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Dive into the world of mental fitness with former TV producer Neil Smith, co-founder with Bear Grylls of the brand new app "Mettle". Discover the power of resilience, overcoming challenges, and embracing the wild in this captivating episode of the Silvercore Podcast.
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Do you want to sleep better, relax,
achieve more, be happier, take control?
That's the goal of today's guest.
Who left the prestigious lifestyle
of working at some of the UK's
largest media production companies
to forge a new path along with
co founder Bear Grylls to develop
Metal, the first mobile app designed
specifically for men's mental fitness.
Welcome to the Silvercore
podcast, Neil Smith.
Neil Smith: Thank you, Travis.
What a great intro.
You know, you did say if you don't
like it, you can just say start
again, but no, let's go with that one.
Travis Bader: Excellent.
I always, you know, I find that's
the hardest part for me is doing that
intro because if I don't do that,
right, then I set the tone wrong.
And there's a part of me that feels
I've done this for like 120 podcasts.
Maybe it's time.
I should just start, just start
talking and see where it goes.
But, uh, Uh,
Neil Smith: yeah, you
did look very serious.
You look very serious.
Travis Bader: Well, you know, you
gotta, you gotta make it look right.
You know, when we're talking before,
you're saying that some of the happiest
times in your life are times when you've
been working with the co founder of Metal,
Bear Grylls, and you're telling a few
kind of fun stories that surrounded that.
Are those things that you'd want
to share with the audience here?
Of
Neil Smith: course.
What sort of fun stories?
I can't remember which ones
Travis Bader: they were.
Well, you didn't delve too deep into them.
So I was hoping to get them from you here
Neil Smith: Yeah, fine.
I mean well look, you know, so You know
metal m e t t l e that is so it's not
metal the kind of material It's a metal
as in you know per m e t t l e is the
spelling and it's a person's ability To
overcome or cope with difficulties, you
know spirit and resilience and I guess
that you know before I got into the The
mental fitness app game, you know, as you
say, I was a big TV producer in the UK.
I produced, I ran a couple
of big production companies.
One of the companies I ran, I,
I met Bear for the first time.
We started working together and we spent
many, many years having great shows.
And, and, you know, metal actually kind
of sums up what his shows are about.
You know, it's about a person's
ability to cope and overcome
with, uh, overcome difficulties,
you know, spirit and resilience.
So actually the name of our company now
really kind of, you know, encapsulates.
What we were doing, you know, so I
mean bear is brilliant fun to work with
Because you know like by the time I
started working with bear I was probably
a little bit too senior to go on every
shoot, you know Um, but I did anyway
because they were the shoots that I
wanted to be on and I'd always kind of
say to, to the, you know, to, um, to the
team, Oh, look, it's an expensive show.
There's a lot that can go wrong.
True.
You know, it's dangerous.
Also true.
Um, you know, I really need to be
on this shoot and yeah, we just had
a brilliant time filming together
all over the world, you know.
You know, bear is a kind of consummate
performer, but he's also somebody
who really kind of lives this stuff
Yes, so he kind of loves adventure.
He can't really live without it.
You know, he's so you know in his downtime
You'll find him jumping out of planes,
you know, often way more dangerously
actually than we're allowed to do on TV.
That much lower, lower kind
of distances from the ground.
And, um, yeah, so it was just brilliant
fun to travel with him and his crew.
He always kind of credits the
crew as being the real heroes.
of the journey, you know, because they're
the ones who kind of like, you know, have
to do exactly the same as him, but with
a camera or a sound, right, sound kill.
And I 100 percent agree with that.
It does create a great atmosphere and
you've got a great crew kind of flying
around the world, just getting up to high
jinx, you know, jumping out of airplanes
into volcanic lakes, whatever it might
be, you know, sleeping in the jungle,
uh, you know, eating crazy stuff, you
know, feeding, you know, You know, A
list celebrities, ants for breakfast,
or, you know, whatever, wherever it
could be, you know, so working with
Bear was one of the highlights of my
career, for sure, you know, in TV, uh,
and it's great fun, I mean, you're an
outdoorsman yourself, aren't you, so, you
know, I'm based in London, uh, uh, our
ability to kind of get out in the wild
is more limited, um, and so doing those
shows, you know, it's great, however,
I was, There was a, uh, um, a Google
presentation that we did recently that
Bear did and somebody asked him, Oh, you
know, what if you live in the city, you
know, how do you connect with nature?
You know, he said, turn on the cold
tap, get in the shower, turn on the
cold tap, you know, there's nature
for you right there, you know, cold,
having a cold shower, you know, that's
kind of one of the ways that you can
kind of look after your mental health.
Fitness, you know, that's a great
way to reconnect with nature.
I don't know how, how, how
often are you out in the wild?
Travis Bader: You know, I always say
not often enough, not as often as
I'd like, because personally, I'd
like to be out there all the time.
And I, you know, Silvercore is Silvercore
Outdoors, the company, not the Silvercore
podcast is designed specifically to help
strengthen, uh, people's connections
with their natural environment.
And I do that because.
It brings me a lot of comfort
and joy being outside.
There's a whole, there is a whole
mental fitness aspect of that.
Yeah, some people, they just,
they don't even want to be alone.
They're afraid to go outside.
They don't know what to do.
Um, they don't want to go in the
ocean cause they're afraid of sharks.
So we don't have sharks over here.
They don't want to go in
the woods cause of bears.
Well, we have bears, but they're not.
They're not a concern if we look
at this statistically, right.
Um, but if we can do a little bit just
to, uh, break down those barriers and
to deepen that connection with people's
natural environment, then I mean,
that, that speaks to me and my soul.
I like to create things.
I like to be outside.
How can I marry the two of those together?
And this is where I'm at so far in,
in my endeavor and in my journey
going through is with Silvercore
Outdoors and in the podcast.
And hopefully people listening
to this, it'll inspire them.
To say, man, like, what is this
metal app that I could check out?
Or like one of our past guests
recently, Alistair Humphries.
He's one of your, uh,
countrymen and he's, yeah.
And he was talking about micro
adventures and how, like, if
you're in a built up area, how
can you get out and actually have.
An adventure and maybe get
portions of what you get on some
major epic adventure as well.
So that's, uh, that's what I'm
looking to do with the podcast.
If there's some positivity I can share and
bring value to the audience and the guest.
I've done my job.
Yeah, absolutely.
You know, I met bear, uh, a
few years ago at shot show.
Uh, shot shows, a shooting, hunting,
outdoor trade show in, uh, in Vegas.
And, you know, I've, uh, watched
his shows for, for years.
And the one thing that always struck
me is that underlying positivity,
like he'll, he'll have his detractors,
he'll have people come out and say,
oh, he stayed in a hotel sometime
or, uh, and who knows, maybe that was
part of, part of you guys and your
production team putting them up or.
It
Neil Smith: wasn't, I can just say
categorically that he never stayed in
a hotel when we filmed him as if he'd
stayed overnight on any of our production.
Well, so yeah.
And you know, yeah, no, you know,
if, if he was sleeping out, he was
Travis Bader: sleeping out.
That's amazing.
Well, you know, there were, uh, And
I'd watch these people and I won't get
into the specifics because people can
Google and then get there themselves.
But what really impressed
me was the response.
And the response always was, uh, yeah,
so and so probably is a better, uh,
bushcraft person than myself, or, you
know, I'm just trying to do ABC and
bring some positivity or, you know,
this person over here, they've got a
great thing, I'd, I'd give it to them.
And he's always quick to give away.
That credit to somebody else.
And the ego seems to be low.
I mean, everyone's going to have an
ego, but the, the management of that
ego and the, uh, the underlying goal
of what it seems like he's trying to
do, which is a spread positivity and
to bring people up, shines through.
So,
Neil Smith: you know, he, he wants people
to find their own adventures, you know?
Uh, you're right.
He, as I said earlier, you know.
He always says, Oh, it's not me.
He's doing, I'm not the real hero.
Look at the crew.
That guy's got to do the same as me.
But with the, with the, you know,
15 kilo camera on his shoulder
and still hang off everything.
And, you know, it's kind of like.
Yeah, absolutely.
He's kind of very humble, uh, character.
Um, but you know, it's all about
inspiring people, you know, bears.
Mantra is never give up.
So I love it's kind of like, okay, well,
whatever you're going through, keep going.
You know, so he's more about
positivity, I'd say than,
than even the wild these days.
Cause you know, it's just sort
of, you know, that's, that's kind
of, you know, Central to kind of
what he's trying to get across.
I think, you know, positive.
Travis Bader: I think that's
how you affect change, right?
