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Today, I wanna pay it forward. To teach women how to become financially independent and not depend on anybody. Who you surround yourself is who you become. And your friends, the five friends that you have, whatever they make, that's your income. And that's when I realized, don't I wanna do a PhD in psychology or the sports. I wanna be a realtor.
Dana Goldfarb:So I have a real estate license in Orlando, in Florida. Colorado, I kept it through my my team. I'm here now in California. When a woman decides to walk away from a relationship with young kids, there's gotta be a reason.
Linnsey Dolson:I feel like when there's a narcissist or anything like that involved in situations, it starts out great and there's a lot of love bombing or it's a great relationship and then before you know it you're like what the is happening.
Dana Goldfarb:Ladies, I beg you keep your job.
Linnsey Dolson:What are some tips you can give women to begin their journey of financial freedom?
Linnsey Dolson:Welcome to Bare It All With Linnsey, you guys. I have my incredible friend here. Introduce yourself.
Dana Goldfarb:Hello, everyone. My name is Dana Goldfarb, and I'm a mom, a realtor, an influencer, and today I wanna pay it forward. Going through what I went through to teach women how to become financially independent and not depend on anybody So that they can decide who is the man they wanna be with, what restaurant they wanna eat in, and what bag they wanna buy.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that. Awesome. So I gotta tell you the story of how I met her, you guys. So me and the girls are at this cute little place in San Diego doing crafts. And I have my podcast out, or I mean my podcast, my tripod.
Linnsey Dolson:I was so close. My tripod out, and I'm like blogging me and the girls doing crafts. And her and her super cute daughter come up and they're like, hey, where'd you get that thing? I want one of those. And we started talking.
Linnsey Dolson:We literally loved each other, and we've been hanging out ever since. And so I just love that because I'm like, I need friends. I just moved to San Diego and then I find out like you just moved to San Diego. Exactly.
Dana Goldfarb:It's like a little bit before.
Linnsey Dolson:Yeah. A little bit before but still newly to San Diego. So I was like, dude, I need friends.
Dana Goldfarb:Good ones. Yes.
Dana Goldfarb:We want strong friends?
Linnsey Dolson:I got lipstick on my teeth?
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah.
Linnsey Dolson:Oh, girl. You can just tell me. I'm not shy.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah.
Linnsey Dolson:Damn it. See, that's a good friend, you guys. It's just this lip gloss. I'm like, oh. Here we go. We're good.
Dana Goldfarb:Yes.
Linnsey Dolson:I think we're good. Are we good?
Dana Goldfarb:Beautiful.
Linnsey Dolson:I always tell my guests, let me know. Do I have a booger? Tell me if I have a booger. Tell me if I have lipstick on my teeth. Don't do me dirty like that. Exactly. No shame.
Dana Goldfarb:Thank you. Great friends uplift each other.
Linnsey Dolson:Girl, yes. Yeah. I'm sorry. If you let me go a long time with lipstick on my teeth, we're not friends. We're not friends.
Linnsey Dolson:So what I love so much is that, you know, talking to you and you were telling me your story and I was like, fuck. Yes. Okay, queen. And so I want you to tell us a little bit, like, back to like, take it back to I know that, you know, you had got divorced and started your whole life over. And talk to us a little bit about, like, what life was before and what you overcame.
Dana Goldfarb:So let's start from the day that I probably raised myself from age 12. Okay. Yeah. I I was at age 12, I realized my dad was successful, but I wanna be successful by myself, and I don't wanna be dependent on anybody.
Dana Goldfarb:So I started working at very a very, very young age, and I sold I was selling Levi's jeans in Israel. I created a business that I had an area in Tel Aviv that I would sell, and then an area in other state
Linnsey Dolson:Entrepreneur from the beginning.
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly.
Linnsey Dolson:I love it.
Dana Goldfarb:And but the funniest thing is that my dad was such an old school that he didn't us girls know our worth, and he always say, oh, marry a rich guy. Be quiet. You know? I'm like, no. No. No. No. No. I'm not that kind of person. So I'm the one that paid for my college. I bought my own car. I paid for my wedding. I paid for everything.
Linnsey Dolson:Wow. So super independent from the beginning.
Dana Goldfarb:Very young age. Yes. So when I came to America twenty some years ago, I was thinking that I'm gonna do a PhD in psychology of the business.
Linnsey Dolson:What brought you real quick, what brought you to America?
Dana Goldfarb:So my first husband that we were married for four years got a a full scholarship, PhD, to do a a PhD in fiber optics. That's how we got to Orlando.
Linnsey Dolson:Got it.
