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The Corporate Dream or Homemaker Queen? {culture} with Andrea Olson
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[00:00:00] Hey friends, welcome back to get clear with crystal where today on the show is Andrea Olson. Andrea and I have been friends and been connecting on so many levels and I wanted to have her back on this show so we could talk about Butger's commencement speech because I knew we came from a similar position in where we were, how we looked at life and how.
We go about our business. And after the conversation we had, I went and found the entire speech. I had not listened to the entire speech and I went back and found all of it and listened to it all. And guess what the controversial parts that are blowing up in the media right now actually make up a fraction of the speech.
So I found that very, very interesting. And thank you to Andrea for highlighting that. So I want you guys to listen in with an open mind. Think about things from a new perspective, no matter what you've [00:01:00] heard, no matter what you've read, because it's so important. That we learn from each other and that we allow the openness of communication and allow dissensions of opinions.
That is so, so, so important, especially when we want to grow and learn and better ourself. So dive in. I'm not one to shy away from controversial topics. I'm not scared to say something that may be different, but I think the perspectives that we shared in this are just really. interesting and are going to bring something more to the whole topic about, you know, being a corporate dreamer, a homemake queen, whatever you want to do, whatever is on your mind, whatever is on your heart.
And at the end of the day, that is what I'm really here for. I'm here to help you. Let you all know that whatever your dreams are, whatever your goals are, they are within you. They are possible. It's all Okay, and there's no judgment [00:02:00] on Where you go? I am now sitting on both sides of the spectrum and there's no right or wrong, you know It's what your dream is and that can change and that can shift and that can pivot and that's okay So without further ado, you guys listen to this episode, let us know what you think, and be sure to follow on Instagram.
Always SA for Andrea and myself. Get clear crystalware.
the swirling topic of a recent commencement speech started to get a lot of attention. And I actually know you and I haven't talked about a lot of that stuff, one on one, but you brought it up and I just thought it was so, it was just so relevant because there's a lot of side conversations I feel like that are happening on social media.
This one being no And you suggested we talk about it here. So here we are. Talking about it here. Yeah. I always think it's interesting [00:03:00] anytime the media is really swarming one person and what they're saying and how it's taken out of context. And I always feel bad, no matter if it's something I agree with or disagree with, or however I feel about it.
I just really. Feel like that's unfair to people and we all should have an opportunity to voice what our feelings are, and not have it be one way or another. And I also think it just pushes people to want to be more private, to not share because immediately. You say something that doesn't resonate with somebody or strikes a chord in a negative way.
And then all of a sudden you are front and center. You're on the firing line. Your family is getting hate mail and it's just not a good place to be. And so immediately when I saw that with Butler's speech, on, women and their dreams and their hopes and their aspirations at the graduation commencement, I just thought.[00:04:00]
I don't know. I, there's something to that. And I thought, we might have a different take to share. I do have a hot take on it. And I think, I know you do, and we'll, we'll kind of talk through it. I don't have a definitive. This is my position. I, that's the other thing I think happens a little bit with social media is there becomes this false sense of needing to develop a full position on every topic that hits the news or hits the news.
It's social media, which I wouldn't actually consider social media the news, but it's kind of morphed into one, one beam. I think that in and of itself kind of creates a little bit of people wanting to distance themselves from anything that. Has the perception of being controversial. But what I think you and I want to talk about, cause that's the conversation we've had is I actually don't think everything needs to be [00:05:00] controversial.
That's actually my, if I have to have an underline underneath my hot take here, it's that I don't think what he was saying is that controversial. I think if you take bits and pieces out of what he was saying, it could Seem very controversial and definitely by a lot of today's standards. There's, there's things about it that would hit some people the wrong way for sure.
And I'm not even saying I agree with everything he said. I haven't dissected it. I haven't underlined it with a red pen. I haven't done any of that, but I've listened to it. And I also think my biggest point is that not everything has to be controversial. Not everything has to be all or nothing.
And. To have to develop a position so quickly on something that is not necessarily happening in your daily life is so distracting and also so exhausting [00:06:00] for most people, they'll just check out like, and I think that's what I observe has happened is yes, people have been making a lot of noise about it.
And and some of it, if that's something that really is somebody's number one priority to talk about, maybe it makes sense that they are talking about it. That's that to me is okay. But when every single person on the Internet is kind of been instructed to develop a point of view on something that happened 500 miles away, and, I'm like, that becomes too much for most of us to keep up with.