I mean, you can go out there and you
can personify a positive lifestyle.
You can be in the outdoors lifestyle
and you can do these crazy things,
which some of it's going to be
amped up a little bit for camera.
Like, I don't know who's going to be
out there drinking bear dung, right.
But, um, uh, unless
you absolutely need to.
Um,
Neil Smith: but, but then you've put the
lens, at least you've learned how to do
Travis Bader: it and it
gets people talking, right?
And there's a virality to that,
Neil Smith: you know, in terms of stories,
you know, that was one, I remember
there's a big channel here called ITV.
Yeah, that's like, you know, a
big, you know, when our big free
to air channels, one of the top.
By the second, first or second biggest
channel, you know, and I remember being
told that I'd brought the channel to
a new low By the head of entertainment
there, which I was very pleased about.
It's actually the second time I managed
that, that I got that honor twice But this
was because we had like a big celebrity
show, it's called Mission Survive,
and they took Celebrities out into the
wild and you know, they got eliminated.
Yeah, so it's a kind of classic reality
style format It was really really fun,
and on one of these shows You know, we'd
already done the urine drinking, you know,
as a kind of, which was brilliant, you
know, of course, you know, uh, but, you
know, we needed to step it up a level.
So, you know, we got them to,
to give themselves enemas.
Which, which, you know, our national was
quite conservative national channel, you
know, was, which was, you know, really.
Really something that we managed
to get away with that being told
or you've brought the channel to
a new low but in a Congratulatory
way by the head of entertainment.
It's funny But you know, I said, yeah, but
actually if you were stuck in the sea, you
know And like you didn't have any fresh
water then, you know, like an enema is
a great great way to kind of purify Some
of that salt water and keep you alive so
it could Could keep you alive that tip.
So what we're providing is a really useful
kind of Educational tool for the viewers I
Travis Bader: tell you this much the
idea of hydrating through an enema had
never crossed my mind prior to that
But you know if I ever find myself in
that situation, maybe it'll be one of
those things that my mind can recall I
Neil Smith: mean, it is painful,
uh, cause you know, saltwater on
those, uh, very fine mucus membranes,
uh, is something that is kind of,
you know, not to be taken lightly.
I don't know whether you've
ever been a flotation tank.
Travis Bader: No, no, I haven't done that.
The idea of a flotation tank to me sounds
fantastic, but the idea that I don't know
how many other people have been floating
in this, in this bath and doing Lord knows
what, that, that doesn't appeal to me.
Neil Smith: Yeah, but you know what?
One of the things you've often told to
do is kind of, you know, grease around
the anus Protect it from the salt
Travis Bader: water.
I've never heard.
I didn't know that.
Okay, good to know
Neil Smith: I've
Travis Bader: got I've got ADHD.
So I tend to flow pretty
Neil Smith: easily Champion of
neurodiverse Uh, leaders and, uh, you
know, you know, not just, you know, I've
worked with neurodiverse leaders, but
you know, neurodiversity in the workplace
in general, you know, and in schools, I
think, I think this is another subject,
but it's one that's really close to my
heart, you know, that, yeah, my, my wife,
Just started teaching at a university,
on it, there was a saying, there was a
kind of question saying do you suffer
from a disability, and it said what, it
said tick the disability, ADHD, kind of
dyspraxia, and it's like, those aren't
disabilities, you see what I mean, I
would argue that ADHD is a superpower.
In ways, yes.
Because, you know, for me, obviously at
school, it was chaos because I was chaos.
Yeah.
But once I kind of came to
running a big company and I had 15
things to do at once, no problem.
Yeah.
Give me one thing to do.
I struggle.
Travis Bader: I can, I can relate to that.
What was school like for you growing up?
It was,
Neil Smith: yeah, it
was difficult, but fun.
I mean, it was fun for me, not so
much fun for my teachers, I imagine,
because I pathologically could not.
You know, I wasn't a bad kid, but because
I had such severe ADHD, I got moved
up years, down years, like excluded
from classes, subjects, whole subject
matters, you know, but, um, but you
know, my crowning glory at school, my
big achievement in my, in my own opinion
is we have these things called O levels,
which are exams you take first big
set of exams that you take around 16.
And, uh, I was excluded from
physics as a subject because,
uh, it was just too disruptive.
And so I had, they said, you've got
to teach yourself the rest of the
course, you know, so I, so I did.
And unfortunately for the school,
uh, I came top of the county.
Wow!
And, and the first day, or the first week
of the next year of school, You know,
they had to present me with an award.
Travis Bader: See, isn't that
Neil Smith: funny?
It's up in the county in physics.
And of course the whole school knew
that I hadn't been taught by them.
And so
Travis Bader: it was kind
of, isn't that funny?
Now, if a teacher could recognize
and provide somebody like yourself
with those tools to be able to get
from point A to point B in a way that
would work for you, man, the teacher
would be wearing all the accolades,
but instead it's you, it's on you.
I remember, but that's
Neil Smith: ADHD in action,
Travis Bader: you know, you know,
I got, uh, I, I did not fit in
with school, elementary school.
I graduated not because of my grades.
My teacher said I, she didn't want
to see me back in grade seven.
Again, she figured high
school would sort me out.
Uh, grades aren't good enough,
but I'm passing you anyways.
Get into grade eight.
I remember, well, I mean, just
acting out and the, the common
behavioral things you do.
Um, yeah.
And I remember, uh, we called
him Chuck Morris, uh, Charles
Morris was the teacher's name.
And, uh, I somehow was able to get under
his skin so badly by just my disruptive
behavior that he ran at me and he was,
uh, I'm, I'm, it was, I think six, four.
By the time I was in grade
seven, I'm six, six, 250.
Now, actually, when I met Barry,
he's like, he looks at me.
He's like, they should call you bear.
Anyway, anyways, um, He ran at me
and grabbed my throat with both
hands and just choking me out
on the, uh, the table behind me.
And this is a, um, a local
private school that I was going
to, and I was like, I got it.
I won't do anything.
I won't fight back.
I'm going to pass the class.
That was all that was going
through my head as he's doing.
Neil Smith: Yeah.
I teach you to be so violent.
I mean, you know, our teachers were,
you know, They were terrible, you know,
like, you know, hitting kids and with
whatever they could find, you know,
doing nowadays is that's all in the UK.
That's illegal now, so it became
illegal while I was in school, but
they, you know, that sort of stuff
that you've just described was.
Completely normal behavior at one point, I
Travis Bader: think, I don't know
how normal it was, but it was at
least accepted to the point that
it was, it was an all boys school.
And yeah,
Neil Smith: me too.
Me too.
Yeah.
So it was just accepted.
Mine was a, well, you know, it was
a public, you know, a free school,
you didn't need to pay to go there,
but it was, um, selective and it
was just for boys because, you
know, I was quite academic actually.
So I used to, that's how I used to get
through things because I was academically
quite gifted, I guess, you know, I could
get into trouble and they wanted to keep
me in because my grades were pretty good.
So I kept the average up.
Well, I ended up.
But they were like, if you
bring other people down too
much, then, then you're out.
Yeah.
Travis Bader: Well, I kind of did both.
It just depended on where, like, I
ended up graduating on the honour roll.
Uh, but I remember I, I spent a couple
of years at each different high school.
Cause I kept getting moved around, not
because we moved, but because of the ADHD.
And, uh, the last high school I was
at was rated worst in the province.
And, and, uh, and I hated it there, but
I wanted to be on the beach or I wanted
to be up the mountain snowboarding.
And so I tell the teachers, can you
tell me what's expected for the week?
Can you tell me what's
expected for the day?
I'm going to go across the
street to the university.
I'll go in the library.
I'll do my work.
And I had the rest of the day to myself
after about an hour to two hours of doing
my own work and I'm graduating with honors
teachers are like, we don't have this
behavioral problem in our, in our school.
And he's getting good grades.
Awesome.
So, you know, as, as I look at your
transition there, and maybe that makes a
bit more sense if you talk about the ADHD
and, you know, impulsivity would be one
of the things that kind of goes with it.
I'd say optimism as well.
Um, I find more of a glass
full than a glass empty person.
And I always know I can achieve what I'm
going to do, uh, whether the ends justify
the means at the end of it, like all
that effort I put in, it could have been
a lot easier if I did something else.
But you left some pretty high
profile, well paying gigs to go
into the crazy, crazy, crazy.
Neil Smith: Yeah.
I mean, what was I thinking if
I knew now what I, what I, you
know, well, if I knew that what I
know now, I'd never have done it.
That's not true.
It's not true.