Dana Goldfarb:And the first day, I'm dropping him in school and I'm thinking, okay, I need to find a place. I need to buy a car. I need to get phones. Like, I dropped him as a student, as a mom to a child, and now I'm starting my my day thinking, like, I need to take care of everything.
Linnsey Dolson:In a brand new country that's insane.
Dana Goldfarb:In a brand new country barely speaking English.
Linnsey Dolson:Wow.
Dana Goldfarb:So I was very successful in Israel. I was doing a part was personal I was doing a personal training. I was training people from 7AM in the morning until 11:00 at night.
Linnsey Dolson:Wow.
Dana Goldfarb:And I saved, saved, saved. So when we came to America, we bought our first house. I was 27 years old.
Linnsey Dolson:That's freaking amazing.
Dana Goldfarb:With no help of anybody. Me, myself, and I.
Linnsey Dolson:I love it.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. So my my husband at that time was making $14,000 dollars a year. He was a student full time PhD. So
Linnsey Dolson:$14,000 a year?
Dana Goldfarb:A year.
Linnsey Dolson:I thought you were gonna say a month.
Dana Goldfarb:No. No. No. Not even then. I was making $40,000 a a month.
Dana Goldfarb:Okay. But back then, he was making $14k.
Linnsey Dolson:Wow.
Dana Goldfarb:And I said to he he was, like, pushing me to rent the house, and I'm like, why should we rent? We're gonna be in America for five years. Why should we not buy? And he's like, no. He started he's such a an Asperger type of red to rent, green to buy, blah blah blah, Excel sheets, and I'm like, no. No. No. No. No. We're buying.
Dana Goldfarb:So I went and start looking for houses. And I bought our house, the first house, and that's when I realized I don't wanna do a PhD in psychology or the sports. I wanna be a realtor. So I got my license, and I started selling real estate. The first year of real estate, I made 35 transaction barely speaking English.
Dana Goldfarb:I start knocking on people's door for for sale by owner, and I said, oh, that's the best way because I have a seller, I have a phone number, and I have a house.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:People were afraid to talk. I had no sphere of influence. I didn't know anybody. I'm like, what what have I got to lose?
Linnsey Dolson:That's incredible.
Dana Goldfarb:If they're gonna say no, they're gonna say no. I'm gonna I knocked on people's door, and I became the condo queen. Then I had another client.
Linnsey Dolson:The what queen?
Dana Goldfarb:The condo queen. I sold areas of condos.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay. Condo queen. Condo the way you say that that's so cute.
Dana Goldfarb:Condo queen.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that. Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:And I had one client that said to me, I wanna buy a house. It's a like a condo. $60,000 with a water view. And at that time, my manager in the office said, Dana Dana, there's no way that you can do that. There's just no way.
Dana Goldfarb:You're not gonna find I'm like, I have a buyer and he's got cash, so I'll find him a place. And I did. And I found this area that was little condos on the water, and I got her. I looked around, I knocked on people's door, nobody answered. I saw a lady with a dog walking around, it was 06:00 at night, almost getting dark, and I said, excuse me, I have a client who's looking to buy a condo, one bedroom, one bath, on a view of the water on the lake.
Dana Goldfarb:He said, are you kidding me? I said, why? He said, no. You're not gonna believe it. It's an omen. It's it's a sign. I said, why? She said, my daughter just told me that she wants me to move in with her and that I should sell my my condo. And that was the first condo I sold in this community. Since then, I sold, I think, 20 or 30 properties at this specific condominium because I knocked on people's door and I got people got to know me and I I promoted myself, and this is how I started my real estate business.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that. Just getting out of your comfort zone. Right?
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:And going around. I love that.
Dana Goldfarb:Then I found out that my boyfriend and I at that time, he was my husband, but we were really boyfriend and girlfriend. So after four years, I'm like, I'm done. I can't do this anymore. I'm walking away.
Dana Goldfarb:So at that time, I had, like, a one year to stay in America with papers and everything and I said, okay, I'm staying because I'm not going back to to limit myself going back to Israel. I'm gonna stay in America. I bought a house. I have a car. I have my abilities. I already at that time, I was successful.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:And I said, I'm staying.
Linnsey Dolson:How was your English at that time?
Dana Goldfarb:Oh my god. It was horrible. Was really, really bad. But people liked me because I was very bubbly and nice and kind and friendly.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:And they saw my kindness and my and my being honest.
Linnsey Dolson:Well, and it's cute. Sometimes, like, when somebody is, you know, doesn't speak English the best, like, when they say a word wrong, it's cute.
Dana Goldfarb:Yes. Right. They always said, oh, you have an accent? And I thought, oh, I have an American accent? Like, I saw I saw it as a as a compliment.
Linnsey Dolson:Right. Right.
