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John:Ever wondered how you could turn your side hustle into a full time gig and spend more time together?
Vikki:Hi. I'm Vicky, a number one best selling author.
John:And I'm John, a retired Los Angeles police officer. Welcome to Dig the Well, where we help couples navigate the world of business.
Vikki:We've been married for 30 5 years, and because we built a successful side business, John retired 9 years earlier than he originally planned from the Los Angeles Police Department after 25 years on the job. Now we spend more time together, and we want to help couples like you do the same.
John:Join us as we help you overcome common obstacles, and we show you how to make extra income without sacrificing family time.
Vikki:Ready to dig deep and build your well? Let's get started. Hello. Hello. Hello.
Vikki:John and Vicky here excited for this interview because it's with a really great friend, longtime friend of both of us. We've been in business together. Now we support each other in our separate businesses, and we're both authors. That's kinda cool. And yet we go way, way back.
Vikki:So before I introduce our guest, I wanna tell you a bit a little bit about her. Her name is Yvette Osborne. Actually, when we knew her, it was Yvette Pacheco. And then she married the man of her dreams and we got to be at the wedding. So exciting.
Vikki:I can't believe it's been like 10 years now I think. But Yvette is a woman, whose life journey has been nothing short of extraordinary as a single mom, entrepreneur, part time actress, CEO of a nonprofit organization, wife, grandmother, and a passionate advocate for health and wellness. Yvette's story is one of resilience, ambition, and unwavering determination. That's Yvette Osborne. Yay, Yvette.
Ivette Osborne:Hey, guys.
Vikki:Hey. Welcome. So glad to hear you.
Ivette Osborne:Thank you so much. I'm so glad and so pumped to be here with you guys. I've been watching and just saying like, oh, yeah. That would be so fun to get together and do this. So thank you so much for having me on.
Ivette Osborne:Yes. Thank you. Thank you. And, you know,
Vikki:I think we were chatting on social media about this podcast coming out, Dig the Well. And but before we jump into, like, how we met each other and your background, you did tell me on in a private message that The Well meant something something so special to you. Can you tell everybody what that was all about?
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. So when I started or I was starting one of my businesses, that name came up, the well. And it's biblical background, for me. So, you know, coming to the well and just seeking the water and and, you know, it just it meant so much to me because it's like, I wanted to be able to have a business where people could come to the well, right, and come and get things. And so I think that's for you guys too.
Ivette Osborne:Right? Like, digging the well. It's like getting that fresh water, so to speak. Right?
Vikki:Yeah. Yeah. I love that. And I when I started saying, hey. I dug the well before I needed the water with our one of our businesses, I didn't think about that at all and I'm a spiritual person too Christian, believe in Jesus Christ, all the things, he's my Lord and Savior and, John's too and that just is so cool that the whole yeah, how how that all works out.
Vikki:Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:It's it's amazing. So, yeah, so it was a good way to start. So kinda that was like the umbrella name, for me to start off and do all these other things. So so
Vikki:Cool. Well, yeah, let's let's dive into your background. So I know you, you know, I talked about it in your bio that you're a single mom raising your son on your own. And, when you and I first met, I think that's where you still were. Right?
Vikki:You had your son, and we were both in a candle business together, a direct sales candle company. Can you tell us a little bit about that?
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. So I was a single mom. You know, I had a boyfriend at the time, but it's just not the same. You know? You're definitely doing things by yourself and, you know, have the traditional 9 to 5 that I hated, and that I was a slave to.
Ivette Osborne:But that wasn't gonna cut in. It wasn't paying the bills. So, a friend had approached me about this business. And, of course, you know, the reason most people start other businesses is because they want a discount or something. And I'm guilty.
Ivette Osborne:That's what I wanted. I wanted this one item so badly. And, but I have to say that after everything that was, like, 2,002 maybe. And after everything, it was like, this is it. Like, this for me, the direct sales, you know, arena was the answer for me to be able to give my son everything that I needed to give him, without at that time having another income from a father.
Ivette Osborne:You know? So, yeah, so I dove right in and and, you know, unfortunately, jumped from business to business. But, you know
Vikki:But I'm sure you've learned a lot. You know? A lot of times when you do, yeah, go from one to another, you realize, oh my gosh. It was really good there or not or the other or the reverse. Oh, it's so much better here.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. And you also, you know, just learning about yourself and knowing, you know, hey. I I wasn't in it 100%. You know? I know that we are part of another company that was amazing, and it just wasn't the right time for me.
Ivette Osborne:And, you know, I had to move on at that point and just know, like, you know what? I'm not giving it my all. It's not that the company wasn't working. I wasn't giving it my all. And so knowing that and coming to that realization, was helpful because a lot of people may not be able to get there and they blame it on the company when it's really not that.
