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The Moonshots Podcast goes behind the scenes of the world's greatest superstars, thinkers and entrepreneurs to discover the secrets to their success. We deconstruct their success from mindset to daily habits so that we can apply it to our lives. Join us as we 'learn out loud' from Elon Musk, Brene Brown to emerging talents like David Goggins.
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hello and welcome to the moonshots
podcast it's episode 174 i'm your
co-host mate parsons and as always i'm
joined by the badass himself mr mark
pierson freeland good morning mark good
morning mike badass parsons i mean we
are staying strong in the habits series
which sadly mike we're coming to the end
of today
but it may be the end of a series but
before it's over we're gonna get some
serious badassery on aren't we yeah
that's right this week listeners as show
number 174 we're digging into jen
sincero's you are a badass how to stop
doubting your greatness and start living
an awesome life i mean mike straight off
the bat that's got to take maybe the
award for the most inspirational
subheading for a book that we've covered
on the show right
it is it's a great cover it's kind of uh
given birth to a whole series uh from
june cinchero
and for me the thing that grabs me about
this book out of the gate is
in that subheading she says how to stop
doubting
and
i believe that
so many of us have this affliction the
human state of that that voice in the
background of self-doubt
of
being too scared to try things fear of
failure
how many times mike do we catch
ourselves
where your mind is like oh god if that
goes wrong i'm gonna look like such an
idiot
and
think of all the good things that could
have happened if we hadn't listened to
that yeah it's a topic that we
come around on the podcast quite a lot
isn't it this idea of the self-sabotage
that happens when you don't quite either
believe in yourself or you have the
confidence to act and what happens is
you then have a precursor or a
behavior that you repeat again and again
throughout your life where you just say
no
i'm not going to go out and try maybe to
run that little bit further or i'm not
going to go to bed that little bit
earlier or i'm not going to try
something at work or at home because i'm
afraid of how somebody's going to react
in front of me and the truth is as we're
finding out as we live our lives and we
dig into all these
uh ideas and topics on the show
we're starting to find that actually you
are often your own worst enemy and that
you could you could go out and have that
really enjoyable life or try something
new in your day-to-day existence
that only takes just that little bit of
confidence and that little bit of
courage just to say oh it doesn't matter
what people think i'm i'm going to go
out and give it a go regardless
yeah there's so much in this book uh you
are a badass and it is like just the
perfect book to sort of
you know round out if you will um our
our series of
really
building
actions
building behaviors
really building the practices that you
can repeat every single
day
so that you can really be the very best
person that you can be and you know we
learned from robert sharma
about when the morning when the day
jim quick
really was about expanding
the potential of our mind and our memory
and what's so beautiful about
jen's work is she just comes at
us with a whole heap of frankness a bit
of
almost almost classic new york swagger
and gives us a good smack in the face
and she really challenges us
like all right do you actually want to
be the best version of yourself
she's going to teach us how to have a
bias towards action how to fuel the
energy and how to get over all of those
little
voices
that fill us with self-doubt and lastly
just to bring it home in this show we'll
find out like what's the worst you can
lose
and it's amazing once you really get
into that question you realize the
stakes aren't nearly as terrible as you
may think and that you ain't got nothing
to lose mark that's all ahead of us on
show 174 where do you want to start well
i mean i'm so ready to start now so i
think it makes only sense for the author
herself jen sincero to actually
kick us off by reading the introduction
to her book and this is quite a nice
little
difference mike for you and i on the
show we're gonna hear from the author
actually opening up the book and reading
the first elements of the chapter so
let's hear from jen sincero set the
scene for us and our listeners and how
we all can take a moment to decide to
change our lives
you can start out with nothing and out
of nothing and out of no way
a way will be made
reverend michael bernard beckwith
former drug enthusiast turned spiritual
enthusiast turned inspirational badass
i used to think quotes like this were a
bunch of crap
i also didn't understand what the hell
they were talking about i mean not that
i cared i was too cool
what little i knew about the spiritual
slash self-help world i found to be
unforgivably cheesy it reeked of
desperation raw raw churchiness and
unwanted hugs from unappealing strangers
and don't even get me started on how
grouchy i used to be about god
at the same time there was all this
stuff about my life that i desperately
wanted to change and had i been able to
bulldoze through my holier than thou ism
i could have really used some help
around here
i mean overall i was doing pretty well i
published a couple of books
had a lot of great friends a close
family an apartment a car that ran
food teeth clothes clean drinking water
compared to the majority of the planet
my life was a total cream puff
but compared to what i knew i was
capable of i was shall we say
unimpressed
i always felt like come on this is the
best i can do
really
