Riding The Wave

Riding the Wave tackles complacency. Hosts AYD and MJ share personal stories of how complacency impacted them. They define complacency as satisfaction with the status quo, hindering motivation to improve. The episode explores how losing sight of goals can lead to complacency, with MJ mentioning people who struggle after retirement. Overcoming complacency is a key theme. AYD emphasizes setting goals and pushing oneself. The discussion acknowledges the difficulty of recognizing complacency but stresses the importance of self-awareness. The episode concludes with a call to action, urging listeners to identify complacency in their own lives and take steps to live a more fulfilling life.

Riding the Wave puts our audience first. We want to hear your high and low tides. No judgment! DM us on Instagram @ridingthewave2024 and we will respond to your questions in a future show.

Creators & Guests

Host
AYD
Host
James "MJ" Escalera

What is Riding The Wave ?

Welcome to the Riding the Wave podcast, where we talk about the daily struggles we call life. In being a part of this community, we want to hear your high and low tides. With no judgment! The purpose of this podcast is to connect with our audience and try to put ourselves in your shoes. We are here to motivate to all our listeners but also give any of you Kings and Queens an opportunity to share your story. With unity, we can overcome any obstacle. The first step of overcoming challenges is to face them head-on. No more deflecting or hiding our pain with a smile. It's time for enlightenment. At Riding the Wave, we put YOU , the audience FIRST. Join us on this voyage and discover the pursuit of happiness.

AYD:

What's up, everybody? Welcome back to riding the wave with your host, AYD

MJ:

MJ in the house you better recognize.

AYD:

There you go. We are here. Well, before we talk about what we're here for, let's do our cheers.

MJ:

There you go, baby.

AYD:

So cheers to all of you out there. Cheers. Hope you guys had a great week. Hope it was very productive. Cheers to you guys.

MJ:

So what we got going on today, AYD? What's what's what's today's topic?

AYD:

Today, it's gonna be something that we've all, you know, experienced and that's, complacency. You know what I mean? What? Something that we wanna get away from. You better shut down.

MJ:

They were talking to kiss them out with that mouth.

AYD:

So tell me, MJ. Well, hold on. Hold

MJ:

on. First of all, first of all, let's do our let's let's do our shout outs. Okay. You're right.

AYD:

You're right.

MJ:

We getting way too ahead of the game. Yeah.

AYD:

I know. I'm excited. I know. I'm excited. I'm excited.

AYD:

I'm excited. You know? Alright. Go ahead.

MJ:

Brother. Shout outs. Shout outs. Do you have any shout outs you wanna you wanna do?

AYD:

I just wanna give a shout out to my beautiful wife. Thank you for Here we go. Thank you for always holding me down. Thank you for being the ride or die. I appreciate you.

AYD:

I love you. You're amazing. We're gonna continue to grow. Grow.

MJ:

You're my girl, Keisha. You're my girl. I wanna do shout out to my boy, Noelle, for buying his first home.

AYD:

Congratulations, Noel.

MJ:

And not only that, man. He bought it on his own. He bought it he put it he bought it on his own when with no one's help.

AYD:

That's what's

MJ:

up. Yeah. Sounds good.

AYD:

That's what's up. Congratulations to you, my boy.

MJ:

Proud of him. We should definitely support the people who are out there being successful in life, man. That's what it's about. We all need that we all need the support and and it's very important. Even though a lot of us don't wanna be, the gratitude and the appreciation, the acknowledgment.

MJ:

Yes. But our success should be acknowledged.

AYD:

Nice. That's what's up. What does he do?

MJ:

I can't tell you that, man. So it's Alright. Not so good. Reality. No.

MJ:

Yeah. No. I'm just kidding.

AYD:

Top secret.

MJ:

You know, when no. Him and I, we we we, he opened up a small shop, you know, and and, he he allowed me to come on board with them. So, you know, we work we work at a small shop.

AYD:

Man, and that's what and and that's and that's how you're supposed to do it. You know what I mean? That's how you help all your boys. You guys both growth again. You know what I mean?

AYD:

You take care of each other. That's amazing.

MJ:

Yeah. What what dive more into that when we get into this into this topic.

AYD:

Yeah. Well, maybe, you know, you could come on the you know, ride

MJ:

in the wave and talk about

AYD:

and talk about, you know, his his success. You know what I mean?

MJ:

You know it is. People are very kind of people are very private

AYD:

when he's Or when he's ready. You know, when he's ready. But yeah. Let's, dive right into it, Abe. Abe and MJ.

AYD:

We're about to get into it.

MJ:

Alright. So consistency. Alright.

AYD:

No. Complacency. It's all good. You know what? You like be consistent as well.

AYD:

Yeah. I fucking do. There's nothing wrong with being consistent. We gotta be consistent, you know, so that we aren't complacent.

MJ:

Alright. So let's let's get on this thing, complacency. What's complacency, for you, Aidan? And how have you been affected by complacency?

