How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

Communicating with a New Partner After Divorce
In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete explore how to effectively communicate with new partners after divorce. They're joined by Dr. Etel Leit, a human communication researcher, prominent figure in psychology and education, and founder of Sign Shine, a family center in Beverly Hills. The conversation focuses on breaking old patterns and learning to relate to new partners, especially when communication issues contributed to the end of a marriage.
Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit dive into the importance of self-reflection and awareness before entering a new relationship. They discuss the fantasy of a perfect future partner and the need to address what went wrong in the previous marriage first. Dr. Leit introduces her concept of the "3 Vs" crucial for a successful relationship: Vibe, Values, and Vision. She explains each in detail, offering valuable insights into how these elements contribute to a strong partnership. Additionally, Dr. Leit shares the "3 As" essential for effective communication: Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.
Questions we answer in this episode:
  • How can I avoid repeating negative patterns in a new relationship?
  • What are the key factors for a strong, lasting partnership?
  • How do I know if I'm ready to date again after divorce?
Key Takeaways:
  • Self-reflection and awareness are essential before entering a new relationship
  • Shared values and vision are crucial for a successful partnership
  • Effective communication, built on awareness, acceptance, and action, is vital
This episode is packed with practical advice and thought-provoking ideas to help you navigate the world of dating and relationships post-divorce. Whether you're considering a new partnership or already in one, Seth, Pete, and Dr. Leit's insights will give you the tools to build a stronger, healthier relationship.
Links & Notes
  • (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
  • (02:07) - Meet Dr. Etel Leit
  • (03:31) - Old Patterns of Communication
  • (05:52) - Clean Your Water
  • (06:49) - Shifting Mindset Post-Divorce
  • (11:22) - Three Vs: Vibe, Values, Vision
  • (22:45) - Choosing the Same Type
  • (24:40) - New Relationships
  • (31:41) - Three As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action
  • (38:12) - Finding Dr. Leit
  • (40:27) - Listener Question

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Creators & Guests

Host
Pete Wright
Podcaster and co-host, Pete Wright brings years of marriage and a spirit of curiosity to the divorce process. He's spent the last two decades interviewing experts and thinkers in emotional healing and brings that with him to the law, divorce, and saving relationships in the process.
Host
Seth R. Nelson
Seth Nelson is the founding attorney and managing partner at NLG Divorce & Family Law. He is a Tampa-based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems.
Producer
Andy Nelson
Hailing from nearly 25 years in the world of film, television, and commercial production, Andy has always had a passion for storytelling, no matter the size of the package.

What is How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships?

Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.