Vikki:That is so good. And we That's a great point. Yeah. We've talked about that, taking responsibility for yourself and your own actions, and and I love that that you saw that, hey. This just wasn't the right timing for me.
Vikki:I wasn't ready for it or what whatever it was, but then you moved on, and I know you're thrilled with what you're doing now. Yeah. Yeah. For sure. For sure.
Vikki:So yeah. And in the midst of all that, between the candles and the other one that we were together on, you you met Kyle. And tell us about meeting Kyle as a single mom. How was that? Oh, gosh.
Ivette Osborne:Well, Elijah was already my son was already, I think, 18 or 19 around then. And I had given up. I was like, listen. Let me just be single. I'm good at being single.
Ivette Osborne:And, and I met Kyle, and I think that, you know, the most important aspect of all of that was the prep time. Like, all of the time, all of the drama, all of the, you know, things that went wrong or that are allowed to go wrong in my life were setting me up for that moment. Right. And same with him. So, I mean, we say it all the time.
Ivette Osborne:Had we met each other, you know, a year earlier, we probably woulda hated each other. You know? Because it was just we were in a different space. But when we met that night and got together, it was I mean, it was done. It was instant.
Ivette Osborne:We knew. I mean, I was older, you know, at this point because I had had so many bad relationships throughout my life. So I knew what I wanted, and I had boundaries. And, and so did he. And so we knew right away, and we got married, like, a year later.
Vikki:That's so awesome. Which is
Ivette Osborne:crazy. Like
Vikki:Yeah. I remember when you're going through that. Didn't you meet at church or church function or through friends through church or something? Or no? No?
Ivette Osborne:No. Tell us what happened. At the typical bar.
Vikki:That's funny.
Ivette Osborne:Kind of a different well.
Vikki:But you're both believers. Then maybe what I'm remembering is that you're both believers, and you had that strong connection. Yeah. We were.
Ivette Osborne:And and it was funny that, you know, I like I said, I had my boundaries set up. I knew what I wanted, what I didn't want, and I gave him 21 questions that night. He didn't run away, and I was like, oh, this is great. And, and he did the same. You know?
Ivette Osborne:He let me know about, you know, him being a Christian also and maybe some hurts that he had in the church. But, but, yeah, he started going to church with me because that was such a big part of my life and and not just Sundays. I told him, you know, I go Wednesday. I've been in the choir for 14 years. You know?
Ivette Osborne:It's a big part of my life and that could scare away a lot of guys.
Vikki:Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:So, no. So we had that in common and and, you know, he's been with me ever since.
Vikki:I love it. I love it. And, you know, it's funny. We haven't talked about it, but you were a Christian before I was. You know, you accepted Jesus into your heart in high school.
Vikki:Right? Right. And I was after, oh, this is kind of something to talk about is it was a direct sales company, actually, multi level marketing company that brought me to the Lord. Isn't that crazy? And I don't talk about it.
Vikki:And I think it should be because MLMs, direct sales get bashed like crazy.
John:Right.
Vikki:And what an and it has changed my life when I really think about it. It was an altar call for those of you guys that that maybe don't know what that means. It's when, you know, just genuinely and sweetly at a service, the pastor will say, and if you feel a tug at your heart, if you're missing something in your life and you would love Jesus to come into your heart, please step forward. That's called an altar call and you walk forward. And, for whatever reason, I knew about that, but I always thought, oh, accepted Jesus into my heart.
Vikki:Am I gonna get, like, a shock, like, a lightning bolt? I don't know why I thought that. But, anyway, at this direct sales meeting, they had a church service on a Sunday, and I we went to it. Just think it was a regular church service, not much anything else of it, but I felt so called to move forward and accept Jesus. And so because John had had already, you know, for years prior to that.
Vikki:So anyway, I know we're kinda getting off total tangent there, but there are such good things that come out of direct sales companies.
Ivette Osborne:Absolutely. I'm seeing that more and more. And, actually, a company that I just partnered with, they I mean, their values are so much so in that alignment that, you know, they tell us, like, here's our meeting times and here's this and here's that, and we're trying to launch this and that. But everything's recorded because they want us to spend time with family first. And it's so powerful because I can't even I can't even think of one place that I worked where they said it was family first.
John:Right.
Vikki:It was Right.
Ivette Osborne:My dream first, my work first. Like, I don't care if you have a child or not. You know, get a babysitter. Figure it out. And it's like that's why I you know, sometimes I'm dumbfounded with, you know, all the stuff that direct sales gets and, you know, the negativity because it's like, oh my gosh.
