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Welcome to the 100xLife Podcast! This is the place for anyone who desires to not just hear the words of Jesus but to live them fully. Together, we’ll explore what it means to experience the abundant life He promises, a life of purpose, growth, and transformation.
Each episode is designed to inspire and challenge you to put in the work of following Jesus, equipping you with practical insights and encouragement to align your life with His teachings.
Whether you're just beginning your faith journey or looking to deepen it, the 100xLife Podcast helps activate your next step toward the life you were created to live.
Rob Dayton (00:00)
you
Welcome to the 100X Life Podcast, where we activate people who desire to live the words of Jesus and experience the abundant life He promises. I'm your host, Rob Dayton, and I hope this podcast inspires you to put in the work of following Jesus.
Rob Dayton (00:36)
Hey, a 100xLife. Welcome back to the podcast. I've got an exciting conversation with a father, son team, Chris and Ryan. but before we get to that, just want to remind you that January 2nd is going to be here before you know it. And one of the things that if you're a maven of a 100xLife, if you feel like it's really impacted you, if you feel like you're closer to Jesus, you're following him better.
What we'd like you to do is become a 100xLife coach or to bring that to your church. Those links are always going to be in the show notes, but, we have a start that we're really excited about, which is January 2nd. Hope that you're going to go through the challenge with us again. I'm actually missing it big time, even though I'm still doing, trying to get into 45 minute workouts a day. and so we want to have that as a cohort and go through that. And if you want to have that intimate.
Chris (01:15)
. Okay.
Rob Dayton (01:27)
with just you and a number of people, a small number of people. Great. But do consider becoming a 100xLife coach. or a 100xLife church will give you all the information PDFs way to do that. our team will work with you to actually brand that for your church.
Okay. So let's get to our conversation today. Really excited about this because I actually have not seen both Chris and Ryan till this podcast I'm seeing for the first time, which I love. I love meeting new people and hearing their story. both of them have been through the 100xLife challenge together. And so
What a great opportunity to talk about the father son relationship through the lens of being in the gym and getting better in all areas of life. I'm excited for this conversation. but before we begin just Chris Ryan, a little bit about you, Chris, why don't you go first? tell us about yourself. Where, where do you land in your story right now? And tell us what we need to know about.
Chris (02:25)
Sure, yeah, thank you. Appreciate you having us on. I'm in my early 50s and father of four sons, now have six grandbabies and a beautiful wife. yeah, grandbabies are pretty special. But yeah, in the last year, I've retired from the corporate world and am doing some investment opportunities, some commercial things here in Southwest Florida with another son of mine.
and spending a lot of time with the grandbabies, helping the granddaughters out when they need a hand and the guys are working and enjoying that. My wife and I do that quite a bit and that's very special to us.
Rob Dayton (03:00)
And what would you say is, ⁓ what has God created you uniquely to do? Like what's the thing that, when you're on it, it's mastery all the way.
Chris (03:09)
Yeah, it's interesting, Like 100xLife did some things to kind of change the perception of my legacy from just thinking through of what my goals were and what I thought my goals were and what God had for me, and then really figuring out where he wanted me to multiply my talents. That's been a big perception change for me.
Rob Dayton (03:28)
So cool. you're getting a little bit of a mindset shift on your potential in God's kingdom. what would you say in just the stick to marketplace world, the one that you're really familiar with, what would you say is the thing that you're really wired to do that God has designed in you?
Chris (03:45)
think it's to lead my family well and to follow Him. Like you say, you say it really well. I don't remember exactly how you say it, but following Christ is called following Christ because we're on a journey.
Rob Dayton (03:56)
Yeah, we're on a journey. He's taking us on a journey. So that phrase really resonated with you and that's a signature in your own life. You feel that you're on that journey and you feel like, Hey, I'm wired to do this. So awesome. Thank you for sharing that. Appreciate that. Ryan, how about you? What do we need to know? It sounds like you're one of four. This is pretty crazy. I can't believe, I can't believe you have four sons, Chris. And by the way, I just got back from my first grandbaby. And so I've just
Chris (04:07)
That's right.
Congratulations.
Rob Dayton (04:23)
Pretty good.
Thank you. So I'm just a tip of my foot in the pool about where you've been and loving it. But Ryan, what's up? Tell us about you.
Ryne Hensley (04:24)
Congrats.
Yeah, a little bit about me and I won't go maybe into like my full grace story, but I'm one of four the oldest and so, you know, I've had a weight on my shoulder to be a representative to these guys teaching them how to eat their broccoli and things like that. And yeah, so yeah, I'm a I've also married my wife, Kristen. She's awesome. She's my rock. And I also have three kids and they're
six and under, so they keep me busy. But yeah, I'm.
Rob Dayton (04:57)
Wow, that's amazing. Six
kids. I am so jealous. Nancy and I started way too late. That's amazing. Three, okay. I was like, I'm still jealous, but man, when you said six I was like, wow, that's insane.
Ryne Hensley (05:02)
Three kids, six years old and under, Yeah, yeah.
Chris (05:08)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (05:12)
Yeah.
So yeah, they keep me busy, but I'm, I'm working now. work for a corporation here in Southwest Florida. And so, ⁓ that's kind of where I am in my life.
Rob Dayton (05:22)
Uh-huh. And what, if you had to say what you feel like the key thing that God designed in you to do, like, what would you say that? What does that sound like? What does that look like?
Ryne Hensley (05:31)
Yeah, I mean, the key thing God has designed me to do, guess, where I've been, because I could speak on this, where I've been stepping in a lot lately and leaning in a lot lately is just as a father and a husband, stepping up to the plate of being an example to all of them, you know, trying to emulate the words of Christ as best I can as an example, as a testimony, as you say to them.