AYD:

I like, you know, the thought process or, you know, the concept of the hamster wheel, you know, the hamster and the wheel constantly going in, circles and doing the same thing, expecting different results but you're never gonna get different results if you're constantly doing the same thing and, you know, I for me, I felt like I got complacent once I was blessed enough to purchase my house. I was grateful, but I thought that was, like, the goal, you know. Yeah. That was I mean, it was a accomplishment for sure and achievement. And then I just found myself kind of plateau and stopped.

AYD:

Like, I didn't set any other goals for myself.

MJ:

Nah. I I I could definitely

AYD:

What do you mean nah? Yeah. That's what happened to me.

MJ:

No. I could definitely relate. Nah.

AYD:

I just

MJ:

Definitely relate, because once we hit our certain goals in our in our lives or certain tiers. Mhmm. For a lot of people, it's like, what's next? You know, it's like you you have the family, you have the kids, you have this, you know, the home, the the career. And once you establish all that, it's like what do you do after that?

MJ:

It's like a plateau for a lot of people and that's where complacency comes in. Definitely. Because I could definitely relate to the complacency act and the and the complacency trap, you know. Very similar to to to you, 8, you know, once I was established, you know, got got the crib. I didn't buy a home but once I, you know, I got my spot, you know, I had my girl, my son, and so forth, I fell into the trap.

MJ:

I just caught, you know, caught myself doing the same things over and over and over again and it really started to affect me, man. You know?

AYD:

When yeah. Go ahead.

MJ:

No. And and it just affected me, like, emotionally.

AYD:

Okay.

MJ:

Because I I you know, I think a lot of us, we we want to go out and achieve things.

AYD:

Yeah. Did it did it affect you in, like, a negative way? Or, like, when you say emotionally, Yeah. Yeah.

MJ:

Because I just caught myself not feeling fulfilled. You know? Like, again, purpose, happiness, our last episode, you know, that's the one things that we discussed.

AYD:

Pursuit to happiness.

MJ:

The pursuit of happiness is purpose. And once you lose that purpose, what do you do? You know? It's just like when people retire. Mhmm.

MJ:

You know? Like, a lot of people, they don't last long after they retire because they lost their purpose. You know? And then they get caught in complacency.

AYD:

Yes, sir.

MJ:

You know? Waking up at a certain time, doing certain things at a certain time. And then, like, it's it's the same old tune day in, day out. Yeah.

AYD:

So when did you notice, like was there an event that happened? Or when did you notice that like, wow, I need to step it up. I need to level up. I'm being complacent.

MJ:

When my ex partner left, that's when the like the

AYD:

Oh, you're

MJ:

a cop? My my lights. No. No. That's when the light bulb kind of flickered on or or lit on.

MJ:

Mhmm. I was very comfortable in my relationship, very comfortable. You know, I had a good job. I had, you know, me, my son and my girl, we had a spot and I was just cool with that. And it's not cool.

MJ:

Like, it's not cool just to be comfortable. Yeah. Definitely. Like, it's it's it's just it's just not. And when she left, that's when I was like, Oh my God, what did I do?

MJ:

Like, I didn't know what to do with myself. I didn't know what to do. Yeah. You know? So that's the complacency factor kicked in.

MJ:

Yeah. And that's when I knew I need to make changes,

AYD:

Right.

MJ:

You know, in my life.

AYD:

Maybe that was a blessing in disguise, you know.

MJ:

It it was. Or you had to

AYD:

make a change.

MJ:

You had to make a change.

AYD:

And then you were talking about, like, the house burned down like, I mean, how many, God is great. How many signs do you need to like, hey, that was a push to continue to move on and

MJ:

Move on.

AYD:

You know what I mean? Like, the house next to you burned down. I'm glad no not nothing happened to anybody and nobody was injured, but that's like the biggest sign, like, right then, you know, look look at you now.

MJ:

Yeah. Look at me now. But what's up with you, Ate? So when did you notice complacency And how did it affect your life?

AYD:

I just said when I got my house, bro.

MJ:

I know that.

AYD:

I was I was unhappy. I was I felt my energy was low. I wasn't motivated. I wasn't disciplined. I I was just doing the same thing over and over.

AYD:

I was replaying the same thing day in and day out like you like you said earlier, MJ. And I was just like I was unhappy. Yeah. You know what I mean? I was unhappy and I wasn't I was I felt like I wasn't accomplishing anything and I wasn't doing anything.

AYD:

Where do I go from here? Like, what does my future look like? Do I even have a good future? You know what I mean? I'd like all those thoughts are running through my head and it was, it was it got kinda it got dark and it it it brought negative energy into my house around my family.

MJ:

And then what what made

AYD:

Light bulb. Right? Yeah. Right. And what

MJ:

what made you do the change?

AYD:

Seeing what I was doing to my family.

MJ:

Yeah. What were you what were you doing?