Ivette Osborne:It's so freeing. Yeah. And then you're learning so much more. I mean, we could get into all the other things, but it's like, I've never read so much in my life. I used to hate reading.
Ivette Osborne:It put me right to bed.
Vikki:Yeah. Right. Yeah. You'd be out. Right?
Vikki:Yeah. Now
Ivette Osborne:I read at least or listen to, thank goodness, for Audible. Yeah. You know, listen to at least 10 to 15 books a year.
Vikki:Yeah. Yeah. I
John:mean, like, a lot of big a lot of employers, especially big corporations, they say their family first, but they their actions prove otherwise. Even with the Los Angeles Police Department, I do think there there's a number of, supervisors and command staff that really do care about family, and they really do wanna put family first. Unfortunately, the city's policies don't allow it to work out that way, and it's kind of a shame, right, because family should come first because everything we do is for our families pretty much.
Vikki:Right. Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. So if you've never thought about looking at a direct sales company, you'd thought it was kind of cuckoo, I would if I were you, I would look.
Vikki:I would look at one that maybe your friend is recommending to you because, there's so much goodness that our marriage got stronger. I'm like you, Yvette. I read so many books a year. I listen to at least 10 to 15 minutes to sometimes an hour a day of some type of personal development podcast on, you know, bettering myself, and it it started in that direct sales company. Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:Exactly. That's where it started for me too. Yeah. Yeah.
Vikki:Yeah. Crazy. Cool. Very cool. Alright.
Vikki:Okay. Something about your bio that I didn't know that I think the listeners would, find fun to hear about is part time actress. Are you still doing that? Did you do that all along? Tell us.
Ivette Osborne:No. I started that really, really late in life. It was something I always wanted to do. You know, as a kid, I was always excited. I wanted to be, you know, on TV or whatever.
Ivette Osborne:And then, of course, life took over. Yeah. You know, I I had my son when I was 24, which is not too early. But, you know, by that time, it was like it was all about making money. I mean, from the time I was 15 on, it was like, how much money can I make?
Ivette Osborne:You know? So, so I didn't give it the time. And then finally, when I was an empty nester and I didn't have to worry about my son as much, I was like, I'm gonna look into this. And so I did, and I started working with a company in, well, Burbank, technically. But, yeah, doing a bunch of TV shows and things like that, and it was super, super fun.
Ivette Osborne:And then I do commercials still from time to time with a company here in Orange County.
Vikki:Oh, that's fun. Tell us about
Ivette Osborne:much fun.
Vikki:Yeah. Tell us about the residual income side of it is because I had always heard I wanted to be an actress too. But my dad wouldn't let me and my dad have a casting agent as his best friend. I can't believe that he didn't didn't even let me get introduced to him. It was really sad, but I've always been curious.
Vikki:They say, you know, if you do a commercial, you get paid residual income on that. Is is that something you work into your contract, or is that just automatic? Okay.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. No. Definitely. If you're going through an agency like I did, then you, you know, sign a waiver for that stuff. Like, they can use and abuse you as much as you want, as much as they want as long as they don't have you on a speaking part.
Ivette Osborne:If you get a speaking part, I think it's a little bit different.
John:Right. Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:But if you're just background and you're just, you know, kinda doing the things, it's it's fine. But most of those places will have you sign a waiver, so that you don't have that. And if you had somebody like your dad's friend, that would have been probably where you're gonna start to see some of those, residual checks and stuff like that because they would probably work that into the contract.
Vikki:Definitely. Yeah. That that sounds about right. Yeah. He wouldn't let me talk to him.
Vikki:And now that we were just sitting here talking, I look over at John. I'm like, wait a minute. John was an actor. I forgot about it. You had your SAG card and everything.
Vikki:This is when he was still LAPD. And tell us about that real quick because you're not getting any residual.
John:No. And the problem the problem with that is it was a pain because it wasn't like we were an empty nester at the time. Like, you were saying, like, you had time to do that, and and that makes sense. At that time, the kids were little. They're how old were the kids back?
John:It was a long time ago.
Vikki:It was Frailty was one of the movies. Frailty. Yeah. I don't know what year that was.
John:Anywho, it was like they would have all these calls you'd have to be at. Right? And it's usually early in the morning, and I'd always get last minute notice. Hey. You gotta be you gotta be here tomorrow morning, 5 o'clock in the morning, and it was like, I can't do that.
John:You know, I've got and and, again, with my job, I couldn't just say, hey. You know what? I'm not gonna come in today. I've got some other things to do. It just it doesn't work that way.
John:So I said, no. I've got to work and then I've got family stuff. I remember one time we were at, our son was playing football and, it was Orange County Junior All American, Okjeff, and I was one of the assistant coaches and my phone's blowing up And I'm thinking I'm busy on the field. Right? So I finally look, and it's them calling me saying that they wanted me on the set for something.
