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The podcast that teaches tweens and teens necessary life skills to achieve their goals, develop unconditional confidence, cultivate positive habits and become UNSTOPPABLE in all areas of life!
Hey. Hey. Hey. Hello. Hello, and welcome to the unstoppable you podcast.
Speaker 1:It's your host, coach Will or at coaching with Will on socials. And this is my weekly podcast where I share bite sized wisdom and action oriented success principles, all dedicated to help you crush your goals, develop confidence, and become truly unstoppable in life. So without further ado, let's dive in. What's up fam? Man, it's been a really long time since I have recorded a podcast episode.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for your patience. It has been a crazy summer and I know it's not even the summer anymore. Technically it's fall, right? I don't even know. But you're back to school and you know, I feel like we've got a lot of good things to talk about.
Speaker 1:Now, I will say before we dive into today's fire content, one of my favorite things to coach on and talk about, I want to kind of let you in on something that we've been working on. We are doing a little bit of a revamping of the podcast, the Unstoppable You podcast, and we're going to start interviewing some pretty awesome human beings. I'm going to ask them questions like, hey, what do you wish you knew when you were a teenager? What are things that kind of helped you get to the professional sport that you're playing right now? So we're going to be doing a lot more interviews and I hope that you enjoy them.
Speaker 1:If you like, you know, that's the cringiest thing that I've ever heard in my entire life. I don't want to listen to that. Then first off, that stinks for me. Second off, you don't have to listen to them. I just hope that you enjoy some of the principles that come out of them.
Speaker 1:Again, we're going to keep the same goal in mind, and that is to help you become totally unstoppable as cringe as that sounds. I don't think it does, but maybe there's someone out there that thinks it is. So, y'all, today, let's go ahead and dive in. I don't want to you don't want to bore you anymore with, you know, me just blabbing on about random stuff. What I want to talk about today is something that completely shifted my life and really helped my emotional intelligence.
Speaker 1:Now, when I say emotional intelligence, what I want you all to think about is my ability to manage the ups and downs of my emotions. I always talk about, you know, big emotions are awesome. I love big emotions. So I'm talking like big joy and even big stress. There are things that I think make us humans, and I think big emotions are one of them.
Speaker 1:And the ability to manage those emotions and ride that roller coaster that often comes with being a teenager or a young adult is I think one of the best things that you can learn. So what is the thing that I'm talking about? You're like, well, just get to the dang point. We're talking about a four step process on how to turn your really big negative emotions, quote unquote negative emotions, to a little bit better emotions. I learned this from a company called Southwestern Advantage.
Speaker 1:It was a company where I did a crazy summer internship. And I just want to give them credit because this is something that has helped me so much along with a lot of other things that they have helped me with. And it's called Raft. So think about a time, before I go into this, when you felt a really negative situation or negative emotion, I should say. And maybe it was, you you had a lot of friend drama or maybe you had just missed the basketball team.
Speaker 1:I was the king of missing basketball teams, by the way. I was the king of missing a lot of the sports teams. Looking back, that was like one of the hardest things that I ever had to go through. So maybe it's that, maybe it's a breakup for you. Whatever negative situation you are either going through right now or you've gone through in the past, this is for you.
Speaker 1:Four step process. You ready? R a f t. If you're taking notes, hey. If you're taking notes, props to you.
Speaker 1:If you're not taking notes, that's okay. Pull out your phone right now. Put this in your notes app. R a f t, it's an acronym. I'm pretty sure that's what you call it.
Speaker 1:The R stands for recognize that the situation is happening. And you might be thinking to yourself, bro, that's very obvious. Like in order for you to, you know, kind of live, you got to recognize what Most of the time y'all, we don't really truly recognize what's happening to us. And so, you know, this this whole first letter, the r, is kind of obvious, but I think there's a way to do it and there's a way not to do it. A lot of the times when we feel a lot of stress, we don't fully recognize what it is that's happening to us.
Speaker 1:We don't fully think through, you know, okay, this person just broke up with me. This person is being super mean to me at school, right? We typically want to move past whatever it is that we're feeling. We want to move on to the next thing. We want to get over it.
Speaker 1:But this first letter is really just helping us realize that, hey, in order for us to get through and sort through big emotions, we've got to first recognize that it's happening in the first place. We've got to name our emotions. So maybe it's like hey, I feel stressed or like hey, this really sucks. I hate missing this basketball team or I hate missing, you know, the the lead role in this play. I'm just gonna recognize my thoughts, I'm gonna recognize my feelings, and of course the situation.
Speaker 1:Alright. So that's like the foundation. If you skip over that part, then it's really hard to sort through emotions in a in a really good way. The second letter, which is a, is the most important. I'm telling y'all, like this totally changed my life.
Speaker 1:So if you're listening to this and you're like, oh, Will, you say everything changed your life, that might be true. Otherwise, I probably wouldn't be, you know, talking about them. But the a specifically helped me so much and that is accepting your situation. Y'all, I could do probably 48 podcasts and then another 48 podcasts just about the a of accepting your situation. But I want you to think about it like this.