And. I just, I believe that there can be some sort of middle place where that's not necessary. I know that's a hot take. Cause that's not necessarily what happens when things come out and they're deemed controversial. Yeah. And we just have to step back and realize that everybody has a different position in life.
Everybody has a different background. And, you touched on the point [00:07:00] that, this is so far away. And when we look at the United States a whole, and I try to remind people who haven't traveled a lot. This is such a big thing to me that the United States is huge. Okay. The state of Texas is almost as big as the entire country of France.
We have in Texas, five different, geographical regions, which is similar again to France and to say 500, a thousand, 5, 000 miles away on the other side of the country that like we're all in line. It's not the same. Our agricultural, our cultural perspective, our backgrounds are different. And so when you take that and.
Canvass it across this huge swath of land with differing people and differing viewpoints and differing lifestyles. of course, it's not going to resonate. Does that shock anybody? Why should this be shocking? Even like who the audience was, right? there's been a lot of discussion about that. I was so thankful to see that come [00:08:00] out quickly because just as much as that's true in his instance, some of the things that get said when I'm watching, Professional sports and watching these athletes in their celebration moments.
I'm like, Oh, I wish my kids could close their eyes. Like I would rather them not see some of this stuff. I don't, I don't agree with the way some people are so driven by ego in that sense. The same thing is true there, right? Their audience is playing into that. And so I look at it very much the same.
if you watch the Academy Awards. The acceptance speeches are, are all touting one point of view. Well, to the audience that's in the, in the seats, it all, it all seems to kind of land, but it's not necessarily landing for every single person tuning in and watching or, choosing to not watch anymore, whatever that looks like.
So again, The audience matters, and I do think that's why social media can [00:09:00] take an idea, can take a concept, and either twist it and spin it in a really, really positive light, because they can change the perception of what was being done, and put fantastic music behind it, and all the theatrics, and it can feel almost like Glorified in that moment.
You see that a lot with sports. You see that a lot with professional athletes who maybe aren't making incredibly amazing choices off the field or off, where they're where they're spending their time as a professional athlete. But we somehow don't care about that. And then you take this other instance and it's just so easy to attack it.
I think that's what that's what sent my you. Signal up initially on that was like, Hmm, seems odd that that's where we're coming down harder than in some of these other instances. But again, that was just my gut. it wasn't, it wasn't derived from having spent hours of time studying it. I'm a mom.
I [00:10:00] have a, I have a full time career. I have lots on my plate just like you. I don't have that kind of time to go. Here is my fully formed opinion of every recent event that hit social media. I don't, and I don't think most people do is kind of my point. Yeah, but I would like to pause and really Like hone in on that hot take, right?
That hot take is why are we focused on this speech that an athlete is giving from his heart, from his viewpoint to inspire recent college graduates? Why are we giving so much focus to that when we are ignoring arrest records, spousal abuse? Rape allegations and other things like that, that we just kind of like [00:11:00] push under the carpet sometimes when it goes to what is being fed to our children, how are we idolizing these athletes?
And I really think that is something I had not thought about when we were coming into this conversation. And that is a hot take that this, in my mind, whether you agree or not. He has been crucified in public media to a large degree when we have other athletes who are continually coming back to the playing field after short suspensions or fines for really atrocious behavior.
Well, and I look at the words that he said, right? So I did watch the whole thing because it was actually difficult to find. So that's number one. I think that's really enlightening to learn, right? It's always, it's always very easy to find the controversial moments or seconds, those are get replayed so much.
It was. More challenging to find the whole thing unedited without commentary. So [00:12:00] just FYI, that should send some sort of signal up of question. Why was that hard to find? So I found it and then in listening to it, the thing that I actually thought was not being discussed until I dug in And started looking at other people's points of view after I had kind of developed my own was realizing he is actually spending such a disproportionate amount of time in the actual speech talking about how much he loves, adores, is thankful for his wife, all of these things that Honestly, when I listened to a lot of other acceptance speeches, especially when we're talking professional athletes, because he is one, right?
I'm not comparing him to something unlike who he is. He actually is a professional athlete. Then you start to see there is a disconnect. That is not the typical way that you see. the praise does not overflow typically about how much sacrifice and all of the things that are [00:13:00] unseen and, and just done out of pure love for family and all these things.
