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Business success is dependent on a solid financial foundation & success looks different to everyone & there is a lack of equity of access to resources and information for small business owners and independent contractors & there is a societal narrative making us believe “balance” is our ultimate goal & … There are so many “&”s that impact being your own boss. Let’s have some frank discussions on the basics of business with a holistic focus on everything that helps business owners define and find success.
Molly 0:08
Hello, hello. I am Molly Beyer, host of the Ambiguous &: Business Basics and Beyond, a podcast where we have frank discussions on the basics of business with a holistic focus on everything that helps business owners define and find success. There are so many ands that impact being your own boss. Join us as we explore all these ands and more. Like subscribe or follow wherever you get your podcasts, and let's explore these ambiguous and.
0:38
Hello and welcome to the Ambiguous &: Business Basics and Beyond. I'm your host, Molly Beyer, and I'm here to lead you through frank and holistic conversations on the basics of business.
0:50
One of the most common responses that I get from the people in my world to my podcast, presentations, workshops, things like that, that I do is that I sound scripted. This is because I have to use scripts. I'm super passionate, I'm really knowledgeable, but if left to my own devices, I would talk on such a winding journey that you wouldn't even know where we started by the end. One of the things that I tell people about me when I first meet them, is that I am a total Chaos Monkey. You never know when I'm going to just sit there, you know, being cute, eating snacks, or when I'm going to start playing in poo. It's a great icebreaker, but it also is a really great opportunity for me to start a conversation about sort of the weird chaos that I am. I have two really very distinct sides to me. I am super data driven. I am incredibly analytical. I am really smart, and I can tell you that it's taken me a long time to embrace the fact that I am very smart. I am intelligent, and I have a lot of street smarts, but I am also incredibly emotional, and I love to just reach down into people. You know, if I ask you how you are, like, I don't I don't want that surface crap. I don't do surface conversations. Like, I want you to reach down in your soul and grab, like, your deepest, darkest secrets and just like, throw them out on the table so we can look at them and figure them out.
2:17
That's amazing. And I love that. And trying to find a space for these two things to live together has been really, really, really, really hard. I always felt like I was normal, but also abnormal, like it was really, super awkward. You know, I would see other people, and I'm like, I know I don't act like they do. And I would say awkward things, and I would say, people look at me. I There's very distinct looks, and I can remember every single one that ever happened of people looking at me like, who are you? Like, I'm just this total alien. And I realized that people don't actually want honesty and all this stuff, like, there's just, there's these things about who I am and sort of what my general nature is, it's like I am not like other people.
3:07
But I also had things about me that I thought everybody had, again, like these, this, this data side, this, this ability to grab big pieces of information and really see all of its pieces and parse it down and learn a lot about a subject in a very small amount of time. And maybe it was pretty, you know, surface level knowledge. It maybe wasn't mastery, but I knew a lot of stuff, so I kind of felt like a jack of all trades and a master of none. So,well, I felt exceedingly normal. Life also felt exceedingly awkward, and so what I realized just in the last couple of years is that I actually have ADHD and this, learning this about myself has been a great opportunity for me to see all of those things in my life that I did just sort of deal with it, how I've used different coping techniques to get through it, and so, yeah, it kind of sucks that there was, you know, there's a lot of masking going on, but the benefit of masking, the benefit of of learning how to be who people wanted me to be in this society, is that I watched people, I watched people who I thought were normal and who were you know, interacting the ways that I thought that people were supposed to, and so I started to sort of emulate the things that they were doing. This is also how we change our behaviors. This is something that's super important to me. Is when, when there's something we want, we decide what it is we want. We look for masters and mentors. We learn about that subject so that we become a subject matter expert, but we also can change sort of who we are fundamentally by acting in those ways that look closer to what it is we want to be. And so masking really helped me to one: kind of become a pretty cool person, because I was surrounded by really neat people. And so a lot of my personality has been defined by these really, really amazing people in my world, but also it's helped me to be really focused on people and on how to make people comfortable. And so see, this is getting super chaotic because, like, I am off script. This is what I'm talking about. So my superpower is ADHD,
5:26
When aimed with intention, it is totally my superpower. So I'm weird and I'm awkward, but I've also learned how to interact with, like, everybody. And I realized through time too, that sort of data parsing, this ability that I had to take these big pieces of information and really parse them down. I thought everybody could do that, but everybody can't do that. And I didn't learn that until I started my own business and started hiring employees, and was like, why can't they do what I do? And then I started to realize they can't do what I do, because this is a superpower, my ability to go in and look at a huge spreadsheet, 1000s and 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of lines of data and pick out the four lines that are different. You know, it's like, AI could do it, but Molly can too. This is pretty cool. And so, like realizing that we all are weird and chaotic, like, we all have our own stuff going on, but when we can figure out what those things are and how they really help us deal well in this world that's really figuring out what our superpowers are and embracing them, and that's one of the hardest things for me, has been embracing this chaos, because it's really hard to live in my head.
