“It’s Time To Heal” by Chrissy Cole

In week 2 of Name the Chain, Chrissy Cole speaks on trauma, emotional wounds, and the healing that Jesus offers. Through Scripture, personal testimony, and the story of the road to Emmaus, this message shows how honesty, truth, and the presence of Jesus can begin to heal what pain, disappointment, and unmet expectations have wounded. If you have been carrying hidden hurt, this sermon is a reminder that God is jealous for your healing and ready to restore your hope.

• (00:00) - Continuing Name the Chain
• (00:18) - Trauma and emotional wounds
• (00:48) - Wounds are not always visible
• (01:11) - The “bones can float” story
• (03:21) - God is jealous for your healing
• (04:41) - Getting help is wisdom, not weakness
• (05:50) - Emotional healing is available
• (07:15) - What trauma really does to us
• (08:24) - From the trauma triangle to triumph
• (12:11) - The human journey in the Psalms
• (15:23) - The road to Emmaus and lost hope
• (23:24) - Healing starts with honesty
• (30:01) - Jesus meets us in the middle
• (34:09) - Jesus reframes pain through truth
• (37:39) - An encounter with Jesus redirects your life
• (40:01) - What is your unhealed life costing you
• (47:15) - Invitation to receive healing and salvation

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Chrissy Cole

Chrissy’s parents moved to the U.S. from the Philippines in the late 70′s. She saw her parents both come to know the Lord at a young age. She and her family poured their lives into the local church and were changed by God. Chrissy attended Evangel University in Springfield, MO and earned a B.A. in Communications with an emphasis in Public Relations.

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00;00;00;00 - 00;00;18;05
Chrissy Cole
I'm looking forward to continuing our series on naming that chain. Last week, we name the chain of identity, and when we don't know what our identity and who our identity is, then we are bound. But God wants to bring us freedom. You know that Project Church exists to bring life and freedom to Jesus.

00;00;18;05 - 00;00;48;09
Chrissy Cole
And so today I'm continuing this series on naming that chain. And today we are talking about trauma and emotional wounds or trauma and emotional wounds. Now these, issues of trauma and emotions oftentimes leave us bound. But today the word is that it is time to heal. It's time to heal. Who wants to heal? It's time to heal.

00;00;48;09 - 00;01;11;15
Chrissy Cole
You know, Pastor Caleb needs to heal from that. He said that he got in a fight with his trash can, but you didn't see my hand. Just get it. Yeah, but how many people know that wounds don't only come by way of physical pain? Sometimes physical pain. But a lot of times physical pain turns into something that is internal and invisible.

00;01;11;18 - 00;01;37;04
Chrissy Cole
When I was in grade school, seventh I think was sixth or seventh grade. And, you know, kids are staff have parties with the other sex. And it's like, oh, boys are there now. I remember feeling a little insecure. How many people know that insecurity is kind of feels like traumatic wounds, right? When you present yourself in front of people, like I was in sixth grade or seventh grade and I was in a two piece, don't worry, I was still godly and it came all the way down to my tummy.

00;01;37;04 - 00;01;55;12
Chrissy Cole
But, you know, I was like, oh my gosh, I moved into two piece territory because I'm a bigger girl now, right? And I, you know, that was traumatic in and of itself. Okay. Visible wounds. And then I get on the the diving board, I'm bouncing and I'm excited, but I'm a little insecure because all these people are watching.

00;01;55;17 - 00;02;19;16
Chrissy Cole
But I'm like, be confident, Chrissy, you got this. Roll those insecurities shoulders back and I jump into the water. And it was a great dive. I would say. I don't think anybody would make fun of my, dive. But as I got up, everybody was laughing and upset. A quiet chant going, bones can float, bones can float. You guys don't know to laugh or to cry.

00;02;19;18 - 00;02;42;06
Chrissy Cole
Bones can float. From then on, my nickname in junior high was bones. Our friends. Okay. Thank you. This is a very empathetic crowd. First service was to. Caleb told me to tell a story that would make people laugh. But you guys can laugh. It's okay. Chris, he's good. It's fine. I was thin back then. I was so insecure and so traumatized by this moment.

00;02;42;06 - 00;03;00;14
Chrissy Cole
I do think that it has a connection to my dislike for dogs, because I walk into a house. If I'm invited to your house, please put your dogs away. Because there is this fear deeply seated in the recesses of my brain from sixth or seventh grade, where I think that these dogs are going to start gnawing on my legs, okay.

00;03;00;16 - 00;03;20;27
Chrissy Cole
Because they're bones. Okay, you guys feel more sorry for me. I can tell it's okay. I'm free. But I have me healing through that trauma. Some trauma can be really internal, and we can take the trauma from our past, and it can leave us bound to the point where I don't really love wearing two pieces. I don't really love being around dogs.

00;03;21;02 - 00;03;38;06
Chrissy Cole
What has trauma caused in your life? What do you need to heal from? I remember, and many of you who have been coming to this church long enough for when I was in my 30s, you know that when I reached age 39 and our church was about to go into the next decade of our church, I was about to enter the next decade of my life.

00;03;38;06 - 00;04;15;00
Chrissy Cole
I'm now in my middle mid 40s. I remember there was a moment where I was just hard. It was just hard, and it was like the things in my past were coming up and bubbling up. My current relationships and even my marriage. It was rough, and I realized that there was some traumas that I needed to work through when I turned 39, and I felt the Lord say to me and speak to my heart that he loves me so much that he will not let me go into the next decade of my marriage, the next decade of my life, the next decade of Project Church.

00;04;15;03 - 00;04;41;24
Chrissy Cole
The same person because he is jealous for our healing. He was jealous for my healing. And today you need to hear this. That God is jealous for your healing. He wants you to heal. He wants you to grow. He doesn't want you to stay bound and I remember in that end of my 30s decade that the Lord said, it's time to go to therapy.

