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Welcome to Flip the Script with Vic, your weekly pep talk to expand and shift your perspective. I’m your host, Victoria Nielsen. Together, we’ll unwind all the things you thought you knew, and awaken to what’s truly possible when you flip the script on your reality and take control of your own life.
Speaker A [00:00:02]:
Welcome to flip the script with Vic, your weekly pep talk to expand and shift your perspective. I'm your host, Victoria Nielsen. Together we'll unwind all the things you thought you knew and awaken to what's possible when you flip the script and take control of your own life. Are you ready? Let's jump on in. Hello, loves. Welcome to another episode of flip the script with Vic. I'm your host, Victoria Nielsen. I feel like it's been forever since I connected with you guys.
Speaker A [00:00:30]:
I was on vacation all last week in Chile. My husband and I went to South America, to the Atticalma desert, and we went and visited Santiago, Chile, and it was absolutely amazing and beautiful, but I recorded episodes before I left, so it's been a while since I sat in front of the mic, and I feel like it's really important to talk about what's rising within me right now, which is a lot of resistance to recording this podcast, to meditating, to all of the really healthy habits that I set up for myself earlier this year. And part of this may be the new moon in Sagittarius that's coming up. That's kind of really asking you to step into these things that you said that you wanted for yourself. But it also was just this time of year. In December, things just pick up exponentially. The weather is cold in my part of the world, and I constantly have to ask myself every morning if it's seasonal depression or is it just that I'm tired and that I need to rest? And our bodies naturally want to go inward and rest during this time. But I feel like the outward world doesn't really support that, that this is not a time of slowing down.
Speaker A [00:01:49]:
You see on Instagram, everyone's like, do all the things before the end of the year. Start your new year, right? And it's all bullshit, because honestly, the new year doesn't really start until spring and March. So this time is really a time of slowing down and going inward. But if you're like me, I have this kind of internal battle right now about that because my outside world is so chaotic. I am going to be solo parenting all this week while my husband stays behind in Chile to go hike in Patagonia. And I just also find that I don't really want to do a lot of the practices that I know are good for me, and that resistance is very human and very natural. So I want you to know, if you're experiencing something similar, that you're not alone. And I actually had a friend this morning ask me, don't you ever just want to take a break from doing all that stuff from the working on yourself and the meditating and the being better? And yes, I do.
Speaker A [00:02:53]:
And yes, I think you should, because we don't stop long enough to actually integrate all of the things and the lessons that we have learned. And I find that resistance is coming up for a reason. And there's a bunch of different reasons. Right? So for me personally, it's because I am out of the routine and out of the habit of meditating and checking in with myself and doing the inner work. But also, it's because my body is tired. My body is asking me to rest. And you're just sending yourself into a spiral, like a shame spiral. Honestly, if you don't listen to what the resistance is telling you, and the resistance for you might be fear, right? That maybe that things are going to change so completely when you actually make these habits and step into this next version of yourself.
Speaker A [00:03:42]:
But I find that a lot of it has to do with our body and our mind not being in cohesion. So the mind is always going to want to push you forward. It's always going to try and tell you that you should be doing something that you shouldn't be resting. It's going to repeat all of those old stories that have been told to you from childhood. So maybe that resting makes you lazy, or that you need to have the perfect holiday decor for your family, or it's not going to be an amazing Christmas, or that you have to work hard to achieve all of the things that you want in this life. So whatever those stories are that have been pre programmed by your upbringing and by society are going to be playing on repeat right about now, especially as the days get longer and darker, we are alone with our thoughts a lot more. And that can cause a lot of spiraling. So, like I said, shame spiraling, guilt spiraling.
Speaker A [00:04:37]:
And then we're not in our bodies, we're in our minds, and our body is telling us something different. Our body is saying, hey, it's okay to rest. We're always looking for that next escape. And I'm right there with you. We're scrolling our phones all the time. We can't sit with ourselves and our thoughts. And it's a practice that we have to continue to cultivate. And it doesn't mean that you're perfect, but it means that you keep coming back to it.
