cause I, yeah.
never heard of this,
never knew of multiples.
and my mind was going to the worst,
that this wasn't a viable pregnancy
and it was something that we worked so
hard and I was just thinking the worst.
And also we had just seen the
sack, so we thought, okay.
Maybe there's some false
pregnancies in there.
Or maybe there isn't any
living pregnancies in there.
There's a, there's a child
making noise.
Emily: Totally fine.
Do what you need to do.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Who is that?
Oh no.
Emily: Do you need to take a quick break?
So fine you go.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: won't be
too long.
I'll
be
Emily: Yeah.
All good.
How you doing?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: got him
back.
He's back asleep.
Emily: Woohoo.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: sorry
about
Emily: Good job.
muming.
It's Good.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: goodness.
This is just standard, uh.
Emily: Sometimes we gotta work
hard to get the goods right.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: we were, we
were talking about when I just found out.
So yeah, we were, like a bit
worried that they weren't four
viable pregnancies in there.
uh, we were still holding our breath
and she said, okay, well let's treat
this like any multiple pregnancy.
We'll start closest to the cervix and
let's go and check each individual sac.
and she started with what
we know now as Daisy.
and yeah, she checked inside that
sac and there was, I think, what she
called like a yoke, and there was the
strongest heartbeat I've heard to date.
And it still moves me because yeah,
you just, it's your first, and
you're hearing that for the first,
time, and you're it's one of your
own and just an incredible feeling.
Wow, okay.
There's one, we couldn't like
fully breathe yet because we had
another three to get through and,
yeah, she just kept moving on.
Okay.
That was one, and she labeled it,
I think she labeled it T one, and
then she went to the next one.
Healthy Heartbeat.
Again.
A yolk sack in there as well.
T two went to the third, and then I
think she got to the third and she
went, hold on, these aren't twins.
These are, what even are
these She's are quadruplets.
I've gotta label them Q 1, 2, 3, and four.
yeah, she went through each
of the sacks and there were
strong heartbeats throughout the
mall and all with a yolk sack.
And that yolk sack does play quite
a crucial part in all this because
that eventually becomes the placenta
and with multiples, the placenta
plays a large role in whether they're
sharing it, and things like that.
And in our case, that ended up being, each
of them had their own placenta and they
were all
Emily: Amazing.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: So it eliminated
a lot of potential issues that could have
happened.
and Yeah.
through all four of them, we
all just were in full disbelief.
I'd ripped my mask off by this stage.
And the excitement hadn't hit me yet.
I was still in a lot of fear.
Like I was think the things that
were rushing through my head were,
is this even a viable pregnancy?
Should I not get attached yet?
Because they could turn around and say
I'm sorry, but this will not progress.
So I was like, okay, detach if you can.
the next thing was, okay, we can't really
stop this pregnancy, but it's gonna
like have serious health risks for you.
And so then I was, I was literally
thinking do, do people survive
these kind of pregnancies?
Like what even is this, And everything
was just flooding in at that point.
and at that point we had only had, all we
knew was we had one embryo transferred,
we have four identical babies.
And yeah, it was very quickly
getting overwhelming and God
I had Sean there with me.
I honestly, I don't know what I'd do.
Sean wasn't there.
'cause I just squeezed his hand.
He didn't really say
much about this process.
He, his jaw was on the
floor.
He
Emily: I can imagine.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: never
really seen an ultrasound either.
He's just, this whole situation
was so foreign to him.
anyways, the sonographer ended
up saying, who were your nurses
throughout your IVF process?
And I told them, and she's
they're actually in today.
Do you mind if we bring them in?
We won't tell them anything.
We'll just bring them in.
We'll start showing them and
we'll let them figure it out.
in they both came and
she started scanning me.
And these two women were the first
glimmers of excitement that I had seen
because they were jumping up and down
and they were like, congratulating
Sean and I giving us hugs and
we're on, you can be about this.
this isn't doom and gloom.
Like we can be excited
about this kind of thing.
And that's when I started.
Oh, okay.
Yes.
Like I, I felt excitement.
Yeah, it was it was a hard thing to
process because everybody with, when
they go for their first ultrasound,
that's all they feel is excitement.
well hopefully if they're
having like a really good
pregnancy and things like that.
But yeah, I, I was feeling terrible
because I wasn't feeling excited
and I was thinking all these scary
things when this was meant to be
the most exciting time of our lives.
and they
Emily: Yeah,
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: in and she was
like, yep, that there's four in there.
yeah,
Emily: that's cool.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: my doctor
actually wasn't there for many,
like people with IVF will know
because it's so time sensitive.
If your doctor's away on a day,
they just ring in another doctor.
So my doctor.
wasn't there, but what do I do now?
what, what do we do now?
And they were all just Like, you need to
go, you need to go see your doctor asap.
And I was just thinking oh, I
don't even know where to start.
But anyways, they all took a
sonographer picture because a
picture of the, whatever you call it.
and yeah, keep one in the staff room.
I should have charged him for
it then I should have been.
Yep.
Emily: You should, you should have
signed it and been like, let's,
start paying cash for, uh,
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
for my appointment.
So, and
then we'll like kind
Emily: shoulda.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: The sonographer
was like, did you hear what just
happened in that room with these two?
And we were like, there's four.
And
Emily: Yeah.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: we we're
really excited 'cause everyone
around us was excited but.
The minute we got out the door,
I I nearly hit the floor like
getting to the car, Chanel holding
each other, getting to the car and
then I just burst out in tears.
I was just so scared, petrified.
yeah, we spent it was a it hour or
so drive home and nearly half of that
we just spent in silence holding each
other's hand just with me crying,
looking out the window, like some sad
music video until I was like, pull over.
