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Ever wish you had a mentor to help you become who you were meant to be? Crystal Ware is redefining what it means to become your best self, in business, life, and love and sharing everything she she knows to get YOU there faster.
Are you stuck? Feel like you are meant for more but not sure how to breakthrough? Every week, we will explore all of your questions on building a path to true happiness, achieving success and creating our dream life. Brick by brick, we will work through the issues and mindsets that keep us stuck, dive into finding our passion and how to take ACTION. Clarity (vision) + Confidence (Owning your worth) + Courage (to live life on your own terms and become your own CEO) propels you to your destiny. And the good news it: its all within you!
Each week, host, Crystal Ware, will bring you all of the practical wisdom to grow every aspect of your career and life including mindset, vision, goal planning, social media management, financial acumen and so much more. You'll also meet top business leaders, entrepreneurs, mompreneurers and innovative thinkers who invested in themselves and found their way success and happiness by leading on their own terms.
You were made for more, so start living like it today. Join us as we take action, grow together, and get inspired to reach for your dreams.
Crystal Ware 0:00:00
Welcome to the Get Clear with Crystal Ware podcast. The place where we get clear on our goals, own our worth, and learn to be the CEOs of our own lives. I'm your host, Crystal Ware, lawyer and former Fortune 500 corporate leader who found the confidence to say goodbye to a lucrative career and start my own business. Now I'm opening up the playbook and sharing everything I've learn to get you there faster. It may not be easy, but it will always be worth it because you are made for more. So put on your big girl pants, jump on board, and let's reach for the stars. Are you ready to get Clear? Welcome back to get clear with crystal ware. Today I want to bring something so incredibly powerful, something that has helped change and shift my life so much in the last few years. Especially as a busy mom, as a wife, as an entrepreneur, and all the things that moms are these days. It just makes it so incredibly difficult for women with all the hats that we wear to get the most out of life. The culture where we are in today is just so filled with hustle culture that we feel like we have to do everything at all times. And sometimes I just think it really makes me wish that I was back in the 1980s, where things seemed so much simpler, where you could just stroll to Blockbuster, get a little movie on the weekends and go about your weekend. Simply not looking at a phone, not looking at text, not hopping on social media, not doing any of those other things that we just drowned our time in these days.
Crystal Ware 0:01:53
So before we jump into all that that I want to talk about, don't forget to subscribe to the newsletter. We are going to get things going in my newsletter, start sending out amazing information to you guys all and you can be the first to hear about everything that we're going to launch later on in the year. So make sure you go to the show notes and see where you can sign up to get on the newsletter. We will not be doing anything spammy or sending a bunch of emails. It will be one email a week, possibly only two a month. Just depends on what kind of interesting insights we have to share with you. So please don't forget to do that that will help us and allow you to give us feedback on show and show topics. So without further ado, let's dive into it. I mean, literally, we are just in this bubble of hustle and bustle. The modern life that we lead just has us juggling too much at all times. Creating more time and space for what really matters is quintessential to reaching the level of happiness and satisfaction that you want. Research says that once you're at an income level of 75,000 100,000, somewhere in there more money isn't necessarily going to bring you more happiness. But we can always spend our time to get more money. We can always spend our time to get more things. What we cannot do is get more time.
Crystal Ware 0:03:30
So how we use our time and how we live into our life is really what matters most. But it is so hard these days. I mean, it really, really is. The number one thing that we can do to figure out how to make more time and space for what matters most is figure out what matters most. What are the things that we really love to do and how can we be doing more of them? I talked to somebody a few weeks ago and that's really the inspiration for this podcast topic. Today I was talking to somebody and going through basically an audit of their life. An audit of their life is something that everybody should be doing. Look at where you're spending your time. Look at how the activities that you're doing. Give percents and ratios to all the things that you're doing and see where you are spending your time, how you're spending your energy, how you're spending your most important resources. And then decide if that's the way that you want to be living into your life. Is this what is going to bring you ultimate satisfaction, joy, fulfillment, all the things that we really seek in life? And if you are spending time like the person I was talking to, if you love being outdoors, like, that is your thing. That is your jam.
