We Sold TICKETS to Our Wedding… and People Are Furious

We just got engaged... and we’re flipping the wedding industry upside down by selling tickets to our wedding. In this episode, we share the full story behind the proposal, the controversy it sparked, and how we’re turning our wedding into a movement that funds impact, not debt.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Weddings are so expensive, $650 for a cake cutting fee.

[SPEAKER_02]: You go into debt to get a car, do a school, get a house, and then marriage.

[SPEAKER_02]: And after learning how much debt couples go into on their wedding, we're also like, ha-ha.

[SPEAKER_00]: Wait a minute, financial conflict is the number one cause of divorce.

[SPEAKER_00]: Like, but then people are willingly spending that much money on one day, which then might lead to the demise of that marriage, which was the whole purpose of this.

[SPEAKER_00]: Can we solve that problem for people?

[SPEAKER_02]: What if we actually sold tickets to the way?

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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's funny because, you know, when you're planning the, I was so nervous to ask why would did you worry worried about my response?

[SPEAKER_02]: No, and I think every guy who's proposed knows this, it's scary.

[SPEAKER_00]: Why?

[SPEAKER_02]: It's a huge moment.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's a moment that it's one of those, it's kind of like your first date, you know, there's a lot of pressure on the first date, also because it can become that story that you're always going to repeat.

[SPEAKER_02]: So, you know what I mean?

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, you think through

[SPEAKER_00]: Funny part for me was I had just given up on anticipating the proposal not in a way like I just I thought it was gonna happen over Christmas So it's like New Year's Eve didn't have it.

[SPEAKER_02]: I can tell you were like looking around the corner like is it constantly now.

[SPEAKER_02]: I could I know I knew you were Yeah, you were like where where's it coming where's it coming?

[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, okay, Christmas Eve, no.

[SPEAKER_00]: Christmas Day, no.

[SPEAKER_00]: We were still at your parents for a while, no.

[SPEAKER_00]: Then we came home and like, you know, there's some special little things that we did, but I'm totally looking around corners.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I think on New Year's Eve, we left the house to go get ski stuff for the kids.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, he's taking the house so that people can come in the house so that when we get home, there's going to be a surprise.

[SPEAKER_02]: And then when we got home, I knew, I knew.

[SPEAKER_02]: I totally, I'm like, we were like looking around.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So excited.

[SPEAKER_00]: This is going to be awesome.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I actually like we were because we we were opening some presents with the kids late on New Year's Eve and I'm like looking up stairs like across our band.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was totally expecting like Kendrick or some one of our videographer friends to be there.

[SPEAKER_00]: And you were not.

[SPEAKER_00]: I guess we're not getting engaged this, you know, this month, which was really actually kind of more such a, totally, I love being surprised.

[SPEAKER_00]: However, we're about to share that I slash Russell Brunson ruined my proposal.

[SPEAKER_00]: I will take blame, but also Russell Brunson is a part of it.

[SPEAKER_00]: I cannot keep a secret.

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[SPEAKER_02]: We love you, by the way, no, but thanks for ruining my mother.

[SPEAKER_02]: No, it's funny because, okay, so here's the idea.

[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, this is Marley Jack's like, she's gonna want lights in camera and someone to say action is gonna be an audience and a show and so I was like, oh, I got like, playing this thing out.

[SPEAKER_02]: And so what I started, my thought though is there's this beautiful outdoor mall, kind of close to where we live, called the village and they have this small little ice skating rink in the center during the winter.

[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, let's go ice skating and I told the daughter, I was like, hey,

[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna propose to Marley tonight.

[SPEAKER_02]: I can't be the only voice in the family saying, let's go ice skating.

[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, so could you suggest, so she was in on it the whole time.

[SPEAKER_00]: And she played her perfectly.

[SPEAKER_02]: She did it perfectly.

[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, but you can't look like you're crazy excited, but also like, we're going ice skating now, right?

