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Greetings and Welcome to The 405 Coffee Break with O.K. Solberg
New episodes tend to air over the local KMMR radio station @ 5 minutes past 4PM each M-F. And have been doing so, nearly every week since Sept 2018.
I'm D.J. Rasmussen, O.K.s friend since junior high, possibly your neighbor & this websites maintainer, whom strives to get each episode's show notes written, the transcript proofed and the audio posted to the internet within a few hours of that days KMMR air time. NOTE: recently been publishing most new releases by 4:30PM.
Thanks for visiting and I hope you enjoy the time we can spend together.
I wanna again welcome you to The 405 Coffee Break. Guys, get your cup of coffee, bottle of water, or a glass of iced tea. I mixed it up. Let's see what's happening.
OK Solberg:Spring wheat $5.60 a bushel, 550lb steer calf $5.10 to $5.65 a pound. I kid you not. And a 100lb fat lamb on the top end $3.08 a pound. But, guys, there's more, much more.
OK Solberg:Okay. Okay. I had some feedback on an episode I did last week about conversations. So I went looking and found another article to help support the art of interacting with people. Guys, we all have to do it every day. Go to the post office. Go to Albertsons. Fill up your car with gas. We gotta interact with people. Let's see what it's all about.
OK Solberg:The title of the article is The Forgotten Art of Getting Along. There is a skill so common that we often overlook it, yet so valuable that it can open doors, strengthen friendships, improve marriages, and, well, even advance careers.
OK Solberg:It is the art of interacting with people. The interesting thing is that most people think good communicators are great talkers. Research suggests otherwise. Studies consistently show that people who are perceived as good conversationalists spend a significant amount of time listening, asking questions, and showing general interest in others.
OK Solberg:In fact, researchers have found that people generally enjoy conversations more when their conversation partner asks follow-up questions. Not only does it make the other person feel heard, but it creates a natural flow that keeps the exchange moving forward. That may sound simple, but it is surprisingly rare. Yes, surprisingly rare.
OK Solberg:Many conversations resemble a tennis match where only one person has a racket. One individual talks for a minute or so while the other merely watches.
OK Solberg:A true conversation, however, is a rally. One person shares a thought, the other person responds, a question is asked, an experience is shared, and the exchange continues. Neither person dominates the court. Another interesting fact is that people tend to like those who make them feel important. Now this doesn't mean flattery.
OK Solberg:Most people can recognize insincere praise in a heartbeat. Instead, it means showing genuine curiosity. Ask someone how they became interested in their work. Ask where they grew up. Ask about a hobby, a collection, a skill, or a memorable experience.
OK Solberg:Most people carry fascinating stories that are rarely invited into the open. Good social skills also involve something that communication experts call active listening. Rather than merely waiting for your turn to speak, active listening means paying attention to what is actually being said.
OK Solberg:It means responding to the content of the conversation instead of mentally rehearsing your next comment. And then there is the power of remembering names. People often underestimate how meaningful this can be.
OK Solberg:A person's name is tied closely to identity. Remembering and using their name signals respect and attention. To tell someone, they were not just another face in the crowd. Interestingly, studies of long term relationships repeatedly point to a similar conclusion.
OK Solberg:The healthiest relationships are not built upon grand gestures alone. They are built upon thousands of small interactions, kind words, listening ears, shared laughter, and moments of attention that accumulate over time. Perhaps that is why social skills are less about technique and more about habits.
OK Solberg:Most people are not looking for a brilliant speech. They're looking for respect. They're looking for someone who listens. They're looking for someone who is interested rather than merely interesting. The good news is that this skill can be learned. You do not need extraordinary charisma. You do not need a perfect personality.
OK Solberg:You simply need to practice the habits that make other people feel valued. In a world filled with noise, interruptions, and distractions, the person who genuinely listens may possess one of the rarest and most appreciated skills of all. End of article. Good stuff. Good stuff.
OK Solberg:And here's a bible verse to support that exact theme. Proverbs 16:24 Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul, and health to the body. Again, Proverbs 16:24
OK Solberg:So until next time, as you go out there, remember now, don't be bitter.