Dana Goldfarb:Yep. So I find myself looking to do to stay in Orlando and I met my at that time, my boyfriend and I wanted to go out with him because he was Jewish and make a long story short, we got married after a year, and we were together
Linnsey Dolson:So this was one year after the you were here on your own. You had one year left to be here.
Dana Goldfarb:Correct.
Linnsey Dolson:And you met him. Okay.
Linnsey Dolson:Yeah. Got it.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. And got married just before all my paperwork had to
Linnsey Dolson:Just in time.
Dana Goldfarb:Just in time. You know? Yeah. So then we were together for twelve years. We have two beautiful children. And kind of a week after my daughter was born, had to take an emergency custody on his two children from their mom and to make a long story short, that's it. I raised these these kids throughout the marriage And it was an interesting, I would say, unhealthy marriage.
Linnsey Dolson:Sure.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. And I had to
Linnsey Dolson:So was it unhealthy from the beginning or is it something that it started out healthy and then before you know it, it was unhealthy and you didn't even realize it. I feel like when there's a narcissist or anything like that involved in situations, it starts out great and there's a lot of love bombing or it's a great relationship. And then before you you know it, you're like, what the fuck is happening? You know? So was it was it shitty from the beginning?
Dana Goldfarb:No. No. It was, it got shitty.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay. Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:It was lovely in the beginning. Super nice. And I'm I'm that's the the sad part and that's what I why I wanna do this podcast because I considered myself a very strong person. I am a strong person.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:I was in the army.
Linnsey Dolson:I'd definitely consider you a strong person. 100%.
Dana Goldfarb:I was in the in the army in the Israeli Defense Force.
Linnsey Dolson:What? You didn't tell me that, girl.
Dana Goldfarb:Told you you're gonna learn a few things about me.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay. Look at you.
Dana Goldfarb:Yes. I was in the intelligence unit.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:And I was always a survivor. I was strong. And when you are with the wrong person, sometimes you lose yourself.
Linnsey Dolson:100%. Yeah. You can. You can for sure. And so let's talk a little bit about that. About it's so true though when you're in a situation and you lose yourself. Like even my twelve year addiction. Like, I was so lost by the when I'm sitting on that couch just getting sober, I'm like, the fuck am I? And like, what the fuck just happened these last twelve years? You know?
Linnsey Dolson:Because you put up with shit or you do stuff. When I tell my story, I'm like, people are like, I can't believe you did that. Me too. I can't fucking believe I did that either. Exactly.
Linnsey Dolson:I get it. No way. Yeah. Like, no. I get it.
Dana Goldfarb:So it's like a video it's like a video that you're doing a background. And you're like, that's not me. I'm not in this video. I'm not in your story.
Linnsey Dolson:You are a product of your environment. So the environment and the life I was living, I was a product of it. And when you're living in, you know, a toxic environment or someone constantly putting you down or all of that, that shit breaks you. I don't care how strong you are, how amazing you are, it can break you.
Dana Goldfarb:And mind you, I'm the only person here. All my family's out of the country.
Linnsey Dolson:That's insane.
Dana Goldfarb:I am alone.
Linnsey Dolson:I couldn't even imagine.
Dana Goldfarb:Two, three people. Me, myself, and I.
Linnsey Dolson:So wild.
Dana Goldfarb:I had to take care of everything. What when I met him, I was a single woman.
Dana Goldfarb:And within the the day after my daughter was born, a week after we had to take an emergency custody. So from being a single woman to a mom of three in no time. And then six months afterwards, I'm pregnant with my second child because he was turning 50 and he's like, I gotta get the kids. If you want the kids right now. And like, of course, I wanna be I'm young.
Dana Goldfarb:I'm 32 at that time. I'm like, I wanna be a mom. I wanna be a- And I actually wanted more, to be honest with you.
Linnsey Dolson:Yeah.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. So I end up finding myself in a situation that I didn't sign for, you know. And what am I gonna do? I mean, this I see it like I believe other women would say to him, that's your issue. That's your children. Bye bye.
Linnsey Dolson:But I think also that it takes a village. And so I feel like most women I mean, asshole women wouldn't. But most women
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly.
Linnsey Dolson:I love kids.
Dana Goldfarb:Me too.
Linnsey Dolson:What do you mean that kid down the street doesn't have clothes? Let's take her shopping.
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:Like, I just feel like the world is it needs more of that. I love that. I would have done the same thing, like, bring you know, I wanna take care of all the kids. Like, so I love
Dana Goldfarb:Especially the ones that don't have one.
Linnsey Dolson:Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. No. 100%.
Linnsey Dolson:So that's super great of you, you know? And I'm sure that for the rest of their lives, you will all they'll have memories that you helped raise them.