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, you know, that way I'm not like, let's go out because we had people showing up waiting.

[SPEAKER_02]: I couldn't make them wait also.

[SPEAKER_02]: So I was like, let's go get ice skates on, ice skates around in the middle of the ice skating rinks.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's usually really busy.

[SPEAKER_02]: I'll take a knee and then pop the question and then all of these people come around the outside of the skating because it's really tiny I skating rink and that'll be the celebration and stuff but we got there and it was closed

[SPEAKER_02]: And so on the fly, I'm texting all these people and acting like I have to go to the baths or I'm not all the stuff.

[SPEAKER_02]: And just like wait in the sides, hide over by this place.

[SPEAKER_02]: I literally took a map of the mall and I sent it a drew a map of where everyone should hide.

[SPEAKER_02]: And I sent that out to everybody.

[SPEAKER_02]: Did I have a show that to you?

[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.

[SPEAKER_02]: This is why we were going out to the ice skating rink and everyone was hiding on the other side of a building Because Russell and Collette walked by with an inner circle Jack Russell's wearing a inner circle jacket.

[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, no, that's not a friend.

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[SPEAKER_02]: this year.

[SPEAKER_00]: I hadn't seen friends for a long time.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, oh, I miss our friends.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then here at a distance, I see someone wearing an inner circle jacket.

[SPEAKER_00]: And in my mind, I thought it was our friend Eric Thane.

[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm going to, I want to go say randomly here too.

[SPEAKER_02]: Wow.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I can't like, I can't handle phomo.

[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm like, if I don't catch up to them, I will forever wonder if that was them.

[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know why I had to do that.

[SPEAKER_00]: And so I was like, Stevens about to propose.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I am running away from my post.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, no, come back.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm running away from my proposal towards the people that are hiding.

[SPEAKER_02]: She's, you run around the side of the building where everyone's just standing there.

[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, and I was like, come over here for a second.

[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, girl, let's get on the ice.

[SPEAKER_02]: Come over here, just meet with me.

[SPEAKER_02]: And it was closed.

[SPEAKER_02]: So the security guards were not happy with us, but I was like, get on the ice, we'll do this.

[SPEAKER_02]: And, uh,

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, that's where I got on a knee and that's it.

[SPEAKER_00]: Well, so while I'm like Chase and then I see it's Russell and I'm like, hey, what are you guys doing here?

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, yeah, and Russell is so awkward.

[SPEAKER_00]: He's like, uh, just hanging out and I'm like, your awkward, but you're usually not.

[SPEAKER_00]: The thing you're writing and then I knew what was happening and I ran back to my proposal.

[SPEAKER_02]: Mm-hmm.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_02]: And I got on a knee and proposed right there and there's so fun to have everyone.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's like the whole idea how many people were there.

[SPEAKER_02]: There's a lot of people that just came around the outside and yeah, we got cool footage of it and we should show it to everyone but I have a kind of cool clip.

[SPEAKER_00]: We'll post that too.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so we we got engaged January 1st and it's been a busy.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but we've done a lot since then has kind of been like all green lights it's felt like a lot of just meant to be

[SPEAKER_00]: situations happening that will recap a little bit and then share with you the very unconventional thing that we are doing for our wedding that has gotten some controversy.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's just a good moment for this video.

[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, that's it's just so us to do something like that.

[SPEAKER_00]: So the day after we got engaged, you know, we're living in the after glow of it.

[SPEAKER_00]: We went on a decolonial engagement move.

[SPEAKER_00]: something something funny.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because we went into a little cabin and skied and camera was called engagement moon or something.

[SPEAKER_00]: They came with a funny name for it.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, your ring was way too big.

[SPEAKER_02]: They told me that this yeah, no, anyway.

[SPEAKER_00]: I am a size four.

[SPEAKER_00]: It is a size seven.

[SPEAKER_00]: So I couldn't wear for a while.

[SPEAKER_02]: It was a five.

[SPEAKER_02]: But the thing was just like, yeah, yeah, good.

