Communicating with a New Partner After Divorce
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete explore how to effectively communicate with new partners after divorce. They're joined by Dr. Etel Leit, a human communication researcher, prominent figure in psychology and education, and founder of Sign Shine, a family center in Beverly Hills. The conversation focuses on breaking old patterns and learning to relate to new partners, especially when communication issues contributed to the end of a marriage.
Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit dive into the importance of self-reflection and awareness before entering a new relationship. They discuss the fantasy of a perfect future partner and the need to address what went wrong in the previous marriage first. Dr. Leit introduces her concept of the "3 Vs" crucial for a successful relationship: Vibe, Values, and Vision. She explains each in detail, offering valuable insights into how these elements contribute to a strong partnership. Additionally, Dr. Leit shares the "3 As" essential for effective communication: Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.
Questions we answer in this episode:
- How can I avoid repeating negative patterns in a new relationship?
- What are the key factors for a strong, lasting partnership?
- How do I know if I'm ready to date again after divorce?
Key Takeaways:
- Self-reflection and awareness are essential before entering a new relationship
- Shared values and vision are crucial for a successful partnership
- Effective communication, built on awareness, acceptance, and action, is vital
This episode is packed with practical advice and thought-provoking ideas to help you navigate the world of dating and relationships post-divorce. Whether you're considering a new partnership or already in one, Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit's insights will give you the tools to build a stronger, healthier relationship.
Links & Notes
- (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
- (02:07) - Meet Dr. Etel Leit
- (03:31) - Old Patterns of Communication
- (05:52) - Clean Your Water
- (06:49) - Shifting Mindset Post-Divorce
- (11:22) - Three Vs: Vibe, Values, Vision
- (22:45) - Choosing the Same Type
- (24:40) - New Relationships
- (31:41) - Three As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action
- (38:12) - Finding Dr. Leit
- (40:27) - Listener Question
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