00;04;41;27 - 00;05;02;09
Chrissy Cole
It took Caleb a little bit to be convinced of that, but then he came to therapy with me. It was wonderful for our marriage. It was wonderful for my health, but it was also the prayers of the people around me where I was open and honest and vulnerable, and I was surrounded by prayer warriors. I was surrounded by the body of Christ.

00;05;02;11 - 00;05;27;08
Chrissy Cole
I did not disconnect, I connected, I got in there and I said, Lord, touch me in the way that you can touch me. And I want to tell you right now even therapy, asking for prayer, being honest with my friends, crying my face off in the laps of some of my girlfriends who would just pray and read scripture over me and speak promises over my life, there was healing that flowed.

00;05;27;11 - 00;05;50;01
Chrissy Cole
And I'm letting you know right now that getting help is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of wisdom. Some of us need help in the traumas that we've experienced, and today, I'm not going to spend a lot of time trying to name your trauma only what I want to do today is name your solution, and then solution is Jesus.

00;05;50;01 - 00;06;25;05
Chrissy Cole
You're like, yeah, of course, right. But how often do we not invite him and his wisdom into our pain? Today we're inviting his help. We're inviting his wisdom. And we're not going to say confuse in our independence or isolation. We're going to move forward. Recognize that we have limitations, recognize that we have blind spots, and recognize that sometimes someone else's experience in the body of Christ can bring freedom to our experience.

00;06;25;05 - 00;06;52;24
Chrissy Cole
It'll save us time. It will save us stress. It will save us and more mistakes that we've made that keep us wounded and keep us unhealed. Emotional healing is available for all of us. Emotional healing is available for those who of us who have been walking with the Lord for a long time, for over 20 years, over 30 years, where some of us who have been walking with him for 20 days, he wants to heal us.

00;06;53;01 - 00;07;15;12
Chrissy Cole
It's the sanctification process. You know that when we are healed, we become more whole and the more whole we become, the more we start reflecting our Savior, the one who came to heal us and to save us and to set us free. It's sanctification. Healing is part of the sanctification process. You're like, that's like those words are that word is a little big.

00;07;15;12 - 00;07;46;12
Chrissy Cole
No, it's becoming more like Jesus. He wants to form you into looking more like him. But trauma has kept us from it. Here's the What's American Psychological Association says and defines trauma as. It's any disturbing experience that results in significant fear, helplessness, disassociation, confusion, or other disruptive feelings intense enough to have a longstanding negative effect on a person's attitudes, behavior, and other aspects of functioning.

00;07;46;15 - 00;08;24;09
Chrissy Cole
What is core? What has kept you from functioning in the way that you feel is optimal? What has kept you up at night? What has left you feeling confused? What has disrupted you with intensity? What has caused you to feel helpless? What has caused you to feel so full of fear? What is confused you? These traumatic events. Surround us because we live in an imperfect world, and God wants to heal our hurting minds and heal our hurting hearts.

00;08;24;11 - 00;08;46;27
Chrissy Cole
There's healing available. There's healing available. You know, I've talked about this before and I want to quickly go through this, but there is something called the trauma triangle by Cartman. And again, one of the criticisms of what I'm about to present to you is there can be an over generalization that we apply. So when you listen to this little part, I don't want you to start going and telling people and labeling people, okay?

00;08;47;00 - 00;09;12;25
Chrissy Cole
This is for us to take an introspective look at ourselves and ask God, what do you want to heal in me? Okay, so there's something called the drama triangle. And when you are hurt or if you're traumatized, you either feel like the victim or you feel like you can become a rescuer or you become a persecutor. And essentially what that's saying is that our trauma is has caused victimhood in us.

00;09;12;28 - 00;09;39;18
Chrissy Cole
And when we become victims and we say, this happened to me, this happened to me to avoid the truth that something happened to me will sometimes go and become the rescuer. And what a rescuer does, it's almost overcompensating for where we have lacked when we were victimized. So then we rescue everybody else to avoid our actual pain. And then if we're not the rescuer, then we turn into the persecutor and we take on what victimized us and that that sort of, aggressiveness.

00;09;39;20 - 00;09;56;28
Chrissy Cole
And we become more of an aggressor and a persecutor. And when we don't get out of this triangle, if we don't allow God to heal us, we just stay in this trauma triangle that creates drama every time there's conflict in our lives, you're either going into a conflict, you're in the middle of a conflict, or you're coming out of a conflict.

00;09;57;02 - 00;10;14;25
Chrissy Cole
And what is happening amidst the conflict is you choose a role to play. And these are one of the roles we play. And God wants to set you free so that you can win and have victory over your trauma. I don't want to spend too much time on this, but I will say this. I know we have a lot of core values here.

00;10;14;29 - 00;10;38;02
Chrissy Cole
Project church says Jesus is our message. Bible is our guide. Presence is our priority. Team is our strength. Community is our heart. And there's a hidden. There's more generosity. Okay. Very good servanthood. Okay. There's a few students in here, I love it. You listen on Sundays and come see probably other things outside of Sundays. We have a hidden, blueprint.

00;10;38;04 - 00;11;00;14
Chrissy Cole
Pastor. It's not gonna be so hidden. Secret will be out here in a second. And then some of you, when you hear me say it, you're gonna be like, duh. But, Pastor Calvin, I tend to be a little bit competitive way. Some people think we're competitive. It's competitive. Our nature. Okay. And then that's why we, pit our staff against one another and then force them to play sports together.

00;11;00;14 - 00;11;21;17
Chrissy Cole
Pickleball, basketball, everything and everything is a game. And there's just the slight edge of competition. So you're who's competitive in here okay, okay. Let's get competitive for our healing okay. Let's get competitive for healing. Let's get to the place where we can become triumphant over our trauma. We want triumph over our trauma. So we want to get into the winner's triangle.

