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The Bigger Why is a long-form podcast exploring meaning, growth, mindset, purpose and the decisions that shape a life and drive behavior.
Hosted by Sam Weber, the show features unhurried conversations with founders, CEOs, authors, creators, artists, actors, investors and thought leaders about focus, ambition, failure, regret, triumph, philosophy, personal growth and the stories behind success, sacrifices made, lessons gleaned and wisdom embodied along the way.
00:00:00 Speaker: You are the caregiver, the warden, the fiduciary of you. You're spending more money than you can afford. You can't run on motivation. It's not going to be a sustainable fuel source that's insufficient for you. If it's not working for you internally, you know you're not doing what it is you want to be doing. All right. Welcome back to another episode. Uh, thank you everyone who tuned in to my last one. If you are new to this channel. Hello, my name is Sam Weber. Um, and I'm going to talk about some stuff. Uh, today's video is about you. It's about why you need to find your purpose and act on it now. Like now. Um, look, you were entrusted with a certain body, with a certain spirit, with a certain person. You were entrusted with you. You are the caregiver, the warden, the fiduciary of you. And it is incumbent upon you to steer that ship and not to shy away from that responsibility. Um, it's pretty easy to sort of look to the standards that other people are employing for their, for their own lives and say, um, those are the barometers I'm going to use and adopt the same templates and the same methodologies and the same tried and true systems. Um, but if those systems are failing you, then it isn't sufficient to point to those criteria and say, well, look, I'm doing what everyone else is doing. I'm on the same standards that my peers are at. Um, um, that's insufficient for you if it's not working for you, if internally, you know that you're not doing what it is you want to be doing, if you're spending too much time drinking or too much time partying, or you're spending more money than you can afford, um, or you just feel lazy or without purpose. Or maybe you find yourself surrounded by people who just don't inspire you, who don't bring out the best in you. Maybe you're in a relationship with someone who is not supportive of you and doesn't bring out the best of your abilities. Um, or that maybe just doesn't challenge you, um, whatever your circumstance is. It's really, um, you know, incumbent upon you to be self-driven, motivated and take action. Um, and so if you're still watching this video, I assume you're someone who is aspiring, um, to fulfill their own potential. Um, and so I want to speak a little bit about, um, you know, the different types of fuel, I should say that people will kind of use. So you have, you can think of it as sort of building a bonfire. Um, the role of the big logs, the center logs are very different than the shrubbery or the kind of lighter fuel that you're going to spray on the on the fire. You know, the lighter fuel is very splashy. Everybody loves it. It makes really big flames, but it dwindles out pretty quickly. Um, you need the, you know, shrubbery and small brush to get the fire started, but it's not going to keep it burning for a long time for it to burn a long time. You need to have those real centerpieces, the stable, you know, logs at the center. Um, they're going to keep it or burn for a longer period of time. The problem with those centerpiece logs is that you can't just take a bunch of centerpiece logs and light them. They won't light. You need the brush and the shrubs and the lighter fluid to get the fire going initially. And so motivation is basically the lighter fuel and the, the shrubs, you know, you can't run on motivation. It's not going to be a sustainable fuel source. Um, motivation is good at the start to get going. You're fired up about something you want to take action. Um, and that's where the motivation is going to serve you. If you do get that spark, you shouldn't waste it because it means now you have the ability, if you act upon it, to really make some drastic changes. But it's not going to sustain you long term. It's going to sustain you long term. Are the habits and the habits are really the kind of logs that, um, okay, sorry about that. Uh, so, so the habits. So, um, so the habits are the logs, the habits are really are going to sustain you over the long term. The habits build that very strong base, that very strong foundation. And so if you think about it from the perspective of fitness, if someone's trying to get into a gym routine, the routine aspect of it is really what separates the professional from the amateurs. Uh, you know, obviously many people have written about this, have spoken about it in the idea of pro versus amateur is something that Steven Pressfield talks about in his book Going Pro, which is a great book. Um, but basically the, the construct is, um, you know, the habits are things that even when you don't want to get up in the morning, it's just so rote, it becomes second nature to you that, you know, you know, I'm the person, I'm the type of person who, when I get up in the morning, this is what I do. I go to the gym. And so it's not a question. You don't have to sit there fighting with yourself like you would in the first few days that you're taking on a new, um, a new pact with yourself. So if you say, hey, I'm starting out to go to the gym, first few days are going to be really tough. You're going to need the motivation. You're going to need the lighter fuel. You're going to need the shrubs to like, get yourself, you know, jacked up and say, oh, I'm going out for this run. I'm starting to sit down and I'm going to start writing this book. I'm going to start tearing up this song. Um, the motivation is what you need in the beginning in the early stages. And then as you get into the slog of things, that motivation will fade and you'll say, oh, why am I doing this? What's the whole purpose of this? Oh, I'll just skip today. There'll be one hundred thousand reasons. One hundred thousand excuses that your brain will come up with to keep you down that resistance, capital R is going to really come after you and say, no, we don't need this. It's not important. We shouldn't do it. You'll come up with all kinds of scenarios as to why you're going to fail at it, why even if you succeed, it's going to be useless. A hundred other people are doing this. There's all kinds of reasons why you shouldn't do it, but you don't get into those mental bouts, those gymnastic fights. If this is part of your routine, it's your biological way of just stacking one thing on top of the next, on top of the next, on top of the next. You know, as you build and ingrain those habits, you just take on more habits and more habits. But you're not thinking about it. You're just going on. You're operating on autopilot. And then eventually that starts bleeding into your personality and your characteristics and your traits. And then you become someone who goes to the gym in the morning and you identify with that person, and then you start building narratives around that. Um, and so, you know, narratives, which warrants a whole separate video on or something that helps you really, really reinforce your identity and becomes part of who you are. And once that becomes second nature, that's what's going to really sustain you long term. And so it's really about using the motivation to get started, but then getting habits to keep you on track. And so the reason why motivation is important is because motivation will get you started. And so in order to get started on a venture, you want to be excited about it. You want to find something that you know, you are really fired up about that you feel, you know, this is something that I was put on this earth to do. And it doesn't mean this is the one thing you were put on this earth to do. And that idea of put on this earth to do X or put on this earth to do Y is going to shift over time. And I like adding to that sentence right now. So it's, this is what I was put on earth to do right now. This is what my goal is right now. And that will, of course, as I discussed in my prior episode, that is something that is certainly going to evolve and shift over time. Um, so in summation, I would say that, you know, nobody is going to make you do anything. It's going to be incumbent on you to make it happen. Um, you know, you were entrusted with this one life. It was given to you because you were meant to carry it through. You were meant to carry that torch on what it means for your own existence. Um, and how you want your journey or your book or whatever analogy you want to use to go. Um, but if you just keep doing the same thing, you're going to keep getting the same thing. Uh, and if you're unhappy or you think you're leaving chips on the table, then it's incumbent upon you to really dial up that, uh, fervor and dial up that, uh, adrenaline, find something that really gets you fired up and then build habits around that thing. So you then have the, you know, the thick base to rely on. And, um, and then you continue stacking from there. So thank you for watching if you're still around and I'll see you in the next episode.