Crystal Ware 0:04:51
You just enjoy going on long walks, hiking in the forest, playing tennis outside, laying on a blanket in the grass, reading a book. If you just enjoy being outside like this person did, and you have an audit of your life and you see I am spending less than 30 minutes of my day outdoors, that's probably not going to set you up for the level of happiness and satisfaction that you really want. You're not making time and space for what matters most to you. So it is paramount that you figure out what does matter most for you. And that may come to you right away. The thoughts may come right into your mind as I'm asking this question. You're thinking about it. You're grabbing a pen, you're writing it down. Do it. Spend a few minutes right now. Other people may need a little time. Maybe you have just been living life from moment to moment, day to day, month to month. You haven't thought about it. If that's you, that's okay too. There's no right or wrong answer.
Crystal Ware 0:05:58
And if it takes you time to figure out really what matters most to you, that's fine. Just spend the time. Give your sign some space. I know I've talked about this before, but writing it down, journaling, thinking about it, what did you love doing as a child? What did you love doing in college? What did you love doing as a young adult. Wherever you are, whatever space that is in, figure out what it is that you want to be doing and then we can work back into how do you get there? Okay? Because there is always a way to create more of what we want when we are intentional. So once you understand where you're headed, what you want, how you want to be spending your time, then we can look at all the ways that you ware, currently serving, using, spending your time, and where you can cut out things that are not serving you. That is really the most important second step. Okay? You've got to know where you're headed and then how to get there. And how to get there is often just eliminating things that you don't want to be doing. Are you saying yes to activities that you really don't care about?
Crystal Ware 0:07:16
Are you having your kids do activities that maybe they don't really care about? Are you spending a lot of time running errands where you could block those off? How much time are you spending in housework, in cooking, in errands, in shopping, in scrolling, on the internet? So if you're using a bunch of your free time doing activities that don't really move the needle, bring joy, bring happiness to your life, create some kind of spark within you, then you need to reevaluate. Okay? You need to cut things out and just say no. And I've talked about this in other podcasts. I've had clips of this on social media about how powerful saying no is because then it allows you to really say yes to the things that matter most. We have to learn to let go of FOMO. We have to learn to say no. We have to learn to spend the time in the activities that are going to make us satisfied. At the end of the day, there is nothing better than going to sleep at the end of the night where you think about your day and you think, gosh, what an amazing day that was. I enjoyed every part of it. I loved how I spent my time, who I spent it with, what I was doing, and I really made the most of it. And these are core memories that I'm going to take away with me.
Crystal Ware 0:08:38
So that is really important. Then the third thing you need to do is embrace how efficient and time management strategies you can do. There are things in life that we have to do that we just can't get away from. I mean, you can't totally get away from running errands, you can't totally get away from groceries, you can't get away from some amount of housework. You can outsource some of these things that you may not like doing. You could get grocery delivery, you can get somebody to clean your house, but you still have to make the list. You still have to say and train somebody on how you want your house done. There's just things we have to do. So how can we block time? How can we make the most of our time? And how can we fit those in? One of the ways that I like to do that is batch cooking or going to the grocery store and doing all my cooking, or ordering bulk or family style meals together so that I don't have to be doing that all week long. I might make four or five batches of vegetables, potatoes, other healthy sides that go with a quick meat or main dish and that frees up my time during the week for what I really want to do. I've gotten back into reading. And how do I manage to carve out time to read the books that I really want to read?
Crystal Ware 0:10:00
I have to stop watching TV. I mean, there are the same amount of hours in each day. Everybody has the same amount. And how you use them is how you're going to feel about your life. So making sure that you're optimizing how you spend your time on the activities that have to be done is really important. The fourth thing is how you nurture your self care and mindfulness. This is how we prioritize ourself, how we take care of ourself, and how we do things that bring us joy. In general, we want to be doing things that bring us joy at all time, but we also need to specifically, if you have kids, other people, parents to take care of, you need to find time to move into those that keep you mentally and physically where you want to be. So if that's working out, if that's meditating, if that's yoga, if that's pursuing your hobbies of tennis or golf or whatever else, those are important too, because those will give you an overall sense. So if those things that are really kind of in the self care, in the physical well being categories are what bring you the most joy and the most happiness, how can you get there? If it's that I want to spend time feeding into my spouse or feeding into my children, how can I get more time with them throughout the week and throughout the weekends when we have work and school and other activities that must be done? One of the ways my husband and I do that is by having lunch on the calendar once every other week. So at least during the day, we are able to spend time together. But ultimately and the number one most important thing that we can go on and we can talk about how we get there, we can talk about how you break down your day, we can talk about how you look at the audit of your life and how your time is spent. But the absolute number one most important thing is what matters most to you and how can you spend the maximum amount of time doing what matters most to you.