[SPEAKER_02]: Come on.

[SPEAKER_02]: Seriously, check out that hardware.

[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, pop a lot.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's for a note.

[SPEAKER_00]: Good job, Ben.

[SPEAKER_00]: The next day after we got engaged, we were just, you know, living in the afterglow and fantasizing, dreaming, what was going to come next and our life together.

[SPEAKER_00]: And we had just also decided to merge our businesses together because we were kind of in a place where we're like, we're building the same thing.

[SPEAKER_00]: under one roof.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, literally in different rooms.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: And got a lot of validation and things are just kind of fell into place once we did that.

[SPEAKER_00]: And it was that day the day after our engagement that I was like, we should have a YouTube channel where we document building the capitalist pig movement of like building it from the ground floor.

[SPEAKER_00]: Bring people into the mission like calling our shots so people can come with us and like grow their businesses to and get rich and give back and solve problems for profit and then we also integrate with brands and showcase them in the YouTube channel and other brands or clients that we work with and then the brands will integrate to help them build their businesses and you know just dreaming this up and it felt so on fire I call a few friends that

[SPEAKER_00]: connected with brands and producers and stuff like that and later that day we were on a call like just again fell into place That kind of happened really from the cabin.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, we drove up and later we had a call with our executive producer Yeah, who also executive produced the show botched and Producer on housewives of Beverly Hills that he was like I love this this could be a show Yeah, and let's film a sizzle a pilot and

[SPEAKER_00]: five or so days later that weekend.

[SPEAKER_00]: He flew out to Boise on his own time.

[SPEAKER_00]: Have a camera crew and we filmed a whole sizzle reel which we will link in the description below for people to go check it out because we also are wanting to integrate with brands and for

[SPEAKER_00]: We're looking for sponsors, we're looking for brand integrations.

[SPEAKER_00]: When you look at Hollywood right now, it's kind of imploding.

[SPEAKER_00]: People are out of work, incredibly talented people are not working right now.

[SPEAKER_00]: Projects are not getting funded in Greenlit.

[SPEAKER_00]: And with what we can merge with production and entrepreneurship and online marketing and put that together that we can not only, like,

[SPEAKER_00]: produce a show, we can produce it at half the budget and all the ROI because of the back-end things that we can monetize from this show.

[SPEAKER_02]: Which is one of the reasons he seems so excited about it as well.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's a very unconventional way because it disrupted the entire cash flow model of Hollywood, which is what Netflix did initially when it came out.

[SPEAKER_02]: I got to go do some consulting down there and I remember they're driving me through these Hollywood areas and they're like the reason why Netflix has Hollywood so much on their heels.

[SPEAKER_02]: This is back like 2000, right?

[SPEAKER_02]: Whatever Netflix came out early 2000s and they're like yeah, we

[SPEAKER_02]: We've been seeing the cash from all change in much because they pay Netflix and, you know, Hulu and now all these places, those they'll literally pay the actor more up front and nothing on the long tail, whereas most of the time actors are paid the opposite.

[SPEAKER_02]: They don't get paid a ton up front and they'll get paid more off the long tail performance of the video of the movie.

[SPEAKER_02]: And so it's another opportunity that's kind of that big.

[SPEAKER_02]: And he's seeing it as that.

[SPEAKER_02]: So we are filming a TV show slash documentary series that is about Kapples Pigmoobin.

[SPEAKER_00]: and entrepreneurs building things that are rare and giving them a different kind of platform to be able to monetize from.

[SPEAKER_00]: And so it's really exciting.

[SPEAKER_00]: We'll put the link below.

[SPEAKER_00]: We'd love for you guys to check out the sizzle reel and please reach out.

[SPEAKER_00]: There's a form on that page as well.

[SPEAKER_00]: If you want your brand to be featured in the show as we start to film it.

[SPEAKER_02]: Which has been so fun to see all the brands who we've already been on the phone with.