John:It was for, robbery homicide division, that show back back in the day, RHD.
Vikki:Because he did a lot of police stuff, obviously. Yeah. Yeah. They want a real police.
John:I can't. There's no way I'm gonna make it out to Los Angeles to do this. And besides that, even if I could go out there, I wouldn't because I'm here with my son, my family, and it's this is way more important.
Vikki:Yeah. That must have been 2,000. You asked what year, 2,001, 2, 3, around there. Yeah. Yeah.
Vikki:How funny. I'm sitting with 2 actors.
John:It was funny because here's kind of a funny story. Our daughter, Misa, one time, she she was upstairs watching TV, and she was watching, Entertainment Tonight happening to me on. Right? And they were covering, a movie, the movie Frailty. And they did, like, a special behind the scenes thing, and they were following me around with the camera behind the scenes, getting ready, getting the makeup and all that.
John:And she goes, dad, you're on TV. You're on TV. I'm like, I'm on TV. What what I'd be on? What did I do wrong?
John:Right? Why am I on TV? That was because of that.
Vikki:That's funny. That was with Paxton, wasn't it?
John:Yeah. So if you if you get the DVD of that movie at the end, they do a thing about the making of it. So I'm in that part part of it. Oh, nice. The part
Ivette Osborne:of the TV
John:has me in it.
Vikki:Yeah. You must have gotten credit. Yeah.
John:I guess.
Vikki:But not extra pay or anything. You got paid No. Pretty decent, but not Yeah.
John:And then I did some I did some consulting for a couple of movies too.
Ivette Osborne:Oh, nice. Yeah. See that cool. That's yeah. That's different for sure.
Ivette Osborne:But, yeah, I mean, it worked out, you know. And now that I think of it, like, when you said the year, it was 2019 because I started it then and then 2020 just stopped because of the pandemic. So, so yeah. And then I went back a couple times and did a couple shows and but the money was good. You know?
Ivette Osborne:And like you said, I had the time. I wasn't working. Why wasn't I working? I'm like, there's hardly ever a time that I was working like a traditional job.
Vikki:Right.
Ivette Osborne:But if I remember correctly, it was, yeah. It was. Because 2018, I had started another direct sales company. I was doing really well with them. I had a full time job that was insane.
Ivette Osborne:You know, I was working anywhere from 40 to 70 hours a week. I never saw my husband. You know, my son was, you know, thankfully with his girlfriend's family and stuff all the time. So, but it was bad. I I worked so much.
Ivette Osborne:And then all that loyalty, all that, you know, you know, sweat and tears and all that, they let me go because they restructured. And that's why I didn't have a job at that time, and I was like, okay. Well, I'm doing the direct sales thing. I have enough time on my hands, to go and do the acting. That's when that happened.
Vikki:Right. But, honestly, thank god, you dug the well before you necessarily needed the water as I said. It was recent. You had your other company your business that you could spend more time with and bring up the income if you needed it, you know, and didn't wanna And I did
Ivette Osborne:really well the 1st 2 years. It was great. I didn't have to work at all, so I was able to stay home and do whatever I wanted. It was awesome.
Vikki:That's awesome.
John:Yeah. You know? And and one of the things that we brought up before in in another episode and one of the things that we totally believe in is having multiple streams of income, Right? Not just relying on one source, and it seems like you have many, many streams of income. Tell us a little bit about that.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, those things that you don't wanna get from your parents? Well, this is one of those things you wanna get from your parents.
John:And, you
Ivette Osborne:know, just like Misa and John with you guys, you know, seeing you guys and and having that example, I didn't it didn't hit me until later that I did have that example, in my mom. She was an entrepreneur too. She did direct sales and and yeah. I mean, back in the day with Shockley and all the different things. You know?
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. So Awesome. So I think that's part of where it came from too. But, once I started the direct sales, companies, I just realized, like, I need to have more. And then you have those situations like I did in 2018 where they just restructure and they let you go or the pandemic where everything closes down.
Ivette Osborne:So for me, it was like, this is the only way to survive. You know what I mean? This is the only way to where if I'm by myself, I'll be able to survive. And now I'm married and, you know, I think we got married. It's actually we just celebrated this Saturday.
Ivette Osborne:We just celebrated 11 years. So
Vikki:I was close. I was close. Congrats. Congrats.
Ivette Osborne:So, so yeah. So I knew because I always had that single mentality that even though I was married and I and I have my husband's support and, you know, financially as well, I knew that I needed to keep that going. So, you know, I was doing the acting. I was doing commercials at the same time. I was doing direct sales at the same time.