00;11;21;18 - 00;11;46;19
Chrissy Cole
Everybody say winners triangle. The winners triangle. It doesn't leave us a victim. It helps us to become more assertive. So we're not victimized again. We don't get stuck there. And then we're also able to not be a persecutor. But we start being careful and caring of other people, empathetic and not just avoiding pain, but actually going into people's, pain and being carrying with them.

00;11;46;19 - 00;12;11;19
Chrissy Cole
But not a rescuer, just caring with them, empathetic like Jesus is the the true ultimate appetizer. And then there's vulnerability. We in our trauma distance ourselves from people, distance ourselves from the body of Christ, distance ourselves from the Lord and our pain. But he said, stay vulnerable. You want to be when you want to be a winner and triumph over your trauma.

00;12;11;22 - 00;12;45;15
Chrissy Cole
We're going to enter the the the winners triangle. We're going to pursue healing. And I love that God gives us just a blueprint for healing. And he shows us that. It's just the thing about humanity where the Psalms are. The Psalms is a wonderful book that reveals the human journey, the human journey according to Bible projects that anybody's doing the Bible reading plan with us, that's ultimately Psalms is a book that highlights our human journey and gives us spiritual insight.

00;12;45;18 - 00;13;09;29
Chrissy Cole
David in Psalm 88, I'm just kind of read snippets of this scripture. It says, I am overwhelmed with troubles and my life draws near to death. I am counted among those to go down to the pit. I'm like one without strength, but I cry to for help. Lord, in the morning my prayer comes before you. Why, Lord, do you reject me and hide your face from me?

00;13;10;04 - 00;13;43;05
Chrissy Cole
Darkness is my closest friend. There's so many things in just Psalm 88 itself that shows us and really reflects all of the Psalms, what the human experiences. Listen. Have you ever been overwhelmed? David's overwhelmed here. Have you ever felt so weak without strength? He's been there before. Have you felt rejected? Have you felt like God was hiding his face from you, hiding his favor from you?

00;13;43;08 - 00;14;06;16
Chrissy Cole
Have you become so familiar with darkness that it darkness becomes your closest friend? Have you ever felt lonely? Listen, if you've experienced overwhelmed weakness, desperation, rejection, feeling lost, feeling lonely. David felt it. Elijah. He felt burnt out and depressed. The woman with the issue of blood. Oh, she had so much shame and she had so much isolation in her life.

00;14;06;16 - 00;14;19;01
Chrissy Cole
There was loneliness. What was talk about Joseph? He was betrayed by the ones that were closest to him. And let's just talk about Jesus, who had lost a friend.

00;14;19;03 - 00;14;48;07
Chrissy Cole
There's traumas all around us, and the scriptures bring us hope. We at times we want to be oriented, right. We want to be confident and clear of mind. But trauma enters in and we become disoriented. And when we become disoriented, we allow the pain and the trauma and the confusion of it to take over our clarity. And then there's possibility for healing.

00;14;48;10 - 00;15;23;14
Chrissy Cole
Healing is reorientation. And when reorientation happens, when healing happens, there's a renewed trust and there's deeper faith. I want to read you a scripture that we see two who had lost hope and who were on a road to healing. These two men were leaving Jerusalem, and their Savior had just been crucified. Their Savior had died. And we see that they had hoped in him and hope for so much.

00;15;23;14 - 00;15;43;12
Chrissy Cole
But then he died. How many people know that some of the trauma that we've experienced is that when our help for something does not come to pass, the thing that we had prayed for, it doesn't come to pass. The thing that we did not see coming. We had this other script for a life. We had this other trajectory.

00;15;43;12 - 00;16;10;02
Chrissy Cole
It didn't happen. We didn't get there. We didn't go. That could leave you wounded. The things that happened to us that we never thought would happen to us and didn't expect it. That's trauma. And we see there's two men who go on this journey from Jerusalem to a mass, and they are downtrodden. They are discouraged. But Jesus meets them on their journey.

00;16;10;04 - 00;16;32;28
Chrissy Cole
And I'm going to read about this in just a moment. But I want you to know that when we walk away from hope, Jesus is walking towards us with healing. There's healing available for us. The presence of God reminds us that there is a power greater than ourselves, greater than our therapist, greater than our best friend, that can heal us once and for all.

00;16;33;00 - 00;16;56;08
Chrissy Cole
And I believe the Scripture and it's illuminated to us the word of the Lord. It's a lamp unto our feet and a line to our path. It's going to light the path for healing. Today. It's kind of stir up hope inside of you. Hope for your marriage, hope for that, that friendship, hope for your family, hope for salvation, hope for a new job.

00;16;56;10 - 00;17;16;16
Chrissy Cole
It's going to renew your strength. That's what the scriptures do. You ready? How many people know it's time to heal? All right, let's watch this journey. We need to invite Jesus into our healing. This is what happens Luke 2413 through 35. It's a lot of scriptures, so stick with me. You're ready. There's a huge Bible on the wall that you can read along with.

00;17;16;18 - 00;17;34;21
Chrissy Cole
If you didn't bring yours. All right. Verse 13. That very day, two of them were going to a village named a mass about seven miles from Jerusalem. Some scholars say that this could have taken almost three. It could have almost been a three hour journey from Jerusalem. And they were talking with each other about all these things that had just happened.

00;17;34;28 - 00;18;03;00
Chrissy Cole
You're talking about Jesus and the resurrection or excuse me, the death and crucifixion. While they were talking and discussing together Jesus himself, junior, and went with them. But their eyes were kept from recognizing him. Now, different scholars say that there are a few different reasons why they weren't able to see him, but I'll get to that. But ultimately, I do think that God allows us to not see him for a reason.

00;18;03;02 - 00;18;20;28
Chrissy Cole
But their eyes were kept from recognizing him, and he said to them, what is this conversation that you are holding with each other as you walk? And they stood still, looking sad. Then one of them, named Cleopatra, answered him, are you the only visitor to Jerusalem who does not know the things that have happened there in these days?

