Hope in Real Life with Jason Gore

Remember back to when we were younger and made new friends almost every day and it came naturally? Well, if you’re like most of us, friendships are harder to form when we’re adults. There are a lot of factors that can contribute to the reason forming these connections is hard. In this episode of Hope In Real Life, we have a subject matter expert, Laura McEwen, who is a mental health counselor, share another key contributor in making friends—the attachment theory.

Timestamps:
4:00 We need relationships
4:40 Why is making friends so difficult?
5:50 Attachment styles
6:10 Secure attachment styles
6:20 Insecure attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized
9:40 Attachment style reflection
12:30 You can always work to gain secure attachments
13:20 Dating and attachment styles
15:20 How do attachment styles affect our relationship with God?
17:30 We get let down sometimes
20:15 Resources on relationships, friendships, and attachment styles
22:20 Be the healthiest person you can be

Resources:
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love

How We Love: A Revolutionary Approach to Deeper Connections in Marriage

Attachment-Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to Care for Children

Anatomy of the Soul: Surprising Connections between Neuroscience and Spiritual Practices That Can Transform Your Life and Relationships

Attached to God: A Practical Guide to Deeper Spiritual Experience

God Attachment: Why You Believe, Act, and Feel the Way You Do About God

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You might wonder sometimes maybe you're secure

and you're dating someone who you're like,

why doesn't they ever call?

Or Why does she like really seem to need me all the time?

Right. You know, like, it's maybe

because their attachment style's not so great.

Um, or not so secure. And so yeah.

Dating and then it can go into marriage,

it can go into relationships at work, you know,

and really needing that validation from your boss that like,

Hey, you're doing, you're doing well.

I don't know if I am. And just

feeling like I really need that.

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Well, hello, hope and real life family.

So excited to be here for this episode

that I know is gonna be beneficial for so many.

If they will just stay tuned in.

I'm here with, uh,

sincerely a dear friend, and Lauren McCue.

And Laura, welcome to the show. Hi. Thank you. Yes, ma'am.

Uh, this week we are talking about, uh, this,

the working title here says, friends,

the real reason you struggle to make new ones.

Uh, but the idea is men as an adult,

making real friendships

and holding real relationships is a difficult thing.

Yeah. For a lot of different reasons.

And so we wanted to take some time to talk about it

and, uh, Lord, you are, um, well equipped to,

to lead us in that conversation.

But before we do that, I'd love, just for our guests,

for our listeners, why don't you just say hello

and let 'em know a little bit about yourself.

Well, hello, uh, I am Laura McKeen

and, uh, what do you wanna know about me?

I am married. I have two kids.

I am a mental health counselor.

I have known Jason, a little known fact for 22 years.

22 years. Yeah.

The longest of anyone else that's been on, uh,

a podcast episode for sure.

So you probably have a lot of stories,

so we'll be careful there.

But I, I was thinking about, I mean, we've, we've traveled

around the world, uh, doing ministry together.

Uh, I mean in Trinidad, like into Right Outta the Gate.

Yeah. Uh, we've seen a lot of things in,

uh, to say the least Yeah.

Over the last 20 years in the world of ministry for sure.

Um, okay. So let's, uh, let's do this, uh,

tell just a little bit about your, your career.

'cause now you as a mental health Mm-Hmm. Counselor. Mm-Hmm.

Right. Mm-Hmm. But let's back that up, you know,

even 15 years.

Like what, what has your professional career looked like

and what's led you to where you are now? Sure.

Um, well, I'll hope actually has been most of my career.

So I, uh, went to NC State. We both did right.

And then I graduated.

I graduated and, um, I was a psychology undergrad

and, um, got, didn't wanna go to grad school,

didn't wanna do the whole counseling, um,

thing at that point.

Um, but loved working at Hope, volunteering at Hope.

And so I got into children's ministry.

Then I did like six years there a year in Global Hope.

And then I went to Care Ministry.

And so Hope has a care ministry that allows you just

to really enter in when people are hurting

and just figuring out what support was.

And a lot of times that was leading people to counseling

and just kind of the partnerships that we have.