We need chicken nuggets on the asap.
I
am hungry and this is
explaining
Emily: Amen.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
But yeah, that was
that was us finding out.
Emily: So amazing.
And just to put it in perspective for
everyone, so I saw the stats on this.
quads have only happened 11
times in Australia, 11 times
in Australia since 1967.
That actually blew my mind.
I thought that sounds like a lot.
I even got 11 still a lot.
I feel like it should be
more rare, but it's not.
So just to highlight that fun
fact to the audience 11 times in
Australia and then I'm sure America
because of IVF and, and just being
a population of 350,000, something
like that versus I think we're 27,
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah.
Emily: million over there.
About 27, 20 8 million here.
Something like that.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: prior to us
Emily: And
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: North
the last set of Quads that
were born there were in 1995.
Yes.
And fun fact about that.
We were on the news, obviously, announcing
that we'd had quads at Royal Shore.
And, a sibling of these quadruplets
actually out to me and she lived
like two suburbs away from me.
it was
Emily: in the water.
Be careful everyone.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I was like this.
And we had some mutual
people on Facebook and stuff.
I was like, what is
going on?
Wild.
Emily: Is she a distant relative?
You should check that out.
Maybe she's like,
meanwhile.
Yeah, she's like your great, great
auntie's, sister's, daughter's, mother.
wild.
look, that is such an amazing story
and I don't know, you guys are trying
for a year with your IVF and then you
got that So beautiful and shocking
and I do hear that a lot from parents.
it's a mixed reaction because
there's a lot of emotion and
joy and also obviously shock.
unless for some reason you knew
that quads were a family thing.
Thanks mum.
That would've been slightly
helpful, but anyway.
What was your most memorable or
funny response from family, friends
or strangers on the internet?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: one.
a girl at work, she was like, oh
my God, you've got like a litter.
And I
thought that was
Emily: It.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: was like, yeah.
I'm I'm like a, like a dog breeding
farm at the mument I feel like it too.
Emily: I think you can put it in
better words than dog breeding farm.
If you are in some countries, and this
is what I say to my partner for multiple
parents out there, if you're in some
countries, for example, Africa or India,
I know that, I have this now validated,
they would've put you on a throne
and carried you through the streets.
And my, my, my partner, my partner
works with a guy from Ghana and
he's like, absolutely, that's true.
Because he's like, "that wouldn't happen".
it would, and his friend said it would.
So not a hundred percent
validated, but I'll take it.
So
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah.
and actually that
surprising part of multiples that, there's
literally like hardly anything out there.
I was walking around,
I went to work the next
day and I
was doing
Emily: gosh.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I could,
I hadn't told anyone at that point.
I was only eight weeks.
I actually went and told my boss.
And I was just walking around no one knows
that I have quadruples in here right now.
And I was, I felt like I was on this
secret mission, no one's undercover and,
'cause I was fully I had a full bump.
Like when I went for my ultrasound,
I took a bump pick
and I was like,
Emily: Two weeks.
Whoa.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I'm gonna
it's my first bump.
No, it was, it was a pregnancy bump.
It was full on.
Emily: Wow.
Yeah.
I mean, that is the thing, right?
If you've got more babies,
you do get a bump earlier and
by that third trimester, woo.
For those who are expecting, it's true.
You do get bigger.
You do.
I remember asking, I had a friend, I was
like, I don't think I can get any bigger.
There's no more room.
And she's like, you will,
you will get bigger.
And I did, which I'm
sure you'll experience.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
you're nearly about to pop.
And I was 20 weeks.
I'm like, yeah, any day now.
Emily: So wrong.
So wrong.
And we talked about the quad types.
So they're all, separate.
And just for everyone listening,
with quads and with any, any multiple
birth, They can be identical and split.
You can have a mix of
identical and fraternal.
so they can be a whole host of
ways with which you get quadruplet,
but you amazingly have four single
babies, which is quite unusual.
And the fact that they all
have their own sacks and cords,
as you mentioned, is great.
'cause it's like a safe little house
where they're not sharing as much
food for anyone who doesn't get it.
which, you know, is, is definitely
a, a beautiful scenario.
okay, so pregnancy symptoms,
love to hear what they were,
so, mobility, sleep, et cetera.
How did that go for you?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
embryo transfer and then you
do the two week dreaded weight.
And I think just prior to the end of those
two weeks I was already having sore boobs.
and which makes sense 'cause I was
pregnant just before the transfer.
is what we're kind of gathering.
It's really hard to nail down how
we actually came about with the
quadruplets, but, it looks like
I had fell pregnant just a couple
of days prior to this transfer.
No, they wouldn't have been able
to see it when they transferred
the embryo, so it was, yeah.
But, my boobs were really, really
sore, and getting really big.
That was a, I was like, oh, I
think I could be pregnant here.
I didn't really suffer
from morning sickness.
I feel terrible talking about it because
I, I did have quite a cruisy pregnancy.
I know.
Emily: Just say your truth because I
think it's actually good to help other
expectant, multiple parents to know
it's not always the worst scenario.
So everyone's got their own story.
Just say yours, you can't control it.
But I actually think this is,
I have friends expecting and
they're terrified that they'll a
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yes.
Emily: good to hear.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: never
Emily: sickness.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I started getting
a little bit off in the mornings, but I
found out that's 'cause I was taking Elle
it in the mornings and I found if I took
them in the afternoons, it stopped that.
so that was really good.
headaches were a bit of a thing, and
obviously like just dead fatigue in that
first trimester.