Chris (05:34)
Okay.
Rob Dayton (05:38)
Yeah.
Chris (05:50)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (05:56)
And even my friends around me, spend a lot of time with friends and family and within my church group. So, ⁓ that's kind where I feel I am now. ⁓ but yeah.
Chris (05:58)
Okay.
Rob Dayton (06:06)
So
good. So, ⁓ where would you guys say, where would you say, because so your father son relationship, one, one of four Ryan, you're the oldest probably have responsibility in your top five on Gallup strengths. Usually the first child does, ⁓ how would you characterize, let's, let's be as vulnerable as we can be. How would you characterize your relationship? Chris, do you go first and let's see what Ryan thinks.
Chris (06:30)
I would say, you know, we're very close. I'm close with my boys. My wife's very close with them. We're fortunate that ⁓ three of the four of them are within five to 10 minutes of our house and the other one's just two hours north of us in Tampa. And, you know, we share everything.
highs and lows, we can trust and count on each other. And we all have the same faith that we cling to. And like I said, in good times and bad times, we turn to that and look to God for our answers. And I'm grateful for that with my sons.
Rob Dayton (07:03)
That's so cool. You know, I didn't think of this before, but how would you answer the question I asked Ryan about him? What do you see in your son, Ryan, that you just, this is it. Like when he does this thing, you're so proud of him and it's just, it's always a good result.
Chris (07:18)
think his gentleness, it's something that I didn't have well, I believe, you know, in my younger days particularly. But the gentleness and the kindness he shows to his wife and kids and his patients.
I don't know where I would rank on that disc assessment, but the patients, it's not necessarily been my best attribute. I've grown in that ability and having grandkids has also helped quite a bit and seeing it differently and kind of reflecting on my life and how I handle things. I'm always proud when I see how well he cares for and loves his wife and babies.
Rob Dayton (07:56)
That's amazing. it sounds, I even hear in your voice that you appreciate even learning from him in that way.
Chris (08:01)
Absolutely, all four of my kids
I learned things from and sometimes I'm internally embarrassed at my own behavior in life when I watch my kids emulate better than even I do.
Rob Dayton (08:12)
Totally. same. I'm saying I've got a couple experiences like that. So Ryan, how would you characterize your father-son relationship?
Ryne Hensley (08:19)
Yeah, that's good. Appreciate the kind words, I was putting a little bit of thought into this because I figured I'd get the same question. And I was actually kind of asked the same question in a workbook that I was working through, how was I characterized my relationship with God? And I thought that was kind of a funny word, like characterize. It feels so vague. feels so...
obscure, you know, to characterize something and you can go down any different path. I would relationship with my dad, I trust him with everything. I trust him wholeheartedly. I've just through experience, seen him come through time and time again. And he's a man of his word. And so I can, I want to be able to emulate that, but
just knowing that he is also following what God is telling him. He's got, he's in tune with the spirit, with Holy Spirit in his heart and what God or Jesus or Holy Spirit might be telling him. So I can, if I feel like he's got a, you know, a feeling one way or another, I don't even question my own or try to get a second opinion from someone else because I know that his route has always led me to success.
Chris (09:07)
it.
Thank ⁓
Rob Dayton (09:34)
Wow. So it sounds like it's a lot of trust. You have, you have, really have a trust in his relationship with God. Wow. Thank you guys for sharing that. That was really super beautiful. And for our listeners, when we talk about father, son relationships, it's so crazy because, for some reason, the father has this, this, it's the super powered thing. It's almost like a gravitational pull that impacts a son.
Ryne Hensley (09:34)
and somewhere and others, so. ⁓
Rob Dayton (09:58)
And I know for a father, same. you know, when I recognize on the, on the son's side, does I recognize is I'm highly influenced by that father's approval or not approval. My father's dead now. So, I have to have imaginations by that, but when I do have imaginations about it.
I well up in tears because I know that he's so proud of me and that's the perfect picture of our father in heaven and then on the other side of the relationship I think Chris you could really relate to this is we get and you were even saying these words we get so proud of watching our sons you know and how they do and that's how Papa
Chris (10:19)
and
Rob Dayton (10:33)
how Papa God is doing that. So if you could capture that mindset that we've learned as fathers towards sons, that we get so proud at seeing interested in what they're gonna do next. And then they do the thing and they learn the thing. And then we're just like, oh my gosh, this is so cool to watch. And that's how Papa God is. Like times 1,000, 1 million. So proud of us. So I appreciate you sharing that. That was really intimate and I didn't prepare you for that. So I'm glad you did
Okay. Well, let's, let's shift on a 100xLife. Like how did this, how did this happen? Like, how did you even find a 100xLife and think about maybe we should do this as a father, son partnership.
Ryne Hensley (11:11)
Yeah, I could speak on this a little bit. ⁓ I have my mentor going through TMPx and actually he's at the kind of tail end of it. So in our meetings, he was like telling me about how great it is and how I got to get involved. So he sent me information. So in fact, I'm actually starting TMPx with Jeff come a week from Monday. So super excited for that. I'm expecting big things there. Anyways.
Chris (11:22)
Okay. Okay.
Rob Dayton (11:30)
Let's go.
Ryne Hensley (11:34)
He said he came across the book, my mentor did and recommended it to me. I bought it on Amazon the same day he sent to me. always buy his books as soon as he recommends them to me. And, and I just started reading through it and he sent me the podcast as well. So I was listening alongside and I got about, you know, a chapter two in, and I was like, I gotta do this with someone else. Like I can't just walk through this alone. And so.
Chris (11:35)
Okay. Okay.
