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The podcast focuses on fiercely empowering women in business, as entrepreneurs and women in male-dominated industries, featuring guests who embody strength, resilience, competence, and a touch of sass as they navigate business and life.
Looking for guests who are willing to bring a wealth of experience and knowledge but also possess the strength, resilience, and sass that align with the tone of my podcast.
I want their stories and insights to provide immense value to my audience, helping me to establish a powerful podcast as a must-listen for women looking to empower themselves in business. The goal is to build competence and discover how brave women can be in business.
Welcome to Superheroes in Heels, the podcast where powerful women rise, lead, and own the room. I'm Kimberley Borgans, your host, fellow trailblazer, and unapologetic advocate for women in the world of business. With over thirty years of experience building success in a male dominant industry, I'm here to empower you to do the same. Each week, you'll hear bold conversations with inspiring guests who embody strength, resilience, a little dash of sass, and a little bit of grace. Together, we'll challenge the status quo, break through barriers, unlock your confidence, and unleash your inner superhero.
Kimberley Borgens:You ready? Let's go. Welcome to Superheroes in Heels, the podcast that fiercely empowers women to step into command presence, own their role, and lead like the strong capable women that they are. I'm your host, Kimberley Borgans. And today, I'm gonna talk about something that most people don't wanna talk about, and that is fear.
Kimberley Borgens:Fear in business. Fear the fear that's keeping you small. Right? So I I really wanted to to dig into this with you because I think that what happens is a lot of people get so stuck in fear that they don't move forward in business and that's not really helping anybody along the way. So I really wanted to dig into that topic with you today.
Kimberley Borgens:You know, a lot of times, you know, look, I've
Kimberley Borgens:been in business thirty three years and
Kimberley Borgens:I haven't always been the strong capable superpower woman that I am. Right? It took time to get into this space. It took time to have the confidence necessary to move forward as fast as I can move forward in today. When I first started started out, it was a lot slower in this process.
Kimberley Borgens:But guess what? It happens. I am not perfect. I have no intention to be perfect, although I wanted to be early on and would catch myself into the perfectionist mode, but but that's just not who I am. So let me just give you for those of you who are just joining, haven't heard me before, you just happen to get this particular episode of my podcast.
Kimberley Borgens:Let me just tell you a little bit about me. So like I said, I'm Kimberley Borgans. What happened is about thirty three years ago, I decided with a business partner to start our own business. Before that, I was married at 18 to my high school sweetheart. At 19, we had a son.
Kimberley Borgens:At 20, he left, took all the money. We got divorced. Right? I ended up as, you know, living in my car with my toddler son and, and then ended up on welfare. And during that time, I educated myself, got to, you know, learn how to be a parent as well as learn how to have some skills so that I could get a job per se.
Kimberley Borgens:I worked many retail jobs up until then, then I ended up going to the police academy. While I was in the police academy, I met this guy who was in private investigations. Later, I decided I didn't wanna be out on the street. And so we kinda merged our brains together and started a business. And we have a business in private security and private investigations.
Kimberley Borgens:And I've been doing that now for thirty three years. There's a quick, you know, fast bio about myself. Right? And so I I understand what it's like to be in business or be striving for that next step in a business in a job. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:And having concerns or fear or feeling like I'm not enough or undervaluing who I am, you know, all of those things that happen when, you know, we try to get better. Right? We try to, you know, overcome that fear to be a powerful and business person. And today, I really wanted to share with you around these things and why do I feel that I I'm a superheroes in heels because I'm still in business for thirty three years. That's number one.
Kimberley Borgens:Same business, thirty three years, about 70 employees and we just keep plugging away. So today, I wanted to share with you some strategies for women to build business, build confidence, you know, build courage, and build your command presence in today's world. You know, fear is a reaction. Courage
Kimberley Borgens:is a decision. That's what Winston Churchill said. Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision. So think about that for yourself.
Kimberley Borgens:When you step into courage, it's a decision that you're making. You build confidence by stepping into courage. So
Kimberley Borgens:let's explore fear today and let's talk about how fear keeps women playing small in business and how I can provide some actionable strategies to reduce fear. Use it as a motivator. Build confidence and your command presence. Right? Because fear really is a natural part of our life.
