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Imagine
standing at the peak of your achievement,
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surrounded by the applause
and acclaim you've worked tirelessly for.
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Yet in that moment of triumph,
a whisper of emptiness
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echoes, asking, what now?
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This is the paradox of success.
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A journey both exhilarating and at times
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unexpectedly hollow.
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Welcome to the Perpetual Success Podcast,
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where we explore
the highs and lows of achieving greatness.
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I'm Ondine Dean.
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I'm your guide
through the relentless pursuit of success.
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Today
we explore the emotional rollercoaster
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that high achievers, artists,
athletes, visions, crews
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ride in their quest for the next peak.
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So today we're talking about
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riding their high achievers
roller coaster of emotions.
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High achievers are no strangers
to that cycle of setting ambitious
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goals, pouring
heart and soul into their endeavor,
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and experiencing
the rush of surpassing them.
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And what follows.
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Success can often feel like an end
to combining for it.
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A moment where time seems to pause
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and the question what's next looms large.
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So let's talk about that peak of success
and the subsequent quest
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for what comes next.
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It's like being in an amusement park,
and you've been on a roller coaster,
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and the spiral climb,
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the rush of the peak, quickly
give way to the search for the next ride.
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You're never fully satisfied
that roller coaster was amazing.
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But what is faster,
bigger, greater gives you more.
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More.
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Just more.
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So we try to fill this void
very often with celebrations
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and external validations.
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We're looking for applause, accolades,
going up with people,
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collecting press review,
watching them, rewatching it.
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It's just a temporary fix
to permanent quest for full female.
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You can't let go of
that moment of exhilaration.
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And you're trying to fill this void
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now, relying on external validation
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to extend that peak moment
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may lead us into two traps
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one stagnation in our comfort zone,
and two frustration
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with our support system
pushing us for more.
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What do I mean by stagnation
in our comfort zone?
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Think of a music or movie star
who had one big hit only in their career.
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They had this one successful movie
or recording.
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There were celebrate it everywhere.
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They were invited to events,
and those moments
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were extending
the rush and pleasure of success.
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It can lead us to think, hey, I made it.
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This is it.
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I'm here.
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And the pitfall is that during
your next project, you forget to put in
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what made you successful
in the first place the motivation to drive
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and the discipline that allowed you
to create something extraordinary.
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These are replaced by comfort and comfort
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is what led you to your result
before your big success.
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That's one reason
why repeat success is so hard.
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It's very tempting to just let yourself
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be drawn by the applause
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I mentioned.
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The second pitfall it's
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not exclusive to the first one.
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That second pitfall
is to develop frustration
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with our support system,
pushing us for more.
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This is actually quite interesting
because it's
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the reason I wanted to do this
podcast in the first place.
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I was speaking with a client, let's call
her Julia.
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Julia mentioned
that she had just completed a work project
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with great results.
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Julia wanted to celebrate for a few days,
but the next day
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her team was focused on working harder
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and smarter to get even better result.
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At their next milestone,
there was a complete disconnect of energy
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state between Julia, who was imagine
imagining a laid back celebratory day,
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and her team,
who had celebrated and moved on.
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And guess what?
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Both parts thought they were right.
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And both were right.
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It's a delicate balance
between savoring success
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internally and externally, and thriving
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for growth internally.
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The key is to reframe
our perspective on success
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and to reframe
the role of those around us.
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If you've created
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a truly supportive
support system around you,
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then you must recognize
that they are not pushing you for more.
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Just for the sake of it,
they're celebrating your potential
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by challenging you to stretch further.
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Think of it for a second.
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Is it truly supportive
to let you slide into your comfort zone
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when they know that you're
in the perfect place to leverage
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your recent success
to push yourself for more?
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No, it is not supporting you.
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You will have people telling you
that you're right to celebrate longer
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and that you can work harder later.
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These people are people pleasers.
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These people are with you
because you make them feel good.
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They want to support who you are,
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not who you are becoming.
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As you become more successful.
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You'll notice
many people fall into that category.
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And those people will slow you down
and hold you back.
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This is why your internal validation
must have the loudest voice.
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You need to learn to celebrate
and keep working for more.
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At the same time.
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Maintaining perpetual
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success is about finding
internal validation
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and learning to embrace the push
for continuous growth
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as a form of love and belief
in your potential.
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At the end of the day,
it's about finding satisfaction in journey
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as much as
in the accomplishments of your life.
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There are reasons why it matters so much
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to find more satisfaction in the journey
that in the result.
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And it's not a gimmick
to make you lower the bar of your goals.
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And it's not some kind of feel good
sentence that it's all about the journey.
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It's actually quite the opposite.
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Let's take a practical example.
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Olympic champions.
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They train Billy and their training
consist of intense, consistent,
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focused action that are meant to generate
a specific result
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as they keep training
and adopting the training as necessary.
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Their chances of succeeding increase.
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Keep in mind
that this view is quite recent.
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Not so long ago,
we believed that people were either
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talented
or not capable of great things or not.
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The book
Mindset The New Psychology of Success
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by Carl Dweck, helps us understand
how many high achievers were
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not spotted as talented
and where underdogs.
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According to our model,
these individuals have a growth mindset,
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meaning they believe that abilities
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can be developed
through dedication and hard work.