Ryne Hensley (11:59)
You guys had already started it, whatever
that session was publicly. Right. And so I wanted to get a group together and do it on our own time. And so I had it kind of a group of guys in mind and I brought my dad in on it. Some of the guys were really gung ho about it. Other guys were like, nah pass. And it ended up turning out to be really just me and my dad, Chris, ⁓ the whole time really sticking it out, know, pushing each other.
Chris (12:01)
Okay. Okay.
Ryne Hensley (12:27)
to be better for each other, for our families.
And yeah, that's kind of the story of how we got into it.
Rob Dayton (12:32)
it's interesting. Sounds like a, sounds like a negative story, right? When it starts, but maybe one of the best things that's happened to you this year, having that one-on-one solidifying some things. I'd really be curious. So curious, because you did it as a father, son, and you went through this process together.
Ryne Hensley (12:36)
Ha
Rob Dayton (12:50)
What would you say, start with you, Ryan, what would you say is the thing that you're most thankful those other guys didn't go with you?
Ryne Hensley (12:58)
I'm thankful they didn't go with me because they wouldn't have taken it even seriously as seriously as if they did. But when they saw me physically at the end, and I just mentioned that on one of the podcasts earlier, two podcasts ago maybe, but I had a pretty big physical transformation. When they saw me physically, when they saw me spiritually at the end of this, they're like, what did you do?
Chris (13:00)
it.
⁓ Thank
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (13:25)
to change and I got to have that as a testimony and be like, these, this is what changed me. This is what I'm pointing to. And it really was the words of Christ, right? You know, in the new Testament and, and what he says, but ultimately you do a great job of organizing
that and putting it in light of the parable of the sower, which is such a huge piece of it that I can't stop talking about. love talking about that in group settings with my friends.
Rob Dayton (13:49)
Wow. Wow.
Ryne Hensley (13:53)
and people I know.
Rob Dayton (13:55)
That's so cool. I really love the result and I want to peel back on that, but how did you guys coordinate? what was it? Were you like on a, were you texting each other daily? Was it phone calls or
how were you supporting one another? Chris, why don't you share that?
Chris (14:09)
Yeah, I mean, we do see each other a lot and we talk a lot normally. And so it wasn't that unusual, but I'd say a little bit more on the texting side of checking in with each other. Again, just when we saw each other talking about the podcasts and reviewing what we had learned or taken away from it, that's probably the main way we stayed in touch. But we you're probably in contact a little more than usual. But like I said, we do talk a lot anyhow.
Rob Dayton (14:34)
You guys are so blessed to have such a great relationship. Ryan, would you, anything else on that to add?
Ryne Hensley (14:39)
Yeah, I was just going to add a quick story because ⁓ this got me laughing during the challenge. I texted him on one of the days I said, one of my favorite parts of this whole program is the practicality of it. When Jesus speaks, it can sometimes sound cryptic or parabolic, but Rob does a great job of getting to the core of what Jesus' words are commanding us and in a way that's applicable to our day and age. And he said, come on, just the way you would have said it.
Rob Dayton (15:05)
Let's go. Love that. Yeah. I've kind of shifted a little bit more to let's go, but yes, come on. I think that both of them mean amen. So awesome. That's really, really cool. So let's talk about that. it's really amazing, Ryan, that you were talking about the parable the sower What, do you think? What do you think hits you?
Ryne Hensley (15:05)
You
Love it.
Rob Dayton (15:24)
Like when you think about understanding that concept of the parable of the Sower really applying to anything Jesus is saying, and of course in the book we do the scriptural things that he's saying, and then
And then also, I don't know if it was, it was evident or I made it clear enough. was like, Hey, just like you said about your dad, Chris, hearing from God, hearing from one member of the Trinity, his opportunity for multiplication in the word that he's speaking to you. It sounds like that really took hold with you. How, how would you describe, the shift in that mindset about what that really means, the parable of the sower and what Jesus is communicating.
Ryne Hensley (15:59)
Yeah, that's really good. You know, when you were talking about the parable of sower, I really felt like a baby being held hands through that parable all again, because I did not understand it just the way the disciples didn't quite understand it. And when you drill it in and they say they don't understand it, and Jesus says, if you don't understand this parable, how will you understand any of them?
Chris (16:02)
Okay. Okay.
Ryne Hensley (16:27)
And that hit me really hard. was like, I really need to lean in
Chris (16:30)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (16:30)
and understand this parable if, if I'm going to allow, you know, Jesus to shape my life. And so I took that seriously and understood it as a rubric, a way that we can measure our effectiveness in each of Jesus's words or where we are, guess, in the, ⁓ in the transformation of Jesus's words. So, you know,
I think a lot of people sometimes will confuse what the seed is, who the sower is and
things like that in that. But I think you do a great job of clarifying that for me, especially. Maybe I'm the only one that was confused on what was what. But, you know, that was a huge piece of it. I think if without prefacing 100xLife without the parable of the sower, wouldn't have changed me as much.
Chris (16:59)
Okay. Okay. ⁓
Rob Dayton (17:22)
Yeah, it's Jesus is thinking about the process.
Yeah. And you know, about the, about the terms, I think that where we get sideways on that in, the church body, when we're meeting is that, know, the parable is really good to help you understand the meaning. But then once you understand it, I feel like in let's say Bible study or church settings.
Stop using the farming terms. Like that's what really bugs me. And the, the one that's the hardest to get rid of is fruit because like everyone's like, Hey, what's your fruit man? Like, and I'm thinking to myself, if some pre Christian was listening to us, they'd be like, wait, what are you guys talking about? What's your fruit? Like that's so weird. Like, and so the best I've come up with is like, what's your kingdom multiplication in that particular word? You
Ryne Hensley (17:45)
Mm.
Chris (17:46)
Okay. Okay.