Ivette Osborne:You know? And then I was doing, like, little side jobs too. So, I mean, at one point, there was, like, 5 or 6 things that I was doing. But I had the freedom, and I got to do whatever I wanted. And that was the big thing for me because I never had that when I was younger.
Vikki:Yeah. That's awesome. I didn't know your about your mom was shackling. How funny. That was
Ivette Osborne:so Isn't that crazy? Yeah.
Vikki:So cool. And your dad, wasn't he somewhat was he a truck driver? Or mind what about your dad? Yeah. So that's kind of setting your own hours to an extent, isn't it, or not really?
Ivette Osborne:That was later on for him. So I think he started that when I was in high school. And but before that, they had their own business. You know, he worked with her in the direct sales marketing, businesses as well. He had a traditional job for many years, but they let him go.
Ivette Osborne:And then he had already had his business going. So, you know, thank goodness they had that going for years and were actually able to sell that business to someone else and, you know, reap the benefits of that. So, when he became a truck driver, he was, you know, he was older and he was kind of
Vikki:over it.
Ivette Osborne:You know, he already had money. We were getting older. You know, I'm the baby. So Yeah. It was like, you know, 3 more years, and then he was done Right.
Ivette Osborne:So to speak. So, yeah, so he was a truck driver until gosh. I mean, he worked until he couldn't really anymore. Yeah. And so that was probably well, probably 12 years ago, I think is when he retired.
Vikki:That's right. And then he bought a truck. Mad.
Ivette Osborne:He still wants to own businesses and stuff. Like, you had no. Retire. Enjoy your life.
Vikki:It's funny when it's in your blood. Like Yeah. I think it'll never leave us either. Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. It's not like that.
Vikki:Right. When we had to close Prestige Motoring Accessories, which is our brick and mortar in the city of Brea, we had to close it and bring it home, and we made it kind of a mobile business. We still felt like it kinda ended, but we swore to each other we would find that perfect business again someday. Like, we were not gonna be denied. So, yeah, it gets in your blood for sure.
Vikki:Alright. So tell us oh, yes. Tell us about being a CEO of a nonprofit. Like, what inspired you to do that? And then tell us all about the nonprofit.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. So, a couple years ago, I was doing, like, a fast, with our church. I was reading a book. We were going through the steps together and just just spending a lot of time in the word. And that's when it came to me.
Ivette Osborne:And I just I heard nonprofit, and I I didn't know anything about nonprofits whatsoever. I just I just didn't know about them. And I was like, why would I do a nonprofit? Like, why would I not wanna make money? You know?
Ivette Osborne:Because I took it literally. Right? Right.
John:And I was like, yeah. I don't
Ivette Osborne:wanna do this. And then all of a sudden it started coming. And the more that, you know, I think it was 21 days that I was doing this past and just spending time in in, you know, the bible and all that. And it just kept coming and kept coming. And and the Lord was just like, listen.
Ivette Osborne:You you had a story. You had to live through something as a single mom. You know, you had to live through other things in life that you did. And, you know, it's your turn to help. It's your turn to help these people.
Ivette Osborne:You know? And so and I have a heart for the elderly, and, you know, and for the youth too that the kids that maybe don't have resources and they need resources, but maybe their parents don't have it or they're, you know, in foster care, whatever it is. It's like when I see a young person that wants to succeed in life, it's like, wow. What can I do for that person? So that's kind of, you know, where it came from, was basically the Lord telling me, like, downloading it.
Ivette Osborne:Like, this is what you need to do. You need to take everything that you lived and make it better for someone else.
Vikki:Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:And so, so yeah. So we started, our nonprofits called From a Friend.
Vikki:I love that name.
Ivette Osborne:Isn't it great? That's so cool. Always call me friend. So instead of my name, it was like friend. And so I thought it was perfect.
Ivette Osborne:And, yeah. So we do little things here and there, when we can, you know, if somebody's going through a hard time, you know, definitely single parents, you know, male or female because I've had a lot of guy friends that have lost their wives and have been left to be single dads. So yeah. So we do
Vikki:kind of, anonymous? Do do they know they're getting
Ivette Osborne:Some of it is. I
Vikki:love that. Yeah. Love that.
John:Yeah.
Vikki:Because that's been on my, we haven't talked about this. I did not know any of this, Yvette. That's been on my bucket list that, when we're making we're raking in the money, when we're really raking it in, I want to give to friends anonymously. Like, if I find out they can't make their mortgage payment, I want to just go over to their house, slip slip the money underneath the, doormat and not have them know it's coming from us ever. Yeah, I just that is so cool.