AYD:

You know, I was bringing their energy levels down. You know, you're you're a product of your environment. You know what I mean? Like, if your energy is low and it just happens to fall on other people because they're still going through the process of not allowing negative energy to bother them, you know? But if they're not and it all it consumes them, then I'm bringing them all down.

AYD:

I'm the deadweight and I'm bringing all my family down and I'm not gonna let that happen.

MJ:

Yeah. I I feel like I noticed like my complacency when I was, like, just drinking a lot. You know, I was drinking a lot because

AYD:

Yes. Good point. You know,

MJ:

I I, you know, would accomplish my day, do whatever I need to do. And then at a certain period of time, it was like, what's next? What else do I do? And I have I didn't have nothing else to do. And then I just I would just start drinking.

MJ:

Yes. You know? Just to alleviate the boredom, you know. And and I think a lot of us do that, you know. When we're complacency, we we start, you know, start drinking, you know, smoking weed, doing drugs, whatever, because

AYD:

we're just 020.

MJ:

We're just bored, you know?

AYD:

Yeah. You know, I'm glad you brought up, like, the beer because the beer did have a big effect on me to where I got I got to a point where I kind of like had to separate myself, like, even from my family, you know. Like, I love my family. I love being around them. They're great energy.

AYD:

But I was just drinking so much and I knew even if I had to give myself some time. Yeah. You know, I had a good amount of time to where I had this under control to where if I was asked, do you want a beer? I can say no and not be bothered by it. Yeah.

AYD:

And it took a couple months, like, I missed parties. I missed you know what I mean? And I was just working on myself and, you know, I hope they see that, you know, it wasn't because I didn't wanna be around them. I just needed to work on myself.

MJ:

And to the audience, like, how has complacent c affected you guys, you know, in your personal life?

AYD:

Yeah. Like, James? Yeah. Like, who's

MJ:

and I it's a I really wanna know. I really wanna know how has completely affected your guys' lives. You know, do you feel like completely c is a good thing or a bad thing? Leave a comment.

AYD:

I mean, can you think of anything that would be good for complacency off the top of your head? Like no. No way. So we're not gonna get any comments on that one.

MJ:

But some people are okay. A lot of people a lot of people are okay with complacency. I don't think people even recognize they're complacent in their lives. I I really don't believe it. I really believe that people just, like, are just comfortable with

AYD:

And that's I mean, that's understandable, like, I mean, I've been complacent for so long. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like, I I've been complacent for for so long to where, like I said in previous episodes that, you know, I thought I was just going with emotion. I was in autopilot.

MJ:

And I think that's another reason why people become depressed in their lives.

AYD:

Definitely.

MJ:

Because they're it's like they're they're caught up in the same routine, but they don't realize that they're in that same routine.

AYD:

Yeah. You have to look forward to something, you know. You have to. I mean, I hope we all do. That's I mean, you know, manifest that we all do, but it's like we have to continue to set goals for ourselves higher and higher and break continue

MJ:

to Yeah.

AYD:

Break through that ceiling. There is no ceiling.

MJ:

So how has completely affected your personal growth?

AYD:

My eating habits were bad. My health was bad. My thought process, like, I literally starting now, you know, and this is all pro part of the process for me to continue to grow because I mean, damn. I don't there's a lot of shit that I don't know. You know what I mean?

AYD:

There's a lot of shit that I didn't apply myself to that I had opportunities to, you know, because I got complacent because I thought like this is it, you know, this is my future. You know, this is I'm gonna retire at my job and then, you know, go from there. Figure it out. You know what I mean? Like, I really that's the type of energy and vibe that I had by being complacent.

AYD:

And I got tired of it. It was like, not not gonna happen. Yeah. So how about yourself?

MJ:

Honestly, like, it would I think the complacency was forced on me, you know, when I had to move.

AYD:

Mhmm. You

MJ:

know, I had to move, and then I I I moved here. Ugh. You know? And then that's that's when the change needed needed to happen. And I I needed because now I was on my own.

MJ:

Yeah. Now, you know, before I always had, you know, I always had roommates. I always had people to help me with the rent. And now when I moved, I was on my own. And, you know, living in California, it could financially could be very, very difficult.

MJ:

Yes, for sure. And my the the the individual who I just spoke about, Noelle, he he gave me an opportunity, you know, telling me to, get my smog license to be a smog inspector. And he was telling me that for years, for years. Yeah.

AYD:

So tech technically hold on. Hold on. Technically, you got 3 jobs. Yeah. Yes.

AYD:

Cheers to you, brother. Yeah. Yes.

MJ:

I mean, I don't count being a father as a job. But as far as I don't even

AYD:

Well, I was talking about, you know, riding the wave. This is a I don't but this part of a job.

MJ:

I mean, but, I mean, you

AYD:

know what? It's not work if you enjoyed it. Yeah.

MJ:

I mean, I I'm I'm I have 2 jobs.

AYD:

Yeah. I have 2 jobs.