But yeah, I had a midlife crisis,
I guess, you know, or, uh, other
people, you know, I heard of a
theory called second mountain theory.
Okay.
Yeah.
What is that?
So second mountain theory, so obviously
we've created an app for men, yeah,
because the reasons that, you know, we
should discuss why men need their own
product to help with their mental health
and fitness because, you know, they're,
they're not catered for, yeah, and
there's a mental health crisis, which
would be good to kind of dig into a bit.
But, um, but yeah, so, you know, but
there's this thing called second mountain
theory, yeah, which is Men tend to empire
build, you know, they protect themselves,
you know, so in our DNA we want to protect
yeah So ourselves, our family provide.
Yeah, that's in our DNA.
Yeah, so we protect and we provide and
we build and we build our Fortresses and
our careers if you like, you know, which
enable us to protect and provide provide
and you climb the maps you think, right?
I'm climbing this career.
So I'm you know, I'm a man.
I'm outcome focused.
I'm gonna get to the top of the mountain
Yeah, so it runs the top of the mountain.
It gets the top of the mountain and
Then you get to the top of mountain
And you realize, Oh, I'm at the
top of the mountain now, what next?
And you see another mountain over there.
And so I've got, that's the
mountain I've got to climb.
Second mountain there.
And basically it's kind of
like, you know, there I was.
I was kind of like, you know, I
got to the top of my profession.
You know, I have pretty severe ADHD as
you probably can appreciate Travis more.
I got to the top of my profession
more by luck than design.
Travis Bader: Funny, the harder
I work, the luckier I get.
Neil Smith: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So it's kind of, but you
know, I just did what I liked.
And that was making TV shows, yeah,
coming up with ideas, going out, filming
them, directing them, whatever, you know.
And then, you know, I got pretty good at
that, started selling a few of them, uh,
and, you know, ended up running, first a
company that made a lot of shows with Bear
and various other things, and then, um, a
bigger company, um, which made, you know,
some of the UK's biggest shows by far.
Um, and yeah, it paid really well.
And I had, um, you know,
everything done for me and I
had a big staff and a big team.
It's very comfortable,
but I was really unhappy.
I felt unfulfilled and I thought,
okay, well, I've got all these
skills, um, you know, this ability
to communicate, to take important
ideas and bring them to audiences.
You know, I need to do that for good.
I need to do something good in the world.
I need to have a purpose,
you know, beyond just.
Making telly and earning money and
you know that TV was good TV Entertain
people and the stuff that the adventure
stuff we did was great and I did some
stuff, you know I did stuff around like
homelessness where I took another survival
guy Ed Stafford right the 60 days.
Yeah, that's right And we
did 60 days on the streets.
Yeah So Ed normally he does a show called
naked and marooned or he's that's where
he started then that became marooned
on discovery Now he does first man out.
I think it's cool um And he's, you
know, very authentic survivalist.
So I said to him, and I just made
a show with him on, on Discovery.
And I said, look, Ed, you are ex,
ex military, adopted, um, male, and
have suffered from mental health
problems, which he's publicised.
All risk factors for
ending up on the streets.
There's a shocking homeless crisis
going out, going on in London.
Why don't we just do your show, your
60 days and 60 nights on a desert
island with nothing but a camera.
Let's do it rather than
on a desert island.
We'll do it on the streets of.
The UK cities over winter we do it over
Christmas You have to spend Christmas
out there and you'd live on this and
he just totally went for it spent 60
days fully immersed Surviving on the
streets as I'm this person Yeah, and
had a call incredible adventures and
that brought a massive audience to
homelessness because that was actually
the channels highest new rating series
For two years and remained so Wow for
another three after we after we did it,
you know And it was about homelessness,
which you think oh god I don't want to be
battered over the head with some worthy
kind of subject So so I thought okay.
Well, can I do that?
Can I do what I do really?
Well, which is taking important ideas
that may be a bit off putting to
people But are important You know, and
I'm able to communicate them to big
audiences and bring those audiences
because I do want that for something
that's really important to me, you know,
which in my case is, is mental fitness.
You know, so that, that's, that's
sort of led me to, to leaving.
And I mean, you know, I've gone on the
true founder's odyssey of going from
wealthy to skin re mortgaging their house.
You, you, you know, like my life
has changed completely, you know,
as a result of a passion project,
a vision, but it's something that I
felt the world needed and I wanted
Travis Bader: to put into it.
What did that unhappiness look
like and how long did it last
Neil Smith: for?
Okay.
So the unhappiness, that's a really,
that's a really interesting question.
So the unhappiness lasted
about six months, I suppose,
before I acted on it, I think.
And what it looked like the thing I
remember is the you know, I'm I I know
that I'm not motivated I'd love to
have some more money now, but I wasn't
particularly motivated by money then
and You know, I found myself counting
how much money I've made every day.
Mm hmm just to sort of Give me the
purpose for the day and that's when
I knew that this is this is just not
right Just thinking how much money if
I had to pay It's like and you know
the people I work with were great the
programs we working with great, but just
needed Strike out, you know, I needed,
there was a, I, I, there was a bigger,
I felt, you know, I just called to do
something else, you know, whatever you
want to call it, you know, the second
mountain theory, whatever it is, you
know, I had to do something else.
Um,
Travis Bader: yeah, you know, I
look at money as a motivator and
it's something that I've always
lived by, you know, I'm comfortable
having nothing or next to nothing.
That's how I grew up.
Yeah, me too.
Right.
A lot, a lot of people like that.
I have a little bit of something now
because I've, I've built something,
but if I lost that all tomorrow,
okay, I know I've got the ability
and talents to be able to rebuild it.
But if I make money, my driving factor,
I'm always going to be chasing the money.
But if I make the.
Project or the endeavor, whatever
it is that I'm passionate
about my driving factor.
I find that money will be a natural by
product of my hard work and my efforts.
And sometimes the end doesn't justify
the means from a financial basis,
but from a, uh, soul nourishing
aspect, I'm doing what I love and the
end absolutely justifies it means.
And whenever I find myself,
cause maybe it's an ADHD thing,
but I like to build something.
I like to create something, but.
The maintenance of something over
and over, come in, come out is, um,
the routine of the monotony of that
can be a difficult thing for me.
So I keep looking at
how I can keep growing.
Um, I think that in itself, always
looking how you can grow, how you can
grow, what you can do next can be tiring.
Are you like that?
Neil Smith: Yeah.
So my, what am I got?
So the, so one of the things that I did
at my last company was, um, you know,
they, we worked with kind of, you know,
I was on like a global leaders kind of.
And they get you to
create a personal purpose.
So my personal purpose, my dream,
the thing that I wanted to do, was
inspire wonder, greatness, and joy.
That was my kind of purpose.
I like that.
That's what I love doing.
So I love inspiring, you know, wonder,
in, you know, the shows that we made,
so people can lose themselves in it,
and joy, you know, and greatness.
I'd say, you know, in my team, you
know, I love to nurture a team.
Uh, and, you know, empower
them to, you know, grow.
Mm-Hmm.
. But my biggest kind of belief is was that
learning and growth are non-negotiable.
Mm-Hmm.
. So for me, learning and
growth and non-negotiable.
Yeah.
Without which I sort of die
inside I guess a little bit.
Mm-Hmm.
, you know, and, um, so I think that
was what was going on with me.
You know?
I just felt I wasn't learning and growing.
Yep.
So now, oh.
Wow, I got what I wish for, you
know, uh, you know, as you say, you
know, as a startup entrepreneur,
I'm all learning and growing.
There's nothing else but
learning and growing.
Yeah.
Um, so it's kind of like, be
careful what you wish for.
But, um, but, um, but yeah, I mean,
what are we here for arguably other
than to learn and grow, you know, it's
kind of like, it's, it seems to me
like a real kind of guiding principle.
And in fact, we've just been
working on our values for a company.
And.
And grow or growth or growing and quite
settled in, but growth is a, is one of
our principles because we have to, we
have, we all feel that we have to grow as
people and we need our company to grow,
to
Travis Bader: survive as well.
You know, there's, there's an interesting
dichotomy there as well, because for
people who want to grow, who want to
self improve, um, it's, it's sort of
like that old one with a Rockefeller and
a reporter asked him, like, you've got
so much money, like how much is enough?
And he says.
Just 1 more, same thing for
these people who want to grow.
Oh, just a bit more, just a bit more.
And there's an argument to be made
for how do we enjoy what we have now?
How do we come back and say, um,
I want to grow, but I'm going to
take a break for a little bit and
say, this is my enjoyment time.
Neil Smith: Yeah, absolutely.
Yeah.
