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It's called Luminous Life Force.
It's sacred. It's sexual. It's healing.
You’re here to be luminous. … To remember your magic.
We have the capacity to rise into our highest consciousness through intense times when we melt into a deeper version of love and acceptance, and follow the rules of nature.
I am the open door that no one can close, and I want to open doors that you never even knew existed. We will connect through meditation, spirituality and use our ancient sexual energy, to heal together.
Join me and let’s cultivate our most luminous life force together. ❤️
River Roaring co-organizes the Sacred Sexuality Austin Empowerment Circle Friday evening events, and facilitates weekend workshops and private muse-and-mentoring programs, all in-person in her temple in the beautiful city of Austin, Texas.
More information can be found here:
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Hello darling, this is River Roaring, celebrating the Luminous Life Force in us all. Hello, darling. I'm River Roaring, and today's episode is this sexual healer's secret sauce, how I work with private clients. Well, when I tell people what I am, almost nobody knows what that means, and that's for a good reason. It's because there aren't that many people who even do what I industry is the size of a you could hold in your hand.
Speaker 1:There are different people who work with sexuality, people who do it like I do it, well probably zero, people who do similar things to me, maybe a handful in Austin, Texas, and maybe a few handfuls in the country who touch and heal sexually through touch and teach. Professionally? I launched my adulthood as a trial attorney with my own law office I had for over twenty years in Austin right by the courthouse and between the courthouse and the Capitol because I spent a lot of time lobbying at the state legislature, the wild and wonderful Texas state legislature. So twenty years were that way, and then in my own awakening during the last years of that career, I was opening spiritually, opening sexually. And after years years of really beautiful and intense sexual and spiritual cultivation and building an incredible beauty, I was in a ritual around 2011 in a Toltec ritual laying down on the floor in a circle of people in the ritual, and I remember sitting up straight right in the middle.
Speaker 1:And I might not have said it out loud, but it was like, Wow, I heard the message. I heard my soul's message. You're here to be a sexual healer. That's exactly what I heard. I'm here to be a sexual healer, and that's what I heard and that's what I am.
Speaker 1:Now to be technical about it, I don't heal anybody so I'm very well aware that I'm not a healer in that I'm not healing anybody. The more politically correct way to say it right now is I facilitate your healing. The person who is my client is healing. They're doing all the healing. So I'm not healing anyone.
Speaker 1:I am providing a space on a container and I'm facilitating sexual healing. And what does that really mean? I spend most of my time with private clients one on one, and I have two ways I work with private clients right now. One of them is the surrogate partner program because I am a certified surrogate partner and have been for I think fourteen years and working professionally throughout all those fourteen years as a surrogate partner. And the second way I work with private clients one on one is what I now call the Keystone program.
Speaker 1:The difference is that in the surrogate partner program, we are tying in with a kind of modality that was developed in the sixties by Masters and Johnson, and I trained with a person who worked directly with Masters and Johnson as a surrogate partner, the great Doctor. Susan Kay. So straight from that Masters and Johnson lineage, I've been trained and as a surrogate partner I am working with my client and their sex therapist or their psychotherapist. So in that container when someone hires me as a surrogate partner, I am in a three way relationship between me, the client, and the psychotherapist. All three of us agree to get into a relationship together and to share information around all three of us so that when the client comes to see me for touch and learning through doing, then I afterward send a little report over to the psychotherapist.
Speaker 1:And when the client goes over to see the psychotherapist to talk about what's coming through for them and all this new learning, after that the psychotherapist sends me a little message updating me what happened in that session, and that way we wrap around the client and give them a lot of support as they grow in this vulnerable and tender area of sexual and intimacy and love. That's the surrogate partner container. You have the added support of a psychotherapist along with me. Then the second kind of way I work with private clients is without the psychotherapist. And this container I call the keystone.
Speaker 1:And I work both the keystone is a seven month long container and I'll say more about why later on. I'm here to tell you about my secret sauce. But I'm just letting you know how it all is contained. It's in these containers. I work all in person through touching and doing and relating in a real live in person relationship, and I work with people who live in Austin and out of town and out of state.