I was,
Emily: Can't imagine why.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: was
just, oh, I miss those so much.
but yeah, that was pretty much,
it was, yeah, the fatigue, the
headaches, and that, that, was,
that was it throughout as well.
Obviously as I got bigger,
like the back pain came in.
But as for nausea and everything like
that, I was, I was really, really
lucky.
Emily: That's great to hear.
I'm glad.
I think that that was the universe giving
you some, some positives to boost you
in.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: and They were
just give this
Emily: They did be like,
we're gonna come together.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I love that.
And so did you, so you mentioned
before that you exercised quite a bit.
So do you feel that you, like, it
sounds like you were potentially fit,
like did you have a strong core to
like hold those babies in or back?
Or like, did you feel like
your body's state helped?
Again, trying to give, picture to
the audience if they're considering
what they can do to, help the
pregnancy and carrying weight.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: prior
to I just always played sport, it
was just like second nature to me.
I wasn't necessarily someone
that was in the gym all the time.
I was one of those people that
would just rock up on the day, play
my sport, go home kind of thing.
I do think that that definitely
helped me though because I was
just somebody, somebody that
was so used to being so active.
So I stayed on my feet and kept myself
mobile a lot throughout my pregnancy.
and not just did that help my body,
that helped me with my mind as well.
When I ended up in hospital, I made
sure I was still moving around and
things like that because yeah, you
could quickly go very stir crazy in
your brain, when you're just being
sat in one spot for a long time.
but yeah, naturally I
was, yeah, quite active.
But as I, yeah.
Got further in my pregnancy.
I didn't really partake in any
fitness or anything like that.
I just did my usual day-to-day things,
which was, yeah, not really much.
Just getting out outdoors,
like moving around the house.
I was still helping in the gardening
and things like that, in the
garden and that, was it for me.
Emily: Okay.
Now I did see that you did have
to consume a a lot of food.
because I know for those who haven't
had multiples, they do eat you alive.
And it's not that they actually eat well.
They kind of are, but as long as you feed
them, as long you feed them, they get
your little masters don't get as grumpy.
But how many, what were
you eating per day?
I think that's a really interesting
fact to let people know.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: the hospital
and, I got admitted at 24 weeks.
and so they were I was their little
Guinea pig they run lots of tests
for me to find out more information.
I was getting bloods every day.
but they did this one test
for me where, when I woke up I
wasn't allowed to really move.
And I was wheeled to a
respiratory unit, I think it was.
and I had this big like mask
put on my face and I had to stay
still for 15 minutes, which is
really uncomfortable when you're
heavily pregnant with quadruplets.
anyways, they were testing my rested,
energy, so how much energy I was using
while I was at a rested heart rate.
And that came back that I needed to be
consuming at about 3000 calories a day.
just to upkeep, Yeah.
for the kids, food for myself.
And I was also also had
gestational diabetes.
So gestational diabetes, hospital diet.
3000 calories a day was,
was a mission in itself.
I was they had me on
heaps of strawberry milk.
I still love strawberry milk, but
this particular one they had me
on, I can't look at it anymore.
lots of like
crackers and
Emily: Makes sense.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: it was a lot.
And you'd think that you'd get more
hungry because you've got all these kids.
But the pressure on my stomach, like
how squished my stomach was getting,
couldn't eat like large amounts.
I was really snacking, because
I just got full so quickly.
'cause there wasn't much room left.
Yeah.
Emily: Interesting.
And I think that's a really common
trait that I'll call out as well.
So when you have multiples, there's
not some magic trick actually.
What, remember watching a, a YouTube.
Cartoon animation of what
happens, what happens to my
organs with all these babies.
And it's quite interesting.
It literally just gets pushed
to the side and then your ribs
lift and whatever else happens.
but that pressure on your stomach often
not for everyone does mean that you
have small meals, but you've gotta eat.
You gotta eat and you might not
be hungry, I don't if you were
actually feeling that you wanted to
eat that much, but you gotta do it.
'cause otherwise the headaches,
the pressure on your body,
again, each to their own.
But a general trend.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: through
bouts of, oh my God, I'm so hungry.
But yeah, I would always have
snacks, just constantly snacking.
it's funny you talk about
the ribs stretching.
That was probably one of my
worst pains was the rib cartilage
stretching towards the end.
yeah, that was not pleasant.
But I do remember them ultrasounding
me one stage and they're like, oh, we
can't find your ovary or something.
And they're oh, here it is,
it's up around your back.
And I was just like, oh my God.
I don't even tell me where
my organs are at the mument.
That's freaking me out.
Emily: At literally just up
against the walls of your body.
I wish I could show you this graphic.
I just, was like, I shouldn't there be
some natural way where our body's like,
okay, you're pregnant with multiples,
we are just going to do, do, do.
And you'll still be able to breathe
and your stomach will be fine.
Your bladder won't be squashed.
We'll just kind of shrink, doesn't
work all just get squashed.
Just so fun to hear.
okay.
And so you were on bedrest.
I've got a couple notes
here, for two months.
and then you delivered at 31 weeks,
31 and a half weeks, is that right?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I
wasn't necessarily on bed rest.
my doctor Karen, she was incredible.
She was a realist.
and she was from the get go, she
was like, this is incredible, but
this is a dangerous pregnancy.
Like we need to make sure we're
very cautious with everything.
So that's why I got admitted so early.
my cervix had shortened drastically,
but that was the only issue, and she
just wanted me to be close to hospital.
But she said, make sure you still
go walk down to the cafe, go
walk around and things like that.
but obviously don't exert yourself.
And those like walks down to the
cafeteria and I'd walk to meet Sean
in the car park and things like that.