So growth shouldn't be your right.
Cause growth, when it's happening
all the time, it's painful.
Yeah.
Nature teaches us that doesn't it?
Growing pains that kids have.
Which is when they're growing too fast.
Yeah, like when you start
starting up a new business.
Yes That's that's painful growth.
Yeah, it's enjoyable.
I'm loving it.
Um, But you know, there's there's
not much balance at the moment.
You see what I mean?
And that balance is it is important
Yeah, so you want to grow and you want
to learn and you want to enjoy don't you?
Yeah, that's the kind of you know, I
did ideally you want to You want to grow
a bit, learn a bit and then enjoy the
things you've grown into and learn about,
Travis Bader: I guess.
And I guess that's the tough
part with people who are like
looking at self betterment.
Well, yeah, that's right.
To what level?
Like, and yeah, that's interesting.
Am I comparing myself
against other people?
Or am I comparing myself
against what I was yesterday?
And when am I better in
these different areas?
Neil Smith: Yeah, absolutely.
So that's interesting because when we
were looking at this product, so our
product basically There's a really
simple toolkit for men, because we saw
that men were not being catered for.
But um, you know, in the UK and similar
in the US, I'm not sure about Canada,
suicide is the biggest killer of men under
50 now, which is a shocking statistic.
So like 80 percent now of all
suicides are male versus female.
And then, I've got all these tools, like
meditation, breath work, and Self hypnosis
that I've been using for years, but I
noticed that you know, most of my mates
weren't using them Yes, I talked to them
about and they kind of stare into their
pints and want to know what time the
football's on You know, it's kind of like
taboo subject and that's my expertise.
Yeah, like the homeless thing
Yeah, so it's kind of like
taking taboo subjects and blowing
them up making them acceptable.
So for me, it's about Making mental
fitness if you like or growth or
whatever you want to call it, you know
that betterment accessible to everyone
because what some of the things that
I had observed was there's a lot of
information out there but not much
transformation yeah so there's a lot
of information from it you know so like
you know whatever podcast you know the
Rogans or the Hoopermans or you know great
podcasts you know loads of information
but my wife was like I remember my
wife saying to me who doesn't Oh, yeah.
I've just said this podcast and this
guy's saying that the key to healthy
living is 17 different colors of
vegetables every day or whatever.
But last week you had the podcast and he
said that it was intermittent fasting.
Right, right, right, right.
There's so much information.
Yeah.
And there's not much transformation.
Yeah.
So what I wanted to do is make because
for a lot of people that information
is good as it is for me It's gonna
be confusing and difficult to follow.
Yeah, so much of it out there and
it's an industry I can ensure it
is You know, it's the manosphere or
whatever you want to call it is is
an industry that needs content to
feed it Well, there's a journalist.
I understand that, you know, so
it's not so much about the truth.
It's about What's engaging and what will
sell, you know, it's going to get me
bums on seats or list ears on headphones
or whatever we call it these days.
Um, you know, so it's kind of, um, you
know, but, but how do we just give people
some tools that they can just use at their
own pace and can transform them and they
don't need to think too much about it,
you know, like a simple breath work, being
able to control your breath, according
to when you want to sleep or you want
some energy in the morning or you want.
Uh, you know, you want to de stress.
Yeah, yeah, just relax.
Yeah, those are really transformational
tools that anybody can use.
Yeah, they're really accessible.
Yeah, so it's not about striving
for kind of some Unreachable goal of
perfection, you know, I'm no way in
that camp, you know, like I don't go to
the gym I try to keep fit, but I'm not
kind of you know, I'm like, you know
equally I'm not very good at meditation
even though I've been doing it since
I was like 11 12 years old Yeah, but I
still get the benefits of it And if we
can just share those tools with people
Then they can also benefit from them.
So I think, you know, that's something
that thing about growth and comparing,
you know, it does, we don't all
need to be David Goggins is what I
think I'm saying, you know, uh, we
just all need to be, would it all
benefit from being a bit better?
Yeah, so having slightly better physical
health or slightly better mental health
or mental fitness and, and, you know,
so it's just a progression that you go
on a journey that you go on at your own
pace, I think, you know, rather than
saying, I've got to be here in six weeks.
Travis Bader: Look, it's interesting,
like, you know, you're talking
about that second mountain and, uh,
Alan Watts, he's a lot of people
heard of him, philosopher, um.
Uh, I mean, if you look at his life,
he had a plethora of problems as well.
I mean, he, but he had some good things
that, uh, uh, that he could share
with people from his studies and his
learnings, but he has this neat one.
I think the afterschool SKOOL, they
do the little scribble drawings
and voiceovers of people and, um,
always find those fun because it's.
Engaging for an ADHD brain, but he, it's
got Alan Watts talking, talking about, you
Neil Smith: know, I'm familiar with it.
Yeah.
Travis Bader: You got all
of these, uh, promises.
Oh, you pay attention, you do
your homework, you'll graduate,
you'll get top of the class, right?
You go to high school, you get into
a good university, get a university,
get a good job, and you fed all of
these promises and it's up there.
Keep going.
Right.
There's that mountain.
You get to the peak.
And when you get to the peak, you
sit there and you say, is that it?
Right.
I've been fed this story this entire time.
That's right.
Is that it?
And he says, you get there and you realize
that the whole thing was a musical event.
You're supposed to be singing
and dancing along the way and
engaging and part of the process.
So that, that's, that made
me think of that Alan Watts.
Um, speech, but that second mountain
thing, you've been vocal about the
fact that I think it was in your
twenties, uh, you suffered depression.
Yeah.
Was that for similar reasons?
You weren't finding the, um, uh,
the purpose inspiring people or
what did that, what was that about?
You know what
Neil Smith: I don't actually know might
be, and there's a reason I don't know.
It's because I never.
You know, I never got it probably treated
by a doctor, I suppose, you know, so, you
know, I never delved into that side of
things or by a talk therapist or whatever,
you know, I never took medication for it.
So my experience with
depression is it came along.
Yeah, like when I was in my early
20s, I guess, you know, I think
I was just finished university.
I was still living near the university.
My, my doctor was.
The university, you know, the
university medical practice
and, and, and, you know, you know,
when you've got depression, you know,
there's, there's all the signs, yeah.
So I'm depressed.
Yeah.
So here I am.
I don't know what's caused it, but
you know, cause I was at the start of
my life, you know, then I was at the
start of my career and I was able to
progress my career along alongside
having depression for a long time.
I did really well.
I, you know, I started as a journalist
and then went into television
and I was always successful.
But I was kind of plagued.
Uh, uh, and I went to see, um, you
know, so it took all the current, like,
like many or potentially most men.
Yeah.
I didn't tell anybody about
it apart from my girlfriend.
Yeah.
And I think this is part of, you know,
the, the thing that we're trying to
tackle is just this, the men, you know,
there's a big message around mental
health for men that men don't talk.
Yeah.
And then need to talk.
Yeah, and I agree.
That's a really, really important
thing for men to do to talk about their
mental health and how they're feeling.
Yeah, because some men will very sadly
take their problems to the grave.
So, you know, sadly, I had an example of
it recently where a friend of mine, one of
his very good friends, took his own life.
Um, and you know, around the
time that he was doing it, you
know, like a few minutes before.
He was texting everyone on Whatsapp, or
Whatsapping everybody and taking part
in the banter kind of, do you know what
I mean, sending the memes and stuff.
Yeah, so he took it that far, he
couldn't speak, and so there's a
real imperative for men to speak
about their mental health, yeah.
However, that doesn't, telling men
to speak doesn't change behavior.
Yeah, very quickly, yeah, maybe over a
long period of time, but you know, we
can, you know, it's difficult, you know.
And so what we're trying to do
with metal is give people tools.
That can help improve their mental health
without them needing to talk to people
So that is kind of one of the things
that were really key to the app, you
know So here are some tools that don't
require you To talk about your mental
health with anybody because even though
i'm sitting here talking about mental
health with you Yeah on a podcast.
I still don't want to talk To my
mates about how I'm feeling on
a Friday night when I'm down the
park, I just, I just, I think
Travis Bader: a lot of people will
listen to podcasts so they can have these
conversations, at least listen to the
conversation without having to have that
difficult conversation and you've seen,
Neil Smith: so go on, so, you know,
just, just to go back to that kind of not
being able to talk, just to get back to
your, your question about depression, you
know, so I've experienced it for myself.
I was unable to talk to anybody
about it because I was depressed.
Yeah.
And so eventually somehow I got the
confidence, um, to go to the doctors.