Vikki:So that's what it reminds me of in a sense that it's a nonprofit that helps people, sometimes anonymous, sometimes not. That is so cool.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. The other day, we got to meet a a kid. He's I can't remember where his family is from, but, he was stuck with a foster family. And, one of my friends is a professional soccer player who now, coaches for a team here in Orange. And so he's like, hey.
Ivette Osborne:What's that about your nonprofit? You know, do you do this? Do you do that? And we were able to, sponsor him, onto the team and get his uniforms for him and stuff like that. So, you know, it was just a little thing, but it was really cool because this time we actually did get to meet him, and he sent me this cute little note we have on the fridge.
Ivette Osborne:It's just it's so rewarding, like, when you can. Like you said, when you when you have ones to do that and stuff, it's just even the little things, it's it's just awesome.
Vikki:That is really cool. We are so much alike. Gosh. I didn't even know. That's so crazy.
Vikki:Love it. And then one of John's things too is there's gonna come a time where, we don't need his pension. You know, we're making enough money on all our other side business all our other businesses, multiple streams. Remember, tell that. Tell what you wanna do with your pension.
John:Yeah. So when we get to the point we're not there yet, but when we get there, I wanna take, you you see those the big wheel that they spin like the wheel of fortune kind of a thing. Right? Mhmm. Yeah.
John:So you had one
Vikki:Right. For the candle. Candle. Remember that? Lighting light.
John:So it's like a dry erase board, a circular dry erase board that you can spin, and it has a little little pointer on it. Yeah. So what I wanna do in each of those little pies, put down, a different a different, nonprofit.
Vikki:Right. And then
John:spin it every month, Spin it and see which one gets my pension check mailed to them.
Vikki:Yeah. Oh, that
Ivette Osborne:was super awesome.
Vikki:I thought that was really cool too. So Yeah. It's
John:gonna happen.
Vikki:It's gonna happen when we're multimillion dollar a year earners. Yeah. Yeah. But that's that's just cool to give back. Right?
Vikki:No matter what, we were not gonna get into politics, but no matter what side of the aisle though, you know, good people love to give back. And Right. It sounds like that's that's us 3 and 4, including Kyle.
John:In case anyone in the city of Los Angeles thinks you're gonna get off the hook paying me my pension because I don't need it, you know, if you get the page, you're still gonna pay it. It's just gonna go somewhere else.
Vikki:That's a good cause. Yeah. Exactly. That is super cool. So tell us, about, you know, your your book, really.
Vikki:I wanted to get into what your what the name of your book is so the listeners can go get it. Tell us why you wrote it, and I know you're yeah. Hold it up if you got it there. Do you have it? Yay.
Vikki:There it is.
John:Oh, she does.
Vikki:That's cool.
Ivette Osborne:There it is. Oh, don't be this girl. You could see all the things you don't wanna be.
Vikki:Yeah. Tell us more. Tell us more.
Ivette Osborne:So, actually, it was funny because I, you know, was at church one time and this guest speaker came and, I was just just so on fire after I heard him speaking. And he was talking about, you know, having his kids start their own businesses with window washing and different things. But he just inspired me so much that I went home that night and started writing a book. This was probably 20 years ago. And it just sat there on yellow pages, you know, a pad of paper, and it just sat there.
Ivette Osborne:Well, my friend Cindy, that I go to church with or went to church with, she started having, like, a workshop about writing books and stuff. So I got on that workshop, and and we've done so many things together. We're both creatives. So we've done so many, plays and different things together. So she asked me to partner with her on this book.
Ivette Osborne:And this is Cindy right here. Oh, yeah. We've we've known each other probably probably 20 or so years. And so she asked me to partner with her on this book that came to her and it's awesome. It was literally the perfect thing because it is part of what I'm gonna be writing in in the book that I had started, which obviously got put on the back burner because we did this.
Ivette Osborne:But we're talking about, like, our experiences in life. She is still single. I am now married, but everything that happened, you know, until today, the things we went through, the relationships we went through, the girls that we were back then. And the fun part about the book is that we've incorporated a lot of romantic comedies into that. So each chapter is about a romantic comedy and that character.
Ivette Osborne:So, like, one of the movies is, with Julia Roberts.
Vikki:Pretty Woman?
Ivette Osborne:Just escape me.
Vikki:But Pretty Woman? Not not Pretty Woman?
Ivette Osborne:No. It was, My Best Friend's Wedding. Oh, yeah. And that's one of my favorite movies, and I just loved it. I I loved it so much.
Ivette Osborne:And then as we started to write this, I was like, oh my gosh. Yeah. You don't wanna be that girl. It was horrible. She was pining after her best friend when she found out he was gonna get married.
