The Start of DadLand

Key Points:

1. Introduction and Background:

   - Ryan introduces himself as the former president and head coach of Superhuman Fathers.

   - He recently separated from Superhuman Fathers, which he built with his brother.

2. Personal Growth and Imperfection:

   - Ryan discusses his journey of self-improvement and dealing with imperfection.

   - He emphasizes that imperfection is a gift and that recognizing one's inherent value is crucial.

3. Concept of Sedation and Success:

   - Ryan talks about how people sedate from their imperfections either by isolating themselves or by succeeding in one aspect of life.

   - He argues that true value is not increased by success or decreased by failure.

4. Community and Support:

   - Ryan expresses his desire to create a community where men can remember their worthiness.

   - He introduces the concept of "Dadland," a space for men to support each other and pursue authenticity.

5. Parenting and Imperfection:

   - Ryan discusses the importance of teaching children to handle their imperfections.

   - He wants to be a consistent voice for his family, reminding them of their worthiness.

6. Call to Action:

   - Ryan invites viewers to participate in the creation of Dadland by sharing their thoughts and ideas.

   - He encourages men to join the community and help each other grow.

7. Future Plans:

   - Ryan plans to provide daily updates and concepts related to Dadland.

   - He aims to create a space where men can get shredded, connect with their families, and live authentically.

8. Engagement and Interaction:

   - Ryan interacts with viewers, acknowledging their presence and encouraging them to reach out if they need help.

   - He emphasizes the importance of community and collective growth.

What is DadLand?

They will hear my voice when I remind them they are worthy. ….but only if I teach myself that first. Come to DadLand to learn how. 😊🥹🤝

We're live.

Don't know how many people are going to come in here right now.

But I wanted to take a moment to introduce myself.

My name is Ryan, former president, head coach of Superhuman Fathers.

And recently had a separation from Superhuman Fathers who's my brother, dude.

And we built something miraculous.

I can't even put words to it.

The experiences we had in there.

And he recently, well, it's time.

And I spent the last three years just pouring my heart to dudes.

Man, I was a marshmallow.

It's not like I was a bad dude.

What's up, boys?

I see you coming in here.

It's not like I was a bad dude.

I just was defensive, you know?

So like, when I was showing my imperfection, I just, I was, I couldn't, I couldn't look at it.

And I didn't want to be that man anymore.

And after working with men, I began to see that I wasn't alone.

And that we are all sensitive to that.

And I began to understand that because I'm imperfect, it's a gift.

Because I'm imperfect, I can never be perfect.

I have infinite potential.

I'm never complete.

Like a ripened fruit to be consumed.

I can't remember what poet.

There's a poet that said that.

I normally say crazy stuff.

And I don't, can't cite my sources anywhere.

But yes, there's a poet that said that.

Khalil or something.

I don't know.

Anyways, going back, I have ADD.

So I always go all over the place in these.

But Dadland.

So my brother and I separated from superhuman fathers, and I'm obsessed with this relationship with imperfection, as I didn't feel perfect, right?

And so I instead of trying, I noticed with men, I worked with a lot of men, there were men that would sedate when they're by themselves.

Right?

Because you have no external validation.

When you're by yourself, you just see your imperfection, you take your shirt off, you look at the mirror, you're like, No, or you remember everything terrible that you did, you do a live like this, and you say something stupid, you're just like, Oh, right.

Okay.

So, but there's another way to sedate from your imperfection.

And that is to succeed, bro, to crush it in one aspect of your life.

But the problem is, is the wound still there.

So you borrow all this confidence from aspects of your life to cover up this wound of not being enough to hide to sedate from the external validation you get from your strengths.

Where am I going with this?

Well, I have this this idea that if success doesn't increase your value, and failure doesn't decrease it.

And so it isn't about achievement, stubbing your toe higher on the mountain feels the same as stubbing your toe lower on the mountain.

So the skill is to be able to remember your infinite inherent value as a man.

Do you always have you're born with it, bro.

And so why is that so important?

I have this energy.

What's up, bro?

Thanks for coming in here, guys.

It means everything to me.

This is everything to me.

Something's crazy is about to happen magical.

And we're all going to be part of it.

This is community.