I'm not saying that other athletes don't feel that way about their wives. Of course, I'm not saying that, but it was an interesting choice for him to spend so much. Of the conversation talking about the role and one of the things that I also think it's worth pointing out is, to talk about the difference between it's I'm certain it's not the only thing his wife has a passion for.
Right? And it's okay to say, The calling somebody chooses for their life and their vocation, he used the word vocation specifically in the sense of him being Catholic, a vocation means something you are choosing for the betterment of those that you're serving. It is actually not about this selfish view of it.
It's not like your vocation is your career necessarily. In the sense of Catholicism, vocation actually is referring to A choice to [00:14:00] serve in a direction. So that's what he's talking about is the decision to serve a family, which if you have a family, involves a lot of serving. So I just found it really interesting because when you dug in the highlights of what we're being shown were pretty different than where I felt like he spent the majority of his time.
Yeah, well, that is really interesting and you did more, I'll be honest, than I did on that point because I do, comb the interwebs when I'm interested in a topic and I really am like a super deep dive, person, but I did not listen to the whole speech. And so thank you for sharing that. I think that is interesting and what a good point.
That when you simply can't find something, and I have come across that in other, what I thought were controversial topics where you simply could not find unedited versions, that was a clue to me that it was harder to find. [00:15:00] It was harder to find it. Yeah. Like you really have to dive deep, in some cases because social media and, the different algorithms.
Yeah. Placed by the main, search engines are pushing and holding things down. And I think that's a problem too, because we can't always find the same information, but what I thought was really interesting and why I brought this topic up to you, Andrea, in the first place was. you have a very similar background to me.
You have small children. I have small children. You came from the place of a corporate career where you're making a significant amount of money before deciding to do something alternative. And so I am at a place where I would say I, I, I, Pretty freely talk about this, that I feel like I've had some kind of midlife crisis, but it's not like what the eighties and nineties portrayed, like I'm going to get a sports car and I'm gonna get a hot wife.
No, obviously that's not what mine is. Mine is this [00:16:00] coming to of being this ultimate ambitious person, which I feel I will never give up. Like I have ambition. I want to succeed. And I want to do a lot of things in my life, which are more being driven. Call it controversial by what I feel God is putting into my heart now versus maybe for a title, maybe for the money before.
And when I look at this and what he said, I often think and time, time and experience are going to teach us so much more than somebody's speech at commencement is. But I do think about what if I had known more about what my heart would say when I had kids. And not when they were super little, because at that time I didn't feel they needed me as much.
They didn't miss me as much. I had a full time nanny, a caregiver that was here and they were being well taken care of. But [00:17:00] in the last couple of years, I've really felt this shift. And I do think the title of homemaker, whatever you want to call it, motherhood untitled, which we could get into that a little bit more as well.
It is an important title. So it. How is that? I just don't understand how that's taken so wrong in society of having somebody home. And the only reason I didn't feel guilt before was because I had a one person, a one caregiver taking care of my children. I just don't understand why we are saying that's wrong.
because it is a very, very, very important job. I'm really interested in that. And I actually, I've thought a little bit about it because I'm friends with Neha, and we've been talking a little bit, but also just In, in the world that we're in, I think the female entrepreneur [00:18:00] space, that's who I coach that's, those are who my clients are.
And so a lot of times, just like you and I, they are a highly ambitious, driven, And what I call mission centered entrepreneur, they are so lit up about the thing that they're lit up about. So they are, they're clearly marked with something that they cannot rest until it gets out in the world in some way.
And that's how I felt about starting the podcast. it was not the most convenient choice podcast when I already had a business and. Other things on my plate in my, the rest of my life, but it was a calling. It was something I knew I needed to put out there and it was to serve. But what I keep going back to with this idea of motherhood being labeled, Like controversial in any way that there would be discussion about it as a vocation is that I think it's because there has been an uncoupling of being ambitious and being a mother and a little bit tied to you [00:19:00] are letting go of some level of personal ambition if you choose to prioritize motherhood.
And I think there's a lot of layers to that. I think it's quite complex in some regard because there's situational differences. You have, differences with, a spouse and their career and the demands on that, their time. Maybe they travel a lot. Maybe there's a lot. Who knows, right? There's so many layers.
But. I think what makes it hard is that when you see these topics present, it, it comes from a place of being told that if you choose to prioritize your vocation as mother, that somehow personal ambition just must not be as important to you. That's where I've struggled personally because I have huge aspirations and goals for serving You know, helping in a lot of different ways.