00;18;21;02 - 00;18;44;24
Chrissy Cole
And he said to them, what things? I love Jesus. He's just totally played dumb here. I have no idea what happened, what things? It's that's him saying, tell me more. And they said to him, concerning Jesus of Nazareth, a man who was a prophet, mighty indeed, and word before God and all the people, and how our chief priests and rulers delivered him up to the condemned to death, and crucified him.

00;18;44;26 - 00;19;14;00
Chrissy Cole
But we had hoped everybody say that, but we had hoped. Listen, they had expectations that weren't met, and those expectations left them discouraged and depressed that he was the one. But he we had hoped that he was the one to redeem Israel. Yes. And besides all this, it is now the third day since these things happen. I was like, thank you for letting you just know that this is three days later when Jesus is to resurrect writes, we know this.

00;19;14;05 - 00;19;33;26
Chrissy Cole
Moreover, some women of our company may says they were at the tomb early. They had even seen a vision of angels who said that he was alive. Some of those who were with us went to the tomb and sounded just as the woman had said, but him they did not see. And he said to them, oh, foolish ones, isn't that funny?

00;19;33;27 - 00;19;53;22
Chrissy Cole
They didn't. They didn't put two and two together that Jesus has resurrected. I don't know if I would, I would have been like, oh, they said that he wasn't there. And so they have hope. But I don't have the hope right now. This is crazy. And Jesus said to them, O foolish ones, and slow of heart, he's saying, oh, silly rabbit, Trix are for kids.

00;19;53;25 - 00;20;14;01
Chrissy Cole
Not even to remember that. I think we could read the scriptures two different ways. One way we could be like, oh, God is just really? Or Jesus is just really coming down on him. But I think it's a more gentle of foolish ones and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have spoken. It's like, you know better than this.

00;20;14;09 - 00;20;36;11
Chrissy Cole
You've been in the scriptures, you walked with him, and there were all these fulfillments of Scripture that, let me get to this. I'm jumping ahead. I'm so excited. Some of those let's move back to verse 26. Was it not necessary that the Christ should suffer these things and enter into his glory here? Jesus talking third person because they don't recognize him.

00;20;36;13 - 00;20;54;08
Chrissy Cole
And beginning with Moses and all the prophets, he interpreted to them and all the scriptures the things concerning himself. So they drew near to the village to which they were going. He acted as if he were going further, but they urged him strongly, saying, stay with us, for it is toward the evening, and the day is now far spent.

00;20;54;11 - 00;21;15;03
Chrissy Cole
So he went to stay with them. When he was at the table with them, he took the bread, and blessed and broke it, and gave it to them. And their eyes were opened, and they recognized him. I love that when he sat with them at a table and broke bread, their eyes were open, and they recognized him, and he vanished from their sight.

00;21;15;08 - 00;21;44;16
Chrissy Cole
I love when these things happen. I think we talk about the resurrection so much. But Jesus appeared to people and then just vanished. That's some real savage stuff right there. He presented themselves and then he just vanished. They said to each other, did not our hearts burn within us while he talked to us on the road? While he opened to us the scriptures, the scriptures, the truth that Jesus was reminding of them even though they didn't see Jesus in it, they were being stirred, they were having faith.

00;21;44;19 - 00;22;21;14
Chrissy Cole
And they rose the same hour and returned to Jerusalem. And they found 11 and those who appeared who were with them gathered, saying, the Lord has risen indeed, and has appeared to Simon. Then they told that, then they told what had happened on the road, and how he was known to them in the breaking of the bread. If you love this scripture, these two are hurting, these two are discouraged, and Jesus joins them on the path, and Jesus is wanting to be invited in you onto your path of healing.

00;22;21;21 - 00;22;40;29
Chrissy Cole
Today these disciples were confused. They were disoriented. But Jesus walks with them and helps them process. So many of us want to process for cathartic reasons, but God wants to process with us for healing purposes.

00;22;41;02 - 00;22;59;01
Chrissy Cole
Jesus had been crucified. Their expectations had completely collapsed, and now they're leaving Jerusalem, the place where they thought everything would happen. How many people leave locations because things don't turn out the way they want to. And so they just go to this location, that location, this location. Bing bing bing bing bing. Kind of reminds me of the drama triangle.

00;22;59;04 - 00;23;24;18
Chrissy Cole
You're choosing what role to be. Bing bing bing bing bing bing bing bing. Let's get healed. So we stay the course that God wants us to be on. And now they're finding hope. They walked away from hope, but Jesus walked towards them and healing. Who wants to be healed today? So I just want to take us on a quick journey here.

00;23;24;26 - 00;24;01;01
Chrissy Cole
I have four quick points for you and this is the journey of hope filled healing. Number one, healing starts with honesty. Healing starts with honesty. You know, when I was just married to Caleb, I was working with a nonprofit that was primarily, remote. But I wanted to also make some money on the side. Right. So I was doing some subbing, and at the time, I was only 26, and, I didn't wear a lot of makeup, and I guess I might have looked a little bit younger, but when I was a substitute teacher, I remember coming into the school sitting down by the office, waiting to be assigned to a class, and some of

00;24;01;01 - 00;24;15;08
Chrissy Cole
our students from our youth group were like, super excited to see me. But, one girl came over to me and she's like, oh my gosh, you're here. I wonder what class you're going to be in. Cause I hope you're my sub. And I was like, I don't think I'm in in your classes, but I think I'm,

00;24;15;11 - 00;24;35;00
Chrissy Cole
But I think I'm getting checked out by some of your friends, and she's like, yeah, those girls over there that are whispering and whispering and talking about you, they think you're a student. And can I tell you, I believe that they're probably the mean girls that that, you know, or essentially are why the Mean Girls movie was made?