They were the things I got for throughout
like the day I'd yes, okay, I get to
go for my walk down to get my cookie.
I'm so excited and things like that.
So it wasn't strict bedrest, but there
was a lot of rest involved because
yeah, it was tiring at the end.
Emily: Got it.
So that sounds like a good takeaway
for anyone expecting multiples is
have your routines, your joyful
muments to look forward to,
especially if you've got higher order.
now, let's go on to
pregnancy delivery day.
I read somewhere that you had
40 medical professionals in the
theater and they did rehearsals.
It's.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: the Yes.
I had an incredible team and I
think that this helped a lot in
my mind because wasn't necessarily
worrying about the pregnancy
because I put it all in their hands.
you are driving that wheel.
I'm over here just making sure
I keep myself calm, myself
rested, and I'll do that part,
but you guys take all the worry.
So I really dumped that on
them and I could, because
they were an incredible team.
I had a specialist
midwife, I had my doctors.
They were having weekly meetings.
I had this big tub next to my
bed that was filled with all the
equipment needed in case I went
into labor or something like that.
because yeah, you can't just quickly
find four of everything in a hospital.
So they had a big tub next to me and
yeah, they did practice rehearsals of
the cesarean, so practicing getting four
humidy cribs in and out of the theater.
And they found out that four humidy cribs
actually wouldn't fit in the theater.
So they had one in the
prep room, three in there.
they had everything
labeled like on the day.
Each committee crib had an a four piece
of paper with a number and then every
staff involved with that child had that
number stuck on their back as well.
So yeah, they were so planned and
it made for the smoothest birth.
Well, I thought it was smooth.
I don't know about the guys,
the girls running the show.
It was actually incredible.
All women.
I think there was two men in the room.
it was a very empowering situation
to be in, and to experience.
And yeah, they had done
a practice rehearsal.
I think the rehearsal took, they
did it for two hours or something.
They went over everything.
Oxygen, splitters, they had it all down
pat, like the clamps and everything.
So the first baby would have one
clamp, the second would have two,
the third would have three, like
on the umbilical cord and stuff.
So we
could it was
just so well
Emily: Wow.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: delivery day.
Emily: Well,
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
my doctor was actually away
on leave,
so.
Oh,
Emily: Oh,
they would've been so disappointed.
'because I'm sure as a
medical professional, they
love this sort of stuff.
Right?
Something that's a little bit more.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: so sorry.
but she had the best Wing woman.
I'll call her.
Just ready to go.
And I had full trust that they
all knew what they were doing.
there and on the, so why
I went in on and a half.
My goal was 32.
Well the hospital's goal was 32.
They were like, we won't
go past that point.
It'll be 32 and that's it.
I was starting to get headaches
and show signs of preeclampsia.
I'd had a few overnight stays
in the birthing suite 'cause
I was having contractions.
like Braxton Hicks all throughout,
but then it was becoming very much
like contractions overnight, where
they'd been a little bit painful.
They were tightening, they were
consistent, they were regular.
and I had a few like cervical
examinations and all that was fine.
But it was getting a bit too close
and they had a meeting and they
came to me with some scenarios and
I just said, look, I'd rather be
proactive rather than reactive.
The last thing I want to do is be going
into labor and needing a cesarean in
the middle of the night, and you've
gotta call up 40 and get them all here.
that's just too stressful
for me, let's call it.
And they were like, right in under 48
hours, you're going to have these kids.
yeah,
Emily: Wow.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: So everyone
around us knew when my delivery date
was gonna be, but then they didn't know
that we had brought it forward and we
kept that hush, hush, and yeah, the
day came and yeah, it was, it was wild.
Emily: How was that mument?
Because I, I hear this, from quite a
few parents as well, is like, there's
one thing to have them in your stomach,
but once they're actually out and real
and you can see there's a baby, a real
human baby, how was that mument for you?
Did you even get to hold them
straight away or do they take
them straight in the humidity?
Cribs.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: it
was, really, really bizarre because,
you always hear of this euphoric mument
and the baby comes out and you're just
overwhelmed with love and all of that.
and for us, we were just
overwhelmed, yeah, they were real.
Like they they were born all
within two and a half minutes.
This process happened so
quickly and
I don't know why
we.
Emily: Shout out to Royal North Shore.
I just have to mention that.
'because
Wow.
Very different.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Ready
with towels and they'd go, baby,
number one, they'd walk up, grab
the baby, go baby number two.
And we for some reason, thought
they'd pull one baby out, go,
all right, have a sip of coffee.
Let's go on to baby number two.
But we asked them to drop the
drapes and they would just, just
pulling them out.
Emily: My God, you watched.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: It was
Emily: Wow.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: So
them all out.
They just gave us a quick look at 'em,
and then they took them off straight away.
and we could hear them all
calling out different numbers and
things like that, oxygen levels.
but They they were so fine.
They didn't need oxygen.
They, they just went straight onto CPAP
Emily: Wow.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: That was
and they, once they had all four of
them in their humidity tubes, they
were like, right, team, let's go.
Sean went with them.
I didn't get to touch them.
or anything like that, and they
went straight across the hall
to the NICU while they finished
with me and things like that.
definitely the
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: as soon
as the first baby's out, and you
hear that cry and incredible.
but I think we were just so driven to
getting them, to getting them out that
just, so fixated on that, that i'd, I
was distracted by that almost, that the
overwhelming sense of love and everything
didn't come until I got to touch them
and I got to really that they were real.
And I'm okay, yeah, they're there.
And then when I got to touch them
later on, that's when it really hit me.
I was like, wow, these are,
oh yeah, these are my babies.
Emily: Oh, so beautiful.