i'm gonna make just enough to pay my
rent this month
again
and i'm gonna spend another year dating
a bunch of weirdos so i can be in all
these wobbly non-committal relationships
and create even more drama
really
and am i seriously gonna question what
my deeper purpose is and wallow in the
misery of that quagmire for the
millionth time
it was a snorer
i felt like i was going through the
motions of living my lukewarm life with
the occasional flare-ups of awesomeness
here and there
and the most painful part was that deep
down i knew i was a total rock star
that i had the power to give and receive
and love with the best of them
that i could leap tall buildings in a
single bound and could create anything i
put my mind to and what's that
i just got a parking ticket
you have got to be kidding me let me see
that
i can't afford to pay this it's like my
third one this month
i'm going down there to talk to them
right now then
off i go
consumed once again by low-level minutia
only to find myself a few weeks later
wondering where those few weeks went and
how it could possibly be that i was
still stuck in my rickety ass apartment
eating dollar tacos by myself every
night
i'm assuming if you're listening to this
that there are some areas of your life
that aren't looking so good either
and that you know could be looking a
whole lot better
maybe you're living with your soul mate
and are joyfully sharing your gifts with
the world but are so broke that your dog
is on his own if he wants to get fed
maybe you're doing great financially and
you have a deep connection to your
higher purpose but you can't remember
the last time you wet your pants
laughing
or maybe you suck equally at all of
those and spend your free time crying
or drinking
or getting pissed off at all the meter
maids who have precision timing and no
sense of humor who in your mind are
partly responsible for your personal
financial crisis
or maybe you have everything you've ever
wanted but for some reason you still
feel unfulfilled
this isn't necessarily about making
millions of dollars or helping solve the
world's problems or getting your own tv
show unless that's your thing
your calling could simply be to take
care of your family or to grow the
perfect tulip
this is about getting mighty clear about
what makes you happy and what makes you
feel the most alive and then creating it
instead of pretending you can't have it
or that you don't deserve it or that
you're a greedy egomaniacal fat head for
wanting more than you already have
or listening to what dad and aunt mary
think you should be doing
it's about having the cojones to show up
as the brightest happiest badassiest
version of yourself whatever that looks
like to you
the good news is that in order to do
this all you need to do is make one
simple shift
you need to go from wanting to change
your life
to deciding to change your life
mark
i mean
that is a call to arms that is like um
make
uh make something happen in life which
starts with this question of like
hey
do you want to truly be
the best version of yourself do you
really want to unlock it or are you just
going to continue to swim with that
lukewarm feeling of
i'm doing all right you know yeah
i i like that reference the lukewarm
life yeah there's been plenty of times
for all of us i'm sure mike where we
thought oh yeah this is pretty good this
is okay something's lacking as as jen
was calling out whether it's you want
your own tv show or you just want to
change something smaller
you know we all have moments in our
lives where you think if only i could do
this
and actually what i think jen's pointing
out is when you boil down the reasons
why you don't go out and maybe try
something new or go and achieve
something that you've always dreamt of
it's because of
your your habit of listening to others
or even listening to yourself your doubt
that then creeps in and stops you being
able to go out and do the best that you
can do and i love that reference point
that we we had at the end of that clip
there
rather than just wanting to do it just
decide it's it's that little pattern
shift in your thinking isn't it going
from uh yeah desire into proaction
yeah so here's the interesting thing
what what what are some things we can do
to actually
force
this mindset
how do we get to
this moment where we say
you know what
i want to
change
my life
or like a more subtle nuances i want us
i don't want to settle for mediocre i
don't want to settle for lukewarm
how do we i think we all flirt with this
sense of maybe i could do better
but how do we make it black and white
and binary
i think this is really interesting
because i would say a lot of us
flirt around the edges
of making this decision and you know the
classic thing is that you see people
that have a life-changing event like a
health scare
you notice how it often sparks this
dramatic change in their life um big
shift
yeah
but here's the thing like
we don't want like
let's say the classic woman we don't
want cancer to be the catalyst to us
like changing and improving our life
it'd be kind of good if we had the
mental fortitude to unlock that without
such a a dire situation so here's my
question how do you think we kind of
unlock this
i think for me
uh and i'll i'll choose a relatable
element uh career for a moment
when i've had
moments of feedback with with colleagues
or mentors or bosses and maybe there's a
bit of feedback that's come up oh you
don't go out and you're not proactive
enough or you don't look at
opportunities to delegate work or you
don't find
areas to really improve this particular
skill i think by making
an out loud commitment
to a colleague or an individual and
saying hey i'm going to work on this
more you are then accountable to it and
i think that pattern
uh or shift in behavior is instead of
internalizing it