Ivette Osborne:And, you know, she didn't even really know what she wanted. She was just, you know, being evil and vindictive and trying to break up this couple because she wanted him even though she really never wanted him before. It was they were just best friends. So, you know, it has to do a lot with that kind of stuff. But we put the, romantic comedies in there just to kind of, you know, bring some warmth to it a little bit, and then we share our experiences and give resources to the women as well.
Ivette Osborne:So That's great.
Vikki:And it makes it relatable.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. There's, you know, questions in the book for you guys for them to ask themselves. We do have a podcast also, where we about the podcast. What's Yeah. We we do it.
Ivette Osborne:It's called the don't be this girl podcast.
Vikki:Okay. We
Ivette Osborne:are on Spotify and, and Apple Podcasts as well. So, you know, we just go on there and we just have a conversation with each other, and we talk about, you know, these really important topics, for single women and for married women. Because, you know, it's don't be this girl that doesn't just stop after you're married. You know? You don't wanna be that girl either sometimes.
Ivette Osborne:You know? And sometimes we see that happening. You know, we need need to learn how to know our lane and respect the man and, you know, all that kind of stuff too. So, basically, a lot of what we've learned
Vikki:Don's looking at me.
John:You're listening to that part, the respect the man part?
Vikki:That's funny. It's true, though. I have a marriage coach. Even after being married 35 years, I have a marriage coach just to fine tune, me. Not him.
Vikki:Me. And one of the things is respect. Respect is huge for the man, and I remember asking you that. You're like, yeah. It kind of is.
Vikki:Not being disrespectful and yeah. Exactly.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. And it's so hard sometimes, especially, like, you know, for me, I was single for so long, and had so many bad relationships that, you know, I I was always the one that had to be in control or felt that I had to be in control because where they were guiding me was not the right place. Right. You know? And so letting go of that has been and still is.
Ivette Osborne:Like you said, it's a work in progress. It doesn't matter how long you've been married. If it's been 1 year or 35 years, you know. So, so I commend you for doing that because it is it is hard and we need to have, you know, stuff like this. And this is why we did it because we need to have you know, it's almost like a guide, relationship
Vikki:tips.
Ivette Osborne:Married or something.
Vikki:It. Otherwise, you're just perpetuating the same things that your mom did, then she didn't know any better because her grandmother did. You know, that's why I I sought out the coach that I have because I realized I could help tweak our marriage and make it that much better because, honestly, it really is us for the most part.
Ivette Osborne:You guys are awesome. We have these resources for the women in there just to to guide them and to let them know that, you know, you're not alone, first of all. Yeah. You know, there's always Right. There's always, you know, a good person that you can connect with to to get and most of it is biblical.
Vikki:Right. Exactly.
Ivette Osborne:And stuff like that because we believe that, you know, seeking God and seeking that wisdom is going to help with all of that. Like, you don't feel like you need to control someone someone when you know that that person is there to guide you and to love you. You know?
Vikki:Right. Right. I agree. 100%.
Ivette Osborne:It's been an amazing amazing thing that we did, last year. We launched it last year.
Vikki:That's so great. Does it drop on a certain day every week or do you guys is it like
Ivette Osborne:No. We've been, we've been a little off. My coauthor just moved to Tennessee. So, yeah. That would
Vikki:throw a wrench in the works.
John:Throws a
Ivette Osborne:little wrench. But we try to get them out there. We try to do at least once a month now. We're gonna be Awesome. Going live on Instagram, a lot more.
Ivette Osborne:Come January, we're gonna kind of revamp everything and, go live a lot more so that we can get some some guests on there. We're gonna be doing a book tour, also, hopefully, in February.
John:Oh, so
Ivette Osborne:be a virtual book tour, so that will be very fun.
Vikki:Yeah. So you'll do it by Zoom, like people could Uh-huh. Oh, perfect. Perfect. Love it.
Vikki:Love it. You're giving me ideas for my book.
Ivette Osborne:I know. I know. It's great.
Vikki:Yeah. Yeah. So it's it's so cool. Like, our paths keep like, we were together, and then we've separated but always remained friends. And then, like, our paths keep crossing because I know when my book was coming out, you your book was out already, I think, or it was about to something.
Vikki:Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:And it was
Vikki:just Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:So funny. I know. We have that great picture of both of us holding each other's books. Yes.
Vikki:Yeah. So cool. And
John:then we had that, impromptu meeting out in the middle of the desert.
Vikki:Oh, yeah. Did you hear that? Yes.
John:I don't remember if we were I think one of us was driving to Vegas from Southern California, and the others were driving home from Vegas.
Vikki:Too. Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:And Yeah.
John:We ended up stopping, like, halfway across the desert between Southern California and Las Vegas. We stopped at this that was a really world.
Ivette Osborne:That's it. That's it.