I just love that and I'm so impressed
that they're all doing well.
And then the CPAP.
So CPAP for anyone listening is,
it blows oxygen because there's
fluid on the lungs because they're.
When they come out, sometimes if
they don't get the, the squeezing.
I had one baby on CPAP as well, so
you did so well and they were 1.5
kilos each.
So again, anyone listening, that is
wonderful, and for the US that's 3.3
pounds.
I did the, the check earlier.
So that's four lots of, 1.5.
very impressive.
And a whole lot of baby.
So that's six kilos of baby.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: So they
all had their own placenta, but
Emily: yeah.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: they
four eggs cracked in a pan.
They'd merged together to make this mega
placenta, which they wheeled it next
to me when they were stitching me up
and they're like, get a load of this.
And I was like, wow.
It was huge.
I think I lost.
20, between 20 to, I to fact
check it, but it was like maybe
25 kilos within 24 hours of
having
bubs
the
Emily: Wow.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: The weight
that I lost from just having them
and that feeling as well of that
boulder being gone was so bizarre.
It was, yeah.
It took a bit to adjust.
As well.
Emily: how was, how was your balance?
Did you 'because all the muscles,
they've got nine months to adjust.
Then suddenly the weight, the
fluid, the babies, the placenta.
How was your balance?
Were you a bit whoa, and, and did your
muscles, and did your stomach do the
gurgling as well when it went back in?
Yeah,
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: my tummy
took a bit to go down, obviously.
I think I had four fingers
separation the next day.
And then by the time I was discharged
on day four or six, I think it was down
to two fingers separation, which was
all gone back, which I'm so lucky for.
but I remember, yeah, trying
to just do everyday things.
I was like, oh, I do, I feel off
balance now because I had compensated
so much for this big belly.
and my belly did stay, like I
looked like I was pregnant until a.
Maybe a month or so, I was still
really, really swollen in my stomach.
My uterus took some time to go
down,
yeah, the first
onto my side and not having to
compensate, they had me on a bariatric
bed in the hospital, so, which
is a bed for bigger size people.
And yeah, I was nearly touching
side to side when I was laying
on my side in one of those.
So to roll over and not have that
and not need my pillow fought, I
was like, whoa, this is so weird.
Emily: I?
Yeah.
that's very interesting
to hear all those facts.
I think it is such an adjustment
period, it's quite a bit,
I tripped over my babies.
Were about.
Well, I was tripping over pregnant and
then afterwards I was falling, it was
very, it was like I could see where
I was going, but I would just fall.
So, interesting call outs to people.
Be careful after your pregnancy.
I think the body, it has got quite a
change, but so incredible, like absolutely
incredible that your body can do that.
And then you had four fingers
separation and it's gone back.
Did you do anything specifically
to bring it back together or was
that a natural, shrinking down,
just resting.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
CRC recovery pants.
could not
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: them highly.
I had those on, I think, it was maybe
two or so weeks after the kids, and
they just gave me that hold in my
midsection so I didn't feel so loose.
they're a really tight
compression, pair of pants.
I think you can use your health
insurance and things to help
cover some of the costs with it.
But any kind of compression that you can
get around your midsection afterwards,
I found was really, really comforting.
'because you do, you feel so loose
and jello and things like that.
But yeah, they, that was a big
part of helping me recover.
Emily: That's a great tip.
so we talked about the
hospital and recovery.
So you just rested, you had
your abdominal support piece.
now one thing which I absolutely love
about your profile, I, I'm not sure
how I came across you, by the way.
I don't know if it was the news or
the algorithm sending you to me.
but you are so great in
terms of body positivity.
You're really open.
You've showed photos publicly of your
body and the changes, and you wrote the
most beautiful post a little while back
about how proud you are of your body.
Is there anything that you would, I
guess, share to people who are currently
pregnant, who have had kids and perhaps
don't feel that level of self How did you.
How did you get there and what would
your thoughts be to share with others?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I think it's just
stepping back and just seeing what your
body did for even just with a singleton,
what the female body can do shout out
to dads, but you guys can't lactate.
here we are, pushing out ba growing
all of these separate organs, growing
limbs, like we said before, your
organs moving and then they move back.
and then you are like some, if you
are breastfeeding, if you're not
breastfeeding, to take all of that
in and think oh my, and yeah, it, it
just, it shocked me how well your body
could just adapt to that and you're not
telling your body to do any of this.
It just does it naturally.
I was just in awe of all women, of
all of our bodies, whatever shape and
size because they're just incredible.
just Yeah.
Was In absolute awe.
And I still am today, yeah, I've
got the loose skin, the stretch
marks and whatever, but they are.
They're just reminders of how
incredible the body really is.
And I am so, so proud of my body,
in the shape that it is now.
If it looked any other way as well, it
has given me four incredible blessings.
and it's still keeping me moving to
keep up with those four blessings.
So I'm, I'm so proud of my body and
everything that it's done, and I'm
in awe of all women's bodies because
they are, yeah, they're amazing.
Emily: Beautiful words, Taylah.
I think that this will resonate with
a lot of parents, whether they be the
birth mums or partners I think those are
really, it's a really nice way to talk
about it Now, I wanted to also, ask as
well, so Sean, we short in amongst the 40.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Oh, the poor guy.
Emily: Was he there?
Okay.
I mean,
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: he's at work
today,
Emily: yep.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: a
teacher.
He, he's the rock.
He's the rock in this family.
And oh, as, as much as I played a part in
getting these babies into this world, so
did he, because he kept me so grounded and
he me without me asking for the support.
the hospital, is about a two
hour drive from our house.
