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"Just My POV" is basically that messy, unfiltered group chat argument about relationships and Nigerian struggles brought to life on screen. It’s Pearl and the crew shouting the controversial opinions everyone thinks but is usually too scared to say with their chest
hey guys you're welcome to the freshest podcast in Nigeria or should I just say in the world of course it is i mean come on who else serves this i'm saying to nobody just like you guys know well on this podcast we're talking about everything that you want to know issues trending topics even your own opinions don't worry we've got you as you well know I am Pearl Cardi and I'm holding it down for the millennials and I'm Kelvin and I'm holding it down for the generation Z i don't What's generation Za of course i mean how else do you know I'm Gen Z if we don't bring it in extra you see how easy it is to say Gen Z generation Za i don't know man you guys please oh my god well we're definitely going to be talking about a lot of fun stuff that you guys definitely want to be hearing about and it's literally just our POV kind of like yours as well just our what pov exactly so that being said let's just get into it right and this is something that has been on my mind and I've been seeing a couple you know posts where people are talking about like their exes or like relationships when when your relationship is over should your exes stay like enemies stay enemies or should they stay friends with you um this is a very tricky one because I feel like it depends on how you guys went your separate ways i beg and but personally me I feel like I feel like just because I'm somebody who at the end of the day I know they really really fight with people like that i feel like it's okay to be friends but there should be a very healthy you know gap i don't understand what What are you trying to be friends with your ex for uh I mean it's not a fight matter but it's just that you know how often times when you're in a relationship one of the reasons you kind of still want to see the person or go back to the person is because you want closure but once you already have closure I don't understand what is the person doing around you you're making a point there the person has nothing to do around you most people tend to really hate their exes probably because of the nature of the relationship they had but we also have to put it into consideration that people's temperaments are different people handle issues differently and at the same time not everybody goes their separate ways as a result of conflict you know sometimes we tend to agree to disagree what do you think so the thing about relationships is you have the chance to know me like outgrowing feelings you have for each other yeah i mean the thing about relationships is that you have the chance to know me completely and I get the opportunity to know you completely while we're cutting while we're dating while we're doing whatever we're doing you have the opportunity to get to know me and what irritates me or what I don't like what I like if we end up breaking up based on like oh maybe we've just outgrown each other that is different that kind of breakup safe is not you just say we just grew apart it's not like a breakup you get what I mean you guys grow apart but then when you like have a proper relationship you know me you know what irritates me you now get to the place where you start to do the things that really get me upset and then we break up you know because breakup is a break up so you see it's like after You now know all these things about the person and the person has done something so terrible to you you now want to form friendship i don't understand why would I look at you and be smiling why makes no sense actually uhhuh so you see when you're like trying to say that oh because you're not the type of person that used to carry something for mind many things that you holding your mind i feel you i feel you but anyway so for that one me I'm just like nah man i'm not about to be having There's this other thing with people who you know I feel like men in the world generally they carry this stamp on their head like cheat what do you think because in relationships most of the time is being made to look like men are the defaulters when it comes to like loyalty and all of that yeah yeah so women I feel like women are naturally wired to be like loyal stay with you grow with you everything with you i honestly can do that i feel Yeah i feel like even when it's not necessary that's why like you do something every time that upsets your mom and your mom is just your mom she loves you uncle she's just there she could just do all she could get but your mom see your dad wipe you show you yeah so first of all there's that one now secondly another thing about men is I feel like they generally feel like they're at an advantage generally in the world so because of that they don't feel that they need to like hold on so much suffer so much they can just change because I mean I can I'm a man i can change i I say the rules and then I I you know I make things happen or not make things happen another thing that also affects that aspect of that idea is because the men will be want to come to you mhm you didn't go to them as a because they confuse you when the guy now does something it's like wait why and when they cheat they will now say that you know he's a man yeah and then they always excuse it you see that particular line kills me like I cannot understand how because you're a man that automatically gives you a golden ticket to enter and