Um, so I always loved that,

but never really felt equipped to do the counseling part.

So I actually went back and got my master's and, um, then

after 17 years of being at Hope,

felt like the Lord was transitioning me into

full-time counseling.

And I've done that for Lana.

Yeah. A few things I wanna say.

Uh, one, uh, if it, when I know when you look at this title,

difficult to make friends, if you're a guy who's listening

to this podcast Mm-Hmm.

I know you because I am one. Alright.

You could be tempted to say, okay, that's probably enough.

And I wish I'd have said this in the first 30 seconds.

I'm telling you, even in this conversation

with Laura kinda leading up to this in pre-production,

like this is a topic that we desperately need to engage.

And, and I would venture as to say like,

until you really understand your relationships

or lack thereof, you're going

to have a difficult time experiencing

everything that you could in life.

And so, out of all the episodes, stay tuned into this.

Your friends, your family,

your coworkers will appreciate it, um, afterwards.

And then secondly, um, I just want to be able

to say it on the air for everyone to hear.

Um, I've known a lot of people, you were one

of the strongest, and I'm not gonna

say like one of the strongest women.

You are one of the strongest individuals

that I've ever had the privilege

to work and serve alongside of.

And so I'm grateful for you to be on here with us.

Thank Jason. Yeah, absolutely.

All right, well, let's jump in. Mm-Hmm.

Uh, and let's hear why, why is making friends

so difficult once we get outta college?

Yeah. Right. As if, as if I have all the answers.

That would be nice if I did.

If I don't, um, I think it's a lot of layers, right?

We're definitely living in a difficult time.

Um, I guess we, we consider to be

that individualistic culture, right?

We don't have, just by nature, we're just pretty isolated.

But then the pandemic really did us no favors in that. Yeah.

And so, um, I think it's hard social media.

We feel like we're connected,

but we're not really connected.

And so I would say that there's a lot of factors

that probably make us have challenges in,

in developing relationships.

Um, and I kind of see it as like if we picked up a bunch

of different, um, glasses

and you can say, okay, like if I look through these glasses

and that makes sense why it's hard.

And then if I look through these glasses,

this might be why it's hard.

Um, I think from a mental health side

that there's some different glasses we could put on

that aren't necessarily talked about a lot.

And so that's kind of my passion of just talking about

different things that might add to the difficulty in,

in really having relationships.

Yeah. Right on. Well, I mean, I think, uh,

since you are here, we should definitely talk about the

things that you're the most passionate about talking about.

So, um, uh, uh, without further ado, I mean let mm-Hmm.

Let's jump in. Yeah. What, what, what are some things

that you think, man, we can have our eyes open to

that might not be on the radar as it relates

to relationships and friendships?

Right. So there's something called attachment

styles that everybody has.

Um, and you fall into one of four categories.

Um, so you either have a secure attachment style

where you feel like you kind of know how to give

and receive love.

Um, you feel pretty stable in your relationships.

Doesn't mean relationships are perfect, just means

that you feel fairly secure in them.

And then there's the other part

that's falls in the insecure,

and that can kind of be divided into three categories.

One is anxious. And so those people

who have an anxious attachment style might feel, um,

a little bit more nervous in relationships.

Are they gonna leave me? Do they really love me?

Um, I really need them in my life in order

to feel okay in my life.

Um, and then there's avoidant.

Those people are more on the end, the end of the spectrum

where I really don't need people.

I'm pretty good on my own.

I've, I don't need to be vulnerable with you.

I can meet my own needs.

Um, and then there's disorganized,

which is actually a fairly, uh, less common one,

which is a little bit of a mix of both, where it's like,

I feel like I need you, but then I can't trust

you, so I kind of pull back.

Um, so statistics will tell you that probably, I mean, you,

you can find statistics to tell you whatever you want

to see sometimes, but it seems like in general they'll say

about 50% of the population will fall in the insecure.

So it's a pretty common thing.

Um, and it's hard

to have relationships if you don't feel

secure in relationships. Yeah.

Yeah. So, and I'm hearing that when you first said secure,

and then you kinda mentioned that I'm thinking there's

probably a good number of people that

automatically just thought, oh yeah, I'm secure.