Speaker 1:Most people go through life and y'all, I am that most people as well. We go through life and we are we are, you know, resisting or rejecting that certain things are happening to us. And I'll give you like a really basic example. You know, let's say we wake up in the morning and we look outside and it's rainy. And maybe it's the summer, right?
Speaker 1:Like I love summer days, I love good weather, but we look outside and it's like, oh gosh, it's rainy. Right? Our first emotion that usually comes with something like that is, oh, this sucks. I hate it. Right?
Speaker 1:We are rejecting the fact that it's rainy outside. And anytime people, I want you to listen to this really closely because this is really the most important thing that I'll probably talk about today. Anytime that you are resisting something that has already happened, then you are setting yourself up for so many negative emotions. Right? Negative emotions ultimately come from resisting what is already happened.
Speaker 1:And Eckert told my favorite author, he says, you know, what's more what's more insane than resisting or rejecting what already is? Right? Like, there is nothing more insane. And so I'm not saying that you just need to accept everything that happens to you and just kinda, you know, do nothing about maybe missing a basketball team or having a big breakup. Right?
Speaker 1:That's not what I'm saying is, like, you don't do anything about it. But what I am saying is in order for you to get the most out of the situation, you've got to first accept the situation. You will never feel peace or you'll never feel confidence in your future or true hope until you say, okay, this has happened. Maybe it doesn't doesn't align with what I want to happen. Maybe this has happened.
Speaker 1:I feel really crappy. I'm gonna, you know, sort through those emotions and accept that it's happened and then move on to the second two steps. Right? So hopefully this is all making sense. First, we gotta recognize that dang, this crap just happened.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna accept the fact that that crap happened And then I'm going to move on to f, which is focus on your controllables. Let me tell you this. I say this all the time in my coaching sessions, in my programs, in my unstoppable you. And that is a lot of the times when we feel stress, it means we're trying to control things that we cannot control. And I want you to think about that for a second.
Speaker 1:Like a lot of the times when you feel stress, we're either trying to control our results and at the end of the day, we can't control our results. We can influence them, but we can't control them. Or we're trying to control other people's opinions, right? Like we're going to school and we're like, Oh, I hope this person thinks this of me, right? We're trying to control things that we can't control.
Speaker 1:And so in those negative moments, in those situations where you feel really big emotions, after you've recognized and accepted what has happened, fixate your thoughts on what you can control. Unstoppable human beings, unstoppable students, unstoppable adults, business owners, athletes, what they do better than anybody is they focus on their controllables. And while they focus on their controllables, attitude, your effort, and I know this might sound cringe, but like your attitude, your effort, your self talk, your, how you treat other people, your activity, so the habits, right, going to practice, studying for your test, They control those controllables to the best of their ability while simultaneously surrendering or letting go of things they can't control. Other people's opinions, what other people do on the basketball court, Whatever it may be, right? Other people's actions.
Speaker 1:How people treat you? So that third step is kind of creating a game plan for the future. It's like what can I control? How can I go and do one or two of those things that I can control to the best of my ability? Usually y'all if you do that man, good things are going to happen.
Speaker 1:And then the fourth step is to transform that negative energy into positive momentum. Transform negative energy into positive momentum. And this one's so important and I want you to think through like has there ever been a moment in your life where maybe you've gotten crap from your friends or maybe you've gotten, you know, maybe you went through a big failure, quote unquote failure, right? Or you fell short of some expectations And yes, it sucked in the moment, but like down the road, you look back and you're like, dang, if it wasn't for that crappy situation that happened to me, I wouldn't have taken better actions. I wouldn't have practiced.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't have, you know, done this or this to improve myself. And so most of the most of the things that happen to, you know, these successful people, and again, however you want to, you know, however you want to define success, it doesn't really matter. Everyone has a different definition. But in general, successful people, they take those failures and they turn it into a reason why they need to succeed. They turn the negative energy into positive momentum.
Speaker 1:If you miss spot on on the team that you wanna that you wanna, hopefully have a spot on, then, yeah, we're gonna recognize that it happened. We're gonna accept that it happened. We're gonna focus on, okay, well, what are these things that I can control? And we're gonna look back on that quote unquote failure as the reason why you need to work so hard to get it in the future. So r a f t as something is going going on in your life and you're like, dang, this kind of sucks.
Speaker 1:Not going to lie. Right? Go through that four step process. Even if you just do one of those, by the way, y'all, like you don't have to do the whole four steps. Ideally, you do.
Speaker 1:Right? Ideally, you make that into a habit. But if you literally just accept your situation, even if you just focus on your controllables and do your best to turn, you know, that negative negative feel inside the negative vibes in you into positive momentum, your life is gonna change. So that is all that we've got for today. I hope that you enjoyed.
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Speaker 1:Go and make it the best day ever, and we'll catch you in the next episode.