[SPEAKER_02]: We've been on the phone with.

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, wow, it's been such an interesting,

[SPEAKER_02]: just blur of the last few months, how fast this thing has really been blown up.

[SPEAKER_02]: So that's just like one of the things that's been going on in my gosh.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because we're also getting married.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.

[SPEAKER_00]: And we knew that it wasn't gonna be a long engagement.

[SPEAKER_00]: We've been together, it'll be five years in like two weeks.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Anyway.

[SPEAKER_00]: Um, I girl say that a lot when it came time to plan a wedding.

[SPEAKER_00]: We're like, what should we do?

[SPEAKER_00]: Should we, you know, do?

[SPEAKER_00]: Should we allow?

[SPEAKER_00]: Should we just have our families?

[SPEAKER_00]: Should we do something really big?

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: And the funny thing that happened when we started to look at venues here in Boise, we went to this one venue that we always drive past and was like, oh, it's beautiful there.

[SPEAKER_00]: Let's check it out.

[SPEAKER_00]: And when we went there, we actually had it.

[SPEAKER_00]: I thought it was

[SPEAKER_00]: sales process and the reason why was because this when she was asking this question she'd be like What dates do you want for your wedding and I'm like what dates do you have and she's like what do you want?

[SPEAKER_00]: Like as if she was frustrated with me.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like what tell me your availability and I can pick a date Well, just like tell me a day.

[SPEAKER_00]: I was like okay, June.

[SPEAKER_00]: We don't have anything to do

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, and then she'd the same thing for food.

[SPEAKER_00]: What would you, what would you want on your menu and like, what do you have, what do you want, salmon, we don't serve salmon.

[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, tell us the options that she was terrible at the part of this was like, I don't think I would want to work with this venue just because this whole sales process.

[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want it this to be the fulfillment process.

[SPEAKER_00]: But then anyway, when it comes time to get the quote for what it would take to have a wedding here, one of the things on it line item was $650 for a cake cutting fee.

[SPEAKER_00]: 650 bucks on that I literally asked can I cut it on my own as she was like angry just to cut the cake and I I've been educated since you know this takes a lot of work.

[SPEAKER_00]: There's plates.

[SPEAKER_00]: There's dishes.

[SPEAKER_00]: There's you know to actually effort to cut them any slices and I'm like, okay, but maybe like roll it into another pricing thing because that just seems outrageous and from there I started I made a post about it on social media like all

[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh, the fees and like brides are headed, they say, oh my gosh, the money, imagine, no wonder weddings are so expensive and the comment section just flooded with people like the

[SPEAKER_00]: I had to pay $30 just for a charger plate and I had to pay like, you know, so many people just outraged of how expensive wedding costs.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then I made another post being like, I've always just thought that people should just sell tickets to their wedding.

[SPEAKER_00]: Ha ha, wouldn't that be crazy?

[SPEAKER_02]: What if what if?

[SPEAKER_00]: And then the comment section flooded again.

[SPEAKER_00]: That's how many you should totally do that.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's right for disruption, totally disrupt the wedding industry.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then I mean, another post will hype aesthetically if we were to do that.

[SPEAKER_00]: How much would you pay for a ticket to our wedding?

[SPEAKER_00]: And people anywhere from like $100,200, $500,000.

[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, what, this is crazy.

[SPEAKER_00]: And we debated it for a while.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_02]: And it wasn't the first time we thought about it.

[SPEAKER_02]: It just does a joke.

[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, over the last several years being together, we're like, wouldn't it be funny one day?

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, we charge tickets, you know?

[SPEAKER_00]: We do events all the time.

[SPEAKER_00]: We do events.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, we're in a space right now.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's like, what if we actually sold

[SPEAKER_02]: take it to the wedding.

[SPEAKER_02]: And after the 600th of July, Kate cutting fee, it was like, huh.

[SPEAKER_02]: And then after learning how much debt couples go into on their wedding, we were also like, huh.

