Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Part 3, Chapter 6, Part 1, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Part 3, Chapter 6, Part 1 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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What is Morning Cereal?

Good morning, and welcome to Morning Cereal!
Pull up a stool, grab your favorite cereal, and let’s kick-start your day with a spoonful of inspiration, nostalgia and personal growth. Join your host, Shaen Inglis, as he highlights the music, movies, and moments that made the 80s, 90s, and 2000s unforgettable—kind of like digging for toy at the bottom of the cereal box. Each episode, Shaen also reviews a chapter or so from top wellness books, offering practical insights to help you set a positive tone for your day. Start your mornings right—no cartoons required!

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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning and

welcome to Wednesday.

Hey, did you know that

Wednesday got its name

because it was derived from the old

English word wadnesdag

and the middle English

wenezdi, meaning day of woden,

reflecting the religion practiced by the,

you know what, it's hump

day, welcome to Wednesday.

It's also carpe diem day.

That's about enjoying the moment

without concern for the future.

So it's probably a good thing.

It's just carpe diem day

and not carpe diem week

or carpe diem month,

because that could prove

to be very problematic.

Well, it's also Black Lives Matter day

and for Pete's sake day.

And this intro is getting long.

For Pete's sake, let's

get into today's quotes.

One fun nostalgic quote,

and then a second quote

to tease our book review

later in the episode.

Hopefully one of these

quotes will speak to you

and jumpstart your day

in a positive direction.

The first quote is

from singer Josh Groban,

who said, quote, "Don't give up.

It's just the weight of

the world," end quote.

And I sense some serious sarcasm here.

Now my wife and I have actually seen Josh

a few times in concert and in addition

to being a very talented

person, he's also hilarious.

So this is actually a song lyric

that speaks to loved ones helping you out

through those hard

times and supporting you.

It's a great song.

Well, today's teaser

quote from the book review is,

quote, "If you wanna make enemies,

outshine your friends.

But if you wanna make friends,

let your friends

outshine you," end quote.

And as usual, we'll unpack

that here in just a few minutes

during the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our usual dose

of fun and historic facts

from this day in history.

In today's news, facts and

birthdays are for February 26th.

And we're gonna start way back in 1815,

when on this day is when Napoleon escaped

from the island of Elba where he was sent

when he was forced to abdicate

as French emperor in the previous year.

Well, Napoleon escaped

from exile from the island

and gathering support

on his way back to Paris.

He eventually retook

power on his return to Paris

on March 20th, which

ushered in the 100-day period.

Then in 1919, the US Congress established

Grand Canyon National Park in

Northwestern Arizona.

This is a national park

I still haven't been to.

I gotta make it there.

Then in 1928, American

singer and pianist Fats Domino,

he's a rhythm and blues standout

who became one of the

first rock and roll stars.

He was born.

Now, I remember Fats Domino basically

for her song "Blueberry Hill"

because it was on a tape cassette

that we listened to on

our family road trips.

Then in 1929, Grand Teton National Park

was established in Wyoming.

And in 1950, it was expanded

to include most of

Jackson Hole National Monument.

And if you're watching this on YouTube,

that's an incredible picture right there.

All right, Johnny Cash, he

was born on this date in 1932.

Then in 1935, radar, which is the radio

detection and ranging,

it was first demonstrated in England.

Then we're gonna skip

all the way up to 1974.

That's when Nike received the

patent for waffle-soled shoes.

You know, that's the

sole of the Nike shoes

that we all know so well.

Well, that was actually

invented on a waffle iron.

That's crazy.

Then in 1991, the

world's first web browser

was presented to the public.

It was called the World Wide Web,

and then they later renamed it Nexus.

It was developed by Tim Berners-Lee,

who was a British computer scientist,

best known as the

inventor of the World Wide Web,

forward slash HTML, forward slash HTTP.

(chuckles)

Then in 1993, you might

remember seeing this on TV as well,

the World Trade Center in New York

was bombed in an act of terrorism.

Then finally in 2004,

a worker in a

supermarket in Aspen, Colorado,

alerted the police

after seeing a man shopping

with his face covered by a mask.

Well, when police arrived on the scene,

they identified the man as none other

than Michael Jackson,

who was in town on

holiday with his children.

And it goes back to the old saying,

if you see Michael

Jackson, say something.

All right, well, happy

birthday if today is your birthday.

You share a birthday

with singer Josh Groban.

He's 44 today.

And Neil Sean, the lead

guitarist for the band Journey.

He turned 71 today.

Well, the number one movie

on this date back in 1997

was Absolute Power,

produced, directed and

starring Clint Eastwood.

And he was a master jewel thief.

Enough said, I'm sold on it.

And the number one song

on this date back in 1983

was the Love Ballad, Baby Come to Me

by Patti Austin and James Ingram.

And if you're a sucker

for 80s love songs like me,

then you probably have this song in your collection

when you bought the complete set

of Reflections of Love CDs, right?

You remember those in

the info commercials?

If you know, you know.

Okay, let's move on

to some personal growth

in the book review

segment of Morning Serial.

This is where we take a few moments

to reflect on lessons learned

from the current book we're reading.

And currently we're

reading through Dale Carnegie's

How to Win Friends and Influence People.