I don't really need the other ones. I don't. Right.

But the, the reality is,

and you were saying this in the pre-production, um,

if you're prone to one of the other attachment styles,

that's, that's your reality.

So you don't know any different,

you just assume it's normal. Right.

And, and I also don't love the the title of Insecure

'cause who wants to be like signing up for that.

Um, and so I really kind of use the word like safe.

Like, I don't necessarily feel safe in relationships. Hmm.

Um, I don't, I don't feel like I can rely on them. Right?

Yeah. They're not secure in the fa fact

that I can rely on them.

Um, and so yeah, it's, it's hard

for people to kind of look at that.

But like I also said in the pre-production is

that you can't heal what you don't name.

And so if you're really, really regularly seeing

that maybe there are difficulties in relationships, you're

how I experience relationships,

it might be worth considering.

Like, is this a thing for me? Yeah.

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Um, so I'm sure that we have some listeners right now

that kind of had the same sensation

that I had when I first kinda read your, your pre-show notes

and some of the things we're gonna talk about.

I was like, how, how does she know my life story

and what it that I'm struggling with?

And so, you know, I'm sure, so when you went through those,

I'm sure you kind of raised some long, some,

at least some eyebrows for some folks.

But what are some, uh, is, are there any tools or,

or any, um, I don't know, any exercises

that an individual could do

or some, uh, self-realization to actually determine, like,

are there one of these styles

that we might be more prone to? Yeah,

I mean, it's helpful to kind of look at your life

and like, what's, what's been taught to you in life?

'cause attachment cells are basically like your unwritten

rules for relationships, and you kind of learn those

as you go through relationships.

So most people don't like to look back at, you know,

childhood and like say, oh, it was all

because of, you know, the way that I grew up.

Um, and especially if you're a parent like we are now,

it's like you really hope that you're

not screwing up your kids.

Right? That's right. Um,

but contrary to many beliefs, counselors actually don't want

to make parents the bad guys.

Like, they just want to be informed on like,

Hey, what was this like for you?

And so, um, attachment really is primarily founded in the

way that you have relationships with your primary caregiver.

So if you had a mom or a dad or grandparent

or whatever, whoever was taking care of you,

and you kinda learn, not like just were my physical needs

met, you know, sometimes they were,

and they're like, okay, well then I'm secure.

Well, let's look at that. Right.

You know, like emotionally, what did,

what was taught to you?

Did, did your parents say like, oh, Hmm,

you're having a lot of emotions here.

You just go over there and you figure

that out and then you come back.

Um, or they just felt like you just felt like

you were too much in emotions.

Yeah. And so then you kinda have to figure out like, Hey,

I need to figure out that on my own.

Or sometimes there's some stuff that's just going on

with parents and they just don't have the bandwidth.

And it's not really because they don't want to,

it's just they don't either have the skillset

'cause they weren't ever taught, or

They got two jobs, they're both

working, they're trying to figure it out.

Right. And maybe there's multiple kids,

Another sick kid, like I've had, I've had clients who,

you know, a parent just had a really,

really terminally ill other child,

and their focus was all on that. Right? So

Yeah. Crisis will

throw us all for

Loop, right? And so

it's like, how do, what do you learn about that?

What do I, how do I need to emotionally process?

Who can I rely on and what am I learning about?

That's, that's kind of how you can start

to look at things like just being aware of

what did I learn when I was growing up?

And then throughout life, it's not just

that you can have some significant relationships

that can impact you.

Yeah. One thing I've learned that, um, not about myself,

of course, through counseling,

but through other people, uh, is that, um, your tendencies

or your proneness, while it is your reality Mm-Hmm.

That doesn't necessarily mean

that it's the best or the only way.

Mm-Hmm. And like you said, learning

where it came from Mm-Hmm.

And how it started and how you got there like that,

that's not to label you, but it's to help you.

Then now you can start kind of take some steps back

and realize, okay, now maybe I can build a new path forward

that's not built on the things

that I just assumed must be true.

Right. And it's also encouraging to know that, like,

just if as you look into attachment styles,

it's not the death sentence.

