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Welcome to The Limitless Podcast with Deanna Herrin, your space to elevate every area of your life. Designed for ambitious souls and entrepreneurs ready to unlock their full potential, this podcast combines mindset mastery, leadership strategies, and transformational insights to guide you toward living a life of abundance and alignment.
Through empowering solo episodes and thought-provoking guest interviews, Deanna reveals the secrets to building confidence, creating meaningful success, and breaking through limiting beliefs. Whether you’re redefining your purpose or scaling your business, this is where the journey to your next level begins. Let’s shatter ceilings and embrace the limitless possibilities waiting for you.
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Unknown: You are listening to
the limitless podcast. I'm your
host. Deanna Herron, what if you
had no limitations keeping you
from your dream life in 2016 I
had a major tug on my heart to
write a book about my story, and
in the process, I learned that I
had been operating with a very
faulty belief system for the
majority of my life. I've had a
huge transformation since then,
and my life's passion and
mission is to teach you how to
live a limitless life. Join me
on this journey. Let's get
started.
Hello, beautiful souls, and
welcome to the limitless
podcast. On today's podcast,
we're going to have a real
conversation. Have you ever
caught yourself thinking, If
only my partner could see what
they're doing, if they would
just change everything would be
so much better, or why won't
they just show up differently? I
know this firsthand, because
I've experienced this myself,
but I have to tell you that the
majority of my clients that come
to me, they want to fix their
spouse, their partner. There are
things about their spouse that
is driving them crazy. And our
go to mechanism, our default
mechanism is to try and control
and change our circumstance. On
today's podcast, I'm actually
going to give you another way to
look at it, another shift that
could happen that's super
powerful for you. Instead of
trying to fix them, here are
three powerful shifts to make.
So we're going to look at the
three shifts that need to be
made for you to have that peace
and empowerment, the spiral of
wanting to fix our spouse, fix
our partner. I've lived it, but
here's the truth that truly
cracked me wide open. And when
we're trying to fix someone
else, where we're trying to fix
a circumstance or a situation,
it's not awakening, that's not
your awakening, that's actually
avoidance. Spiritual growth does
not happen when we control
someone else's behavior. And
what I do in all of my programs,
this is about psychology, but
it's about spiritual growth. And
when we're trying to control
somebody else, we're not growing
ourselves. And that spiritual
growth can only happen when we
stop trying to control someone
else's behavior. It begins the
moment we stop outsourcing our
discomfort, believing that
something outside of us is
responsible for the suffering
that we are experiencing, and
when we can stop outsourcing
that, and we can start
transmuting that pain that we
are experiencing, that suffering
that we are experiencing, we can
transmute that into wisdom,
power, peace and freedom, and
that's really what we are all
looking for. So awakening is not
about changing them, it's about
facing you. Awakening is raw.
It's confronting. It's looking
in the mirror and realizing I'm
not upset because of what they
did. I'm actually upset because
there's something in me that is
being stirred, something
unhealed, something unloved, and
truly this is the soul's way of
saying to you, pay attention
when we feel irritated and
frustrated, when we feel
triggered, your soul is telling
you pay attention. There's
something here that's ready to
be liberated. When I made this
shift, it changed everything for
me on the inside. It gave me
back my piece. It gave me back
my power, and I was able to heal
a lot of those stories that were
underneath. So let's dive into
the three powerful shifts to
make okay. So number one, ask
the real question. The real
question is not, how do I get
them to see it? The real
question is, what in me hasn't
been seen, healed or loved that
trigger that you're
experiencing? It's not about
them, it's your soul putting
that old wound inside you on a
megaphone for you to hear it
very loudly. That's actually
what a trigger is. I want to say
that again, it's not about them.
It's about your soul waking you
up to the fact that there is an
old wound within you that is
ready to be healed. And every
time you find yourself
ruminating that tornado of
thoughts about their behavior,
every time you rehearse that
conversation in your head,
hoping they'll finally
understand. I want you to pause
for a second, pause and ask
yourself, what memory right now
is this feeling reminding me of
where did I first feel unseen,
unheard or unloved like this?
That's the story. You're not
crazy. You're just remembering,
and your body is.
Asking for some relief, because
chances are, this is a pattern
that has been playing over and
over and over, but you've never
been aware of it because you
haven't asked yourself the
questions. You haven't asked
yourself the questions. Because
we go into that victim mentality
when we are triggered like, I'm
not I'm not loved. Why? Why does
he continue to treat me this
way? Instead of going to that as
your default, ask yourself,
pause and ask yourself, what
memory is this feeling reminded
me of what memory and where did
I first feel unseen, unheard and
unloved like this. This is not a
moment to control the situation.
