A life-giving Jesus community for a new generation of people in Sacramento.
Join us every Sunday
Old Sacramento: 8:30 AM, 10:00 AM & 11:45 AM @ 1200 2nd Street, Sacramento, CA 95814
South Sacramento: 10:00 AM (English) & 11:30 AM (Spanish) @ 6528 44th Street, Sacramento, CA 95823
Online: https://www.youtube.com/projectchurchsac
00;00;00;01 - 00;00;17;03
Sam Fleury
Well, good morning, Project Church. You look good this morning. That that. You're welcome. You're welcome. Especially you. Scott. Hey. Well, today we're we're closing out our series, Name the Chain. It's been a great series. Before I jump in, I want to do a couple things. Number one. My name is Sam, and I'm one of the pastors on staff here.
00;00;17;03 - 00;00;33;25
Sam Fleury
If you don't know me, you'll see my wife here in a little bit with our two twin boys that just turned three years old. Yeah, it was their birthday. Yeah. You could clap your hands. Great. Three years. I've been tired the entire time, but it's been a great three years. And you just saw a video about camp we just threw you into the car with, like, the sound all the way up.
00;00;33;25 - 00;00;52;04
Sam Fleury
But summer camps and incredible opportunity for students to experience God. Last year, we brought close to 600 teenagers up to Woodley's camp for four days, where they got to experience God. And I could tell you story after story, but I'll just simply say this God changes teenagers, lives at camp. It's a real thing. And so in here, if you've got a teenager, they're middle school.
00;00;52;04 - 00;01;09;01
Sam Fleury
High school. I'm going to implore you, get on the church, center up, register for them to be at camp. It's June 25th. This year goes for three days. We come back Sunday morning. If you don't have a teenager, that's okay. I want to play to do one thing. Number one, would you consider just praying for the camp, the students that are going that they would experience God have open hearts.
00;01;09;02 - 00;01;23;22
Sam Fleury
But number two, maybe in here you want to help a student get to the camp. Not every student can actually fully pay to get their way to camp. It costs $380 for a student to get there, which is actually the cheapest camp in all of California for a student to go to. And some of them still need some scholarship help.
00;01;23;22 - 00;01;39;05
Sam Fleury
And so we help students every single year. So would you just consider praying with us? But then secondly, maybe partnering with us financially to send a student, it costs 380, but you can give any amount to help a student get to camp. And in the Church Center app there's a dropdown for helping to scholarship students. And you can do that today.
00;01;39;05 - 00;01;53;12
Sam Fleury
So we just believe so much is happening at camp. And we love for you guys to be a part of it. And you'll get to see a lot more when we get back. But this is actually Pastor Dominic. Have you guys met Pastor Dominic yet? Incredible youth pastor. It's his first year running camp, so we believe a lot of great things are going to happen.
00;01;53;17 - 00;02;10;07
Sam Fleury
But I got a word from God this morning and so I hope you're ready. Are you ready? Yeah. Look at your neighbor say, are you ready if you don't have a neighbor next to you, I'm sorry. I still love you. I see you, you're about four years ago, my wife and I were blessed and fortunate to purchase our first home.
00;02;10;07 - 00;02;26;16
Sam Fleury
And when we bought our first home, my wife is a little a little paranoid at times. And so our first night we're living in this brand new community. We are the third family that's moved in this block. There's nobody else living there. Makes up for us and two other families. The first night we're falling asleep in our bed, I get woken up by her violently shaking me.
00;02;26;16 - 00;02;40;09
Sam Fleury
About midnight. She says, do you hear that noise? Downstairs? I go, girl, what are you talking about? She's all somebody walking around her house, knocking on our house. I said, no, he's knocking on our house. We're one of three families that live here who would do that? So I, like, just go back to bed. Just go back to bed.
00;02;40;09 - 00;02;54;19
Sam Fleury
So we fall asleep in about an hour later, the same thing happens. She wakes up. It's happening again now. This time I hear what she hears. And there's some people in here where you're the fight or flight person. When something happens, you. You're the person that you run right into the fire, but then the flight person, you run away from it.
00;02;54;19 - 00;03;14;12
Sam Fleury
There's a third type of person, and I'm not sure if you're aware of this. There's a fight person, there's a flight person, and then there's me, I freeze up, I'm the freeze up person. So I lay there, the bed, I go be quiet because if they hear us, we're so toast. Because I'm a lover, not a fighter. So somebody breaks in my house like, yo, take what you want.
00;03;14;13 - 00;03;27;07
Sam Fleury
It's all yours. I'll show you where everything's at. Just please don't hurt me. But I have to act like a man, you know? That's what I married her ass. I had to act like a man. So I go downstairs, my girl. Check this out. So I go and I look out the front door and nobody's out the front door.
00;03;27;08 - 00;03;44;17
Sam Fleury
I go look out our backslider. Nobody's out there. I go through a garage slider. I go through our garage door. Nobody's out there. But when I'm out there, I noticed something very funny that whenever the wind would kick up, there was a vent flap right by my kitchen that would pick up and slam down. So it sounded like somebody was knocking on our house.
00;03;44;18 - 00;04;01;07
Sam Fleury
So, you know, as I should, I walk back upstairs, she goes with somebody out there, go, yeah, but don't worry, I got rid of him. We're good now. And the rest of the night this happening the next day, I finally tell her, hey, that was actually just event flap. And she said, Sam, you need to fix that. That terrified me.
00;04;01;08 - 00;04;20;13
Sam Fleury
Now, four years later, we've had many people come and house, sit and watch our house, and we've been traveling on vacations. And every time, without fail, I will get a phone call. I will get a text message. It sounds like somebody's knocking on the house at nighttime. What's going on? And I have this reminder for myself every time that I don't know if you've got this problem, but I've got this problem.
00;04;20;13 - 00;04;46;15
Sam Fleury
I'm a procrastinator. My wife's been asking me to fix that vent for four years now, and it's still not fixed, so I don't worry about it. It's just the vent flap. See, it terrifies them, but in my life, I've just normalized the sound. I don't even hear it anymore. And I don't know if you know this or not, but the reality in life is there is a lot of things that you and I face that is just far easier to adjust to, rather than it is to fix it.