It's not like, oh, this is your permanent fate

and you're never going to be able to

break through from that.

It actually is really encouraging that, like,

they call 'em earn secure attachments.

And so like you can actually work towards feeling

really great in a relationship.

And so sometimes, um, if you're in a relationship

with a really secure person, they make you feel really safe.

And so you don't have some of those like triggers of like,

oh, I need to pull back, or I can't, I can't rely on them.

Um, or they're gonna leave me.

That stuff isn't really known as much

because they just like emulate like, I have this

or emit this, like, security that they really, really love.

So those are really great relationships,

but sometimes you just have to work on them.

So we're talking about making friends Mm-Hmm. Right.

And having community. But let's ask, can, can,

can attachment styles,

can they affect other relationships

in our life that we do have?

Like our marriages, for example?

Uh, does it play out in the dating life,

in the professional world, corporate world?

Maybe talk about some of that impact. Yeah.

Yeah. For dating. I mean,

I think it's really common, you know?

Yeah. Dating's hard. I'm glad I'm not, I'm passion

Done with that phase in my life.

Yeah. Um, so I think, yeah,

you might wonder sometimes maybe you're secure

and you're dating someone who you're like,

why doesn't they ever call?

Or Why does she like really seem to need me all the time?

You know? Like, it's maybe

because their attachment cell's not so great,

um, are not so secure.

And so yeah. Dating

and then it can go into marriage,

it can go into relationships at work, you know,

and really needing that validation from your boss that like,

Hey, you're doing, you're doing well.

I don't know if I am. And

just feeling like I really need that.

Um, or just being kind of loner at work

and just independent.

Nobody really knows you.

You show up, you do the job, and that's all you know. Yeah.

So you can see in that. And then also I think even in the

spiritual sense, like a relationship with God,

I think you can definitely see some impact. We're

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Let's get back to the show about that for a moment,

because that was something I know that all

of our listeners aren't, um Mm-Hmm.

Um, necessarily at church every weekend

or all sharing the same faith beliefs.

But that was something that came out

of you when we were talking in pre-production.

So talk about that a little bit.

Like how do these attachment styles impact our ability

to really pursue a relationship with God

or feel, um, comfortable with insider relationship with God?

Talk about that for a minute.

Yeah. Well, I think with Christianity,

Christianity specifically,

like Jesus is a personal God, right?

So it's not just like, okay,

there's this far off dissent God.

It's like, Hey, he actually wants to be part of my life

and it's this intimate relationship.

And so that can be really intimidating for some people.

It's like, you know, I don't really need that.

I don't want that. Like, you know, people

who have more avoidant style, if they're in a relationship

with God, they sometimes have troubles expressing needs

to God or relying on God,

or trusting that he's gonna show up for

how he says he's going to.

Right. Um, and then those with anxious,

sometimes they just don't really

trust that God does love him.

Did I do something that's like, taken me too far?

Can I be forgiven of this? It's, it's too much.

Um, so it definitely has a play in how

you see Jesus at least. Yeah.

Um, and, and I,

and I'll just tack onto that, you know, and, and we'll move on.

But I would say to our listeners, if you're out there

and you're like, I, yeah, that's me.

Mm. Like, I just, I think I have done too much.

I think I have gone too far.

Um, or, you know, I, I can, you know, I can give praise

to a God who's great, but I, I don't really believe he wants

to meet me in my mess.

And, and by the way, if that's you, I get it.

Um, but I want you to know that that's,

that's not the God who created us.

And there is a God that loves you

and that wants to step with you into

where you are in your life.

And you're not going to fully know

and experience that until you're

willing to go down that journey.

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So, um, let's see, where do we want to go with this, man?

How about, how about, um, resources, just engaging this,

if somebody wants to say, Hey,

let me take this a little bit further.

You know what? Hold the phone on that one.

Let's, let's not go to resources yet. Sure.

Talk about, 'cause one that we kinda hit,

and we'll pretend like I'm not pulling the

curtain back on myself here.

All right. And so hypothetically,

let's say there was somebody

that couldn't really put the pen to paper on which one

of these were, but say they had, um, an attachment style,

or maybe it's not an

attachment style, but it's like, you know what?