you're then saying it out loud and
saying hey i'm currently working on
improving x
right i almost have this propensity to
need to go out and do it because you've
kind of said it out loud to somebody
else so that's social social obligation
right correct social obligation and i
feel like that for me is quite a a
promise that i've made to others in my
career that's then allowed me to shift
my pattern of behavior in order to try
and achieve that does that ring true for
you as well
yeah i definitely
um
you know when you share your goals with
people
it really makes you accountable because
you can't it's harder to make excuses
you can't hide in your own little mind
and tell yourself yourself some sort of
mythology about why it didn't happen
yeah i i found um a practice that i've
mentioned on the show a couple of times
is um
imagining like what is going to be your
legacy like what is going to reside on
this planet once you're gone that is a
result of your work
of your action like
will the world be
in any way better for your presence and
i i find that a very good way to
motivate myself
to decide to change
um to improve my life to to really
give everything i can to being the best
version of myself when i start going
down that path
of that questioning what's my legacy
going to be you know what's the one
thing that i'm going to
accomplish before i die right and then
you can start to do some interesting
follow-up questions like when do i feel
um i'm in my natural place
where i'm naturally gifted and talented
and where things come easy
what are the what are the three things
that i do that stop me from achieving
uh my goals um you can actually kind of
start following a whole line there
but i think what will drag us through
could could be anything in between the
social obligation that you mentioned
mark through to
just a bit of tough self-reflection like
what's your legacy going to be what are
you going to leave for the world and i
find that
is like
like an ice bath that totally
woke me up when i was 20 years of age
when i was like hang on a second i've
been
lazy and avoiding failure i've been full
of doubt so you know not seeing things
through so
like time to get serious and get down to
business
and that that really kind of unlock
things so if you're in search of some
badassery whether you share your goals
with your friends and family or whether
you ask yourself what's going to be left
here when i'm done with this planet
anything in between there will unlock
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so mark now that we've set this platform
i think we might be ready to take a leap
what do you think yeah talking about
giving something back we're going to now
get into the idea of mindset with jen
sincero so first of all we heard from
jen
helping us determine
that if we want to change our lives for
the better we need to stop wanting to do
it and deciding to do it the first step
of actually deciding or the next step
after deciding to do it is really to get
the confidence to go out and
stop making excuses for putting things
off so the next clip we've got is from
jen sinchero and michael nemad from
network marketing helping us understand
that now is the perfect time to take the
leap
what are some of the things that they
can think about in order to be
successful with that
you know i think the very experience of
being alive is uncomfortable
right i mean we're on a ball in space
right now by the way you know so it's
like that's kind of uncomfortable
and waiting until you're perfect or you
know exactly what you're doing or you
feel confident it it's you can't wait
for that stuff you have to go and do it
anyway so i think a really important
thing
to realize is
just go and do it don't wait until you
know and i feel this way about money too
um you know a lot of times we wait until
we have the money before we do a b or c
you've got to take that leap this is a
whole leap in the net will appear and it
applies to money it applies to
confidence it applies to being
comfortable
just start doing it anyway with the
understanding that you're probably going
to be uncomfortable a lot yeah and all
the time and don't make it a big drama
and don't attach yourself to i am a shy
person
i am not good at this
you know whatever is going through your
head
might still be there but go and do it
anyway so you say we just got to go for
it
but sometimes that's easier to say than
to actually do you know i i know that i
i'm one that i overthink things my head
just says you know i want to do this and
then i start thinking about well if they
do that then this is how do you get past
that
what you focus on you create more of
believe me i am not perfect i have lots
of times when i
don't do what i should be doing and i
slack off and get scared and do all that
kind of stuff but it's about not making
that i think what happens is we make
these big dramas out of things like that
becomes the reality and we focus on that
like i'm being so lazy right now i
should do that but i can't because a b
and c it's about
catching yourself in those moments and
this is why we say awareness is the key
to freedom right
you become aware of the fact that these
are nothing but your thoughts right this
is not reality this is just where your
thoughts are leading you and stepping
back and becoming aware of that's where
you're going
and then choosing to unhook from that
and being like okay i can make another
choice right now okay so there are 8 000
very plausible reasons not to do all the
things that will help you
but there's also 8 000 reasons to do it
so just shifting that focus and it
really starts with the awareness
starts with awareness
i i think just knowing that we have the
habit mark
of talking ourselves out of things that
we should try i think that's one part of
it but i think the other thing is that's