What I [00:20:00] often have to come back to though is At what cost because there always will be trade offs And so I don't know that anyone can answer that for anyone else. That's that's kind of at the core of it, right? so like you mentioned seasons there there are times in motherhood where It seems like there's a little more heavy lifting involved or needed, or you just sense your child needs you in a unique way at that time.
That's so maybe different than it was a year ago or, or will be a year from now. And that is why it is complex to discuss in a sense of pure identity or there's one size fits all. But I do think just this untangling between the idea that. In some way, if you were to choose or make the choice for your family, that motherhood is, is the priority in this season and other dreams and other things are taking kind of a side seat for the moment that in some [00:21:00] way you're not ambitious.
That for me has been something I've had to really work through. And I would say I still work through it because I continue to have new dreams. I continue to have new ideas. I have lots of energy behind those things. And If you are someone who likes recognition for work well done and excellence, you're not going to get that as much in the title of mother.
that's, that's a big part of it. And So I actually think going back to what we started with this topic, I think that's actually what he was trying to say is that the world's going to tell you everything else is more important because it actually is pretty easy to talk about that stuff. It's very outwardly visible.
It's like the more money, the titles, the crushing goals, it's the, all this stuff that outwardly gets really easy to measure. And he was [00:22:00] saying, What I'm telling you is it's hard to measure the impact of this, but know that it's just as important, if not much more important to the family that you're wanting to serve.
And I, having been a little bit down the road now with the almost eight year old, I can tell you, I get it in a way I wouldn't have been able to get it. Eight years ago. No, and it, it is, hindsight is always 20, 20. I think about this all the time. And one of the reasons that I feel that I'm being called in this direction and it is on my heart to help people help women figure out and dive in onto what their true goals are to getting clear on those.
What is their worth? That's internal, not external, not defined by a paycheck. And how can they create the life with those components that they want that will serve the ultimate dream? Because I just didn't know what I didn't know. [00:23:00] And I grew up with parents that were extremely involved because the careers that they had, but they, my mom worked.
I was a latchkey kid. I didn't want for anything. I did not feel at all. Like I was deprived or like my parents weren't there for me. My dad got home like 30 minutes after I got home and then my mom was home shortly after that. And they didn't have jobs where they had to be on the phone or be on internet or be on call or travel.
I mean they were fully with us and so I don't have this like sense of what's right or wrong. Like whatever works for your family works for you. But I do feel like the overwhelming sense that I've gotten in growing up at the time that I did. And what is out there and what, the world is trying to send to us a buy more, do more, be more hustle, hustle, hustle.
It really doesn't lend itself for somebody that has in their heart this little voice saying, [00:24:00] but I just want to be with my kids. Yeah. That space for that is yes. And I want people to know, and I want women to hear that it's okay. If you have a sudden change of heart that it's okay, if you went to school for 12 years to become a surgeon and you want to find a way to peel that back, you can still serve, you can still find other ways to do that.
And ultimately for me, I feel like God gives the gift of children to you for you to steward and raise. And while yes, I do feel that I have other. Serving that I want to do first and foremost is serving my family and my children. And to your point, yeah, it's going to be 20 years before you see, see, see, a lot of return on that.
When you see where your children go in life and you see all that they are and who they are and what they can do, that is an evolution. It's not [00:25:00] a momentary things. And I guess for me, As a marathoner, I'm used to that delayed gratification. it takes a lot of work to get to the end of a marathon.
but I just want to tell women, especially women like you and I, who have been really, really ambitious, have worked really hard to get to a certain level, to have a certain title in their life. That being a mom and a wife is just as important. And if you are feeling that and feeling like a shift that that's okay too.
And I really thought that was his point. I really thought his point is just saying,you can do, he did not say you cannot do or be right, or that you should stay home. He didn't, he never said that, but support for his own wife is like saying to other people in such a public forum too. Like how many of my, my husband.
Thinks I am really the greatest person on earth. He, I, I know that from [00:26:00] the bottom of my soul, does he say that frequently? And would he ever proclaim that like out into no, cause that's not his way. So I think for him to go and say that for his wife, I just think that shows how much respect he has for somebody that has given up other avenues and aspects of their life to dedicate, because if you have a spouse and my husband works in sports, so I've seen this a lot.
And. I think about that all the time. Had my husband made it to the major leagues, what a different life that would be as a spouse than for him to be behind the scenes. If you have a spouse that's in the military, you have to give up a lot. That is a servant's way. And I think that's okay too. Well, the trailing spouse thing is real and I actually, because I think that's what they call it when you have to move and you're, you're the trailing spouse.