Um, as my colleague, uh, um, and,
you know, took all the strength
I had to, to make, to, to go and
see a doctor and tell, tell them.
And so, you know, all these, all the
strength I had and I went to see a
doctor and, and, you know, I said, I
think I've got depression and he said.
I'm just going to stop you there.
Depression is over the road
in occupational therapy.
So you just need to go over there
and make an appointment with them.
And of course, so I got
up, completely destroyed.
And I didn't go over the
road and make an appointment.
I went to the pub and I got drunk.
And I continued ignoring you know,
what needed to be dealt with for
the next, best part, 10 years.
To be honest.
So that's kind of a, I think
that's an example of, you
know, men don't like talking.
Let's try and improve.
Let's try and get them better
at it, but it will take time.
And in the meantime, what
else can we do to help them?
You know, give them some practical tools.
Yeah, so that's I guess what
we're trying to do here.
But that's I guess how that
depression fit into my life.
And also, I ended up being cured
of it through clinical hypnotism,
which is one of the things
Travis Bader: that we have on the app.
Yeah, you do.
You got a pretty famous
hypnotist on the app there.
Neil Smith: Yeah, that's right.
Paul McKenna.
Yeah, who's kind of the
world's most famous hypnotist.
And again, you know, he, you know,
he kind of, you know, came on board.
I said to him, look, Paul, we got this
app, there's all this stuff out there.
You know, which is generalist, but
all the science shows because we're
working with universities and charities
that men need their own specific,
gender specific interventions, you
know, the best outcomes, you know,
men respond best to things that are
just for men because they feel safe.
Yeah.
So the reason men don't want to talk
is because they feel vulnerable.
Men, we're taught, we're trained
not to feel vulnerable because
we're always strong, the provider,
the hunter, whatever you want.
Bullet that archetype can't be vulnerable.
Yeah, so why would we admit to somebody
that our mental health is in a poor place?
Yeah, so it's kind of like, you know,
we need So many so what we've tried to
do with metal is make it a safe place
So it's just for men, you know, so they
feel there's, there's no judgment there.
They can't say it's too, so the
objections to using a lot of things
that are on the market, some of the
other apps that are on the market, which
might contain similar things, might
contain meditation and breath work and
hypnosis and stuff, is that, you know,
the three objections that we found.
On interviewing a couple hundred
men with two female, two hippie ish,
and there's nothing wrong with me.
Yep, so two female makes men feel
vulnerable, yeah, so it's just
for men, takes that one away.
Two hippie ish makes men feel
vulnerable, I don't want to
be associated with that stuff.
Okay, well we're completely
straight, talking in science
back, takes that objection away.
Third thing, third objection,
there's nothing wrong with me.
Men don't want to talk, admit that
there's anything wrong with them.
Well, we're not saying there
is, that's why we have a mental
fitness, not mental health.
You know, I said to Paul, look,
we're doing this app, there's
nothing out there for men.
You know, we want to change the
world and give them just great
content that can change their state.
And Paul has written books on, you
know, how to beat anxiety and, um,
you know, how to be more successful.
Uh, Change Your Life in Seven Days was a
book that I Read and listened to of his,
which did change my life to me a little
longer than seven days, but, uh, but, you
know, create, get me incredible tools.
And so can we tell, tailor them for men?
Can we kind of, you
know, build them for men?
And he's like, absolutely.
And he came on board and that was just.
Well,
Travis Bader: there's a bunch of things
I'd like to unpack and what you're saying
there, uh, one thing, if I work my way
backwards, I was talking with a friend
of mine, he's actually British army
sergeant and, uh, talking generally about
the app and you and sort of what you're
endeavoring to do, he says, Uh, we, as
men have been conditioned to suppress
our emotions, especially in the military.
You can't process events and
incidents if you are suppressing
your emotions and feelings.
And, you know, the, the other thing
I'll read out here, because you
have developed in that specific
for men, and you talk about, you
know, 80 percent male versus female.
And I tried doing some research, uh,
On this and get actual numbers and
they don't keep really good records
of, uh, suicide and these percentages
in a way that's, um, that makes sense.
Like for example, I don't see a
chronic liver failure from, uh, just.
Alcoholism being slotted into the
suicide list or opiate crisis and
fentanyl overdoses, but all of these
things fit into mental health and,
uh, And the deaths that happen there.
So, and, and, you know, the 80
percent for men versus women, is that
because, uh, there's more men that
are committing suicide or is that
because men typically will choose a
more final solution than, than women,
women typically will use pills.
Men will use firearms.
I mean,
Neil Smith: statistically speaking, yeah,
I mean, what I'd say is I'm not an expert.
This is not my area of expertise.
So I don't want to kind of, you know,
really say definitively, but some of
the things we've heard are, you know,
A, men don't, you know, the thing that
we discussed, men don't talk, they
suppress their emotions, therefore they
will bottle them up until they can't
cope, yeah, so that's one way, women
are much more likely to talk to their
friends, you know, so like, just, what
I can do is give you examples from my
own life, so, you know, I go out with
my best mate, one of the people I had
in mind when building this app, because
you know, he's physically fit, mental
health could do with some improvement,
you know, but he needs to feel safe.
To use it.
Now he's using this app, but, um,
but you know, I go out, him, have
a night out, I come back, my wife
says, oh, how are, how are, how
are, you know, how are his family?
I'm like, oh.
I don't know.
I did not.
I didn't ask.
They hadn't
Travis Bader: come up.
We're guys, that's not how we
Neil Smith: interact.
We had a few drinks, we had some banter.
It's like, how could it, but
you've just been with him.
You know, like, it's
gonna, she can't compute.
It just didn't come up.
Sorry, I forgot to ask
about his wife and kids.
I'm sorry.
It's just, you know, we were
out having a few drinks.
We had a really good night and, you know,
that's, but that's, that's quite typical.
You know, so men and women are different.
And, you know, the science
shows that they need different.
One of the big things and why certainly
in the UK, a lot of the charities are
focused on that message of men need
to talk because there's this thing,
the That will lead them, as I said, I
gave that example earlier, that will
sometimes lead them to take their own
lives because they can't talk, yeah?
They'd rather do that than talk
to somebody about their problems.
Some people, yeah?
So that's number one
that we, that we know.
And what we're trying to do is,
oh for a bit, you know, we're not
trying to deal with people at the end
of that, at that end of the scale.
It's important to say, you know, we're
trying to, this is for everyone, yeah,
to try and be a bit more mentally fit.
But, you know, it also hopefully, or
certainly the evidence shows that if you
use the tools, In this app, then you're
less likely to suffer from depression
and anxiety than people who aren't.
So those are just, those
are just the knowns.
And that's the first
controversial science or anything.
That's pretty standard knowledge.
Travis Bader: The best time for you
to get physically fit isn't when
you're three, four hundred pounds.
You're missing the boat on that one.
It's right now.
Right now as you start to get out.
Yeah,
Neil Smith: yeah, yeah.
So get mentally fit.
And you're going to perform
better in every area of your life.
So just going back, sorry, I was just
slightly referring to something you
said earlier, but it's kind of like men
aren't allowed to express their emotions.
The one emotion they're allowed to
express, traditionally, is anger.
The men are supposed to
express everything, you
know, that's the acceptable.
It's both unacceptable and acceptable.
So it's unacceptable as in, um, you
know, you got angry, or you know,
there's a man, he's got angry, it's
like, but it's the, like, society,
you know, societally, it's the only.
Emotion that men are supposed to express
his anger and that's where everything
you're not supposed to cry, etc, etc.
So I think, you know, going to your,
um, your army, uh, friend's point.
I think that, so that's one thing.
And I think the other thing is you
touched on is perhaps men are more able.
I think that's some of the
evidence points towards that.
Yeah, final means.
That's right.
But, you know, as I say, we're trying
not to focus on that side of things.
Although there's clearly a problem
and you know, it's sort of a, it's
sort of a tricky balancing act,
you know, as we say, you know, the
problem is male, male mental health,
but the solution is mental fitness.
Yeah, so if you're mentally fit, so, you
know, if you're physically fit, you're
less likely to get diseases, aren't you?
You know, you're less, you know, you're
less likely to suffer, you know, from,
you know, if you're physically fit,
you're less likely to suffer from
fatty liver disease, for example, or
heart disease or And cancers, etc.
Do you say, I mean, so it's kind
of like, if you're mentally fit, of
course, you're less likely to suffer
from poor mental health conditions,
you know, well, we also have,
Travis Bader: sorry, I was gonna
say, I'm going to read something
here from the Mayo Clinic.
And it says, uh, depression is one of the
most important risk factors in suicide.
