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Where the sexual and spiritual come together. Sex and relationship coach and vaginal weight lifter Kim Anami gives you the sex education and orgasms you never had. www.kimanami.com
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There are a LOT of potential reasons—plural!—why your woman doesn’t want to have sex with you.
Some have to do with you.
Others have to do with her.
Let’s start with you.
Reason #1. You’re a two-pump chump.
75% of men come within 3 minutes of intercourse.
95% of men come within 5 minutes of intercourse.
This means that 95% of women are underfucked.
The number is probably higher, but we’ll go with it for now.
If you are only ever delivering short pump-and-dump sessions to your woman,
A) She’ll NEVER be sexually satisfied
and
B) She’ll stop having sex with you.
She may not consciously even know why she’d rather clean the kitty litter than give you blow job.
But clean it she will.
Contrary to popular social programming, women are sexually voracious.
Insatiable even.
Once you turn them on and open them up, they are a well that never runs dry.
If your sexual encounters consists of a few minutes of hip thrusts and then you passing out, she’s going to feel used, abandoned and like there are far better things to do with her time and her pussy.
You won’t be one of them.
Stamina is THE most important sexual skill men can build.
You need to be able to go the distance.
Longer sexual encounters: 30 minute, 45 minutes, an hour, several hours—which is the gold standard in Anami Land—are what you need to master.
The deeper vaginal orgasms in women require sustained penetration.
Your absolute minimum goal ought to be one hour of “no matter what sexy position her ass is in, you will hold the line”.
And then you can build from there.
REASON #2: No foreplay.
There’s a modern saying:
“Women fake orgasms because men fake foreplay.”
And there’a an ancient Taoist saying:
Sexually speaking, men are like fire.
Quick to ignite and quick to extinguish.
Women are like water.
Slow to boil but they keep on boiling.
I’m telling you, women really are insatiable.
But if you never take the time to get them to boiling, they’ll remain at a “frigid” temperature.
And there they stay.
They begin to believe that THEY don’t even like sex.
Because the hurried race to the finish line just doesn’t feed them.
In Anami Land, we’re all about the extended sex date.
A staple of the Anami lifestyle is the weekly three-hour sex date.
This gives you plenty of time to shut out the external world and all of your responsibilities, open up and sink into each other and cultivate a sanctuary of togetherness where all of the deeper transformation sexual experiences can happen.
Life-changing sex doesn’t take place in 15-minute encounters.
REASON #3. You don’t do what you say you’re going to do.
For a woman to feel sexually and emotionally open to you, she needs to trust you.
How do you build trust?
By doing what you say you’re going to do.
From taking out the trash, to picking up the milk on your way home, to building a treehouse for your kids, to sticking to your own exercise program to working on your sexual stamina, do you follow through?
What is your word worth?
If your word is worth nothing, she loses respect for you.
And if she doesn’t respect you, and doesn’t see you as a man of integrity, she doesn’t want to fuck you.
REASON #4: You only ever give her clitoral orgasms.
These are the lowest rung on the sexual power and pleasure scale for women.
Literally the tip of the iceberg.
If I only ever had clitoral orgasms, I’d probably wouldn’t be doing this work.
Because I’d have no idea what sex is really about.
Any woman who IS NOT having the deeper vaginal orgasms—G-Spot, squirting and cervical—is going to be underfucked.
And can probably take it or leave it when it comes to sex.
Because those paltry genital sneezes we call clitoral orgasms are only meant to be an appetizer.
The full nourishment of a woman’s sexual self is in her vagina.
Here are reasons NOT related to you.
REASON #1: Unhealed sexual trauma
If she has had significant past trauma that hasn’t been properly healed and integrated, it will create interferences in your sex life.
This can show up as a “low libido”, painful sex or various other sexual ailments like endometriosis or cysts and growths on the reproductive organs.
In my salons, I walk people through how to heal these things and reset their nervous systems so they can open up and be vulnerable again.
REASON #2: Madonna/whore
She—and probably you—have bought into the religious and cultural programming—and let’s face it, it’s everywhere—that categorizes women into either virgins and good, marriage-material girls, or sluts—dangerous, sexually uninhibited—fuckable, but not wife-able women.