very powerful is
so what if i have a go and i fail so
what
and what jen
sincero is freeing us from is the fear
of that public failure
like just get over yourself one of the
great
thoughts that i entertain is what we
need to realize is people just really
don't care about us that much and what i
mean by that is
everybody's so preoccupied with
themselves even if you were to fail most
people like okay whatever and then
they're back into their own universe so
we think that the whole world is
examining what's mark gonna do what's
mike gonna do are they gonna fail oh if
they fail that's gonna be so very bad
but the truth is people are not nearly
that interested in this are they oh my
god i it's you're so right in bringing
that up actually it's something that
particularly paralyzed me and that i'm
not even exaggerating that it stops you
in your tracks when you're trying to
make a decision particularly in my
earlier life and career where i'd be
terrified of making the wrong decision
and i think oh my god if i do this
that's it that's over everybody else
will grind to the halt the business i'm
working with it'll fail
the world will just stop but the truth
is
uh maybe it'll only be an issue for
something as short as maybe half an hour
it's it everything is only temporary
and like you say at the end of the day
people have their own issues both
externally and internally as much as i
do so rather than allow my insecurity my
lack of confidence my uncertainty to
derail the opportunity to go out and try
something new to go and build a new
product to go work with the team
rather than thinking oh my goodness if i
do this it's it's a disaster and jen
sincero's gonna find out that i didn't
take the right lessons from her book
uh as she'll fail as an author you know
you exacerbate these things in your mind
don't you and they almost snowballed and
the truth is just just give it a go get
out of your head choose to make a choice
as jen was saying there because and i
love this little quote from that clip
thoughts are not reality
instead of imagining that situation yeah
and and how often are you put off from
doing something just by a little quiet
thought in your head
yeah i i truly believe that um
you know we are such a victim of all of
this self-doubt
we
are victim of
thinking the world is looking at us
but once we realize
the stakes like like are you going to be
alive right number one
yes are you still able to breathe yes
once you actually do that exercise
you're like well actually the risk isn't
that bad and then what you can do at you
can develop this habit of like when in
doubt do it
because
usually
we find ourselves when in doubt we put
it off
if you just find yourself in a moment of
self-doubt you just say stuff it i'm
gonna do it anyway
even though i'm feeling this
stuff it i'm doing it right
i think that is really interesting as a
means
of
unblocking
as a means of
just going forward because so much of
the victory
comes from
not stopping
paul graham who we've had
who have studied on the show
he talks about
survival for startups is success
and what he's really saying is like
um you know you can have all these grand
dreams of success and whatnot but
actually like just keep on going that's
actually part of the success michael
jordan
train every single day train harder than
everybody else just keep going
i think
we're like deer in the headlights we can
find ourselves being paralyzed
and i think when you sense that
happening
the thing that jen is really encouraging
us to do
take the loot
go
no more excuses
no more self-doubt and so i think what
we can do is when we find ourselves
experiencing doubt making excuses
develop the habit of okay that's a
signal to move for example one of the
things i have mark is whenever i'm
feeling
sluggish in my work
get up and move
it's just my thing um
if if i'm still not energized go for a
walk these are just things that when
you're not when you're feeling a bit
sluggish actually like oh going for a
walk
but it isn't amazing go for a walk just
15 minutes 20 minutes
like
transformational effect like if you can
build these responses when you know oh
the the best version of the worst
version of myself is taking over
trigger a habit or a behavior that
reintroduces the best version of
yourself what do you think yeah abs
absolutely if you start to inject a
little bit of let's call it exercise
just movement
into your uh into a combination of work
or brain power
into a physical element it makes such a
difference doesn't it just gets you
moving gets you blood pumping and also
allows you to just breathe a little bit
better
what really stands out to me as a
reminder for some of the work that we've
dug into
on the moonshot show before i'm
remembering um robert greene the 48 laws
of power
as well as our more recent
mindset series
is that you are going to be
uncomfortable
in most situations anyway
so
inaction is bred from a fear of being
uncomfortable well the truth is you
might be uncomfortable now you'll
probably be uncomfortable in the next
decision that you make so actually
rather than constantly putting something
off just just embrace the fact that
there'll be uncertainty throughout life
you might not be comfortable the whole
time and instead look to almost embrace
the moment of new discovery
and seek out opportunities to you know
try and and almost become that little
bit uncomfortable i'm thinking back to
the resilient series and the grit series
that we've done as well
as as means to try and grow
in your mindset as well as your behavior
yeah because that's interesting isn't it
there's a huge moonshot theme around
this resilience and by proxy of that
it's almost when you're feeling
uncomfortable and you're experiencing
some self-doubt
actually that's a really good sign that
you're
considering