Dana Goldfarb:I sure hope so because I taught them a lot. You see, I'm I'm Israeli style, so for me, I was always raised tough love and to teach them and, like, everything. Open a bank account for them, teaching them how to to make money, how to write a check. Those are the things that I think we are parents and our name is a parent, not a friend. And that's our job.
Linnsey Dolson:That is so hard sometimes. That is the hardest to be a parent and not a friend.
Dana Goldfarb:That's right.
Linnsey Dolson:Oh, man. So I struggle at that at times for sure. That's hard.
Dana Goldfarb:I agree.
Linnsey Dolson:But it's important.
Dana Goldfarb:Because they're gonna have a lot of friends.
Linnsey Dolson:Oh, yeah.
Dana Goldfarb:Us, mom, we need to show them that they are the best put a light on their potential and take the take it to the next level.
Linnsey Dolson:I know. And there's times where I feel like I'm nagging. Hey, you gotta remember to do this. Hey, you forgot to do that. Hey, let's do this. Hey, let's do that. And you're you know, they get frustrated. But no, that's super important.
Linnsey Dolson:So you're just had two children. You have his children. And let's talk about where things like, where you feel like you started losing yourself.
Dana Goldfarb:So mind you, might I had a baby. And six months afterwards, I'm pregnant with my second one. And I already have three kids in the house. And at that time, I stopped working, which was a mistake.
Dana Goldfarb:Ladies, I beg you.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:Keep your job. Always. No matter what. Take take a leave.
Linnsey Dolson:Because then you have your independence. So right there was a big step because you gave up your independence.
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly. Right.
Dana Goldfarb:And then your man see you with pajama all day long with kids running around. You're not the sexy mama going to to work with your nice suit and also your conversation with your man is different now. Now it's all about the kids, about what what are you gonna tell him? I changed the diapers versus, oh, I had another deal. Hey, check this out.
Dana Goldfarb:I sold this building. I sold this house. I did this and this.
Linnsey Dolson:And that messes with your confidence as well.
Dana Goldfarb:100%. You know, people say, oh, it's your your your successes and your your business is not all it doesn't affect your self esteem. It does. I'm sorry. It does.
Linnsey Dolson:It does.
Dana Goldfarb:So when you're productive, when you're creating activities and we're doing things that, like, you wake up in the morning, you have you are energetic to go and do things versus, oh, I'm gonna go with the kids to the park and, you know, it's separate.
Linnsey Dolson:It builds confidence. Huge. That makes that makes a ton of sense.
Dana Goldfarb:And then then he becomes the the only financer.
Linnsey Dolson:That's you lose your independence right there. Yeah.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. And I'm living at his house under his name with him. And then he every time he's like, oh, get out. It's not your house. Well, I'm raising his four children.
Linnsey Dolson:Right. So at this time, did you sell that home, the first home that you bought by yourself when you moved here?
Dana Goldfarb:Yes. I did.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:And I made a $100,000. For my first husband, he was so afraid to buy, and I said to him, don't worry. I'm telling you, within five years, we'll sell the house and we'll make a $100,000.
Linnsey Dolson:You're so cute. You're such a real estate agent. I love you. She's like, wait, wait, but I made $100,000.
Dana Goldfarb:Yes. And we did. Yeah.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that. Yes. I love that. Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:So my first house I bought for a $170,000. If we I would have kept it, it was probably right now in Colorado in Orlando, $700,000, maybe even more.
Linnsey Dolson:Dang. And later in the podcast, we gotta talk about that because you teach that.
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:You teach that, which is amazing.
Dana Goldfarb:Yes.
Linnsey Dolson:So you're in the relationship, you're you give up your job, things just start going really sour. Tell us about it. And then I wanna know how the hell you got out of it.
Dana Goldfarb:So oh, my goodness. Yes. So we are at that time we're in Orlando. And things really got interesting, I would say. And we got an opportunity to move to Colorado.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. At that time, we would fly to to ski in Colorado. We really liked it. So we had an opportunity to leave, and I'm like, you know what? I made it in Orlando. I will do it in Colorado. I have no worries. I I know my worth. So we did. I flew on July 7.
Dana Goldfarb:I fly to meet my friend in Colorado who is a real estate agent. I said, hey, I wanna check it out. I come back and I start packing. And he's like, what are you doing? I said, I'm moving to Colorado.
Dana Goldfarb:You're welcome to join me. And that's July 7 2015 and August 12 2015, I already moved to Colorado. I found the house. We're under contract on the house, and I get my kids to start school. And he has to deal with court to get these other children and our con our contract on the house was contingency upon the other his other two children to come, to move with us and move to Colorado.