Speaker A [00:05:02]:
And I find that the longer that I get out of my routines and habits and allow myself to stir in this resistance, the harder it is to get back to the things that I know are good for me. And the biggest, and maybe not even easiest, but the biggest thing that you can do to help shift yourself during something like this is to get to the body. Because when we're holding on to the breath, we're holding on to thoughts in the mind, and when we're not listening to that disease, that unease in the body, it's going to keep staying there and it's going to keep trying to signal at you until you listen to it, until you are run down with a cold, until you literally cannot do anything but rest. And so it can be as simple as stretching. Stretching is so good because our tissues and our organs and every part of our body has a memory of our emotions and our sensations. And so when we're stretching, we're getting those emotions and sensations to move up and out of the body. And that may seem really simple, but it really is. If you stretch every single day, five minutes a day, is really all you need to get the energy moving.
Speaker A [00:06:15]:
And I know that starting sometimes is the hardest to do and to actually make yourself sit down and do it, because that was me yesterday. In my head was like, I know I should meditate. I would feel better if I meditated. But it just didn't seem like there was a perfect time, because there's never a perfect time. And so I just had to plot myself down and do it in the middle of the chaos while my two kids were running around and my mother in law was here and there was so many things happening, but I felt better afterwards. And it was such a reminder that the body is what we need to tune into because we're always searching for more. We want more clarity and more good feelings and just more of everything. And there's nothing wrong with that, but sometimes you actually don't need those things.
Speaker A [00:07:01]:
Like, you don't actually need more clarity. You need to just get into your body and you need to be grounded. Because I think that was the feeling that I had yesterday, was this feeling of being unmoored a little bit and being too in my head, because I was. We had been traveling and I was having to think about what was happening next. This week, as I'm parenting solo, and stopping all of that mind chatter and getting into the body will give you that sense of peace and also of groundedness, because you cannot move forward from an ungrounded place, because then everything kind of swirls into chaos, to be honest. And then that's when you feel like you're unsure that's when you feel like you don't know the next right step or the thing that you need to do next. I often equate this to like, you're walking around your house and you go into a room and you don't even remember why you went in there. Or you just feel antsy and feel like you need to be doing something, but you don't know what you need to be doing.
Speaker A [00:07:58]:
It's because you're ungrounded. And so taking the time to ground your energy is simple and very important. So, I mean, you can walk outside barefoot, which it's like 30 something degrees here in Atlanta, so that's not going to be super fun. But you can take deep breaths and imagine that there are roots coming from your feet into the earth, or that the energy of the earth give it a color and have it come down through the bottoms of your feet and up into your body with every breath you take. Just taking that time to connect to the body will allow you to release and relax. Because the other thing that you're probably doing while your mind is going crazy is you're causing a lot of tension in your nervous system because your body is anticipating that something is going to happen, whether it's good or it's bad, and you're not letting it receive the signals that actually it's okay to relax, it's okay to open, it's okay to receive. And so, as much as continuing a meditation practice or getting into the body may feel hard for you right now because you're out of practice or you haven't had time or any of the things that just come up in everyday life, it's okay. But it's always there for you to go back to, and you should go back to it, hopefully sooner rather than later.
Speaker A [00:09:21]:
But if you take time off and don't, don't feel guilty for it, you're human and it happens. And nobody is perfect. I'm not perfect. I am probably not going to get to meditate as much as I would like this week, being home by myself with the kids. But I am going to attempt or at least stretch or at least go for a walk or at least connect with my body in some way. Five minutes is better than no minutes. Okay? This does not have to be something that's hours long. It does not have to go on forever.
Speaker A [00:09:56]:
I mean, I love a nice, long, juicy practice as much as the next person, but in this day and age, you got to get it where you can. And that's why I think it's so important. My online kundalini and breathwork membership, the portal collective, all of the meditations in there are super short. They're 30 minutes or less, because we don't have time. We don't have time to sit in silence and stillness every day for hours on end. I wish I did, but that's just not the reality of life. And so getting in what I can, when I can is so important, because then the resistance starts to move, because everything is energy. And when you find yourself in that resistance, the energy is stuck someplace, and you just need to move it, and you just need to move it in whatever way feels good.