Sean was in the middle of renovating
our house to just get it to a standard
to have premier babies come home.
and he was working full-time going
home, doing those renovations.
Then he was driving down, staying
the night on the classic dad sofa.
I'm so sorry.
To all the dads and partners that have to
sleep on those beds, they are horrific.
on one of those, then getting up at
3 5 o'clock in the morning, driving
straight from there, back to work,
and doing that every day, single day.
Just so that I had someone
there over nighttime with me.
just incredible.
So, so incredible.
And he's been the best dad since as well.
So hands on.
there's no job that he
doesn't do or that he Yeah.
Shies away from.
He was actually the one when the bubs
came that was really hands on with them.
I was petrified, but he was like,
yeah, okay, I'll give that a go.
I'll give it go.
Hold them standing up where I
was like, oh, I've got no idea.
I was too scared.
But he's, he's incredible.
Emily: That's really nice to hear.
And I think that sometimes these
situations can really bring out the
best in people having multiples.
I've spoke to someone recently who
mentioned a similar, well, a couple people
recently who mentioned similar things
that, having multiples can be a beautiful
thing that brings families together.
so Sean very impressed.
Love that he's hands on and jumped in.
I think our nurses threw the nappy
change at my partner, the first one.
we didn't know what to do, and
they're no, no, you can do it.
like, but you do it?
So anyway, I think he, he rose to the
occasion, but, I think that that is a a
beautiful trait and I'm glad to hear that.
So that's such a support.
now just, next on the, Agenda, the
questions list is baby feeding.
I had a, a special ask about
this as well from a lactation
consultant, just high level.
How did that go?
Did you breastfeed or pump or?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: for six months.
I was,
Emily: I,
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: much like
cow.
I was, expressing up to two liters a day.
and so I, I knew I wanted to
give it a go, but I had no
expectations on it whatsoever.
I was it is what it is.
I was told to steer clear of touching,
my breasts or anything to get
colostrum prior to having the kids.
So actually while I was waiting and being
prepared, I was like, I want the babies to
have colostrum when they get to the nicu.
And sent two nurses in and they
were expressing me for colostrum
while I was getting the rundown
from all the doctors that
coming in there
when everything comes just
trying to hold a serious conversation
while just, yeah, going for gold.
It was, the photographer was watching
'cause we had a photographer with
us and she was just this is mental.
But yeah.
So, Once I was able to get up, like
into a wheelchair and get to the nicu,
I had some incredible nurses up there
that helped me, start to express and
start doing that from the get go.
And it took a long time
for that to come through.
I think my body was still
register, like trying to register.
Okay, you've had the babies,
like they were premi and I also
wasn't sleeping next to them or
having them in the room with me.
So it took a little bit for that
to all come through, but I just
persevered, every, I think three hours.
I was just hand expressing trialing pumps
and things while I was in the hospital.
So we were going up and down
to the NICU every three hours
to deliver that colostrum.
And then once I got home, I continued,
pumping every three hours, doing
power pumping, eating all the things.
And when I'd go into the special care to
see the bubs, I would take in my milk.
but I was also very lucky
that we had donor milk.
So obviously my supply wasn't
up at the beginning to be
able to help for all of them.
and yeah, thankful for lifeblood
and the hospital that we're at
that we were able to receive that.
And they also helped transfer
that to the hospital.
our local hospital.
once my supply come in, I was
able to have the kids fully on
my milk while they were in there.
And yeah, I pretty much just expressed
and then bottle fed them, my milk.
Sometimes I would try and contact
breastfeed, but they were so little
it was just so hard to navigate.
They was so tiny, it was hard to do that.
So the bottles helped as well
for having other people being
able to help with feeds.
So yeah, we did that, until it got
to six months and a lot of family was
saying how much weight I had lost and
how starting to look a bit sickly.
I was, I think becoming a bit
malnourished and things like that.
And I just needed to stop because
it was consuming a lot of my time.
It was consuming a lot of my
energy, a lot of my nutrients.
And yeah, so after that we just
went back to formula and yeah,
bottle fed them from there.
Emily: That is such an
impressive achievement.
When you said six months, I
was actually expecting less.
I mean, I have a very big community of
multiples and some people are able to,
you know, breastfeed the whole way.
Some, not some halfway, et cetera.
I'm really impressed.
So hats off.
That's so good.
And the, and the volume.
Wow.
did did you use any, like a special
pillow or a, was there a pump that you
loved, that you wanna give a shout out to?
Two.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: hands-free one
was incredible you are all, when you've
got multiples, there's always someone
in your arms or you're washing a bottle
or something.
I found the
hands-free
Emily: Mm-hmm.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I
could do things like that.
I will have to find out the name
of the cookies that I was eating
to help, encourage my supply to
come in, but just eating, whatever,
just keeping your intake in.
I think I lived off Strawberry Milk
and Tim Tims for breakfast for that six
months.
Emily: Oh
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I yeah,
I was just pumping that But yeah,
the sound of breast pumps at the
mument, like if I was to hear that
right now, would send me twitching.
I don't think that sound leaves you.
Yeah.
I remember a girlfriend had a bub two
weeks after me and we'd Snapchat each
other, like when we were pumping.
And now when we get reminders of
those videos, you can just hear that
mm mm the background of everything.
But yeah, the Modela
hands-free pump was amazing.
But, at the start I found just manually
expressing was really, really helpful.
also with the bubs
the nurses would record the babies, like
trying to take a dummy and that suckling
sound, videoing them, like making noises.
So when I was at home without them,
I would play those videos to try
and help with a letdown, which I do
recommend, but I also found it quite, um.
emotionally hard.