I've heard that described because I have friends that their husbands are doctors and they've always had to prioritize [00:27:00] wherever they were going to be in their medical school training and then their residency and then the internship and all the fellowship and then wherever they got the best job offer.
they literally for about 15 years had to say, Whatever is right for our family, which is really what you would be doing it for you, your present family, which is you and your spouse, but then the future family. And I know that this is true for women who are in that position and a trailing spouse, who is the male, it's less common.
it's, it's not like it's not, it's not happening, but it's less common. and so I, the people I know that are in that position are the male has been the one in the program and the wife has been choosing. To and maybe in some cases, actually delayed even starting a family because there was just too much upheaval.
But even if they didn't delay in some cases, they obviously start a family wherever you are, knowing that the part of the sacrifice of that is you aren't going to have a say in every step. The, [00:28:00] the say you have is I'm in this, I'm committed. This is our family. I'm going to do everything possible to create the, the right space and environment for our family, wherever that leads us.
and in life, there's always unknowns. Even the knowns you think are confirmed end up becoming less over time, right? Like we learned that, but especially in these certain industries, it's just becomes kind of a known thing. And so someone who is that. willing to say, I know they're sacrificing this. I may have to delay starting some of my own dreams and goals until we're settled enough to know where we're going to be for the next 20 years.
that takes a certain someone to do that and choose that. And I, I just think there's power in naming that too, because. If all you hear about is make it happen, go after your goals, you're only worthy if you're being productive and busy and achieving. And if all you hear is that, which is much louder, you could definitely start to [00:29:00] second guess this inkling that this intuition that you described that nudge to say, this is actually what I want.
This is fulfillment to me. And that's where the concept of this more of what matters movement started for, for me was like, but how do you know that's what matters most to you? And it was questioning things that I was being inundated with to say, but is this what matters most to me? And if the answer was yes, then that's great.
Then you have clarity and you're directionally aligned with where you're headed. But if the answer is, I don't know that that's what matters most to me. Then that's your first step of uncovering. Then what is, because there is going to be something that does matter more to you. There's always a scale, right?
And our scales might not even be the same as both ambitious moms. But I think that's part of the process is actually naming it to say, just because everyone quote unquote on the internet is telling me it's this [00:30:00] one thing. What if it's not for me? And being able to give enough space for that conversation too, is a really important piece that.
Often gets missed. So yeah, if you're a mom in this situation and or you're thinking about that next stage or you've been far down the path of ambition and it's left you feeling a little less than fulfilled, like there is. for all of that in real conversation of working through what does that actually lead to and mean?
And it doesn't mean having to let go of all pieces of that ambitious identity. I think that's something I want to say because it isn't all or nothing. There's ways I one thing I often Say in my businesses, I have full time dreams and part time hours, and that's because motherhood is full time for me and my businesses are full time dreams and part time hours, which means I have to say no to quite a bit of options and opportunities.
And I do that because that's [00:31:00] how I'm scaling it at this, at this moment. And I feel really aligned in that. I wouldn't have been able to articulate that five years ago, And so I think that's where. Noticing that pattern of every season is going to bring with it. New clarity is a big part of the discussion.
And that is where I think we're both so aligned in that we want to share that and help people get there faster because oftentimes other people who are in tune, who have been through it, who can feel it and see it. Can identify this. It doesn't mean that like me or Andrea could. Either one of us, talk to you for 30 minutes and then know what your real calling is or what your real desire is.
But other people can usually help you talk that through a lot quicker because they're not so married to what has been, they can clearly see what can be. [00:32:00] And that makes it a lot easier. And that's where I come from in wanting to share and taking the time to do the podcast, to do the other coaching endeavors that I do to help women see the same thing.
Because I know that I've been a highly, highly, highly type A Both money motivated, which is not a bad thing. If you're money motivated, fine, girl, money makes the world go round. but what is the most important thing? More of what matters most what you say. And I think that's really important to identify, work towards.
And I'm here to tell you, I have no doubt. I'm not saying it's easy. I'm not saying it'll come overnight, but I have no doubt every single person listening who doesn't see a clear path forward to get the time and the money and the messaging or, impact that they want on the world, I can help them put a plan in place because I know that it's possible for everybody.