Rob Dayton (18:07)
know, what, or if a guy tells me.
Here's what God told me to do. And it's, you know, let's say it's two years ago. Okay. How have you multiplied? What's the reproduction on that word that you heard? How do you feel like it's manifesting and multiplying in your life? But I, yeah, I totally get agree that gets like, get rid of the farming terms and give it, let's just talk straight with the strategy of Jesus. Chris, what was your thought on that? Any, any revelatory things or is that the way you always thought about it?
Chris (18:22)
Yeah, I know it
challenged me as well. I would say when I thought of the fruit of the Spirit, I looked at that and I was trying to dig into it a little deeper and I really just changed the word fruit in my mind to the evidence of the Spirit.
Rob Dayton (18:49)
Come
on.
Chris (18:49)
And that really helped me understand when I was engaging with other people and I would see the evidence of the Spirit or in myself and I didn't or did see the evidence of the Spirit. That's kind of the challenge I put on myself was to, what am I doing?
in the word, following Christ, and then how is that becoming evident in my life to those around me?
Rob Dayton (19:11)
Wow. did you notice that makes like makes me wonder like, did you notice someone go, Hey, what's going on? What's going on here? Chris? Like, what, is that?
Chris (19:18)
Yeah, I mean, I think even
my wife noticed it. I mean, going from a place of stress to peace, know, thankfulness. I've been a Tony Robbins guy, so that attitude of gratitude, but I never did anything ⁓ substantially in my life to focus on it daily. So the thankfulness meditation was, I put one of the grandkids, G.I. Joe guys, with a little sign that said, thankfulness meditation in his arms right next to my.
bed on the nightstand and I'd look at that every night. And I didn't always get through everything. Sometimes I'd fall asleep in the middle of it, but just that's a habit of course that I continued and really appreciate from 100xLife
Rob Dayton (19:56)
I mean, that, is insane. That is so cool. And feels so good to even hear because like it sounds like, and perfect, perfect, perfect. You fell asleep before you got to the end of the day. Perfect. Because you just, you're setting yourself up the whole evening. And what we talk about in neurosciences that daytime is a gathering thought process. We're gathering thoughts. Nighttime is a sorting process and how you sort is how you solidify.
the neuro passages, that's how they actually grow. Um, and then just to, to put a bow on that is like his mercies are new every morning because we've sorted and we've reset, but how we sort and reset is so amazing. And what you're saying about the gratitude really taking you to do new dimensions of
of healthy thinking and you said peace. Wow. Way to go. That, that is insane. Ryan, did you have anything on the gratitude, the gratitude, ⁓ exercise at the end? Is that, did that impact you or, mean, having that, that, that visual cue of the, this, figure by your bed, I mean, that is so going to work. I mean, I'm going to totally steal that. Right. How about you?
Ryne Hensley (21:05)
you
Yeah, I definitely was practicing that as I'm pretty good at staying focused and getting through my full day before falling asleep. So I would think like, I don't know what Rob's talking about. I don't know how I'm supposed to fall asleep while also going through this. It's a lot to think about. But anyways, I don't necessarily struggle with stress or not feeling grateful.
Chris (21:26)
Okay. Okay.
Ryne Hensley (21:37)
⁓ and so, it's something that kind of comes natural to me anyways. so yeah, was, it was, it was fun though to try it at night.
Rob Dayton (21:45)
Well, I'm, totally envious. I'm very envious that that comes so natural to you. Okay.
So, so you, so this whole process of Jesus 100x process of growth really starts with, I'm just going to hold onto his word and remember it so that I can, so I can retain it. And then, and then the enemy gets involved and we start working out, we start getting in the gym on that word. And at some point in time, you are conscientious thinking.
Chris (21:50)
Okay. Okay.
Rob Dayton (22:14)
has a new mindset about
that, about that thing. Is there any word in particular where you've really felt like, and Chris, tell us what you think. Is there any word that you've really felt like, man, I really have a new mindset on this particular word? Can you take us through that journey?
Chris (22:31)
Yeah, I mean, the whole idea of strengthening the obedience muscle, really, I don't know that it ever had occurred to me prior to 100xLife I had started getting back in the gym a little bit before it, so that helped. you know, working out, you have a plan. I track what I'm going to do. I write down what I did that day, so the next time I do it, I can, you know, work to improve on that exercise particularly. But, ⁓
Strengthening the obedience muscle became a big focus for me throughout the journey. I remember sharing it with my wife, that whole concept. again, just had never heard anybody explain it that way. But every single day, just like going to the gym for a particular muscle group, you're focusing on how am I being obedient in his word each day. And that was pretty big for me. That was...
where I saw some transformation. And just maybe off the topic of your question, being involved with this program, it gave me the opportunity to share some things with friends that I hadn't shared a lot with historically.
Rob Dayton (23:37)
Kind of like vulnerable things.
Chris (23:38)
Yeah, some of that and then even just, you know, kind of naturally getting to tell them what I was doing. Like, I had remembered going out to dinner with my wife and some friends of ours and...
you know, when it came time to order drinks, here I am ordering an unsweet tea and, you know, why aren't you getting a glass of wine? You know, and having that opportunity to share, I'm doing this 100xLife kind of going over all of the, you know, the requirements of the commitments we made for that period of time. And I got to do that several times with people. We do engage with friends that drink socially and in moderation, but.
Every single time that gave me an opportunity to walk through and talk about the journey I was on. then in that process, a friend of mine who's going through a bit of a tough time opened up with me and I got a chance to talk to him on a deeper level than we've talked about in the past.