doing something ambitious something new
and challenging
and if you can
take control of your thoughts and say
whenever i'm feeling like that i can go
woohoo this is great because it's a
signal that i'm stretching myself
if like every single workout
was
safely within my capacity
then i'm not really extending my
physical fitness
i'm just cruising right
however if i try to run
for a longer distance than i've run or
at a faster rate
that is growing me just like in life
getting comfortable with discomfort
knowing that you're going to be
upsetting some people that some people
won't agree with what you're doing
that's okay
that's
like it's like jeff bezos says if you're
not pissing people off then you're not
trying hard enough right
because like you've got to be doing
things that disrupt the status quo
so you can actually start to go this is
really good
i'm really challenging myself i'm
feeling uncomfortable and that's okay
i think that that's a great build on jen
cincero's work on you are a badass what
do you think mark yep you you are a
badass also connects i think a lot with
michael mark manson's the subtle art of
not giving out
on show number 166 so listeners i mean
you're hearing us reference a lot of
these shows that we've covered recently
as well as in the past in the catalogue
of moonshots so if we are peaking your
interest and you want to learn more
maybe a little bit about confidence or
really understanding the idea of not
giving a
head on over to moonshot.io where you
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so now mark we're going to get into the
serious end of this show because we are
going to try and crack
some of these big habits to get out in a
badassery out into the world and to kick
some ass where do you want to start
well we've understood now this
differentiation between wanting and
making the decision to go out and change
your life and now jen's really set us up
for making a confident step in our
mindset with taking the leap you and i
and our listeners we're ready to get
some badass tips
so we're going to hear now this next few
clips that we're going to hear about are
really oriented around behavior and
methods to go out and be that badass
version of yourself so we've got a great
clip here from successful by design who
orientates the next clip around one of
jen's big big lessons within you are a
badass her book and it's all about
source energy and specifically what so
successful by design is going to help
you and i do is tap into the mother lode
the mother lord of what you might be
asking
some call it god some call it the
universe or mother earth you might call
it faith serendipity or and betsy the
name doesn't really matter it's that
abundant invisible energy that is
everywhere around you the author calls
it the source energy
and before you shut down the video for
becoming way too new age let's dig into
the more practical side
source energy is nothing more than
mindfulness really being able to become
aware of your subconscious mind control
your attention and thoughts and
generally put your mind at ease
how do you do that
it all starts with meditation if you're
already experienced you know exactly
what to do if you've never tried it
before start by sitting up straight in a
comfortable position close your eyes
release any thoughts that come into your
brain and focus on your breathing
the goal is to keep your mind as clear
as possible so you can connect to that
source energy another tactic that the
author suggests is to become in charge
of your own thoughts
your thoughts dictate your reality after
all so keep them directed towards your
goal instead of towards the obstacles
and for that extra credit in source
energy 101 try these three tactics
number one get in touch with your
younger self you know the long forgotten
person who feared nothing and had big
goals and dreams
number two form a habit of gratitude and
forgiveness when you're holding on to
some sort of resentment towards somebody
else you're not concentrating on
yourself so let that negativity melt
away and concentrate on gratitude
instead even thriving listing 10 things
to be thankful for every single day
and tactic number three giving and
receiving if you want to attract good
energy you must send good energy first
so pick up a good cause or two and
donate your time or money towards leave
a dollar more than what you normally tip
smile compliment people make them laugh
in other words pay it forward
pay it forward good karma
it doesn't matter really what you call
it uh it really starts with clear mind
and clear thoughts
and um
just
gathering yourself
and
giving
i say giving before receiving it's
really interesting
that
we talk about you
being the best version of yourself and
how that starts with
actually
clearing your mind and then giving away
your positive energy your good energy
before you actually receive it back so i
mean we're intersecting here between
like popular philosophy and religion
here but it's super practical
um this has
so much resonance with so many of the
authors that we've studied doesn't it
matt
well it's it's funny actually to build
on what you were just saying how a a
book that's fundamentally around action
ownership control and confidence
does now start to gravitate towards this
idea of mindfulness being a master of
your own thoughts
understanding where you are gravitating
towards with regards to gratitude or
perhaps lack of gratitude which i think
is probably something that a lot of us
struggle with
as well as this giving and receiving
that you were just mentioning it's funny
when you think about being a badass you
assume it's all about being confident
it's about going out and
not taking no for an answer but much
like robert greene's book the 48 laws of
power again i find that my mindset