00;04;46;16 - 00;05;09;01
Sam Fleury
And today we're talking about generational cycles. And I need you to understand, as we start this idea today, that generational cycles is just simply anything in your life that you've adjusted to, that you've normalized, that's maybe not really normal, rather than taking the time to address it and to fix it. This is how generational cycles start. Now, I want to say this to generational cycles get a bad rap.
00;05;09;02 - 00;05;31;07
Sam Fleury
There are actually good generational cycles. Some of your parents, they handed out really good things to you. Good habits, great ways to be a husband, great ways to be a wife, great ways to be parents. But the opposite is true where there are some unhealthy, some unholy, some bad generational cycles that have been passed down to you. And whether you know it or not, what's been normalized is often repeated in your life.
00;05;31;07 - 00;05;50;12
Sam Fleury
And so for all of us, we have to come to this place of understanding that your present life, it is so shaped by your past life the way you are today, whether you know it or not, is shaped by your upbringing, is shaped by your environment, and shaped by what you grew up in. In generational cycles happen each and every one of us.
00;05;50;13 - 00;06;06;00
Sam Fleury
We all in this room represent a unique generational pattern of cycles in this room. Some of you in here, maybe some of the cycles that you pass down to you, is that your family? Every time you gather for a meal, the first thing you do is let's pray. And that was passed down to you. It's not even a thought.
00;06;06;00 - 00;06;20;09
Sam Fleury
It just happens without you even thinking about it. But for some of you, maybe it was passed down to you as at any time there's conflict. Instead of being a great listener, you just raise your voice and yell at the other person. And this is what was passed down to you. For some of you, it was how to manage your money.
00;06;20;10 - 00;06;36;25
Sam Fleury
Maybe you grew up in a house or in an environment where there wasn't a lot of money you lived lack. There was a scarcity mindset. And because of this, now when you have money that God has entrusted you with, instead of being generous with it, you are stingy with it. You keep it to yourself because that was what was normalized in your upbringing.
00;06;36;25 - 00;06;54;06
Sam Fleury
But I've also seen it where there's people that in here that it was just an occasional beer on a Friday night, just one cigarette after work. And what you and I might call an addiction was actually just something that you were growing up that was normalized. This is just how you face your anxiety. This is how you face stress.
00;06;54;06 - 00;07;17;18
Sam Fleury
This is how you live life in addiction with Norm, life in your family. And today, what I want to implore you with is very, very simple that you and I and our strength, we cannot break generational cycles on our own. No matter how strong you are, no matter how great you might be, no matter how great your life is today, you got to understand that it's God's grace that gives you the power to rewrite your stories so that you don't repeat what you were, what you grew up in.
00;07;17;18 - 00;07;32;17
Sam Fleury
So many of you are like, you're repeating what you saw. You're you're talking the same way that your parents taught. You're thinking the same way that they thought. And there's some things, if we're honest in this moment where you're like, man, when is this going to stop? What am I going to stop thinking like this, talking like this, acting like this?
00;07;32;17 - 00;07;46;12
Sam Fleury
And I just want to tell you today, it's not in your own strength, but it's in receiving the grace of God that you can stop repeating what you were raised in. So today, we're going to be reading out of the book of First Samuel. Pastor Caleb was here last week. I'm going back a few chapters and first Samuel.
00;07;46;12 - 00;08;07;23
Sam Fleury
There's a story about a man named Samuel and his parents. Their names are Elkanah and Hannah. Now, what you understand is Hannah was unable to have children. She had a barren womb. She couldn't conceive and carry a child. And there's a day where she shows up to the temple, and she's praying, and she's praying so fervently before God that the pastor, the priest at the time, thinks that she's drunk because she's so upset.
00;08;07;23 - 00;08;24;13
Sam Fleury
As she's praying, she's opening her mouth to talk, but words aren't coming out and she prays, God, if you give me a child, I will give him to you for all the days of his life. I'll dedicate him to you. Great thing about God is God is a God who answers prayers, and God shows up and gives Hannah a miracle child.
00;08;24;13 - 00;08;42;14
Sam Fleury
And that child's name is Samuel. And when Samuel was born and weaned, she then brings him to live at the temple. And this is where Samuel story begins in first first Samuel chapter two. If you got your Bible, turn to First Samuel chapter two. We're going to be reading a couple of verses today, starting in verse 11. And if you didn't bring your Bible, that's okay.
00;08;42;14 - 00;09;04;08
Sam Fleury
It's going to be on the screen behind me. But I'll give you a second, first Samuel chapter two. In verse 11 it reads this. Samuel's father Elkanah went home to Rama, but the boy Samuel, he ministered before the Lord under Eli the priest. You see, Eli's sons were scoundrels. Eli is the priest. Eli sons were scoundrels. They had no regard for the Lord.
00;09;04;08 - 00;09;21;14
Sam Fleury
Now it was a practice of the priest at that time, that when any when any of the people offered a sacrifice, the pre-service, they'd come in with a three pronged fork in his hand while the meat was being boiled, and would plunge the fork into the pan, kettle, cauldron, or the pot, and whatever the fork brought up, the priest would take for himself.
00;09;21;16 - 00;09;41;14
Sam Fleury
This is how they treated all the Israelites who came to Shiloh. But even before the fat was born was was burnt. Excuse me? It was burned. The priest's servants would come in and they'd say to the person sacrificing, give the priest some of that meat to roast. He won't accept the boiled meat from you, only the raw. And if the person said to him, let the fat be burned first, and then take whatever you want.
00;09;41;15 - 00;09;59;04
Sam Fleury
The servant said, no, no, no, hand it over now. And if you don't, I'm going to take you by force. The sin of the young man was very great in the Lord's sight, for they were treating the Lord's offering with contempt. But Samuel, verse 18, was ministering before the Lord, a boy wearing a linen ephod, and jumped down to verse 22.
00;09;59;05 - 00;10;18;15
Sam Fleury
It reads this now Eli, he was very old, and I don't know, you know, how old are you got to be for the Bible to say you were very old, but Eli was very old, and hear about everything his sons were doing to all of Israel, and how they slept with the women who served at the entrance of the tent of meeting, say, oh.
00;10;18;17 - 00;10;36;15
Sam Fleury
And so he said to them, why do you do such things? I hear from all the people about these wicked deeds of yours? Not with not so with you, my sons. The report I hear spreading among the Lord's people. It's not good if one person sins against another, God may mediate for the offender. But if anyone sins against the Lord, who will intercede for them?