6:55
I'm sure it's been hard to follow me in this conversation. It is really hard to live in my head, it is really hard to have there be so much going on all the time, and to have all this bonus content I want to share with everybody, because I feel like it makes so much more sense, and to have people look at me like, What the hell are you even talking about? But it helps my clients, because I can pick up all of the things that they're saying, even when they're bouncing around, and the things that are happening, and I can grab those pieces in there that are causing them problems, and then I can help solve those problems for them. I can sit with somebody that I don't know and not mirror them, but meet them on their level, so that they feel comfortable, so that I can help them. Because service is my love language. I want to help everybody. That's why I have this podcast. Because I want people to know what I know. I want to share with people those things that I know, but I have to script it, because talking like this, yeah, no one's gonna listen to this episode twice.
8:05
But this is what I mean is we need to embrace who we are and find that space that works for us so that we can really figure out how we're moving through this world. So I might have to use a ton of task lists. I might have to always put my keys and my purse, my cell phone, in the same space so that I don't lose it. I have to work really hard on building habits. I have to find ways to cope with anxiety. I don't like talking on the phone. I don't like being in big groups of people, but I also have to network all the time. I have to talk to my clients. So finding spaces that work well and also a big piece of why I'm even talking about this today is because I think it's important that we understand that we're all coming to this world from a different space. We all need a little bit of accommodation. And when those of us who feel comfortable standing up and saying, This is who I am, this is how I'm going to show up and this is what I expect, it helps other people to feel empowered to do that too. So I don't go off script. I create scripts. I write them. They're from my heart. They're from my soul. I go a little bit off of them from time to time, because an outline still gives me way too much freedom. Because if I tried to talk to you like this in every episode, I don't know, I lost all of you. I lost most of you a while ago, unless you have ADHD, you're still with me. Thank you, friends. But I'm here showing up in the spaces that I know how, in the ways that I know how, so that I can share with other people.
9:56
So I'm a work in progress, and I'm getting more comfortable. I'm still learning to embrace my particular brand of chaos, and I hope that everybody else starts to do this more too, because we need this more in the world. We need more people embracing themselves, loving themselves, honoring themselves, and realizing too that we're all taking up space, and we all get to take up space, but we need to make space for each other.
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So what's your superpower? Do you even know what it is? Where is your chaos? How are you feeling? Find it. Embrace it. Honor it. Harness it. Aim it at your life. Be Your beautiful brand of whatever you are. And if you're a Chaos Monkey, just start throwing some poo, because, you know, in a little while, you're going to be sitting there eating a snack, looking cute, and everyone's going to be happy anyways. So aim your powers at life. Be who you are. Be wonderful. And thank you for hanging out with me today, and if you made it this far, I'd love to hear your feedback on this episode, and I would love to hear requests for future content that are more than likely going to be scripted. So drop your comments and suggestions and join us next time for frank and holistic conversations on the basics of business. Please also like, subscribe or follow so you never miss an episode and until next time, I'm Molly Beyer, and this has been the Ambiguous &: Business Basics and Beyond. Have a wonderful day.