And I'll go into dad land in a second.

But this will be the statement right?

If I don't bow, thanks, man.

If I don't have to use energy to defend my imperfection, I can just sit in it, I can radically accept it, recognizing that it doesn't rob me of value.

I don't have this need.

I'm not I'm not.

I'm not manipulated by the external.

So what does that do for me, I can take the energy I was using to serve myself to be enough.

And I can use it to help my wife and children feel like they're enough.

And not just them.

Anyone I come in contact with.

Now, will they believe me?

Well, am I consistent?

Right?

If I'm not consistent, then it just means it doesn't decrease the validity validity of the statement.

It's just my voice is quiet.

It's a whisper.

I want to create a group of men that is in pursuit of this.

Of this moment where you're hurting because it's seasonal, right?

What were these guys doing?

They were always trying to get high enough shark dude, freaking love you, bro.

Thank you.

Please come punch me one of these days.

Let's box dude.

Anyways, um, CFADD sorry guys, high on the mountain, right?

Night still comes.

It doesn't matter how high you get night still coming.

And so we can't resent it.

It's kind of like, bro, I used to have to like eat pizza all day, play video games, yell at my wife, look in the mirror of my shirt off and feel like shit, you know?

Now if I miss a wake up, I feel the same.

That's not fair, but it's a gift because of the man that's trying to escape nighttime, which is impossible.

He will go back to his strength to sit eight versus hunting his weakness.

And why is it important that we stub our toe higher on the mountain?

It's so that we can empathize.

It doesn't, imperfection feels the same all the way up the mountain.

You know, when I think I titled this, they will remember your voice.

Let's play here.

Okay.

This is really fun.

Stick around.

This is worth it.

Eddie, what's up, bro?

Cooper, I see you too, man.

And I'll go, I'll see if there's questions.

I'll scroll back.

Love you guys.

I know I'm back.

Okay.

It's time.

Do not leave.

This is a really important concept or come back and watch the recording.

Check this out.

So my children, I'm, I, because I hate myself, I'm worried they're going to be like me, right?

If I, if I resent my imperfection, so I got to make them better than me.

They got to be better than me, right?

Oh, I got to put them in sports and music and art and they just, they just have to be better than me.

That's what all the guys say.

I talk to you.

I just want it better than me.

Well, you know, what's crazy is dude, when I wake up late, I feel the same as when I was really shitty.

Right?

So like imperfection feels the same.

It's understanding characters made up of two things, strength and understanding, right?

When we are misaligned, it feels the same.

And so I cannot technically, or in my perspective, cannot make my children better than me because they will still run up to their imperfection.

They will find it and they will be exposed to it and they will respond to it the same way I do.

So I must learn to remember my worthiness when my imperfection is exposed to me.

So I can show my wife and children for my children partner with my wife, right?

So we can show our children how to respond to it.

I want to be so consistent in the moment that if I don't resent my imperfection, I won't resent their imperfection.

So when they mess up, I get to teach them how to respond to it.

And there's going to be a moment where they're in the future.

I don't even care if it's when they're 40, where they mess up.

I don't care how bad it is.

And they remember my voice.

"You're worthy."

And they all, "My wife just came in here.

What's up, Katie?

Thanks for coming in."

And I just, I want to do that for my family.

I want to be the voice that says, "You're worthy," and they believe me.

And so I need your help.

If you're new here, by the way, I got so many followers.

You'll get a video from me.

I'll say hello.

It means the world.

But thank you.

I promise I'll give good content.

I promise from the heart.

But I have a plan.

And I want to create a space called Dadland.

It's coming.

It's going.

It's already set in stone.

I can talk about manifestation too.

I got so many crazy ideas.

You just follow me because I'm insane.

Okay.

But Dadland.

I want to create, "What's up?

High Power Fitness.

My homie, dude.

Love that guy.

Go follow him."

I want to create a place where men can come to remember their worthiness.

They have savages, guys who are in pursuit with them to remind them that they're worthy already.

And I'm going to call it Dadland.

And yeah, we'll get shredded.

Sure.

Yeah.

And we'll make money.

Sure.

That's good.

We'll connect with our wives.

Yes.

We'll have plans for all of that.

But the key is authenticity.