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This mindset become essential
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while facing challenges
and overcoming setbacks.
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If you succumb to the series
of extending your celebrations
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through external validation,
you start shifting into a fixed mindset.
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Stop thinking I'm there.
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I do not need to work hard anymore and
you won't see the next challenge coming.
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You'll find it impossible to overcome.
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Think
Buster Douglas after beating Mike Tyson.
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If you want an example.
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Of growth mindset alone
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isn't sufficient to keep you going.
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Angela Duckworth in her book
‘Grit’ emphazises
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the importance of Passion and perseverance
over in our own talent.
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Think of it for a second.
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If you don't enjoy the training,
you'll likely work less inconsistently.
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You won't give it your full attention,
or you'll quit altogether.
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When you enjoy what you're doing in a way
or another, you'll stick to it.
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I love that Angela Duckworth.
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Passion and perseverance.
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Passion alone is not sufficient.
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Often you have to do hard things
that you don't love
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in order
to push yourself to the next level.
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Many high achievers
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have developed a habit of doing one thing
every day that they don't really
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want to do, and congratulate themselves
for accomplishing this task.
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This is a mindset
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trick to remind yourself
that you can be perseverant,
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and you are the kind of person
who sticks to your own commitment.
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So I highly recommend
you implement this practice, as it will
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serve you both to persevere on your way
to your next accomplishment.
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And as you celebrate and feel drawn
by the sirens of the applause.
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You'll push your limits
only if there is satisfaction
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in both the process
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and the results, but you don't really have
direct control over the results.
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They're a consequence of your work
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and sometimes other external factors.
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So you want to maximize the size fraction
of going through the process.
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So you keep going at it.
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By doing so you transform the ups
and downs of your success journey
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into a roller coaster
where going down is incredibly fun.
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Going up brings up
a strange sense of exciting apprehension,
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and being up there is like
time has stopped for a moment
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and you know you'll go down.
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It'll be incredibly fun again.
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Your listeners today for our mindset
shifting questions,
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I want to focus on the dynamic between
our desire to celebrate our achievements
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and those people who push us towards
growth.
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Let's address the emotional complexities
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and the search for external validation
using our keen system.
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And for those of you who are new
to this podcast, the Kane system is used
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to navigate your way
through perpetual success.
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Kane is an acronym
to describe the four simple phases
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that you can rely
on, any time you need to take a next step.
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These four simple phases are clarify,
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act, network, and your.
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When things get hard or when things are
so great, you don't know what to do.
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You clarify why you're here
and why are you going.
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You act and do the hard things.
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You network for the resources
to keep going and you endure.
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Where's resilience?
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So let's girls of perpetual success keen
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to navigate the roller coasters
of high achievement.
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First off, clarify.
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Here's a question for you to clarify.
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Why are you here and why are you going?
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Can you identify moments
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when external pressure actually propelled
you forward,
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even if it felt uncomfortable at the time?
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I would even say especially
if it felt uncomfortable at the time.
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Can you identify moments
where external pressure
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actually propelled you forward?
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This will help you acknowledge
the beneficial outcomes
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of these external pressures.
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Now, once you're clear on why you're here
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and where you're going, let's focus on
what should what we should do.
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What are the hard things? Act.
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What steps
can you take to internalize validation
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and celebrate your achievements
independent of external problem?
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You want to focus here on building
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internal mechanisms
for recognition and celebration.
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That's going to be crucial
for the rest of your journey.
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Now let's network.
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Think about who in your life consistently.
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Consistently I repeat consistently
challenges you to grow.
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And how can you view their behavior
as a form of support
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rather than pressure?
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Who in your life
consistently challenges you to grow?
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And how can you view their behavior
as a form of support rather than pressure?
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You want to shift perspective
on the intentions behind those
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who are pushing you
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because like, truly,
they're your support system
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and your.
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Let's take a moment here.
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When feeling pushed beyond
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your comfort zone by others,
what strategies
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can you employ to maintain your inner
peace and focus on growth?
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So you probably know
what you're currently doing
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when feeling pushed by others
to go beyond your confidence on
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what new strategy can you employ to maintain your inner peace and focus on growth?
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Because here's the thing.
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Like you want to think
about those strategies
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right now when you're calm, it's
not going to happen on the moment,
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on the moment
you're going to default back to your,
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usual responses.
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Now, dear listeners, as you know, I'm
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extremely curious,
so I would love for you to share with me
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how you implementing these new techniques
and these strategies into your life.
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How are you implementing the change system
in your life?
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I invite you all to connect on Instagram.
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My handle is add on the indie.
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Join me.
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Be part of a community
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of like minded people on your journey
through perpetual success.
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If you feel a bit shy to share
all of those things on social media,
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feel free to send me an email online
at Perpetual Success dot coach.
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Navigating the successful rollercoaster.
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Remember, the journey doesn't flatten
after each achievement.
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Instead, it's about embracing each phase,
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the peak,
the time for you, the fall and the climb.
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Embrace each phase
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as integral parts
of your perpetual success story.
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More importantly,
it's about transforming the whole success
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into a moment of curiosity.
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Next week, we'll talk about nurturing
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growth as a successful high achiever.
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Chart your path
00;16;16;00 - 00;16;19;03
to remaining perpetual
success today and every day.