Kimberley Borgens:I want you to know that it's in our DNA. Okay? We were born with two fears automatically. Right? The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.
Kimberley Borgens:Everything else we learned. Just wanna say. Alright. But the thing is is it's really it can be a challenge to unlearn those fears. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:So, you know, I just wanna put it out there. But when you think about growing in your business, fear often acts like, I don't know, this unnecessary block, right? That holds you back from your next level of success, whatever that looks like for you. So throughout this episode, I'm going to encourage you to reflect on your own fears. Take some time to journal your thoughts.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Take some notes, journal later, especially if you're driving a car. Okay? Come back and listen later. But commit to taking one brave action after listening to this episode.
Kimberley Borgens:That's what I would love for you to take away from this. So let's talk about what does it mean to stop playing small in business. Look. Let me dispel your thoughts right now. Okay?
Kimberley Borgens:I'm an introvert. I'm not some strong extrovert who goes out there and can just be with people all the time, like that that's not who I am. The reality is is I'm an introvert and in my business, I know I hid out quite a bit for many years. Alright? Most of my employees didn't even know what my face looked like.
Kimberley Borgens:So I know what it means to play small in business. I just kinda I did the things that I need to do. I put my head down. I focused. I covered the things that needed to be covered.
Kimberley Borgens:I used email. My office team knew, but I have a lot of people outside the office. I could be the perfect secret shopper at any of the locations because my own staff didn't even know what I look like. And yes, I used that to my advantage for years. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:So I know what it's like to play small. It's about our behaviors and our decisions that drive maybe fear that limits our potential and growth. It shows up looking like avoiding risks. How about underpricing our services? Giving away our expertise for free?
Kimberley Borgens:Somebody says, yeah, but I'm just here to help people. Well, so am I. But guess what? This is life and we gotta pay the money that is necessary to take care of ourselves, take care of our families. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:We can't just keep giving our expertise away for free. We hesitate to negotiate for mutually benefit beneficial outcomes. I just did that today in an email. Right? I didn't hesitate.
Kimberley Borgens:I was clear on negotiating. They wanted me to my one of my customers wanted me to, you know, go in and make another change to something that, you know, that they wanted. I'm like, woah, hold on. This isn't a win win for both of us. Here's why it was made this way based on the information that you gave me previously.
Kimberley Borgens:Can we come to a mutual understanding, you know, and and collaborate on this?
Kimberley Borgens:Guess what? I didn't I didn't do that. I didn't have to do that because I
Kimberley Borgens:was willing to negotiate. See? It's just the little things. Right? Think about playing small, what it looks like in reluctance to take bold actions.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Those are the things that can propel us in our careers. We're often influenced by the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking good, or that other bugger called impostor syndrome. Like, our mindset can keep us from embracing our full potential. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Our full capabilities. It stops us from pursuing the things that will lead us to greater success and visibility in our businesses. Oh, come on. You know there's people out there that are doing exactly what it is that you want to be doing and they have way less skills than you do and yet they're doing it. Do you know what the difference is?
Kimberley Borgens:They just aren't afraid to be seen doing it. K? You're the one who's holding yourself back. They're not holding you back. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:I want you to get over that. Look, I'm gonna be real with you here. This is, you know, this is just real conversation because I know that I have earned every gray hair on my head because of all the wisdom that I've had to learn from all of the setbacks, pushbacks, knockdowns, you know, having to get back up after I looked bad, all the rejection, like, I have earned every gray hair. I call those my wisdom highlights. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:So I'm just gonna be real with you. I'm just gonna be honest the best that I possibly can with the information that I currently have. It It doesn't mean that I'm not gonna say something somebody has new information once I get in. I go, oh, of course, correct. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:But I'm just gonna be
Kimberley Borgens:real and share with you today. So let's talk about some of the common fears.
Kimberley Borgens:Alright. Hold on to your hats, ladies.
Kimberley Borgens:The fear of failure. Right? One of the most common.
Kimberley Borgens:It comes up from social, you know, societal expectations
Kimberley Borgens:or personal perfectionism. I don't
Kimberley Borgens:know about you, but these things show up all the time. I get it. Like I said, I'm a recovering perfectionist myself, but fear of failure might show up, you know, in ways like the reluctance to take risks. Look, I'm not a big risk taker. You don't have to be a big risk taker, but
Kimberley Borgens:you have to take some risks. Like launching new products, expanding your services, doing a podcast.