00;10;36;15 - 00;11;00;21
Sam Fleury
Thank God for Jesus and his sons, however, did not listen to their father's rebuke, for it was the Lord's will to put them to death. In verse 26, as we land, it says this. The boy Samuel continued to grow in stature and in favor with the Lord and with all of God's people. Today, if you're taking notes for the next 15 20 minutes, I hope to to bring you an encouragement from the Word of God.
00;11;00;21 - 00;11;28;07
Sam Fleury
Today's title, if you're taking notes, is Rewrite the Story. Rewrite the story. You see, right away we see that Samuel is miracle child born to Hannah El Qana after many, many years of infertility, dropped off to live at the temple. And when he grows up in the temple, he grows up with the priest family, Eli's family. Now we can stop here for a moment as we read the scriptures and just understand for a moment this isn't a normal situation.
00;11;28;09 - 00;11;49;20
Sam Fleury
Hannah and Elkana finally have the miracle child, and then they follow through on their word and they drop him off to live at the temple. This is a picture of our world today. If we if we're honest, where there are many children who grow up outside of the nuclear family, many children who don't grow up with their biological mother, biological father, maybe there was divorce or infertility or death or something.
00;11;49;20 - 00;12;14;04
Sam Fleury
But there's some reason in our world today where it is normal that many children are being raised outside of the nuclear family, my niece and nephew being raised outside of the nuclear family. As we see in this moment, Samuel is being raised outside of the nuclear family. Which leads me to believe that your upbringing and the way that you are today has much more, has much less to do with the parents that were in your life and rather the environment that you grew up in.
00;12;14;05 - 00;12;33;14
Sam Fleury
See, your parents formed you. Your siblings helped form who you are today. But maybe you didn't grow up in the nuclear family. Much like Samuel, I want to tell you today that even the environment that you grew up in, it formed who you are today. It formed your thoughts, your actions, your words, and the character that you live with today.
00;12;33;14 - 00;12;49;11
Sam Fleury
And as I'm reading the story, I try to put myself in the story. And I think we could all say this, that if I was Hannah, I was Elkana. Like, the last thing I want to do is drop off this miracle child to not live with me. I've believed for a child my whole life and now I'm dropping him off.
00;12;49;11 - 00;13;07;20
Sam Fleury
In the Bible tells us that Elkanah and Hannah, they only see their son Samuel once a year when they go up to the church to bring their offering. This is not the story that they would have chosen after believing for a child. But what we see in the story is, while it might not have been the story that they chose, they chose to surrender and submit to God's story for their life.
00;13;07;26 - 00;13;28;11
Sam Fleury
They chose to believe that God, if I drop off this child, you will give me another God. If I walk through things that are difficult, I choose to believe that you can work all things together for my good, that God. If I grew up in a dysfunctional, broken environment, I still choose to believe that you can turn this thing around and see for each and every one of us.
00;13;28;11 - 00;13;43;25
Sam Fleury
We gotta understand that what you surrender to in life, it shapes your story. I don't know if you know this or not, but the words that you submit your life to, maybe the things that people have spoken over you, maybe the things that you've spoken over yourself. When you surrender to those words, it begins to shape your story.
00;13;43;25 - 00;14;01;21
Sam Fleury
But even the ideologies that you maybe live with today, the thoughts that you live with, the belief patterns that you have, the the things that you repeat regularly, these things begin to shape your story. For some of you in the room, maybe the narrative that you've surrendered to is this one. I'll just always be this way. My dad was this way.
00;14;01;22 - 00;14;19;03
Sam Fleury
My grandfather was this way. So I'm just I'm just supposed to be this way. I'm supposed to live angry. I'm supposed to live bitter. I'm supposed to be addicted. And you just think I'll always be this way. And what you maybe don't understand is that word begins to shape your story. For some of you, maybe it's an even deadlier one.
00;14;19;03 - 00;14;35;18
Sam Fleury
If I'm honest, it's that I just deserve to be happy. My mom told me I deserve to be happy. Her mom says she deserves to be happy. But maybe what you failed to recognize is that in your pursuit of happiness, there's been a pain of a path of wreckage and carnage left behind you. You've hurt people. You've hurt yourself.
00;14;35;18 - 00;14;53;09
Sam Fleury
And in your pursuit of happiness, it has been a lie that has robbed you of blessing in life. But maybe one of the narratives that you've surrendered to in your life is that you've thought to yourself at one point or another, now, I'm not going to be like them. I'm not going to be like my dad. I'm not going to be like my mom was.
00;14;53;14 - 00;15;10;25
Sam Fleury
Im not going to be in a marriage like that. I'm not going to raise children like that. And the problem is, and let me be really, really clear, you're setting the bar so low. The bar is not I'm going to be better than them because you can achieve that. The bar's got to be I want to be like Jesus.
00;15;11;02 - 00;15;26;07
Sam Fleury
I want to be a husband like he calls me to be. I want to be a wife like he calls me to be. I want to be a parent like he calls me to be. I want to be like Jesus in every realm of my life. But you gotta understand that what you surrender to in life, it begins to shape your story.
00;15;26;15 - 00;15;44;11
Sam Fleury
I don't know about you, but I'm a book reader. But I'm an interesting book reader, right? Many times our staff will ask me, saying, what book are you reading right now? And every time, without fail, I will rattle off about 6 or 7 books. Now, this generation. Sunday. Are you ready? Six. Okay. Oh, I'm not bringing that back.
00;15;44;11 - 00;16;01;24
Sam Fleury
Somebody else did in the front row. They distracted me. That's Nathaniel anyways. And I'll be in so many books at once. But the reality is I'll be in so many books at once because I'll start a book in the first or second chapter. Maybe this is you. It doesn't draw me in, doesn't hook me. I'll put it down.
00;16;01;26 - 00;16;19;27
Sam Fleury
Pick up another one until I finally find the one that captivates me. The problem is with this is that a lot of times I don't just do that with books, but we do that in life. Then if the first chapter of your life was hard, if the past chapter was painful, if the past chapter was difficult, a lot of times we just say, God, I want a new story.
00;16;19;29 - 00;16;35;11
Sam Fleury
God, I want a new season. God, I wish I had a new life. But you need to hear me today that your last chapter does not define the whole story of God for your life. There might have been some hard chapters, might have been some difficult ones, might have been some things you wish God, I wish that would have never happened.