MJ:

Yeah. But I I I don't see this as a job. You know? I don't see this.

AYD:

Yeah. That's

MJ:

true. I look forward to this. You know? I I I Yeah. I do.

MJ:

And and again, complacency, you know, it's like now I look forward to change. I look forward to all these because, you know, doing doing this podcast, you know, it's not easy. You you really have to dedicate yourself to it. You gotta get yourself outside of your comfort zone. You gotta you gotta do research.

MJ:

You gotta I mean, I I spent hours just writing questions down and ripping pages out.

AYD:

And I was like, oh,

MJ:

I don't like this. I don't like that. So, like, I like that feeling. Like, I I like that feeling of of purpose. You know?

MJ:

That's good.

AYD:

You know, that's a good way to, think about it because, I mean, what do I mean, what do I what do I do? I just realized it right now. Like, oh, you know, it's a job so that I gotta do it. I gotta put put work into it. But it's like, no, I enjoy doing Yeah.

AYD:

Absolutely right. I enjoy doing it. It doesn't even feel like a job. So that thought process is getting thrown out. You know what I mean?

AYD:

Because this isn't a job. You're absolutely right. Like, I love I I love talking to people, hearing people's, you know, thoughts, opinions. You know what I mean? Like, just kind of putting ourselves in their shoes, you know, and seeing what they're going through and really feeling it, you know.

AYD:

And it's, it's a blessing in disguise, you know. I'm able to do that and yeah. You're absolutely right. This is not a job.

MJ:

I like hearing that. I like hearing that. I don't hear that a lot. I love hearing that. I love hearing that.

MJ:

Right? My my ego my ego just went from right here to and he said it like multiple times. I'm gonna I'm gonna like rewind the you're right part.

AYD:

You wanna hear it again? Hear it again. No. No. No.

MJ:

So what are the what are the warning signs of complacency? Damn, bro. He's putting all your stuff over there. You're a hot

AYD:

mess over here. It's the math. I can't

MJ:

see it. Oh, it's like your face. The other thing's on, man. We'd already get a little clip. Little giant.

AYD:

It's like I can't see with this thing on.

MJ:

It's like home Improvement and, mister, is it Wilson? Wilson.

AYD:

Wilson. Yeah.

MJ:

Always always hiding his face.

AYD:

Mister Wilson's a g.

MJ:

But yeah. So, when what are the warning signs of complacency? Of complacency?

AYD:

For me, my warning signs were boredom. I was feeling bored. My body was aching. You know? Like, I was waking up sore, like, if I worked out and I didn't.

AYD:

And it's just like I needed to stretch. My thought process was slow. It was just kinda like, like, yeah, whatever. Like, I'm down. Yeah.

AYD:

Like, it was damn. Just thinking about it, like, I was really like that. It's just Yeah. Never I I don't wanna go. I'm not gonna go back.

AYD:

You know what I mean? And it's just it's tough. It's it's a dark it gets it could get dark. Dark. It get real dark.

AYD:

And it

MJ:

gets dark like like that.

AYD:

Fast. Definitely. It gets dark fast. And, you know, if there's like we need people to help us pull us pull us out sometimes, you know? Yeah.

AYD:

I It's tough.

MJ:

And I and you're right, dawg. I can think when when I noticed my complacency is when, like, I would look forward to drinking. You know? I would, like, keep my day, and it's like, yeah.

AYD:

Like Or or being excited how many, 30 packs you killed. Like, oh, I yeah. We just Yeah. Smashed on, like, 2 30 packs. Like, oh, wow.

AYD:

That's a great accomplishment. Yeah.

MJ:

I'd Yeah.

AYD:

You're fucking up your body.

MJ:

Yeah. Not only your body but, like, your mind, bro, your brain.

AYD:

Like Yeah.

MJ:

Yeah. That's that's when I was like, what what am I what am I doing? Like, what am I doing to myself waking up, hungover every single day, and just trying to get that fixing so I wouldn't feel hungover. So I would drink another beer or smoke some weed, you know, to counteract. And it it's it was ugly, bro.

MJ:

Like, once you stop achieving things, once you once you stop being goal oriented, that's complacency. That's to me, that's that's complacency. Yeah. You know? So, okay.

MJ:

Well Wait.

AYD:

Before we, what are what are some of the things that, like, you've changed to help you from preventing you being complacent? Complacent, let's just say.

MJ:

Well, now it's you have to recognize it. You have to recognize your daily habits.

AYD:

Okay. So what are some of your signs, like, that you notice, like, okay, I'm being complacent, like, what

MJ:

Drinking. Drinking. When I when I need substances to, like, make me feel yeah. Dez, get you get

AYD:

you get you loosey goosey.

MJ:

Definitely. Definitely. That's that's probably like the, like, the the the number one sign. And, I would say also competency for me would be like chasing chasing women. You know, chasing women.

MJ:

That's not something

AYD:

Like you're running after them?