[SPEAKER_00]: Wait a minute, financial conflict is the number one cause of divorce.

[SPEAKER_00]: Like, but then people are willingly

[SPEAKER_00]: spending that much money on one day, which then might lead to the demise of that marriage, which was the whole purpose of this, can we solve that problem for people?

[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, capitalist pig?

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, and it was funny, because it was like, you know, you go into debt to get a car, to go to school, to get a house, and then marriage, that's like, we're laden in debt, and we're like, all right, if we're gonna think entrepreneurial about this, while still preserving the sacred nature of marriage,

[SPEAKER_02]: What if and so we did and we are and it's been really fun

[SPEAKER_00]: It has been fun.

[SPEAKER_02]: It may not be the word.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's been controversial because some people love it.

[SPEAKER_00]: They're like, oh my gosh, where were you when I got married or my kids are going to marry it?

[SPEAKER_00]: I want them to be able to do this is amazing and the wedding industry is totally ripe for disruption and it just makes sense because you would spend way more money even on a gift anyway.

[SPEAKER_00]: So instead, just flip it that you're buying a ticket like it makes a lot of sense.

[SPEAKER_00]: But then there's also people who absolutely hate it and like,

[SPEAKER_00]: What that's never been done before and you're turning this into a circus and you're taking away the sanctity of Mary.

[SPEAKER_02]: Markery and that's not really.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's not the intention.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's not the intention with it.

[SPEAKER_02]: You know, I remember when you and I were sitting down writing the first list of all the people that we want to invite to the wedding.

[SPEAKER_02]: The initial list was like 250 people and we're like, all right, you know, we started kind of planning costs and stuff on that.

[SPEAKER_02]: And then a lot of other people who follow us wanted to come as well, and they were like, yeah, and they were like, yes.

[SPEAKER_02]: And they're like, yes.

[SPEAKER_02]: And we keep changing to change.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, like, wait a second.

[SPEAKER_02]: And we decided that we would change this so that it's actually,

[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, we're just asking people to cover their meal.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's a break even thing so that we can just have a big party together.

[SPEAKER_02]: And as soon as we've been talking about that way, I mean, I feel like that's when people like, oh, this makes, this isn't a money grab.

[SPEAKER_02]: This is just, help us cover the costs and let's just have a big party together.

[SPEAKER_02]: That's really what it's been.

[SPEAKER_00]: And for future, because we bought wedding funnels.com, paid for weddings.com, we want to teach this model to future rising grooms.

[SPEAKER_00]: I want to call them like break even brides.

[SPEAKER_00]: But heck yeah, if they make a profit from that, and if that's part of their story on their website, their wedding invitation funnel, where they go, hey, like instead of,

[SPEAKER_00]: buying us a toaster just contribute to your seat at the table and any money left over from this we're gonna put towards a down payment on our house if you know us or maybe they go No, we're gonna put this sort of starting a business.

[SPEAKER_00]: You know, we want to be able to here's my dream if that was someone that I know and love I'd be like

[SPEAKER_00]: or I want to support you in celebrating your love and helping you to find your home or maybe just putting it towards the honeymoon, whatever for us we were like, well we already have our home, we already have our honeymoon, like we had someone at an event that we were at this week that was like the funny thing is like you guys don't need to make money to be able to afford a wedding and that's not why people need to do this.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's

[SPEAKER_00]: an option, the same way that you could do an Airbnb or you could do a hotel, and this is just another option for people, but I hope they can put their profit towards something for us.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to go towards breaking even on the party.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to go towards we want to be able to help raise money to build a classroom with village impact again.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's so funny though, um, I mean, we got back super late last night, um, from an event I'll speak in at and we're at dinner and, uh, with a bunch of people from the event.

[SPEAKER_02]: There was that lady sitting across from us, we're like, yeah, we're still on tickets through wedding.

[SPEAKER_02]: She's like, ah, she goes, okay, yeah, and we're like, no, we're actually serious.