Relationships are hard for me

because I just don't want to be let down.

Mm-Hmm. Like, I've seen, maybe somebody's seen

some things from some people growing up,

and then maybe say hypothetically then some other things

happened in college, and then let's say hypothetically they

ended up getting, and they were

professionals and they were adults.

Yeah. And then there's people that they looked up to

and then they let 'em down.

Mm-Hmm. And then, so maybe let's just say hypothetically,

you know what, it's just a lot easier

to not depend on anybody or to not trust on anybody.

And sometimes it's easier to labor alone in the cold

and in the dark than it is

to really make yourself vulnerable

to trusting even one more time.

Yeah. Any thoughts on that, hypothetically? Of course.

I, you know, I'm not obviously.

Yes. Um, there was a, a great quote,

I wish I had my phone, but, uh, it was just talking about

how relationships are not meant to be easy.

They're meant to be fulfilling.

So you could totally go, not you the, the hypothetical.

Right, right. Yeah. And I'll let 'em know. I'll let 'em

Know. Just pass it on. Yeah.

Um,

you could totally just allow that to be the case.

I'm just not gonna rely on people.

People stink sometimes and they let me down.

And so you could go to that end of the spectrum,

but that wouldn't really be super fulfilling.

Um, and so that quote was just saying like,

they're not meant to be easy.

Uh, they're meant to be fulfilling.

Um, but sometimes you don't know how to have that

and it's gonna take work and your kitchen's gonna get dirty.

Like, you know, like, it's gonna be challenging,

but I think at the end of the day when you don't

have that, you feel lonely.

Yeah. It's like God created us for relationship. Yeah.

And there's something innate that we just know,

like it's, this isn't right.

I could choose this, this could be,

I could put up all my walls and all my guards,

and I could live nice and safe on this side,

but I'd feel alone and I would miss out on the joys

that I think actually are meant

to be in healthy relationships. Yeah.

Yeah. And so I, I'll just, I'll piggyback on that

and I'll say, you know,

this podcast is about bringing people hope in real life.

Mm-Hmm. We know that there's, um, someone in multiple, many,

many, hundreds and thousands of men and women

and students that are walking around the world right now

that are lacking in hope.

And I do know, we know as a team, you know, a large part of

that is because they are lacking a,

a real healthy community Mm-Hmm.

Around them. Mm-Hmm.

And, and I'm just like, all joking aside, I'm a guy

that man, it's, it's hard.

It's hard for me. Mm-Hmm. And there's reasons why it's hard.

And then some is just probably sheer laziness.

And sometimes it's easier to stand by yourself. Mm-Hmm.

But man, we're not as hope filled of a people.

We're not hitting on all cylinders if we don't have the

relationships in our lives that we need.

Yeah. And so we've gotta be willing to do this work. Mm-Hmm.

Um, let's, let's jump to resources then. Mm-Hmm.

Um, books, podcasts. What do you think?

Somebody says, okay, fine.

Yeah, I'll try to take a step in opening up

and in furthering my relational

connection with others in my life.

What, what do you got resources?

I know I'm biased 'cause I am a counselor,

but I do feel like this is work that's hard

to do independently.

Yeah. It's hard to do where I just read a book and then I,

or I just look at this post on Instagram

because you need someone to reflect back

to you ask you the questions.

Right. Dig out things.

So my main resource would be like, Hey, if you, if you think

that this is hard, and I'm not sure why it's hard, um,

avoidance tend to not want to go

to counseling makes a lot of sense.

Right. It's like, 'cause then I'm gonna have

to be vulnerable, and then I'm gonna have to say

that there I have a need and that something's wrong.

Um, and so they don't like that.

But you can have an earned,

secure relationship with your counselor.

Yeah. And it would be great. Um, so I would think

that this is better done in a relationship environment.

Um, but there are resources, there's a great book.

It's called Attached. It's like a very, um,

user-friendly book to read.

Uh, and it kind of gives you a lot of examples

so you can kind of get to know these

high attachment cells better.

And then if you are on, uh, the social media, Instagram, uh,

Social media, the tiktoks. Right.