everything makes no sense that's what they tell each other they feel like and men are more comfortable with it these days because society really just does approve it what do you think i mean they giving an excuse if you ask any man today ah waiting so why did you do this or do that to her you know you understand that's the thing you expect to hear which honestly shouldn't be it doesn't even make any sense because just your gender does not give you an excuse to be a child or be like makes no sense or be like a criminal or be like but but I need to just point out that not only men cheat sh women cheat very well i mean I have too many best friends female best friends and more if you realize what your baby's doing to you brah you're actually going to sit off we're really good at it because I feel like with women they even have options and I feel like that's why in relationships they tend to be more loyal because they've had their share of different men rich ones reasonable ones dumb ones go through your message request ma'am wait no no no i agree no no i think the idea of like having variety And you now select this one man he must have taken 70% out of 100 think about it so the funny thing about us too is the imitating do you know how many dead bait dads are there and then you just have baby mas it's just us we're just I like this person and that's the person I'm just going to be with we're just like that and it makes no sense and that's why we're always in one situation or the other but we're just like that but that's also the thing that affects us when we end up cheating and men take it so seriously because we have our emotions in there but a man now if he cheats he can knock this babe go to this guy go to this babe you know do whatever he wants and claim that he doesn't like them or that he loves his but he loves his babe and do all of this babe and I still love you that is a rubbish line we know there are even some popular people that have made that mistake yes but we're not mentioning names but they just say it you feel me those people they are just saying it for saying sexual they just say for in my own opinion I don't think that you know your choices the decisions that you make should be based on your gender it's a personal choice if if you see somebody now and you give that person a dirty slap now you choose to slap them it's not because you're a man or a woman because your hand is harder or because your hand is softer none of that so that one is aside i I absolutely get the idea when usually it's that oh it's the men that are cheating but it's a dynamic world now now the babes are not really on that re but they usually catch the men though because the men don't know the art of now read a book brother we were very read a book because if you're if you need to time things it's very rare to find that woman i'm I'm not supporting cheating right i don't believe in it but at the same time you have to be sharp why are they always catching the man he could call the cry no because he gets carried away right and too comfortable yeah and because he's a man he feels that the society would accept it and allow him so he doesn't really take the time to be so careful at it because people wouldn't really frown at it he just is like with it but with us a lot of people will frown your parents will frown your friends will frown everybody will They say you open your eyes so you got to put in the work to make sure that it's closenit you guys do all be mindful i beg i beg but one thing I find out about a lot of Jenz's i need to talk I need to ask you about that because come on so there's there's something that's called the ach with Jenz's i know we also feel the ick as well it's just that we didn't used to call it ick we call it something else the guy is irritating or like any thank you so anyways now there's something called the IK for Jenzies and I see that the ick really is something that breaks up relationships much more than cheating you can you can be in a relationship you know two Gen Z's can be in a relationship and the guy can cheat and then the girl say "Oh yeah yeah I understand him he's all these girls that want to take him away from me." And then she'll stay with him in the relation are openminded but no listen that's not what I'm saying what What's he saying that's not what I'm saying ah let me saying they they can stay with you if you cheat on them but they can stay with you if they get the ick with you right i ick in the what what do you mean by the ick i mean like is it that if he go party he don't know how to dance well or he doesn't know how to dress well so so you know how the ick is very individual it's according to the person according to the person it's not really like an act like somebody just creates it's just irritating yeah yeah so something that irritates you or something that ticks you off there's usually something like that okay maybe like for instance a guy or your partner can like to slurp on their drink but I like that you see I mean at home so that's what I mean when I say that so that's what I mean when I say like it's in individualistic oh but it's slurp to slurp your drink is quite I think I think it's that way because Jenzie people are more about the aesthetic than the reality of things thank you i mean I'm very selfaware but I mean that's exactly what it is so it has to look good it has to serve it has to eat you know all of that that is just BS you know why because you're generally living for other people's opinion how it looks to the world not necessarily how it feels and that's why you guys are always find yourself in a lot of messy situations