00;16;35;11 - 00;16;51;07
Sam Fleury
But one chapter. It doesn't define the whole narrative that God has written for your life. You see, the Bible reminds us that God is a good author, and if you and I in this room are ever going to have God rewrite our story, we got to start by trusting the author that God is a good author that makes good plans.
00;16;51;07 - 00;17;08;01
Sam Fleury
The Bible says that he knows every hair on your head, every need in your heart. The Bible says that he knows the beginning of days and the end of days and everything in between. And if we believe that God is good and we believe that he's a good author, that one story might have been hard. But there's another chapter that's coming.
00;17;08;01 - 00;17;24;28
Sam Fleury
And if God is good, that means the next thing that's coming. God has good for me. But we got to start by trusting the author. I love that the Bible illustrates this all throughout the Old Testament, all throughout the New Testament, each and every book of the Bible, 66 of them will tell you that God is a good author, and he knows exactly what he's doing.
00;17;24;28 - 00;17;46;11
Sam Fleury
I read about the story of Moses. I don't know if you know Moses, but Moses was born at a time where Pharaoh sent an edict out that every child born at the time was going to be killed. Pharaoh is that this moment was trying to kill all the newborns, and Moses's mother puts him in a puts him in a basket, sends him down the river, and lo and behold, who is there to pick him up out of the river is Pharaoh's daughter.
00;17;46;11 - 00;18;04;29
Sam Fleury
He grows up in Pharaoh's home. In his story should have been that he was going to die a young age, but his story was that God was going to use him as Israel's leader. See, one chapter might have been difficult, but the story was great. I think about David, who his own father didn't even see him. His own father over undervalued him and overlooked him.
00;18;04;29 - 00;18;24;11
Sam Fleury
He said, there's no way that God can use David of all. Here's all my sons. It's got to be one of them. But it certainly is not David and David's own father. Maybe for you this is your story where his own father overlooked him, undervalued him, and that was one chapter. But God used him to be Israel's leader.
00;18;24;11 - 00;18;40;08
Sam Fleury
And that's the story I want to implore you today. That one chapter might have been difficult, but the story that God has for your life is greater than that one chapter. He's telling something through each and every season of your life. And this is why I've come to the reality in my life that I understand the truth of Scripture.
00;18;40;08 - 00;18;54;23
Sam Fleury
Is that where you're from? It doesn't determine where God can take you, right? You might have grew up in dysfunction. You might have grew up in broken. Maybe you grew up in a great environment, but where you grew up, it doesn't determine where God can take you in this life. And this is why I love what the Scripture says.
00;18;54;24 - 00;19;11;27
Sam Fleury
Isaiah the prophet. He writes this in Isaiah chapter 64, verse eight. If you're taking notes, write this down. You're going to need this later. Isaiah chapter 6464, verse eight, he writes, we are the clay. If God is the potter, and watch what he says next. We are all the work of his hands. Do you know what this means?
00;19;11;28 - 00;19;31;22
Sam Fleury
You might have been formed one way God can reform you. You might have been shaped one way. God has a way of reshaping us. You might have grew up in one thing. God can take something completely different out of you. I don't know what you grew up in, but what I am convinced of is this is that God has a way of setting people apart, of changing you and making you different.
00;19;31;22 - 00;19;54;11
Sam Fleury
You know why you have a unique calling on your life. You have a unique purpose on your life, and you are not supposed to be like anybody else. God has a plan for you. He has a position for you in life. This last week or two weeks ago, my boys turned three years old. As I said a minute ago, and my wife thought it'd be a good idea to take our kids to what they call the happiest place on Earth.
00;19;54;13 - 00;20;17;07
Sam Fleury
Okay, maybe I don't know. I'm not a fan, you know, whatever. But I had some friends that are like, hey, when you go down to Disneyland, just go with because my wife's like, look, they're turning three. They're not going to be free anymore. We got to capitalize down like pastor salary. Let's do it. You know, so we get down there and as we're going into the park, my friend text me, said, just go in with no expectation and you'll have a great time.
00;20;17;13 - 00;20;37;12
Sam Fleury
So we get in the park and each and every day, day one, day two, day three. Without fail, my kids go in there having a great time, consuming all the candy, all the sugar, highs and lows because of that, having a great time on the rides. But every time I was like kids, we got to get in the stroller, go all the way across the park because this ride is going to open up.
00;20;37;12 - 00;20;52;10
Sam Fleury
I'm not waiting for an hour, not for that teacup ride. Not to chance. We're going to cross the park. We're going to get in this ride. And without fail, every time I made them get in their stroller to go across the park, they. I mean, it's like I'm casting demons out of them, you know, it's like, here's the the spirit of Mickey's coming out.
00;20;52;10 - 00;21;09;22
Sam Fleury
The spirit of Donald's coming out. I'm like, get out! And they're freaking out, crying, screaming because they didn't understand the timing of what was happening. They didn't understand that. Look, we're going from one thing to another, good thing to another good thing. I'm not trying to harass you. I'm not trying to suppress you. I'm trying to bring you to another good thing.
00;21;09;22 - 00;21;26;21
Sam Fleury
And what I found is that when you and I start trusting the author of our story, it means that we got to start trusting his timing. It means we got to trust that he's bringing good things to your life. It means we have to trust that God is working in your life. It means you got to trust that even when you don't feel it, God's making your way in your life.
00;21;26;23 - 00;21;47;13
Sam Fleury
See, trusting the author means I gotta trust his timing in my life. And this is why I think the the writer of Ecclesiastes says this, and Ecclesiastes verse three, or excuse me, chapter three, verse 11. He says this God makes everything beautiful in its time. There's a time to plan, but there's a time to uproot. There's a time to go to bed.
00;21;47;16 - 00;22;13;16
Sam Fleury
Time to wake up. It's time to rest. There's a time to work. There is a time for everything. And I felt like one of the convictions that the Lord wanted me to speak this morning was very, very simple, that it's time. Some of you hear me loud and clear. It's time for you to forgive that person who hurts you, because the unforgiveness that you're living with is not putting them in shackles, it's putting you friend in shackles.