00;24;35;04 - 00;24;58;13
Chrissy Cole
Because they were totally talking crap about me and I could tell it. And then my student affirms it. So then I walk into the classroom that I'm supposed to be in. It was a computer class, and lo and behold, these girls walk in. And I'm not like at the front of the class. I'm on the turn my back like, there they are.

00;24;58;17 - 00;25;19;09
Chrissy Cole
I'm writing on the on the whiteboard and class begins and they're like, she's our teacher. Yeah, probably shouldn't have been so mean when I was out in the office area. Right. And this is kind of what I mean. I wish I had walked with them a little longer to hear them, and I wish I could've been, you know, I just love that I got that insight for my student.

00;25;19;12 - 00;25;43;07
Chrissy Cole
But this is kind of what happens with Jesus. He's like, oh, I want to hear them talk about me right now. And this is I love this. And I wonder, I wonder if part of the reason that the two men weren't able to recognize Jesus was because Jesus wanted them to give honest thoughts. He wanted them to be honest.

00;25;43;09 - 00;26;06;25
Chrissy Cole
I think today Jesus is inviting us into his presence. To be honest, some of us are avoiding healing because we're not honest with our emotions, because we're not honest about where we're actually at, because we don't want to touch the pain that just conjures up emotions. We don't want to relive it. These disciples are able to process outloud.

00;26;07;00 - 00;26;39;24
Chrissy Cole
I just wonder what the journey would have been like if he's just been like, it's me, I'm here. The fullness of the revelation I think came with them, not them getting to process their emotions. First. God hides himself from them, and I think this is an encouragement to us to stop pretending God cannot heal who you are pretending to be, who you're pretending to be in your marriage, who you're pretending to be in your friendships, who you're pretending to be at work.

00;26;39;27 - 00;26;55;27
Chrissy Cole
I want to encourage you today that this un unable to see or recognize Christ at this moment, I think this is an invitation for us to stop of stop hiding. And here's another way that we hide. We spiritualize our pain.

00;26;56;00 - 00;27;26;11
Chrissy Cole
I hey, how are you doing? Oh, God is good all the time. I'm fine. Yeah, right. Oh, I'm fine. Everything's good. Glory be to God. And we're not going to share how we're actually feeling. I think some of us are over spiritual izing our pain because we don't want to deal with it. I think that some of us in our marriages, I just want to speak to marriages in this place, because I think that's what I'm familiar with and the breakthrough that we've received in our marriage, especially when I was telling you about when I was 39.

00;27;26;17 - 00;27;49;15
Chrissy Cole
Oh, man. Pastor Caleb and I, when we finally went to therapy, there were so many honest thoughts and conversations that we didn't have out fully before that year. Relationships die and the conversations that never happened. That's what John Gottman says. He's a renowned clinical psychologist who's done over 50 years of research on the longevity of marriages and the reasons for divorce.

00;27;49;17 - 00;28;15;29
Chrissy Cole
So many of us are not finding healing in our marriages because we are not having the conversations that need to be had. We're not being honest with each other. We're not being honest about the way that somebody's hurt us. We're not being honest about the way we're actually experiencing pain. And maybe there's something that's not bitter between you, and there's other outside instances that are happening and all these events that are happening around us, and we can't even be honest with our best friends.

00;28;16;01 - 00;28;41;19
Chrissy Cole
We can't be honest with our spouses. We can't be honest with our kids. We can't be honest with our boss. We can't be honest in some healing and conflict. Resolution is not taking place, and no healing will take place when we are pretending and when we're avoiding conversations. You know, in verse 21 it says, we had hoped. We had hoped that Jesus would establish his kingdom like he said he would.

00;28;41;26 - 00;29;03;16
Chrissy Cole
He. We thought they were looking for a different kind of kingdom. They were looking for an earthly kingdom. And when there is hope that's lost, the scriptures say hope deferred makes the heart grow sick. They were sick in their hearts. They were disappointed. They were discouraged. They felt defeated. What expectations are in your life that have not been met?

00;29;03;19 - 00;29;34;11
Chrissy Cole
Maybe you need to be honest with the people who have not met those expectations. Or maybe you need to be honest with the Lord about how you have felt in that hopelessness. I think that some of us avoid even sharing our lost hope or sharing our pain, or being honest about these things because we're afraid of correction. But can I tell you Christ and God's his ultimate protection is when he corrects us.

00;29;34;14 - 00;30;01;18
Chrissy Cole
Some of us need the correction from the Holy Spirit, because some of us are continuing to walk in our wounds and wound ourselves and wound others more. And we're in that trauma triangle where bing, bing, bing bing, Dean, we're hurting others because we're not healing, man. I think that he corrects us to protect us. Start being honest. The healing journey starts with honesty.

00;30;01;18 - 00;30;27;19
Chrissy Cole
Number two Jesus meets us in the middle. Some of us don't want to believe that Jesus is near because we don't see him working the way we want him to work. When we want him to work, it. Last night, the kids and I and Caleb, we went out for ice cream, and it was a really long line and I don't know what was happening with their operations, but they were struggling and people were in line, and they were handing out ice creams that were not, weren't people's ice creams.

00;30;27;19 - 00;30;41;01
Chrissy Cole
And it was just taking forever. And we were just kind of be patient. We said, let's be gracious, let's be patient. Wait till ice cream comes. They need to start doing it like handles because handles does it the best. But you know, you get your ice cream my way. There's a little bit of line but you know come on they need to work on it.

00;30;41;01 - 00;30;57;12
Chrissy Cole
But we were like we will be gracious. And my little girl Charlie, she just wanted her cake cone with mint chip. That's all she wanted. And then I saw it. I saw the chick start putting the mint chip in a cup, and she started to make her way over to my daughter. I'm like, oh, please be gracious, be gracious.