It's a moment to heal. It's a
moment to heal. Number two, lead
with your energy, not your
agenda. And I want to dive into
this a little bit, because,
truly, a lot of times we don't
understand the meaning behind
energy and frequency. And when I
talk about lead with your energy
and not your agenda, this, this
is real healing, real healing.
You cannot fake it. People feel
your energy before you speak a
word, they feel it. And I've
talked about this on on past
podcasts. So if you are new to
me, I want you to really hear
what I'm going to say. Your
emotions have an energy. So
think about someone who's angry.
When you walk into a room full
of people, do you migrate to
somebody who's angry? Chances
are no, because you can feel
their energy. They have a look
about their face. They have a
way that they're standing and
the energy is off, and that's
not someone that you are
attracted to. When you walk into
a room, who do you notice first?
The people who are happy,
they're vibrant, right? And so
our emotions have an energy. And
when I talk about lead with your
energy, not your agenda, I'm
talking about that healing
energy within you. When you
begin to heal, your energy will
change. You will no longer be
holding on to those lower level
emotions of anger, bitterness
and resentment, you'll have a
lot more peace, and when you can
embody that peace, when your
nervous system no longer needs
to convince or correct anybody,
when your boundaries are fully
rooted in truth of Who you are,
that piece of who you are, that
healed version of you, that you
really are, and not emotional
reactivity. That's truly when
the shift will happen. So people
will either either meet your
energy, meet you in that energy,
or they'll fall away, and if
they don't respond, that's
information for you, not
rejection. That's clarity that
has happened many, many times in
my relationships, in my life, if
they don't respond, that's
clarity for me. It's not
rejection. There are some people
who just will not meet your
energy, and you have to get to a
point where you stop negotiating
with misalignment if they're not
aligned with you energetically,
if someone is still in that
place of resentment and holding
on to victim mentality, and you
are a whole Healed person who is
experiencing peace and
empowerment. You're not in
alignment. You're just not in
alignment. And so work from that
space. When I started working
from a space of energy, it
changed everything for me. Does
this event match my energy? Do
you know how I know that because
my body tells me this is a no,
Deanna, this is a no, and
tapping into that will help you
time and time again. Have I done
that 100% no. I recently, very
recently, majorly missed the
mark on on a person that was
creating website for me, majorly
missed the mark on that when
your energy is aligned, your
life becomes so much more
peaceful, even if that means
certain people don't walk with
you anymore. Number three, turn
the mirror that they're holding
up to you into a roadmap. And
here's what I mean by that,
every irritation, every single
trigger, every obsession with
their behavior. Now you can see
that this is not just going to
be with marriage or just with
your partner. This is with
everyone in your life. Your
obsession with their behavior is
a divine invitation not to fix
them, but to find you. Mic drop.
Let that sink in for just a
second. Every irritation, every
trigger, every time we obsess
with someone else's behavior,
it's a divine invitation not to
fix them, but to find you. That
is the journey you're on, my
friend, is the journey to you,
and in that moment, the things
that you can do to actually
transmit what you're feeling,
start journaling. Journaling is
powerful, breath, root through
the pain, do the inner work to
identify the story and heal the
story. Because here's the truth,
fixing them will not set you
free, healing you will. And
that's truly where your power.
Lies. You deserve peace. You
deserve joy. And logically, I
know you know that, but
emotionally, most of the time,
we're still in pursuit, still
chasing those moments of relief
through someone else's shift,
still believing if they would
just change. But what if I told
you, peace is not found in their
change. It's born in your
release, and that's the path,
the true path to your wholeness.
We have to stop outsourcing our
joy, our peace and our worth,
stop outsourcing that to other
people and anchor into the truth
that lives within you. And this
is exactly what we do in my new
membership, the limitless lounge
inside this program, all of the
things that I talked about
today, we will teach you how to
stop outsourcing your power to
other people. We will uncover
those stories, those triggers,
heal those stories, and release
the emotion through breath work.
Limitless Lounge is a membership
for $27 a month. There are
programs in there that will help
you. I do live coaching monthly,
as well as a live breath work to
help you move the emotional
energy, help you heal those
stories and there's time for
question and answers. Would love
to have you a part of this
community. We are in a massive
shift right now in the world,
and massive shift of healing.
And when you heal, when one
person heals, we all heal. If
you want more information, I'm
going to drop it in the show
notes. Love to have you. God
bless you. See you next week.
I'm honored to have you as part
of the limitless community. If
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