Dana Goldfarb:Oh wow.
Dana Goldfarb:We got it, and we moved. So now I start all over again in Colorado, and now I have four kids to to take care of and starting my real estate license, getting my real estate license, which I did.
Linnsey Dolson:So you have to get a different real estate license in each state. Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:Each state, yes. So I have a real estate license until today in Orlando, in Florida. Colorado, I kept it through my my team, and here now in California.
Linnsey Dolson:Wonderful. I love that. Yes. So you moved to Colorado.
Dana Goldfarb:We moved to Colorado. We bought a beautiful home. I thought it would be now a change of scene, you know, change of move to a new place. Good luck comes in.
Linnsey Dolson:You thought it would change everything.
Dana Goldfarb:Yes. It's you know, it's like women thinking-
Linnsey Dolson:New location. New start.
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly. It's like women thinking, oh, I'm gonna bring another child to the marriage. It's gonna make it better. It does not, girls.
Linnsey Dolson:It doesn't matter. Wherever you go, there you are. There you are. There the person is. That is not gonna change nothing.
Dana Goldfarb:The change of scene does not change the person.
Linnsey Dolson:Right. Right.
Dana Goldfarb:Isn't that true?
Linnsey Dolson:100%.
Dana Goldfarb:So I end up coming to Colorado starting all over again. He didn't wanna mix business with pleasure, so I couldn't ask for his people that he worked with to to work with me even though I was already-
Linnsey Dolson:So when you moved to Colorado, you started real estate again?
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly.
Linnsey Dolson:So at this time, you went back to real estate. Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:I had to go study, test the exam, start all over again. The first year of real estate in Colorado, I made 16 transactions.
Linnsey Dolson:How long had you been out of and just a stay at home mom at this time?
Dana Goldfarb:Four years. So four years.
Linnsey Dolson:So you haven't worked in four years, and then you went and started doing real estate again.
Dana Goldfarb:In a different state.
Linnsey Dolson:In a different state, right.
Dana Goldfarb:Starting all over again, not having friends, nothing. Just me, him, and the children. Right. And that's a very powerful situation for him versus me because I I'm starting like, I don't have my family here.
Linnsey Dolson:Right. Right. No. That's that's pretty wild.
Dana Goldfarb:So here I am starting another life, another real estate license in a different state knowing nobody. So I start going to Starbucks, start talking to people. Hey. Nice to meet you. Start sitting down with people, starting communicate because I'm a bubbly, friendly, nice person and why not?
Dana Goldfarb:Start asking questions. Because at that time in Colorado, there wasn't a lot of For Sale By Owner signs. I couldn't use the the system that I used in Florida.
Dana Goldfarb:And by the way, I'm four years without without working and not like, it's gonna take a little bit of time to get back to yourself, you know? So here I am, I start to meet a lot of people, connected to the Jewish community in Colorado, got to know some moms, was very involved in the parent teaching association, and started all over again.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that. So how did he feel about you going back to work?
Dana Goldfarb:He did not want he's like, what? Oh, I forgot to mention. Very important thing. When I met him, he said to me, if you'll marry me, you'll never have to work a day in your life. And that was a really big red flag because it remind me of my dad saying, oh, just marry a rich guy. And I'm like, no. No. No.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:So I said to him, no. I'll always work. But then I got riled up with the kids and four kids. It's not one or two. So yeah. That's interesting. Right?
Dana Goldfarb:So ladies, when somebody tell you this when somebody's telling you, oh, you'll marry me and you'll never have to work a day in your life, that's a huge red flag.
Linnsey Dolson:So when did you start seeing red flags in that relationship? So you're talking about, like, that it was unhealthy where you've seen red flags going through the whole thing. And what without maybe, you know, don't have to get an exact detail. What kind of stuff do you feel like you were going through that broke you to that point that you talk about? You talk about losing yourself.
Linnsey Dolson:Like, when you left the marriage, you didn't know who you were. You feel like you lost the self confidence. You lost all that. Talk a little bit about what was your breaking point in getting to that point in your life.
Dana Goldfarb:So I think that if I was living near my family and my sister and my mom or my dad were around me, probably I wouldn't last twelve years. When I left the marriage, I was a hundred pound. And I'm skinny. And I was much much skinnier.
Linnsey Dolson:Sure.
Dana Goldfarb:I I realized that-
Linnsey Dolson:Just from depression and not eating and yeah.
Dana Goldfarb:To me, when I'm depressed, I can't eat. It just doesn't go
Linnsey Dolson:Yeah. Yeah. You've got something in your stomach, like a feeling in your stomach.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. I just can't I can barely talk to I'm losing my voice. It's like my my my chakra Yeah. Is just closed. And so that's the funniest thing. People would see me with a Tesla, big house, smiling, looking good.