00;30;57;12 - 00;31;20;00
Chrissy Cole
Everybody's mad. Everybody's annoyed. Nobody likes these workers. This flashing this worker needs is that you did it wrong. And sure enough, Charlie's face drops. She had so much hopeful expectation. And then she gets it in a cup. She didn't get her cake cone. And then, to add insult to injury, she stood the the ice cream attendant says, can I put a cake cone on top of it?

00;31;20;02 - 00;31;46;21
Chrissy Cole
And Charlie's face, I mean, her demeanor goes me. And it's like, what you just. And it just looks so sloppy. They're doing a really fast cake on on top. And Charlie, she didn't get what she wanted the way she wanted it when she wanted it. You know what? I'm saying? And how many of us say so discouraged because the things that we had hoped for didn't turn out the way we wanted it, when we wanted it, how we wanted it.

00;31;46;23 - 00;32;10;09
Chrissy Cole
And Jesus is there in the disappointment. Jesus wants to be there. I think that he talked for seven miles with these two and listened for about three hours. They say the journey would have taken and and I think that he gave them what they needed at the time, which was not being recognized, because they may have wanted to know that he was alive right then.

00;32;10;15 - 00;32;40;20
Chrissy Cole
But I just wonder if he was wanting to allow there to be hope stirred within them. I wonder if God hasn't come through the way we want him to come through. Listen to me because he wants faith to be stirred in you first. Some of us I think are like so disappointed. We stay in our woundedness. We stay hurt because God didn't come through, but can I remind you that his presence is not dependent on your awareness?

00;32;40;22 - 00;33;03;26
Chrissy Cole
His presence is there at all times. He wants to meet you in the middle, and it's only on this side of eternity that we can ever experience hope. Did you know that? I want you to think about it. If everything was answered, if everything was perfect, we would be in heaven. But on this side of eternity, it's the only time we will ever experience hope in us.

00;33;03;28 - 00;33;22;05
Chrissy Cole
We'll have everything we want. All promises will be fulfilled in eternity, but it's only in this time before eternity that we get to experience hope. And God wants to stir that up and up in you. He wants you to be stirred in faith. And when faith is stirred, then it grows and it turns into hope. And then we live differently.

00;33;22;06 - 00;33;43;28
Chrissy Cole
We don't live like victims. We don't live like persecutors. We don't live like fake rescuers. We trust in the one who rescued us, and we're healed in Jesus name. This is what he wants to do in us. This is the work he wants. He wants to reveal to you even when you don't see me, even when you're in the grieving, even when you're in the pain, I am there, I am there.

00;33;43;28 - 00;34;09;04
Chrissy Cole
Stay honest. Know that I'm meeting you in the pain. And then, number three, Jesus reframes our pain through truth. It says in verse 27, and beginning with Moses and all the prophets, he interpreted to them. So Jesus begins to talk to them. He says, oh, foolish ones, oh, silly rabbit, Trix are for kids. Oh, silly one, you guys, don't you remember the scriptures?

00;34;09;07 - 00;34;28;25
Chrissy Cole
So can you imagine on this walk for a few more hours? A couple more hours? He begins to tell them, remember what Moses said. I fulfilled that promise. Or if Jesus fulfilled that promise, remember all of what Moses said. All Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, numbers. And you know, at this time people really know the scriptures because they can only hear it.

00;34;29;01 - 00;34;57;05
Chrissy Cole
It wasn't a mass print like it is now. So Jesus is recounting to him prophecy after prophecy with what Moses said. And then he continues to say, and in the prophets. So then he goes through all the major and minor prophets, the Old Testament, listen, he's talking to them. And reminding them that Jesus dying was fulfilling Scripture. There are over 300, close to 350 promises fulfilled by Jesus, and he's reminding them of the scriptures they already know.

00;34;57;08 - 00;35;24;16
Chrissy Cole
Some of us are avoiding our healing because we are not willing to receive the Word of God. We would rather stay in our pain. We would rather stay in our unhealed trauma. But the word will remind us who we serve and where our healing comes. Allow Jesus to reframe the pain in your life.

00;35;24;18 - 00;35;51;02
Chrissy Cole
With his truth. The truth is that he came to seek and save the lost. He came to set us free. He came to set the captives free. He takes their confusion and it and he runs it through Scripture. I just wonder what it was like to hear this man recount the scriptures and that even when Jesus is recognized, they say, did not the scriptures start to stir us?

00;35;51;05 - 00;36;18;01
Chrissy Cole
Get in the word. When you're feeling like you're not quite healed, get in the word and remind yourself of the power of God. I'm telling you right now, I know he's encouraging you to go get help. Go talk to your therapist, go to your best for all the things. But ultimately, the word is our first source. He's our greatest, wonderful counselor, the Mighty One, the only one capable of healing us from our wounds.

00;36;18;03 - 00;36;43;16
Chrissy Cole
Healing happens before we understand it. Tonight, our hearts burn within us. I think some of us are being reminded of the power of Jesus. Remember, he defeated death, hell, and the grave. They didn't know this, but we know this and we can remind ourselves of the resurrection power that can be applied to the dreams that were lost, the expectations that were not met.

00;36;43;20 - 00;37;07;12
Chrissy Cole
We can we can talk about the the relationships that were lost, that can be restored because we have access to resurrection power, because we know that our Savior died on a cross and he rose again, and he's still in heaven at the right hand of the father interceding for us. And he's saying, heal my people. May they encounter me, may they, may they recognize me in the middle of their pain.

00;37;07;14 - 00;37;39;04
Chrissy Cole
He wants to reframe some of your pain with truth. And if you want access to that truth and freedom, get in the word. Get in the word. Healing happens when God starts redefining our story with truth. And finally, when we have healing, I'm telling you, it's the moment that we encounter Jesus himself. When we encounter Jesus, our encounter with Jesus, it redirects us.