relationship wise workwise lifewise uh but don't you think that unlike every other generation we are very big on mental health so the reason you guys say that you're very big on mental health is because you excuse all of your misbehaviors or all of like your like your mistakes for mental health like somebody is outrightly being a nuisance and you're like I think the person I think you guys just like to I'm in one of those phases you guys like to excuse things and I and I personally feel like the only reason you guys are like this is because generations like mine like the millennials baby boomers and whatnot we have allowed you people to be able to speak and have an opinion that's also the reason you guys feel like you can have different genders and be confusing me and be holding it against me for not knowing how can I know okay so when it comes to this gender conversation I feel like personally right when people misgender people I think it's quite understandable right you judge a book by the cover when it comes to gender no get me wait I'm getting there right but still yes so when you look at someone and you can clearly see that it's a man presents himself as a man you refer to him as a man I mean it's only what it's only normal for you to do like and are you about to be thinking that you be like say this man you be like say no be now now you're sounding like a millennial but like no but that's what it is but where I think is disrespectful is when you feel For whatever reason there might be a comma you get what I mean there might be a comma i feel like you should you should say "Oh I'm so sorry uh what do I refer to you as?" I feel like they is such a general term you can use to dis relate to anybody a lady a man as long as you see a little bit of anything outside the normal gender box so you should call them D or ask them don't just assume so the thing about I absolutely agree with asking them but you know be everybody who ask but for people who body used to bite them when they just randomly see you and say hey then you are insane because I feel like you should be able to say oh sorry you misgendered me so you see so now so now I mean it sounds crazy but that's exactly what should be done so now this is back to what I said when I said that Jenz's are excusing everything and then they expect that every other person every other generation should be in that mind space or also be concerned about them i personally just feel like while I love Jenz's by the way I really do love Look at you i I do but I I feel like you guys are in this bubble which is back to what you said when you said that they are not really like in reality it's about the aesthetics yeah so you guys live in that aesthetical if that's even a word type of world type of world where you expect that every other generation also is thinking about you and be concerned about you and your thoughts and where your mind is at every other person has their own life and there are things that they bothered about and focusing on so it's crazy for you to expect that I would see you and be able to assume that oh I need to ask you what gender you are um well you see you talking about it you talking about it is coming from like oh maybe you're confused about this or that but you know you're very respectful at the same time you know people outside I feel like the reason why it's such a topic is because people are very disrespectful for absolutely no reason right because for example now you see a boy he has a feminine tang and you just say hey girl boy you know those things are very irritating things like you're more of making a gest about whatever you're thinking in your head as against being respectful I mean it Doesn't hurt to be kind you know like you see somebody you should know if you really think they are struggling with so many things I mean people would normally say ah that one more demons fool your body or you're having a mental problem or these things should be called madness you know all of those things I feel is unnecessary no that's ridiculous if you feel like they are mad do you think it's normal to be abusing a mad person how normal does that make you feel no that's ridiculous but but I personally feel like you're you're being you're not generalizing you're speaking about people who come at people and that's the thing and that's the thing about Jenz's that I realize you guys are always on the defensive mode you guys feel like everyone is attacking you even when they're not like for instance we're having this conversation about this and you're talking about only the negative ones there are lots of people who who really genuine i mean why should I be talking about the positive ones cannot because they don't no but they do exist it's like the way that I said generally speaking I respect you respectful ones you appreciate it very big shout out to you guys oh my goodness but in any case I love I love how um how you guys like to be outspoken although I would like for you guys to be more considerate as you expect well there are not a lot of logical gent people i'm just saying because as you expect that other generations should be you know civil would be I expect you guys to also be civil right well let's not keep talking about this too much because we are not going to stop yes and literally this is literally just your opinion and my opinion so it's just my POV all right and if we keep talking about this we are not going to stop we'll keep going back and forth honestly because yeah you know it's just your POV actually and just my POV so with that being said guys we're going to catch you next time on Just My POV