Dana Goldfarb:Because I'm skinny. I'm skinny. I look good. And I'm always smiling no matter what. This is something it's like a survival skill in me that I always smile no matter what.
Dana Goldfarb:Even if I'm sad, I'm not you'll see me smiling. So from the outside, oh, everybody's jealous. Oh, look at her. She's so hot with all the jewelry and all this blink blink. But inside, I'm broken into pieces.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:And I just say, God, give me another day because my my kids needs me. And I'm just the light is going I'm not kidding. It's so dark. It's so dark.
Linnsey Dolson:So when you left that marriage, how did it come to an end? What made you know that you needed to leave it? And tell us about that exit, what that looked like, and where your life was at that point.
Dana Goldfarb:I don't want to go into details, but there was kind of a domestic abuse.
Linnsey Dolson:Just about you. Like, what you went through. You don't need to say anything what anybody else did.
Dana Goldfarb:What I went through through before or the minute what made me make a decision
Linnsey Dolson:Yeah. I would I mean, you could talk a little bit about more if you what you went through, but then I was saying what was the moment that you were like, I'm fucking done. I'm gone.
Dana Goldfarb:Oh, the moment came eight years ago. And that's what I was about to say that if I had my my village and my community involved, I would probably leave. But I just I wasn't I was ready. My situation wasn't ready.
Linnsey Dolson:Sure. Right. Right.
Dana Goldfarb:And, you know, let me say that. And people, please don't judge women. When a woman decides to walk away from a relationship with young kids, there's gotta be a reason.
Linnsey Dolson:People judge no matter what. Fuck it.
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:So don't even- But you know people judge. Let them judge. Let them judge. Oh my god.
Dana Goldfarb:When they say, oh my god. You got there I got divorced. I'm like, yes. And they're like, what? Are you happy about it?
Dana Goldfarb:Yes. Of course. That was my decision. I wanted to walk away. People will judge no matter totally off of subject, but people will judge I agree. No matter what. I put a comment on Facebook, I think it was yesterday, and about who's going to a conference in San or Vegas that I wanted to send some of my employees to. And someone comments on there and goes, oh, yeah. You should take your plastic self there because, what is it? Prostitution is legal. And it's like a fake account. And I'm just like, damn. You know what? I feel really special when you're making an account just to come talk shit to me. You know? People will judge and talk shit. No matter what.
Dana Goldfarb:And if you wanna talk shit to me, come in front of me. Why do you need to make a fake account?
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:So who care if people judge, fuck them.
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly. Next. That's how I call it. Next. Don't even waste an energy on that.
Dana Goldfarb:I love it. Where you where you put your energy, that's where it's it's gonna grow. And exactly what you were talking about, who you surround yourself is who you become. I always tell it to my clients, please surround yourself with good, strong women because you're gonna become one of them. And your friends, the five friends that you have, whatever they make, that's your that's your income.
Dana Goldfarb:So true. Isn't that true?
Linnsey Dolson:It's so true. Who you surround yourself with makes all the difference. Yeah. So I wanna hear about the exit, and I wanna hear how you started from nothing because you have this incredible life and you've built so much. And I wanna know about the rock bottom moment and how you got to where you're at now.
Dana Goldfarb:So the rock bottom moment was the day I decided I can't do this anymore. I went and talked to an attorney. I filed for divorce, and I said, I'm getting out quick quick quick. So I filed in June. I was divorced by October.
Linnsey Dolson:Wow.
Dana Goldfarb:Done. And I said, I'm not gonna go through this. I just wanna out. I wanna see I wanna be giving my energy to my children and to my life.
Dana Goldfarb:And that's what I did. So I start our I started and I went back to what I believe in.
Linnsey Dolson:Did you leave with anything?
Dana Goldfarb:Very little.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:Compared to what I could have gotten, I I left with very little. I didn't care. I just wanted that.
Linnsey Dolson:Right.
Dana Goldfarb:I saw how he handled other divorces and I'm like, it's not worth it.
Dana Goldfarb:I can make money. I made money when I was sick, 12 years old. Why can I not make money now? Money is not it's not it's it's abundant. Money is energy.
Dana Goldfarb:If you wanna make money, you'll make money. And even if you I feel like I'm like a I'm like a cat. I always fall on my legs. No matter what you're gonna put me, I'll I'll throw over it again.
Linnsey Dolson:And money is I mean, it just comes. You are confident and you know you're gonna make money, it just comes. And I remember us talking about this one day, is it's your first million that is the hardest. Making your first million. I remember when that was a goal to like, I just wanna make a million. I just wanna make a million in a year. Like, that's a goal. And that was like my first business goal. Right? And then once I hit that, I'm like, well, what now?