00;37;39;04 - 00;38;16;11
Chrissy Cole
When the disciples mind you, it wasn't until the disciples invited Jesus to sit down with them at the table that he was revealed to them, that they were finally able to recognize them, and as soon as they recognize him, he vanished. But I wonder if all that pre-work up until that moment that they made it to a mass was needed for them to remember and reframe the truth and reframe, excuse me, their trauma with truth that were they were finally able to recognize them.

00;38;16;16 - 00;38;36;09
Chrissy Cole
The last step of the healing. The last part of the journey is when we encounter Jesus himself, when we invite him to, when we invite him. Listen. The presence of God is everywhere. The presence of God doesn't come just because the drum starts getting louder. The presence of God doesn't come because the vocalist sang really high and did that.

00;38;36;11 - 00;38;52;18
Chrissy Cole
Phenomenal, right? It didn't happen because William did something cool. Come on, do something cool on the keys. It didn't happen because of that. Oh, that sounded good. And that makes me want to get into it. But let me tell you, the presence of God is all around. We just need invite the presence of God and you are here like we did.

00;38;52;18 - 00;39;07;19
Chrissy Cole
Invite him into our process. We know you play into our pain and to our hurting and to our grieving. There's so much that we're holding into that we have not invited him into. So we have stayed unhealed.

00;39;07;22 - 00;39;11;17
Unknown
But when we encounter Jesus and His presence.

00;39;11;20 - 00;39;33;23
Chrissy Cole
Healing flows. Healing flows, shame washes off of us. Pain might exist, but the shame and the guilt. And the disappointments, the depression, the disillusionment, it all can be washed away.

00;39;33;26 - 00;40;01;09
Chrissy Cole
What's in. It's time to heal. And I have three questions for you. Why is it time to heal? Let me answer for you. Why is the time here? I was like three rhetorical questions. Never mind, I'm gonna answer the first one, okay? Because Jesus already defeated death on the grave. What are we waiting for? He already won. He's already the victor.

00;40;01;11 - 00;40;03;26
Chrissy Cole
What?

00;40;03;28 - 00;40;38;27
Chrissy Cole
Is your unhealed life costing you? How many more sleepless nights you guys? How many more broken relationships? How many more awkward encounters? How many more lies? How many more drugs? How many more views? How much more time scrolling? It's costing us our peace. It's costing us our purpose. It's costing us our hope.

00;40;38;29 - 00;40;44;22
Chrissy Cole
It's time to heal. Number three. Why wouldn't you want to heal?

00;40;44;24 - 00;40;53;18
Chrissy Cole
I'll tell you that some of us will not find freedom and healing until we admit that we need it.

00;40;53;20 - 00;40;55;15
Unknown
Why wouldn't we?

00;40;55;18 - 00;41;12;11
Chrissy Cole
I think about what I tell my kids, and maybe it's too honest. And it may not be your flavor for your kids, but I tell them I'm so sorry for all the reasons why you will probably be going to therapy because of me and dad. We're not perfect.

00;41;12;13 - 00;41;39;18
Chrissy Cole
But I serve a perfect God who is jealous for your healing, and that frees me up to not parent with pride, but parent with humility and say, I'm sorry, baby. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I haven't done it perfectly. What is your healing costing you? What is it costing your kids? What is it costing your spouse? What is it costing your family?

00;41;39;21 - 00;42;06;22
Chrissy Cole
What is costing your workplace? What is it costing your social groups? What is it cost is costing something and God saying, come on, I got healing for you. It's time to heal your kids, your future finances, your good night's sleep. It's time to heal. Can you imagine? Can you imagine a healed church? Can you imagine a vulnerable church?

00;42;06;27 - 00;42;30;10
Chrissy Cole
Can you imagine an authentic group of people who say, we're just connected to the healer? I want to start saying I am healing. I'm heal. Probably also healing. There's so many I realize in transitions of my life, when there's a transition, it's almost like God stirs up what's at the bottom and recesses of our hearts. And he reminds us of some things and it's like, gosh, I thought I dealt with that.

00;42;30;10 - 00;42;59;25
Chrissy Cole
But no, it comes up because God is so gracious that he allows it to be revealed and recognizable so he can heal it and remove it. Some things are getting stirred up into your life. The truth of God's Word is stirring. Some stuff it up in your heart and it's rising to the top. You might be thinking, man, I've been fighting with my spouse a little bit more, probably because it's stirring up some things that need to come to the surface so that God can wash it away, like the blood that was spilled on the cross.

00;42;59;28 - 00;43;26;15
Chrissy Cole
He wants to wash it away. Maybe once and for all. He wants to heal you. And let me tell you, some trauma and some healing takes some time, and God wants to be on the journey of it. He wants to reveal himself to you. There's it's more about revealing himself to you. This is why I honestly, I, I didn't want to come into this message trying to be your therapist.

00;43;26;18 - 00;43;51;13
Chrissy Cole
I am working towards that. I'm working towards certification for different things. But can I tell you the ultimate healer, the ultimate counselor, is Jesus. He's the ultimate one. Isaiah 61 one. This is one of the clearest scriptures that tells us what Jesus came to do. Some of us are bound by the pain of our trauma and our emotional trauma.

00;43;51;15 - 00;44;14;27
Chrissy Cole
Invisible wounds, maybe some physical wounds, but some invisible wounds. This is what Jesus came to do. The spirit of the sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives, and release from darkness to prisoners. He does not want you to stay unhealed.

00;44;15;01 - 00;44;39;28
Chrissy Cole
He doesn't want you to stay bound by the healing and the hurt and the victimhood. He who came to set you free bring life and freedom. The cross gives us freedom. The cross washes us clean. The cross empowers us to bring healing and proclaim the gospel to the people outside of these four walls who need hope. They're in desperate times and we can bring that hope.