Rob Dayton (24:35)
So cool. So, so actually getting connections with people, kind of heart connections that you haven't had those kinds of conversations because you're in this challenge. was led into those things. I mean, that's amazing. And, and let me just talk about this obedient muscle. You know, like, don't, I don't think we talk about that too much on 100xLife I don't know. It's not, it's not necessarily a focus, but man, it is so powerful to think that I was just thinking the other day, you know, my wife.
Chris (24:46)
That's right.
Rob Dayton (25:02)
I'm not going to it. I'm not going to it.
Chris (25:07)
Thank
Rob Dayton (25:14)
And then when she's not at home, then I'm like, I'm like, and I'm like going for the downstairs and like, ⁓ and she's not there. Here's this choice. kind of a gym of sorts. What are you going to do? And no one's looking. What is your action? I took off my shoes. I'm like, I am going to kill the next sin opportunity because I am being faithful even when I think it no sense to take off my shoes.
Ryne Hensley (25:18)
This is
Chris (25:29)
Yeah, perfect.
Ryne Hensley (25:39)
Thank
Rob Dayton (25:40)
Ryan, how about you? What was the thing that was transformative in this 100x Jesus process for you with one word? What was the word that you really took to new heights?
Chris (25:42)
you
Ryne Hensley (25:51)
Yeah, my favorite word that I began to take to New Heights was number five, which is put my words into practice. And I love that just in James, you know, how he talks about ⁓ being doers of the word, right? And actually acting out. And so with each word that I would read through,
Chris (25:55)
Okay. Okay.
Ryne Hensley (26:14)
It was hard because there was like a fire hose that you always say. mean, just constantly new word every day. Um, but I would, I would look for opportunities, especially
ones that resonated well with me. Like, okay, where, where Satan going to show up and try to take this from me. Cause I'm going to, I'm going to keep it. I'm going to figure out a way, know, whatever he throws at me, whatever it tries to choke it out. I'm not going to let it happen. Go ahead. Shoot your shot kind of, you know,
Chris (26:23)
Okay. Okay.
Rob Dayton (26:30)
Wow.
And
did that happen? Did you recognize a time when...
Ryne Hensley (26:43)
yeah.
I mean, I'll try to think of a specific time. Maybe come back to me on that one with a word. But ⁓ there were definitely times where it it was sometimes same day. Like I'll listen to the podcast in the morning on my way to the gym and then boom, not even before all the kids are awake. have a test of this word, right? So.
Chris (26:50)
Okay. Okay.
Rob Dayton (27:03)
Wow.
I think you're opening my mind to a different thought that I don't think I've had this thought. What if you're sitting in the pew of church or maybe with your home group or whatever and you're learning something together.
Maybe the pastor's saying something that hits you hard and you're like, man. And then, and then, so you're, so you're the next thought is, okay, I'm going to put this into practice. And I recognize the enemy is going to come to challenge this. And that's going to be my opportunity to flex. What if you had that conscious mind thought?
Chris (27:25)
Okay. it.
Rob Dayton (27:43)
still in the pew, haven't left the building. And then the enemy comes and you're like, my gosh, this is amazing.
It's here. I got to get in the gym. I actually got to do the thing. Is that, that's kind of what you're saying is like, I'm preparing for that moment. The enemy is going to come. do you remember, doesn't have to be a specific thing, but specifics are great too. Where you actually got a little bit excited because the trial was here.
Chris (27:54)
Okay. Okay.
Ryne Hensley (27:54)
Yeah, rejoicing. Yeah.
absolutely. Yeah. mean, I think just looking back at the words, I have them in front of me now.
Rob Dayton (28:10)
Wow.
Ryne Hensley (28:15)
like, ⁓ for example, number 15 become like a child. think that was the one I kind of had in mind where, you know, I listened to it that morning and then I come home to wake up the kids and, as I'm waking them up, they're just excited to see me and happy to be awake and alive. I'm like, ⁓ man.
Chris (28:15)
Okay. Okay.
Ryne Hensley (28:36)
But sometimes I'll wake up and I'll just like, don't talk to me, put me back to sleep. And like, just seeing their excitement for the day
and what's to come next was like, man, I want to become like that. I want to become excited and rejuvenated each day as I wake up. ⁓
Chris (28:45)
Okay. . ⁓
Rob Dayton (28:53)
Do you feel like
you've grown in that area?
Ryne Hensley (28:56)
Oh, a hundred percent, especially with just the consistency of getting up and going to the gym and being there by 5.30 in the morning. feel like that's the only time as a, as a dad, I can go without taking away from, you know, my time with the Lord and then also with my family. So, um, and that looks different for everyone, but that's just what I've decided to, work out. And yeah, but the consistency has.
has made it much easier. It's become a habit, so to speak, a habit that it's hard for me to break now on doing that. Like I naturally wake up at 5 a.m. without an alarm almost because my body's in rhythm with that.
Rob Dayton (29:31)
Yes. Come on.
Mm-hmm. That's so cool. it almost feels like everything is just programming now. mean, you know, of course, 100 X life was my experience and how I kind of began the process of Jesus following and God taking me through a place of really recognizing how to do that.
Chris (29:39)
it.
Okay.
it.
Rob Dayton (29:52)
⁓ but also it's opened up that process, thought process of that every repentance changed the way you think is really going to impact every single thing you do. You're telling me about, I did this thing. I got, know, for 62 days, I got up at the wee hours and went to the gym cave. And then, you know, did my workout and then came on woke my kids up, which was, it
sounds like a wonderful joy. Part of the morning.
Ryne Hensley (30:14)
Mm.
Rob Dayton (30:15)
now you've got this new mindset that's just trained in your neuroplasticity, which is your body, that this is what we do. ⁓ Chris, do you feel like that? You know, you, you're a successful person. Do you feel like that you've experienced that in the past about knowing that have you doubled down on that thought or, or what's your, what, how would you dance with that?