[SPEAKER_02]: total shutdown.

[SPEAKER_02]: Did you see that?

[SPEAKER_02]: That's been the response, which has been 30% of people seem to love it.

[SPEAKER_02]: And it seems like the entrepreneurial community is like, why would you not?

[SPEAKER_02]: Why would you not sell some tickets through your wedding, which covers the cost of the person being there?

[SPEAKER_02]: And then 30% just like dead set absolutely hated.

[SPEAKER_02]: Right, and they throw mud saying, you know, you know, not preserving marriage, this is a mockery, you know, and then it seems like that middle group just doesn't understand it yet and which is why it's been so fun to kind of talk about this and educate it because it's fully new concept, but it's funny.

[SPEAKER_02]: I was, I mean,

[SPEAKER_02]: I had a really hard time with it actually at the beginning.

[SPEAKER_00]: We totally debated it before doing that.

[SPEAKER_00]: We were all back and forth.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, we really did it for a long, long time for the all the same reasons everybody brings up.

[SPEAKER_02]: And it wasn't until we were at a different event.

[SPEAKER_02]: There was a lady, this woman walked up to us and we were talking about this concept and she was like, actually other societies and countries and cultures already do that.

[SPEAKER_02]: it's just not a Western idea.

[SPEAKER_02]: So it's funny because more and more it's when we bring it up you feel like that's crazy and it's new and disruptive.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's like, here it is, but it's actually something that's been done and we're just being really loud about it because we've platforms.

[SPEAKER_00]: And it's, it's totally, it's new, it's crazy, it's weird.

[SPEAKER_00]: And we agree, when someone, if we do get back, that's really, yeah, totally, it is so weird.

[SPEAKER_01]: It is.

[SPEAKER_00]: But the same way that getting into a car with a stranger who isn't licensed and asking them to take you to the airport was weird until it became Uber.

[SPEAKER_00]: And staying in a stranger's home was weird until it became Airbnb or trading imaginary coins on the internet was weird until it was Bitcoin.

[SPEAKER_00]: And now people are frigging billionaires because of it.

[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: And it's something new, and it is going to totally feel crazy until it is proven.

[SPEAKER_00]: And the crazy people were always called crazy until they were then called a genius.

[SPEAKER_00]: And will that be us?

[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.

[SPEAKER_00]: And I just, I think that we have something really different unique here.

[SPEAKER_00]: And what has already been really exciting to see is the brands that have been excited to get on board that we're going to create some really unique activations with them to get them more viewership or more

[SPEAKER_00]: products sales or whatever for them and the vendors that we've been working with that they're going to make more money than they would have made if I just straight up paid them because of how we're supporting their businesses.

[SPEAKER_02]: And some of them already are.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: And future brides and rooms where, you know, of course you can have a smaller wedding.

[SPEAKER_00]: Of course you could just like a low or whatever do something cheap, but this is just another option and it brings it back to

[SPEAKER_00]: brings weddings back to it takes a village and I hope also solves the problem of like you don't have to go in debt for one day and maybe this could also help fund something for your future.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, why don't you take people through the, um, because it's three days.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_02]: like what's happening each day.

[SPEAKER_02]: So they understand what's going on because I think the the mentality has been I have to pay for a ticket and then there's a gift and it's a little ceremony and this is just a straight up money grabbing.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's like that's not what this is and we we detest that as well.

[SPEAKER_02]: And so this has been a carefully planned very carefully.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, there's a funnel.

[SPEAKER_02]: But what are those three days?

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because I've gotten that feedback of, this is a money grab is when you are asking for money for no exchange of value or experience.

[SPEAKER_00]: And so here's what the whole experience is, you can buy a ticket to just the wedding, which most people would, I mean, for me, if I go to a wedding, I've spent a hundred or two hundred dollars on a gift for us, our ticket is not even that like people have been like, why is your ticket so cheap?