Kimberley Borgens:I know my team's been trying to get me to do that for a while. Right? Women may avoid stepping out of their comfort zone because they're fearing being criticized or falling short of what they think the expectation is. Most of the time I just want to point out there that the expectation that we're so busy trying not to fail from is our own. It's not an expectation that somebody else put on us.
Kimberley Borgens:It's an expectation that we put on ourselves.
Kimberley Borgens:I don't know about you, but it could be time to stop doing that. So another fear is the fear of rejection.
Kimberley Borgens:This fear can lead to hesitancy of reaching out to potential clients, reaching out for help, reaching out to collaborators or investors. Look, it might also show up in avoiding sales conversations where you actually ask for the sale. It might show up at networking opportunities where you just wanna talk about everything about you and how good you're gonna be, but without listening to hear what the other person really actually needs from you.
Kimberley Borgens:Or how about not starting the program because, well, maybe no one will come. Limiting your own growth. Guess what? Nobody will come if you don't invite them.
Kimberley Borgens:Like, I've hosted many networking opportunities. Right? I've been a managing director for a large women's networking organization. I've hosted mocktail parties and I've hosted workshops, webinars, telecalls back in the day and some of these nobody showed up to. I put so much time and energy into doing it.
Kimberley Borgens:I made phone calls. I sent emails. I got food ready, got drinks ready, and then to have nobody or very few people show up, like, does feel feel like rejection sometimes. But what if it wasn't rejection as much as it was just wrong timing? Often fear of rejection shows up looking like self sabotaging behaviors.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Women, especially, we underprice our products and services and then we over deliver for free. Come on. Or we fail to negotiate fair compensation,
Kimberley Borgens:which truly undermines our value. You know, think about that for a moment. How about indecisiveness?
Kimberley Borgens:You know, you're concerned about that fear of rejection or the fear of making the wrong decision that it leads to analysis paralysis. Right? You're delaying important actions like scaling your business or hiring somebody to help you or, you know, shifting to new products and services that are into today's things. Right? Like, what what do we need today?
Kimberley Borgens:But instead, what you're doing is you're staying in that fear of rejection mode that you're not willing to show up in such a way and you're losing.
Kimberley Borgens:How about the fear of looking good? You could say this is like perfectionism. Right? I'm not
Kimberley Borgens:gonna do anything that might have the potential of me looking bad. Right? You invite 300 people and only three people show up to your networking event. That's not perfect. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:And and it looks bad. Right? You're like, oh my gosh. I thought I had more influence than that.
Kimberley Borgens:You know? Think about it.
Kimberley Borgens:If it's not perfect, you can't launch it. Because if you launch it, then you might not look good because it's not perfect. You see this little, you know, hamster wheel that you get on when it comes to looking good and perfectionism? Is there really ever a perfect time?
Kimberley Borgens:Somebody else is doing it. Right? Yes. But they don't have your flare. Just because somebody else is doing it doesn't mean they're the right person to
Kimberley Borgens:be doing it for your clients. Look, there's a whole bunch of people out there in the world talking about the same stuff and somehow there's billions of people on this planet that one person cannot manage all of the clients. Right? But we're stuck in it and has to look perfect or I have to look good doing it or I can't do it because I'm afraid or any of
Kimberley Borgens:that stuff. Well, you're right. Maybe you can't get
Kimberley Borgens:the tech right. That's me. Look. I just was, you know, been talking about how the fact that I speak average. Okay.
Kimberley Borgens:Average American English. Right? And then there's the next dialect of this, which is called speaking nerd. And then the next dialect is geek speak. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Like, I do not understand those other two speaking dialects. I just don't. I'll marry somebody who has some nerd like qualities who knows how to talk to the geeks. Right? So think about it like that is you don't have to do everything because let me tell you, I wouldn't be doing a podcast if it were up to me, but because I got some good nerds and geeks off my side, I could do this.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? And just know, like, the fear of looking good is really just about you thinking that you're supposed to never make a mistake. You're never supposed to learn a lesson. You're never supposed to hang on to something that some other person's expectation for you. We're not meant for that.