I would find myself crying a
lot during those times because
here I am watching, oh, I making
me emotional thinking about it.
Um,
Emily: Yeah.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: your
thinking, wow, they should be
here with me while I'm doing
this, and yet they're there.
then you'd have a lot of guilt that you're
not there with them and you're at home
and that's, that was a really, really
hard time having them in the hospital
and not being able to be there with them.
So those videos, as much as they
may have helped with my let down,
they mentally were very challenging.
Emily: Yeah.
I'm sorry to hear that.
well it's hormones, right?
And then they say that, it is a
bit, traumatizing when you want to
be with your babies and you can't,
and that, you can't hold them.
And then again, for multiple parents,
you might stay in the hospital for a
while, but then your multiples might
stay longer if one's in the NICU or
few with all of them in the NICU.
So that's a really real thing.
And just something, again, like this is a
heads up on expectations for new parents.
You are going to be full of hormones.
So those things are hard.
I, I felt horrific.
I saw my baby's photo 'because
I wasn't able to touch him.
He had smear dried milk in his chin.
He was totally fine, but I was
like, who's looking after him?
'because I was so, I couldn't,
wasn't allowed down there
either until a few days later.
And so I totally understand it and I
think it's just part of the process.
people like you, you may expect it to
happen for partners, just, you know, be
there and, and understand that that's
something that's, it does hurt right.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I
didn't, I stayed maybe one or
two nights at the hospital.
I was allowed to stay as much as I
liked, but I needed to be at home
to rest as well of the nighttime.
So Sean would get me to the hospital
at 8:00 AM pick me up at 8:00 PM
but I found I always needed Sean
to pick me up from the hospital.
I just needed that emotional
support driving home So think my
mum tried to take me, picked me up
one time and I was just distraught.
So yeah, those little things, just
having my, my partner there when I was
leaving was really, really helpful.
But I, I wasn't prepared for that.
I wasn't prepared for how hard
it is to have babies in the
hospital while you're at home.
Emily: Yeah, I hope that people hearing
this again, maybe they feel a bit of
fear, but just having an expectation that
matches it, knowing it's something that
might happen and just to ha gear your
partner up and your friends and family
to support.
now, let's just go into, 'cause I
don't want to take too much more
time 'because I know your baby's,
are, sleeping for the mument.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Can imagine.
Emily: So just, I guess last things
survival mode to So where are you now,
in terms of sleep, everything like that.
What, do people what can they imagine if
they're neck deep in the, the first phase
and now you guys have got older babies?
What does that look like?
Yeah, I
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: thought having
multiples meant that you're going to be on
multiple sleeping situations, like you're
gonna have one that's awake, one that's
not.
And that set us
Emily: Okay.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: a really
six months.
because I had that expectation
that, oh, you've got four
babies, never gonna sleep again.
I didn't seek the help because I
didn't think there was help possible.
so we had a really hard time with sleep
for those first six months, until we
had two incredible women, sleep by
Steph and Marianne, Sayers who came and
just, they didn't sleep train our kids.
They gave us sleep education, looking for
tired signs, knowing that you can actually
get all of them to sleep at the same time.
They naturally want to
do that kind of thing.
Yeah, so knowing that it's actually
possible was, just a big mind shift.
So after six months, we were able to
get them all sleeping at the same time,
napping at the same time, now at 19
months, they're all asleep at the mument.
They go to bed at the
same time for their nap.
They self settle and of a night
time they go down to bed at six
o'clock, they self settle and sleep
for 12 to 13 hours of the night.
yeah, it is possible.
It, it can be challenging those
first two or three days while
you're trying to get to that.
but had I known that that
was actually possible, it was
a thing that could happen.
I always just heard so many negative
things around sleep with babies that
I just naturally thought that having
multiples meant you're gonna have
multiple issues with their sleep.
So I just kind of fell in.
We, well, we, Sean and I fell
into that pattern of thinking
that we just had to accept it.
but yeah, there.
is help out there.
Sleep is possible.
and I think that's a bit of a gift
with multiples is they're the same age.
They can fall into that,
into the same patterns.
They can have the same routine.
They're meeting milestones together,
and so you can kind of marry that up.
so we are really, really lucky with that
now that we've We've found a good pattern.
We've got a good routine and
yeah, it's, it's nice, but it
was rough for those first six
months.
Emily: I can only imagine.
That is a great call out.
People seek help early, even
if you've got a single baby.
is, it's definitely is possible.
I am, I'll also, link those names
as well 'cause I think there might
be people that want to talk to them.
okay.
So what are you most proud of for
yourself and Sean in what you've achieved
since that first day when you found
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: think, I
think I'm proud that we've we've still
just, we've kept our lives as well.
we've kept.
it, it's so easy to bunker down
and, and, get so stuck with it.
but we haven't let the
bulbs fully restrict us.
Obviously, there's a lot that we we
can't do, but accepting that it, it's
gonna be hard to get outta the house.
It's gonna be hard to go and
do certain things, but it's
hard to stay home as well.
So picking those battles and picking
those times to get your confidence up,
to get out and go and do those things
just, and those things I'm talking
about is putting 'em all in a pram
walking down the street and coming back.
Like, that's huge.
That's a mammoth effort, but
you get so, you get stuck.
I found that we got stuck in
thinking about how much you have to
do to be able to get out the door.
Ugh, don't worry about it.
We're not going to do it.
But realized if we thought like that for.
Raising these children, we're not
gonna get out and do much, and
then that's gonna hinder on them.
So we quickly accepted that, yeah,
it's gonna take longer to get out,
it's gonna take more preparation,
it's gonna be a bit tricky, but
it's worth it for our mental health.