00;22;13;18 - 00;22;27;22
Sam Fleury
Some of you in here, you need to understand it's time to move forward from that trauma that you've been stuck in for years. I know something painful happened. Something difficult happened that felt like it wiped you out. You felt like, I don't know how I can rebuild my life, how I'm going to ever move forward from this thing.
00;22;27;22 - 00;22;49;05
Sam Fleury
But there is a time to heal from the trauma of your life. For some of you, you need to understand that it's time to trust again. I know you trust. If somebody they walked out on you, they hurt you. They said things to you that you didn't ever think that person would say to you. And so you've told yourself, I will never trust like that again, and this is no way to live.
00;22;49;07 - 00;23;07;22
Sam Fleury
It's time for you to trust again. Parents in the room. Husbands, wives, listen to me. It's time for you to set healthy culture in your home. You have operated for so long with the cycles that have been dysfunctional in your upbringing, that you've brought into your house, and it's time to set God honoring culture in your home, it's time to say it's not just time to show up the church on Sunday.
00;23;07;22 - 00;23;21;05
Sam Fleury
It's time to say, I'm going to go home and institute a godly living in our home Monday through Sunday. Every day we're putting God first. I'm not just going to preach about it. I'm going to live like a man of God. I'm going to live like a woman of God. I'm not just going to say it because check it out.
00;23;21;06 - 00;23;38;07
Sam Fleury
Your words are cheap. Your actions are rich. It's time for you to show up to your host. I'm going to set a healthy culture in my home. It's time for you to flip the script in your life. So the second thing is I'm reading through the story that Samuel does. He grows. He grows up in this dysfunctional environment.
00;23;38;07 - 00;23;54;01
Sam Fleury
So we see already Samuel's being raised along Eli in his sons. Now Eli sons are these two guys. They got funny names. One one of them is named Hoffman. Great name. You're looking for a boy named Hoffman. And the other one? And the other one, Phineas. Alright, two great names for thinking about child names for boys. Hoff and Phineas.
00;23;54;01 - 00;24;12;23
Sam Fleury
And the Bible shows us really quickly the Hoff, the and Phineas. They disregarded and dishonored the Lord. And then we see later, as we were reading a moment ago in verse 22, that Eli found out about everything that was happening, how his sons were stealing from the offering, how his sons were sleeping with the women in the church.
00;24;12;26 - 00;24;35;24
Sam Fleury
And instead of Eli correcting his sons, he allows it to continue. And what you understand is this is a dysfunctional environment that Samuel's growing up in. He's being told to serve God while he's watching the other two boys dishonor God openly. Because what you don't correct in life, you can don't see. Eli should have corrected this before it got out of hand.
00;24;35;26 - 00;24;52;26
Sam Fleury
Later in the story. What we didn't read is God promises that he was going to take the offense. They would die on the same day because of what they did. He was then going to remove Eli from being the priest because of what he allowed to continue. And maybe you don't know this, but what you don't correct today parents you can dome.
00;24;53;02 - 00;25;08;01
Sam Fleury
Did you know that this is how you build culture in any home, in any organization? It's simply what you allow to happen or you stop from happening. You know, they say that culture is built one of two ways. Culture is either going to be built by design, by what I'm intentionally doing. This is who we are. These are our values.
00;25;08;01 - 00;25;22;20
Sam Fleury
This is our mission. These are the people that we are. So culture is either going to be built by design or it's going to be built by default, meaning I just allowed it to happen. I should have said something that I didn't. I should have stopped my kids. I, I shouldn't have said that thing, but I still did it.
00;25;22;20 - 00;25;47;01
Sam Fleury
In culture, in your home, whether you know it or not, it's going to be built by design or by default, but it's always being built. And so what you condone, you will allow to continue in your home. And so this is why I see this a lot with like organizations, right. Like in your organization, maybe even in your business place or in your home, that if you don't correct somebody who is consistently late, it becomes acceptable over time, doesn't it?
00;25;47;06 - 00;26;07;00
Sam Fleury
If you don't correct over time that people who show up, maybe it's in your house, maybe it's in the place that you work, that if people show up and they're always dishonoring people around them and you don't correct the dishonor, this becomes normal. He's just going to say things he shouldn't. She's just going to gospel a little bit like this is, and you've allowed that to now become the culture of your home, the culture of your business.
00;26;07;00 - 00;26;29;06
Sam Fleury
Or maybe one of them for you is that it's not even that, but it's the patterns that you allow. My kids keep doing this. Watch this. My husband keeps doing this, my wife keeps doing this. And the patterns that you don't correct and call out will become normal in your home. And this is why Eli had a moment that he should have corrected his kids.
00;26;29;06 - 00;26;46;25
Sam Fleury
But he did it. And because he did it, it ended up leading to his downfall. Because what you allow to repeat in your home will either repair it or it will break it. See, in this moment, Samuel, he flips a script as I'm reading the story. This is where the narrative kind of changes for me, because Samuel is watching Hoffner and Phineas.
00;26;46;26 - 00;27;04;17
Sam Fleury
He's watching them do all the things that they should never do. He's watching Eli not correct his sons, and he decides to himself, that's not normal. It's not normal to steal. He decides I'm going to live a life where I'm going to instead of stealing, I'm going to serve people instead of doing what they're doing, instead of deceiving people.
00;27;04;18 - 00;27;22;26
Sam Fleury
I want to be a dependable person. And he makes a decision to flip the script. So what does this mean in your life? Really practice? I'm reading the story. What Huffy and Phineas had done was they had normalized dishonoring God, and that was the culture of the place. What what Samuel had decided to do to flip the script was really, really simple.
00;27;22;26 - 00;27;42;17
Sam Fleury
And it's gonna help you to how you flip the script in your life is you just begin to normalize holiness in your life. The whole world is quick to normalize dysfunction, to come up with excuses. No, no, no. Like we just do that because like, it's easy. We just talk like that because we've always done it and they normalize the world.
00;27;42;17 - 00;28;01;04
Sam Fleury
It's great. And normalizing unholy. And in this moment Samuel said, I'm going to live different. I'm going to normalize holiness. We're in moments. We're in the home where he was experiencing people. Maybe for you, you experience in your home divorce. Mom or dad got married 1 or 2 times. If you're in a normalized holiness, you're going to decide, I'm not going to be a person who gets married and gets divorced.