Kimberley Borgens:Come on. Fear of looking good often shows up like avoidance of visibility, you know. That fear of criticism or judgment prevents women, specifically women because men just bits off the shoulder, they move on. But it holds women back from marketing themselves confidently, from speaking at events, sharing their expertise in public platforms, going out and asking for the sales, all that shows up because of that fear of looking good. Alright.
Kimberley Borgens:Let's talk about that other one. Imposter syndrome. Right? It's that pervasive fear of being exposed as a fraud despite clear evidence of competence. Come on.
Kimberley Borgens:This impostor syndrome causes you to underprice your services. It causes you to overwork to prove your worth. It stops you from pursuing leadership roles and going after larger opportunities.
Kimberley Borgens:Come on. Look. I've
Kimberley Borgens:been there. I can only say come on because I know. I think most successful women bring this little bugger up in conversation. Mostly because as successful women, what happens is we're just going along in life. We're building businesses and we're staying focused and somewhere along the way, we didn't realize how smart we got from all the mistakes that we made, all the trainings that we attended, all the lessons that we learned on our journey.
Kimberley Borgens:I mean, think about it for a minute. If you could think about for yourself, what are those things that you've learned along the way? Right? And then suddenly, we're like, what happened? I must be a fraud to
Kimberley Borgens:be talking about this. But really, who
Kimberley Borgens:better than someone who went through the journey to be sharing about? You know, sharing about becoming an expert in it.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? It's the who am I mindset. Like, who am
Kimberley Borgens:I to think that I'm smart enough to do this? Who am I to think that I have enough value for this? Who am I to think that I have the authority to talk about this?
Kimberley Borgens:Who am I? Well, who are you? Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Well, you're the gal who did it. You're the gal who went after it. You're the gal who just kept her head down saying focus, going after all the things and all of a sudden you looked up and you're like, woah, how do I know so much?
Kimberley Borgens:You're the one who and you're
Kimberley Borgens:the one who also should be standing in it. If you're stuck in impostor syndrome right now, it's a never ending loop. Right? It's time to get off that impostor syndrome loop. It's time to jump out of that hamster wheel.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? If you've been waiting for permission to not be an impostor, I'm giving you permission now.
Kimberley Borgens:Here it is. Own that as a superpower. Okay? Because impostor syndrome isn't there to hold you back. It's just
Kimberley Borgens:a reminder of how far you came.
Kimberley Borgens:That's how I figured it out.
Kimberley Borgens:But impostor syndrome, what will it do to hold you back? Well, it shows up when opportunities for advancement arise in your in your job and in your business. It causes you to hesitate. Right? It leads to inaction or declining prospects that could propel your business forward.
Kimberley Borgens:Oh, I don't know what they really want to hear from me. Oh, yeah. You do. Get on it. You can be bold.
Kimberley Borgens:You can ask for what you want. And if that's not what they're looking for, then refer them to somebody else because that's just as powerful too. Are y'all understand what I'm saying here?
Kimberley Borgens:Look. Really, what I want
Kimberley Borgens:you to take away from this today is I really want you to see that fear holds you back. And like it said, you know, Winston Churchill said, you know, fear is a reaction. K? Courage is a is a decision. So are you ready to step into some decisions with me?
Kimberley Borgens:So think about for you. What specific fears have held you back from stepping into your power? And how has fear stopped you from pursuing opportunities that you knew you were ready for? Those would be some great journaling questions. In case you missed it, let me repeat it one more time.
Kimberley Borgens:What specific fears have held you back from stepping into your power? And how has fear stopped you from pursuing opportunities that you knew that you were ready for? Alright. Let's get into some strategies to reduce the fear and build your confidence moving forward from here. So one of the things that you can do is daily affirmations.
Kimberley Borgens:I know a lot of people say this, but you could start each day with an affirmation. Right? It challenges the negative thought pattern. So I know I worked in personal development for for five years over over thousands of people. We had thousands of people coming through and I was one of the facilitators of a five day intensive bust up your belief system personal development program.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? And day one that they were there and in class, one of the things that we did is we had them to create a personal statement, an I am statement. Okay. These were for the people what they wanted to step into. So an example would be, I am a strong capable and confident woman.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Think about it for you. What could be your statement? Right? That was an example, but you you create a statement that is something that you are going to step into.