Speaker 1:So there are many people who have come to work with me regularly, like setting up a regular program so that they travel into Austin regularly. Many, many people from like Dallas, Houston, San Antonio and all the Texas cities and also many people from out of state. So some of my clients will travel in regularly to work with me in person throughout our container from out of state. So where you live does not impact whether we can work together or whether I would work with you unless it's out of country and you just can't get to Austin. And so I am a sexual healer and I see clients privately in as a surrogate partner and also as a mentor and guide and trainer in the Keystone program.
Speaker 1:And both of those containers are actually seven months long. So in the beginning, I would see people one session at a time. And this is important because part of my secret sauce is that I no longer see people one session at a time for few reasons. One reason is it doesn't get us very far because I am interested in life transformation where you change things in a way that are permanent for you, that's lasting. And I have found that one session isn't enough to really learn and retrain your body.
Speaker 1:When you're thinking about retraining your body, think about if you wanted to become an NBA basketball player. Like, you don't go for one coach session for basketball. And you're like, oh, I've I've got it. I'm gonna go get on the court in the in the next NBA game. Retrain our bodies.
Speaker 1:Literally only retrain as fast as they retrain. And so a seven month container gives us time to actually retrain your body. It gives you time and in a way that would last the rest of your lifetime. So back to the day I got the calling, Oh, I'm here to be a sexual healer, I knew my passion in life was around sexuality. I knew that my own awakening out of basically disembodied robot trial attorney working all the time with my brain, I knew that I had awakened in my own path of sexual and spiritual awakening and become alive and that my life had gone into color from black and white.
Speaker 1:So when I got the message, You're here to be a healer, I knew and felt all over my body the rightness of that, the truth of that. And I set out then to get lots of trainings from lots of teachers. That brings me to a day about ten years ago or so when I was with Doctor. Betty Martin, one of the great teachers in my life. Doctor.
Speaker 1:Betty Martin, I don't remember if we were up at her place on Vashon Island outside of Seattle at this moment or if we were at my place in Austin during a time that she had come to Austin and stayed with me to put on her workshop here in Austin. But she said to me we had known each other about five years then and she said, You know River, you should be teaching other people how to do what you do. You should become a teacher of surrogate partners and sexual healers because I see what you're doing there, and I think it'd be very important and it's great to teach other people. It's important that we pass this along. And I understood the wisdom behind that, but everything in my body was really clear in my response to her, and it was like, You know, I hear that and I thank you for sharing that because it's valuable, very valuable what you think and that you believe I would be good at that.
Speaker 1:And inside me I have this deep knowing that what I'm here to do next is hone my craft in the session room one person at a time. That's what I feel called to do. I feel called to hone my craft one person at a time and create something more magic inside my session rooms with my clients one on one than has ever happened before. And I knew deep down in my soul that's what I'm going to do next. I'm going to really experiment and explore how much transformation is possible and how efficiently can we open up and transform with my clients one at a time and see how that works at a far greater level.
Speaker 1:So I kinda of wanted to just go into the kitchen and make some more meals just to perfect the method. And that is exactly what I've done for about the past ten years, and I am here to tell exactly about my secret sauce. So I have done that. I have not focused on teaching others how to do what I do because I've wanted to do get better and better and better at what I do. And so now I feel like at this point in my life, 2026, about ten years after I said that to Doctor.
Speaker 1:Betty Martin, now I feel like I've stocked my kitchen. Now I feel like I'm standing in a kitchen with a thousand spices and herbs and 10,000 ingredients, and now I have cultivated those open questions of and I'm not finished, but I have cultivated at a very much deeper level, how do clients most efficiently transform in big lasting ways in one on one work. Now I feel like I've got access to this huge kitchen of ingredients, and I can cook up anything I want in the kitchen with any client. And I've explored many methods, techniques, and my kitchen is very well stocked. And I want to talk about what I've learned and my secret sauce.
Speaker 1:So one thing I do with clients is I when I work with a one on one client, we have access to this whole kitchen full of tools, techniques, and ways to transform, and I use a method called emergent curriculum. Emergent curriculum meaning that as my client, your transformation is led by your own desires and dreams, your own curiosity, and the curriculum or the practices follow your unique path of opening and your unique path of stumbling and challenges. So unlike we were taught in most of us were taught in school to sit down and we're gonna go through this textbook from beginning to the end. It doesn't matter what you care about. It doesn't matter what's happening in your life.