It's a timeless book that is consistently

on all the must read lists,

and it's packed with rock

solid advice and actions

for us all to use and build healthy

foundational concepts

to live by.

Well, yesterday we

finished up chapter five,

which was The Secret of Socrates.

And that's where Carnegie

introduced the Yes Yes technique.

And this technique

uses the Socratic method,

which emphasizes finding

things that you can agree upon

to get the other person saying yes.

And aiming for these yeses for the sake

of the yeses from the other person,

while we try to avoid having them say no.

And Carnegie says, quote,

"In talking with people,

don't begin by discussing

the things on which you differ.

Begin by emphasizing

and keep on emphasizing

the things on which you agree."

End quote.

An old Chinese

proverb that states, quote,

"He who treads softly goes far."

And chapter five was

entitled The Secret of Socrates,

and Carnegie's principle number five is,

get the other person

saying yes, yes, immediately.

Well, today we're gonna begin

and finish chapter six of part three.

And chapter six is entitled,

A Safety Valve to Handle Complaints.

And once again, Carnegie

dives right in saying, quote,

"Most people trying to win others to

their way of thinking

do too much talking themselves.

Let the other person

talk themselves out."

End quote.

The other person may

know a lot about the subject

or they may just have

a lot on their mind.

And Carnegie suggests that

we let them get it all out,

even asking questions to learn more

and to encourage them to, quote,

express their ideas fully, end quote.

As we learned previously,

be careful not to interrupt or correct

because they likely

aren't listening anyways

and just thinking about

what else they have to say.

So listen, be patient, be

sincere, and be encouraging.

Carnegie relates a story

to us about a salesman.

He's meeting with an Audible Beal

manufacturing company,

and they're in the

final stages of hearing bids

for a year's worth of upholstery.

And the top three

upholstery manufacturers

were invited to the company

to present their final plea

to land the huge contract.

And as the story goes,

this particular

salesman showed up that morning

with a severe case of laryngitis.

He couldn't talk at all.

And when it was his turn to present,

he wrote this fact on a

piece of paper saying,

"I can't talk. I literally can't speak."

And instead of

presenting the deal himself,

the president of the car company said

he would present it for

him to the other executives.

Lo and behold, the

salesman who couldn't speak

won the contract.

And he said after the meeting

that he probably would

have lost the contract

had he not caught

laryngitis, saying, quote,

"He had the wrong idea

about the whole proposition.

I discovered quite by accident

how richly it sometimes pays

to let the other person

do the talking," end quote.

And this also works in the home.

Carnegie recounts a story about a mother

who was at wit's end and

often found herself yelling

or arguing with her teenage daughter.

I can't say that's ever

the case here in my house,

but we'll go with it this time.

Well, one day the

mother was just too exhausted

to have yet another

parenting blowout with her daughter

and simply asked the question, why?

And the daughter answered,

"Do you really wanna know why?"

And as it turns out,

the daughter had a lot

to say about her life

and her feelings, but usually she

couldn't get to that

because her mom would interrupt her

and was always telling her

to do this or to do that.

And as it turned out, the

daughter needed a confidant

to express her thoughts

and her feelings and ideas

about growing up.

And from that time on,

the mom allowed her daughter

to do most of the

talking and it made them closer

and it ultimately

improved the daughter's behavior.

Well, Carnegie gives a few other examples

where being prepared for the meetings

and letting the other person do the

majority of the talking

was beneficial in

multiple different scenarios.

And I can tell you from

my personal experience,

having been a manager,

having been a business owner

and a client manager

for over 25 years now,

I can tell you that

simply listening to people

when they are mad or when

they're upset or complaining,

letting them have their say

and being sympathetic to it,

well, that's 90% of the battle won.

People want to be heard.

It makes them feel

what's important to them

is being recognized.

And Carnegie closes out

this chapter with a quote

from a French

philosopher, essentially who said,

and I'm paraphrasing here, quote,

"If you want to make

enemies, outshine your friends,

"but if you want to make friends,

"let your friends

outshine you," end quote.

Team, we know Carnegie

talks over and over again

about making the other

person feel important.

And this is no different.

If we are constantly

telling others how great we are,

nobody wants to hear that.

They want to talk about themselves.

And in the final story of the chapter,

a lady who didn't win any friends at work

because she talked too much

about her accomplishments,

figured out over time

that that wasn't working

and that she should

listen more to her associates.

And now she asks them, quote,

"To share their joys with me.

"And I only mention my achievements when

they ask," end quote.

Okay, we covered a full

chapter today, chapter six,

which was entitled, "A Safety

Valve to Handle Complaints."

And Carnegie's principle number six is,

"Let the other person do a

great deal of the talking."

Nicely done.

We're actually making it

pretty far through the book,

how to win friends and influence people.

So tomorrow we start

chapter seven of part three,

and that chapter is entitled,

"How to Get Cooperation for Pete's Sake."

So come back for that tomorrow.

We are nearly halfway

through this work week.

Get out there, meet

those obstacles head on.

And even if it feels

like the weight of the world

is on your shoulders, just keep swimming

and you'll get there.

Thanks for joining.

We'll see you back here

tomorrow and have a fantastic day.

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Thanks again for listening. Have a

fantastic day and we'll see you tomorrow.