00;28;01;04 - 00;28;18;13
Sam Fleury
I'm going to be a person who's dependable. I don't need a person who is faithful. What does the Scripture tell us to do? To be married to one man? To be married to one woman, and to stay married to them for our whole lives? I'm going to be dependable in this arena. For some of you, maybe it was normalized in your home where everybody was just angry.
00;28;18;18 - 00;28;34;19
Sam Fleury
Life wasn't going the way they anticipated it. Bills were stacking up, you name it, and they were angry. If you were going to normalize holiness in your life, you can't live angry. You got to live with the fruits of the spirit. Galatians chapter five, verse 21 and 22 I got to be patient and gentle and kind and faithful in long suffering.
00;28;34;19 - 00;28;57;01
Sam Fleury
I got a normalize a life of holiness. How do you decide what's holy? Let me help you out. There's this thing every Sunday that we open up when you come to church. It's one of our blueprints, and it's called Bible, our guide. You want to normalize holiness, stop leaving the patterns that were normalizing your upbringing and get into the Word of God.
00;28;57;04 - 00;29;15;18
Sam Fleury
The Word of God tells you how to live. The Word of God instructs you in every season the person to be. And that is how you begin to normalize holiness in your life. So I'm going to move quickly. So I'm running out of time. But I wanted to give this to you today. How can you identify and normalize cycles in your life?
00;29;15;19 - 00;29;30;00
Sam Fleury
There's four ways that you begin to identify. And then and then excuse me. And then to break cycles in your life. The first thing you got to do if you want to identify cycles in your life, maybe you came in, I don't know the cycles. Like first thing you got to ask yourself is, what am I experienced in my upbringing?
00;29;30;00 - 00;29;47;14
Sam Fleury
What cycles, what what patterns did I experience? What was normalized is the second thing. What was normalized? What was acceptable? What is it? What? You talk this way, you act this way, you think this way. That was normalizing. If we're honest, it maybe wasn't fully normal. The third thing is you had to ask is what have I repeated?
00;29;47;15 - 00;30;00;06
Sam Fleury
What, from what I had experienced a normal life, have I repeated in my own life? What am I continuing? What am I doing that I thought I wouldn't do? And if you're ever going to break the cycle in your life and not just identify, here's how you break it. The fourth one is, is you got to interrupt that cycle.
00;30;00;07 - 00;30;13;10
Sam Fleury
You can't just tell yourself, I'm not going to do those things. You got to set some cycles and you're like, hey, maybe our family, we grew up really stingy. I'm going to love a life of discipline where I say, even when it's hard, I'm going to give my 10% to God. I'm going to take somebody out to lunch date.
00;30;13;10 - 00;30;34;07
Sam Fleury
I'm going to pay for their lunch. Even when I don't feel like I've got everything that I need. I'm going to interrupt the cycles in my life so that I change the cycles, because as we're watching this narrative first, chapter three comes as we're closing in first chapter three, the Bible shows us this. God spoke to me and Phineas, and he told them, you need to stop doing what you're doing.
00;30;34;10 - 00;30;55;13
Sam Fleury
But he all God also spoke to Samuel and told him how to live a holy life. So watch this. God is speaking both the the half and Phineas, and God is also speaking to Samuel. The difference is often they're hearing and they're doing nothing. Samuel is hearing God and he's responding to God. Do you want to know how to break cycles in your life?
00;30;55;13 - 00;31;20;24
Sam Fleury
Here's the deepest theological truth I can give you today. On Sunday morning. You want to break cycles in your life, listen to God and respond to it. You know, the Bible says in James chapter one verse 22, it says, don't just be a hearer of God's Word. Yes, but be a doer of His word. Because if you hear him but you don't do it, this is what James says you deceive yourself.
00;31;20;26 - 00;31;39;10
Sam Fleury
You can't do anything if you listen and you don't do anything with it. How many people show up the church on a Sunday morning and have an experience with God, and they hear him and they're compelled to change, but yet you leave and you do nothing. There's no change in that. There's no transformation that can take place there.
00;31;39;10 - 00;32;06;07
Sam Fleury
If you want your life to be transformed, if you want to look more like Jesus by the end of this life, you got to listen to God and you got to respond and obey God. It's simple, but yet it's transformative. My my voice third birthday just happened on the 21st of April, and I tell my wife every year I'm like my kids as they grow up, they're going to hate their birthdays because every birthday that comes around, they wake up and it's like, this should be the celebratory moment.
00;32;06;07 - 00;32;23;01
Sam Fleury
And I'm just I'm a mess. I'm just crying, you know, parents in the room, you get this. I'm like, where did the years go? Like it was just the other day you needed your mom for milk. You're like, now you don't even care about me. Like I'm begging for your attention. You go back to the camera roll and you see all the things.
00;32;23;01 - 00;32;37;15
Sam Fleury
And I'm just crying. I'm a mess. And I find myself in the storm. Like my kids are going to need me to get a little bit more emotionally stable if they're gonna enjoy birthdays again. Because if we're sticking. Happy birthday. All the friends I'm saying.
00;32;37;17 - 00;33;00;20
Sam Fleury
Start over. Start. But the reason why I get so emotional is because I've learned that time of life goes fast, man. And in every season of our life, we know this to be true, that we got to turn the page. Like, the reason why I'm so emotional is I realized that I, as a parent, every year that comes, I gotta say goodbye to the old and hello to the new.
00;33;00;26 - 00;33;21;18
Sam Fleury
And that's a challenging thing to do. But in life, if you and I are ever going to change, if we're ever going to be transformed, if we're ever going to flip the script and become what God's called us to be, we don't repeat what with normal life in our home and our upbringing, we gotta learn that we have to be people who we're going to say goodbye to the past and say hello to the future, and say hello to the things that are coming.
00;33;21;20 - 00;33;43;01
Sam Fleury
See God. God kept calling Samuel and Samuel. He kept responding over time. And he should understand this, that Samuel kept responding first. Samuel chapter three. Samuel's laying in bed, and he hears his voice, his Samuel, Samuel. It's every time he hears me, he gets up and he runs to Eli and he goes, Eli, Eli, where you where you calling me?
00;33;43;03 - 00;34;05;15
Sam Fleury
And you lie every time going, no, no I'm not. I didn't call you either he's schizophrenic or God speaking to him. We don't know yet. Goes back to his bed, happens again, goes back to his bed. Happens the third time. And then finally Eli realizes God speaking to Samuel. He says, when you go back to your bed, just simply say, when you hear him call your call your name, just say, here I am God, you're servant, and I'm listening.