Speaker 1:It doesn't matter which parts of these are more important to you or less important. We're going to go through this textbook one chapter at a time till we get to the end, and we're going to test you on memorizing it. That's the opposite of emergent curriculum. That's kind of like prison. So what we're doing and what I work with people is where are you now?
Speaker 1:You are as if there were a map in front of us, and there's a point. You are here, and we're going to see what is next for you to get from where you are right now to the magical land where you want to be, the magical land. And whatever you need next, I've got that spice, I've got that ingredient. We can pull that out and customize every moment of your experience inside the container that we have together. Every moment is customized to where you are right now and what's next for you as you go down your own path to your own version of the magical land.
Speaker 1:Everyone's got a different version of the magical land. We couldn't teach everyone the same exact things and get them to their own unique magical land. And yet at the end of this podcast, I'm going to give you something you can do today if you're interested in this kind of process for your self and something you can do by yourself, that's free. I'm not not related to hiring me, just something you can do today for free on your own to advance yourself in these areas, so stay tuned for that. So today, my programs are so much more developed, and my own system is really starting to shine through in my one on one work with clients.
Speaker 1:We're gonna chart a path from where you are right now today through all the monsters and all the victories to the magical land that you define. So when I get together with a one on one client, we always start with your dream, your wildest dream. Your wildest and most beautiful, nourishing, delicious, fabulous, most thrilling dream, imaginary vision of where you want to be in your love, sex, and intimacy, and where you want to be with your creative life force, which is your sexual energy in the world, what kind of effect do you want to have on the universe with your love, sex, and intimacy. Who will you be? What will be around you?
Speaker 1:And this dream is not a nighttime dream. It's a daytime dream, a vision, and it's important that we start to learn how to vision and use our imagination with no limits, no boundaries. Go to the wildest place you can that is the most beautiful, nourishing, delicious, wonderful vision of your future in love, sex, and intimacy. I call that the dream, and that is what your dreaming is your magical land. Throughout your life and throughout the time we're together, if you were a client, magical land can keep changing all the time, anytime you want it to.
Speaker 1:Be like, oh, my magical land just changed. It just grew into this other thing. Like, awesome. Let's go there. Let's do it.
Speaker 1:And I see my support of you as flying alongside you through all the monsters and all the victories to the magical land that you decided what you wanted in your dream and whatever the most current vision and version of that dream is. And so we let desire and pleasure lead the way every step of the way when I work with a private client, and that's different from some modalities such as when you go to psychotherapy frequently they're going to want to focus on the problems. So you're kind of led by this problem's happening, this problem's happening. And sometimes that modality does not even mention, Well, where are you going? We can talk about these problems all day long, but that kind of gets old if you don't know where you're going.
Speaker 1:And so we start with the dream and the pleasure in your body behind that vision and dream, and we follow the pleasure. We follow the desire to grow, expand, and transform rather than letting problems be our road map. The desires is your road map. And then we go through a process that I could say very simply is wings in the air, feet on the ground. Wings in the air, feet on the ground, which loosely means once you see the dream in the vision and you feel it in your body, now it's time to start flying toward the vision.
Speaker 1:Wings in the air. Okay? Let's what's the first thing that happens when you set your wings up in the air and start to fly? And because you're not there yet, and this is how it works for all of us in transformation, I'm not at my dream yet quite. And so when I raise my wings up to fly, I'm gonna fly either an inch or a mile, but at some point I'm going to hit a monster that's in my way.
Speaker 1:And how do I know there's gonna be a monster there? Because you're not at the dream yet, and so that means there are some monsters in between. So all we have to do is chart our course toward that dream. You raise your wings in the air and start to fly that way, and we see what monster pops up first, and that's what we work on first. And when we see that monster, what that means is you hit a roadblock.
Speaker 1:You come to a fork in the road and you know, Woah, this is the way to my dream but why can't I do it? I have a lump in my throat. I'm freezing up. I have a pit in my stomach. I'm nervous and anxious.
Speaker 1:My brain, my logical brain won't stop. It just keeps talking, which is really in my way right now. I can't I don't wanna put myself out there on that yet. I don't wanna the monster that appears is our first thing to work on. So once we your wings are in the air and you're flying toward and some challenge arises, this monster, now it's time to put your feet back on the ground.
Speaker 1:Ground. Come to safety and relaxation in your body. Regroup. Come to stillness. First nourish your body into a relaxed place if it came unrelaxed in that flight.