I just believe that with every fiber of my being. [00:33:00] It's just not always possible for other people to see it for themselves. And sometimes they just need that example of that. And I love that's why you share it. That's why I bring on other women on my podcast often to show. All the different flavors of ways that you can be successful, make things work, different kinds of businesses, different kinds of lifestyles.
And at the end of the day, if somebody wants to go from making, 150, 000 a year to literally just being a stay at home mom and doesn't have any ambition or drive to do something else, that's okay too. And if you need a way to figure out a plan, a monetary financial transition plan, That is possible, too.
It's truly all possible. You just have to be open minded and believe it. Yeah, and to know, there's always going to be the, the need to know what is most important because Yes. Just an example of last week, I had someone come to me about something totally unrelated to what I do, not, not tied to anything I currently offer, any of that, and that was, and so when they, when [00:34:00] they invite me into essentially a partnership, and I, I declined, it was not a good fit.
It was not a good fit because it would have meant way more than full time hours. And again, I just know what is, what is more of what matters to me in this season. And it was not, it was not going to align with that. And so, I don't know, I think that's where it takes time and, and it definitely takes time to having to flex that muscle of the same, no muscle, if you don't use it very much, especially if you're very highly ambitious is probably the hardest muscle to flex because a lot of opportunities seem really great.
The problem is if you stack too many on top of each other, you are no longer effective and then you'll be really, really unhappy. And so. I think that's what I've most recently been learning, especially in not dampening my ambition, but getting even clearer on what direction I wanted to point. Because then what I say yes to, I'm really saying a [00:35:00] whole body yes to it.
And I feel like then it's, it's still work that lights me up. It's still things that excite me and get me going and make me feel creative. And, and that spills over into the rest of my life too. So everybody gets the benefit of that versus the opposite, which is feeling depleted, unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and exhausted.
Yep. I don't need that. Not at all. I know I talk about this forever, but I just feel like that's what people need to hear. Yep. So I would say the conclusion for our episode here is that one, we are here for you. We believe in you more of what matters most is the most important thing. And the most important focus that you can find is what do you really want more of?
I heard this really great saying from this old blogger. I used to read. that's still around. I can't remember her name, but she would say, you can afford [00:36:00] anything, but you can't afford everything. And that goes for your time. So you can afford to invest in what matters most to you and let the rest go.
And the other thing I would say for myself is. Let the media go. If you hear a trending topic, if you hear people jumping on everything, it's probably for a reason. Don't let it impact you. Don't let it affect you. Or like me, don't read the news. Yeah, well, what distracts you is, is likely the reason that you're feeling stuck in some of your other goals.
distraction is the number one cause of not moving in a direction. It's like we spend so much time just in this constant state of trying to get back on track. We're never Able to fully realize. I think it's important for us to recognize our own potential in some of the areas that we deem most important.
And I think a lot of times when someone hires a coach, whether it's you or me or anyone out there, a lot of times what they're asking for is I want you to help me put the blinders on. I want you to help me get better at staying [00:37:00] focused on what I'm telling you. I want because if, if what they're telling you, they want, it really does align with the actions they're willing to take, then usually the thing missing is they're just not.
Allowing the space for it, and they're getting pulled in directions that are not serving the goal and So if that's where you're at, then you definitely do probably need partnership because there is an aspect to that that's hard to do on your own if you're stuck in that cycle. Oh my gosh. And I, again, I am fully transparent person over here.
Sometimes people are like my husband was like, you share too much. but this is why I also have a coach because that's me. That's me. It's so cool. Like I have so many interests and so many things that I really want to go for. And that is the number one thing that my coach and they asked me the other day, what, what did you find that was like the most successful thing for the week?
And I said, not stressing when we had that big storm, not stressing that I lost the time that I was just focused on my family and what we needed to do for the [00:38:00] neighborhood and that I relaxed in that. Because focus on what matters. Let go of the rest of it. Don't rush the results. And that is what they coached me on over and over again.
And even that little bit is worth every penny I pay because otherwise I am like a stressed, frenetic person. Oh my gosh, my, I've got to have 20 things on my task list. And they're like, no, Crystal, you only need to, you only need to do two things this week and you are successful. And so it's those small things.
And I think that's even harder for type a ambitious girls. so that's what I have. Yeah. Yeah. Well, we'll have to part to this. There's so much. Let me start talking about the ambition addiction. I have lots of thoughts there, but I will stay tuned for a second episode on that topic in a future date.
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