MJ:

Like yeah. Chasing to you. That's weird. But, you know, like just trying to going on dating apps and meeting girls and it's just it's the same old thing.

AYD:

Yeah. You know?

MJ:

It's just like

AYD:

Exactly. I'm tired.

MJ:

Yeah. I'm tired. So that's for me, that's like was my my daily, like The habits, you know, just drinking and trying to hang out with girls and, like it's like, bro, like, you're in your, like, mid thirties. Like, what do you what are you doing?

AYD:

So as you talk about this now, like, how is it making you feel as you hear yourself speak about it out loud?

MJ:

I mean, I wish I would've done it sooner. I wish I would've recognized it sooner, but I'm glad I recognized it.

AYD:

Mhmm.

MJ:

I'm glad I did

AYD:

because So just drinking is the only, like, signs for you that you're being

MJ:

Yeah. I I I would I wanna say it's that because that's that's what kinda stops the momentum.

AYD:

Okay.

MJ:

You know, I once Rinky gets out, it's like, I'm very energetic. So it's like, you know, like I'm I'm I'm fucking

AYD:

Ready to go.

MJ:

Yeah, I'm ready to go. I'm ready to go. So that's when I kind of was a real indication, bro, where I was just being complacent, just drinking on the girls.

AYD:

I was really processing what you were saying and

MJ:

I mean, well,

AYD:

okay. Hold on. Like, I was really processing what you were saying and, like, drinking, like, I mean

MJ:

Yeah. I was just

AYD:

It's like it's like you get you get not only does do you get, like, in a good mood because you're in you have really good energy. You know what I mean? And, like, when you do drink, it comes out a little bit more. But again, like you said, you're sluggish the next day and you're down and you're not feeling good and you know what I mean? And it's just like it's it's it's almost like how that's the hard part to detach from something that makes you feel good at the same time but makes you complacent.

MJ:

Yeah. Yeah. So so what has how has complacency affected your overall performance in life?

AYD:

How has it affected me? It Man, that's a good question. It affected me

MJ:

in a minute. I have a ton of I have a ton

AYD:

of good questions. Okay?

MJ:

I'm filled with them.

AYD:

It feels like, I mean, I don't wanna keep reverting to, like, just being put in a dark place, being the negative, being the dead weight. You know what I mean? Like, becoming the dead weight, like, for my family, like, them carrying me. Yeah. Made me sick to my stomach.

AYD:

Right? Yeah. I think that's why I eat so many Tums.

MJ:

Yeah. You know, I I would say, my energy level, you know, complacency would affect my my overall, like, mental health, my my mental well-being. Yeah. You know, when you're not aligned with yourself, you you don't have that sharp mentality Yeah. As you would.

AYD:

See, like yeah. Exactly. Like, even right now as we talk, like, talking about complacency is just it's so like draining, like, it's like, that is isn't it like a negative energy, negative vibe, such a negative, like like, I don't even I I wanna start talking about positive shit now. You know what I mean?

MJ:

But it's important.

AYD:

Like I

MJ:

said It it is important. Yeah.

AYD:

But it's it's just great. I'm just saying what it it's creating right here because we're talking about complacency. It's like, damn, but it's

MJ:

good to get

AYD:

it out. You know what I mean?

MJ:

Feel the energy in this I I don't feel the complacency energy, but it's it's it's crazy because that's really what it is. Like, it's a it's a energy drainer. Yeah. You know, complacency.

AYD:

Yes.

MJ:

So do you feel like there's any benefits of being complacent?

AYD:

No. Not at all. Not at all. I I feel that being complacent is just there's no benefit to it. I mean, even being around people that are complacent can get you to be complacent.

AYD:

You know what I mean? And it's it's it's almost like a a disease.

MJ:

Yeah. You

AYD:

know, it's just airborne. Stay away. Yeah. No. I mean Stay away from it.

AYD:

You know?

MJ:

Yeah. It's hard, man. Like It is. It's not easy for sure. Yeah, for sure.

MJ:

It's so common. It's something you get, you could get so caught up in this I guess you people would call it, oh, well, I'm stable. Yeah. Complacency and stability, some people they they connect.

AYD:

Yeah.

MJ:

You know? But

AYD:

Do you feel like complagency causes you to procrastinate. Do you feel that that Uh-huh. Is part of, like, if you're complacent, you start procrastinating on tasks?

MJ:

Not me for so much. Maybe it's part of my OCD or or whatever, but procrastinating is something I've never I'm very organized. So, like, I never really had issues with that. You know?

AYD:

Just other issues.

MJ:

Yeah. Just color issues. But yeah, man. Yeah. I've I've I've for the most part, you know, when I set certain goals or things like that, I I I've accomplished them, but it's always like we're always fighting for what's the next thing to go after, the next thing to go after.

MJ:

Right. You know? So I I I remember at one point when I was in my last relationship and I was happy. I was happy. Right?