Speaker 1:Come back down. Come to a little more stillness and safety and relaxation in your nervous system because that's the only place you can actually learn and grow. So we want to get back to the ground and assess what happened there and start to take a look at, Oh, okay, yeah, that was a big monster out there, but now we have our feet on the ground and we can start to strategize about how you're going to have victory over that monster. And that's where we do our work, And when you're ready and you're well nourished and ready for another flight, you put your wings in the air again with new tools and new capacities and new learnings about that monster. And then through gentle guidance and through our program together, you will then eventually be victorious over that monster and continue to fly higher toward your dream with your wings in the air until dot dot dot the next monster.
Speaker 1:And then come down, reground, put your feet on the ground, reestablish the safety and relaxed nervous system, re nourish yourself, and let's reassess what happened there and what is the new monster all about and how are you gonna get around the new monster. And then practice things, practice things, practice things, retrain your body, retrain your body until you're ready to put your wings in the air again. And through this process, the magic of it is that each time, if I'm doing this process well, each time I put my wings in the air again, I fly a little higher, a little further to the dream. And then I come down and put my feet on the ground, and I ground and come back to relaxation and safety and remember who I am even deeper. And then I fly even higher the next time, and then I come back into even a deeper, more wise and still place of myself when I come back and put my feet on the ground so that this range starts to expand.
Speaker 1:And as I continue this process, I could keep my dream alive, put my wings in the air and try something new, bring my feet back to the ground and regroup into safety, relaxed nervous system, assessing and coming back to self love and who I am. This process expands and broadens gently and we could say safely that expands and broadens the entire range of your experience. Suddenly, after a lot of this process together with me as your guide because I've got all these ingredients, got all these tools and techniques and all these solutions and ideas and ways to do this and guidance that's just for my client and where they're at through this process, you realize, wow. I'm actually flying a lot higher than I used to fly, and wow. I'm able to restabilize myself a lot better than I used to.
Speaker 1:And now I can relax and go through this spot process of expansion of my experiences into funner and wilder heights toward my own dream. So this keeping the dream alive and following desire and pleasure all the time, and then putting the wings up in the air and trying things and coming back and putting my feet on the ground and stabilizing and then doing it again, eventually my range of human experience, my pleasure ceiling is so much higher and my discomfort floor is so much lower that I can be calm, relaxed, confident in much more intense and wild situations. My ability to be relaxed and safe is broader. I can do that with a broader range of pleasure and pain. Three levels at once.
Speaker 1:So we start with one. The first level that we're working at is your relationship with your own physical body, and that's where all of our trauma are stored there. Your obstacles are actually in your physical body somewhere in addition to other places because we're all one being. We're not like, body isn't totally separate from the mind. It's not totally separate from the emotions.
Speaker 1:At the same time, so that means we can heal almost everything by just like healing and retraining your body to do what you want it to do when you want it to so you're sovereign over your own arousal and pleasure and desire, so that you yourself decide how much you're aroused, when you're aroused, and you let it flow. And you're able to move very beautifully in and out of aroused states and with higher, higher levels of pleasure and intensity in a relaxed way. So focus number one there is going to be on your body and retraining your body. I could talk for so many hours that I think I'll write my first book. I am doing that because it's like I have so much to say about it.
Speaker 1:The second area that I like to work on once we've got the training going in the body, we're on a training program with your body if you're my private client. The next place I like to really focus and grow and expand is your relationship with your imagination. Because believe it or not, your own imagination, which I call dreaming not nightdreaming, daydreaming is the one I'm talking about. Your imagination, your visioning, your daydreaming, believe it or not, is running your entire life in the real world, in the material world, the real world, material world. So Lao Tzu, the great Taoist master said, all action is created created by the force of nothing on something.
Speaker 1:All actions. If you look around right now, look around at the built world around you. Oh, there's a house. Someone imagined it before it was there. Oh, there's a fence.
Speaker 1:Someone imagined that fence would be there before it was there. Oh there's a car. Someone imagined the design of that car first, then they made it. Oh there's my life. We don't realize we're not taught in this culture right up front in school like we should be in kindergarten.
Speaker 1:We could be. Hey, your imagination is defining your entire life. That means if you wake up every morning and go, My life super sucks. Well guess what? It sure does because you decided that.