[SPEAKER_00]: For us, we're like, we're not worried about making a ton of,

[SPEAKER_00]: profit from this we want to use as a case study so our ticket is fifty seven dollars right now yeah super which people spend more on that on the dinner anymore you know when they're out in an evening and whatever and some people like I would never buy a ticket to a wedding I would never buy a ticket to a baseball game yeah that's okay yeah don't come on

[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, then we also have our rehearsal dinner, which we're also donating some of the money from the rehearsal dinner to village impact and we want to be able to raise up money to help them build the classroom and so we have the day of the wedding itself.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yep.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then there's also the day before the wedding is a we called rare relationship.

[SPEAKER_00]: So almost like a relationship retreat day.

[SPEAKER_00]: We're bringing bringing in some of our favorite experts best selling authors like people who've really been instrumental in our life and our relationship together.

[SPEAKER_00]: going to be on this stage doing right here and doing some presentations for this audience and we're also doing a panel with our parents which I think will be really fun.

[SPEAKER_02]: The parent panel I'm excited about it.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's one of the most nervous about it.

[SPEAKER_02]: They get all the dirt.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, they got the stories.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then the day after the wedding we're doing a biohacking brunch.

[SPEAKER_00]: So instead of a hangover and sad pancakes like we have biohacking experts that are going to lead through

[SPEAKER_00]: breath work and cold plunges and we have some brain optimization experts where people like able to go through the the machines and have the therapies done to them.

[SPEAKER_00]: We have this like Tony Robbins level $20,000 machine that he like takes on tour with him has in one and every one of his homes that everyone will get a session with.

[SPEAKER_00]: How cool is that?

[SPEAKER_00]: So it's that's the experience people get to get when they come to this wedding if they want to.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so it's a program that goes with this, which has been really fun.

[SPEAKER_02]: And instead of going out and going into all this debt with it, we're just the effort of it just to break even.

[SPEAKER_02]: We break even on this thing.

[SPEAKER_02]: That's great.

[SPEAKER_02]: And to show a new model to people that you know what you actually can go if you're just entrepreneurial about any problem.

[SPEAKER_02]: And that's really the mindset of a business owner in general and entrepreneur is, hey, I have a money problem I'm trying to solve.

[SPEAKER_02]: How could I solve that?

[SPEAKER_02]: And that's really all this is.

[SPEAKER_02]: We totally get the, there's some people that hate it, but as much as we're saying that,

[SPEAKER_02]: There's a ton and I'd say more people that love it.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's just a hate or louder and there's already a lot, a lot of people coming for me.

[SPEAKER_00]: Firstly, I found that the love has been louder because even when there are negative people in the comments, the people that love it responded to them being like, no, they're telling you not to get a gift or this is people should be doing this all right here.

[SPEAKER_00]: This is whatever.

[SPEAKER_00]: And it's been, it's been so fun and I think that, so when we turn this around and teach this to people with wedding funnels.com, paid for weddings.com.

[SPEAKER_00]: There's three ways I think people can monetize is through selling tickets, great experience, come entrepreneurial, how amazing.

[SPEAKER_00]: Is through brand deals and sponsorships, like even if you don't have a big audience, brands want to integrate with micro influencers.

[SPEAKER_00]: And people are already documenting their way down the aisle that they are creating this content posting, documenting, planning their wedding.

[SPEAKER_00]: And if they can integrate with brands and reach their audience, like brands are spending more money on influencers and real people in addition to ads, but it allows them to be,

[SPEAKER_00]: narrative marketing instead of this interruption marketing with ads.

[SPEAKER_00]: And then the other way is through affiliates, like you can integrate with a brand that you love and recommend them in the money you raise from that can go towards your wedding.

[SPEAKER_00]: The other thing I haven't mentioned too is like trades to do exchanges for people like we're building a funnel for our photographer.

[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing social media for the venue and he started, he told me he was getting calls on the first day.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, amazing.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's funny because we'll bring up those things to people and they often say things like, oh, well, you guys can do that because you have followings.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's like, well, literally every person on the planet has opportunities in front of them if they should think that way and stop being comparative.