MJ:

But just because you're happy doesn't doesn't mean you need to get comfortable and complacent in your life. Right. And I think that's where I I messed up because I got too happy. I got too comfortable. I got too complacent.

AYD:

Do you feel that was I mean, do you feel that was part of the reason, like, her abandoning you you guys, there was no growth?

MJ:

That could that could have been a big part of it. Yeah. Of course. Yeah. Because the part of the growth was expanding the family, you know?

MJ:

So, of course, when you don't want to expand and grow and yeah, you that that can, hinder a relationship. I could definitely see that. Yes. Yes. Absolutely.

AYD:

Absolutely.

MJ:

How do we get caught up in complacency?

AYD:

Distractions?

MJ:

Or how how have you gotten caught up?

AYD:

Oh, social media. Like, for sure, like, being on my cell phone, you know, we all do it, you know, scrolling through all the platforms, TikTok, Instagram. Not that. It's not good. Oh, but TikTok, you know, Instagram, you know, scrolling through, like, yes.

AYD:

Like, I'm out there, you know, supporting people because it's amazing what people are capable of doing and it's motivating and it's encouraging, but it's also I needed to learn when to stop, give it a break, and do things for myself. You know what I mean? And, you know, put my invest in myself, you know, as everybody out there on those platforms are investing in themselves and, you know, it's amazing what people are doing, you know, and it's it's motivating.

MJ:

Yeah. I don't know. I I I it wasn't I

AYD:

It wasn't challenging.

MJ:

I wasn't, like, challenging myself. Yeah. I wasn't challenging myself because I was afraid of failure. You know? I I was, you know, like Yeah.

MJ:

Right. You know? Like This is for sure. I was afraid of failure. And I think that had that had a lot to do with the complacency.

MJ:

So fear. It was fear. It was fear of taking on a new change. I think change correlates with complacency because we are afraid of change.

AYD:

That part. We can't fear anything. Fear nothing.

MJ:

And it's again, we could see all these words and and Yeah. But everything, it's it's easier said than done. And we all have to channel in and figure out how we move. Yeah. Definitely.

MJ:

How we like, everybody's different.

AYD:

Yeah. For sure.

MJ:

And that's what you guys need to figure out when you guys are going through these these change in your life, these perseverance, these complacency moments, like, how are you, as an individual, gonna overcome this?

AYD:

Yes.

MJ:

Because we all have it. We all have the ability to fucking achieve anything Anything that we wanna do. I still

AYD:

Yeah. For sure.

MJ:

I mean, how many people out there have been told, you can't do it? Yeah. How many told, you're too small, you're too big, you don't have enough talent?

AYD:

I'm not pointing. I mean Yeah. No. I'm, bro. Point.

AYD:

Point.

MJ:

You know?

AYD:

No. Yeah. Definitely.

MJ:

And and and but it's it's the fucking mindset. Like, look at Tom Brady, you know. I think he was one of the last individuals to get picked in the draft, bro. He went out, played 20 plus years, you know, fucking, what, 5 or 6 Super Bowls. 6 Super Bowl, like, come on.

AYD:

Not a page of this fan.

MJ:

You know? It's not I know.

AYD:

I know. I know. I know. I know. I know.

MJ:

It's not even that, but it's just, like, it's the fucking mindset Yeah. That, that we get caught up in. You know? We get caught up in in that that negative, I can't do this or it's too hard or how am I gonna do this or it's like we need to

AYD:

fight making excuses. We need to

MJ:

start making excuses. Yeah. You know?

AYD:

And that's what I mean, and that's what I love about this, you know, about riding the wave is, like, being able to talk about it and hear myself talk about it, it's also helping me change, also helping me be better, also helping me, you know, practice what I preach. You know what I mean? Do I struggle? Do I fall off every now and then? Yeah, I do.

AYD:

But again, I got the next, you know, if I'm blessed with another day, then I got the next day to give it another shot and do things different and keep on pushing forward.

MJ:

Yeah. And do you think, complacency is the same concept as failure and that's why people don't go out and take chances?

AYD:

Yeah. Nobody wants to fail. Like I was having a lot of trouble. I was having a lot of trouble with that. I didn't wanna fail.

AYD:

I always thought that everything had to be perfect the first time, like the first take. Everything had to be right. I had to think about I was constantly thinking about every type of different scenario and trying to make it to where it's gonna be perfect and it's not. Yeah. Because you learn from failure.

AYD:

Yeah. You learn from failure, and I I have to remind myself of that all the time. Like, it's okay if you feel like you if something failed, you just try something different until it succeeds. Yeah.

MJ:

You know, I I I think I felt the same way when we did our first episode. And I looked at it. I was like, oh, my god. It was it was so bad Mhmm. In my in my mind in my mind.

AYD:

No. I know. Yes.

MJ:

I know. Because we want these to be perfect. And when you look at it, you're like, ugh. Right.