around being a badass is changing here
it's not necessarily about being the
most confident person in the room or the
loudest person in the room instead it's
about being perhaps the most collected
person
the person as you've just said who has
the clearest mind and the clearest
thoughts because once you achieve
clarity
then you can start to understand is this
my purpose am i doing the right thing in
my life and what i think is then bred
from those concepts is a feeling of
being happier or more confident in what
it is that you're going out and doing in
your life what do you think of that mike
listen i i think where we're going to
it takes me back to
ryan
stillness is the key eckhart toll the
power of now like you have to bring
yourself into yourself
and just be still
and if you want to unleash your energy
what's quite interesting is all this
energy in action must start with
stillness
calmness
and peace
and i think that's been one of the
biggest aha moments for me
throughout my career is i was just 100
percent energy
and
that got me so far
but what's super interesting is over the
last decade
the
gradual
dawning of this idea of
how in order to go fast i must go slow
uh do you experience that mark i i do
know exactly what you mean actually when
i
take a moment of my day so
as i'm sure a lot of us do we all run at
you know a thousand miles per hour
we'll get up um
the thing that we learn about on the
show is
not to check your phone straight away
like we're hearing with robin sharma
last week
it's all around or a couple of weeks ago
it's all around having a good habit when
you get up movement
hydration uh learning something new
doing some work
and
if you
aren't able to do that and instead you
launch straight into your your phone
your emails your notifications little
noise
suddenly you feel a little or at least i
do feel a little bit more maybe anxious
or overwhelmed and sometimes when you
take a moment to journal to just sit
peacefully maybe uh we and i know mike
you you do this as well you go for a run
or a walk without music
and you're you're left to your thoughts
that moment of reflection
is actually so much more beneficial
because i personally find if i'm really
obsessed over making a decision i'll
i'll go for a walk without any
distractions without anybody with me no
music no phone calls
and actually as i walk and i exercise
and i get that blood pumping similar to
what you were saying earlier when you're
feeling a bit lethargic with work
it it refreshes you and you start to
make better decisions
because you've got that clearer mind
it does totally spot on totally spot on
and i think that's like such a great
practice that jyn is encouraging us to
do
is clear mind clear thoughts it's like
robert sharma 5 am what does he start
with he starts with stillness doesn't he
exactly stillness reflection because as
in fact robin sharma said i love this
your your brain has essentially had a
bath why you've been well you've been
sleeping so it's in its most supple
state i suppose absolutely true and it's
really important because uh as jen would
say we tell ourselves a whole lot of bs
and self-doubt uh as we go on the
journey to be the best version of
ourselves so we've got successful by
design again here telling us how to just
get over it and much like the rest of
the book this step is about letting go
of your old stories
stop focusing on the negative the
self-limiting stories that might be
framing your reality and realize that
you can create any reality that you want
in the same fashion
stop procrastinating you know what you
need to do so go ahead and do it
procrastination is nothing more than an
easy form of self sabotage
instead of putting a ton of energy into
coming up with excuses of why something
cannot be done put that energy into
doing it instead
next let go of the common overall
excuses such as there is not enough time
there is too much to do or i'm exhausted
control your time and energy better and
you find that those were just neat
excuses that somehow you came up with
somewhere along the way
finally get rid of the fear the fear of
moving forward and getting outside of
your comfort zone
if necessary look at the past
mostly everything that you were afraid
might happen
never actually happened or try a
different perspective pinpoint what
you're really afraid of and then flip it
around and make it work for you
i think that's a big takeaway there mike
about how to be a badass is to remove
that fear and i think one of the topics
that you and i we've spoken a lot about
on the show is practices to try and
almost get yourself to the point of
knowing you've made the right decision
about a certain business or whatever it
might be
through a number of different frameworks
and recently obviously we did a master
series on second order thinking and i
think that was a really helpful
demonstration of working out where you
are now maybe where you want to be and
how you're going to get there and
anticipating any of those potential
challenges or struggles that you might
encounter whether they are internal as
as jim would say whether they're your
internal uh self getting in the way of
being a badass or external i think
that's one particular way that stands
out to me when i hear that clip that
helps me get over my fear of making the
wrong decision
yeah i i'm like um
i'm pretty simple minded about it in
that
i try to maybe it's because i'm a parent
like whenever i see bad behavior in
myself i try and
you know
say
look
you are thinking negatively or you're
doubting yourself
stop that right now
like just think positive like and and
i i just tried to like i truly believe
what we discovered in think and grow
rich by napoleon hill which is sort of a
predecessor to the work of jin sinchero
and many others he
clearly identified that success
was rooted in