Speaker 1:So once you realize how much power your imagination has, it's important. It's real important. It's actually titrating your life. So if you're unable to let your imagination go wild in your sexual fantasies and be completely unbounded and unlimited and just go crazy in your imagination, well guess what? It's not gonna happen on earth either in the material world So the second area we cultivate together after your training program with your body is well underway is your relationship with your imagination.
Speaker 1:We want to set it free. You get to imagine anything you want to, and all of your imagination is beautiful and perfect. So a lot of people start out by thinking, no, they can't imagine anything they want to anyway, which is just false. That's your domain. And a lot of people also start out by thinking, Well, some of my imaginations are bad and scary and ugly, and they're terrible, so I don't want to think about them.
Speaker 1:And that's not true. They're not ugly, terrible, and bad. They're important messages for you. In fact, it's your imagination where you get to actually talk to your soul, your eternal infinite soul. So the second area we cultivate is your imagination, and sexual imagination is quite a fun romping ground.
Speaker 1:Sexual fantasy, that's a really fun way to learn about imagination in my book, so that's what we do. And the third big focus, once your training program is underway with your body and you're in a program there, and then you have a training program with your imagination and dreaming, which is often around sexual fantasy but not exclusively because you dream your whole life before it happens, and you learn how to do that and relate to the universe in a way where you are actually creating your dreams coming true on earth. But the third area we focus on, past body, past imagination is your connections, your intimate connections, your datin' and matin'. Now you don't have to take your sexuality out to to relate with other people. So there's a very healthy path in sexuality for solo cultivation sexuality, and that's not an incorrect path.
Speaker 1:Most of all of my clients, I think, have also wanted to involve other people in their sexual explorations. And so sometimes I call this focus Matin. Dayton and Matin. And I have so many techniques and systems and methods for everything depending on where you are and what you're wanting. So some people want a life partner.
Speaker 1:Some people want want three life partners, some people don't want a life partner. And that's up to you. So whatever your dream is and your ultimate dream, you know, some people's ultimate dream is I want to explore and I want to learn and I want to be with lots of people worldwide. I'm like, okay. Well, let's just do that.
Speaker 1:And then some point, your dream might change from that. I have I see a lot of people whose initial dreams are about having really blissful sex, and they get that. And then after that I see a lot of people, not everyone, but a lot of people go, Oh, this has been a really fun dream to accomplish. Now I think I want to go for like a deeper heart connection. So the third area I like to focus on to train with you is how you connect intimately with yourself and mostly with others, and this includes a lot of training always about sacred conflict as well as an entire set of teachings and processes around Dayton and Matin because there's this huge journey between I am over here with no, like, I'm not really dating anybody exciting to Oh, there's a whole system and a whole cultivation of myself transformation and a whole spiritual journey and a whole path just that has to do with me learning how to find the awesome, awesome partners to play with.
Speaker 1:There is a lot of skills and capacities that go into I date really well and I have a lot of fun doing it and I only have fun dates. I only have fun dates with people I enjoy and I'm exploring and expanding all the time in my dating life. That is a huge journey right there, how to locate the partners and have a lot of fun playing. And then the interesting part is a lot of people are like, Oh, now I've found someone I really like, so I'm leaving the Dayton phase and now I'm done. And I'm like, Oh, interesting theory.
Speaker 1:Wouldn't that be nice? But actually when you find someone you really love and you start the mating process, you go from Dayton to Matin, wow, there's a humongous other set of tools in the kitchen. There's so many other spices and herbs and ingredients, and you are at the beginning. When you meet someone you really love and you want to build a partnership with, you are at the beginning of a huge wild and wonderful journey to a different magical land and that takes a whole separate and different set of skills and capacities than it did when you were Dayton. Maton brings in additional skills and capacities, so it's an art unto itself as I think you know.
Speaker 1:So when I get together with a client, we begin with your dream and I have ways I like to bring that out. And then I like to learn your body's story. What happened to your body from beginning to end that you think might have affect the way you relate in sexual and intimate situations? And there we all have stories on this. All of us from the time we were born or conceived until the time we're having our conversation, many things happened to your body that made a impact in your body on your sex and intimacy and those impacts are there now.