00;34;05;18 - 00;34;22;12
Sam Fleury
And as I'm reading, this is indicative for you and I do that. God kept calling Samuel over and over and over again, because in this room God might speak to you today, but God wants to speak to you on Monday, and he wants to speak to you on Tuesday and on Wednesday and on Thursday, when life is good and when life is hard, and when life is rich and when life is poor.
00;34;22;13 - 00;34;39;20
Sam Fleury
God wants to teach you in every season because you gotta understand God doesn't just change you one time. I think this is what people want, right? They think if I give my life to Jesus today, it's a magic pill that changes everything, but God doesn't. Most of the time he doesn't change you. One time he changes you over time.
00;34;39;22 - 00;34;57;05
Sam Fleury
This is what Grace does. Did you know that salvation is a decision that you're choosing? I'm lifting up my hand and saying, Jesus, I'm making you the Lord of my life. My past is broken. I'm a sinner. I'm going nowhere. And unless your grace saves me and changes me, I'm going to continue this. Salvation is a one time decision.
00;34;57;09 - 00;35;16;02
Sam Fleury
But sanctification, it's a daily process. Me becoming less of who I used to be and me becoming more like Jesus. Do you know why we need sanctification in our life? Because the way generational cycles work is, you might have Jesus in your heart, but you still got your grandpa in your bones. You still got dad in your bones.
00;35;16;04 - 00;35;38;24
Sam Fleury
You still think like them and act like them and treat people like them and still live like them. And this is why Jesus says, I want you to confess with your heart, but then I need you to follow me with your life. Because when you follow Jesus day in and day out, you change. This is the promise of Scripture that he'll take you from glory to glory, strength to strength.
00;35;38;24 - 00;35;57;11
Sam Fleury
Baby, the way you are today is not the way you're going to end up if you commit your life saying, God, I just need more grace every day. Jesus, I want to follow you more every day. Can I remind you that it's entirely possible to be in your last days on this earth, and to have a softer heart in the day you were born?
00;35;57;19 - 00;36;16;25
Sam Fleury
Is it possible? Only with God's grace you need God's grace to change you day in and day out. And this is why Paul wrote this in Second Corinthians chapter four, verse 16. He said, outwardly we're wasting away, meaning we're getting old, and every day we suck oxygen, we're a little bit closer to dying. But he says, hourly we're wasting away.
00;36;16;25 - 00;36;41;01
Sam Fleury
But, he says, yet inwardly we're being renewed day by day. I love that Jesus does this to us, that though we might get old on the outside, we can get young on the inside. That though we might get harder on the outside, we can get softer on the inside. This is what happens when you say, God, I'm choosing to follow you with my life at the end of the story goes, and I promise to sin.
00;36;41;04 - 00;36;57;14
Sam Fleury
The end of the story goes that first Samuel chapter I will. Years later. Now Eli is he's gone and Samuel's been the priest, and now Samuel is a really old man. I don't know if the Scripture says he's really old like he did for Eli, but he's old and he's at a point where now he needs to have his children come in.
00;36;57;19 - 00;37;14;25
Sam Fleury
His children's name are Joel, and Samuel needs to have his children come in. And now take the priest to the office and leave the church. The problem is, is there something that happens in life for you and I? Is that when you just reject cycles, when you just reject what your parents did, when you just reject what was shown in your house and in your environment.
00;37;14;25 - 00;37;32;27
Sam Fleury
If you reject cycles but you don't replace them, you just repeat them. Look what happens, Jonah. You are now leading the church in the priestly office. And Samuel had rejected the way that Hoffenheim, Phinehas lived, but he didn't replace it with a better cycle, with a God honoring cycle. And his children are now the priests in the house.
00;37;32;27 - 00;37;49;05
Sam Fleury
And guess what? They do the same thing the Hoff named Phineas. Did they begin to steal from the house of God. They begin to dishonor God. And this is what happens in life. When you and I are quick to say, I'm not going to be like them. I'm not going to do what they did. But you don't replace it with something that's going on, right?
00;37;49;10 - 00;38;01;24
Sam Fleury
Can I help you today? Don't set the bar. If I'm not, I'm not going to be like that and set the bar. I'm going to live like Jesus. Don't just set the bar. I'm not going to be angry. Set the bar of. I want to be a person who I live with the fruits of the spirit of my life.
00;38;01;27 - 00;38;19;17
Sam Fleury
Don't just be the person. I'm not going to get married and get divorced. Be the person that I want to get married. I'm going to be the best husband I can be each and every day. I'm going to serve my husband. I'm going to serve my wife. I'm going to serve my spouse. Make the decision, say, when I when I reject the cycle, I'm going to choose to replace that cycle.
00;38;19;19 - 00;38;37;04
Sam Fleury
I remember when I was when I was young, and I've shared this before. My mother walked out on our family. My dad was working one job raising two kids. At the time. His mother was going through incurable stage five. Cancer would end up dying six months later. He's raising two boys on one income, living in government housing, no money.
00;38;37;04 - 00;38;51;15
Sam Fleury
It was a tough situation and I remember 15 years ago by I was a freshman in college. God met me and my dorm room changed my life completely and radically. I walked out of that dorm room, I started going to a Bible college, and God immediately called me to going back and healing the path. Do you know why?
00;38;51;17 - 00;39;04;19
Sam Fleury
Because if you don't heal the past, you're going to hand it down to your kids. You're going to hand it over to your spouse. You're going to hand it over to your community. What's not healed gets handed down. And so I remember he called me to go up and face my mother and to tell him what God had done in my life and how I forgave her.
00;39;04;19 - 00;39;29;03
Sam Fleury
And as I sat there and listened to her life and her brokenness, I realized that brokenness didn't even start with her. Her mom had did it. Her mom had did it. And if I wasn't careful, I was going to do it. See, my whole life I was angry, resentful, bitter, insecure, looking for anybody to approve me, to make me feel like I was watching because I didn't feel water my whole childhood.
00;39;29;06 - 00;39;47;18
Sam Fleury
And when I sat there and I heard the brokenness of her and her mother and her mother, I realized that brokenness runs deep. But at the same token, healing can run deep to. And I realized that brokenness didn't start with me, but it certainly wasn't going to continue through me. And I remember telling her, I forgive you. God has given me grace.