AYD:

It felt

MJ:

like it it was a it was a it was a failed attempt. Uh-huh. But we have to recognize the fact that you make an attempt, the fact that you did something, the fact that you failed at something shows that you're you're in the headed in the right direction because some people could do nothing. You could it's it's worse to fail at nothing than to fail at something.

AYD:

That

MJ:

exactly fail at at something to fail

AYD:

at nothing. Yeah. Give it, like,

MJ:

giving it a shot. Exactly, bro.

AYD:

And and

MJ:

say that you did it. Yes. You know, say that you did it.

AYD:

So cheers to that. Yeah. Cheers to that. Actions. Actions.

AYD:

And for you guys out there, for you guys

MJ:

out there who are stuck in complacency or who are worried about taking chances and failing at it, or or maybe you're you're at a point in your life where you're doing something is not going so so well, fucking don't give up

AYD:

that part. You know what they need? I think they need just a little push.

MJ:

And are you dedicated? Are are you dedicated? Are you dedicated?

AYD:

Yeah. You know that's To invest in yourself. To invest. To improve, to grow, you know, to crush all your goals. Let's just start rapping.

AYD:

Yeah.

MJ:

You start rapping. And to and to, inspire yourself and to inspire others to pick up other people, to pick up yourself, you know, like You know you

AYD:

know what I've been hearing a lot? MJ, I don't mean to cut you off, but you know what, like, has been really resonated with me when And I've been hearing a lot from lot of, like, motivational speakers and people that work out that I've, you know, I've, support on social media. But it's like, yeah, motivation doesn't always last. It's all about discipline. Yeah.

AYD:

And it really is. Like, if you are disciplined, the amount of things that you can accomplish

MJ:

Yeah. That's that's definitely gonna be one of our future, future topic is gonna be discipline. Yeah. Definitely. That's something that I think we all like.

MJ:

I could I could sit here and contest that I am not This

AYD:

guy as well.

MJ:

The most disciplined

AYD:

This guy as well.

MJ:

Individual. Like, there's certain things I'm I'm disciplined at and certain things I'm not Right. So disciplined at.

AYD:

Yeah. Same. Well, there. Listen, the next topic maybe next week.

MJ:

A good topic. But, yeah, let's let's go into our our our, you know, our final, you know, statement. I think I think we've expressed enough about complacency.

AYD:

Yeah. For sure. I don't know. Yeah, exactly. Let's get rid of that word.

AYD:

Let's get rid of that complacency, toss that shit out, get rid of it, don't think about it, and let's start progressing.

MJ:

What's the what's the word, guys?

AYD:

Progressing. Progressing. Progressing. Yeah. Let's stop let's stop Let's level up.

MJ:

Let's level up. Let's stop the complacency and let's and let's start progressing.

AYD:

Yeah. Exactly.

MJ:

I think that's that's a good model right there,

AYD:

dude. For sure.

MJ:

You know? Yes. So so any final thoughts about this? And and let's just say, again, bro, someone that you feel someone that you know is complacent. Like, hey.

MJ:

You know what? Hey, I'm feeling complacent. You know, what what are the strategies? Like, how how can I help myself for being complacent?

AYD:

I would say, you know, if somebody came out to me as asked me that question, you know, how can I break out of that? I can just, you know, give them some of my experiences,

MJ:

which is Yes.

AYD:

You know what I mean? Which is, you know, I don't wanna be the dead weight. And that's, that was my perspective. That's what helped me get out of being complacent because I, in my head, I told myself I am my family's dead weight.

MJ:

But how about if they don't have a family? Let's just say they're a single guy.

AYD:

Okay. If they're if they're a single guy and

MJ:

they're Or a single person.

AYD:

A single person. Alright. A single person. I would just say, you know, what are your goals? Like, what do you like to do?

AYD:

I would try to pick their brain. I would, you know, brainstorm with them. I would just kind of give a feel get a feel of what they feel excited about, you know? And maybe they I suggest, you know, a topic or, you know, a sport or whatever that they might be into and they give that a try and it's alright. They try it out, they don't like it, move on to the next thing.

AYD:

That's gonna keep you from searching to see what you're passionate about and what you wanna invest your time, energy, your thought process and be great at, you know? That would be my advice. And yours?

MJ:

Learn to be uncomfortable. Stay uncomfortable. Never get comfortable.

AYD:

Gain control of your mind.

MJ:

Yeah. Gain control of your mind. How do you do that? How do you how do you do that? You, tap into it.

MJ:

Honestly, everybody has their own way of tapping into their minds.

AYD:

Yes.

MJ:

You know, but you have to find your method.

AYD:

Yes.

MJ:

You know, you have to find your method, rather it's through reading, I think education, and educating your mind really opens up and expands your ability to really comprehend what you

AYD:

need. Philosophy is.

MJ:

And that's why, like, like, psychology or philosophy psychology and philosophy for for me are are are the big gatekeepers of enhancing your ability to grow. Mhmm. But just definitely educate yourself in in in in the best way possible. And again, find find your passion.