John:And I we passed by it, and I thought, I wanna see what this Eddy World is all about because it's huge. Right?
Vikki:It's a
John:big place. And luckily, they have a Tesla supercharger there. So we thought, hey. We'll charge the car. We'll go check out this Eddy World thing.
John:We walk in, and then all of a sudden
Vikki:there you go.
John:Event, yell out my name, our names, and we're like, what? And we turn around like, oh my gosh. Like, we have
Vikki:met in the craziest place. Like, God has a reason to keep bringing us back together. It's really cool.
John:So anyone driving across the California desert between what is it? On the 40 oh, no. On 15th. Driving on 15th,
Vikki:I think. Right?
Ivette Osborne:Somewhere. I can't remember.
Vikki:I can't remember. It's Eddy World.
John:Yeah. It's called Eddy World. It's like a little I don't know what you call it. It's It's
Vikki:like a Lucky's. For people on the east coast. Kind of
Ivette Osborne:like a Lucky's. I don't remember. Lucky's.
Vikki:Yeah. That's just got everything. Yeah. Yeah. They have every, like, fruit and candy and
John:It's just an awesome place.
Vikki:Jerky, nuts, and turkey,
Ivette Osborne:and more stuffed animals than you'll ever need to have in your life.
John:Yeah. And it's just out in the desert.
Vikki:It is like an amusement park 711. Yeah.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah. 711 on steroids.
Vikki:That was funny. So plug for them. Yeah. But that's another great business. They're they're booming.
Vikki:What a smart guy, whoever that was that that, started that. Yeah.
John:But think about all the headaches that that guy probably has with Oh, yeah. Staff and, you know, insurance and everything else. And then when, of course, COVID hit, I'm sure his business went right went completely south on him.
Vikki:I'm sure.
John:Yeah. Him or her.
Vikki:Hopefully, he's got it.
John:Could be a woman owned business. Yeah.
Vikki:That's true. Hopefully, it's back up and running.
John:I'm sure.
Vikki:Still running. I mean, it never went down because I think we went to Vegas during COVID. Yeah. And it was still there. And we Yeah.
Vikki:Flew. Didn't we drive we never drove during COVID? We flew when nobody else was flying.
Ivette Osborne:Because we were up there. I wanna say, like, I don't know, sometime last year, we went up there. Yeah. For something, and it was open. We stopped in.
Ivette Osborne:And
Vikki:That's so good. It's a great place. Alright. Well, tell us we'll wrap it up by hearing more about your book, and I guess you have a special offer. Did you wanna tell all the listeners if anyone wants to grab a copy?
Ivette Osborne:Awesome. So Black Friday is coming up. So, of course, we're gonna be on we are on Amazon. So you can find us on Amazon dotcom. You can grab the book.
Ivette Osborne:I think we're gonna be offering the book for 16.99, and the Kindle version right now is only 99¢. So, that's gonna be a great Black Friday sale. So if anybody wants to jump on there, that would be great. Yeah.
Vikki:Awesome. Awesome. Awesome. And, you know, in the the comments and the in the show notes of this, we'll have, Yvette's contact information or if you'd like to follow her on Instagram, on any of the social media platforms and buy her book. We'll put the link to that as well.
Vikki:This has been so much fun, Yvette. We've had so much fun with you.
Ivette Osborne:We have to add we have to add Kyle over here.
Vikki:Yes. Well, that's For sure.
Ivette Osborne:Yeah.
Vikki:Sure. Well, we were chatting before all of you jumped on with us that John was like, hey. I'm odd man out over here. And we were like, we should've invited Kyle. Yeah.
Vikki:So next time, we'll do a foursome. Wait. That's
Ivette Osborne:fine. Definitely.
Vikki:But the 4 of us will be on the podcast together.
John:Oh, boy.
Vikki:It's not like like
John:that kind of a podcast.
Vikki:Well, thanks. I don't
John:know if
Ivette Osborne:I'll be down
Vikki:for that.
Ivette Osborne:Thanks. Like
John:Kyle. I don't know if I like him that much. I definitely don't like him that much.
Vikki:Thank you so and I'm trying to ring you guys then. Oh, I know.
Ivette Osborne:I knew you started already. Don't be this girl. Don't
Vikki:be Yeah. Exactly. Exactly. I hope you guys enjoyed this. Hope you learned something from what Yvette was sharing.
Vikki:If you are a single mom, you know that the possibilities are out there for you to make the life of your dreams because that's what Yvette has done for herself, and especially me and Kyle, and now they're building their dreams together. So, we're glad that you're here. Be sure to leave us a review, share this with a friend, and we'll see you back on the next one. Alright. Thanks for joining us.
John:Bye.
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