Speaker 1:So I like to hear what happened with your physical body through your lifetime that affects your sex intimacy today. And that's always a really fun session, a fun journey to learn about that because we're going to start unwinding those body impacts when we train your body, retrain your body to remember how to be, really, how to be like a joyful child in child's play. So we move toward your dreams while learning new concepts and also practicing them and literally through physical touch and explorations together retrain your body and being. And your body sets the pace. So a couple of the most common questions I get from people when they hear what I do, one of them is, so do you have sex with them?
Speaker 1:I mean that's a common question and I'm always interested in that question because it's kind of a funny question to me because it usually comes from a very simple and a basic misconception about what sex is. So it's always very like, and what do you mean by that? And so often because of the child childishly cartoonish vision that our mainstream porn gives us of what sex is, that a lot of times when people say sex, they literally just mean, Did a penis go in a vagina? Yes or no. Just yes or no.
Speaker 1:Boom. That's just a yes no question. Did the penis go in the vagina? Yes or no? I just think that's a funny question because sex and sexuality and sharing pleasure arousal takes an infinite number of different forms from the cuddles, the caresses, the what goes where, what gets inserted inside what, what doesn't get inserted or penetrate, what penetrates you, what penetrates me, where, how long, what else did we do, how did it all build up, were we hanging from the chandeliers at any point in this situation, were we on the floor at some point, where are we crawling over the kitchen table?
Speaker 1:You know, there's just like as many there's just an infinite way, infinite number of ways that people can have sexual experience together. And so the real answer of whether I have sex quote unquote with a client is I am actually available available for a very wide range of physical experiences, and your body will set the pace, meaning that we will do an activity together when your body is ready to be relaxed and at ease with that activity and when I believe that that activity will move you closer toward your dream because we're headed to your dream. We're not trying to get a penis in a vagina. I just think it's kind of a funny thing how simple it's kind of gotten. We are moving toward your dream and there are different kinds of activities that will get you there and there are other kinds of activities that will take you off your course.
Speaker 1:And so here's an example. I once had a client who was like, I have either never had sex before as an adult, around 40 years old, or very, very little experience touching another person. River, can we have sex? May I put my penis in your vagina? Well, let's put it this way, I am interested in your body becoming relaxed and confident with every move you make.
Speaker 1:So if we jump ahead in intensity and we go straight to the finish line, I'm almost a thousand percent sure your body is going to be disassociated and no longer relaxed nervous system. And there's actually no benefit to having re traumatizing sexual experiences that jolt your nervous system into a new trauma being formed that day because you jumped so far ahead in intensity that your body could not handle in a relaxed and confident way. So that's why I earlier was talking wings in the air, feet on the ground gently expanding how much intensity you can handle while your body remains safe, which I define as relaxed nervous system. And you may think, Well, what do you mean relaxed nervous system? When I'm having a great sexual arousal experience, my nervous system's like, agitated, agitated.
Speaker 1:Like, Yeah, that is one way to do it, but you can have wild rolling multiple full body orgasms and be in a relaxed nervous system, and that's quite a bit more bliss for the body. So let's walk down and take them all. So you may have heard this joke that's kind of classic, and who knows where it started. I've heard it three or four different places. There was a bull, a daddy bull and a baby bull standing up on the hill looking down on the valley of cows.
Speaker 1:The daddy bull and the baby bull looking down from the top of the hill at a valley full of cows, and the baby bull says, daddy, let's run down and fuck a cow. And what does the father say? Son, let's walk down and take them all. I love that. So I prefer, when it comes to sexual experience, I prefer to walk down and take them all.
Speaker 1:So whether a sexual activity specifically happens, the question is, is your body ready to be in a relaxed nervous system and handle that activity? And so it's a building. It's a building on itself. And I don't decide. Your body decides what activity might happen.
Speaker 1:Another question I get is, so do you fall in love with them? And doesn't that get complicated? And my answer is basically, love is actually not complicated. That's another funny thing for me. Everything else we do other than that around it can get pretty complicated, like, are we gonna get married tomorrow?
Speaker 1:Does mean this you have to move in? Are we exclusive? You know, these are all questions that aren't about love. They're actually just about the mechanics of other things. Love is very simple, and so I almost always fall in love with them.