Linnsey Dolson:You know? But the once you learn to make money, and once you start making money, making money is so easy. It really is. And there's so many ways to make money. I talk to people in LA. I love it in LA. This most people have like four or five hustles and you talk to them and you're like, holy shit, didn't even realize you can make money doing that. There's so many ways to make money if you just know I'm gonna make money. Like, I love expensive shit, so I have to make good money.
Dana Goldfarb:Right. Yeah. And that's exactly talking about, again, who you surround yourself is who you become. If you're surrounded by girls that wear nice stuff, you wanna have nice stuff. So you'll see, hey, I want this, and you're telling the universe, and you're gonna you're gonna manifest it.
Linnsey Dolson:Yes. Hell yeah.
Dana Goldfarb:And that's how it goes. So my goal was to to buy real estate and pay my first house first. And I believe in multi family homes, So you buy your first multi family home, you work, work, work, work, work, pay it off, and then the first house is gonna pay for the second house, is gonna pay for the third house back, back, back. And my goal was to buy as as many properties as I can within the next ten years. And that's it.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that.
Dana Goldfarb:Because when you when you pay your first house and you are living frugal in the beginning, I'm talking about ladies that are they wanna start all over again or what or just young ladies. I mean, my kids are they know at 18, they're gonna get their license in real estate, and they're gonna work hard to buy their first house. The first ten years from 20 to like, even 18 to, like, 30, this is the time that we we have the opportunities to make the money before we get become parents and stuff like that. Then, this is the ten years of of hardworking and sacrificing. This is what's gonna make you work it later than the rent is gonna I mean, everything's gonna pay itself.
Linnsey Dolson:Well, it's living it's the same with entrepreneurship. You're living a few years of your life like most people are not willing to, so that you can live the rest of your life like most people are unable to. Exactly. That sacrifice is huge. In the first few years when I got sober and I was building my cleaning company, which is my first business that I started, I didn't have shit.
Linnsey Dolson:I remember, like, I wore these $5 Walmart leggings and like these cheap t shirts. I had the same shitty shoes. I had like no makeup. I had box colored hair dye. Like looking back, I looked rough, but I just built, built, built. I didn't date. I didn't any of that, and I just built.
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly.
Linnsey Dolson:And you were in the tunnel. That was the solid foundation that I am able to build my empire on.
Linnsey Dolson:Building that solid foundation just brick after brick after brick after brick and not taking from it all the time and you build that solid foundation now? Fuck it. I got Botox. I got boobs. I got butt. I got tummy, like all of it. Whatever I you didn't have shit.
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:I did not have shit. I didn't do any extras.
Linnsey Dolson:What my kids needed my biggest splurge then was braces for my kids. But that's the important part is that beginning and that building and putting, you know, the solid foundation down. If you do that, then the sky is not the limit. But people don't wanna do that limit when people say the sky is the limit. Fuck that.
Linnsey Dolson:I wanna pass the sky. I know. That's limit.
Dana Goldfarb:Come on.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. Exactly. So what I was saying about that is also, like, if you're in a bad marriage and you're suffering already, why not suffer by yourself and and focus on building your business and take it to the next level, and then you do whatever you want. You know
Linnsey Dolson:what I'm saying? It's that independence. So on that note, so you started a company where you teach women financial freedom.
Dana Goldfarb:Correct.
Linnsey Dolson:So I wanna spend a little bit of time.
Linnsey Dolson:We still, yeah, we still have a lay about ten minutes left. I wanted you to spend about eight of that telling me some tips talking about it. And I wanna know some tips for women that are, you know, newly starting their life over or interested in starting a business. Like, what are some tips you can give women to begin their journey of financial freedom?
Dana Goldfarb:Okay. So I am I'm starting a course that it's gonna be online and you can purchase it soon. And the course is just a basic course about teaching how to start. Because I have a lot of friends of mine that are in a bad marriage and they don't wanna leave because they don't they don't have any access to anything. They don't even know where to begin.
Dana Goldfarb:Oh, my husband is taking care of it. But meanwhile, my friend that said that to me, he was taking care of another woman. Not she didn't even know that he he was spending all this money about another woman. And then when they got divorced, he was self employed so she couldn't see any of the income. She was left with nothing.
Dana Goldfarb:And so back to to that, I wanna teach women how to save to get to the point where they buy their first multifamily home.
Linnsey Dolson:So give us some tips on how to do that. So like give us a little sneak peek of your course or just some of your tips. Give us a few tips of women. Where do they start? I have zero. They have zero savings. They're either struggling or they're just starting a business. Where do they start? What is a few steps they can take today to start on their path for financial freedom?