Kimberley Borgens:Something that will help put the fear aside when you're stepping into something and it feels a little bit like fear, you say, no. Nope. I am a strong capable and confident woman. So think about for you. Maybe it's I am a focused, action oriented, and capable woman.
Kimberley Borgens:And I just wanna say don't say fearless because we're never fearless. Right? Fear we were designed for fear. It's us. It's for us
Kimberley Borgens:to keep us safe. Right? And it's up to us to decide though. Can we be safe without our fear overrunning it? Use something much more that you choose to step into in this.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? I am a focused, action oriented and capable woman. For some people, it might be, you know, I am a strong capable and on time woman. Right? Because you're stepping into being on time, whatever that is.
Kimberley Borgens:But think about it for you. What are the things that are holding you back? When you feel fear, what's it I am statement that you can step into to get yourself beyond the fear? So having daily affirmations. For some people, it's daily prayer or daily meditation.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? What is that for you? And the next practical technique would be to action steps. Take some action steps. Right.
Kimberley Borgens:Action steps when you get into fear, the small fears and you just, like, go, you know what? I'm gonna feel the fear. Figure out what it's trying to tell me and I'm gonna do
Kimberley Borgens:it anyway. Look, I'm not I'm not fearless. I have fear. I live in fear a lot. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:But at the
Kimberley Borgens:same time, I walk through the fear. I don't let that fear hold me back.
Kimberley Borgens:You can have fear and you can still move forward. Don't let
Kimberley Borgens:the fear win. Most of your fears were developed before you were eight years old, and your brain is running this program around fears that says, oh, I can't do that. Your parents told you, oh, don't touch the stove. It's hot, hot, hot. Stay back.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Like, then you got afraid. I can't I can't touch the stove. It's gonna be hot. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:So think about it for you is like, all if all of those things were created by the time you were eight years old, most of those fears. Right? Not everyone, but most of them. Well, as an adult, can't you override something that you learned at eight years old? Don't you have the cognitive ability now to go, oh, that's right.
Kimberley Borgens:I can touch the stove. I can cook. I know how to keep myself safe now. The same thing in business. Oh, I can speak in public.
Kimberley Borgens:Yeah. It doesn't feel comfortable, but guess what? I I don't die. I can keep moving forward.
Kimberley Borgens:How about practicing saying no to something that every day. Right? Most people are afraid to say no to somebody.
Kimberley Borgens:But every time that you say no to somebody, you're actually saying yes to yourself. Look, I have a whole talk on this. No is a complete sentence. So join me if you wanna hear that one. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:No is a complete sentence because every time that you say no, you're saying yes you know, you say no to somebody else. You say no to the fear. You're saying yes to me. Yes to what it is that I said that I needed to do. I'm saying yes to my values.
Kimberley Borgens:Yes to my goals. Yes to the things that I know that I need to step into. So practice saying no every day. And then journaling. I talked about journaling already that you could journal those things.
Kimberley Borgens:Journaling can be a great tool to explore your fears, identify the root causes, develop the strategies to confront those causes. Right? Get it all down on paper. I don't care if you voice journal because nowadays you could do that too. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:But journaling sometimes, I'll tell my husband sometimes, look, I just need to work something out. Let me just talk for a few minutes. Let me work it out. And then if I need your help to solve it, I'll let you know. I'll just talk it out to him because then my brain goes, oh, that didn't sound right.
Kimberley Borgens:Oh, how can I course correct that? Oh, you know, see what I'm saying? Sometimes you just need to talk it out. Need to journal it out. Have some mind shifts.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Reframe fear as a sign of growth and progress, not as a potential failure. It just means, oh, I'm about to stretch myself and when I stretch myself, I often learn. You can use fear as a signal of something that hasn't that you haven't done before instead of looking at it as a barrier, a
Kimberley Borgens:stopping point. A lot of
Kimberley Borgens:times people say that they have
Kimberley Borgens:a fear of heights. I challenge that mindset all the time. And I say, is it
Kimberley Borgens:a fear of heights or do you really have a fear of falling? Most people go, oh, I never thought about it like that. Oh, I I think you're right. I think it's the fear of falling. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:So what happens if you're gonna go do something? Put some safety measures in place to prevent yourself from falling. Right? Most people have a fear of heights. They don't wanna go out to the edge of a mountain, but they'll go up in an airplane.