Speaker 1:I fall in love very easily, and I love falling in love, and I love easily. So I usually love my clients because they're very beautiful people. And for me, is very simple. I've been open in my relationships for twenty years myself and polyamorous, would say, and early on in that one of my lovers said, About love? Don't worry, we'll make more.
Speaker 1:I've always appreciated that. Don't worry, we'll make more. There's always more love. I actually don't run out of love. No one would.
Speaker 1:No one would actually run out of love. You can get hurt a lot and not want to open your heart door anymore, but loving is very free, easy, fun, and there's always more. You don't run out of it. So yes, I usually love my clients very much. Whether they say they love me back is inconsequential, irrelevant to the process.
Speaker 1:That's up to them. However they feel and want to say things, that's not part of my training process. That's however they wanna say things, express themselves. It does not get complicated because I do not want to marry them, move in with them, be exclusive with them, possess them, or control them in any way, and that's why it doesn't get complicated. So the results, when I work with my private clients, magnify way outside of the bedroom and sex because once you master the most powerful energy in your body, your sexual energy, you can easily master any challenge and continue towards your dreams.
Speaker 1:Once you've befriended the biggest monster, your wild sexuality, the most hidden and vulnerable and scary part of yourself. Very few monsters will ever seem scary again, my darling. And when they do, you'll have potent tools to use to continue past them on your path to your dreams and your desires. So in more concrete terms, today my private client program has developed into a pretty unique, glorious, and spacious, and super fun healing container for your magic to blossom and for you to reach your dreams both in the bedroom and beyond. And I said I would give you something you can do today that's free, and you can do it yourself, all by yourself if you want to.
Speaker 1:And you could partner up if you want and share your share this with another person if you feel like it. But the work is on your own first, so if you want to do something today to assess how healthy your own sexuality is, Here's a idea. Give yourself some stillness and some space so that you're not in a rush, and you can let your logical thinking mind relax and rest a little bit, get into a quiet stillness so that you can commune with a higher part of yourself than than the narrator, the thinker, the logicker, the spread sheeter. It's good. So the mind is good.
Speaker 1:It's a good thing. Not for this, so just ask it to be resting. And when you're in a still place so that you can go deep with yourself, ask yourself three questions, and journal. I think this is a great time to journal because you don't want to lose the wisdom that comes through when you ask these questions. First question is, how is your current relationship with your body?
Speaker 1:Question number one, how is your current relationship with your body, especially sexually? What happens when I ask that question? Is there a contraction? Is there an expansion? Is it flowing, juicy, expansive?
Speaker 1:Is it thinking, well, my body sometimes doesn't work when it doesn't do what I want it to do in sexuality? What is your current relationship with your body and sexuality? The second question to ask yourself in this still place and journal about it is, how is your current relationship with your imagination, especially sexually? Do you let your sexual fantasy life be vibrant and wild and unbounded, unlimited, just crazy, radically insane like I do, or is it not quite there yet? Question number three, what is your relationship with your connections, your connections, your intimate connections?
Speaker 1:Are they strong powerful and exciting and vibrant? Are they not quite yet what you want them to be? Those are the three questions. Journal. And then also I might recommend that you share if you want to with a partner and then listen to their answers, and it's a neat way to get to know someone.
Speaker 1:And here's the final thing for you, darling. What do you yearn for? What do you crave? Sit in stillness and see if you have a dream, a wild and beautiful dream of the most magnificent relationship you could possibly have with your love, sex, and intimacy, your most intimate heart connections. And if you've done this, congratulations, because begins with your dream.
Speaker 1:It all begins with your soul's deepest desire, so place your attention on this dream and feel it as true as often as possible. Those are some things you can do today, my love, that are free and that will get you started on a journey like this if you want to. And by the way, if you feel this unique kind of healing might benefit you, let's hop on a phone call and explore what's possible. Find the links here in the podcast description to set up a call because I would like to hear from you. Minimally, leave a comment where you find this podcast or shoot me an email by visiting riverroaring.com and click on Get Started, Let's Talk River, and share your question, reflection, or insight because I'm on earth to support those who are called to bring maximum love and light into their lives, liberated self expression in all the realms where all is sacred, connecting with you to create a cosmic web of love and light throughout the realms.
Speaker 1:Because together, we can step into a more harmonious vibration. We can fly higher, shifting human consciousness forever for the highest good of all beings. So may the love be with you, my darling, and may the love be with us all.