Crystal Ware 0:12:03
That is what is going to nourish your soul, that is what is going to nourish your heart. That is what is going to make you feel most fulfilled. So just like many of us feel like we have to hustle and we have hustle culture and we need to get so much done to feel productive. Because I titled this the Ultimate Guide to Creating More Time and Space. It's one of those things where it feels like I really need to give you a list of things that you have to do. But the Ultimate Guide and the Ultimate Wisdom is really that you need to figure out what matters most to you first and foremost. From there you just find a way to spend as much time doing that thing. If you can weave that in, if work and career can be part of that, what gives you joy then that's all the better. Because for most of us, working and having a career, doing something that is monetary is going to be a necessity. That's just where we are in life. That's just where we are as a society. So we're not going to totally get away from that. If you can find joy and satisfaction and happiness in the career, which I believe everybody can, I really and truly believe that everybody can find something that they absolutely love to do that will pay them what they want to be paid and what is in line with what they feel their value is. If we can get joy there, then everything else is icing on the cake because we can't necessarily take those 8 hours a day and fully capture those to be doing what we love. If we can integrate what we love with what we're doing as a career, then we're going to reach the pinnacle and the height of happiness and satisfaction.
Crystal Ware 0:13:44
But if not, if you are in a job, that's just a job that you check in, you clock in, you clock out, you move on for your day and then you get to doing the things that you love and are excited about. You can still use that time of day, those precious hours, that precious resource to do the things that matter most. Sit with your three year old, read a book, go for a walk with your husband, go for a walk by yourself. Take yourself to the park and walk through the trees. Whatever it is, spend more time doing it. And that is very simple. But often the most simple solutions ware the ones that ware going to do the most. We don't have to overcomplicate things. We don't have to make it harder than it is. At the end of the day, it's usually just simple, but we have to do it. That's where the hang up comes from. How do you say no? How do you create boundaries? How do you carve things out that you've been doing for years and years and years so that you can do the things that you really want to do. Those are the hard things.
Crystal Ware 0:14:54
Those are shifting the habits, they're shifting the way you respond to people and how you engage and interact with people. That's not always easy to do, but it is simple that we have to know what we want to do. We have to know what matters most to us and we have to look in the mirror and say am I spending time doing what I really love or am I wasting my time? Okay? So it's incumbent upon you, understand, learn, grow, figure out what matters most to you and figure out how to get more of it that will ten times your happiness. And everybody wants that. Everybody is looking for happiness, everybody is looking for health and wealth. Okay? And then that is what they believe will bring them happiness. But really what's going to bring you happiness is spending time doing what matters most. You create that by putting up boundaries to other things, by knowing what it is that matters most and by spending the maximum amount of your time, whether on a daily or weekly cumulative basis. Okay? Nine times out of ten, all the things in life that we want to improve can be boiled down to super simple ways, super simple answers and solutions. The hard work comes from doing it, actually doing it and making the changes, making the shifts in ourself, in how we talk and act and engage. That's where the hard work comes in.
Crystal Ware 0:16:31
But I know that we can do it. So if you're looking to increase time and space to bring more satisfaction and joy and happiness into your life, that's it. That's really it. Figure out what matters most and do it more. Figure out what matters most and do it the most. Okay, so send me some feedback. Tell me what it is that you love doing the most. I know what I love doing the most is being outside, being with my family. And every day I try to find out how I can do more of that. It's not always easy. I put on my social media today some information about the most surprising thing about entrepreneurship, which was the freedom of time. And also the freedom of time. That's been a big detriment, right? Because I have this whole 8 hours a day of time to allocate to working, to being productive and also doing things and feeding into things that I love that make me the most satisfied. But it can be difficult.
Crystal Ware 0:17:40
I am always a work in progress trying to figure out how to better how I'm spending my time and making the most of entrepreneurship. It's not always easy. I will be a first, admit that. But it is simple and you can do it. And I know that when you do you will see so much more satisfaction in life. So tell me what it is that you're looking for and that you want more of in your life, and I'm happy to give you some feedback on how you can get it. The ultimate guide to creating more time and space for what matters most is knowing what matters most and just doing it more. So thanks for tuning in. Thanks for being part of our audience and our community. And thanks for being part of the greater world of women who want more, who want satisfaction, that want to know, own and ask their worth. Keep getting clear. You are made for more and I know that you can get there. We'll be back in a few days with another episode. Don't forget to join our newsletter and we will see you soon. Until next time, I am crystal Ware thanks for listening in.
Crystal Ware 0:18:55
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