Kimberley Borgens:Well, that's way much higher. But there's some safety measures in place, right, to prevent them from falling out of the sky. The same thing in business. What safety measures can you put into place so that you don't look bad? You don't feel rejected.
Kimberley Borgens:You don't fail. You stop looking like an impostor. Think about those safety measures because when you make that mindset shift and you start looking at that, it actually helps you to move forward. Move fear out of the way and go, I'm charging through like a bull. Oh my goodness.
Kimberley Borgens:I can be a little bullheaded at times. I get it. Look. I have to tell you, my son, god bless him, you know, I have to use fear as fuel these days because that's the only way I've been able to get through life. You know, I was raised very heavy handed household.
Kimberley Borgens:You know, it was not fun. And, you know, I still had to learn to to get through all that and and still be successful in what I do and still raise good kids who don't have that kind of a household and things like that. So my son, we're we're at Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk and that's in California. And they have this old rickety roller coaster. It's a wooden roller coaster.
Kimberley Borgens:And my son was
Kimberley Borgens:there and he's like, mom, I really wanna do it, but I'm afraid. Okay. Let me
Kimberley Borgens:tell you what my inside said. My inside said, boy, you better go ask somebody else because this mama is not getting on that roller coaster. There's no way I'm riding that rickety noisy thing. Not to mention how many times it drops. I'm gonna fall out of the seat.
Kimberley Borgens:It's not safe. You know, my head's just a rambling. And I look at my son and said, you're afraid you don't wanna do it? He's like, I wanna do it, but I'm afraid you do. I'm like, alright.
Kimberley Borgens:Let's go. Let me tell you my invoice inside voice can say a lot of things, but my outside actions most of the time have to do something different. Okay. You can do the same thing. Fear can be a motivator to push you towards the challenges rather than retreating.
Kimberley Borgens:And we did. We rode that rickety old thing. We stayed safe. Nobody fell out. Okay.
Kimberley Borgens:Let me tell you. I got off and I was oh my gosh, my body. The bouncing, the pounding from those from that wooden rickety sounding, you know, roller coaster. I've been on other roller coasters with my kids because they too would have a fear, but this one I can tell you was the most body pounding, rickety roller coaster I've ever been on. But you see, it's not about what your inside voice says.
Kimberley Borgens:It's what your outside actions do. Okay? So have actionable outside steps in spite of the fear. Embrace the discomfort. You know, they tell you this all the time.
Kimberley Borgens:Growth happens outside the comfort zone. Look. I grew that day. Yeah. I went on another roller coaster.
Kimberley Borgens:I didn't wanna go on. Right? But I grew as a parent. I was willing to do anything to keep my son out of that fear of being afraid. I don't want him to have that same lesson to grow up and be afraid in life and in business.
Kimberley Borgens:I don't want him to have that. He went on it. He loved it. He still rides roller coasters. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:So embrace it. Right? Celebrate the wins. Yeah. I went on that thing.
Kimberley Borgens:It's okay. I count that as a small victory. I have been on it. I don't ever have to experience it again. But I can use that momentum and overcome the fear gradually.
Kimberley Borgens:Roller coasters don't bug me today as much as they did, you know, ten, fifteen years ago. I still don't care for them, but it doesn't mean that they're gonna hold me back. If somebody said, alright, Kimberley, go. And I'm like, okay. Eyes closed and all.
Kimberley Borgens:But I'm gonna do it. But you see, here's the thing. Business is a roller coaster. It goes up and it goes down. Our economy is a roller coaster.
Kimberley Borgens:It goes up. It goes down. It has sharp turns. Right? All these different things.
Kimberley Borgens:Is like a roller coaster. If you look at it, there's ups, there's downs, there's highs, there's lows. Parenting is a roller coaster. I don't know about you, but I raised four wonderfully rotten children. And they are let me tell you, they put me through some roller coaster moves, right, between illnesses, stitches.