Dana Goldfarb:So first and foremost, if you decide that you wanna become financially independent, you have got to cut the fat. Must. No Starbucks, $7 coffee, no lunch at any dinner or dinner. You wanna have dinner? When I was going through this, the only dinners I had was when guys took me out. Other than that, I made my own meal. I had my own coffee in the thermos. I did not spend a dollar. The only thing I did was my nails because I had to look good for my business. Other than that, I did not spend a dime for real.
Dana Goldfarb:I used my clothes. I had a good body. If I had to go to a secondhand shop to buy clothes, I would go. I couldn't care less. My goal was I'm buying a house.
Dana Goldfarb:And this is what I tell my kids. You go you go to Target, you wanna spend $20 or you wanna take this $20 to make it $2,000 later on and buy your house? I don't buy clothes. I buy houses. That was my my mantra the whole time.
Dana Goldfarb:So that's what I'm teaching, and that's what I'm saying to the ladies. You need to sacrifice your time but it's gonna it's gonna be worth it.
Linnsey Dolson:So maybe what they could do is get out a list and write all the things that they spend money on each day
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:And what they can cut out.
Dana Goldfarb:All this cut Starbucks, you know how many women use they buy Starbucks twice a day.
Linnsey Dolson:Fast food.
Dana Goldfarb:Fast food.
Linnsey Dolson:Alcohol. Alcohol's a huge one. Huge. Can cut alcohol, fast food. Starbucks?
Linnsey Dolson:And you know what? The reality is, and I spend a lot on Starbucks, but like it's mostly ice. Have like six drinks and I'm like, shit. Now I'm down to the ice. So it's really a waste.
Linnsey Dolson:So can you make coffee at home? Yeah. So maybe that's a great start is to make a list and see where you can cut.
Dana Goldfarb:You know what also? We don't even know. We have all these Netflix and Hulu and all these subscriptions that you don't even remember that you have, and this is $200. I bought a condo by saving $20 a day.
Linnsey Dolson:For how long?
Dana Goldfarb:I can do it, so can you. How long? Seven years.
Linnsey Dolson:Seven years. So you saved $20 a day seven for seven years about and bought your first condo.
Dana Goldfarb:Right. Because you pay you put the money, and you move it from checking to savings, and then you put it in an investment, Fidelity account, you buy some good stocks, and it grows.
Linnsey Dolson:So you invest in it in stocks.
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:Yeah. Or other things. Yeah. Yeah. Mutual funds. Depends on how much what what do you have. And that's another thing that I'm I also do personal talks and one on one. So I I take your situation and I build I build the the profile for you.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that. Yes. That's so awesome. And how long have you been doing that?
Dana Goldfarb:So I could say that I started 2013, but I I didn't take I did it on me and my close friends teaching them what to do.
Linnsey Dolson:Okay. Okay.
Dana Goldfarb:But I never took it to the next level. But now I feel like like all the the my life story didn't just happen for me to raise two kids to tell them to teach them all this. I think I have
Linnsey Dolson:You were meant for so much more.
Dana Goldfarb:Exactly. I feel like I need to pay it forward and to teach other women, and I want all the women to be in a position that they have a choice because I didn't have a choice. I want them to have a choice. I wanna be with this guy because I wanna be with this guy, not because he has the money to pay my rent or I can move in with him to have a house and a car. That's not good enough.
Dana Goldfarb:I want them to know that they choose and what a wonderful relationship is when you're with somebody because you choose to be with them. And I have a boyfriend right now for three years that I chose to be with him, not because of what he has, because I love him for who he is. I think it's much much better bigger love than just Oh, yeah. Oh, I want you because, oh, you have a nice BMW or you can take me to a nice meal. That I can do by myself.
Linnsey Dolson:Just that independence. I love that, you know, I truly believe that the biggest flex is how many people's lives you can positively impact.
Dana Goldfarb:Amen.
Linnsey Dolson:And that feeds my soul. I get as much out of it as the person I'm helping, I get out of it. Right? That's like, that's where my new business, the Bonus Round Recovery, I'm so freaking excited because, like, being able to actually have a business where what I do is help people, I'm super pumped about it's in your business. You're helping people.
Dana Goldfarb:Right.
Linnsey Dolson:I love that. Well, tell everybody how they can find you.
Dana Goldfarb:The Dana Goldfarb. That's my Instagram. Spell it. T h e d a n a g o l d f a r b. Perfect.
Dana Goldfarb:Go follow her on Insta. Thank you so much.
Linnsey Dolson:It was a pleasure. Love you. Bye. You too.
Dana Goldfarb:God bless.