Unfortunately, male depression is
underdiagnosed because men are less
likely to seek help and because men
don't always develop standard symptoms,
such as sadness, but instead are
more likely to experience fatigue,
irritability, sleep disturbances, and
a loss of interest in work and hobbies.
So I thought I'd read that out just, you
know, cause most people think about mental
health or depression as, okay, I'm sad.
Well, according to the Mayo Clinic, men
tend to display it in that sort of a way.
Um, and, you know, I'm sure you've
seen the Norfolk FC, uh, ad.
For the, uh, powerful, powerful ad
for people who haven't seen that one.
I'd say Google it basically in a nutshell.
It's these two individuals
watching their favorite football
team over and over again.
And there's in this, in the bleachers
and there's one guy is cheering and
happy and his buddy beside him is
looking sullen and withdrawn and.
Each, each game, same
thing over and over again.
And then the final game, the guy shows
up who's still unwithdrawn and puts
his buddy's jersey beside him because
the guy who was happy and cheering
was actually the guy who was suffering
from the mental health problems.
It's not
Neil Smith: always clear.
No, it isn't.
You have to be careful around that.
I mean, I was that person.
You were Richard Corey.
I was.
Who's Richard Corey?
Sorry.
Travis Bader: Edwin Arlington Robinson
wrote a poem called Richard Corey.
Whenever Richard Corey went downtown,
we people on the pavement looked at him.
He was a gentleman from soul to crown,
clean favoured and empirically slim.
And he was always quietly arrayed.
And it was always human when he
talked, but still he fluttered
pulses when he said good morning,
and he glittered when he walked.
And on we worked, and waited for the
light, and curse of bread, and Richard
Quarry, one calm summer's night, went
home and put a bullet through his head.
The Richard Cory's of the
world are the ones that you
have to kind of look out for.
And if you have the tools to be able
to identify what these things look
like, withdrawn, irritable, uh, lack
of sleep, lack of interest in these
things, maybe, maybe we should be taking
that initiative and saying, Hey, you
should talk to somebody, or do you
want to talk or, Hey, there's this
app called metal that I've been using.
That's been, uh, I got
a couple of cool tools.
Neil Smith: Because, you know, even
if, you know, even if the tools don't
resonate with you and you're more and you
need more specialist help, we at least
have a help page telling you where to
Travis Bader: go.
And you don't find that in other places?
Neil Smith: No, no, no,
it's not on other apps.
So, you know, we felt that was
really strongly that was something
that we wanted to include.
But, but, you know, so yeah, I was
the, by the way, I can see why you
were an honors student, Travis.
That was an excellent recital.
very much.
Um, but, you know, but, but just,
you know, I was a great mascot.
So my, you know, my best mate who I
talked about, uh, earlier, you know, he
was somebody I had in mind for the app
only found out that I had depression
when he read about it a couple of
months ago in a national newspaper.
You know what I mean?
It's like, well, I didn't know that.
The life when I was, you know,
we were going out every day.
These are the people
Travis Bader: closest to you.
Yeah, it's exactly that advert, you
know, uh, I, I think in my head, um,
how often do you think about your hot
water tank and it flooding in your house?
Probably never, right?
Most people probably never.
I know a fellow and he goes around,
he shows everybody this little alarm.
You can put underneath your hot water
tank and when moisture hits it, an
alarm goes off and it can notify you.
Why is it on his mind?
Why is he talking about these things?
Because it's affected him personally.
And so these are little things that
I look out for when talking about
people, things to keep coming up.
It's there's, there's a reason for it.
And, um, maybe, maybe it's not as
obvious as someone coming out and
saying, Hey, I've got an alarm or I've
got this, but if there is a common
thread to the conversation, maybe,
maybe there's something that should
be dug into a little bit deeper.
Yeah, absolutely.
Neil Smith: I mean, I, I can
sympathize with him by the way,
because I've had boiler problems
that really expensive to fix.
Travis Bader: Have you heard of
the Australian sheds initiative?
Yes.
This is where I see metal moving to
my personal from an ADHD standpoint
and loving to build and create things.
I see it moving from a mobile app to a
movement, sort of like rucking, right?
Rucking, they got communities
and people get together and they
put their pack on and they'll go
and they'll get their exercise.
To be able to facilitate a boots on the
ground community of people who can, and
for people who haven't heard of the sheds
initiative, uh, in Australia, they found
that men were not likely to go and sit
down and talk about what's going on in
their life with their mates, but you
give them a project to work on, they
build a shed and they've got different
woodworking or they have a motor that,
uh, needs rebuilding on a lawnmower and
they get a group of men working together.
They'll talk, they've got a shared
focus or working on something.
And they'll, they'll talk about
things that maybe they wouldn't
normally open up or talk about.
And so that's exploded in Australia.
I can see a similar thing
being, uh, driven by
Neil Smith: metal.
Yeah.
Yeah, absolutely.
I mean, being a movement is
something we want, ultimately want.
To be, you know, we want to
create a community at the moment.
We have to focus on the app.
Of course the app is expensive
Travis Bader: You gotta
recoup those costs.
Come on
Neil Smith: Exactly, you know, and that's
a really good first start because it gets
us into the pockets and you know the the
lives Potentially of millions of men.
Well, yeah, but ultimately You know
metal we want to be synonymous with male
mental health, you know mental fitness,
you know, so it's kind of like okay
well that means the community that means
at events that means kind of things
happening in the real world to support
men and Like our whole, uh, our mission,
our central mission is to help men be
better because we believe if we have
better men, then we have a better world.
Yeah.
Men are good at messing things up.
Yeah.
Every, every woman has a man
in her life and vice versa.
Yeah.
So a lot of women really are
in great support of this.
You know, it's kind of like, I think so.
Like only.
Yesterday I speak to somebody
who'd approached me because his
wife said, you've got to download
this, get a grip on your anger.
He's heard about it on
a podcast or whatever.
And it's like, you know, now he's on it.
And then I spoke to him,
he's like, I love it.
But it's kind of, um, yeah.
Have you,
Travis Bader: have you, um, read that
study from Harvard, the longest study
of his kind, 80 years that followed
different people from all different
backgrounds to try and determine what
brings happiness into their life.
Neil Smith: Well, if it starts with
the longest, having ADHD, that's a no.
I mean, you know, that's where
tldr, you know that phrase tld?
That is my, yeah, too long.
Travis Bader: Didn't I use eif, ELIF.
Right.
And it's explained.
What's that?
Explain?
Like I'm five and I type that, yeah.
I type that into ai.
I've got an app on my phone, call po
or I'll use GPT or whatever, right?
eif and I give the link and it'll
come through and to give, like I'm a
5-year-old to give the main points and
then I can dig deeper if I want to.
Um,
Neil Smith: correct.
But.
Yeah, that's quite the, yeah,
that's, that's how I have to work.
Travis Bader: They said the number
one predictor of happiness across
all ages, genders, uh, backgrounds
was strong social connections.
And I would think, I know you're
step one, just out of the gates
with metal, man, if there's a
way to get a boots on the ground.
Movement of people getting together and
be able to build those social connections.
Cause building a social connection
within an app is an important is
important, but I think the actual
physical connection that people can
have is one of the things that people
are dearly missing in today's society.
Neil Smith: Yeah, a hundred percent agree.
Yeah.
And you know, that's, you know, obviously
we were talking about the flip side
of that is that makes people happy.
Oh, totally.
Part of that.
It, it, it's the people without social
connection, that's one of the biggest
risks, um, of somebody taking their own
lives, is, is that they're missing that.
So you know, that, it works all the way
across the spectrum, social connection.
And I
Travis Bader: wonder if it's one of
these things where, you know, it seems
overwhelming, it seems massive, but the
reality of It, it's just these tiny little
tweaks and there really isn't much to it.
Like, I think there's a danger to going
to talk therapy or going to, um, uh,
medication, getting medicated too quickly,
uh, because people come in with this
approach that there's gotta be something
wrong with me and maybe I feel like I'm
down or I feel like I should be ABC.
And maybe instead of saying, well,
there's got to be something wrong with me.
Say how I'm feeling right
now is absolutely natural.
Given my current circumstances, given the
fact that I don't have a goal or I'm not
driven or I lack, uh, I'm not exercising.
I'm not eating right.
I'm not meditating or I'm not sleeping
like these, how I'm feeling is a very.
Natural by product and rather than
looking at it, like I have a problem,
um, Looking at it like here's some
simple steps or solutions that I
can take in order to get there.
And I guess the fear is that you go
to medication too quick and people get
hooked on these things or the wrong ones.