This dichotomy is shoved in our faces at every turn, making it very challenging to carve out the middle ground of a sexually confident and voracious woman who is also, you know, not a hooker.
Even if you—and she—think that intellectually you haven’t bought into this, the programming is so strong and so pervasive that we cannot help but be imprinted by it.
And that means having to consciously examine what that looks like for each of us, and rewrite our stories of what it means to be a grown-ass sexual being.
REASON #3: Doesn’t know what’s possible sexually and in relationship
There is so much misinformation out there, from “not all women can orgasm”, to “women don’t like sex all that much and need to be coerced into it” to “the sex dies after two years” that it can be challenging to wade through it all and come out the other side.
So many things have been “normalized”, but are not “normal”.
Far from it.
One of the main benefits you’ll receive from listening to my podcasts and watching my YouTube videos is to stretch your imagination and reality of what’s possible in these realms.
Short answer: everything.
REASON #4: She thinks “She’s just one of those women” who:
Doesn’t like sex
Can’t orgasm
Doesn’t have a high libido
Needs a bottle of lube in the beside table
Blah, blah and the list goes on
This kind of woman has clearly never heard of the Anami Guarantee:
That every woman can.
Every woman has a high libido, is sexually insatiable, can lubricate and ejaculate profusely, have multiple G-Spot and cervical orgasms and shoot ping pong balls with her vagina.
Every man can build hours long stamina, become multi-orgasmic, learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation and own his masculine power.
It’s very fashionable these days in this time of “everyone deserves a participation trophy” to placate people for their lack of effort and achievement.
Ha, that breakdancing Australian memequeen from the Olympics is case in point.
Even the Olympics has become a “participation trophy” event.
Not in these parts.
In these parts, I’m a champion for you—and all men and women—laying claim to ALL of their parts.
This podcast is devoted to showing people what’s possible.
Our Well-F**ked All Stars are beacons for what is possible.
So many of them have been in the same position, thinking they were “just one of those men or women who couldn’t”.
And then they found my work and dared to believe the Anami Guarantee would work for them.
And now they’ve entered into the Well-Fucked All Star Hall of Fame.
So what can you do as a man?
1 Send her to me.
If she isn't already familiar with my work, introduce her to it.
You can listen to my podcasts and watch my YouTube videos together and discuss them afterwards.
Ideally she runs with it and signs up for a salon and you can explore these things and grow together.
The more both of you listen to the podcasts and the stories of people and their transformations, the more BOTH of you will know what you don’t know and see what’s possible for you to achieve in your intimate lives.
2 Cultivate superstar stamina.
Like I said, this is the #1 sexual skill for men.
You can practice this on your own through conscious self-pleasuring.
And bring the fruits of your labor back to her.
3 Be a man of your word.
Do everything you say you are going to do.
From the little things to the big things, it all adds up to your fuckability quotient.
If she can’t trust you, she won’t have sex with you.
People often think that just because they aren’t outright lying to their partners, but carry on with “white lies” and “sins of omission” and not following through on your word.
These are all degrees of dishonesty.
And cowardice.
And every single one of them shows up as a disturbance in the fabric of your relationship.
Practice integrity in your words and actions and watch her open up to you.
4 Learn how to attain the deeper vaginal orgasms in women.
She won’t be well-fucked until you do.
This is another area of “you don’t know what you don’t know”.
When most of the media and so-called sexually inexperienced and underfucked “sex experts” and OBGYNs think the clitoris is all there is, you need to go deeper.
Like, vagina deep.
This is the key to truly opening her and unleashing her insatiable potential.
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You can achieve all of these states of mastery: From your orgasms to hers in my Sexual Mastery for Men Salon.
This is my 8-week online salon for men, and it’s opening for registration at the end of August.
In the salon you’ll learn:
- Superstar stamina and breathing techniques to last as long as you want: a minimum of an hour—some men master this in a few days
- Testicle and cock massage for boosting testosterone and increasing length, strength and girth
- Tutorials for bringing her to G-Spot, squirting and cervical orgasms
- How to occupy your uber-masculine energy in bed and in life
And much more!
Go to Sexual Mastery for Men.
You can take the quiz: Are you a Supercock? And receive the sexual mastery for men free video series and also be notified of when the salon opens.