the way you unlock this burning desire
to fulfill your potential
and what i try to do mike is whenever i
notice a bad habit uh creeping in
um
as i demand of myself to stop that and
to to think positive to think to believe
in myself to move forward and not to be
caught like there is nothing good
to be had of self-doubt and what's
really interesting about uh worry and
we've seen that in a number of the
authors that we've covered previously
for example
dale carnegie's book on how to stop
worrying and to enjoy life that book is
a must read for people so just check out
our show notes at
moonshots.io just hit the search and
look up dale carnegie and you'll be
you'll be delighted in his book how to
stop worrying
but the point here is that we often
devote all this energy to worrying and
doubting things that have not happened
we worry about outcomes that have not
happened
we worry about failure that has yet to
transpire and what i would say is
imagine so what if you fail is it really
that bad
and just
get
over it because i think we build up
these barriers into massive walls that
simply are not that like think about
times in life
where we've actually been worried about
something and then we gave it a go and
went huh
that wasn't so bad
it's amazing isn't it how regular that
that can happen yeah it's really not
that hard and so
i suggest attack any self-doubt
attack any problem get to the bottom of
it embrace the discomfort and move the
hell through it
but for me it's it's when you notice
these loops of thought
doubt or negativity in your brain i just
try and um you know
short wire that and go flip into
positive flip into self-belief and and
almost reprimand myself and saying you
will not be negative you will not doubt
um and if you go and if you look
at
uh where this plays out on the sports
field is we know that with all elite
athletes in the end they're all
physically pretty close but it's their
mindset
their self-belief
their resilience
serena williams says true champions are
judged by how they get up after a fall
and to me this is all feeding into
badass thinking from jen sin cerro
it really does come down to changing
that behavior and mindset that we all
have around self-doubt and fear doesn't
it it also reminds me mike of a recent
episode we did again in the in the
mindset series daniel h pink the power
of regret oh yeah and i think that
speaks to exactly the the reference you
made to serena williams there
instead of dreading and avoiding regret
instead of avoiding failure by maybe
talking yourself out of taking a new
opportunity chance maybe even just
asking for help there's been times in my
career like where i'm afraid to ask for
help
not from any uh issues from my
colleagues or family members but a kind
of innate sense of almost maybe pride or
something that's stopping me internally
and the truth is once you
get over that you do look back and you
think wow i i'm a bit embarrassed that i
didn't ask for help there or maybe i
regret not doing it the problem was in
them it was you it was me exactly and
what i found
really interesting when we were digging
into danny h pink and the power regret
is reframing the idea of regret and
seeing it as a positive opportunity and
where i'm getting uh from jen sincero
here is again being a badass you can
unlock it if you change your mindset or
your approach or your consideration of
making things executively and making an
active choice in life
because um as we see from so many of the
great superstars you you are what you
think and you do have complete control
of your thoughts do not think for a
moment that that
that little voice of doubt
is
unchangeable or irremovable
it is totally within your control to
stop that
and i think
it would be unfair to tell everybody hey
it's no problem it's easy all right
we've all got some degree of the monkey
mind because we're so stimulated right
but in the end of the day
we do have this choice it's hard it
takes resilience and courage and
discipline
but just like if you're on a diet and
you avoid
going to the to the snack cupboard
if if if self-doubt and fear and anger
are all
are they they are the cookie jars of
confectionery taking us off course
what do we do what's the classic thing
you do you remove
that food from the pantry
you replace it with good food and you
control your portion sizes right
it's the same with how you think remove
the negative thoughts and replace it
with calmness
replace it with positive affirmations
with clarity
with breath work these are all your
choices to overcome
doubt
fear and all those things that are
between us and realizing our potential
and if that has not sold you mark and
all of our listeners
let's have a listen to jen cincero
talking with michael niemann for the
last time
and really getting on the other side of
what have you got to lose because you
know what disappointment is only very
short along that path they just do it
yeah is it okay to make some mistakes no
you have to be perfect oh man
so but but i think that that's what
people worry about i mean people worry
about like i you know i have to take
this step
what if it's the wrong step
then it will let you know that it's the
wrong step so that then you will know
what the right step looks like yeah yeah
and sometimes you know again it's like
it's it's amazing because it's just like
i don't know i i i always think back to
like i don't know elementary school or
middle school or the first time you're
going to ask a girl for me you know ask
a girl out it's like
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you just think that the result whatever
the result is it's going to be crushing
i know and um
and based on personal experience it is
no but uh
but no but but you know the reality is
is that that crushing this
lasts about 30 seconds right and then
you go on