As I learn to sit in the discomfort that my values demand, right, I can discover more of myself.

So I break character.

If outcome dictates my actions, if I need outcome, if I it's contractual, I do this.

So I get this.

If I don't have the outcome, I don't feel like I'm enough.

And so I want to create the man where I don't need outcome.

I need nothing.

So I can't be manipulated by the external.

I'm not driven by appetite.

I'm driven by values and character.

And this is kind of the idea because it doesn't mean there's no dogma then.

Hey, what's up, Brian?

Bro, thank you for being here.

Dude, you're a follow that guy, too.

He's a savage.

Anyways, um, I want to create authenticity, not dogma.

What do you stand for?

Do you know yourself?

And I believe that there's cycles like nights always coming.

So how do how I respond to the nighttime dictates how I respond to the data or how how I respond to the nighttime dictates how long I spend in the daytime and how how I respond to daytime dictates how long I'm in the nighttime.

Why that's important is I am this values-based man.

So if I can't live to the lowest value that I can hear.

So for example, Luke, I love you too, man.

That's he's a savage, bro.

He's in it too.

Love you, Luke.

If I can't the value I'm talking about, right, maybe it's just control you put in your mouth.

Basic, maybe stop touching your wiener.

I know that's a little, I'm serious.

If it's that basic, if I fold there, I'm not going to hear my next value.

Right.

And so the newest value is that moment where I'm exposed to my imperfection.

You're supposed to arrive there.

Men of bedrock.

What's up, dude?

Thanks for being here, man.

Hell yeah.

So that's what I'm talking about.

As I learned to sit in the discomfort, I discover myself more and more and more and more.

And because I live that same cycle, it's the same cycle as everyone else feels.

So I can empathize.

But the moment I get complacent, thinking I've made it or I leverage a pillar of my life, I borrow from a pillar of my life to like business, I make money so I made to cover up where I'm where I'm supposed to show up.

Well, then I'm no longer going to feel that I sedate with my success and I forget how to fail again.

I can't hear the next value.

I might even go backwards, man.

If that doesn't decrease my value or my worth, it decreases my voice because I forget how to empathize.

Anyways, I can go forever.

I need your help.

I posted on my story.

I have a question.

Dadland, what is Dadland mean to you?

Please let me know.

We're going to develop the logo together.

I'm going to give an update right now.

Today, I have zero members.

Okay.

I don't know if I'll do cash flow too.

I don't know.

I have zero cash flow.

Okay.

I got to figure out some.

Every day I'll come on live.

I'll drop a concept and I'll give you guys the update.

You are part of this.

You're part of this.

We are going to create it together.

We are Dadland.

If you are interested, please, in my daughter comment, let's go.

Hey Evelyn.

If you are interested, please in the comment below, write Dadland.

I don't have any systems in place.

I honestly don't know how this is going to look, but I know we're going to get shredded.

We're going to love our wives.

We're going to be patient and we're going to take our family to Dadland.

I don't know what that looks like for you, but that sounds good, right?

Let's come find Dadland together.

I don't care if you work a nine to five, two jobs even.

I don't care if you're a billionaire.

Dadland is required.

I want to know what that looks like for you.

So would you please go answer that on my story and reach out with questions.

I'm an open book.

Hey, love you too.

Hi Power Fitness.

I'm gonna get some burpees in for you today.

I'll tag you.

I'll get some burpees.

I'll tag you.

Sound good?

You're a good man.

Anyways, let me scroll through here.

Make sure I didn't miss.

Jordan, there's a realtor.

He's a homie too.

Let's see.

Oh, Professor Shannon, please come in San Diego and choke me out.

Hey Matt.

Let's go dude.

I think I got Eddie.

I said hi to you.

Bo.

Leadership first.

What's up man?

Yeah, I think that's everybody.

Well, for my first live as Dadland, that was pretty good.

I had a good turnout.

I love you guys.

Please, if you're hurting, would you send me a message?

I am good at this shit.

I do not have to think about things or like go to forums and like how do I respond to this.

I have a lens.

Doesn't mean it's right or wrong, but I have a lens and I will give you an answer like this bro.

Anyways, prepare yourselves because Dadland is coming.

Let's go.