AYD:

Yeah.

MJ:

Find your passion. What do you want to do?

AYD:

Enjoy doing. What makes you happy?

MJ:

Yeah. Like what? Just and and do it. And do it. Like, again, for us, the complacency

AYD:

Oh, for real.

MJ:

Complacency was, you know, we were we just talked about it. We talked about this this this podcast, and we were just comfortable with our lives until we said no we said no fucking Enough. We said enough. Enough. Like, sometimes you gotta let that fucking dog out.

MJ:

Let your dog out. Let your dog and say no more.

AYD:

What if they're a cat? Let that cat out,

MJ:

whatever it is. But, like, let that shit out and go out there and be that and be that fucking person because we all have it. We just have to tap into it.

AYD:

Yes.

MJ:

We all have the fucking ability to to to, open up that portal. Mhmm. You know? It's just it's ourselves. It's what it's what we're doing to ourselves.

MJ:

Our mental it's mental blockage of complacency. It's a mental blockage.

AYD:

Yeah.

MJ:

And I feel so great now that I've got it out of my complacency zone, got it out of my comfort zone. Now we're here. We're doing the podcast. Look at

AYD:

the energy that it brings to you. He's like he's almost yelling. Like, man.

MJ:

Like, I I feel I feel great. I feel amazing. And I and I wanna share it and manifest this energy to you guys. Yes. You know?

MJ:

Yes. Because one day, I'm gonna need it. I'm gonna need that, the energy back, you know? But, yeah, man. That's that's those are pretty much my my my my final thoughts on that.

MJ:

If not, I'm I'm a end up breaking this table. I'm a

AYD:

Yeah. Alright. No. But I love I love the motivation. That's great.

AYD:

You know, I love, you know, that you're really

MJ:

Just be passionate.

AYD:

Be passionate about it.

MJ:

Be passionate about it.

AYD:

Exactly. Be

MJ:

Be passionate about yourself.

AYD:

You can yeah if you need to. Get upset. Get, you know. Yeah. My final thoughts is just for the people always.

AYD:

You know what I mean? I'm we're constantly thinking about them. You know what I mean? We don't want anybody. Nobody left behind.

AYD:

You know? So let's continue to grow. Let's continue to, you know, persevere. Let's continue to Pick

MJ:

each other up.

AYD:

Yes. Pick each other up. Be the best fucking version. I almost said virgin. Best version.

AYD:

Best version of yourselves because there it's amazing. You're they're all you guys out there are amazing. All you guys out there are great. And let's grow together, you know. Like I wanna see the progress.

AYD:

I wanna see the interaction, the unity, you know, everything.

MJ:

Yeah. And let's baby, let's let's ride this wave. Okay? So, we're gonna we're gonna exit out of here. But before we exit out of here, I just wanna know, are you Dedicated.

AYD:

Dedicated. We appreciate you guys. To your craft, to

MJ:

your work, to your workout, to to anything that you have your mind and your body and your soul into, are you

AYD:

dedicated to that? Invest in yourself because you are amazing. You are great.

MJ:

And let's fucking let's let's You

AYD:

got this.

MJ:

Let's erase that complacency word That part. Out of my mind.

AYD:

Delete. Delete.

MJ:

Permanently.

AYD:

Get rid of it. Permanently. But, adios.

MJ:

Please, if you guys like what you hear, subscribe, leave a like, a comment. Any any suggestions, for future topics, please drop drop a message

AYD:

and Yes. Tag us in your page so we could go out there and show you guys some love and spread the love and We're all

MJ:

we're all

AYD:

here to repost.

MJ:

We're all here to support each other.

AYD:

Yes.

MJ:

We we we cannot we cannot do this

AYD:

Without you.

MJ:

Without you guys. And, and we wanna be there for you guys. And and and we want we want and and for you guys to be there for us. You know what I'm saying? Like, so this platform is definitely for you.

AYD:

You guys. And we're gonna be reaching out to people. We're even gonna be heading to Venice Beach. You know what I mean? Yes.

MJ:

So on, June 22nd June 22nd

AYD:

22.

MJ:

We're gonna be going out to Venice Beach. We're gonna be going out and connecting with the community, just seeing who who's interested in in in just sharing a a short

AYD:

Showing some love.

MJ:

Showing some love.

AYD:

Showing some love.

MJ:

And that's what it's about. It's it's about time that that us, you know, in this RTW community to go out there and and and to talk to to people that that we wanna connect with. Yes. So if you're, if you got nothing going on that that that Saturday

AYD:

It's out there.

MJ:

You're gonna see us out there. Trust me.

AYD:

You're gonna see us out there.

MJ:

You can't miss you can't miss that mask and this beautiful face. I'll tell

AYD:

you that. That part.

MJ:

But, alright, ladies and gentlemen.

AYD:

We appreciate you guys. We love you guys.

MJ:

We appreciate you guys. We love you guys. We see you guys next week. 8 AM.