and we will not let ourselves do things
that we would love to do because we
don't experience that 30 seconds don't
want to risk that 30 seconds right yeah
and so you know it's it's like you know
there's there's lots of you know slogans
when you're in this industry you have
all these like kind of buzzwords and
people would say like go for no and you
know try to find as many notes as you
want but i i i think the real answer is
is just keep taking steps forward keep
taking steps forward and do you know do
exactly what you just did
get specific about your fears you know
this is the awareness thing again so
what are so let's say sales like i'm
scared of being pushy this is a huge one
in sales right okay so let's say worst
case scenario you're totally pushy the
person you're trying to sell thinks
you're the most silly irritant on earth
then what
they don't buy from you
then what
you go out and get another customer you
know but
you will never have gotten that next
customer if you hadn't taken the first
step through the the scary part so i
think again specifics are the keys to
freedom
step through the discomfort to get to
that next opportunity
that next corner that next situation i
mean mike that's a pretty big call out
here within uh you are a badass by jen
cinchero and it's a reminder that you
don't have to be perfect and get a slam
dunk every single time do you right well
but that that analogy of that 30 seconds
of disappointment
stopping you from what could have been
minutes 30 days or a lifetime
of goodness
it was that 30 seconds of disappointment
meant that you didn't even try because
of your fear and self-doubt like think
how many times i i made the point
earlier think of how many great things
have never happened because of people
experiencing self-doubt absolutely and
it's just 30 seconds like really it's
just 30 seconds
30 seconds and like you say 30 seconds
versus 30 years
it is amazing and and that's it's a
really true point though you do you i
think we're all a lot more resilient
than we give ourselves credit for it's
quite easy to forget
that we are able to bounce back from
moments when we fall over
and instead of taking that risk giving
it a go
maybe getting egg in your face as they
say or feeling a bit embarrassed or
falling down or whatever it might be
whatever you wanna whatever terminology
you wanna use
just giving it that go getting out there
could be something that's far more
positive in the long run and whether you
win it or don't
having the opportunity to just grow from
it now again it's this growth mindset
that's so consistent within all of our
shows within this habit series yep and
so say you got disappointed for 30
seconds or then you can also ask
yourself well okay next time i ask or
next time i put my foot forward how will
i do it a bit better yes and you know
then it won't be so tough the next time
around and then before you know it
you're
swimming in badassery
now mark we have covered a lot of ground
it was amazing how much you are a badass
intersects with other books i don't
remember a book recently having that
many interconnections with other
superstars books and frameworks it's
been crazy right it's it's been
absolutely connected with stoicism with
habits of course but also finding ideas
of grit and resilience and giving it a
go i mean we even had references to
elizabeth gilbert who was in creativity
so we've really found
a kind of underpinning idea within this
isn't it maybe every moonshotter maybe
we should rebrand ourselves mike to the
badass podcast
well whether we're badass or going to
the moon there was a lot in this but
with such a wide selection of
inspiration
and habit formation
it was there one that
got you
i think it's it's not only
the proactive moment where you decide to
change your life i think that's the
biggest uh penny drop moment within
within the book you're a badass but
actually the thing that speaks to me a
lot is finding clarity finding clarity
from calmness
i think that's the big that's the big
lesson here take a moment walk around
the block no distractions you might do
your best thinking what what's really
standing out to you mike as you think
about becoming a badass today well i
think if i'm going to
work on some badassery habit design i do
agree clear mind clear thoughts that's
the source of the mother lode
but i think a close contender is look
it's just 30 seconds of disappointment
like what on earth are you
why are you laying that that just is
profound for me that that we
enable
this huge wall of inaction for through
this fear um
and it's a we've made a you know
mountain out of uh a molehill
so much in this so much in this well
mark listen thank you so much uh for
joining me on this journey into
unlocking the badass side of us or
realizing our full potential and thank
you to you our listeners and our members
here on show 174 where we went into the
book you are a badass by author jen
sincero and it really started with the
fundamental decision to change your life
for the better to be the best version of
yourself and there is no time better
than the now we should not wait
no more excuses take the leap this is
what jen encouraged us to do
and along the way it is all about
finding keepings and sustaining that
energy that mother lode and it begins
with a clear mind and clear thoughts and
as you go about doing everything you can
to be the best version of yourself let
go of all of that bs just get over it
and move forward because look in the end
of the day what we learned from jen
sincero is disappointment is fleeting
but excellence satisfaction and
fulfillment can be a lifetime and that
is all for you not only in this book but
here in this podcast the moonshots
podcast where we're learning out loud
together to be the very best version of
ourselves okay
that's a wrap