Chris (30:16)
Okay.
Yeah, I mean, for me, I think even like the don't worry, the words don't worry, not telling you how to do your job, but you can maybe move that one up a few. That would have been nice to go out. There were several of yours that I went through multiple times and don't worry, I definitely listened to. I think that one maybe three times. You know, when you get to a point in life and you're asking yourself like, how do I make sure I can...
Ryne Hensley (30:48)
Thank
Rob Dayton (30:50)
Yeah.
Chris (31:02)
take care of my family and pay my bills until I die. And it's like you wake up and where does your mind go the first thing in the morning? There's times when I was waking up and looking at markets and charts and that don't worry. It was a problem I had and that taking control and instead giving it to God and saying, you've got this.
I really challenged myself. had to make a change to where I woke up. The first thing I would do is go right to my study or the Bible just to try to change my patterns in my mind first thing in the morning. And that one was a tough one for me, but it worked. It's been effective. I'm grateful that God shaped me in that way and helped me really in that struggle that I had of...
worry.
Rob Dayton (31:56)
That's so amazing. I really resonate with the shift in what's the first thing you think about in the morning. I think that that is brilliant. And if you give that to Jesus and you sit with him and I got to tell you guys, like, I have been doing that a long time, but I also got to tell you that I've constantly got to shift how I do that because
It's like, it's kind of how you led Chris. Well, you know, Jesus is taking us on a journey. We're following him because he's taking us on a journey. That journey leads to the Father's house. And that is a freaking amazing adventure. And this morning time, which is going to set the course for my entire day, needs to feel.
Like it's an adventure with him. It's we're, this is not like, you know, of course, sometimes we, you know, we, we might sit there and sing a hymn. do. think singing out loud is really powerful, but it's also this, we're going to jump off this bridge today. We're bungee jumping. We're, know, we're going to take on something that is impossible. whether it's a thought or it's a, or it's a behavior or it's something you're trying to achieve.
He's so with us. And when we devote that time, first thoughts to that process of adventure with him and shifting the way, making sure that we're always shifting the way we do that so that it's got an edge of excitement. I think that's so powerful for our listeners to hear and I appreciate you saying it. It comes to mind when I think about you talking about the mindset shift and how you think about worry.
Chris (33:07)
Okay.
Rob Dayton (33:23)
there's a recent podcast that came out from Huberman labs. You guys probably have listened to Huberman, uh, but, it's September 4th. So it's on mindsets if anyone wants to listen to it. And, uh, I'll give you just a teaser on it. So Dr. Alia crumb is a flaw. She's a professor at Stanford and she's been doing studies on the placebo effect.
Ryne Hensley (33:29)
Hmm.
Rob Dayton (33:45)
which in essentially is people who believe the medicine didn't get the medicine, but believe it would work and then it worked. But what if you just focused on that? And so the example they gave, which was just so mind blowing for me is that there, turns out that ⁓ maids were ⁓ maids in hotels who are changing beds all day long are burning significant amounts of calories. It's calories. It's like they're in the gym.
Chris (33:47)
Okay.
you
Rob Dayton (34:13)
They're there. have a workout program. but what the, what they don't know is they don't know that they have a workout program. And so what they did is they took all these people and kind of find out what they thought about their jobs. And universally people thought, yeah, ⁓ you know, I don't go to the gym. I'm not healthy.
And then they told half of them, Hey, this is what your job's doing for you. You're actually burning these calories. You're you're
You're it's just like you're in an athlete in a gym. And then they, they told, they told the others, yeah, you're right. It's, know, it's not, you're not working out within four weeks. The, the, ladies who heard and developed a mindset and a belief that they were actually getting healthier, got healthy just by believing that they were. like how much more.
Chris (34:47)
it.
That's incredible.
Ryne Hensley (34:57)
This is
Rob Dayton (35:02)
Is is that if we're not only focused on the words of Jesus and putting them into practice, but we believe it's going to lead to the abundant life. How much more is that going to accelerate us in relationship and mindsets? You you said, don't worry. I feel like even as you talk, I feel I can feel the peace of, that you're, you're, leaving that one. Doesn't mean you're not going to be tested on in the future, but you're really leaving that one in the rear view mirror and advancing with a new mindset. So cool.
Chris (35:15)
Thank you.
.
Rob Dayton (35:29)
Well, ⁓ anyone have a favorite word? know, Ryan, you mentioned
put my words into practice. And what was the other one you mentioned? ⁓ Faith like a child. Is there anyone that you feel like you really were able to adapt? Like you got like, I'm really flexing this one well.
Ryne Hensley (35:39)
Mm-hmm.
Chris (35:43)
.
Ryne Hensley (35:48)
I think the one that I, when I first read it, I thought, know what, I'm actually doing this one pretty well, ⁓ pretty, ⁓ automatically it was forgive. I'm pretty quick. Yeah, I do. Yeah. think, ⁓ I'm, I'm a naturally trusting person. and so, ⁓ you know, I can put my belief and.
Rob Dayton (35:56)
cool, which one was that one? Yeah.
Wow, tell us about your journey to forgiveness. Do you have a story there?
Chris (36:08)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (36:12)
I think that's even another word is believe, or maybe believe all things or that's something in there, right? But
So I had to do have a little bit of a story, but when I was wrong one time, and I won't go into the full details of it, but this was, you know, six, seven years ago, I had someone close to me hurt me really bad. And, ⁓ it would have been easy to harbor up a lot of anger and, ⁓ malice towards this person. maybe a couple of people that were involved, but I just had.