Um, I think she's actually on, um, Facebook too,

but it's called The Secure Relationship.

Okay. And, um, I've coworker introduced me to that

and everything that I've seen seems to be pretty spot on.

Um, so it can kind of give you a lot more examples, uh,

so you can learn a little bit about it.

Okay. And we'll make sure that all

of those are listed in the show notes as well.

Sure. And, um, yeah. Okay. Well, let's do this.

What, so you got me knowing that okay, we've listened

to the audience and we just know intellectually,

like we need to have a community around us.

We need to be able to take those steps

to develop the relationships and making friends are hard.

Um, I've taken my best swing at this thing.

What, what question have I not asked that you're like,

Jason, this is the question you should be asking.

This is the topic we should be talking

about. Oh my goodness.

That's a, that's a tough one.

Um, within relationships, um, I think

the goal of you being the healthiest person that you can be

for yourself impacts everything in your life, right?

Mm-Hmm. And it impacts how you navigate the world.

And so, um, we don't live in this kind of world that like

slows down and considers, how am I feeling?

What am I thinking? Like, we are not touchy-feely.

We don't like that kind of stuff.

But it, there's so much value in it.

And I, it's really cool to see, to get to watch what, from

what I did at Hope, where I really did a lot more

of the triage intake.

And then, hey, you go and you go to counseling

or you go to this resource.

And I didn't necessarily always get to see the, the process,

but being in the counseling room, I can see the way

that when people invest in time just to slow down

and to consider how they can become the healthier,

healthiest version of themselves, it actually does matter.

They joy is reignited

and, um, things that were broken get healed.

And that's just something I'm always going to want

to encourage people to do,

even though it's not a really popular message. Yeah.

I know. Okay. Well, let's do this.

I, I'd love to give, uh, our, our audience just a little,

just, and we know we started out talking about your life,

but maybe a little bit more of a snapshot Mm-Hmm.

As to who you are. And so, uh, this season I'm asking all

of our guests the same question.

Um, what are you most hope filled about

in your life right now?

Um, I mean, honestly, Jesus is the, the hope that gives me

the most, um, substantial hope that I can count on.

Because I don't know, you know, I know we've been friends

outside of this, there's some tough things

that go on in life and, you know,

I've had some family members

that are struggling health wise,

and it's hard to put your hope in anything else.

Yeah. Doctors, you know, medication, things like that.

And so I feel very hopeful filled that if I had a tagline,

Jesus doesn't waste pain.

And so I know that it's never for not,

and so I feel very hopeful that he is the same God

that he is always been, and he's gonna be faithful.

So there's your churchy answer,

but that's your, but that's genuine.

Hey, we ask for a reason. Yeah. And, uh, so yeah.

I mean, I can, I can sincerely say and, um,

and through a lot of challenging times that, that I know

that you've walked through, I can say for me personally,

that I've walked through, um, man, I,

I just haven't found anywhere else I can go Yeah.

That I can find the same steadiness and faithfulness

and honestly security Yeah.

That, um, in my brokenness, I just don't know

that I believe I'm gonna get Yeah.

In other relationships. So.

Well, um, we're gonna have stuff in the show notes,

we'll have everything there for, for folks to, to look into.

Anything else that you would encourage our folks towards

as it relates to relationships.

I think we've hit everything. Yeah.

Just put yourself out there a little bit.

You know, you can't expect relationships just to happen.

Like just test the waters to see like,

is this person who's regularly in my life, someone

who maybe I should take a step towards

getting to know a little bit more.

Um, because it's not gonna change

if you don't make any action.

People aren't knocking down doors to be your friend.

And so it does take some personal responsibility.

So, um, figure out what's already going on in your life

and how you can take me just one small step.

I know. Well, Lord, thank you so much for your time.

Mm-Hmm. And thank you for joining in with us to, to do all

that we can do to bring hope into the everyday real

moments of our listeners' lives.

And, uh, I know

that we will have you back on the show very soon,

but, um, can't thank you enough.

So appreciate the work and, uh, thankful that you're chasing

after what it is that God has in front of you.

Thanks to you all.

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