00;44;40;00 - 00;45;00;13
Chrissy Cole
Do we need to be healed? And so I believe that God wants to heal us in this place. He wants to start filling us with hope. Would you bow your heads in this place? I want to pray over you. I want to speak to the seers. I want to speak to the trauma. I want to speak to the wounds, and I want to speak, starting with the scriptures.

00;45;00;13 - 00;45;26;22
Chrissy Cole
Romans 1513. May the God of health fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that the power of the Holy Spirit, you may abound in hope. Thank you, Jesus, for every person who came here to listen to your word more. I pray that they would receive the word that they would receive the healing, that they would receive all that you have for them right now.

00;45;26;25 - 00;45;42;08
Chrissy Cole
If you have a wound in this place healing that you have been thinking about the top of your mind as I was going about this message, I want you to lift up your hand, because sometimes we need to be honest in a room for people that we know and don't know and say, God, I ready for your healing.

00;45;42;13 - 00;46;02;17
Chrissy Cole
God, I need you to reveal yourself to me. Come on. Hands raised. I want to pray over you. Can we be honest? Yeah. Thank you, Jesus, for every bit of vulnerability and honesty that that raised hand represents. We thank you, Jesus that you come near to those who feel hopeless and you are ready to heal. You're ready to pour out your love on them.

00;46;02;20 - 00;46;26;00
Chrissy Cole
You're ready, God, to receive them into your Kingdom. So Jesus, with your healing power, flow deep in their hearts. God in the areas they thought they would never touch. God, would you heal them? Would you touch them? Would you release your power, your healing power that is represented on the cross? What you did on the cross gave us healing.

00;46;26;02 - 00;46;45;29
Chrissy Cole
So God, may your healing power flow, flow. I like to say this that the goal is tears. Not because I want to stir you up emotionally, but because it's not my words, it's the spirit of the Lord at work inside of you that's stirring in the same way it stirred in those two that it caused them to have faith rise.

00;46;45;29 - 00;47;15;03
Chrissy Cole
So if there's tears that are flowing, let the tears flow. Let him flow in this place Jesus, with every tear that drops from their eye, with every heart that is tinged with pain or with a feeling that is uncomfortable. God, may your healing power flow. We trust you for healing Jesus. You can put your hands down, but I want to give you an opportunity to invite Jesus into the rest of your faith journey from here on out.

00;47;15;05 - 00;47;34;07
Chrissy Cole
And it is a healing journey. It is a sanctification process. But there are some people in this room who have not yet made Jesus the Lord of their life or the Savior of their soul. And I want to invite you in the same way that those two invited Jesus without fully knowing who he was, to break bread with them.

00;47;34;10 - 00;48;10;18
Chrissy Cole
And when that happened, oh, they recognize them, and it put them on the path and redirected them. It reframed their pain, but it redirected them to go back into into Jerusalem, to rejoice with the others who had known that he had risen before they knew it, they went back to Jerusalem. And there's some of you in this place you have not yet given your life to him, and maybe you don't know him quite well, but you know that if you just would surrender to him, if you would just invite him into your pit, if you would invite him into your life, everything in your life will change.

00;48;10;21 - 00;48;34;01
Chrissy Cole
When we see him, everything changes. So I want invite you to receive Jesus into your life. Receive the truth of who he is, the one who came to seek and save you. The one who came to heal you. The one who came to triumph over the trauma in your life. He came to be a friend. So if that's you and you want invite him to your life, would you raise your hand?

00;48;34;01 - 00;49;03;18
Chrissy Cole
The count of three. One. Two, three. Let's see those hands. Hands everywhere. One, 234. Five. Six. Seven. Eight. Nine. Ten. Anyone? 1230. Okay. There's hands all around the room. I see that hand back there. Would you repeat after me? Everybody in this room. Dear Jesus, thank you for bringing me here today to experience your word that it might change me and make me new.

00;49;03;20 - 00;49;33;09
Chrissy Cole
I accept you into my life. I believe that you died and rose again, that I might be healed and saved and made whole, set free in Jesus name. I confess my need of you, and I'm a sinner and I need healing. Give me the faith to live for you, to walk with you, to be honest with you in your precious and holy name.

00;49;33;11 - 00;49;50;17
Chrissy Cole
Amen and amen. Could you give God it can't stay? Did you give him a hand if you raised your hand? If you raise your hand, we're going to ask that our, our hosts will give you a card. If you raise your hand, they have a card that you can fill out. We don't want you to do this journey alone.

00;49;50;19 - 00;50;08;13
Chrissy Cole
It's you and Jesus. But can I tell you also that this, that you can be invited into a family of belonging and your life will never be the same without the body of Christ? Amen. All right. So if you raise your hand with you, you can raise your hand if you raise your hand to know him and give your life to him, you can raise your hand again.

00;50;08;20 - 00;50;26;06
Chrissy Cole
We have some cards that'll make their way to you, but let's stand as well. I just want to close up this one song. Listen, Jesus is jealous for you hear healing. He's the only one who can handle it. He's the only one worthy to be praised in this time. He's the only one worthy. And so that's all we're going to sing.

00;50;26;10 - 00;50;41;13
Chrissy Cole
Close up our time here today, but just rejoicing in the same way. Those two went back to Jerusalem and rejoice with all others who knew that Jesus had resurrected and risen from the dead. Come on, could you sing this? Who else is worthy?

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Unknown
Whose

00;50;46;23 - 00;50;50;02
Chrissy Cole
Thank you for being a part of our online community here at Project Church.

00;50;50;03 - 00;50;53;14
Chrissy Cole
We hope that this message and the whole service bless your life.

00;50;53;17 - 00;51;09;24
Caleb Cole
Yeah. And if it did, we want to ask that you would do something for us. First of all, if you're not already subscribed to our YouTube channel, be sure to subscribe. Like this video. But also, we would ask that you would consider financially supporting what God is doing through Project Church. You can give in a variety of ways.

00;51;09;27 - 00;51;25;03
Caleb Cole
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