Chris (36:18)
Thank
So, thank
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (36:44)
the right people around me to point me back to Christ. And I thankfully had mentors. I was really close with my pastor at the time. And I sat down and I said, what do I do in this situation? And
I was told you're in a hole right now. And the first thing everyone else around you is going to want to do is pull you out of it. But they were promising me that there's something that God has for me in this hole that I'm in. And it's not until
Chris (37:00)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (37:13)
I feel it to its full effect and it has its perfect work in me that I'm going to be able to climb out of this hole and only God can take me out. And so I
learned true forgiveness in that, in those moments. I exercised them and I don't think anyone could do anything in my life to hurt me as bad as I was at that point. So if I can forgive at that level,
even just every opportunity I've had from there on, I've just been able to forgive the smallest things because it feels like once I understood what Jesus was forgiving me, what God was forgiving me of, then I could also understand and forgive in that moment. And then now every forgiveness from there has been pretty straightforward and easy comparatively.
Rob Dayton (37:57)
That's so beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. And isn't it cool how you can go through some of the words of Jesus and say, Hey, that one I'm in production. I'm so, tell me, you know, I don't, Chris, you tell us how big his ego is. Cause that'll determine a lot of the answer. Like, would you say in the area of forgiveness, would you say you're 30, 60 or a 100x right now? How would you rate yourself?
Chris (37:58)
.
Ryne Hensley (37:59)
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm, yeah.
you
Chris (38:13)
you
Ryne Hensley (38:21)
I would say I'm at between 60 and a 100x Yeah. Yeah.
Rob Dayton (38:25)
OK, Chris,
could I get a check in on that one? Does that seem right for you?
Chris (38:29)
Yeah, yeah, I agree 100%. I think 60 is probably low. He's probably doing better than that.
Ryne Hensley (38:35)
Thanks.
Rob Dayton (38:35)
It's so
cool. And that's true freedom. mean, being able to forgive in real time. In fact, I tell this story about forgiveness is like getting shot with an arrow and you're either gonna, you're either gonna have to pull out the arrow, which is forgiveness and you have to do it or you're gonna, you're gonna die. So you have to forgive. It's not an option. You got to forget.
But wouldn't it be cool if instead of having to pull it out, forgiveness was the breastplate that the arrow hit. In other words, you're already telling yourself a story when the hurt is happening in real time of letting this person off the hook and knowing that I've got to work through forgiveness before it even touches flesh. And it sounds like, does that resonate with you, Ryan, in terms of how your outlook on when you're being hurt?
Ryne Hensley (39:19)
Mm.
Rob Dayton (39:21)
Like that I'm actually, isn't that amazing?
Ryne Hensley (39:23)
100%. Yeah. It's so amazing. Yeah. The way you're talking about it, I recognize it already. Like I can feel almost when someone's about to say something that's going to offend me and I can already tell like whether their voice is changing or whether their mannerisms are changing, whatever that looks like. And I can say, I'm about to forgive this person right now. And I know it's going to be easy because
Chris (39:38)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (39:47)
I'm already prepped for it, ready to go. Boom, forgiveness. That's all right. I'll let that slide.
Rob Dayton (39:51)
And that's right in line with your other thought about, I know
the enemy is going to test me on this one. you're gotten used to the test and you're ready to volley that one. I love that. That is so cool. Chris, how about you? Any particular word that just, you you said worry. Is there any other one that you feel like, man, I was really able to accelerate this one? Or maybe you came across one like Ryan where you're like, man, I'm doing this. I'm doing this. Feels good.
Chris (39:58)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (40:00)
Mm-hmm.
Chris (40:02)
you
Yeah, I think it was around the time of forgive, but do not judge, do not condemn were good words for me. There's a couple relationships that it helped me reflect upon and then of course the focus on remembering that these people are image bearers and in being able to use Jesus's words to
affect how I looked at them and perceived the situation. It wasn't necessarily an instance where it required any forgiveness. It was just my jaded view and I had to let that go. And so I think those were early words in the program and they were very helpful for me.
Rob Dayton (40:59)
That's so cool. That's powerful. You know, I wonder about, I want to get to the journal problems for people out of this podcast. And so I'll, let me start with the journal prompt and then ask you guys about seeing how it relates to a 100xLife. Cause we're building this philosophy, Jesus philosophy. We're embedding this philosophy in, in us that not only, not only do we, um, can we can get
We can thwart the trial. can build this obedience muscle. We can have these things and also be joyful in this experience. We actually have a joyful experience. And one of the best questions in coaching that I've come across, this is probably my favorite question, and it's when I'm coaching someone.
Who, and this will be our journal prompt is when they're telling me about this situation. In fact, the most recent one was a couple of weeks ago. And this guy was telling me about how he just got so ripped off by this, his partner. And he's been, he's been investing with his partner for 15 years with this huge payout, which, happened company successful largely because of the guy who's talking to me and his partner just pulled it. The rug out from under him.
And he's reaping almost nothing after this 15 years, nothing to ask for. It was like the thing right before, he's your age, Chris. And so he was planning on retiring. And, and so here's the question. And I want you guys to process a little bit. And I want this to be the journal prompt for us this week is I said to him, what if that was the best thing that ever happened to you in your life?
Tell me if God was convincing you right now, you choose a member of the Trinity coming to you. let's say it's Jesus in this case. And he's saying, Hey, let me tell you why this is the best thing that has happened to you. Yeah. I didn't cause this, I didn't cause your partner to come against you, but let me tell you why it's going to be the best thing. I'm going to turn all things together for good. Let me tell you why it's the best thing that ever happened to you.
Does that question resonate with you guys, ⁓ either one of you like on the 100xLife scale and just a general frame for life and how Jesus would approach something like that? Does that resonate?