Kimberley Borgens:I had three boys that were ugh, boys. And and one daughter who ended up being a tomboy. Right? Like, just get out there in dresses and ride dirt bikes with her brothers, play with the Tonka trucks, like, whatever. So, you know, it's just we have to embrace these things.
Kimberley Borgens:And when it comes to command presence, you know, I talk about that. That's what my premise of this whole podcast podcast is about is stepping into command presence. But command presence is really the ability to exude confidence. Right? Have the competence to do what it is that you want to do and have the authority because you believe that you have the authority to do it.
Kimberley Borgens:A strong command presence reduces fear. It projects self assurance to other people. Come on. The best way to get through fear is to step into command presence. Command presence, your body posture.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Your body language. Stand tall. Maintain eye contact. Use purposeful gestures.
Kimberley Borgens:I didn't stand in line with my son and cry my eyeballs out because I was afraid. I stood tall. I sucked it in. It was saying to myself, you can do this. You can do this.
Kimberley Borgens:You can do this. He needs you. He needs you to do this. Right? Same thing.
Kimberley Borgens:You walk into the room. You can do this. You can do this. You stand tall. You maintain eye contact.
Kimberley Borgens:You put useful pieces into place so that you are moving forward in that command presence. You show up prepared, thoroughly prepared for meetings, prepared for presentations and negotiations. Right? These are the things that are gonna enhance your confidence so that you can move forward when the fear shows up. Use your voice tone.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Speaking assertively, clearly, and with conviction. Right? Those things show that you have the authority to do that. You have the authority to speak.
Kimberley Borgens:You have the authority to build the business that you dream of building. Command presence, look, it boosts your self esteem and earns respect for you. It fosters a cycle of reduced fear and increases your confidence. The more that you practice, the less you feel afraid. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:Cause and effect right there. I really want you to see how important it is to step into these things. So let me wrap this up. Tie this up with a little bow. Fear keeps you playing small.
Kimberley Borgens:I've given you a few strategies to reduce your fear, you know, use fear as a motivator, develop a command presence to rise through the fear, step into it anyway and take action. Right? And I truly that's what I want for you. If you never work with me, okay. You don't work with me, but if you can take that and walk into the next boardroom, walk into the next meeting, walk into the next argument.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? They go, no. What is my goal? What is it that I want to accomplish here? How can I do that based on my body, based on what I've prepared for, based on my tone, how I stand in who I am?
Kimberley Borgens:Then that's a win. That's a win.
Kimberley Borgens:And if you want more practice on this, look. I have a membership program called the hive society. And in the hive society, one of the programs is, you know, the thirty day fear detox. And with that is also a fear and confidence quiz. If you want to learn more about that, you can go to my other my my program website, which is balegacy.com.
Kimberley Borgens:B e a l e g a c y b a legacy Com. It's self paced. You can stay focused. You can definitely reduce your fear and step into the wonderful world, right, of going after what it is that you want. So if you're you're wanna dig more into the thirty day fear detox program, I'd love to have you over there.
Kimberley Borgens:Right? Just also know I have another membership program that doesn't cost you anything. It's called the hive hangout. And you can go there and you can hang hang out with us. Right?
Kimberley Borgens:It's find somebody who wants to support you and and share your next steps with you. Right? Identify one fear. Here's my challenge for you today. Identify one fear that you could tackle today, that you could work on today,
Kimberley Borgens:and then share that with somebody else. You can come
Kimberley Borgens:over to the hive, hang out, and share it there if you don't have anybody else to share it with.
Kimberley Borgens:K. But I wanna leave you with this affirmation. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. AA Milne said that, and I truly believe that.
Kimberley Borgens:And so, you know, I I look forward to having you join me in future podcasts. And if you like this podcast, if something touched you, if you thought a strategy was a great one for somebody else, please share it. Right? Invite other people to listen in to the podcast. Right.
Kimberley Borgens:Go to give me a review on the podcast. Share it on your social networks. I would love to impact more women in standing in their power versus their fear. So I would love to have you join me here, at, our superheroes in heels podcast. Look forward to talking with you all soon.
Kimberley Borgens:Be blessed.
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