And it's really a throwing of the
dice when you try and figure out what
meds are going to work with somebody.
Or you look at talk therapy
and you got the wrong person.
I mean, it's never going to click for you.
But if you can have those strong
social connections with your mates.
And it's like the old crocodile Dundee
one, when he's, uh, talking, they're
at a party and, and he says, that
guy's a psychologist or a psychiatrist.
What's that?
And I forget his, uh, friend's name there.
She says, well, you know, you go
in, you pay him a bunch of money.
You talk about your problems
and he helps you out.
You keep going there over
and over and you get.
You get some results and she
says, well, don't you have
anything like that down under?
He says, Oh, we got the bartender.
We tell him our problems.
He tells everybody else, no more problem.
Right.
And maybe it's as simple as that
for, for not everything, but
Neil Smith: yeah.
So that's a really, that's really
interesting because obviously
that was delivered as a joke, but
it has a huge amount of truth.
So certainly in the UK, a
movement that starts in the UK is.
Barbers, so it's like men will
relax when they get in a haircut.
Yeah, they just talk to their barber.
So a lot of barbers now are
being trained in, you know.
being able to spot kind of mental health
things, but also, you know, community,
how to communicate with men and help
them out and point them in the direction,
right direction if they need it.
Um, you know, black men especially, uh,
can often use the barbers as a community.
Totally.
A lot of people will be in there.
And so we've been working with some guys
who, who, um, are in that community who,
um, you know, uh, uh, really making great
strides because, because You know, in the
black community, uh, uh, mental health
outcomes are even, even worse for black
men than white men in the, in the UK.
Um, and, uh, and they find it
perhaps harder to talk, um,
because of cultural reasons.
And, but the barbers is
one of the safe spaces.
So, you know, actually that telling
the bartender or the barber.
Is becoming now a real place where, um,
people can make an impact on male mental
health because it's, it's accessible.
I feel comfortable there.
Yeah, I don't, I'm, I'm, I'm happy
to let my guard down for a moment.
Right.
It's a place to go
Travis Bader: to relax.
Right.
Yeah.
And I'm not going to be judged.
And if I'm laughed at, it's going a way
because they actually care about me.
Right.
And it's my peers.
Neil Smith: Yeah, it doesn't
cost me anything either.
Travis Bader: Yes, totally.
That's an important piece of the puzzle.
I love that.
Um, that's good.
So you just launched it.
You got it out of the gates.
Um.
Initial traction, like testing.
I know I was looking at some of the stats.
I was through the roof, the
Instagram, Facebook, seeing what
the results are back on that.
Everyone knows was likely aware
that people keep talking about
the next pandemic is going to be a
pandemic of mental health, right?
And it's that we are in a mental health
crisis, which maybe, maybe that's a
good thing, maybe the pandemic, and
maybe these things that have come.
Push people to a point of mental health
is good from the, um, the path of least
resistance principle or Zipf's law.
I think they call it.
Have you heard of that one before?
So they say, um, I guess this guy did,
uh, got his name associated with it, but
essentially let's say you got to seek out
a An answer to a problem you have, and
you can look in your building and there's
a generalist who has acceptable answers,
or you can go to the next building
over and you can get the specialist
who will give you the bang on answer.
Well, it's easier just to
talk to the generalist.
Cause I'm going to get
the acceptable answer.
That's the easy part.
If you push it harder, right?
If there's enough pain involved, you're
going to seek out the actual solution.
So maybe it's kind of like, well.
Um, I'm, I'm in a
relationship and it's okay.
I'm not happy, but I'm not bad.
And he'll just carry
this relationship out.
But if it becomes violent
or really bad, okay.
You know, path of least resistance
now is to leave this relationship
and seek out something new.
So maybe the pandemic and the
media concentrating on all these
negative things is actually pushing
people to a point where they're
like, mental health is important.
We're going to have to move.
Neil Smith: Uh, you know, I think that's.
There's a, there's a lot of truth in
that, you know, like if you just take
the last pandemic, you know, it made
people completely reevaluate their
lives and, uh, you know, certainly
that's for me when I made my big change.
I also kind of reevaluated my
relationship with my family as many
people, many men especially did.
I think, you know, so huge
amount of change was forced.
Through a difficult situation, you know,
and now my relationships certainly,
you know, with my family are a lot
closer I would say, you know because
people were able to think okay.
Well, how important is
balance, you know in the world?
What what is important when a lot's taken
away, you know, our freedom effectively
is taken away from us What's important
and what do I want to when I go back when
the world goes back to normal What bits
am I just going to get back to normal
or are things going to be different now?
And like, you know things have changed
so You know it's not the norm that
Certainly not that everybody goes to work
in the office every day You know, people
might do a day or two from home or more.
Yeah.
And that's perfectly normal now, but it
wasn't before the pandemic, you know,
it just, it wasn't, you know, zoom.
Yes.
Yeah.
So when I, so as a TV producer, if
I wanted to pitch a show to LA and I
lived in London, I have to fly to LA.
As soon as, as soon as COVID
happened, obviously the option.
wasn't available.
Yeah, everybody moved to zoom.
And since COVID's over, everybody's
stuck on that because it's like, well,
why would I fly to LA to pitch a show?
Just get on the zoom.
Yeah.
It's kind of like, so these things do
force change, you know, they're, they're
hard, but you know, it's kind of,
there's been a lot of positive change.
Travis Bader: Well, how are you
managing the stress of a startup as
well as those boundaries of work time?
Because I know doing startups
myself, I like to joke, you know,
you know, I've got my own business.
I can take time off whenever
I want, which is true.
You can, but the reality is you don't,
the reality is that it's always on your
mind and you're working when you wake
up and you're working, when you go to
sleep and you're talking with your spouse
about work and how do you manage that?
Yeah.
So
Neil Smith: a couple of points there.
You know, somebody told me a while ago,
you know, so a coach that I was working
with about, you know, you shouldn't
really look at work life balance, work
life balance anymore, because that's
just going out the window, and it's
going to go out the window, you know.
Think about work life integration, yeah.
So it's kind of like, you know,
okay, well, yeah, I'm talking to
my spouse about, you know, metal.
I'm waking up and thinking about it.
But I'm not necessarily in the
office the whole time doing that.
Do you see what I mean?
So I'm making sure.
The, I spend plenty of time at home.
We don't work long hours here, but we
think about the products all the time.
Not true.
When we're building the product, we often
did have to work very long hours, but
you know, but, and we still do actually,
but not always from the office, you know?
And, you know, I make sure, you know,
our CTO, just after we launched the
product, he went to Mexico on holiday for
two weeks, which is a really bad time.
I remember
Travis Bader: I talked to you
then when he was on holidays.
Yeah.
It's a really bad
Neil Smith: time for him to go.
But he needed to go and
we wanted him to go.
Yeah.
Because he needed that break.
Break.
Obviously the product broke.
Mm-Hmm.
, you know, but not too badly while he
was away and, and, and, you know, came
back and refreshed and ready to go,
you know, I'm going away for a week
on, you know, to to, to do some surfing
and some yoga and some meditation.
Nice.
Uh, in a couple of weeks because I
need, I need a break and I think it's.
You know, I say that if we can't,
if we create a mental health app and
then our mental health is destroyed
by the process of building that
app, then we've failed, you know,
that's what it comes down to for me.
Travis Bader: Yeah.
Lead by example.
Neil Smith: Also, do the tools work?
So, you know, the acid test for me was,
okay, now I'm in a really stressful
situation, which is I've launched
a new business and it's stressful.
Do the tools on metal work for me?
And the answer is yes they do, because
I partly built the app because I
wanted something decent that works.
I love that.
Travis Bader: I love that.
Neil Smith: That's the best one.
And so like, you know, yesterday
I, you know, I've got, I do the
courses, I do the quick hits.
Yesterday I was feeling stressed.
Yeah.
And we've got like a
little chat bot thing.
This is how you feel.
I pressed stressed.
So why?
Work is, work is full on.
So it served me up a couple of
breathworks from stress and anxiety
and I did them, I felt better.
Um, so, you know, built a tool
to help me build the tool.
I love it.
Travis Bader: I love it.
What, what do you see in the future?
Like, I mean, it's hard to look future
when you're in a thick of a launch
and, and getting things out there.
What do you see in the next foreseeable
future in the distant future for metal?
Yeah.
Neil Smith: Well, so in, in,
in the very close future, we
want to make the app better.