00;39;47;18 - 00;40;01;08
Sam Fleury
He gives you the same grace. He forgives you the same way. And I'd love to tell you that when I left that moment, she said, I need to surrender, give my life to God. It didn't happen. Three years later, a couple of days before Carly and I get married, I get a DM on Facebook. Shout out Facebook if you still use it.
00;40;01;11 - 00;40;21;09
Sam Fleury
It's how you know you old. Okay. And and I remember getting a DM a few days before my wedding from my mother. She said, I still think about that conversation we had years ago. And she said, I want to tell you that I've since given my life to Jesus, and I'm now serving in the local church, women who used to be in the same place that I was.
00;40;21;09 - 00;40;36;27
Sam Fleury
And I knew in that moment that brokenness can run deep, but so can healing. And it didn't start with me, but it can end with me. And I wanted to assure you today that you can make the decision that brokenness might not have started with you, but healing can start with you. Brokenness can end with you. Healing can start with you.
00;40;36;27 - 00;40;54;28
Sam Fleury
But it only starts when you say, God, I can't do this apart from you. And this is why I think the Bible shows us it is. Jesus was up on the cross for you and I as sinners, that there's one man being crucified on the left and this man on the left was ridiculing Jesus. And what is that a picture of?
00;40;55;01 - 00;41;11;19
Sam Fleury
That's a picture of our past, our rebellious, unrepentant past. God, I don't need you, God. I can do this on my own. And Jesus is right there in the middle cross and on the right of him there's another man being crucified. Did you know this? And the man being crucified on the right is repenting, saying, God, I'm a sinner.
00;41;11;19 - 00;41;27;03
Sam Fleury
I need your grace. And what is Jesus? Tell him today you will surely be with me in Paradise. The left man represents our past. The next man on the right represents our future. But you don't get to the future unless you go through the middle cross of Jesus Christ. Your life can't change unless you go through his cross.
00;41;27;03 - 00;41;45;16
Sam Fleury
I don't care how hard you change. I don't care what rhythms and patterns and people you got around you. I don't care how great your therapist is. The only person that can change you is Jesus. When you understand what he did for you on the cross today, the way to change a transformation is through the cross. I want to pray for us today so we close our eyes and bow our heads today.
00;41;45;19 - 00;42;07;01
Sam Fleury
Maybe you came in here. The first thing that you need is you need to give your life to Jesus. You've tried everything and yet you found yourself just doing what's always been done. And the way to break the cycle is by giving your life to Jesus, because you understood that he died on the cross. Because the Bible tells us this, that that who the sun sets free is free indeed today.
00;42;07;01 - 00;42;17;11
Sam Fleury
If that's you say I want to be free, man. I want to live the life that God has called me to live. If that's you with every eye closed, who just put up your hand and put it right back down so I know who I'm praying for. Thank you, thank you, thank you. A lot of hands in this room.
00;42;17;12 - 00;42;32;15
Sam Fleury
Jesus. I thank you for every hand in this room that went up before. It's an outward sign of what you're doing on the inside. And, God, we thank you for your grace. That changes everything, Lord. Today, for every hand that was lifted, it's a decision to say, Jesus, I trust you with my life. God, I thank you that you died on the cross for us.
00;42;32;16 - 00;42;54;23
Sam Fleury
You took away all of our sins and today we are new creations in Christ Jesus. Because what you did on the cross, God, our past is forgiven. Our future is secure. Because of what you've done. We surrender to you. We trust you with our futures. In Jesus name we pray. And everybody said Amen. Come on. We stand to our feet I believe, I believe we gotta I don't know if we got a song, but let's stand up.
00;42;54;23 - 00;43;15;01
Sam Fleury
Anyways, I wanted to pray for us and maybe this mean taking another minute to pray. We'll take the worship team a minute to get out here, but I just believe that today there's so many people you came in here, and if you're honest with yourself for a moment, I think the first place to get healed is coming to a place of vulnerability and transparency that you you have found yourself just simply repeating what was normalized to you.
00;43;15;01 - 00;43;28;05
Sam Fleury
And if you're here today and you say, man, I want to break free from some of the cycles that were normalized in my life, and I want to be the way God called me to be. I want to live the life that God's called me to live. I want to be a man of God. I want to be a woman of God.
00;43;28;05 - 00;43;43;15
Sam Fleury
Today, I believe that he wants to do so. I close for a moment. If he said today, I want healthy cycles in my life, and I want to break off of the bad, unhealthy, unholy cycles and that you would just put up your hand real quick. Thank you Jesus, and every hand live to keep him up. Keep on Jesus with every hand lifted up.
00;43;43;15 - 00;44;01;06
Sam Fleury
This is our outward signs saying we worship you, saying we trust you, that you're the only one that can heal. You're the only one that can save. You're the only one that can transform. And so, God, we recognize that we might have some of our past in us, but when we come to see you, to see your face, to know your heart, you begin to change us from the inside out.
00;44;01;06 - 00;44;24;03
Sam Fleury
So with hands lifted up, God, we're saying today, change us, transform us, fake us, look more like you and less like us, God, less of us and more of you. Help us to normalize holiness in our lives. Help us to normalize holiness in our homes. Today, we worship you because we know that the God who begins the good work, it's the same God who can complete a good work.
00;44;24;03 - 00;44;38;03
Sam Fleury
So we trust you with every situation in Jesus name. And everybody says, come on, let's see.
00;44;38;06 - 00;44;41;15
Chrissy Cole
Thank you for being a part of our online community here at Project Church.
00;44;41;16 - 00;44;44;27
Chrissy Cole
We hope that this message and the whole service bless your life.
00;44;45;00 - 00;45;01;07
Caleb Cole
Yeah. And if it did, we want to ask that you would do something for us. First of all, if you're not already subscribed to our YouTube channel, be sure to subscribe. Like this video. But also, we would ask that you would consider financially supporting what God is doing through Project Church. You can give in a variety of ways.
00;45;01;10 - 00;45;16;16
Caleb Cole
You can text project to 97,000. Right now. You can give to our Church Center app, or you can give on our website project church.com/give. Thanks so much for being a part of our online community. And once again God bless you guys. We'll see you soon.