So that was a big thing that in
the early days, that we were really
proud of, ourselves for doing.
but yeah, again, if you need, if you
need a few days to bunker down, bunker
down as well, but, uh, staying on the
same page with each other and remembering
that you are the team, was, yeah, that's,
that's also a big, a big, help as, as
a it's very very easy to fall into the
habit of, well, you got more sleep and
you got this, and you quickly apart and
you forget that you're on the same team.
But yeah, reminding each other
that we're in it together.
We're both, we're both here
in the trenches is comforting.
and it's helpful as well knowing
that you're not in it And yeah,
reminding each other, we're both here.
It's okay.
We'll get through it one day
Emily: That's a really
beautiful explanation of how
people can work together.
look, I think what we'll do is we'll wrap
up and we'll finish up with, maybe two
questions from the audience, from your
followers or people that are listening.
One was just about keeping that
spark alive and I think you've
kind of covered that off, that
you remember that you're a team.
Any final add to that one.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I think naturally
the spark does, it simmers a little bit
and I, I think having the expectation that
you're still going to have this incredible
spark that you did before you had kids
can sometimes be quite detrimental.
You don't have the same time anymore,
you don't have the same energy
anymore, but you do have those times.
you make the most of those times.
So yeah, it it might not be the
same as before, but the quality is.
Is more, I think because you appreciate
that time that you do finally get, so
before Sean and I would sit down and
watch TV and you wouldn't think much
of it, but now when we get to sit down
and watch TV together, that's a really
nice mument because we're together,
we're doing that, and we might sit
a bit closer on the lounge together,
rather than sitting at opposite ends.
and and that's, watch watching The
Wiggles documentary is our date night now.
that's fun.
Emily: cute.
Very cute.
Love that.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan:
It doesn't die out.
It
changes, it
evolves into a different
And the spark might not be as
and whatever, but it, it is the
quality of it I think that's,
Emily: Great answer.
And I'm getting a relationship
psychologist on in a while, so we'll
get you just saying to hear what
you know, isn't everybody, it's like
how can we absolutely nail this?
great response.
And then I guess final question,
just 'cause I know you've
gotta get to your babies.
What can people do?
So asking for help.
so this is one for new parents, what
they can do, and also, a message
for any family or friends that maybe
don't have kids or don't understand,
how can someone message that out?
what do you think is the best
way, and then what ways that
people could actually help?
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Great
question there's, in the early days,
I, I remember having some really
rough patches and I actually reached
out to Panda, which is any parent
can reach out, mums dads, whoever.
which I think is just a great resource
to have and a great number to have in
your phone, just to keep that, keep it
on your fridge wherever, because there,
there may be times that you need it and
there may not be, but just knowing that
you have that number there to call if
you do need is really, really important.
But there, there is help out there.
Sometimes it can be hard to
navigate, but the multiple births
association is really, really helpful.
I find just anyone with multiples
is a good resource to have.
they might have a little tip or trick
to help you with things, to navigate
those early days while you're just
adjusting to becoming a parent.
and you don't want to think
about everything else.
Just reach out to a fellow multiple
and you can find those multiple people
through the multiple birth association,
which is really, really helpful.
and for those people around people
that have just had multiples, we
have an incredible community and
a village and we are so blessed
for them because we know that not
everybody gets to have that village.
Some people have family that live
interstate international, it's, it's
a big part of the process in raising
multiples, and we're really lucky for.
Those that we have around us.
but yeah, our, we have incredible friends,
Howdy and Demi, which if people follow
us on social media, they're always on
there because they're, they've been from
day dot, like the biggest help ever.
They would rock up with a
thermo mix underarm and come
and stay for the weekend.
They'd sleep on our lounge and help
us with feeds and things like that.
but yeah, I think big ways to help
not asking and just, just, kind
of tuning into what they need.
They need cooked meals.
Leave some baked goods at the door,
get some nappies, drop them at
the door if they're formula fed,
just finding out what that is and
just leaving a tin at the door.
It's not always.
inside and physically helping.
It's just sometimes those little acts.
also a phone call.
It takes eight minutes to
make someone not feel alone.
Just a call, having a chat.
And I found sometimes it was
nice just hearing about what
other people were getting up to.
A lot of the time everyone's calling,
asking about the kids, and I just wanted
a break from my reality a little bit.
I'm like, tell me what's, what's the goss?
What's happening in your world?
Tell me.
but yeah, just, just checking in messages.
Even if you're not getting a
message back, I can guarantee
your message is being seen.
And, that means a lot in itself.
Emily: Great tips.
So nappies, tins of formula, food.
I think food vouchers as well.
Meal vouchers.
Can't get enough flowers.
Beautiful.
Don't need them.
Food, food, food.
You never don't need food.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: and
they were lovely, but the box of
donuts that got dropped at the
door the next day, I was like,
now we're
Emily: Wow.
Because yeah, it's never enough time.
love that.
And then calling messaging, knowing
you might not hear a response, or
turning up and doing night feeds.
I think that one sounds really good.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: Yeah.
Emily: Okay.
Well, Taylah, this has been so lovely.
I've really enjoyed hearing
more about your story.
I think there'll be some great
takeaways for the audience.
let's wrap up.
I'm looking forward to getting this live
and I think people will really enjoy it.
So thanks so much.
Taylah Tudehope-Glachan: I love
talking all things multiples.
There's so much to unpack with them, but
yeah, they're just beautiful blessings.
And anyone with multiples
pregnant with multiples, you've
got a lot of love to come.
So Yeah, it's great.
Emily: Agree.
It's a beautiful community.
Well, thanks so much Taylah