You know, we want to, now we've got a
user group, we want to listen to them and,
and feedback and make it more accessible,
easier to use, use your things, you know,
where you quite UK kind of focus, we're
available everywhere, but a lot of our
marketing budget has been spent in the
UK, so we need to kind of broaden out, and
you know, so the whole world knows about
us, uh, but ultimately it's what you said
earlier, we want to become a movement, you
know, we want to become synonymous with
men's fitness, you know, there's so much
There's no voice there that you can name.
There's no brand, you know, not
an authentic brand, you know, that
stands that actually do something
about men's mental fitness, you know?
And it's kind of like, well,
that's what we need to step into.
So those are our plans.
But in the meantime, yeah, we've got to.
You know, it's all, you know,
it's all, um, all feet on deck.
Is that the phrase?
I can't remember.
All hands on deck.
Yes.
All hands on deck.
Not
Travis Bader: feet.
I could do both.
Neil Smith: Yeah.
Hands on feet.
All hands and feet are on deck.
Just trying to improve the app.
Um, but yeah, certainly the longterm focus
has got to be, you know, helping men be
better because we believe that if they're
better men, we've got a better world.
And that's, that's what
we're doing it for.
It's a passion project for everyone.
That's another one of our values, passion.
Because we're all in it, because
we're completely passionate.
None of us are doing it for money.
You know, that's for sure.
Um, you know, it's quite funny the
people's perceptions of tech and, you
know, oh, you know, , it's kinda like
it doesn't really work like that.
Travis Bader: Um, I mean,
some hit everyone compares.
Yeah.
Some
Neil Smith: hit.
And if you hit right, yeah,
I'd love, I'd love it to hit.
Of course I would.
Yeah.
I'd love to make lots of money off it.
Of course, I'd be lying
if I said I wasn't.
But that is not enough to motivate
you to do something like this.
No.
All of us have taken
huge pay cuts to do this.
You know, uh, and we do it
because we're passionate.
We really believe there's something there.
We really believe there's
a gap in the market.
We really believe there's a mission.
And when we hear from, when we
get feedback, you know, not all
of the feedback is positive, and
that's what we're working on.
But most of it is positive.
And people are saying, Oh, I never
thought I'd meditate until I tried Chibs.
He's our meditation coach.
Yeah, he's good, eh?
He's so cool.
And now I'm doing it every day.
You know, it's like, you know, we had
a guy in Hawaii write to us, and he's
kind of like, You know, I've just had
open heart surgery, I'm recovering, I
found metal, I'm using it every day,
it's really helping with my mental
state, you know, we're getting better.
We've had lots like that, you know,
somebody in the military writing to
us says, I want to get this out to all
my My soldiers is really helping me.
And that's, that's what you do it for.
Yeah.
Travis Bader: You know, a friend of mine
just had his blig amputated a couple
of days ago and, uh, I'll be visiting
him as soon as we wrap up here, but he
started a local movement of, uh, mental
health walks and he does it every,
every, uh, second Sunday going out and
doing a mental health walk after an
individual that we know, uh, attempted
to take his own life was unsuccessful.
Ended up losing an eye and
bullet went under his chin and
out through his forehead here.
Um, and regrets the second
he pulled the trigger.
He says he regretted the decision.
And I mean, the fellow is a
PPCLI, Princess Patricia's
Canadian Light Infantry.
Sniper, he says, I know where
the bullet's supposed to go.
He says, but at the very last
moment, it was intoxicated.
It was a Christmas time.
And, um, very last moment before
he pulled the trigger, he heard a
booming voice says, change the angle.
And he doesn't know what
to attribute that to.
He's found faith afterwards and
says, I think that's what it was.
But like, I know where the bullet's
supposed to go, ended up having to.
Affect his own self rescue, but
that affects everybody around you.
I mean, people look at this permanent
solution to whatever their temporary
pain is without realizing perhaps,
or maybe in the moment, not caring
that the pain that you have.
Affects your entire family afterwards.
Everybody has to carry that.
Your friends end up carrying it.
And so this individual, he went
out and said, I'm going to make
something positive of this.
And he started these mental health
walks that they do every, every Sunday.
Of course, now he's going to have
a little bit of a recovery time.
Um, maybe I should get him a subscription
to metal while he's in the hospital.
They're recovering to help
with the, uh, the meditation.
Neil Smith: Well, you know, just
people are using it for that.
It's good.
And you know, as I say,
that's what we're all about.
You know, it's about.
You know, for me it was my,
it was my personal journey.
You know, I found these tools, you know,
I started meditating at the age of 11 to
cope with the neurological illness that
I had, you know, which made, which I have
still have, but just doesn't present,
but which was made me shake really badly.
When I was a kid, it was
called benign intention tremor.
So by the time I was 11, I couldn't get
a teaspoon of sugar into a cup of tea.
My hands would shake so
Travis Bader: badly.
It's hereditary, isn't it?
That's a hereditary disease, isn't it?
It's hereditary.
My uncle has it, yeah.
How's your uncle dealing with it?
Is it similar?
Neil Smith: Uh, so, you know, my
uncle is still very visible in him.
Yeah.
Uh, when I was 11, it
was very visible in me.
He went to, you know, to seek out
kind of anything we can do about it.
And, you know, met a doctor who
said, well, It's an untreatable
disease theoretically, but there's
this thing called meditation.
We've heard of that that might help
with him And so he came back and gave
me some tapes, you know And I started
meditating every day and that's how I
got into it and it completely transformed
my my shaking I stopped shaking.
I should have you know, my
rights be shaking all the time.
It's not
Travis Bader: crazy the power of the brain
Neil Smith: Yeah, it's
the power of the brain.
Yeah.
Mm-Hmm.
. So that transform, that's
how I, you know, got into it.
Start with, and then the breath work,
you know, again, really quick way of
transforming your physiological state.
Um, uh, and hypnosis, you know,
was I got to through having
depression, that been my way there.
So all of these things are things
that work for me in my life.
And so, you know, I'm just really proud
and honored that I'm able to share them
with other people and that they're.
Having a positive effect, you know,
we're not going to get everything right
in the first but people are responding
Travis Bader: Well, is there anything
else that we should be talking about that?
We haven't talked about
Neil Smith: Maybe why in Canada ice hockey
fights are allowed to go on for as long
Travis Bader: as That's a good
question, that's a good question
Neil Smith: Nothing to do with
what we're talking about Cause
they just don't stop them.
They don't seem to stop them.
Or they, they stop them at some point.
Yeah, no.
Yeah.
I think my son was watching
someone on YouTube the other day.
You know,
Travis Bader: I think the rules
are if they hit the ground, okay.
It's stopped.
But until then you go, I've
Neil Smith: got it.
Right.
Until they hit the ground.
Yeah.
Travis Bader: Here's an unpopular opinion.
I'm sure, like you mentioned earlier
about men, they can only, uh,
generally speaking, the emotion that
they're encouraged to share is anger.
That's right.
And there's some people who would
say that and make small show.
Mixed martial arts and jujitsu is just
a, uh, legitimizing male touching where
women, it's okay for them to hug and
interact and they'll do their hair.
This is a way that men can interact
because, and I know I'll catch a
lot of heat from some people who are
right into it, but they say, Hey, the.
Big, a draw for some people, aside
from the fact that, you know, it's
good in physical conditioning, mental
conditioning, you get, uh, some skills
you can take away to be a protector,
but you're forming social bonds
with other men in a way that would
not be socially acceptable outside
Neil Smith: of that.
Yeah.
I think, I think, you know, I think that,
um, you know, so I know a few people
who do MMA, I think they probably, they
probably agree that that brotherhood,
if you like, is, is very strong.
There's a lot of respect in
that community, you know.
You don't get, you know, it's, you
tend not to get people with big egos.
You know, it's kinda like, you know, okay.
You know, top performers,
maybe , but you know, in general.
Mm-Hmm.
, the guys who are doing it.
Yeah.
You know, there's a community there.
They feel really passionate
about it, you know?
Um, you know, I, I, I, I, I know somebody
who, who's a, an ex alcoholic who, you
know, just went to, you know, afterwards,
kind of just went to AA meetings.
and MMA classes.
That's where he got his community from.
That's where he kind of, do you know,
that's where he got his strength from.
Both of those are communities, you know.
Very much so.
So yeah, so there's, so yeah, well,
Travis Bader: I'm going to put some
links up to the app and, uh, make sure
people have information to the things
that we're talking about in here.
Uh, Neil, thank you so much for
taking the time to be on this podcast.
I really enjoy getting to know you better.
Neil Smith: I have to
Travis myself and you,
it's been, it's been a delight,
you've been a great host.
So I'm gonna retreat into my evening and
you're gonna get on with your morning.
Yeah, exactly.
I loved it