Morning Cereal

Start your day with inspirational quotes, followed by a fun journey through nostalgic facts from this day in history. Then, we dive into the first chapter of Dale Carnegie’s iconic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
In Part 3, Chapter 8, Part 1, we’ll explore Carnegie’s timeless advice on building authentic connections, the art of influence, and creating positive interactions in every area of life.
In This Episode:
  • Daily inspirational quotes to spark your motivation
  • Fun historical facts from this day in history
  • A deep dive into Part 3, Chapter 8, Part 1 of How to Win Friends and Influence People
Whether you're a leader, communicator, or just someone looking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with actionable insights.
Tune in now and let’s grow together!
Resources:
Carnegie, D. (1981). How to win friends and influence people (Rev. ed.). Simon & Schuster.
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Dr. Gerald Nirenberg, Getting Through to People, Englewood Cliffs, N.J.: Prentice-Hall, 1963,p. 31.  by quoting

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Good morning.

And welcome to morning cereal

Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday.

It's the last day of February, so I hope

you made the most of

this month, despite it being

the shortest month of the year.

There's a lot to look forward to in March

though, including

March Madness just around

the corner, and the first day

of spring, just to name two.

But let's enjoy the last day of February

because today is National

Pancake Day, National Science

Day, if you believe

in that sort of thing.

And for those hardliners out there that

can't get behind a

National Pancake Day, we can

all get behind

National Public Sleeping Day.

There's nothing more comfortable and

relaxing than finding a

nice public bench or sidewalk

to curl up and totally vulnerable to our

fellow mankind for a nice, peaceful nap.

Nope, that's a hard pass for me.

I'll stick with the chocolate chip

pancakes and two side

quotes to kickstart my day.

One fun, nostalgic quote, and then a

second quote to tease our

book review later in the

episode.

Hopefully one of these quotes will indeed

kickstart your day in

a positive direction.

The first quote is from Kevin Bacon, who

said, "Part of being a man is

learning to take responsibility

for your successes

and for your failures."

And the Baconator is not wrong, but I'd

just suggest that

that's part of maturity, man

or woman.

And today's teaser quote from the book

review is, "Success in

dealings with people depends

on a sympathetic grasp of the other

person's viewpoint."

And as usual, we'll unpack that here in

just a few minutes during

the book review segment.

But first, let's jump into our last dose

in the month of

February of fun and historic

facts on this day in history.

Today's news facts and

birthdays are for February 28th.

Back in 1827, the Baltimore and Ohio

Railroad became the first

steam operated railroad in

the United States.

Then on this date in 1861, Congress

created my beautiful home

state territory of Colorado.

Then on this date in 1922, Egypt was

declared as an independent country.

And on this date in 1931, American

basketball coach Dean

Smith, who was one of the most

successful men's

basketball coaches of all time.

By the way, he also coached Michael

Jordan, as you can see

in this picture here.

He was born in Kansas on this date.

Then on this date in 1955, Gilbert

Godfrey was also born.

And on this date in 1983, the final

episode of the immensely

popular TV series, MASH,

it aired and it was watched by an

estimated 125 million viewers.

It held the record until 2010.

And the title of that last episode was

Goodbye, Farewell, and Amen.

Well on this date in 1984, at the 26th

Grammy Awards, Michael

Jackson, he won eight Grammys.

Then on this date in 1993, the ATF rated

the Branch Davidian

compound in Waco, Texas, leading

to a 51 day standoff.

And in 1998, Pamela Anderson divorced

Motley Crue drummer Tommy

Lee, another forever couple

that I'm just so surprised

didn't make it the distance.

Then finally in 2013, Pope Benedict, he

became the first Pope to

resign since Gregory the

12th in 1415.

Well happy birthday.

If today is your birthday, you share a

birthday with country

singer Jason Aldean.

He turns 48 today.

Former Mavs basketball

player, now Laker, Luca, he's 26.

And former racer Mario Andretti, he's 85.

And the number one movie on this date

back in 1984 was

Footloose, starring a very young

and very awkwardly dancing Kevin Bacon.

You know, maybe I shouldn't knock it

until I just try taking

out all of my aggressions

and frustrations, just dancing my little

heart out in an empty barn.

Apologies, Kevin.

I'm still evolving into my best self.

And for the record, Kevin had a dance

double and two gymnastics doubles.

But that doesn't take away from his fire

dance moves, as my kids would say.

Great soundtrack.

That goes without saying.

The number one song on this date back in

1989 was Straight Up by Paula Abdul.

Straight Up was another song on Paula's

debut album, Forever Your

Girl, which set a record

at the time for the most number one

singles on a debut album.

She had four number ones on that album,

Straight Up, Forever Your Girl, Cold

Hearted, and Opposites

Attract.

Incredibly, as of 2025, Paula is still

tied with Diana Ross

and Lady Gaga for the most

number one singles by a

female artist in the U.S.

You go, girl.

Well, let's go to some personal growth to

the book review

segment of Morning Serial,

where we take a few moments to reflect on

lessons learned from

the current book we're

reading.