Speaker A [00:10:44]:
So, dancing, moving the body, breathing, whatever it is. But yes, coming back to that resistance, it's natural and it's human. And you shouldn't beat yourself up about it, because it happens to all of us. And just as you move through anything else in life, you will move through it as well when you connect with the body, because we're cyclical beings. And this time of the year, is that inward introspection time. But I get it. If you're tired, if you're burnt out on healing, that can happen. That can really happen.
Speaker A [00:11:20]:
When you are always trying to fix yourself and always trying to work on something that's missing the point, you're not supposed to always be working on something. To complete the cycle of healing, you have to have integration, and you have to have time where the things that you have learned really settle in bone deep. They settle into your tissues and your muscles and your dna, and they replace those old stories that used to be there with these new ones and this new way of being. And that doesn't happen overnight. That happens over time, and that happens when you take time to go on vacation, when you take time to do things differently, when you take time to just not do anything at all, that's one of the most healing things that you can do, because then you allow everything to catch up to all the work that you have been doing. Because if you are continuing on that healing cycle and you're not actually integrating the things that you were learning, what's the point? It's like it's going in one year and out the other. And so you're not actually taking action on the things that you have learned. And that's an important step in the process, is to take action.
Speaker A [00:12:25]:
After you receive these insights, after you receive these downloads, after you clear the energy, you have to take action, because then the universe won't move you forward until you do. The universe wants you to match its energy. It wants to know that you're in it. And so when you're in it, it's a cycle, right, of like, learning, healing, integrating taking action. Learning, healing, integrating taking action. And so you're not going to move forward on the next step of the cycle until you take that action or you integrate that thing that you have learned. And it's okay if it takes you years. It's okay if it takes longer than you think it should.
Speaker A [00:13:08]:
Because what is time anyway? And who are we to say what amount of time something should take? We are God. Yes, but we do not know everything, and that is by design. We are not supposed to know everything, and everything is not in perfect order and in perfect time. It happens organically, in flow with your environment and with the things around you and with the things brewing within you. And it is not something that is predestined or preordained in the sense that you learn x and then Y happens and then you move on to z. It's a big hodgepodge. It is not a straight line, and it is truly unique to you and your essence and your energy and the people that you have around you and the things that you are doing in your life. So you are not behind by any means.
Speaker A [00:13:55]:
You are exactly right on time where you are supposed to be in your healing journey. And so taking that rest doesn't put you behind. Sitting with that resistance doesn't put you behind. It is just a sign, an observation for you to take in and then do what you will with it. That's what really this whole journey is about, is just observing the sensations and the feelings within the body and then deciding what or if you want to do anything about them. Maybe you aren't ready to move through that resistance just yet, and that's okay. Maybe you don't feel up for another round of healing for months. Maybe you stop meditating for a whole fucking year.
Speaker A [00:14:39]:
That is okay. There is no gold star for racing to the finish and being completely healed, because no one is ever going to be completely healed, ever. When you are and when you do, you're done. You're not coming back to earth in the next lifetime, like, you will have ascended and completed all your healing and you will be completely done with everything on the earthly plane. And I don't think that's what any of us listening want just yet. Right? I don't want to be an ascended master yet. There's still so much more to learn out there about myself, about the world around me, and there is no race to the finish line. There is no finish line, essentially.
Speaker A [00:15:23]:
So with that, I thank you so much for tuning in with me. I've missed you guys so much. Please continue to let me know what topics you are loving on the podcast and I can't wait to connect with you again next week. My Mexico retreat the return to you retreat is from April eigth to the twelveth in Baja California, sir. Mexico. Four nights, five days of amazing healing with other women. If you really want to connect with nature and move forward with love and release, surrender and receive, I invite you to join us. You can find more information in the show notes.
Speaker A [00:16:05]:
Thank you so much for being here. I love you guys. Be good to one another.