[SPEAKER_02]: And that's all we're encouraging people to do is like, well, lift where you stand, right?

[SPEAKER_02]: Where is it the opportunities that you have in front of you?

[SPEAKER_02]: And it literally, I think the biggest reason that this makes people uncomfortable who are uncomfortable, it's two reasons.

[SPEAKER_02]: And it's like, no, we've actually created a pretty strong line.

[SPEAKER_02]: Some people wanted to create sponsorship for our vows.

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, that's weird.

[SPEAKER_02]: No.

[SPEAKER_02]: Like, you're like, hey, can I buy a spot in your wedding party?

[SPEAKER_02]: No, that's weird, right?

[SPEAKER_02]: We need to create this safety cocoon where it's like, no, it is still about the marriage about us and it is about the importance of marriage and the relationship.

[SPEAKER_02]: But outside of that, let's have fun.

[SPEAKER_02]: Let's do some experimental things and such.

[SPEAKER_02]: So that's the first place.

[SPEAKER_02]: The second place people have had a hard time with it.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, exactly what I was just saying that they're like, well, you can go do these things because if we are, but that's not that's not the case, either it's the mentality is how can I go solve a problem that is in front of me and get creative about it and everybody can do that that's a mentality it's has nothing to do with.

[SPEAKER_02]: Literally, you know, not to call some people out, but it's true.

[SPEAKER_02]: It's the difference between a victim mentality and a creator mentality.

[SPEAKER_02]: The victim mentality says I'm powerless.

[SPEAKER_02]: Creator mentality says, how could I, right?

[SPEAKER_02]: And that shift that change right there is all it takes.

[SPEAKER_02]: And we're just doing that to the expense of the wedding because we're like, oh my gosh, we could go into like, debt over this, right?

[SPEAKER_02]: We could pay for, but it's like, how can we, is the most beautiful beginning of any question on the planet?

[SPEAKER_02]: And that's all we did with this.

[SPEAKER_00]: So we'd love to hear where you think is it crazy?

[SPEAKER_00]: Is it crazy awesome?

[SPEAKER_00]: Would you do it?

[SPEAKER_00]: What are the problems that you see with it?

[SPEAKER_00]: And if you're interested in checking out our wedding funnel, you can go to crash the party with Stephen Marley.com.

[SPEAKER_00]: Isn't that the coolest?

[SPEAKER_00]: Don't make it too much.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's the coolest.

[SPEAKER_02]: We love to have you guys.

[SPEAKER_02]: We love to have you.

[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be a blast and it's going to be so special.

[SPEAKER_00]: Any time that I see someone that buys their ticket, I get this tool to just

[SPEAKER_00]: It's information and butterflies, and it just means the world to us to have you come celebrate our day with us, and to also be part of something that is bigger than us, and you can also check out weddingfunnels.com.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I mean, there are people buying tickets.

[SPEAKER_02]: There's a lot of people, a lot of people already, because I feel like also a show up as one.

[SPEAKER_02]: There's a lot of people coming this already, which is super excited.

[SPEAKER_02]: I have just a big party together.

[SPEAKER_02]: I'm trying to get on good morning America that today show and we just had that call yesterday about it and I mean it's a it's unique and we know that and we accept that some people are not going to love it and we're still going to do it because it's so us, but yeah, all the weird emotions that have popped out we absolutely have to go through and work through ourselves too, so in the next episode you're actually going to hear from Christy Code Red, one of our just family friends best friend and she was a thousand percent angry and against it like rage against

[SPEAKER_00]: and now loves it.

[SPEAKER_00]: So all the same feelings that we actually felt in exploring this idea, and then sometimes people's initial reactions, is something that we are all going to explore in this next episode.

[SPEAKER_00]: So stay tuned for that, too.

[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, links down below.

[SPEAKER_02]: We'd love to have you guys.

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