And currently we're reading through Dale

Carnegie's How to Win

Friends and Influence People.

It's a timeless book that is consistently

on all the must read

lists, and it's packed

with rock solid advice and actions for

all of us to use and

build healthy foundational

concepts to live by.

Yesterday, we finished up chapter seven

of part three, and

that chapter was entitled

How to Get Cooperation.

And to begin this chapter, Carnegie

called on some previous

foundations he taught us

earlier in the book, reminding us that,

quote, "No one likes to

feel that he or she is being

sold on something or told to do a thing.

We much prefer to feel that we are buying

of our own accord and

acting on our own ideas.

We like to be consulted about our wishes,

our wants, and our thoughts."

End quote.

Carnegie suggested that we plant seeds of

an idea with the

other person and then sit

back and watch the idea grow, all on its

own into what the other

person often will feel

was an idea that they had

come up with on their own.

This was the other person basically

selling themselves on your idea.

Carnegie's principle number seven was let

the other person feel

that the idea is his

or her own.

And today we begin and finish chapter

eight of part three

with this chapter entitled,

A Formula That Will Work Wonders For You.

And in these shorter chapters, Carnegie

comes right out of the

gate laying it out for us.

Here he states, quote, "Remember that

other people may be

totally wrong, but they don't

think so.

Don't condemn them.

Any fool can do that.

Try to understand them.

Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people

even try to do that."

End quote.

And you probably recall earlier on in the

book review when we were

talking about understanding

the other person's perspectives.

Well, good.

In this chapter, Carnegie is doubling

down on that philosophy,

suggesting we really need

to focus on what is driving the other

person, identifying the

reasons why they are taking

the position or acting

the way they are acting.

If we can determine these reasons, then

Carnegie says, quote, "You

have the key to his actions,

perhaps to his personality."

End quote.

To find someone else's perspective,

Carnegie suggests honestly

putting yourself in their

place, asking yourself,

quote, "How would I feel?

How would I react?"

End quote.

Remember, we are all naturally

self-focused people, mostly

interested in our own world.

And every person we meet is the same way,

interested in their

own world and their own

issues, their own concerns, et cetera.

Carnegie suggests that if we can be aware

of this fact when we

enter into conversations

and acts with other people, then we will,

quote, "Have grasped

the only solid foundation

for interpersonal relationships, namely

that success in

dealings with people depends on

a sympathetic grasp of the

other person's viewpoint."

End quote.

Here, Carnegie describes how a husband

utilized this

perspective dealing with his wife.

And in this brief story, the husband,

from his own

perspective, did not understand why

his wife spent so much time caring for

her garden and the lawn.

And when he told her he wasn't sure why

she wasted so much time

on it because it didn't

look any better than

when they had moved in.

I mean, first off, ouch.

But well, after taking Carnegie's course,

the husband changed

his approach, realizing

how foolish he had been.

Kind of seems like the obvious one.

But the husband said it hadn't occurred

to him that she might

possibly enjoy the work

and might appreciate a

compliment on her diligence.

Well, he did just that.

He complimented her on what a

fantastic job she was doing.

He noticed how hard the soil was, and he

often helped her pull

some weeds moving forward.

The result of this, quote, "A happier

life for both," because

he had learned to look

at things from her point of view, even if

the subject was only weeds, end quote.

Carnegie cites a quote from the book

"Getting Through to

People" by Dr. Gerald Nirenberg,

quoting, "Cooperativeness and

conversation is achieved

when you show that you consider

the other person's ideas and feelings as

important as your own," end quote.

It's been a while in the book since

Carnegie chose to repeat

a quote because he thought

it was so important.

Well, here it is.

Here's the next quote that he thinks is

so important that he's repeating it.

And he's citing Dean Donman of the

Harvard Business School,

who said, quote, "I would

rather walk the sidewalk in front of a

person's office for two

hours before an interview,

than step into the office without a

perfectly clear idea of

what I was going to say and

what that person, from my knowledge of

his or her interest and

motives, was likely to

answer."

Carnegie is saying that this philosophy

of contemplating the

other person's perspective

takes time, but it's

time very well spent.

Carnegie again repeats himself verbatim

from all the way back

in chapter three of part

one, saying that if the reader gets only

one thing out of reading

this book, he says it's

this, quote, "An increased tendency to

think always in terms of

other people's point of

view and see things from their angle as

well as your own," end quote.

And he continues to say that this one

thing, quote, "may

easily prove to be one of the

most important stepping stones in your

career or your life."

Well, here it is in a chapter entitled,

"A Formula That Will

Work Wonders For You."

Carnegie's principle number eight is,

"Try honestly to see

things from other people's

point of view."

And I'm glad this point came up again

because it just serves as a

good reminder to constantly

consider the other person's perspectives.

Well, from your perspective, I'm guessing

you're pumped up and

you're ready to get on

with your Friday and you're looking

forward to your weekend.

So I'll remind you that on Monday, we'll

begin chapter nine of

part three with an intriguing

chapter entitled, "What Everybody Wants."

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And have a fantastic day.

Goodbye, farewell, and amen.

Until Monday, of course.

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