Ryne Hensley (43:07)
You know, it really reminds me of the verse that talks about, ⁓ think it's in James, right? Where he says, consider it all joy, consider it pure joy when you face trials of various kinds. And so that is like teeing it up. Like, here's how I'm going to make this joyful for you. Like you can, you can try to turn it all into joy in the moment. Like, how do I be joyful? Right.
Chris (43:16)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (43:34)
But now here, if you're asking that question, like here's how I'm making this
a joyous experience.
Rob Dayton (43:40)
So, so good. Chris, what are your thoughts?
Chris (43:43)
Yeah, I mean with the benefit of having some years behind me, I think I even might have shared this with Ryan the other day. My wife and I shared with him about 10 years ago something similar but not quite the same occurred in our life and we just always recognize how God is orchestrating everything for His will and we've seen so many things that have happened to us and occurred.
Rob Dayton (43:47)
Yes.
Chris (44:05)
And it's just, you look back, and I think I said to you the other day, Ryan, I couldn't have lined things up better myself, and I didn't see it at the time, but I look back that the way God coordinated everything, my wife and I just look at that and we say, thank you, Jesus. I mean, just putting in his hands, like we could not have done it better ourselves, and you really get to see those things, and it's pretty special.
Rob Dayton (44:22)
Come on.
That is so well said. That is amazing. And I love that you've got a longer rear view mirror to see how those things manifest. Because sometimes it takes a while. Sometimes it takes a while to see how those things really change our lives. But yeah, it's like you talked about Tony Robbins. And since you're a Tony Robbins guy, I'll use this as an example. Tony Robbins is incredibly gifted.
Ryne Hensley (44:36)
You
Rob Dayton (44:54)
at seeing where someone is misbelieving something and pointing it out. Like, I'm so envious and working on it. Where did he get that? He got it from possibly the most miserable story you could ever hear. A very manipulative drug abusing mom who was trashing the family with men coming and going. And Tony, the older, I think he was the older one in the family having to maneuver that.
Chris (45:00)
Yeah.
Rob Dayton (45:21)
and actually have to take his mother to a different place. And because of all that experience, he is so grateful, he will say, as you know, I'm so grateful to my mom because I wouldn't be the man I am today. And it's just so powerful when we look through our lives with that frame. Any last thoughts, you guys, like before we go, any last thoughts that you would say to?
Chris (45:35)
Yeah.
Rob Dayton (45:46)
to people who are considering maybe doing 100xLife or becoming a coach or any thought, anything's on the table. Ryan, any last thoughts?
Chris (45:48)
We. ⁓
Ryne Hensley (45:54)
Yeah, I mean, I could go on and on and talk about this, but, ⁓ you know, one of my last thoughts, I know we're coming up on January here, so anyone listening who is considering jumping in on the challenge, I highly recommend you do it. Go find someone that you're close with, someone that you're not even that close with who would think would have fun trying this out and just give it your all. ⁓ Be open and expect, expect God to move because he will in this challenge.
Chris (46:13)
Okay.
Ryne Hensley (46:21)
⁓ you know, it's, so easy, think, and tempting a lot of the times to be
listening to the podcast or reading through the book and want to think about someone else a lot of the times. And I just want to make that clear. Like I'm, I'm so at fault for that. I'm so guilty of this, like thinking I should send this one to my wife. You know, she would love to hear this about, you know, herself or so-and-so that she's having the troubles with, you know, whatever, but, know,
Rob Dayton (46:44)
Yes.
Ryne Hensley (46:49)
Really being able to put the circle around myself, I learned that in my marriage class, right? Put the circle around myself. How can I change
me? How can I control the controllables and really put Jesus's words into practice personally?
Rob Dayton (47:00)
That's so well said and right along the lines with your put his words into practice. One of your favorites on that one. Chris, what would you say? Any last thoughts?
Ryne Hensley (47:05)
Mm-hmm.
Chris (47:09)
Yeah, I mean, I would encourage anyone as well who is considering it. I myself am gonna run this back again. I wanna do it even better. For instance, you know, I gave myself grace with the journaling.
great writer, I don't care for writing, but I want to do it again and journal better. So I just feel like that when I'm even the even the not having an alcoholic beverage in.
all the different things that came with it. They worked for me and I realized a real change in my life. know, again, the adjustments in my perceptions, the strengthening of relationships with friends and family and people I know. I'm looking forward to doing it again. So I guess that's a testimony. If you're willing to go back and do it again, it must be pretty good.
Ryne Hensley (47:53)
if
Rob Dayton (47:53)
It
must be good and feel free to become a 100 Likes Life coach and we can give you tools to bring some people around with you. Maybe there's some more father-sons out there. I got to say it's pretty special to have this conversation. My dad, was born at a very late age. He was 41 when I was born and so I didn't get a lot of dad time. He was an awesome dad, the best he could be.
⁓ But to go through this with your dad, ⁓ my gosh, that sounds insane. And I appreciate you guys sharing your relationship and giving us a window into what that looks like.
I'm thanking God for it because it's pretty amazing. so thank you for the conversation. Really appreciate it. And guys who are listening, people who are listening, that's our journal prompt. of the thing where you really felt like that was one of the worst things that ever happened to me. And then bring one member to the Trinity. My favorite on this one is Jesus. Jesus is convincing you this was the most important life-transformation
And he's telling you, you're journaling from Jesus why this situation has benefited you so much. The further you're away from it, the easier it'll be. Just to be mindful of that. If it's really close, maybe pick one a little bit further out. It's a little bit easier to see what it's been a little further out. And I pray that that would be awesome. Chris, Ryan.
Chris (49:10)
it.
Rob Dayton (49:22)
Thank you so much for the conversation. Really appreciate you guys. And everybody will see you next week.
Ryne Hensley (49:27)
Thanks, Rob.